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Rabbi Moshe Haber Perashat Vayigash: Joseph the Unwavering: Master of Emotion and Divine Perspective 12.26.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Two causes, the Bashar I want to speak about like I said, I don't
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  know if there'll be any new classes, but the big themes
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  first of all is that Al Pasha opens up where we holding Miuda
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  is about to respond to yourself, yourself, the vice of Egypt's
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  holding on to me. I mean now and threatening to
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  hold up me. I mean, they have his brother,
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  the one whom yourself promised to defend.
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  And now you're safe is ready to hold him.
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  And you doubt my gosh, alive. You know you doubt approaches
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  him. Interesting point.
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  Some rabbits explain What does it mean?
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  He approached him as you doubt was saying and all alone.
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  I'll kill you. Yeah.
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  So he started to train. I said I'll kill you.
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  Then that says I'm going to fight you of a king of a king to
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  all those things. But they say that part of the
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  you would do some reason they weren't connecting the whole
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  time you're 7 asking questions that don't make sense.
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  He's making allegations that don't fit and so I saw one shot
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  saying, well, you got every day you die approach from saying if
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  you're using an interpreter the whole time, officially yourself
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  is an Egyptian. Because of that, he speaks only
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  Egyptian and they I every speak only Hebrew.
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  So yourself say you die said a guy comes close.
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  I want to talk into your ears what that means.
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  Clearly it is getting rid of the interpreter, or at least he's
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  trying to get his words into his ear.
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  Another would say, let's get rid of the middle man.
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  Let me talk straight to you. So you say that's funny.
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  If you were talking a different language, he doesn't understand,
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  how effective can your speech be, right?
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  So the answer is a Udah's whole speech.
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  One of his greatest strengths in his speech was emotion.
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  It was all about the emotion that was on display.
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  He may not have even made so much officially sensitive ice or
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  of Egypt, because officially this man standing in front of
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  you doesn't know your language. But Udah was putting on display.
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  He didn't say anything about his words.
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  He'd say anything new. He'd say any new facts he was
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  creative in the way he's displayed it in his speech to
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  yourself. But more importantly, possibly
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  it was emotion and yourself witnessed that emotion for the
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  first time and he sees a brother Carrie.
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  I'd be so emotional when his younger brother and I made
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  yourself crack. OK, that's one point.
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  The other point I want to pass it.
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  So now they finally you know the yourself reveals the truth He
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  tells about yourself. I want to be highest the moment
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  I am yourself. He tells them before he does so
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  the Pasuk says he's not able to handle it anymore.
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  What's the exact structure? Up until this point, the
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  brothers are coming to Egypt. They came in.
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  Yosem made allegations against that.
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  There's spice, right? He she likes spice.
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  She's putting himself in jail. He's threatening them.
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  And now they're coming to him into the begging.
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  And Yosef says pasuk says Yosef can't handle it.
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  So he clears the room of home. He clears the room of the home
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  of science, all Egyptians out him alone with his brothers.
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  Why is it significant significant because his brothers
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  were strong men. Now you guys should love you Da
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  according to many means you da approach yourself.
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  My favorite supposed to be spies originally right, exactly
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  they're definitely big time people.
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  They're they approach yourself according to many.
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  They approach you to motion. They approach you to speech, but
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  he also approach as of adage says ready to fight.
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  If this doesn't go well, I will fight and I yourself clears the
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  room out. So for that smooth second or he
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  clears out the room before he reveals who he is.
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  It can easily attack and then he says low tov yourself didn't do
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  in a certain sense the right thing.
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  He did a dangerous thing. So what do you do?
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  Why did he clear the room out? Won against that, but against
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  that they're clearly upset. They're in a defense mode.
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  What he cleared through the reason he did so because he was
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  conscious of their Bouchard. Madar says he didn't want them
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  to be embarrassed as he reveals the truth.
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  He could argue there's also Bouchard for him because if he
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  reveals the truth that he was sold as a slave by his brothers,
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  he'll take down his stature in Egypt.
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  But that's not what Madar says. She quotes it.
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  He cleared them out because he didn't want them to be
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  embarrassed. So it's incredible point here
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  they are sold them into slavery, attempted to kill him, put him
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  into a pit with wild animals, right.
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  He don't want to embarrass them. And you see, it sounds like I'm
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  telling you, you see from yourself language.
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  He is on a different level. This whole approach and the
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  words that he says empty reveals himself to his brothers.
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  He continues and says he says I'm just said your brother and
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  that follows to a live classic point.
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  And then he says and back away. Hello, come close.
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  He says, come close because I am yourself.
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  Ah, he him, your brother. The first time he says I need
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  yourself, I have myself the second time I have yourself,
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  your brother, he's bringing them in drawing them in right.
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  You sold me, but it wasn't really you who sold me.
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  God sent me ahead of this road so that I can be here to help
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  our families survive. Such a mindset is not you way.
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  There's a mindset is a different level.
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  Don't blame me on yourself. Don't blame on yourself.
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  Now did you want them to have regret?
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  You see, for the process he did, but at the same time, once they
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  displayed full regret, he didn't want it to sit.
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  He didn't want it to be the guilt the rest of their lives.
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  He didn't want to harp on it and instead he showed the restraint.
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  So that's that's the same thread and mindset as a man who's
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  willing to clear out the room. He doesn't want his brothers to
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  be in a bad state. All right, as to confirm this
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  point that this I might say one of his speeches, that's who says
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  that he sentenced to his father Aguilot Aguilon means wagons and
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  it's clipping classic messages. You know, Samp is telling his
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  father through those wagons. All right, different messages
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  telling his father. We used to learn something,
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  different ideas, but one of them the Maharami process and they
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  were telling his father, you see these wagons, they carry loads
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  the same way it's only a wagon carries a load.
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  My brothers who sold me into slavery in my perspective,
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  according to my view, they were nothing more than wagons carry
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  Hashem's delivery. They were suddenly made to
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  slavery. It seems so, but really what
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  they were doing was is that they were carrying out God's wish.
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  That's how I see it. In other words, he's telling us
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  Valia Quavido, I am at full peace of the situation.
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  I don't hold harbor any grudge against my brothers.
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  There is shallow here because I recognize that although they did
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  what they did, I know it was taking away their free will.
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  I know it was taking away their mistake.
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  I know it was taking away their minds.
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  At the time I thought ultimately my perspective doesn't need to
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  be one that is harboring ill will forever because ultimately
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  all that does is hurt me doesn't hurt them.
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  So you know, Sam is telling his father, my brothers all like
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  whites, they're carrying alone. That's all they did their whole
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  life. They carry the delivery of God
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  and they send me the situation on according to Hashem's message
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  and that's why I'm here today. I don't see this as a negative.
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  I see this as a positive. So I said OK, fine yourself is
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  removing the guilt from his brothers, but then they're
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  saying you won't even one step further.
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  He said these words you sent me here for survival, which
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  literally meets I came here first.
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  I took over the Fuji. They threw him in a pit with
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  nothing, no food, no nothing. He look at the overall picture.
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  You're right, team. He's looking at the outcome,
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  he's working. I'll come back where he's saying
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  from the outcome I perceive, and you set me here for the sake of
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  survival. That was not your plan.
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  I fooled myself, but it was God's plea.
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  But the beauty of this message is not only did he mean physical
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  survival, he also meant spiritual survival.
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  The only reason obviously I'll survive in Egypt at all was
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  because USF got there first and he set up shop.
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  He set up shop because my brothers came down, he put them
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  in Gaussian, he put them in a separate area.
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  He established certain character and culture of the Jewish people
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  that would never budget any of the things that not changing
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  your language or your name in these things.
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  He's the one who started that quintically a car.
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  So he established certain norms that became our norms to live by
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  in Egypt. So now only is he telling his
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  brother, you guys sent me here, it was our survival physically.
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  You guys sent me here. It was our survival spiritually,
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  in my perspective, you didn't hurt me, you helped us.
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  And then the Besat Ahmed goes one step further.
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  Where did you save merit to become king?
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  Where did you merit to get this position of bracha in the world?
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  What's the one story that was most impressive story of his
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  life? According to the Madonna,
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  slicing Bradishah, the wife of Pontifar, facing off and
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  handling the challenge of the wife of Pontifar was the source
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  of his merit to become king. Now obviously he had the dreams
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  and obviously he was destined for Pryor, but he needed to go
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  through that step according to Avidash, you know, to merit the
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  purity, to display the body who's willing to hold back.
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  And with that he became king. So it turns out, if you look at
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  an assert wild view, his brothers sent him from physical
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  survival. His brothers sent him for the
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  Jewish people's spiritual survival and they sent him, as
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  it turns out, obviously not their plan, but the outcome.
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  They sent him for his own development because your sand
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  became your sin through the process, not despite the
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  process, based on the process. That is not a credit to his
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  brothers. And he's not saying that, but he
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  is saying I am clean. I'm clear.
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  I bear no grudge. I am running against you because
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  I can see that Shep was involved in this picture.
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  And what that does for us is it tells all of us, many people,
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  all of us, many people slide us. Many people say the wrong thing.
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  If you have the degree of light, try to kill you.
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  Exactly try to kill. By the way, if you have the
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  degree of strength, even a little bit, the more strength
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  you have to handle it, the better off you are, not the
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  better off the reaction is going to be to them.
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  The better off you are, the freer you are.
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  The more of a king you become, the more effective you become,
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  and the happier your life is. Or you say yourself as a king.
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  Maybe he was a ruler of Egypt, but at its core and meets you as
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  a bushel, he was a ruler of himself.
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  He was in full control of his emotions.
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  I believe humbly that someone who gets insulted every 5
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  minutes, someone gets to do a fight every day, someone who
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  gets turned off by this and turned up by that, you know what
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  he is? He's a slave.
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  He's a slave to his emotions. And someone who doesn't allow
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  other people to affect him, who figures out ways to remain the
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  same, to remain steadfast, to remain in full control.
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  He is king. Because I'm in complete control.
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  No one can make me much. They can try to kill me, they
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  can throw me into a pint, they can sell me.
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  They can ruin the last 20 years, technically separate him from
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  his father for 20 years. Doesn't matter.
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  At the end of the day, I see the outcome.
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  I see God in the picture because I don't want to change.
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  The main thing about yourself at its core is the concept of adios
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  F. I have the same guy and no one
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  is going to affect me. No one's going to take me down,
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  no one's going to make me budget.
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  No one's going to ruin my day. No one's going to halt my life.
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  I want my life to be beautiful. I don't want someone else to
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  ruin it. And if you think about it, in
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  our lives, most of our lives, big parts of it are great.
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  We have a lot going on. At what percentage of our lives
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  do we get upset about things that are other people's lives
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  affecting ours? Other people's words, creeing at
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  the mind, other people's ideas and thoughts and whatever
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  they're doing and becomes a part of my life.
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  I'm not interested leave them out.
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  I want to be yourself. I want to be the same guy.
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  I need yourself means I have the same exact guy.
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  Nothing is going to be changed. So the brothers tried to kill
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  him, threw me to a pit sold if he was sold four times he was a
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  slave. He was all over the place per
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  ultimately he came out the same idea yourself and that's what
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  you and I want to be. You want to be a safe, steady,
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  healthy, balanced person, unchanged and unwavered based on
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  the team around this. That's to be done.
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  All right, that's the idea. You said that's like, Yeah.