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How Kids Watch and Learn from Us · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, why don't people on
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  the left realize that kids are watching everything we're doing and learning from our behavior,
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  whether we realize it or not. Well, let's ask American mama's Alma
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  Mama and joining us now our American mama's turn Needeville and Kimberly Burlison. The
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  kids are always watching, aren't they? You know? I just I remember
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  when my son was a toddler and the very first pseudo curse word that came
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  out of his mouth. He didn't know what it means. He just he
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  heard it and he just started repeating, which one I'll tell you off there?
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  Okay, But so that that changed our TV viewing habits pretty quickly.
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  But yeah, the kids are always watching and they're learning, whether you intend
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  to be teaching them or not, aren't they? Yeah? They, Terry,
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  you posted something on Facebook today and I loved that story. That makes
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  me think of exactly what Stephen's talking about. Well, okay, so this
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  is what happened. I went to Cotillion this weekend in Straetport, Oh Big
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  big ball ball, and so I was talking to friends of mine that go
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  to First Methodist church downtown, and you know, as everyone knows, we
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  grew up in Streetport and then we moved away when I was eleven, and
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  then over twenty years later, my husband and I moved back with our own
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  children, and I wanted to go back to our church tripping. So I
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  was telling them. I was telling this group of friends. I said,
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  listen, I said, I remember as kids, Kimberly and I and our
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  siblings would sit on the front row, forced forced and mom and dad were
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  in the back row so they could reprimand yeah, they half our shoulder if
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  we were not behaving or whatever. Yes. So, but every Sunday we
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  would look to the left. There are two doors that you could enter into
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  the sanctuary. Through the left. There came a couple that we looked for
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  every Sunday. She was a tall, statuesque blonde. She wore hair and
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  nose chic bun with a hat, a Sunday hat, and beautiful dress.
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  He had on a GQ suit and a bow tie every single Sunday, sharp
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  dress, coup sharp dressed, no doubt. And they just when they walked
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  in, you just could tell everybody gravitated to see what just came in that
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  was that was the couple, and so we moved away when I was eleven,
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  but we would always talk about it. Kim only wanted you know,
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  I wanted to look like this woman. I was twelve years old and I
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  wanted to look like her because she had this regal look about her in this
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  presence. So I remember, as a sixth grater thinking, I want to
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  look like that when I grow up. So so I'm telling them this at
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  this party at Riverview Park, Shreeport, Louisiana, right on the Red River.
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  This is now we're talking forty years later, hmm. And all of
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  a sudden, my friend Karen, who went she also went to First Methodist
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  when we were kids. You went, oh, you're talking about Susan and
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  Mike Adams. I went, yeah, yeah, that's her names. She
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  said, well, there they are right there. What exactly? And I
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  said, wait what I didn't register and she said, they're right behind you.
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  They were walking through the crowd exactly the way they did in church.
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  He had his hand on her back. Now she's an older woman with her
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  hair instead of being and a a bun's now in a sleek bob. I
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  see. And so I turned around. I went, oh, my gosh,
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  y'all won't believe this. So we start telling them we were just talking
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  about you right now. So they were like, oh either they were flattered.
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  I told them, you know, my maiden names that they were to
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  remember, and they're like, oh, we loved your parents. But we
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  started talking about it, and somebody said on Facebook, you never know who's
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  watching you, right, You never know what little eyes are watching you to
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  see how you behave, and they're being influenced, they're being impacted by it.
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  It really did make sense to me because I thought, my whole life,
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  you know, kids are that's my favorite. I love kids more than
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  adults, sure, and so I was aware that there were little eyes on
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  me when they were little, and I was like one of the room moms
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  or whatever. But it made me. It reminded me that no matter where
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  I am in this world today, no matter how old, somebody's watching,
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  even if you're just walking. There's a little boy that his dad's a coach
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  at Louisiana Tech Baseball and he said that lady talking about Terry is the nicest
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  old lady I've ever Metah exactly exactly because I can't I bring them a little
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  candy him and his siblings every game for the last three or four years.
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  So his mom said, oh he was. He said that Miss Terry,
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  she's the nicest old lady I ever knew. That is so funny. But
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  yeah again, And this is one of those things that when I was working
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  in TV news as a weather man, this is actually one of the convictions
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  that I had was that I just I said, you know what, I'm
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  not allowed to have a bad day. I just never allowed myself as I
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  left the house, I was not allowed to have a bad day because I
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  could not risk someone in public seeing me have a bad day and go,
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  you know what, that weather man's a real jerk. That's right, I'm
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  not going to watch him. Yeah, that's right. I remember when I
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  worked in child life at Arkansas Children's Hospital, and I remember I was our
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  first year of marriage and Kevin and I were going through a little struggle,
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  as you do. And I remember purposely before I walked into the into the
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  hospital, right, I thought, they will not see anything but joy and
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  happiness, no matter what happened at home and argument over something stupid. I'm
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  sure these kids what they need to see when I walk into this building is
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  happy, joyful Miss Terry who's going to give them a warm hug and a
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  big smile, and it's going to say things that will make their day happier.
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  Period. And it was such a purposeful thing during that time, and
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  I'll never forget it because I expect that of myself and I expect that of
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  others around me. You ever know who's doing You never know. If you
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  Turning out of Kimberly Brothers and thank you so much, thank you,