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- 0:25Well there, hello everyone, it's great to be
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- 2:53on with the show.
- 2:55So welcome, everyone.
- 2:57It's Thursday, in case you didn't know.
- 2:58It's August 27, 2026.
- 3:01This is series five, show 35, episode number
- 3:03six.
- 3:04And so our whole thing, which we've been
- 3:07talking about all week, it is our master
- 3:09topic.
- 3:10Okay, in case you guys did not know
- 3:11what it is, I'm going to share what
- 3:13it is with all of you guys right
- 3:15now.
- 3:17And so what is our master topic for
- 3:19the week?
- 3:19Become someone your future self can actually depend
- 3:23on.
- 3:23Series five, show number 35.
- 3:25So our granular topic, we'll get to that
- 3:27in just a second.
- 3:27Welcome, everyone, to the ever popular inspiration of
- 3:29your life show.
- 3:30I'm John C.
- 3:31Morley, a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
- 3:35producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student
- 3:39at Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong learner,
- 3:43and so grateful now to be a published
- 3:45author.
- 3:46Yes, I am.
- 3:47So our master topic, we know, is, as
- 3:50I said, become someone your future self can
- 3:52actually depend on.
- 3:53But today's episode asks a fascinating question.
- 3:58Do people feel better after you leave the
- 4:00room?
- 4:01I'm just saying, that's our granular for today.
- 4:04I'm not asking whether everybody likes you.
- 4:07I'm not asking whether you are the loudest,
- 4:09the funniest, the smartest, or the most impressive
- 4:11person there.
- 4:13I'm asking whether your presence makes something better.
- 4:18Let's get into our 30 points, shall we,
- 4:21and hopefully this will unveil some mysteries.
- 4:26So notice what the room needs before you
- 4:29contribute.
- 4:30Pay attention.
- 4:31Is the room tense, confused, discouraged, excited, or
- 4:35is it disconnected?
- 4:38Strong contributors do not bring the same approach,
- 4:43guys.
- 4:44They don't bring the same approach everywhere.
- 4:46I think that's something that a lot of
- 4:48us might miss, because you're thinking one thing,
- 4:50but then you're trying to think something else,
- 4:52and for whatever reasons, you're just not getting
- 4:55where you want to be.
- 4:56So I think that's a very important thing.
- 4:59So they first recognize what the moment needs.
- 5:05Bring calm instead of more chaos to the
- 5:10situation.
- 5:11When everyone is reacting, another emotional reaction rarely
- 5:14helps.
- 5:16Calm is not passivity.
- 5:18It is keeping your thinking available when other
- 5:20people feel overwhelmed, when they're stressed, when they
- 5:25are, yes, guys, when they are in burnout.
- 5:28Yes, when they are in burnout.
- 5:31I think that's an important thing that a
- 5:34lot of people like.
- 5:35They just don't realize it.
- 5:36So making people feel heard.
- 5:40Listen to, understand, not merely to prepare your
- 5:43response.
- 5:44I know so many people I'm talking to,
- 5:45and they can't wait to get their next
- 5:47edge word in there.
- 5:48So what do they do?
- 5:49They decide that they're going to just listen
- 5:53when they can interject.
- 5:54But they're not really paying attention to you,
- 5:58and I think that's a very important thing.
- 6:00So listen to understand, not merely to prepare
- 6:04your response.
- 6:06I'm sure you've been in conversations before, and
- 6:08you're like, the person doesn't stop talking, but
- 6:10then you're like trying to get a word
- 6:12in there, but then are you really paying
- 6:13attention to them, or are you actually just
- 6:17trying to get a word in, right?
- 6:20That's really the question that I want to
- 6:22say to you guys.
- 6:23Okay, so people remember when you made space
- 6:26for their perspective and treated their words as
- 6:30if they mattered.
- 6:32Add clarity when things become confusing.
- 6:35Ask, what do we know?
- 6:37What is uncertain?
- 6:39What is the real problem?
- 6:41What happens next?
- 6:42Clarity helps people move from frustration into action.
- 6:47Stop needing every conversation to benefit you.
- 6:50Not every conversation must create an advantage, a
- 6:55sale, or an introduction, or even a spotlight
- 6:57on you for that matter.
- 6:59Sometimes your best contribution is helping another person
- 7:02move forward.
- 7:04That's right, putting your ego aside for a
- 7:06minute and allowing yourself to move forward.
- 7:10Pretty cool, right?
- 7:12Yeah, so let's dive into that.
- 7:15Help people connect.
- 7:17You may know two people who could genuinely
- 7:20help one another.
- 7:22Make the introduction.
- 7:24Opportunities, partnerships, and friendships often begin because someone
- 7:28recognized a useful connection.
- 7:31Make useful introductions.
- 7:33Do more than say you two should meet.
- 7:36Explain why.
- 7:37Give both people context about the value, the
- 7:41goal, or the shared interest behind the connection,
- 7:43whether it's just a friendship, whether it's business,
- 7:46or you think it's something more.
- 7:48Encourage the person being overlooked.
- 7:52Notice who is quiet, interrupted, or ignored.
- 7:57A valuable idea, guys, may come from the
- 8:00person who is not fighting for attention.
- 8:03Invite them into the conversation.
- 8:06Bring solutions without taking over.
- 8:09Helping does not require controlling everything.
- 8:13Offer ideas, resources, and support while allowing others
- 8:18to retain ownership.
- 8:21The goal is progress, not becoming the hero.
- 8:24Know when your voice helps, not hinders.
- 8:31That water is good, by the way.
- 8:32Speak up when you have knowledge that can
- 8:35solve a problem.
- 8:36Prevent a mistake, or even protect someone.
- 8:39Do not hide useful insight simply because speaking
- 8:45feels uncomfortable.
- 8:46I've said, guys, life is going to be
- 8:47uncomfortable, so you've got to practice getting comfortable
- 8:50being uncomfortable.
- 8:52Okay?
- 8:52I think that's probably one of the most
- 8:54important things that I can tell you.
- 8:56You've got to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
- 8:59If you can do that, then your life
- 9:01is going to change.
- 9:02Now, not overnight, guys, not overnight, but it
- 9:06will change in time.
- 9:09All right?
- 9:09It will change in time.
- 9:11So, let's figure that out here for just
- 9:13a moment.
- 9:14Know when listening helps more.
- 9:19I think listening helps all the time, but
- 9:21many times people are like, well, you know,
- 9:24I've got to get my point across first.
- 9:28Your point doesn't matter.
- 9:30That's a very selfish attitude and one that
- 9:33I think we should not live by, but
- 9:35a lot of people do live by that
- 9:37because they think that's the way they need
- 9:40to be.
- 9:40They need to be right.
- 9:41They need to be bigger.
- 9:44You do not need to demonstrate everything you
- 9:48know.
- 9:50I know that sounds like we're putting you
- 9:56down, but we're not.
- 9:58People want to get to know you in
- 10:01dribs and drabs.
- 10:02They don't want to get to know you
- 10:04like something spilled on them, like, oh, my
- 10:06gosh, that's way too much information, right?
- 10:09We want to digest people, right, so we
- 10:12can understand their culture, we can understand what
- 10:16they like, what they don't like.
- 10:17If you just come out and start blurring
- 10:18it out, it's like, oh, my gosh.
- 10:20It's like, oh, my gosh, when is this
- 10:21person going to leave the room?
- 10:22You ever had those people?
- 10:24They come and they talk to you and
- 10:25you think everything's going well, but then they
- 10:28keep talking and they give you so much
- 10:34information, you're just like, when are they ever
- 10:36going to shut up?
- 10:39Or when are they going to go?
- 10:42And you don't mean to be rude, but
- 10:44you're like, how do you handle this?
- 10:46Because these people are just like, oh, I'm
- 10:49going to say this nicely, try to anyway.
- 10:52They're obnoxious.
- 10:55And there's a lot of reasons why people
- 10:57can be obnoxious.
- 10:58Let me tell you that, all right?
- 11:02And so when we understand the truth, that's
- 11:08when this all makes sense.
- 11:10When I said do people feel better when
- 11:12you leave the room?
- 11:16Sometimes when you leave the room, people feel
- 11:19more comfortable.
- 11:22Sometimes they're able to just open up.
- 11:29Maybe they're afraid because of your presence.
- 11:35Maybe you're harsh.
- 11:38Maybe you're demanding.
- 11:40Maybe you're rude.
- 11:42I don't know.
- 11:43Maybe you're too funny that they're like, can
- 11:46you just stop?
- 11:47Can you just stop?
- 11:51Sometimes silence gives people room to think, to
- 11:55explain, to ask questions, and contribute.
- 12:01I think that's a very important thing for
- 12:04us to understand, OK?
- 12:08A very important thing.
- 12:10So what do we need to do, ladies
- 12:11and gentlemen?
- 12:12We need to reduce tension.
- 12:15Instead of feeding it, before reacting to it,
- 12:20ask whether your words will help resolve the
- 12:23issue or simply make everyone, well, unfortunately, more
- 12:28upset.
- 12:30More upset.
- 12:34See, you can be honest and direct without
- 12:38adding fuel to the fire.
- 12:39A lot of people think that you've got
- 12:41to be rude, that you've got to be
- 12:42obnoxious.
- 12:43But you can still get your point across.
- 12:45I'll give you a perfect example.
- 12:46I was sharing a point with a client
- 12:48today.
- 12:49And what I said to them was, you
- 12:52can do what you want to do in
- 12:54a nice way.
- 12:55But I said, when people are disrespectful to
- 13:00us, it's frustrating.
- 13:04I hope you can appreciate that.
- 13:09And the person was like, oh, I get
- 13:11it.
- 13:12I'm glad you get it.
- 13:15Right?
- 13:16But sometimes people, they get into this state.
- 13:21It's like, oh my gosh, what am I
- 13:22supposed to do?
- 13:24What do I do now?
- 13:25What do I say now?
- 13:30You ever gone somewhere and you've already preconceived
- 13:35what the other person's going to be like?
- 13:36But then when you get there, like, oh
- 13:38my gosh, this person's completely different.
- 13:40Or, oh, this person's a complete jerk.
- 13:42It can go either way.
- 13:45So ladies and gentlemen, I want to encourage
- 13:46you to please give people credit publicly.
- 13:50And don't judge a book by its cover.
- 13:52Maybe you don't have a good experience with
- 13:53them on the phone.
- 13:54But maybe when you meet with them, you
- 13:56click.
- 13:57Right?
- 13:58Acknowledge the useful ideas, the effort they put
- 14:01forward, and even the solutions.
- 14:03Do not absorb another person's contribution and let
- 14:07people assume it was yours.
- 14:10I don't want people to do that.
- 14:12You know, they've got to steal everybody's limelight.
- 14:16They've got to steal everybody's praise.
- 14:20And I think that's wrong.
- 14:22But yet people do it.
- 14:25In high school and grammar school, people did
- 14:27it by bullying others.
- 14:31Why?
- 14:32So they could get praise.
- 14:36They bullied somebody so they could figure out
- 14:40what they're doing or whether people liked them
- 14:42or things like that.
- 14:43And that doesn't help, guys.
- 14:47Being humble is something a lot of people
- 14:52don't understand in our life.
- 14:55But I want to tell you, if you
- 14:58choose to be humble, your life will unfold
- 15:02differently for you.
- 15:06It will unfold differently, and by unfolding differently,
- 15:08you will have an amazing life.
- 15:16I think sometimes people get perceptions.
- 15:20They don't necessarily mean to get these perceptions,
- 15:22but they do because of an experience they're
- 15:25part of, something they heard, something they saw,
- 15:32maybe even something they felt.
- 15:34Who knows?
- 15:37But something in that environment made them think
- 15:41or believe a certain way.
- 15:44A way that they didn't believe was going
- 15:46to happen at all, guys.
- 15:48They didn't believe it was going to happen
- 15:49at all.
- 15:50But yet it happened.
- 15:52And I think that's a very important thing
- 15:54for us to acknowledge, that it did happen.
- 15:59And now you're stuck with this whole concept
- 16:02of, oh my gosh, what do I do
- 16:03now?
- 16:04What am I supposed to say?
- 16:08Because things are different.
- 16:12Okay?
- 16:14Give credit, and you'll build trust every day.
- 16:19Whenever you have to correct somebody, do it
- 16:23respectfully.
- 16:24Whenever I do it, I try to see
- 16:26it as consistent, constructive feedback, but I try
- 16:28not to do it in front of people.
- 16:30I try to call the person aside and
- 16:32say, hey, Jim, can I talk to you
- 16:34a minute?
- 16:35Sure.
- 16:36And it's very private, and it's confidential, and
- 16:38it's respectful.
- 16:39If you were to be in a situation
- 16:45where you needed to receive feedback, constructive feedback,
- 16:50would you want it to be blurred over
- 16:52a megaphone or PA system or a broadcast
- 16:56system?
- 16:57Or would you want that person to call
- 17:00you in their office or call you on
- 17:02the phone and share?
- 17:05And one of the things I want to
- 17:06tell you is a lot of people, when
- 17:07they go to correct someone, they talk about
- 17:09what's wrong, but they never share what's right.
- 17:13So correct people respectively.
- 17:16Everyone gets things wrong.
- 17:18It's going to happen, including you.
- 17:21Correction does not require humiliation.
- 17:24And the people that do that, well, let's
- 17:27just say karma is going to pay them
- 17:28back in a nutshell.
- 17:30All right?
- 17:31I think that's a very important thing, that
- 17:34karma is going to pay them back in
- 17:36a nutshell.
- 17:37But maybe not now, maybe not tomorrow, but
- 17:38it will pay them back in a nutshell.
- 17:43I think that's important.
- 17:45It doesn't require humiliation.
- 17:48You address the issue clearly.
- 17:51Give them praise for something they've done right.
- 17:56Then you can move on to maybe you
- 17:58praise them for two things they've done right
- 18:00and say, well, these are great things.
- 18:04Now, when you're doing these things, it's key
- 18:07to make sure they go in the right
- 18:08bin or it's key to make sure that
- 18:10we follow the right safety procedure.
- 18:13I'm just giving you some ideas.
- 18:16Okay?
- 18:17Address the issue clearly, but make improvement the
- 18:20goal.
- 18:21Not making someone feel smaller, like they've been
- 18:24the packing, let's say, department for a while.
- 18:29Hey, Joe, I've been really impressed with the
- 18:33speed and your attitude toward helping everyone and
- 18:39wanting to get all the packages out.
- 18:41I think that's great.
- 18:43And I'm amazed that the floor is clear
- 18:46every day.
- 18:48You're the only one that has the floor
- 18:49cleared.
- 18:51And I just have one thing I want
- 18:53to share with you.
- 18:53I think what you're doing is great.
- 18:55It's just that, unfortunately, more than half of
- 18:58the packages are coming back because you're putting
- 19:01them on the wrong truck.
- 19:04It's like, huh?
- 19:06Yeah, you're sending stuff that's supposed to be
- 19:08in New Jersey to California, and you're routing
- 19:10it here, and then it gets on the
- 19:11truck there, and it's not checked.
- 19:13Then once it gets off, it's like it's
- 19:15got to be sent back.
- 19:17So now we've got to pay for it
- 19:18to come back, readdress it, and send it
- 19:20somewhere else, all because it went on the
- 19:23wrong track.
- 19:24Do you have any suggestions?
- 19:26Something like, well, it's very confusing when it
- 19:29comes off the line.
- 19:30There's no way to tell.
- 19:31What do you mean?
- 19:32Well, they come off so fast that the
- 19:34L and the O and the R, they
- 19:35all look the same.
- 19:39So what do you suggest?
- 19:41Well, we probably should color code them.
- 19:44Hmm, that's a good idea.
- 19:45Now we start color coding them.
- 19:47And now he's part of the solution, not
- 19:50part of the problem, and he feels recognized
- 19:53and wants to help.
- 19:54Hey, and this is Joe's idea.
- 19:55He's the one that said we should color
- 19:57code the packages.
- 19:57Great idea, Joe.
- 20:00Now he can be quick, but now he
- 20:01doesn't have to make a mistake because the
- 20:03numbers are not confusing because they're coming off
- 20:05so quickly.
- 20:06Make difficult conversations productive.
- 20:09Not easy.
- 20:10I had one today.
- 20:11I made it productive.
- 20:12I just kept staying on the points.
- 20:14Keep returning to the issue at hand.
- 20:17The facts and next constructive step.
- 20:21Focus on solving the problem instead of winning
- 20:26an argument.
- 20:27Too many people I know want to win
- 20:28an argument.
- 20:29Don't go for winning an argument, guys.
- 20:32We want to make the world and this
- 20:34place a better place to be.
- 20:36We want to become a better version of
- 20:37ourselves.
- 20:37We want to help others become better versions
- 20:39of themselves.
- 20:40It's not about winning the war.
- 20:42Protect your dignity while solving problems.
- 20:47You can address a serious issue without embarrassing
- 20:49someone, just like we did with the packaging
- 20:50situation, right?
- 20:52Ask whether you can achieve the needed outcome
- 20:55while still treating every person involved with respect
- 20:59and dignity.
- 21:00Sometimes people fly off the handle because a
- 21:03mistake was made, but that doesn't mean you
- 21:04have to embarrass somebody for doing that.
- 21:07Have you ever made a mistake?
- 21:10Maybe we should talk about that mistake, to
- 21:12be fair.
- 21:14Share information that helps everyone.
- 21:16If you have information that can improve a
- 21:18team situation like the shipping situation or decision,
- 21:21share it appropriately.
- 21:22I went to Joe.
- 21:23Joe gave us a recommendation for shipping, and
- 21:25now we don't have shipping issues anymore.
- 21:28Other people are able to line quicker, and
- 21:31Joe, our fastest person in shipping, is even
- 21:35faster, and now he's not making mistakes.
- 21:37And the people that were slow are as
- 21:40fast as Joe is, but now Joe's twice
- 21:42as fast because now he has a system
- 21:43that actually works.
- 21:45Helpful knowledge prevents confusion and helps people make
- 21:48stronger choices.
- 21:50Become a source of stability.
- 21:53People remember who remain dependable.
- 21:56When circumstances were uncertain, stability does not mean
- 22:00having every answer.
- 22:01It means being thoughtful, reliable, and useful while
- 22:06answers are being found.
- 22:09Do not spread unnecessary panic.
- 22:12Before repeating alarming news or rumors, consider whether
- 22:16it's accurate and helpful.
- 22:19Panic travels fast, and misinformation often travels faster.
- 22:23A lot of times you can solve the
- 22:25problem and mitigate any panic.
- 22:29Bring perspective into focus.
- 22:31It might just take a few extra moments.
- 22:34Help people see the possibilities.
- 22:37Problems can narrow the thinking.
- 22:39Ask what else is possible.
- 22:41Who can help?
- 22:42What resources exist?
- 22:44And what next step can be taken?
- 22:49Possibility creates momentum.
- 22:52Make collaboration easier.
- 22:54Share information, communicate expectations, and help people understand
- 22:58how their work connects.
- 23:01Do not create barriers between people pursuing the
- 23:03same goal.
- 23:04Leave ego outside important conversations.
- 23:08The goal is not always proving you're right.
- 23:10The goal is finding the best solution for
- 23:12everyone.
- 23:13If somebody else has the better idea, support
- 23:16it and help make it work.
- 23:18Create trust through consistency.
- 23:20This does not happen overnight.
- 23:21Trust grows through repeated behavior.
- 23:24Show up, follow through, communicate, be reliable.
- 23:28Consistency makes people comfortable.
- 23:32Involving you in important situations.
- 23:35Help others contribute their strengths.
- 23:38You do not have to be great at
- 23:40everything.
- 23:41Recognize what other people do well and help
- 23:43bring those talents forward.
- 23:45Strong contributors do not suppress talent around them.
- 23:49Improve the energy without controlling it.
- 23:52You do not need to dominate a room
- 23:54to influence it.
- 23:55Remember that.
- 23:56You can be quiet and still dominate a
- 23:57room.
- 23:58Sometimes it needs enthusiasm, calmness, curiosity, or patience.
- 24:02But bring what helps without demanding everyone match
- 24:07your energy.
- 24:08Become someone people want involved.
- 24:12Think about who you want nearby when something
- 24:16important is happening.
- 24:16Usually people are calm, thoughtful, dependable, trustworthy, and
- 24:21useful.
- 24:22Become that person.
- 24:24Lead people clearer than you found them.
- 24:26After talking with you, do people understand the
- 24:30issue better?
- 24:31Are they more confused or are they more
- 24:34frustrated?
- 24:36Do they know their next step?
- 24:39Do they feel more capable?
- 24:41Clarity is a powerful form of value.
- 24:44Make your presence useful.
- 24:45Do not focus only on being noticed.
- 24:50Ask, how can my presence help others?
- 24:53Being useful creates a stronger reputation than constantly
- 24:56trying to appear important.
- 24:58Every room changes when somebody improves it.
- 25:01One calm person can reduce panic.
- 25:03One thoughtful question can create clarity.
- 25:05One introduction can open a door.
- 25:07One respectful response can change a difficult conversation.
- 25:11Be the person who makes the room better.
- 25:13Do not enter every room asking, what can
- 25:16I get out of this?
- 25:18What can I get here?
- 25:21What can become better because I'm here?
- 25:24Bring usefulness, respect, clarity, connection, and momentum.
- 25:29That's the key, guys.
- 25:30As I get ready to close today's show,
- 25:34I want to share something with you.
- 25:36First, think about the rooms you enter every
- 25:39day.
- 25:39Your workplace, your business, your classroom, your meetings,
- 25:42your family, your home, your friendships, your community.
- 25:46Every time you enter one of those environments,
- 25:50you bring something with you.
- 25:53You can bring chaos, calmness, confusion.
- 25:58Or, guys, you can bring collaboration, ego or
- 26:02usefulness, panic or perspective.
- 26:07You do not need to dominate a room
- 26:09to change it.
- 26:10Sometimes the person making the greatest difference is
- 26:14barely drawing attention to themselves.
- 26:16They are listening.
- 26:17They are connecting people.
- 26:20They are noticing who is being overlooked.
- 26:24They're helping somebody understand the problem.
- 26:29They're lowering tension.
- 26:31They're giving credit.
- 26:33They're asking the question nobody else thought to
- 26:36ask.
- 26:37They're helping everyone move toward a solution.
- 26:42That, my friends, is influence.
- 26:45And it is also part of becoming someone
- 26:48your future self can depend on.
- 26:51Because as your opportunities become bigger, your ability
- 26:54to affect other people becomes bigger too.
- 26:57The question is not simply whether you can
- 26:59handle that influence.
- 27:00The question is what happens to other people
- 27:03because you have it now.
- 27:05So the next time you enter a room,
- 27:08do not immediately ask yourself how you're being
- 27:11perceived.
- 27:12Look around.
- 27:13Listen.
- 27:15Observe.
- 27:16Ask what the room needs.
- 27:18Then contribute usefully.
- 27:22And when you eventually leave, ask yourself one
- 27:25question.
- 27:26The final question.
- 27:27Is something better because I was here?
- 27:30Maybe somebody feels heard.
- 27:33Maybe two people are connected who were not
- 27:36connected before.
- 27:38Maybe an intimidating problem finally feels to be
- 27:43manageable.
- 27:44Maybe someone who was not being noticed finally
- 27:48had the opportunity to contribute.
- 27:49Maybe everyone understands the next step.
- 27:53Those changes may seem small, but they are
- 27:56how meaningful influence gets built.
- 27:58I'm John C.
- 27:59Morley, serial entrepreneur, and I thank you so
- 28:01much for choosing to join me on another
- 28:02amazing episode of the Inspirations for Your Life
- 28:05show.
- 28:06Be sure to check out BelieveMeChief.com for
- 28:07more of my amazing inspiring creations.
- 28:09And remember, you do not have to be
- 28:10the loudest person in the room to make
- 28:12an impact.
- 28:13Have a good one, everyone, and be well.