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IF ONLY I WERE YOUNG TODAY · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden.
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Kendall welcome everybody to uncluttered and unfiltered, the
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podcast for women over 50. I'm Eden Christine is here, of
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course. And it's so funny because we I
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picked out a topic a while back and we kept putting it off and
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and this is the day we're doing it.
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And I literally had a conversation with some people
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today at work and the phrase that is the topic came up and it
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was basically, gosh, if I were young now, meaning in this, if I
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dropped into like the year we're in right now, living the kind of
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life young people are living right now, I'd crush it
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basically was kind of and, and why, you know, so that came up
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today. And so that really inspired me
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to be excited to get home and, and start recording with you
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about this topic that you came up with.
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But before we get to that, just a couple things we want to go
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over. First of all, you're going to
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start giving us a little nugget every single episode, something
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organizational. And I'm glad of that because I
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know a lot of you guys that are listening love to come away with
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a little homework. So whether it's something that
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you just need to learn and remember or something you want
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to implement immediately, at the end of every episode you will
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get a little a little tidbit from Christine Stone, nationally
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acclaimed professional organizer.
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I love when you say that you make me feel.
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Like it's so true though. I mean, you know, it's a true
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thing. So I want to talk though, first
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of all, every now and again we talk about our husbands and
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things that we say that they just are.
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Like I don't get it. I don't get it.
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And last time we talked, I think it was this past time or the
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time before when teen idol Bobby Sherman passed away.
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And my husband was like, who now?
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So what is the thing that's going on in your family's life
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that your husband Mitch just did not understand?
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I am throwing my daughter a baby sprinkle.
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Not a shower, a sprinkle. No, it's different.
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It's different, so can you explain for those who don't know
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how it is different? When you're having your second
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baby, I think I don't quote me on this because I'm not the pro
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on this, but I think it's if you're having a different
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gender, that means you need different clothes, different
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things. So she my daughter is having a
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girl, she had a boy 1st and so she is having a sprinkle and I
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am having the sprinkle and my husband said what the hell is a
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sprinkle? And it's basically this, you
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don't need all the main things. You still have a lot of the
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items unless your mom professional organizer and made
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you give them away, but the. Ones.
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So you don't need everything, you're not starting fresh, but
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you definitely need some things. And I think I've also heard
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about this if you are having the same gender too, because you
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know, you don't want everything to be a hand me down.
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It's nice to have something new, right?
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So that's and sometimes they, sometimes you have to get like
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new stuff when it came to nursing or bottles or you know,
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things that, you know, that kind of thing.
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But we're it's supposed to be more like a brunch or a lunch or
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a we're actually doing something very different.
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We're doing a dinner and so and it's small.
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It's 12 to 13 P. It's just, and it's mainly her
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friends. It's just, it's just a nice way
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to celebrate the mom to be, that's all.
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I think that's lovely. There's not that, you know, it
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always sounds so gauche to say that shower is about the gifts,
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but partially it's about that feeling that you get when you're
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sending someone away with what they need.
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A sprinkle is really, it seems to me, like more of a
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celebration, more of a there will be gifts, but it's not
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really about making sure that she's not going to go without.
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It's just about making sure that she feels the love the second
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time around. So.
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Fantastic, good. And I you know what's going to
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happen. Steve listens to our podcast, so
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he's going to come home and have Mitch's back.
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I don't know what that is either.
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I've never heard of such a thing, so I'm sure there are
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many. Men.
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And I think it's a new thing, new thing.
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Yeah, we definitely didn't have sprinkles when I had my. 2nd.
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Shot No, we didn't have a lot of things, which brings us.
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Yes, we did. We were young and the reason we
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came up with this was we were talking about social media and
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all the things that there are now.
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And we think about the energy we had when we were young and the
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hustle we you had to put in to get things done.
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And we're like, man, if we were young now, just think about how
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we would be crushing it. I thought the other day I saw an
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outfit and I'm like, man, if I was younger, Eden, I would
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totally want to wear that outfit.
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But I wouldn't now, even though some people will say wear it if
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you're comfortable. Point being, I'm not.
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I'm just not. Comfortable, right, right.
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And I think my top, I'm going to give you like my top three to
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four categories on if only one would be makeup, I think I
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would. I love all the beauty and makeup
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and skin care that's going on now.
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But and, and it's not that I don't use some of it, but my
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skin's different. My skin isn't 253545 year old
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skin. So you're not going to copy what
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they do because you're at a different age.
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But I have a very big fascination with makeup, skin
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care, hair care, that kind of stuff.
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And I think as you said, I would have crushed it back in like if
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I were younger. Now I'm too tired, as we talked
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about, I'm just too tired. And then the other thing would
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be fashion, like you just said. Yeah.
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I definitely think I would have been really a big fashionista.
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I mean, like I would have been really into the whole
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fashionista social media. You know, this is my latest, you
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know, haul, but I'm too tired. I just.
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Part of this is and because we're, you know, this isn't a
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rule type kind of group we're we're in.
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I mean, it's not about like, well, the rule is it can't have
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to do with like the signs of the times.
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It has to just do with the age, but that's, you know, there are
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no rules. So what I would say is also the
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fact that thrift stores are so like, I like to go thrift store
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shopping, but I I'm not that person that's going to show up
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and wearing something outrageous and be like it's thrifted.
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It's that kind of stuff out of look pretty new, pretty
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whatever. And I think if I were, when I
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were younger, maybe a little bolder in what I would wear, I
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think I would really have gotten into that.
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We just didn't really have that kind of thrifting going on back
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in the day like you did. But I just wasn't really a part
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of it because I didn't, I didn't really know about it because
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it's social media not being a thing.
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Like if you there are a lot of things that are out there that
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exist that people just didn't know about because our world was
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so much smaller. Yep, you know, Yep, I agree.
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And I don't you think that's why there's a lot of the if only I
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was younger type thing going on because you, you really try not
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to have FOMO or you try not to do that and you really do try
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not to. I do.
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I'm going to speak for myself, but it's hard.
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It's really, really hard because even women in their 50s and 60s,
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even 70s and 80s are still on social media doing fashion halls
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and all that. It's not that I couldn't do it
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if I wanted to, but I just feel like when you're younger you can
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juggle a million different things.
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I mean, I just am focused on our podcast and my job, you know?
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But when I was younger, don't you think you could have juggled
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like 7 different things and been good at all of them?
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And I feel too, that I and I and the social media piece of it is
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interesting because I, I don't think about social media in the
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moment. And I think that's a good thing.
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I wouldn't trade that. But the way when I'm looking
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through the stories feature of social media and people are
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using it the way it's intended, which is meant to be more like a
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behind the scenes what's going on versus like the the
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presentation, which is the in your feed.
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I just in the moment don't have that desire or energy or
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actually memory to remember that it should be done to do it.
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So I'm not going to sit there and be like I'm walking in right
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now and then I'm inside. I'm inside right now.
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And and that's what people do on social media when they're young.
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Well, and like what you just said, people always say to me,
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oh, you should have videotaped that.
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You should have like record. And I'm talking for my work, for
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my job. And I don't even think about it.
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Like, first of all, I think at my age, which I say this all the
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time, I don't think people would think I was interesting enough
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because at my age, we don't think that way.
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But people will say to me, Oh no, it's very interesting.
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I'm like, you know, I think we just have a different mindset
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because we didn't grow up with social media and we are more
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private. I'm more private.
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I don't like sharing. I'll see younger people sharing,
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crying, every little detail of their life and it kind of makes
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me sad for them, you know what I mean?
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It did it for me too. And here's another if I were
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young now, if I were young now, half more than half of the
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things that I ever shed a tear over, I wouldn't lose 1 iota of
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sleep over because, you know, this too shall pass.
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But also, I wouldn't assume that everything is a chronic
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situation. We've had a whole episode about
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this. Not everything is traced back to
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like trauma. Sometimes it's just a crappy
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day. And I think I would be really
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much better at it now than I was then and also now than the kids
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today are like, let's pretend like we just went through some
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kind of door. And the next thing you know, you
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know, and I've never asked you this, but did you watch the TV
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show Younger Sutton Foster? OK.
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Feel like. You should watch that, but it's
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a sitcom. Well, it's a not a sitcom, but
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it's a comedy episodic show where she basically passes for
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being in her 20s even though she's in her 40s.
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Oh, really? Yeah, so she's basically hanging
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out and working with the younger people, but she's older.
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She's even got a kid that age. So I think about that kind of
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situation and and in some ways she's very lost.
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And then in other ways she's just so much further ahead of
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the game over what these people are working, you know, worrying
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about. So that's a good show.
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I'm kind of jealous that you've never watched it because you've
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got you've got it ahead of you. You should.
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You'll like it. Oh well, I'm always adding to my
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list because right now there's nothing good to watch on any of
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I I have. I pay for about 7 of them and I
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tell you all the time I can't find anything to watch.
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Well, that's a good one for you. I I also think technology.
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I feel like if I was younger, I would have been really able to
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learn it better and want to learn it better and be good at
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it. Now I just don't have the
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bandwidth to learn it. And you're good at that.
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You're a good, you're you, you're like a sponge.
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You like to. I just feel like my brain has so
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much capacity like a computer and I just learning social media
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or technology is not at the top of my list.
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I think I get younger people to help and do that.
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So that's another thing that I always say, God, if only I was
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younger, I think I really would have been good at that.
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I, I think I could have really, I think I could have been like
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in social media marketing, like don't you ever think like what
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your job would be if if only you were younger and.
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Also, you know, people are sometimes I'll have and by the
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way, about the social media thing about there is something
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to be said for it being like second nature.
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I mean, think about one of the things that we learn to do, like
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writing cursive or typing that, you know, if you ask somebody
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younger to do it, it might not flow as easily.
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I feel like that's the same way it is with posting things.
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I watch my daughter's thumbs flying all over that phone and
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I'm like why is it taking me so long to do what she can do in
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seconds? But.
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But the The thing is that you don't, you almost discount all
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the years of preparation that brought them to this moment.
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I mean, they've been doing this since they were born.
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Literally. If they are at Gen.
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Alpha, then they've always had cell phones.
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They've always posted things. Someone told me the other day
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that it would be really good and that people really enjoy
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watching. Come be on my Day with me or get
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ready with me video. Yeah, that they've told me that
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to. Spend the whole day with me,
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yeah. And then you just do place to
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place to place. And I'm.
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Yeah, really people like that because unless you are on
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Broadway or you have. A job?
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You're a supermodel. Right I.
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Don't you know what I mean? That's what I mean.
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People always say, oh, you should do this.
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The people want to see it. I'm like, they want to see me
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put hot rollers in my hair. They want to see me.
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Do, but only I want to see your hair not as not as part of your
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entire day. Well, but I mean, you know, like
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you want to see me load the dishwasher or take the garbage
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out or feed the dog. I mean, I don't get it.
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I don't I, but I think if I've, if I was younger, I, I maybe
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could get it. I maybe could get into it at
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least. But now I'm like, that's kind of
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boring. I, I don't know, it's there's so
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many and it's not regret. I want to just say if only is
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not regret. Regret is totally totally
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totally different. Regret is like saying I wish I
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never stopped learning how to blank because think how good at
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it I'd be right now. I mean that's that's OK too.
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I you. Know or I wish I would have
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spent time with somebody. That's deep regret.
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That's real regret. Well, that's what I mean.
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Like I think regret's different than the.
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If only only I was younger. Because I think if only I was
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younger. You're talking about energy,
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you're talking about your brain capacity, you're talking about
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your bedtime. You know what I mean?
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You're. Yes, well, I, I, I was talking
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to some people that had, that you were younger that were going
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out somewhere and it sounded really fun, like a fun night
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out. And I thought if only I were
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younger, I'd go. But y'all don't leave the house
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until 10, you know? It's that kind of thing, you
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know? If only I were younger.
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I almost I thought of you when I called and they that for an
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appointment and they now are offering like weekends and
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nights. I guess so many people need
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appointments they decided to switch schedules is.
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This for what? For hair or for doctor?
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For a doctor for doctor for for like I had to get just a routine
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MRI thing that I do every year. Anyway, he goes, OK, I found
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one, it's soon, and I said OK, when he goes 9:30, I go in the
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morning. That's perfect.
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He goes, no, no, no, 9:30 at night, I said.
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I said, you're so sweet, but let me tell you, I go to bed by 738
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o'clock. That's past my bedtime.
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And he started laughing. But I'm like, who goes to the
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doctor at 9:30 and no. If it's an MRI, ask them if you
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can stay there until morning, right?
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Can I just sleep there? I'll come in.
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Can you give me the colonoscopy medicine and I'll.
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Just right, right. I'll sleep there, right?
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No, I said no, I can't come and do something at 9:30 at night.
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That's just not going to happen. So anyway, that's what I mean.
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Like, things are just so different now.
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I would have never thought in a million years that would have
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ever been something that people do now.
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But anyway, so that's why I just wanted to separate regret from
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if only I was young again. And I don't think.
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Yeah. Yeah, exactly.
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So what else though? If you know, it's just funny to
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me. Like if I were young now and I
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think I would really decide which of my friends really
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deserve most of my focus. Because I think that when you're
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really young, you know, you try to spend time with everybody,
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everybody. And then when you get to our
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age, you realize that there are some core people that are still
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in the picture, but not all of them.
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So I think I would try to differentiate those people early
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on, try to make that selection process a little bit sooner than
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later so that you know, there's not quality time that was wasted
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with people who end up not even really being true friends.
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That's very true, Very true. Though I was always, my whole
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entire life, a bit of a homebody and I always had just core
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groups of friends. I never was the one that was,
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you know, the party or the one that wanted to go out and, and
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not, you know, be liked by everybody.
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I always was the one, if you were in my core group of
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friends, that meant something because you were special, you
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know what I mean? So those are types of things
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like I, I almost. Don't I don't have regret about
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the whole like I'm glad we didn't have social media.
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I'm glad we I liked raising my kids without social media.
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You know what I mean? So I never go, Oh, I wish we had
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social media went never like ever.
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Never. You never hear anyone say I
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wish. The only thing I do wish is that
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I had more photos from the ages of like between like 17 through
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like after college. I wish I had some more photos
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than I do not living online for everyone to see.
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I just wish I had more photos. But it used to be kind of a big
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deal, especially when you were in college to get, you know,
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with especially like we, I remember this, this is so funny.
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But where I went at University of Florida, and I'm sure your
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husband will remember this too. But the company that used to
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come to all the the Greek events was called flash.
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And so you'd be at an event and when you'd see the guy walk by
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with a camera, you would yell flash.
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So they would know to come over to you to take your picture.
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And then later you could look at the proofs.
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They would come to your sorority or fraternity house if you were
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in that system and you would buy them like for a dollar
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something, a picture. But that was always the thing at
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parties where you'd be out or you'd be drinking, having a good
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time. You see out of the corner of
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your eye and you'd get together and yell flash instead of
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somebody just taking out their phone and taking a picture.
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So if I were, if I were young now, I would save a fortune on
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buying photos that I no longer can find.
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So there's. That we had Pickwick.
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So I went to school at TCU and we had Pickwick and I have so
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many photos and of course I know where mine are.
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So yeah, no, I don't. I don't miss I I wouldn't have
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liked social media. So what about knowing where your
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friends were though? What about being young and being
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able to access people? Horrible idea.
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Horrible idea. Horrible.
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Idea. I mean, what about that?
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Like I used to go to the roller skating rink at, you know, in
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high, in school, little in high school and just before we could
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drive, but just knowing like, who was going to be there and
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people. Check.
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Yeah, but I'd I think this location thing is the worst, the
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worst thing ever because even these young kids, when they
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break up with a boyfriend or whatever, they're still
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following each other. I mean, that's almost like
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stalkerish to me. It's stalkerish.
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It's also so much more heartbreak than is necessary.
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Yeah, So I, yeah, I think for me it's more of like a career
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thing, learning things, fashion, makeup, skin care, how I would
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have taken care of my skin. And that's not a regret.
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That's like, if only I were younger and had the knowledge
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that we have right now, I think I would have, you know,
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definitely done things differently.
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And I think I, I think with social media, we keep going back
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to it, but I think people do take care of themselves more
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because everybody's in photos and online and it's different.
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And you learn things from other people that you like.
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You said you would have never ever, ever learned.
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Ever known or learned. Yeah.
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And this goes and and this is a part of that whole like
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technology and what's available now.
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But think about how much more you know about like, for
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example, your crushes, the people that you know, going way
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back to when you would have a crush on a teen idol or
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something. Think about how much more we
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know about them instead of what was a bio that was written for
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them. I mean, we found out that Andy
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Gibb was married with a daughter only very recently because Tiger
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Beat magazine didn't want us to know that.
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Right. We wouldn't buy the magazines
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because he was married. So.
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I mean, these are things that you.
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Know everything now? Everything.
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Yeah. Exactly or just, you know, it's
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just, I think I think that if sometimes when I when I look at
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my daughter, you know, and you've got to and when I see my
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daughter and my son and, and the way relationships work and how
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they can text each other and what have you, I just think we
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dodged a bullet there. I just, you know, the, the
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having to know where each other is at all times, because then
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you have to ask yourself, you know, how serious and how
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complex is the relationship I'm in?
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If now that I can know where someone is every hour of the
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day, are we at that point yet where we should know where each
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other is at every point of the day?
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Before, it was like you never had to worry about those kinds
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of things because it wasn't possible to do it.
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Well, people can't move on anymore.
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That's the problem. They can't move on anymore.
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I mean, you know, in high school you'd break up with someone.
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That'd be the end of it. And you'd go through your life
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and probably unless you went to a high school where you never
25:07
see them again, now you know everything about them.
25:10
And you're like, I really don't care to know everything about
25:14
him, but somehow I do. What was the biggest surprise at
25:18
one of your high school reunions?
25:20
Have you? Or even on Facebook, like going
25:23
back to high school, like that somebody achieved or you know,
25:26
it's always like in all the movies.
25:28
Well, we had Jeff Bezos in our high school, so I think that's
25:32
about it. I mean.
25:33
He wins. I think that's a hands down
25:37
winner. I mean, he went to our high
25:39
school. But I, I, you know, all my
25:43
reunions, I always thought the women looked a lot better than
25:48
men. But that's kind of normal
25:50
because women take care of themselves more.
25:53
Men just age gracefully and that's the end of that.
25:56
But there were one of our podcasts, you said a while back,
26:00
you said, and I think this is correct.
26:02
First the women look better, and the men, and then the next time
26:07
around the men start looking a little better because then now
26:09
they're like silver foxes. Some of them, the ones that do
26:12
bother really stand out. Like, yeah, really stand out,
26:17
yeah. Like they work out or whatever.
26:20
And even the women, some women don't want to color their hair
26:23
anymore. They don't.
26:25
They don't want to do anything. They just want to age gracefully
26:29
or naturally. And, you know, they look great.
26:32
It's just they don't look like everybody look different with
26:35
each reunion. And I'm sure they felt that way
26:37
about me, too. I think that I just like to go
26:41
out of that. And my reunions are always in
26:44
Miami, which is fun. So it's, you know, yeah, it's a
26:48
fun place to be. So as long as we're on the
26:51
subject of social media and this just happened this way, I
26:55
literally just saw this today. You probably saw it a little
26:58
sooner than I did because you're on on that a lot.
27:02
But this story about the Coldplay concert, and if you
27:07
missed it, there was a Coldplay concert and the lead singer of
27:10
Coldplay, Chris Martin, they had a KISS camp.
27:15
And so it's going around the arena and we're seeing all these
27:17
couples kissing. And then we see this couple
27:19
that's in a box, like in a suite, and he's got her from
27:23
behind and he's giving her a big old bear hug from behind.
27:25
And they're enjoying it until they realize they're on the kiss
27:28
Cam. And then she dives one way, he
27:32
dives the other way. He he dives for the floor.
27:35
Straight down to the floor, it's.
27:36
Straight down. Chris Martin says, wow, either
27:41
you guys are having an affair or you're really shy.
27:45
Well, that went viral. Wouldn't have done anything if
27:48
they hadn't been diving. Now we find out he's the married
27:52
dad of two. She's in a committed.
27:55
Relationship end part though. Well, this is the latest.
27:58
I mean, we could hear differently.
28:00
She is the HR director at the company that he runs.
28:04
So there's like, there's like a whole lot coming out of this,
28:09
but the comments on all of these videos that I'm seeing are
28:12
what's really, really funny. Like people are saying, oh, he
28:15
was giving her the Heimlich and then he dove to the ground to
28:17
find whatever she spit out when he, you know, there was just all
28:20
these. Different though.
28:21
There are all these different people trying to have his back.
28:24
Mostly people were like, oh, you know, this is the photo that you
28:27
send back the next time the HR department sends you a
28:30
disciplinary letter because she's the.
28:32
Oh my God, that's so. In fact, her title is Chief
28:35
People's officer or something like that.
28:38
She people's officer and she's pretty new to the company.
28:40
So it was. Oh my God, it's quite the
28:42
scandal. You know, here's the thing now
28:46
that there is social media, if you cheat and don't think you're
28:51
going to get caught, I, I, I don't know what to say about
28:54
that other than really, I mean. Well, plus they were in a box
28:58
full of people and you could see the other people were turning
29:00
red. So that means everybody with
29:02
them was in on this. So I well, I don't know 100%
29:05
what was really going on, if they were cheating or what was
29:08
going on, but I mean, he's married to someone else.
29:10
She's but you're right. I mean also I'm.
29:13
Sorry. He has his arms around her, I
29:15
think from. Behind.
29:17
From behind. I'll tell you I don't need to be
29:20
a rocket scientist to figure that one out, but.
29:23
Exactly. But the oh, the dreaded kiss
29:26
Cam. You know what other cams I like?
29:28
I like the ones. Did you ever see those cameras
29:30
that they have at sports games? I've seen a few videos of this
29:33
where they go around and they pick people out of the crowd and
29:34
say who they look like, what celebrities look.
29:36
Like. Oh my gosh, that is so funny.
29:40
I wonder if I ever was on one of those, what celebrity they would
29:45
put me with or who they'd put you in.
29:47
Do people ever tell you you look like yeah?
29:49
A long time now. This was a long time ago.
29:52
People always used to tell me I looked like Gina Gershon.
29:56
Oh, I see it. Sure, she's gorgeous, but it was
29:58
a long time ago. It was like, I would say 1015
30:02
years ago, she kind of. Has that Cindy Crawford look
30:04
too. Doesn't she kind of look a
30:06
little too like she I can see this?
30:09
Yeah, well, my hair was different way back then.
30:12
And of course I was, what, 15 years younger?
30:16
But yes, people used to tell me all the time that I look like
30:19
her. I didn't really see it, if you
30:21
want to know the truth, other than that I had dark hair and it
30:24
was longer, but I'll take it. She's a beauty.
30:28
Why not, my dad once thought. Kyra Sedgwick for me.
30:33
Yeah, see that I can see. That's more a hair thing.
30:36
More a hair thing, yeah. But I I could definitely see
30:39
that, yeah. We'll have to ask everybody on
30:41
our ladies only Facebook page what celebrity they've been
30:44
compared to and have them post a picture.
30:46
Why don't we do that? That would be fun.
30:48
I like. Yeah.
30:49
I, you know, a lot of times when I'll.
30:51
I'll meet somebody. I won't say if they look like a
30:54
celebrity. I would never say like, oh, you
30:55
look like so and so. I'll say, do do people tell you
30:58
you look like a certain celebrity?
31:00
And if so, who? And it's always fun to see if
31:03
they say who I'm thinking, they're going to say yeah.
31:06
Sometimes. It's, I agree, so much of A dead
31:09
ringer. And in other cases it's like
31:11
other people are like, I don't see that.
31:12
How do you see that? Yeah, Yeah, right.
31:15
Exactly. To show you that we all see each
31:17
other and ourselves differently, just a little bit differently
31:19
than everyone else. I agree with that.
31:23
Well, this brings us towards the close of this episode.
31:26
So let's get to that random nugget that that tip that we're
31:29
going to, like I said, we're going to start every week
31:32
sharing a little something, even if it's just enough to give you
31:35
a project until we meet again. So what do you have for us?
31:38
Well, I love that you said project because the past three
31:41
to four weeks for all my clients that I have been organizing, the
31:47
one thing we have focused on at every house is keeping your
31:52
countertops free of stuff and clutter and junk.
31:57
And really just grab a garbage can and just take like your
32:03
kitchen counters. It'll take you what, 15 minutes
32:08
and put away things that don't belong in the kitchen.
32:12
Get rid of stuff that you don't need any more.
32:16
And notice before you start, I always tell people this, notice
32:21
how you feel when you walk in with cluttered kitchen
32:24
countertops. Then notice after you clean them
32:27
off, totally clean them off. I mean, I'm talking get a paper
32:32
towel, wet it, wipe it down, everything OK?
32:36
Walk out, walk back in and see the dramatic difference on how
32:42
you feel. Love it.
32:45
That's a great one because when you recognize the way that
32:47
feels, it might prevent you from starting the cycle again.
32:53
Yes, yeah. And also the things people have
32:56
on their countertops, they don't even belong in the kitchen, half
32:59
of them. I mean, a lot of it is just
33:02
stuff that landed there, so. Correct.
33:06
In my house, just like everyone else's house, once one thing is
33:09
there that isn't supposed to be there, 10 things are there that
33:12
aren't supposed to be there. It's just human nature.
33:15
Well, and people always say, well, what about my husband or
33:18
my boyfriend or whatever it is, get a basket, put their stuff
33:23
directly in the basket. And while they're watching a
33:26
football game or a movie, say, here's your basket.
33:30
Let them go through it. If, if you are the one who is
33:35
more of an organized person or who doesn't like clutter, that's
33:39
the only way because you can't berate someone into being
33:43
organized. You can't force someone into
33:45
being organized. You just have to figure out
33:48
what's the best solution to make it happen.
33:52
There was a bunch of, there were a bunch of little nuts and bolts
33:56
and wrenches and this and that and the other that you and I
34:00
came across in my junk drawer when we were doing my kitchen.
34:04
And I put them in a baggie, even though you said get rid of them,
34:06
just get rid of them. And I said, well, I'm going to
34:08
do a baggie this big, put them in there.
34:11
And then if he ever asks for it or at some point I'll have him
34:15
go through. Well, we, it was a piece of
34:18
furniture that we decided we're going to repurpose.
34:21
So we had to clean it out and he found the baggie and he starts
34:24
going through that baggie and he's pulling out things.
34:27
I'm like, you're never going to use it.
34:28
You're never going to use it. But we, I mean, if he, he hadn't
34:31
found that baggie, I should have thrown it out.
34:33
Like you said. I mean, to replace the little
34:36
things in that baggie would be a dollar.
34:38
Any there's no way that anything that baggie cost more than a
34:41
dollar. So I I've learned my lesson.
34:44
Get rid of it. It's just, it's been a running
34:47
theme, I think, for the past few weeks.
34:49
And whenever it's a running theme, I like to talk about it
34:52
because that makes you feel like you're not alone.
34:55
I mean, people feel so alone sometimes in their clutter.
34:59
You're not alone, not alone at all.
35:02
Well, thank you. That was an excellent little
35:04
nugget and I and I can't wait until the next one, which will
35:07
be of course, during our next episode.
35:10
So we mentioned a moment ago about our ladies only Facebook
35:14
group. That's the really good way to
35:15
connect with not just us, but other ladies that are in our
35:19
circle. We ask some fun questions
35:20
sometimes and and people post if they have a concern and it's
35:24
just really nice. You do have to be LED into that.
35:26
So go to Facebook and in the search bar, put on cluttered and
35:29
unfiltered ladies only and and it will send us a request and
35:33
we'll let you in. And then the other social
35:35
medias, they're just like everything else you just follow.
35:39
Yes, we would love for you to do all of the things like leave us
35:42
reviews and stars because it helps other women find us.
35:46
But the best way for them to find us is for you to tell them
35:48
about us. So we appreciate it when you do
35:50
that. Thanks, everyone.
35:52
And let's think how can we close this episode in such a way?
35:55
I guess it has to be with, you know, looking back and and
36:01
trying to imagine what it would be like to be young again.
36:05
Well, it's not going to happen, so you may as well just let it
36:08
go. And don't look bad.