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- speaker-0: Welcome back to the reset. I am Sean Tucker, human performance scientist and authority architect. We are here in the Living Lab documenting the struggle, the science, and the shift for every high performance dad and founder who's ready to bridge the gap between their ambition and their presence. Today, I'm actually in the Living Lab with an awesome guest all the way from Montana in the United States. Her name is Christina Price. She is a breathway facilitator and a transformational mindset coach. Based in Bosaman, is that how you say it? Boseman, Montana. She is someone who knows firsthand what it costs to do all the right things and still find yourself back at square one. After her own life imploded in a single week, she stopped trying to think her way out of a body problem and found the missing piece. The nervous system. Armed with a psychology degree from Rutgers University. speaker-1: ⁓ then. speaker-0: and deep roots in fitness, health, and human behavior, she built the regulated revolution, which is a twelve week immersion that does what most transformation work skips entirely. It regulates the nervous system first, so the mindset work finally actually sticks. She helps women unfuck their patterns they were handed, shift their beliefs around what's possible, and rise into their most audacious lives. So Christina Welcome to the show. It is awesome to have you here and I can't wait to get stuck into the conversation. speaker-1: Thank you. Thank you for having me. Very excited to be here with you. speaker-0: Yeah, I'd love to go back to that week ⁓ where where everything collapsed. Like, tell me what what happened? speaker-1: Well, I mean it it all did happen in one week, but of course it was a culmination and a and a a slow burn and build over years. you know, starting from growing up in like a super chaotic household. with you know, I wouldn't my dad you would I guess you could He would be described as like a dry drunk, like he wasn't an alcoholic, but he was had a super, super short fuse. and super irritable and aggravated and just really easily triggered. and I had an older brother and I would say he definitely took like the physical brunt of it. ⁓ but there was just like a lot of verbal abuse and emotional abuse that you don't consider. abuse when you're growing up in it. It's just regular normal life and that's just how families are. ⁓ so I learned how to like really manage everybody. ⁓ like I was the one who fixed everything and managed the relationships between my parents and between my brother. ⁓ so and I I actually grew up thinking I was like really good at it. and and was like really ⁓ Find that out down the line once I joined Al Anon. But, you know, long story short, I married somebody who grew up in a very different family, but ⁓ also dysfunctional, but just sort of like at the other end of the spectrum. ⁓ so we sort of like met somewhere in the middle. And what I had come to realize now, like decades and decades and decades later, and I I mean that literally, is that you know, your nervous system attunes to like a certain frequency when you grow up in an environment like that. And so it's constantly searching for that. Even though it's not good, that's what's familiar. So I, you know, ended up marrying somebody who was ⁓ an an addict, ⁓ but but not in a way that I would could recognize. So ⁓ just normal social social behavior, you know, like he just drank a lot, but like everybody drank a lot. So I didn't recognize it as alcoholism. ⁓ I also he was very irritable, disgruntled, and agitated and also had like ⁓ a short fuse when it came to reacting to things. So I was constantly managing his reactions, right? Like getting ready for reactions. ⁓ then we had three kids and speaker-0: Did that fix everything? speaker-1: ⁓ Of course I now what it did do was give me something else to really focus my energy and time on. Yeah. So I've been really good at finding things to distract myself from myself. ⁓ and I I think ⁓ you know, it sort of all came to a head when we had moved across country, thinking that We could just y change our lifestyle and everything else would change. Like not a lot would follow us. and so about five years into moving across country, yeah, he went away to rehab. And then a week later, mm, I drove my daughter down to an eating disorder residential recovery center. ⁓ and I had one daughter who was away at boarding school. So I was down to now one child. I had one child, it was just me and my son at home. speaker-0: Wow. speaker-1: And it really was just like this point of reckoning of like, ⁓ like what the fuck just happened? Like on the outside, we were like these entrepreneurs, you know, we're like healthy. I was I was running a fitness business, like so much of the outside package. And we were like very fun and super social. We entertained a lot, like crack. It didn't track. And ⁓ yeah, it just like totally imploded like within a week of itself. And It just really gave me it's just so interesting how the universe sort of like shakes things out. I I all I could really handle was one person. I didn't realize that at the time. So like it was just me and my son. So so the silver w lining was like it was it was a beautiful time for us. speaker-0: Mm-hmm. Was he the youngest? speaker-1: He's the youngest. Yeah. And it was literally like all I could manage was like one other person. And so it gave me this opportunity to do a lot of self reflection and a lot of that's was like the beginning of the road to repairing and sort of like rediscovering myself. speaker-0: Yeah, interesting. It's often the things that we run away from are the things we have to face eventually, right? speaker-1: Yeah. We do. They're literally I mean, you cannot run away from yourself. Like it's cliche, but people spend their lives doing it. speaker-0: Yeah. And often the most successful people, the ones who look the most successful, are the ones who are running the fastest. ⁓ speaker-1: 100%. Yeah. ⁓ it is. It it really takes I mean, you really gotta get like still and quiet. And yeah, it's it's like I I always use this analogy of like a pond, like in a storm or after you've just been like swimming in it, you know, and it's all muddied up and you're like trying you've dropped something and you're like, where is it? And you're you're, you know, trying to find the thing that you're looking for. And of course you're only making it worse. Like it will you will not gain clarity from moving the water more. You ⁓ have to wait and let like all the salt settle and it just becomes clear and like that's what breath work has done and and that's I don't think anybody can you can't fast track that. Like I don't I have not found another way to really connect. with your inner voice and your inner self and your and into your body without just taking a beat. speaker-0: Yeah, interesting. I mean, two things come up for me, right? What you just said. And the first one is a quote from Alan Watts, which says, Muddy water or repeat that muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone. Mm-hmm. And the second thing is that when we are really pursuing something hard, it's like we have I guess the best way to describe it is there's two batteries we have. We have one that Kind of we are born with, right? This is our battery pack that we have. The second one is the one that we have after. So it's like how we maintain, how we restore. But the first battery pack that we have is not something that you can restore. It's something that only you can conserve. Right. And this is factoring your genetics. This is factoring in basically all the things that have made you up until this point. And it can't be replenished. So it's like it just depletes. And the faster you run, the ha the faster you get away from your body, the more this will deplete. The more you rely on things like stimulants like caffeine and maybe other drugs as well. Alcohol would be something similar as well. ⁓ you're just depleting this reserve that doesn't fill back up. Mm-hmm. And I guess what you're saying is Breath work has been the thing that's allowed you to see where you're at. It's been able to connect you back to your body to kind of locate yourself, right? speaker-1: Yeah, very much so. speaker-0: And so what has it done now for you after that moment of realization of I'm here ⁓ speaker-1: Right. yeah, of course, you know, like all things when you discover, right, it's it's a process, it's an adoption. it's it's a deliberate choice. Like I like that that is such a huge part of your ⁓ of your platform because I really like that is the truth. You always have a choice. You may not like your choices, but you still have a choice. And doing nothing is a choice. And I I recognize that there are, I mean, I I have people in my life like who suffer from bipolar and you know, a very like fixed mindset, limiting belief system that had that's been with them for so long that it It can be difficult to get through. when you're when you're in such a fixed mindset state that you really do have a choice. Like the difference between, well, I I don't like either of those choices. Like so I so I'm I'm screwed. I don't have a choice. It's like, yeah, but it's still a choice. Like you still get to pick an avenue. And I would say, I don't know if you've ever read ⁓ Determined by Robert Sapolsky. Have you read that book? It's really interesting. It it it speaker-0: No, I have not. speaker-1: It pokes around at free will. and it's just fascinating because it it it it unravels it a little bit in terms of like the psychology and the the the biomechanics of how our brains actually operate. So ⁓ it's like, well, you made that decision based on the this the decision you made before that, based on the decision, like all the way, all the way, all the way, all the way down to like in utero kind of thing. And so So when you when you look at it that way and you're you're you're trying to consciously make choices that will put you on a path in a desired direction, it it really is like those tiny little steps that are like eking your way that way because it creates like a muscle memory of the before action. I don't I don't I don't know if that's if I'm e explaining it. in the best way, but it's it is like the old thing, the old adage, practice makes perfect. Like the more you practice making choices, feeling like you're making choices, practicing making choices, the the easier it gets, the the better you're gonna be at making choices. speaker-0: It's it sounds like yeah. It's 'cause a choice is made for you ri regardless if you are conscious of it or not, right? Yes. So I think it's what you're trying to say is we are always making choices whether we like it or not. And it's are you making are you choosing your path or are you letting life choose it for you or like the outside world choose it for you? Mm-hmm. speaker-1: And regardless of where it like stemmed from, as we know, like we create our reality, right? Like our perception is our reality. So if you start conditioning your conditioning yourself to perceive that you are making that choice, more of that will happen. speaker-0: Yeah. It's it's comes back to the I am statements, right? In in very literal practical terms. It's like I am Sean or I am Christina. Well, are you? speaker-1: Right. What does that mean? speaker-0: Right? Because yeah, the outside world has told you that is what your name is, that is who you are. But are you really that thing? Or are you so much speaker-1: You open, is there gonna be a tag that says John and Tucker in there? Like it it it it's such an interesting point. speaker-0: Yeah. I mean, I remember watching a video of ⁓ Sadhguru talking about this and he's literally deconstructing someone and asking, Are you still there? Like if we take one of your arms off, is Christina still there? Yeah. If we detach your legs, are you still Christina? If we remove your body, are you still Christina? Yeah. speaker-1: It's it is a like we take so much of that for granted. And I'm I I think probably a great ⁓ like vets would would have a lot to say about that. And I think that's an identity thing that they really struggle with, right? Like that exact thing of like, well, who am I if I'm not? And it's like, well, what what does that even mean? Like what what what what is that? Who is that? speaker-0: Yeah, it becomes very existential quite quickly ⁓ when you start playing around in those realms. But yeah. It's I think what ultimately happened from from the story that you shared, it's like we have these build ups of choices that we've made and decisions that have happened. And then all of a sudden it gets to the point where you see yourself clearly in the mirror. It's like no. Right? No. speaker-1: What? It's a it's a hundred percent that and having like I feel I mean, I feel I'm so grateful and I feel I've always felt very lucky. Like I've I've always considered myself a very lucky person and I feel very fortunate and very lucky but to have come to that like crux in my life ⁓ and be like okay, like Where do I get to go now? Like is no bueno. This is not this is not what we want. This is not what we set after. And we can see where we sort of got caught up in the current. speaker-0: This speaker-1: You know, with the running away and the and the like, you know, ⁓ z like over here and you know, and it's like all the work is inside. speaker-0: Yeah. What's really interesting though, I I've found in my experience and hearing a lot of ⁓ other people share their stories is if you went back five years ago or ten years before, it's like you actually have the life that you wanted that many years ago. Except this is where it gets a little bit ⁓ convoluted or complicated is did you want that based on what you didn't have? Or did you want it based on what you did have? Like it's coming is Is it coming from a place of lack? Is it coming from a place of what your mind perceives it wants, which is usually not what you really want? Or is it coming from a place of this abundance? Like life is so great. It's you have this fantastic, beautiful relationship that makes you feel alive with life. And is it coming from that place? And I think after going on this journey myself as well, because that's where we met, is actually through the breath work. speaker-1: Right. speaker-0: facilitated training and obviously we're in a a mastermind together as well. It's it's interesting to peel back the layers to find out what it is you truly want. Mm-hmm. Because a mind's desire is not the same as like when you're in sync with your body and your mind and let's say your soul. It's it's har like how do you actually know what you want? ⁓ speaker-1: That's great question. Like I ask myself that all the time. ⁓ and for me, I feel like as a woman, it's so interesting. I was literally having this conversation with my husband today. that changes for me throughout the month. Like like I am not the same person. Throughout the month. and so like my wants and needs and desires and like aspirations fluctuate. speaker-0: Yeah. speaker-1: So I I don't always know what I want. Like that's such a good question. ⁓ I think it's and I think so often we project onto like things like we want, you know, I want I want wallpaper, like I want w whatever. Like we need, I want this in my house, or I want to go on this vacation, or I want, you know, these tangibles, right? ⁓ and certainly our culture and our society is very focused and geared toward that as measures and metrics of happiness and want and things like that. So There's just so many distractions around that. And that's not to say that some of those things don't bring me joy and happiness, right? Like I do enjoy stuff. Like I I do. There's no point to enjoy the like I've I've literally I'm like I I I think I finally crossed the threshold of like really being okay with like being okay with wanting and and and enjoying things and enjoying luxury and like I do. I mean, I'd be absolutely bold faced lying if I said I didn't. ⁓ but is that what really brings real joy and happiness? Like, no. Because it just doesn't. Like it's so fleeting because it's like a the horizon. And it's the same thing with what you said, like five years ago, you know, you you know, are you you're further along and maybe you are where you thought you wanted to be, but now the horizon's further. So So for me, and we practice this like with our kids and each other and in conversation with girlfriends, it's like it's now. It's it's now like there is no horizon or p like if you're what we're missing is now. You're if what we're missing is the connection. in the grounded state of joy of what you're surrounded with now. Period. Like so if you're not haven't figured out how to practice that, you're that's what you're missing. Like that's the secret sauce. speaker-0: I a hundred percent agree. and I think it's even more important ⁓ when you look at how do you create an environment that allows you to basically see the reflection clearly. I think this is why how this is why people go to find gurus and find you know, people that are really attuned or like tuned in with let's say God, the universe, whatever whatever language you connect to. It's like when they have no projection of Let's say lack. It's just pure connection with life. And you can just say life, right? So when you have that real innocence, that childlike innocence that's connecting with life, that every moment is curious. Cause there's no like wondering what what could have I done better or what could have I what did I do wrong for a child that's less than a certain age, right? It's just this beautiful relationship that they have that's just curious and open. And then at at a certain point we we switch off from it. We become closed. We become guarded. The world's not safe anymore. And I think I've noticed when I've gone and practiced, this is what I love about yoga. When I when I found yoga on my journey, ⁓ when I went first and did a residential program, I was like completely blown away with just how much effort they put into creating the environment where you can receive speaker-1: Right. speaker-0: The gift of what they're offering. So I'd love to know what you've been able to do and what maybe the audience who's listening or watching right now, what they can do in their environment that's allowed you to see a little bit more clearly. speaker-1: Well, I hear you on yoga. I mean I'm I'm a huge I've been practicing yoga for like twenty five years, so I I love yoga. and for me You know, I've I've seen a a really big like swing in my life from being very a little bit like disordered, like messy, like my space environment wasn't ⁓ I always loved it like design wise, but it it the the the the neat and tidiness of it wasn't as big of a issue for me where now it is. ⁓ so And I do believe that that has some reflection of like how your ⁓ are inside is how you are outside. So like keeping my space ⁓ neat and orderly, like that's there's a discipline in that that is calming and allows for less distraction and more time to just be. And and I've created my own system for how to do that, right? So that it's not like overwhelming. But it it also allows like I for in terms of like my rituals, like I really take my time in the morning with my coffee. Like I I I don't rush my coffee. I I'll get up early, earlier and speaker-0: Yeah, okay. Yep. speaker-1: be able to I mean I I I have my little espresso machine, so I make everybody's coffee, even though nobody's up, they can heat it up once they get up. But I have mine and then I go outside and I get, you know, sunshine on my face and like it's such a ritual of how I ground myself every day. ⁓ and you know, of course that's gonna look different some days. Yeah. You know, I don't I'm not this is just life. But I I have allowed myself a lot more time to enjoy things that really like these little things that really bring me joy. Like I just I don't downplay them. Like if you have something that you're like, ⁓ I just really, really love that, like do that. Enjoy that. Stretch it. Be in it. You know, for me it is it's like it's my coffee time. It's it's sometimes it's a little quick power nap in the middle of the day in the sun. You know, it's like just a those giving yourself permission. I mean, I think especially for for women, you know, I I can speak I'm a woman, so I can speak from that. It's like oftentimes it's it's hard to give yourself permission to just like slow down and take a minute. For no other reason, like other than to just enjoy. Right? Like yoga. Yoga's an easy thing because you're like, ⁓ but it's productive. I'm I'm getting my fitness in. I'm do I'm checking off this box. Where do you know you know, like there's so we're we're always constantly, you know, like kind of balancing that. Like, is that is that do I of course of course I get to do that, but you know, do I get to sit and take like thirty to forty five minutes for my coffee? Hell yeah. Like that is that is like Fills me with Resource homes, yeah. speaker-0: love the word that you've used is ritual because I think it's such an important practice. And it is a practice. It's like, how can I empty myself and be absolutely present with what I'm what I'm with right now? It's like the sun. Can I be present with that whilst sitting back and just enjoying ⁓ what I've made myself? And I'd love to know because obviously you definitely have a an offer or a program that you help Women unfuck themselves, basically. Which I love. How how much do you go into things like this? Because I haven't really come across a program or someone who's really helped other people become informed about these things, right? There's a lot of talk on the internet, there's a lot of information that's out there. But the practical tangible, it's like making the intangible tangible in a way. It's like speaker-1: Yeah. Yeah. speaker-0: Do you talk about these things in your program with the people you work? speaker-1: Yeah. Yeah. ⁓ you know, it's not a right, it's it's not it's organic. So I mean the program is a program. but because it's the foundation of it is breath work, ⁓ you know, everybody's gonna have everybody's gonna ha it's chemistry, right? Everybody's gonna have different experience and it's gonna bring up different things. For each person at each stage, because we've all had a unique life and we've all had really unique experiences. And although there is so much similarity, way more similarity and overlap in humanity at large than there is uniqueness. but there is. Everybody has their own, their own spicy, you know, unique life. And It is really important to Talk about like how important it really is to tune into yourself and your own rituals or the or you know, whatever it is that really makes you feel connected. speaker-0: 'Cause you're creating your own environment. Yeah. Yeah. It's kind of like cr facilitating an environment that's conducive for you to be connected with life. Yeah. Your own life. speaker-1: And it starts small, right? It starts small, but eventually, like as we said at the in the very beginning, like the more steps you take towards practicing, then it's like when I'm traveling, I will seek out a great coffee shop and I will go find a coffee shop. And so I will have my little ritual in a totally different environment and a totally different like I you know, it's it's different, but it's also like it's the same. It's that's my piece. So That's my pause, right? I'm not I'm not having my coffee and making a list. speaker-0: It's not the thing you're doing. Yeah. speaker-1: ⁓ it's just like I just get to be there. I just get to be there with my coffee and just like in whatever environment that I'm currently in. And I know this it's a it's such an arbitrary thing, but speaker-0: ⁓ yeah, that's right. It might be for the person who's listening or watching right now. It might be not a coffee, but it could be it could be writing or journaling. It could be reading a newspaper. It speaker-1: just be sitting. Like it, I think that's a that's my point. It's like it doesn't have to be a huge thing. And like, ⁓ this is really just gonna make me such a better person. Like drinking coffee isn't making me a better person, but it is making me a better steward of my connection to myself and my surroundings and and the universe because I'm taking a minute, a long minute, as long as I can. I will make it as long as I can. Because you know, as you go then the day goes on and it gets the next thing and it is. As soon as it's over, it's like over, right? Like on with your So there's sometimes it's for people like women or people that I've coached, like they enjoy it more at night. Like maybe the rituals at night. speaker-0: Do you have a night ritual as well? speaker-1: I mean I I do breath work once I'm in bed. Like yeah, I do I do some breath work. I listen I put on my little not ⁓ my insight timer. I have, you know, whatever ones I'm rotating through, like that is like clockwork. That is my yep. Yeah. I'm also a great sleeper, so speaker-0: So it's easier for probably a system for that. It sounds like you have a system for that, right? It's the rituals. It's the morning and evening rituals. speaker-1: Yeah. It it really I know it's like how much of it is cliche, like, ⁓ yeah, that's what it's like because it it works. Like it it really does and you know, consistency is king. speaker-0: I I think something yeah. S something really, really key to point out is it's a ritual, not a routine. speaker-1: It's ritual. You do it because it feels good. It's resourcing. You look forward to it. Yeah, exactly. It's it's something you look forward to. It's something that brings you joy and calm and serenity and peace. Like it's it's resourcing and pouring into yourself. speaker-0: Yeah. 'Cause I mean I've talked about routines and habits before a lot a lot on this show actually. It's like got a lot of those You can you can have your habits, but habits don't make you more conscious. Mm-mm. Habits don't make you more present. It's actually the o you're you're doing the opposite. You're making yourself more unconscious so that you just get it done. speaker-1: You just get it done. You can tune out and you just stack ⁓ and you get it done. You're like, check, check, check, check, check. ⁓ I'm so efficient. But you're not it's totally different. You're right. A ritual really does connect you and ground you and just make you more present. speaker-0: And I yeah, I interviewed a neuroscientist ⁓ a couple of weeks ago now, Aram Kagil, who was from Melbourne actually as well, but he's talking about the same same kind of thing, is it's like it's physiology first. You can not override what your body is trying to tell you, what your body's trying to communicate to you. You can have the best knowledge in the world, you can know the perfect plan, but if your body's not in a state where it can actually execute what it is you're trying to do, mm-hmm, it's not gonna happen. speaker-1: ⁓ There's so much of that. I mean, that is ultimately why I incorporated breath work so that you could, you know, regulate your nervous system in order to have the mindset work actually take root. Because what I found for so long is like you do all this mindset work and you're like, yes, yes, yes. And you've you've just you feel like you've got it all dialed in and then like within a month or two, you're literally like a slid back to to the old patterns. Yeah. And I didn't understand it for a long time. And now it's like of course it just it makes sense. Like you're not really receiving it. Like it's it's not really becoming part of your programming if your nervous system is not primed for it. speaker-0: Well, we kind of described it in the episode as being in a inside a burning building. It's like you have all these tasks to do that you know in your head you have to do them. But the burning like the the building is on fire, right? The building's on fire and it starts small and then it gradually builds up. And I actually saw a really, really great ⁓ visual representation of this. It was a burning boat, right, on the lake. And you're sitting on the lake and it's like You can either face your fears and just get into the unknown and just go for it, or you can stay on the burning boat and just continue to lie comfortably and just incinerate your soul, basically. It's like speaker-1: Yeah, that's a good analogy. speaker-0: You know what you need to do, right? Your physiology is trying to communicate to you. speaker-1: the time I mean that's all that's the whole like root of disease right yeah I just I just finished the book by ⁓ Mark Hyman Dr. Mark Hyman and yeah it's like your body will constantly give you flags to address issues that are further upstream you know but So if so if you're if you're only just treating these tiny little symptoms like that's like to your to your analogy, that's like trying to bail trying to put the fire out with a with a bail bucket, but it's like completely taking over the boat. You're like, that's it's just it doesn't it doesn't work. But that's why that's why we're we're all so sick. speaker-0: Yeah. And you you see it. Like your body will show symptoms of but it's not about treating the symptom. It's about noticing the symptom and then putting the puzzle pieces. speaker-1: Really. Getting curious, being like, huh, I wonder what that's really stemming from. Like, where is that coming from? Like, don't just put cortisone on the rash. Like, where where is that coming from? And it does take it it can be exhausting. Like that, there can be some fatigue around that, but it is like this amazing system. Our body is just like this amazing organism that will continuously give you flags to try and get you to connect to what's going on. speaker-0: I would really love to dive into that for a second because it is exhausting, is what you just said, right? And I think there's there's a wisdom in that, right? Your body needs to get exhausted. It needs to really just become in into a state where it can actually rest. Cause your heart, like your heart mind, as they describe it in traditional Chinese medicine, is the young, is the young element. It's the it's the masculine. It's like, pool, we need to do this. And it will pull your body where it needs to go. But there's also this yin, this softening, this rest and digest element that you need to pay attention to because that's that's that's what can't get replenished. speaker-1: Yes. Right. And that's what's predominantly ignored. speaker-0: Because we live in this society. Yeah. We live in a society that rewards burnout. Production. Exactly. speaker-1: Yeah. Yep. Mm production. Human products. Right. That's right. And sometimes, ironically, like it really is that simple in terms of like it's just rest. It's like giving your body real rest, which I think I think I'd it'd be hard to throw a stone and hit somebody that doesn't know somebody if it's not genuinely themselves. Who can say, Yeah, I'm not well breasted. I don't really know anybody who's well breasted. speaker-0: There is this idea of normal. speaker-1: That's the new normal. Yep. speaker-0: Yeah, being tired is normal. It shouldn't be. speaker-1: Mm-hmm. Grinding through the day. no, no. We're like we are we do have good design when we are well tuned, you know. But we there's a lot of obstacles nowadays. Yeah. speaker-0: wonder how much further we could go if we actually really truly listen to our body and almost let go into it, right? Because there is this pull and I think the pull is coming from it's not coming from our body, it's coming from outside of us. Mm-hmm. It's coming from what can you do better? Or like what what can you push yourself to do? And it's discipline. It's showing up every day. It's it's doing the best you very like very best you can. But then it forgets about This thing that doesn't replenish, it's like a lake that speaker-1: Right. speaker-0: You can't refill it. Doesn't it? You've got to look after it. speaker-1: Yeah, yeah. Well and I I think ⁓ I think it's such an interesting point. I know we we don't have really that much time left, but ⁓ just about like bridging that gap, right? How how so many ⁓ adults are finding it harder and harder to bridge that gap because of our current state of affairs. and speaker-0: Yeah. speaker-1: As some of us know, like there is no shortcutting that. you know, there is no magic pill that refills that reservoir. ⁓ speaker-0: Well spot on. You can't you can't fill it with steroids. You can't fill it with speaker-1: You just can't with anything other than self-resourcing, you know, other than j genuinely like having a reverence for yourself and and genuinely taking care of yourself and giving it giving yourself the rest, the replenishment, the resources, the nourishment, the kindness, right? Like like being able to hold those two the yin and yang of like I wanna be productive and I wanna be a leader. And I wanna be a business owner and I wanna do these things. And being able to balance that with real, genuine, like human necessity ⁓ and kindness for oneself. Like it doesn't just have to be like and I'm getting it done and look at this and like that and and so it if you know, you can, but to your point, like. as you said earlier on, so many of those people look s one way on on the outside and then you get behind closed doors and they're just like a wreck. They're just a wreck. Because they haven't spent any time nurturing that other aspect that is required for any sort of longevity. speaker-0: Yeah. I I I love that you've had a lot of ⁓ experience in fitness very similar to me. And I honestly don't think that Westerners or Caucasians really know how to nourish their body well. Right. To me, it's not about your p macros, all right. I've I've learned that the hard way. It's not about how many calories in and calories out because you could just go and eat food that's like three months old, that's been packaged and put into a speaker-1: ⁓ no. Mm. Mm. speaker-0: A thing and get you hit all your macros, right? Yeah. Yeah. There's this thing called life. The the more living something is, right? If it's vegetables and fruits, yeah. You know, there's a reason why kids will if they haven't been introduced to snack foods that are highly palatable, there's a reason why they would reach for a fruit over like a sandwich or like a crispbread. If they weren't introduced to that. And it's the same with animals. speaker-1: Yeah. Yeah. speaker-0: Yeah, there's a reason why they go for the things that they do. Mm-hmm. But we get so far away because I don't know, there's just something that it fixes or it r it feels like it fixes. speaker-1: Well, I mean, all of those foods, they hit fast acting dopamine receptors, right? Like there's there is a lot of chemistry behind that. but y your your point about like it isn't just calories in, calories out, and it's also not just w we've just come really f far from nourishing our bodies for the sake of nourishing our bodies, we tend to nourish our bodies for a result. speaker-0: Performance, yeah. speaker-1: Performance for looks for this for that, like and that is part, I would say like a huge part of the nervous system disconnect, right? Like the dysregulation in our nervous system and why it is perpetuating this toxic cycle in ourselves that and it part of that is when you really are disconnected to your body. You're not viewing your body as I it's it is a little existential. You're not viewing your body as you're one, right? You're like up here pulling all the strings and you're just like, just do what I tell you to do. Like you're like this separate. Right? Like, ⁓ I hate my thighs or ⁓ I hate my belly, or ⁓ I wish and you're like, that's like that that's you're you're all it's it's not compartmentalized. speaker-0: Ha ha ha. How interesting I was thinking as you were saying that. It's like you wouldn't relate to a temple that way. Like if you walked into a a temple, like a Zen temple or something, it's like you wouldn't say, I hate the gates, right? Or I I hate how the stones are all perfectly laid out. It's like you wouldn't do that. speaker-1: It's part it's part of like ⁓ all of it. When you start regulating your nervous system, there's you've you open the portal to be able to accept yourself as a whole being and not just as this compartmentalized organism that gets you from A to B. And I think at least for me, like that's been part of the journey in speaker-0: Mm-hmm. speaker-1: in in my life, like with my marriage and as a parent and ⁓ and then as my interface with the world and constantly like reminding myself of of like we're all connected. Like we think that we're like these separate bodies and that's how we that's how we experience it. But like we're we're really like all part of this fabric, right? It's like this like web and it does take a lot of conscious Like I I'm not I ha I haven't ascended yet to the point where I'm like in the matri I see it as the matrix and like I I I see this web. But like I do ex have moments where I experience it where you're just like like especially I experience it most like when I w when I experience synchronicity, like in in my in my day to day life w where it's like this happened and then ⁓ perfect timing and then this happened, ⁓ perfect timing and then this happened, and then you're just like Ding ding ding ding ding ding ding. You know, ⁓ that to me is like the frequency and alignment all sort of like channeling in and it all it's like it's all connected. Like it's not a coincidence. That wasn't just luck. And like that's just like the coolest thing ever. And I for for me, like I noticed that a lot. ⁓ and I think it's like anything, like the yellow butterflies or the yellow car, you know, all those little the the the practices where you take somebody through the story and you're like, notice the yellow butterflies. And then all of a sudden for the next month, it's like they see them everywhere. And you're like, are they always there? And it's like, again, it's that confirmation bias. It's like you will start to notice things that you focus on. So focus on the good things. Like you again, you get to choose. Like, like pick your pain, pick your path, pick your poison, like choose what how you are How you want experience your reality? speaker-0: Yeah, very well said. I'd love to go back. ⁓ just one final question I'd love to ask you before we close up. Going back to that week where everything kind of just fell apart and you saw the reflection was basically I wanna say a broken mirror, but obviously it wasn't maybe as extreme as that, but it the reflection back felt that way, right? It's like holy shit, my life's kind of fallen apart and I don't even know what where am I. Right. speaker-1: Where am I? Hundred percent. speaker-0: What advice would you give that version of yourself now, given all the experience that's happened between then and now? Hmm. speaker-1: What advice I mean really I I I suppose if I were really to be able to see you know, like travel back, just I would tell her That it's not as scary as you think it's gonna be. and that repair, like real repair really is possible. So to To lean into those scary scary parts. Sooner sooner than later. speaker-0: So don't close your eyes when watching the scary movie. speaker-1: Don't close your eyes and like like so many things in life, it's it really is never as bad once you're doing it as you think it's gonna be. ⁓ and rupture will always happen throughout your life. Like it that's that that's just a part of ⁓ the human experience. And knowing that there's always room for repair. no matter how long something's been ruptured, is like an amazing thing to know. I'd like I find that to be really true. Yeah. speaker-0: Yeah. ⁓ things have to fall apart before they can be put back together the way you want them to. speaker-1: Yeah. Or you know, we all think we we think we know what we want. We think we know what we don't want. And we don't. Like we don't we don't know what we don't know and it's like we just don't know anything. Really? Like you wake up your you wake up in the morning and you're like, ⁓ I look at my calendar and I've like I've got these appointments. You think you know what your day is gonna look like and you i it's never what you think it's gonna be. Ever. You know, so speaker-0: True. speaker-1: hanging on to that curiosity or engaging more with that curiosity as one has when you're a child of like like stop thinking you know how it's all gonna play out because you don't. Like you just don't. You know, we we make plans, we we do. It's important to like design and plan, but like to also hold that really loosely because at least in my experience, like none of it has turned out that way. Like none of my plans have come to fruition in the way I had planned or imagined. And that's not a bad thing. Like, it's turns out it's an amazing thing. But like, I I laugh at that all the time. I'm like, why do we even like, like, this is, I think it's so funny. Like, we just we don't know what life has in store. So that is another great reason to just be today. Like, be here today, be in the present. If you're not. Start learning how to practice to get into your body and connect. That's it. Like speaker-0: Yeah. Yeah. I love that. Just get into your body. Find a practice that allows you to do that. speaker-1: Yeah. That's right, 'cause you can't think your way out of your life. Like I've tried. speaker-0: Awesome. Well, it's been an absolute pleasure ⁓ having this conversation with you today, Christina. I'd love for the audience to know how first of all they can connect with you. So what's the best way to connect with you? speaker-1: Yeah, you can follow me on Instagram, Christina Priceless Coaching. You can find me on YouTube. You can find me on Facebook. I'm I'm on a you know, a couple of the socials, but ⁓ yeah, you can just follow and reach out and you'll get me. speaker-0: Yeah. Awesome. And what ⁓ program do you currently have? Obviously we talked about the twelve week regular speaker-1: Yeah, the twelve week ⁓ regulated revolution. ⁓ 'cause I'm like, wouldn't that just be great? We could totally have a revolution of regulated human beings and imagine the ripple effect that would have on humanity if everybody could really operate from a regulated state. speaker-0: Yeah. I think it'll be pretty amazing. speaker-1: Mind blowing, I know. so that's my that's my main program. ⁓ there's a couple of different ways that you can ⁓ experience that and And then one on one coaching. speaker-0: Yeah. Amazing. Well, once again, Christine, it's been a pleasure to have you here. Really appreciate it. And yeah, that brings us to the end of today's episode of the reset. So if you're ready to stop being a passenger in your own life and start being the architect of your legacy, make sure you comment with the word reset and I will send you the seven day integrity reset over to you completely free of charge. Most people wait for their life to change. So be the one to architect. Your choice. Change your state, choose how you show up. I am Sean Tucker. I'll see you on the next one.