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[EP21] What is love? Can I unintentionally hurt someone? · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  Yours is, what is love? Expression, why are words or actions or both? Can you unintentionally hurt someone by not doing one of the mentions? So actions, words or both. Obviously just heard about that person unable to change although the other one expressed her needs.
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  Okay, so it's quite a bit there.
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  What is love is a huge question and there's many different expressions of love.
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  I don't know if I can fit it all into one satsang session, but one expression I've heard
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  of, you know, love is a verb and you could say it's, you know, from the actions that
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  you're doing.
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  And another that I read was around serving the other or the others.
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  So giving rather than taking.
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  And he said expression via words, actions or both.
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  Okay, so in a tangible form, like what those actions are,
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  they words, actions or both.
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  Can you unintentionally hurt someone by not doing one of the mentions?
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  yeah it's the short answer you can unintentionally hurt someone but what is hurt all right hurt is
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  um we have an expectation of how someone should behave and then they didn't so therefore we are
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  hurt right like the ego is hurt um and when you're truly coming from love like love that's in your
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  heart, there is no hurt. It simply is just love, right? The hurt is the ego. It's the mind kind of
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  having certain ideas, expectations on like, oh, this is how you need to behave. So I will feel
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  this feeling called loved, right? Or love. And if you didn't do those behaviors, therefore I am not
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  loved by you. Or, you know, I don't feel love from you because you didn't do those actions,
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  those behaviors and it's what's in our head right and if you want to feel love then start by giving
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  love pouring love into someone or something right so if you see a i don't know a puppy dog on this
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  you know on the street um do you go up to it and expect it to give love it is just giving love to
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  you right right so you pick it up and give it you know i don't know a cuddle a pat or something
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  giving love so therefore you experience love but yet when it comes to sounds like human beings
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  we have certain expectations and we call it love and that's a different thing
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  so can it be possible for someone to unintentionally hurt you it's like yeah they probably have no clue
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  that they are hurting you because it's in your head you have an idea on how they should behave
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  and they didn't do that, so therefore you are hurt.
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  And the ego is the one that is hurt.
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  In our hearts, our hearts really just are filled with love.
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  Within the space of love, there is no such thing as hurt.
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  Because love heals this thing called hurt.
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  So it sounds to me like expectations, is what you're talking about.
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  person unable to change along when the other one expressed her needs.
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  So there you go, so someone said something and said,
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  okay here's what I need, so that person is not doing it,
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  so therefore this thing called love is not happening,
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  there isn't this exchange because a certain behaviour wasn't met.