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Marriage Declines · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American Mamas. Dear Mamas, why
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  Speaker 1: are we seeing a decline in marriages? Well, let's ask
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  Speaker 1: our American Mamas.
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  Speaker 2: Mamas, Mamas, Mamas.
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  Speaker 1: Mama told me not to come.
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  Speaker 3: She said, that ain't the way to have fun, no.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, joining us now are American Mamas Terry Netterville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burleson. So last week, I had the chance to
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  Speaker 1: fill in for Joe Biscopo on his show. And one
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  Speaker 1: of his regular guests is Stephen Moore, who is an advisor,
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  Speaker 1: economic advisor to Donald Trump. He's friends with Art Laffer,
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  Speaker 1: who came up with the whole Laffer curve, the Reaganomics
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  Speaker 1: and all this. Stephen Moore's been big involved in economics.
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  Speaker 1: And he wrote an article talking about how we have
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  Speaker 1: a marriage gap. There are twice as many young men
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  Speaker 1: today who are not married between the ages of 18
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  Speaker 1: and 35, as we did 40 years ago. It's twice
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  Speaker 1: as many. 30 million young men are not married. Used
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  Speaker 1: to be 15. And he's like, this is an economic catastrophe.
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  Speaker 1: Question is, and he didn't know the answer, why aren't
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  Speaker 1: we having more people getting married?
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  Speaker 2: Terry and I, we had this discussion after reading his article,
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  Speaker 2: but we were talking about the difference between, think about
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  Speaker 2: when you got engaged and got married in the 90s
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  Speaker 2: and 2000s versus today. It is a production today. I
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  Speaker 2: feel like part of the reason is they have made
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  Speaker 2: it such a spectacle. Think about when we got engaged,
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  Speaker 2: it was just the two of us. And, you know,
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  Speaker 2: he looks at me and he says, I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to say goodbye anymore because we are living apart. Let's
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  Speaker 2: get married. So we plan our wedding and it's, you know,
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  Speaker 2: we've talked about this before. You have cake and nuts and,
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  Speaker 2: you know, that's it. It wasn't this big spectacle. Today,
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  Speaker 2: it is a multi-billion, trillion, gazillion dollar industry. And I
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  Speaker 2: feel like there's so much pressure on men today. to
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  Speaker 2: have the big ring, the big giant proposal, the big
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  Speaker 2: giant wedding. I think there's so much pressure on kids
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  Speaker 2: today that they're just opting out.
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  Speaker 1: Pulls them out.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I see that.
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  Speaker 3: That is. That's part of it, I think. But when
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  Speaker 3: you read through the article also, it says the rising
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  Speaker 3: income and education give many women a financial independence. marriage
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  Speaker 3: once provided and donor sperm and fertility treatments have decoupled
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  Speaker 3: motherhood from a partnership altogether. So in other words, they're
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  Speaker 3: saying that now that women are making their own money
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  Speaker 3: and they can make their own independent decisions without having
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  Speaker 3: to talk to another parent, they'd rather raise their kids alone.
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  Speaker 3: But you're missing out on something very, very special that
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  Speaker 3: was designed by God. And that is the marriage between
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  Speaker 3: a husband and a wife and raising those children in
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  Speaker 3: God's honor. And the other thing, they did say something
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  Speaker 3: I thought was so interesting. It said women raise children. Oh,
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  Speaker 3: they said that a lot of the black men are incarcerated.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. So that was one of the things you talked
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  Speaker 1: about was that when you don't have a two-parent household,
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  Speaker 1: It's really bad for especially young men, just statistically speaking,
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  Speaker 1: that the vast majority and we're talking like 80, 90
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  Speaker 1: percent of the men in jail grew up without a
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  Speaker 1: father in their home. And the majority of black children
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  Speaker 1: in this country are now born into a single mother
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  Speaker 1: family where the father's not there. Well, if the vast
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  Speaker 1: majority of the people in jail don't have dads and
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  Speaker 1: the vast majority of black families don't have dads, where
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  Speaker 1: do you think those people are going to go? And
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  Speaker 1: then that makes it harder on the black women who
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  Speaker 1: would like to have a black husband because you've already
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  Speaker 1: shrunk down the gene pool by putting a large percentage
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  Speaker 1: of them in jail.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that's devastating, actually.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: That's such a leg down for these children to grow
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  Speaker 3: up without that male figure in their life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of the statistics point to this age group
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  Speaker 3: and they say that a lot of them are addicted
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  Speaker 3: to porn, alcohol, drugs, like they're all into video games and.
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  Speaker 1: Things like that.
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  Speaker 3: And they're not getting out there the way that they
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  Speaker 3: used to.
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  Speaker 2: And I think it's mostly men that are doing that.
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  Speaker 2: I believe that women want that. I believe they want
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  Speaker 2: to be married. And they want to have that person.
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  Speaker 2: We've seen so many stories where women feel like they're
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  Speaker 2: past their prime. They did focus on the career and
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  Speaker 2: then they got to a certain point and they're like,
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  Speaker 2: what was I doing? Why did I focus on the
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  Speaker 2: career and not having a husband, having a child? And
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it's a lot of the men that
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  Speaker 2: are choosing, that are opting out.
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  Speaker 1: But I have a couple of theories on this too
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  Speaker 1: because I don't know if we've seen as much of
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  Speaker 1: a political divide between men and women, especially in these
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  Speaker 1: younger groups as we do today.
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  Speaker 2: True.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't know if we've seen where the politics
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  Speaker 1: has influenced the romance as much as it does today.
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  Speaker 1: There are people who say, like, if you're a liberal,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not dating you. Or if you're a conservative, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not dating you. And yet there's a massive divide between
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  Speaker 1: men and women in their politics now, especially in this
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  Speaker 1: marrying age cohort.
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  Speaker 3: Well, not only that, but think about this. I think
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  Speaker 3: about our colleges. And right now, especially the Ivy schools,
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  Speaker 3: if you're raised in a family, like a Christian conservative family.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Statistically speaking, a lot, the majority of those kids go
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  Speaker 3: off to college and they become more liberal. That's right.
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  Speaker 3: So instead of having the value being touted to you and,
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  Speaker 3: you know, taught to you in college, they're teaching the
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  Speaker 3: independence and they're teaching politics and they're separating and they're
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  Speaker 3: dividing by not only race, but by gender.
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  Speaker 1: I also wonder if all these social apps, these dating apps,
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  Speaker 1: have created decision paralysis. Where if you've got too many choices,
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  Speaker 1: you don't make a choice. And you can have anybody
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  Speaker 1: on the planet through those apps.
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  Speaker 2: You might have a point.
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  Speaker 1: the Ask the Mamas button. Terry Nedeville, Kimberly Burleson, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.