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- 0:01Speaker 1: The world is becoming increasingly proficient at telling stories that
- 0:04Speaker 1: deny God. As such, we need Thinking Christian to become
- 0:08Speaker 1: as natural as breathing. Welcome to the Thinking Christian podcast.
- 0:11Speaker 1: I'm doctor James Spencer. Through calm, thoughtful theological discussions, Thinking
- 0:15Speaker 1: Christian highlights the ways God is working in the world
- 0:18Speaker 1: and questions the underlying social, cultural, and political assumptions that
- 0:22Speaker 1: hinder Christians from becoming more like Christ. Now on to
- 0:25Speaker 1: today's episode of Thinking Christian. Hey everyone, and welcome to
- 0:29Speaker 1: this episode of Thinking Christian. I'm doctor James Spencer and
- 0:32Speaker 1: I'm joined today by Addison Bevie, and we're going to
- 0:36Speaker 1: be talking about his new book, which is actually based
- 0:39Speaker 1: on a previous book he wrote, Words with God. We're
- 0:42Speaker 1: going to be talking about Words with God, Prayer Journal,
- 0:45Speaker 1: as well as some of the other things that he does.
- 0:47Speaker 1: He's president of Messenger International, which is the discipleship ministry,
- 0:51Speaker 1: and he also started something that's called Rediscover Prayer dot Com.
- 0:55Speaker 1: And so Addison, welcome to the podcast. Man, thanks for
- 0:58Speaker 1: being here.
- 0:59Speaker 2: Thanks Doctor James's honorby on the show.
- 1:01Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely so.
- 1:03Speaker 1: I think you were talking a little bit before we
- 1:06Speaker 1: got on and started recording. But I mean, I'd just
- 1:07Speaker 1: be interested. How did rediscover prayer start? I think that's
- 1:11Speaker 1: a cool story. It might be a nice place for
- 1:13Speaker 1: us to jump into the conversation.
- 1:16Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely. So I grew up in a home with
- 1:19Speaker 2: two amazing parents who are both authors ministers, and so
- 1:24Speaker 2: I grew up in an environment where prayer was modeled
- 1:27Speaker 2: for me. My dad is the kind of person who
- 1:29Speaker 2: would get up early in the morning, would be out
- 1:32Speaker 2: there four point thirty five m in the morning. He
- 1:34Speaker 2: would go out and pray for a couple hours. Come in.
- 1:36Speaker 2: I would get up. I would see him reading his
- 1:39Speaker 2: Bible in his study, and so that was modeled for
- 1:41Speaker 2: me my entire life. And I've got to be honest
- 1:44Speaker 2: with you. I would watch him do it, and I
- 1:46Speaker 2: would think to myself, I could never do that. He's
- 1:48Speaker 2: on another level. And so I would see that, and
- 1:53Speaker 2: I would think to myself, man, because he just going
- 1:55Speaker 2: out there for two hours and just praying to God,
- 2:00Speaker 2: just saying after thing after thing, articulating the you know,
- 2:04Speaker 2: the depths of his soul. Like I start praying for
- 2:07Speaker 2: three minutes, and I feel like my mind wanders, and
- 2:09Speaker 2: I feel like I get distracted and I lose interest,
- 2:13Speaker 2: and so I had this performative view of prayer, and
- 2:18Speaker 2: the enemy did a really good job of convincing me
- 2:22Speaker 2: that prayer was more about my performance and less about
- 2:26Speaker 2: God's desire to be a constant presence in my life.
- 2:31Speaker 2: And that led me on. That led me on a journey,
- 2:34Speaker 2: come to find out years later. Okay, so I'm in
- 2:36Speaker 2: my early thirties. At this point, I'm having a conversation
- 2:38Speaker 2: with my dad and this is two funny. I'm like, Dad,
- 2:41Speaker 2: I have to know, like, what were you doing? What
- 2:44Speaker 2: do you do when you go out and pray for
- 2:45Speaker 2: twevers of the morning. He's like, well, Addison, I prayed
- 2:48Speaker 2: for like fifteen minutes and then I just listen. I listen.
- 2:52Speaker 2: I just pace and I'm quiet, and I'm still. I'm like, Dad,
- 2:56Speaker 2: you're telling me you just go out there and you listen.
- 2:58Speaker 2: He said, that's what like that. I had this idea
- 3:01Speaker 2: of you just being out there going through every single
- 3:05Speaker 2: scripture going through He's like, no, No, that's not what
- 3:08Speaker 2: I'm doing. And what was amazing is God taught me
- 3:10Speaker 2: that in a different way, through a different experience, but
- 3:16Speaker 2: it was it was fascinating to see how we both
- 3:18Speaker 2: arrived at the same place. Even though our styles are different,
- 3:21Speaker 2: our emphasis is different. It was neat for me. It
- 3:23Speaker 2: was a full circle moment because I had this idea
- 3:25Speaker 2: of my dad that actually wasn't accurate. Yes, he was
- 3:29Speaker 2: a man of prayer, but the idea of prayer was
- 3:32Speaker 2: different than what I thought. It wasn't. What I found
- 3:35Speaker 2: out James studying prayer is that ninety eight percent of
- 3:39Speaker 2: corn to Barna, roughly ninety eight percent of people they
- 3:42Speaker 2: share this this sense that they're bad at prayer, that
- 3:47Speaker 2: when it comes to prayer other people they have it
- 3:51Speaker 2: figured out and we're missing it. And I think the
- 3:54Speaker 2: accuser does a really good job of making prayer about
- 3:58Speaker 2: a performance that we have to get right, turning it
- 4:02Speaker 2: into a transaction rather than a transformational experience that extends
- 4:06Speaker 2: outside of a moment, energizes every moment of our lives.
- 4:10Speaker 2: And of course, shame is a powerful disqualifier when it
- 4:14Speaker 2: comes to intimacy, so of course he wants prayer to
- 4:17Speaker 2: be a place of shame where we think we're never
- 4:19Speaker 2: doing enough, we're not enough, we don't know the right words,
- 4:22Speaker 2: we don't know how to long to pray, we don't
- 4:24Speaker 2: know the forms, we don't know the place whatever it
- 4:26Speaker 2: may be, or you haven't been doing this well, so
- 4:29Speaker 2: of course God's not going to engage with you in
- 4:31Speaker 2: your moment or hour of need. And so I love
- 4:34Speaker 2: going into that dissonance, that question and be like, Okay, no,
- 4:38Speaker 2: what really is prayer all about? And how does God
- 4:40Speaker 2: meet us in that intimate place of purpose and peace
- 4:43Speaker 2: and provision and protection.
- 4:46Speaker 3: Yeah?
- 4:47Speaker 1: Do you find that, you know, as you've been working
- 4:49Speaker 1: with people on prayer and interacting with people on prayer,
- 4:51Speaker 1: do you find that many people have as much difficulty
- 4:57Speaker 1: starting sort of the talking part of prayer as they
- 5:01Speaker 1: do slowing down to do the listening part of prayer?
- 5:03Speaker 1: I mean, when you talk about your dad's experience there
- 5:05Speaker 1: he prays for fifteen minutes. I can almost get my
- 5:07Speaker 1: head around that. But then pacing around and listening for
- 5:12Speaker 1: the other, you know, hour forty five, I'm kind of like, man,
- 5:16Speaker 1: it just it feels like our fast paced world really
- 5:19Speaker 1: squeezes that time out, And you know, so you're like, well,
- 5:22Speaker 1: what am I doing? Shouldn't I be on the treadmill
- 5:24Speaker 1: multitasking my prayer life or something like that?
- 5:26Speaker 3: You know what I mean? Do you find that people
- 5:29Speaker 3: struggle with that aspect.
- 5:31Speaker 2: Oh absolutely, And I think going back to the fundamental
- 5:36Speaker 2: disconnect is this idea we make ourselves the hero or
- 5:40Speaker 2: the villain of our prayers, and we vacillate back and
- 5:43Speaker 2: forth between the two. It's like, oh, I'm checking the boxes.
- 5:45Speaker 2: I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing, so of
- 5:47Speaker 2: course God's going to engage. Or I haven't done what
- 5:50Speaker 2: I should be doing. I'm not checking the boxes, so
- 5:52Speaker 2: of course God's not going to disengage. And the invitation
- 5:55Speaker 2: that God has extended to me is like, look, I
- 5:57Speaker 2: don't need you to be the hero, and I don't
- 5:58Speaker 2: need you to be the villain. I need you to
- 6:00Speaker 2: be a willing participant. And if you look at first
- 6:03Speaker 2: Sessonians five seventeen, right the famous pray constantly pray without
- 6:07Speaker 2: ceasing a Romans twelve twelve pray constantly pray always or
- 6:11Speaker 2: Ephesian six's eighteen at all times pray this idea of
- 6:15Speaker 2: constant prayer. We hear that if we engage prayer as
- 6:18Speaker 2: a chore, that becomes a burden right that we could
- 6:22Speaker 2: never lift, rather than a blessing, rather an invitation to
- 6:25Speaker 2: constant and intimacy it becomes a burden. And when you
- 6:28Speaker 2: dig into the Greek at First Sessions five to seventeen,
- 6:30Speaker 2: it's actually an invitation to pray from a place of
- 6:32Speaker 2: constant rest, where there's a receptivity that allows you to
- 6:37Speaker 2: engage with what is most real about life, what's most
- 6:41Speaker 2: real in your circumstance, in that moment, where you can
- 6:44Speaker 2: engage the moment for what it really is, rather than
- 6:47Speaker 2: superimposing your own insecurity, your own sense of lack, your
- 6:50Speaker 2: own doubt, your own fear, whatever it may be. And
- 6:53Speaker 2: to your point about this idea of praying, articulating the words,
- 6:58Speaker 2: that's difficult, but then also being ill and rest that's difficult.
- 7:03Speaker 2: I love what James One actually says. I mean, I
- 7:05Speaker 2: think a lot of us when we read James we
- 7:06Speaker 2: don't realize that, James One, that chapter is predominantly about prayer,
- 7:12Speaker 2: and we miss there's an instruction in there where it
- 7:14Speaker 2: talks about actually being being slow to speak, be quick
- 7:18Speaker 2: to hear. This idea of being being sensitive, and it's
- 7:21Speaker 2: it's built on this foundation that our God is good,
- 7:25Speaker 2: that there's no there's no shade, there's no shadow, that
- 7:28Speaker 2: he gives wisdom to those who ask that even though
- 7:31Speaker 2: we go through various trials, we know that these trials
- 7:35Speaker 2: are forming and forging something in us that is of
- 7:38Speaker 2: eternal value. And so when we start to understand, hey,
- 7:41Speaker 2: the pressure isn't on us to perform. We can engage
- 7:45Speaker 2: prayer in a way where when we need to speak,
- 7:48Speaker 2: there is a confidence because we're sensitive to the leading
- 7:52Speaker 2: of the spirit, And when we need to be quiet
- 7:54Speaker 2: and still to receive something that we don't have, we
- 7:57Speaker 2: can just be still and know that He is God.
- 8:00Speaker 2: And then that prepares us to partner with God. When
- 8:03Speaker 2: we do speak, prepares us to partner with God. And
- 8:05Speaker 2: I think about the Lord's prayer not as a formula,
- 8:09Speaker 2: but as a framework. It starts with this sensitivity to
- 8:12Speaker 2: God's goodness, his otherness, his power, his might, his kingdom,
- 8:18Speaker 2: the extent of it and invades every dimension. Our Father,
- 8:20Speaker 2: who is into heavens, who permeates every dimension, everything that
- 8:24Speaker 2: we know about time and space and beyond. He is there.
- 8:27Speaker 2: And from that place that God consciousness is what I
- 8:30Speaker 2: call it. I was, like most of us, we try
- 8:31Speaker 2: to pray from a place of self consciousness. And the
- 8:33Speaker 2: reality is it's really hard to be God conscious when
- 8:36Speaker 2: you're self conscious, and that is why even the way
- 8:39Speaker 2: Jesus teaches us to pray, it's forming this God consciousness
- 8:43Speaker 2: before we move into things like asking for our daily bread,
- 8:46Speaker 2: or struggling to receive forgiveness and extend forgiveness, or understand
- 8:52Speaker 2: the trials, the temptations, the difficult things we're walking through
- 8:55Speaker 2: in life. And so those are the types of things
- 8:57Speaker 2: I like to bring people into before we even talk
- 8:59Speaker 2: about how long we're praying, or are we praying, are
- 9:03Speaker 2: we articulating, are we listening. I'm like, hey, let's go
- 9:05Speaker 2: back to what this is actually all about, this connectivity
- 9:08Speaker 2: with God, and what are some of the foundational principles
- 9:11Speaker 2: that allow us to build a healthy life of prayer.
- 9:15Speaker 1: So much of that you mentioned, you know, sort of blessing,
- 9:19Speaker 1: so much that aligns with the sort of theology of
- 9:22Speaker 1: blessing and the general trajectory that God wants to take
- 9:25Speaker 1: us toward. I just reviewed a book on this. This
- 9:29Speaker 1: gentleman was reviewed or was analyzing the priestly blessing in Numbers,
- 9:34Speaker 1: and the whole book was basically just on that. But
- 9:36Speaker 1: in the process he talks about what it meant to
- 9:39Speaker 1: be blessed and that these weren't just sort of well wishes.
- 9:43Speaker 1: They were aiming to sort of redirect you into the
- 9:50Speaker 1: stream of what God is doing, to allow you to
- 9:53Speaker 1: participate in where God wants you to go. And so
- 9:55Speaker 1: part of the blessing what brought sort of an obligation
- 9:59Speaker 1: that now you knew what that blessing trajectory was, and
- 10:02Speaker 1: now you're supposed to fit within the stream of that.
- 10:05Speaker 1: And it just seems like the way you're the way
- 10:08Speaker 1: you're thinking about prayer would fit so well within that.
- 10:11Speaker 3: Is that Is that a fair statement?
- 10:15Speaker 2: Oh? Absolutely, because again going back to it, the enemy
- 10:19Speaker 2: is the enemy is brilliant in one sense, right, Like
- 10:22Speaker 2: so even if you look at if you look at
- 10:26Speaker 2: the blessing of the garden, the blessing was that God
- 10:30Speaker 2: walked with them in the cool of the deck. The
- 10:32Speaker 2: blessing was this uninhibited intimacy with the reality of God,
- 10:38Speaker 2: with the presence of God. And what does the accuser do.
- 10:41Speaker 2: The accuser comes in and says, hey, actually, you can
- 10:45Speaker 2: have knowledge of good and evil, you can have control,
- 10:48Speaker 2: you can you can grasp for this godness, you can
- 10:53Speaker 2: have it, but you can't walk at the pace of intimacy.
- 10:58Speaker 2: You can't walk at the pace of wisdom. You have
- 11:00Speaker 2: to actually circumvent God's way. If you eat of this,
- 11:04Speaker 2: if you partake of this, then you're going to know,
- 11:06Speaker 2: You're going to understand, and you are going to be
- 11:09Speaker 2: God's in your own right. And I feel like James
- 11:12Speaker 2: in so many ways prayer. The enemy has misconstrued prayer,
- 11:17Speaker 2: and he uses religiosity to do this. Misconstrued prayer as
- 11:22Speaker 2: this thing that actually allows us to go outside of
- 11:26Speaker 2: God's design for wisdom, because God offers wisdom at a
- 11:32Speaker 2: relational pace. Okay, So even as you're describing the priestly
- 11:36Speaker 2: blessing and tying that to James one where James is
- 11:40Speaker 2: describing these various trials and this process of perfection in
- 11:44Speaker 2: the Greek, I know you know this. It's to Laos,
- 11:47Speaker 2: it's this journey. It's a perfection that only comes through
- 11:51Speaker 2: a process. So it's not a perfection that comes from
- 11:54Speaker 2: knowing all the right answers. See, so often when it
- 11:57Speaker 2: comes to prayer, when it comes to life, we think, oh,
- 11:58Speaker 2: if I just do all the right answer and I'm good,
- 12:01Speaker 2: and we forget that God actually doesn't need us to
- 12:03Speaker 2: know all the right answers. What he wants us to
- 12:05Speaker 2: do is he wants us to walk closely with his person.
- 12:09Speaker 2: He wants us to understand his ways, and from there
- 12:14Speaker 2: we participate with him to do whatever it is he's
- 12:17Speaker 2: called us into. And if I'm honest, James, this is
- 12:20Speaker 2: just me. Maybe you're different. If I'm honest in my life,
- 12:25Speaker 2: when i'm really the anxiety of being is coming at
- 12:30Speaker 2: me right, the questions of protection, of provision of purpose,
- 12:36Speaker 2: when those are coming at me. If I'm honest, I'm like, Hey, God,
- 12:41Speaker 2: this whole like relational pace, this pace of wisdom, it's
- 12:45Speaker 2: not working for me. Here's what I need. I need
- 12:49Speaker 2: you to give me the answers. I need you like
- 12:51Speaker 2: I'm gonna fast, I'm gonna do whatever I like. I
- 12:53Speaker 2: need the answers. And I would never articulate this, but
- 12:55Speaker 2: it's almost like God, I'm saying, give me the answers,
- 12:57Speaker 2: then get out of my way. I don't really want
- 13:00Speaker 2: to walk with you and encounter the messiness of real
- 13:03Speaker 2: relationship and dependence on you. I'll be faithful, I'll do
- 13:07Speaker 2: the right things. And I think of James, I think
- 13:10Speaker 2: of Isaiah thirty because I love this. I love this
- 13:12Speaker 2: picture of how God speaks to us because I tell people,
- 13:15Speaker 2: when it comes to matter as a prayer, God states
- 13:19Speaker 2: his will in you more than he speaks his will
- 13:21Speaker 2: to you. And even when we say things like, hey,
- 13:25Speaker 2: prayer isn't a monologue, it's a dialogue, people are like, Okay, great,
- 13:28Speaker 2: I don't hear God. Like why you say that? Right?
- 13:31Speaker 1: Maybe that works for you, but he heard voices I'm
- 13:34Speaker 1: not but.
- 13:35Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I'm not hearing these voices. And what's sad
- 13:39Speaker 2: Because again, prayer has become so transactional and we reduce
- 13:43Speaker 2: prayer to our idea of a conversation. We forget that
- 13:47Speaker 2: God designed our entire person to be a receptor. So
- 13:49Speaker 2: even if you look at the life of the Son
- 13:51Speaker 2: and I'm gonna come back to Isah Isaiah. Thirdy look
- 13:53Speaker 2: at jesus life. There's only three times when the Father
- 13:56Speaker 2: audibly speaks into Jesus' situations. It's Baptism, Mount, Transfiguration, and
- 14:02Speaker 2: John twelve. All three times the Father speaks. Truly, the
- 14:06Speaker 2: Father is mainly speaking for the people around Jesus. He's
- 14:09Speaker 2: actually not really speaking for Jesus's sake. And we read
- 14:13Speaker 2: in John five Jesus says, I only do what I
- 14:15Speaker 2: see the Father. Doing so, he's living in step with
- 14:19Speaker 2: God through the power of the spirit. This is why
- 14:21Speaker 2: he tells us in John fourteen fifteen sixteen different ways,
- 14:23Speaker 2: it's better for you that I go away. There are
- 14:25Speaker 2: things that you are trying to grasp intellectually, conceptually that
- 14:30Speaker 2: can only be understood as you surrender to the reality
- 14:34Speaker 2: of My spirit. Something about your internal reality, your interior
- 14:37Speaker 2: life is going to change when you receive the spirit
- 14:41Speaker 2: of God. This is the I think of Luke e
- 14:43Speaker 2: Levin where Jesus makes a statement. He says, even though
- 14:46Speaker 2: you are evil, know how to give good gifts to
- 14:47Speaker 2: your children. How much more will your Father in Heaven
- 14:50Speaker 2: give his very spirit, his nature to those who ask.
- 14:54Speaker 2: It doesn't say that he's going to give them the bread.
- 14:56Speaker 2: It says he's going to give them his nature. And
- 15:00Speaker 2: when when I think about how God speaks to us,
- 15:02Speaker 2: and I think of my own life, when I when
- 15:04Speaker 2: I look back and those moments when it seemed like
- 15:06Speaker 2: God was silent or it seemed like things weren't clear,
- 15:10Speaker 2: I know there was an invitation to step in faith.
- 15:15Speaker 2: And then it was like as I was taking that step,
- 15:19Speaker 2: the clarity came, the wisdom came, when I just stood
- 15:22Speaker 2: there and I was like, all right, God, give me
- 15:24Speaker 2: the answers. It was almost like I was like, hey,
- 15:26Speaker 2: just start, just start taking that step, and to watch
- 15:29Speaker 2: what I do. Watch how I will confirm that if
- 15:30Speaker 2: you look at it Day thirty, where it talks about
- 15:32Speaker 2: this voice behind you guiding you when you step to
- 15:35Speaker 2: the left or the right, it's this idea that when
- 15:38Speaker 2: you start taking the step, it's like he's directing it.
- 15:41Speaker 2: It's not before, it's actually when you start taking the
- 15:44Speaker 2: steps of Okay, God, is this the right move? Okay, okay,
- 15:48Speaker 2: you want me to move a little left, I'll move
- 15:49Speaker 2: a little left. And when I started to understand that,
- 15:52Speaker 2: a life of prayer and a life of connection with
- 15:55Speaker 2: God started to take on a different form than I
- 15:57Speaker 2: was like, God, I better get the exact answer, and
- 15:59Speaker 2: I bet it. Have all my boxes checked, and I
- 16:01Speaker 2: better know the point and all the sub points and
- 16:03Speaker 2: have all the clarity. And then I roise, you know what,
- 16:05Speaker 2: I'm just a control freak, and God's inviting me beyond
- 16:08Speaker 2: the anxiety that comes when I'm a control freak.
- 16:11Speaker 1: It's a really interest. I mean, they tell you this
- 16:14Speaker 1: in seminary. You know you'll never be able to apply
- 16:18Speaker 1: everything that you learn. And I think that's true, you
- 16:22Speaker 1: never are able to apply everything that you learn. But
- 16:24Speaker 1: I think what they sometimes miss is that in applying,
- 16:28Speaker 1: you're going to learn more than you could ever know.
- 16:31Speaker 1: And so you sort of sit back and you're like,
- 16:33Speaker 1: you know, I love going to Malachi three ten. It's
- 16:35Speaker 1: sort of been co opted sometimes by the health and
- 16:38Speaker 1: wealth kind of stuff, But you look at that dynamic,
- 16:41Speaker 1: it's perfectly describing what you're saying. God is telling me Israelites, Hey,
- 16:45Speaker 1: you've held back these sacrifices from Me and you're expecting
- 16:48Speaker 1: that to solve your immediate problem. The logic makes sense,
- 16:52Speaker 1: but the theologic doesn't make any sense, right, So bring
- 16:56Speaker 1: me the tithe test me, you know, test me by
- 16:59Speaker 1: trying me. This is the kind of test that we're
- 17:02Speaker 1: supposed to have. And I think it's a beautiful dynamic
- 17:05Speaker 1: that you're painting there with prayer, because it is just
- 17:08Speaker 1: it's not about saying the right words.
- 17:10Speaker 3: It's not like a magic incantation.
- 17:12Speaker 1: We have to get all the accents right and all
- 17:14Speaker 1: the you know, say all the right things, and then
- 17:16Speaker 1: all of a sudden, that's like you know, rubbing the
- 17:18Speaker 1: Genie in the bottle and we get all our wishes.
- 17:21Speaker 3: The reality is it's about the process of just doing it. Yes,
- 17:26Speaker 3: I often use the now.
- 17:27Speaker 1: I was a personal trainer when I was doing my
- 17:29Speaker 1: MDIF and I'll tell people, you know, I never had
- 17:32Speaker 1: a client come in and say, Okay, today for your workout,
- 17:34Speaker 1: you're gonna sit in the corner and watch me lift.
- 17:37Speaker 1: Like there are just some things you have to do
- 17:38Speaker 1: yourself for you to get any benefit out of it.
- 17:41Speaker 3: You've actually got to do the work yourself.
- 17:45Speaker 1: And that's what I kind of hear you saying, is
- 17:47Speaker 1: that prayer has to become this practice because not so
- 17:51Speaker 1: much because it's a yes, it's an act of obedience,
- 17:55Speaker 1: but also it's really formative that will change you as
- 17:58Speaker 1: you do it, even when you're.
- 18:00Speaker 3: Not doing it, you know in the quote unquote.
- 18:03Speaker 1: Right way maybe right like you know they're not doing
- 18:07Speaker 1: it as you're the best prayer or something like that.
- 18:09Speaker 2: Sure, So okay to use your metaphor, because I think
- 18:12Speaker 2: that's a great metaphor. Jim showing up in the gym
- 18:17Speaker 2: uh regularly. You know, getting in the gym with a
- 18:21Speaker 2: with a regularity is more important than intensity. Wouldn't you agree, okay,
- 18:26Speaker 2: So so what what I have? What I have found,
- 18:29Speaker 2: So there's an interesting relationship here. What I've found is
- 18:32Speaker 2: showing up with what we have is a great place
- 18:35Speaker 2: to start. Now that being said, you know this, if
- 18:39Speaker 2: someone gets in the gym and they start doing an
- 18:42Speaker 2: exercise in a way that is going to hurt them,
- 18:46Speaker 2: injure them, they're going to end up being out of
- 18:48Speaker 2: the gym for a long time, okay, or unable to
- 18:51Speaker 2: do any kind of movement that is specific to that area.
- 18:54Speaker 2: And James, I think this is what has happened with prayer.
- 18:58Speaker 2: When you make yourself to hear or the villain of prayer,
- 19:02Speaker 2: you stop showing up because you become disillusioned, You become injured,
- 19:07Speaker 2: You bere like, no, this isn't working when I go
- 19:10Speaker 2: in here. Actually there's just there's more pain, there's more suffering.
- 19:15Speaker 2: I'm not able to navigate my daily life in a
- 19:17Speaker 2: way that's healthy. And no, it's not. It's not that
- 19:20Speaker 2: the gem is the problem necessarily, because pain is formative.
- 19:24Speaker 2: I mean, I think about what Hebrews five says and
- 19:26Speaker 2: describing the sun. Though he was a son, he learned obedience,
- 19:31Speaker 2: he learned what it was to be a son through
- 19:33Speaker 2: the pain that he navigated, through what he suffered, and
- 19:35Speaker 2: I love what you called out from Alci three ten.
- 19:37Speaker 2: Going later in Hebrews Hebrews nine and ten, where the
- 19:41Speaker 2: writer of Hebrews is describing this dynamic of Look, God
- 19:44Speaker 2: doesn't want your transaction. Really, it's not about the blood
- 19:48Speaker 2: of bulls and goats. It's not about something that is
- 19:50Speaker 2: at arm's length. It's about purifying the consciousness of the worshiper.
- 19:55Speaker 2: The worshiper needs to be able to enter, going back
- 19:57Speaker 2: to chapter four, enter the Throne of Grace. If I'm
- 20:01Speaker 2: mercy and grace to help in their time of need.
- 20:03Speaker 2: There needs to be this confidence that isn't predicated on
- 20:06Speaker 2: what you've done and what you haven't done, but on
- 20:08Speaker 2: your submission. You're surrender to the work of Jesus in
- 20:12Speaker 2: the spirit of grace and the transformational power of grace,
- 20:16Speaker 2: which gives you the ability to do what you otherwise
- 20:18Speaker 2: can never do in your own strength. It's not about
- 20:20Speaker 2: your own moral muscle. It's about the work of the spirit,
- 20:23Speaker 2: the sanctifying work of the spirit that makes the impossible
- 20:26Speaker 2: possible in your life. And so for me, when it
- 20:29Speaker 2: comes to prayer. There there's so much religious bondage that
- 20:35Speaker 2: keeps people from moving from this place of self consciousness
- 20:40Speaker 2: to God consciousness. And when you're God conscious in prayer,
- 20:45Speaker 2: there is a freedom, there is a liberty. You're practicing
- 20:48Speaker 2: the right forms if you will, so you're able to
- 20:51Speaker 2: increase weight, You're able to go places with God in prayer.
- 20:55Speaker 2: And I'm talking getting real with God in prayer. I mean,
- 20:58Speaker 2: I think about what Jesus, Jesus prays on the cross,
- 21:01Speaker 2: quoting David sal twenty two, My God, my God, will
- 21:03Speaker 2: have you forsaken me? I mean that's that. I honestly
- 21:05Speaker 2: think that is the most real prayer any of us
- 21:07Speaker 2: can pray. I think when when Hebrews two and Hebrews
- 21:10Speaker 2: four describes Jesus someone who is who has fully understood
- 21:14Speaker 2: the human experience, I think that right there that prayer
- 21:19Speaker 2: captures perfectly captures the greatest temptation of the human experience,
- 21:24Speaker 2: which is to believe that God has abandoned us. Sure,
- 21:26Speaker 2: because and you know, the end of Psalm twenty two
- 21:28Speaker 2: is actually this, I think is his first twenty four
- 21:30Speaker 2: is is you do not abandon the afflicted in their affliction,
- 21:33Speaker 2: nor do you turn your face from them, but you
- 21:35Speaker 2: hear when they call. And then Psalm twenty two is
- 21:37Speaker 2: this beautiful messianic psalm that talks about the reconciliation of
- 21:40Speaker 2: the nations being brought into you know, the Family of God,
- 21:43Speaker 2: the Kingdom of God. And so that's not where it ends,
- 21:47Speaker 2: but you better believe that's where it starts. And I
- 21:50Speaker 2: tell people all the time, listen, God does not tell
- 21:54Speaker 2: us to deny our pain, but we are invited to
- 21:57Speaker 2: defy our pain. And you cannot defy by pain if
- 22:00Speaker 2: you're not honest about its existence. And prayer is such
- 22:04Speaker 2: a powerful and intimate place for us to be honest
- 22:07Speaker 2: with God. To let messy words fly if you will.
- 22:11Speaker 2: That was what my book Words with God was all about,
- 22:13Speaker 2: the first one I wrote back in twenty twenty three.
- 22:15Speaker 2: It was this idea, like a messy prayers, messy words
- 22:18Speaker 2: with God, there is there a right way to pray?
- 22:20Speaker 2: What does that look like? And I've had so many
- 22:23Speaker 2: people reach out to me who are in their sixties, seventies, eighties.
- 22:26Speaker 2: I had one gentleman reach out to me. He was
- 22:28Speaker 2: in his eighties and he said, I can only imagine
- 22:30Speaker 2: what my life would have been like. If I would
- 22:32Speaker 2: have read this book four decades ago when I got sicked,
- 22:36Speaker 2: he and he actually asked his daughter. I didn't know
- 22:38Speaker 2: this until after he passed, but he asked his daughter.
- 22:40Speaker 2: He said, you know, when I passed, would you please
- 22:43Speaker 2: reach out to Addison and ask him to do my
- 22:45Speaker 2: funeral because the book had such an impact on his life,
- 22:48Speaker 2: which was, I mean, an incredible honor, and I was
- 22:50Speaker 2: able to fly down and do his funeral. But my
- 22:53Speaker 2: point is this, my passion is I don't want people
- 22:58Speaker 2: to be held back in that place of prayer because
- 23:01Speaker 2: I think, James, I think even putting prayer in a
- 23:03Speaker 2: spiritual discipline's bucket is problematic. And you might be like, okay,
- 23:08Speaker 2: and I've opened your pushback here because it still puts
- 23:11Speaker 2: it in this place of like something you do, you
- 23:14Speaker 2: start your stop. Don't get me wrong, there's certain types
- 23:16Speaker 2: of prayer that would belong in that spiritual disciplines bucket,
- 23:20Speaker 2: but prayer isn't a thing on the list. It's the
- 23:23Speaker 2: thing that energizes the entire list. And I think we're
- 23:27Speaker 2: losing We're losing people, especially younger generations, who I would
- 23:31Speaker 2: say are more spiritually just because the nature of our world.
- 23:34Speaker 2: There's a spiritual hunger that's unique to gen Z and
- 23:38Speaker 2: they're turning to manifesting, they're turning to diy spirituality, They're
- 23:45Speaker 2: turning to these other things. And I think a part
- 23:47Speaker 2: of it is we've lost the robustness of prayer. We've
- 23:53Speaker 2: truncated the domain of prayer. And I want people to
- 23:59Speaker 2: realize it's like when Paul is using temple language, like
- 24:02Speaker 2: in first Cindu history, when he calls us God's temple.
- 24:04Speaker 2: That's not hyperbolic. He's saying, your embodied experience is a
- 24:09Speaker 2: microcosm where Heaven touches Earth. God wants to inhabit your
- 24:13Speaker 2: embodied experience in a way that releases grace, is transforming power,
- 24:19Speaker 2: his spirit in and through you and into your world.
- 24:22Speaker 2: And that can't happen if we categorize and we systematize,
- 24:26Speaker 2: and we limit how God speaks to us and how
- 24:29Speaker 2: He works through us. As you can talk so a
- 24:32Speaker 2: little passionate about.
- 24:33Speaker 3: This, No, it's really helpful.
- 24:35Speaker 1: I mean, I've thought a lot about the spiritual disciplines
- 24:40Speaker 1: and tried to get my head around them because one
- 24:42Speaker 1: of the things I used to have this buddy in
- 24:43Speaker 1: college and we talk about recipe theology, and recipe theology
- 24:48Speaker 1: is like you know, here, you just here's your list
- 24:50Speaker 1: of ingredients, and you do these things and then all
- 24:52Speaker 1: of a sudden, you turn out in your life is wonderful.
- 24:55Speaker 1: And intuitively I kind of knew that was wrong, but
- 24:58Speaker 1: then what's the alternative? And so when you look at
- 25:01Speaker 1: the spiritual disciplines, they can really start to feel like that.
- 25:05Speaker 1: They can feel like these are ingredients on your recipe list,
- 25:08Speaker 1: and whenever you use all of them, and you know
- 25:11Speaker 1: you bake the right cake, you're going to eat well.
- 25:13Speaker 1: And it's not exactly how we should be thinking about
- 25:16Speaker 1: them at all. But I also think prayer does hold
- 25:20Speaker 1: a unique place within the Christian life, and so there's
- 25:25Speaker 1: a fine line. And maybe you agree with this, maybe
- 25:28Speaker 1: you won't, but I would say there's a fine line
- 25:30Speaker 1: between helping someone figure out how to move into prayer,
- 25:33Speaker 1: how to practice it, what to do with it, and
- 25:35Speaker 1: there does take some level of discipline or a renewed
- 25:39Speaker 1: cadence of life, but ultimately that's not supposed to be
- 25:43Speaker 1: what you do your whole life. This should these things
- 25:47Speaker 1: I often talk about. It is like prayer should become
- 25:51Speaker 1: as necessary as breathing right, like it should just be
- 25:56Speaker 1: what we do. It's no longer a practice that I
- 25:59Speaker 1: put it into my day, It's just what I do.
- 26:03Speaker 1: And so, I mean, I wanted to ask a question
- 26:07Speaker 1: as you were talking. One of the things sort of
- 26:09Speaker 1: struck me is a lot of the things I've read
- 26:10Speaker 1: about prayer. You hear about the power of prayer and
- 26:13Speaker 1: how prayer can affect things, and you know, you hear,
- 26:17Speaker 1: you know, the old storage of George Mueller, right, this
- 26:20Speaker 1: man of prayer, and you know he gets this orphanage
- 26:22Speaker 1: funded all the time. Sometimes I think, you know, those
- 26:25Speaker 1: are amazing stories, obviously, but they also set a different
- 26:29Speaker 1: sort of standard right for prayer that doesn't always realize itself.
- 26:33Speaker 3: And so I'm wondering, if you think.
- 26:36Speaker 1: That prayer in our common church discourse, the discourse about
- 26:43Speaker 1: prayer that we normally use in our in our conversations,
- 26:47Speaker 1: how does it need to change so that we understand
- 26:51Speaker 1: what prayer is.
- 26:52Speaker 3: Going to do on a sort of a corporate level.
- 26:56Speaker 1: I think, you know, you kind of hit on this
- 26:57Speaker 1: a number of different ways, but I'm thinking about like
- 27:00Speaker 1: great awakenings, where you know, prayer is the first.
- 27:03Speaker 3: Thing we do, and those kind of aspects.
- 27:06Speaker 1: But I think there's a sense in which prayer can
- 27:08Speaker 1: become a little bit of a magic incantation, right where
- 27:11Speaker 1: we point our wand in something and it also transforms.
- 27:15Speaker 1: That's not the sense that I get from you, but
- 27:17Speaker 1: sometimes that's the sense I get when I'm reading about prayer.
- 27:20Speaker 1: I'm kind of like this sort of fell into a
- 27:22Speaker 1: magical moment here. So, yeah, any thoughts on how we
- 27:26Speaker 1: situate prayer, how we begin to talk about prayer differently.
- 27:31Speaker 3: So that we really understand the dynamic that's happening here.
- 27:34Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I love that. And to go back to
- 27:36Speaker 2: what you're saying for me, don't. I don't like formulas.
- 27:41Speaker 2: I love frameworks. Though frameworks give us, give us handles,
- 27:44Speaker 2: but they create space for the Spirit of God to
- 27:48Speaker 2: personalize that experience in a way that reflects whatever we're
- 27:53Speaker 2: navigating in that day and whatever we're called to. So
- 27:56Speaker 2: there's so much when it comes to prayer about the
- 27:59Speaker 2: power component, which, don't get me wrong, prayer is, prayer
- 28:03Speaker 2: is powerful, and I've seen I've seen the power of
- 28:07Speaker 2: prayer in my life. I was just real quick. Sorry.
- 28:10Speaker 2: This summer, I was speaking at a men's event and
- 28:13Speaker 2: this I mean, this is wild. I'm just gonna warn
- 28:14Speaker 2: you this is this is a wild war speaking out
- 28:16Speaker 2: of this men's event. I get up there and I
- 28:19Speaker 2: have this pain in my back right like back right
- 28:24Speaker 2: of and I'm like, what is this pain? And I'm
- 28:27Speaker 2: not ready to get up to speak, and they're finishing
- 28:29Speaker 2: worship and I get up there and I'm not please hearing,
- 28:32Speaker 2: Like I'm not someone who like gets up and I
- 28:35Speaker 2: do believe that God heals supernaturally, but I'm not someone
- 28:37Speaker 2: who gets up there and they're like, all right, it's
- 28:39Speaker 2: healing ministry, like that's that's That's just not me. And
- 28:43Speaker 2: I just I'm just gonna leave it there. So I
- 28:45Speaker 2: get up there and there's just pain in my back fright,
- 28:48Speaker 2: and I'm like, God, what's going on? And then the
- 28:50Speaker 2: Holy Spirit, this this just comes out of my spirit,
- 28:53Speaker 2: I would say, through the back of my mind, into
- 28:55Speaker 2: the front of my mind, out of the deep mind,
- 28:57Speaker 2: and into my conscious experience, and I just I knew
- 29:01Speaker 2: that there was someone in this room who was experiencing
- 29:04Speaker 2: this pain and that God was going to heal them.
- 29:06Speaker 2: And I haven't I haven't preached, I haven't shared my message,
- 29:09Speaker 2: Like I'm just great, and I'm my God, like this
- 29:13Speaker 2: isn't like, this isn't my thing. I'm not going to
- 29:18Speaker 2: begin this message like I'm not started, Like what if
- 29:21Speaker 2: no one raises her hand?
- 29:23Speaker 3: I feel like.
- 29:25Speaker 2: Just like this, Hey, did you forget who I am?
- 29:28Speaker 2: Like no, I'm more of the teacher, Like this is
- 29:30Speaker 2: not me anyway. So but it would lead me in
- 29:33Speaker 2: this sense, was just like, hey, God wants to heal
- 29:36Speaker 2: some Ofe's room. So I just go, okay, hey, if
- 29:39Speaker 2: you're here tonight and you've got a pain in your
- 29:42Speaker 2: back right and I just you know, described it very specific,
- 29:46Speaker 2: would you know, would you please would you please raise
- 29:48Speaker 2: your No one raises her and I'm like, oh gosh,
- 29:52Speaker 2: And I just gave it like ten seconds. And then
- 29:54Speaker 2: second row, right in front of me, this young man
- 29:56Speaker 2: raises his hand, and I knew it wasn't about me.
- 29:59Speaker 2: I did don't want the room to make it about me,
- 30:01Speaker 2: and I just I told the guys around, was like, hey, guys,
- 30:03Speaker 2: would you please just lay hands on him and pray
- 30:05Speaker 2: for him. God God's going to heal him. And so
- 30:08Speaker 2: I didn't do anything. They prayed, they laid prayed on him.
- 30:12Speaker 2: I didn't even want to know if anything happened, because
- 30:15Speaker 2: I didn't want my message.
- 30:16Speaker 4: I didn't want that in my head when I was speaking,
- 30:19Speaker 4: So I went through, did my you know, share the
- 30:21Speaker 4: message got done, and this young man comes up to
- 30:23Speaker 4: me and he tells me I was in a terrible
- 30:27Speaker 4: motorcycle accident.
- 30:28Speaker 2: I've lived in chronic pain for two years. I told God,
- 30:31Speaker 2: I said, I can't even go to this event's not
- 30:33Speaker 2: I can't sit for two hours. And he just sensed.
- 30:36Speaker 2: I told God, tell me, if you go tonight, I'm
- 30:39Speaker 2: going to heal you. And and he was. He was
- 30:43Speaker 2: miraculously healed. Saw in the next day healed heard a
- 30:46Speaker 2: story after it healed, had had multiple surgeries like all
- 30:49Speaker 2: they said. It was just completely healed. The pain was
- 30:50Speaker 2: completely gone. I know I had nothing to do with that,
- 30:54Speaker 2: but I also know like there was a prayerful component.
- 30:58Speaker 2: He was praying. I was praying going into the service.
- 31:00Speaker 2: God moved in did something miraculous. But here's the key
- 31:04Speaker 2: when it comes to prayer, its presence. We typically make
- 31:09Speaker 2: it about the second, the third thing, the fourth thing,
- 31:12Speaker 2: the key to prayer. And you can even see this
- 31:14Speaker 2: in the Lord's prayer. Because Jesus didn't give us many things.
- 31:17Speaker 2: We're very clear. Was like, this is how you do something,
- 31:20Speaker 2: and he was pretty clear with the Lord's Prayer. He's like, hey,
- 31:23Speaker 2: there's something to the Lord's Prayer that we need to
- 31:26Speaker 2: be careful not to move past. And what he's saying saying, Hey,
- 31:29Speaker 2: the opening movement of the Lord's Prayer is actually a
- 31:32Speaker 2: call to realize the reality of Emmanuel. And so for me,
- 31:38Speaker 2: when it comes to prayer, I firmly believe even the
- 31:42Speaker 2: power of prayer, and I've seen this in my life
- 31:44Speaker 2: comes from when I'm living in the reality of Emmanuel
- 31:48Speaker 2: God with us. Then from that place, and that's why
- 31:51Speaker 2: I think the shame and the voice of the accuser.
- 31:54Speaker 2: I tell people you struggle to hear the voice of
- 31:56Speaker 2: God or articke the voice of God because you look
- 31:59Speaker 2: for his voice in the tone and tenor of the accuser.
- 32:02Speaker 2: You expect God and the voice of God to sound
- 32:06Speaker 2: like the tone in the tenor of the accuser. And
- 32:08Speaker 2: that's not how God communicates. It's just that's not how
- 32:11Speaker 2: the spirit of God leads and guides and woos and forms,
- 32:15Speaker 2: and so that's that's that's how I explain it to people. Look,
- 32:18Speaker 2: it's actually about presence and then from presence. And this
- 32:21Speaker 2: is why Saul five three, I'm a big fan of
- 32:23Speaker 2: what David says in the morning. You hear my voice
- 32:26Speaker 2: in the morning, I prepare a sacrifice or I lift
- 32:28Speaker 2: my prayer to you, and I watch he's describing this
- 32:32Speaker 2: awareness that we even understand now through physiology studying physiology.
- 32:37Speaker 2: When you wake in the morning, there's a sensitivity. You're
- 32:39Speaker 2: a reticulated activist, activating system. It can go inward and
- 32:43Speaker 2: not just outward in the morning. That that's unique to
- 32:46Speaker 2: the morning, where you can be more aware of the
- 32:49Speaker 2: entire embodied experience, what's happening within your deep mind, the
- 32:52Speaker 2: unconscious level. You're more sensitive in the morning. But if
- 32:55Speaker 2: you pick up your phone, what do you do? That
- 32:59Speaker 2: experience ends to start feeding just disrupted. You start feeding
- 33:03Speaker 2: the idea that you need to be omniscient or omnipresent,
- 33:05Speaker 2: all knowing, You need to be all places, know all things,
- 33:08Speaker 2: which is what the phone represents. First thing in the morning,
- 33:10Speaker 2: you shortcut what God's trying to do in your body
- 33:14Speaker 2: on a physically physiological physically, oh, physiological level, tough word today,
- 33:20Speaker 2: physiological level. You shortcut that with how you're engaging first
- 33:24Speaker 2: thing in the morning. So there's there's so much of that,
- 33:27Speaker 2: But for me, James, is about presence.
- 33:29Speaker 3: It's interesting.
- 33:29Speaker 1: We did a campaign called go Darksheine Bright and one
- 33:34Speaker 1: of the things we were it came about we were
- 33:36Speaker 1: kind of saying, how do we how do we help
- 33:38Speaker 1: God's people pray more?
- 33:40Speaker 3: What does that look like?
- 33:41Speaker 1: And what we ended up hitting on was prayer was
- 33:44Speaker 1: in competition with shopping on Amazon, scrolling Facebook, you know,
- 33:48Speaker 1: watching reels on Instagram, you know, all this kind of stuff.
- 33:52Speaker 1: And so what we challenge people to do is to
- 33:54Speaker 1: take a seven day fast off social media completely and
- 33:58Speaker 1: replace that.
- 33:58Speaker 3: Time with Bible study, prayer.
- 34:01Speaker 1: And then we did some guides and different things like that,
- 34:03Speaker 1: and people really resonated with it. I mean, the testimonies
- 34:06Speaker 1: we got back were, I do feel God's presence more
- 34:09Speaker 1: in my life. I feel more almost like awake and
- 34:12Speaker 1: aware of what's going on around me, as opposed to
- 34:15Speaker 1: having ourselves buried in the phone. And I think you've
- 34:18Speaker 1: mentioned this narrative a couple of times at Genesis three narrative,
- 34:22Speaker 1: where you know, we tend to think that the more
- 34:25Speaker 1: we know, the better off we are, and this is
- 34:29Speaker 1: sort of at least part of the temptation that Eve
- 34:32Speaker 1: is given. Right, Hey, you can know right now, you
- 34:34Speaker 1: can get this information right at this moment, you no
- 34:37Speaker 1: longer have to live in this paradise with God. You
- 34:39Speaker 1: could be freed from this prison and just you know,
- 34:42Speaker 1: realize your full potential right at this moment. But what
- 34:46Speaker 1: we consistently heard back from people who did the challenge
- 34:49Speaker 1: was man stepping away from it. I just feel so
- 34:52Speaker 1: much more at peace, at rest. And there was a
- 34:56Speaker 1: sense in which a couple of the people I talked to,
- 34:57Speaker 1: they said, no, I felt God's presence more, or I
- 35:00Speaker 1: felt wiser, I didn't feel just inundated with stuff right.
- 35:05Speaker 1: And so we had several folks tell us that they
- 35:12Speaker 1: just didn't go back on social media, that they kept
- 35:15Speaker 1: up that cadence, kept up that practice and.
- 35:19Speaker 3: Enjoyed it.
- 35:20Speaker 1: And so I think there is something too the way
- 35:23Speaker 1: we've managed ourselves, the way we've sort of put ourselves
- 35:26Speaker 1: in the position of needing to have all the information
- 35:30Speaker 1: we could ever possibly have at our fingertips. It is
- 35:33Speaker 1: very disruptive early morning, one hundred percent and even throughout
- 35:37Speaker 1: the rest of the day. I think we're really short
- 35:39Speaker 1: changing ourselves of what we could be, what we could
- 35:43Speaker 1: be experiencing, versus what we are actually experiencing.
- 35:47Speaker 2: Oh. Absolutely. And the structure of the prayer journal that
- 35:50Speaker 2: you mentioned earlier, what the way that I built it
- 35:54Speaker 2: is the first movement, so at forty days and every
- 35:56Speaker 2: day has the same structure. There's a reflect component that
- 35:59Speaker 2: invite people to engage with the reality of God in
- 36:02Speaker 2: a way that kind of like, huh, that's a little different.
- 36:05Speaker 2: So I tease out different qualities of God or a
- 36:08Speaker 2: life of prayer that might make people pause and have
- 36:11Speaker 2: to reflect. Then it goes into this place of recenter.
- 36:15Speaker 2: So the first one is reflect, then it's recenter. And
- 36:18Speaker 2: the idea of recenter is it's a breath prayer. It's
- 36:20Speaker 2: just I am here, and the reality is that we
- 36:23Speaker 2: can only be in this place. We were prone to
- 36:26Speaker 2: chronological wanderings, but only God exists outside of time and space,
- 36:31Speaker 2: and we don't get to do that. And so this
- 36:34Speaker 2: idea of God, I'm going to surrender to what you're
- 36:36Speaker 2: doing right here, to the presence here, whether that's other
- 36:40Speaker 2: people or that's you here with me. The reality of
- 36:43Speaker 2: I am here, God is here in our midst So
- 36:46Speaker 2: like that's that prayer. I am here, and then it
- 36:48Speaker 2: moves into rest because rest is not easy to enter
- 36:52Speaker 2: into and people are like, oh, well, what am I
- 36:55Speaker 2: going to do? How do I rest? And so for me,
- 36:57Speaker 2: it's like, hey, let's reflect, then let's recenter. Then we're
- 37:00Speaker 2: actually gonna be able to rest. And I invite people
- 37:02Speaker 2: to articulate and release any thoughts, any ideas that are
- 37:07Speaker 2: keeping them from rest. People don't realize that that's actually prayer.
- 37:12Speaker 2: If you're writing down to if you're identifying, Hey, God,
- 37:16Speaker 2: these are the things that are keeping me from rest
- 37:18Speaker 2: right now with you, that is a form of prayer.
- 37:21Speaker 2: And then after they release, then there's an invitation there
- 37:24Speaker 2: to receive. So, okay, take inventory of how God has
- 37:30Speaker 2: come through for you, what you've received from him, Where
- 37:33Speaker 2: was the evidence of his goodness yesterday? And then what
- 37:35Speaker 2: are you asking God to do today? Not in a
- 37:38Speaker 2: petulant or childish way, but when we ask, we become aware,
- 37:42Speaker 2: We start to connect the dots. We see how God's
- 37:44Speaker 2: moving in our world. And we're invited to ask with boldness,
- 37:48Speaker 2: with assurance, not because we're we're going to get everything
- 37:51Speaker 2: that we demand, but because we have the right relationally
- 37:54Speaker 2: to go to our Father and ask, and then ultimately
- 37:56Speaker 2: he's going to decide whether that's best for us or not.
- 37:59Speaker 2: But we are to come to him with boldness and ask.
- 38:01Speaker 2: And the final thing is respond, What is the spirit
- 38:03Speaker 2: of God leading you to do today? What is that
- 38:06Speaker 2: one thing? Those two things? And that's the structure that
- 38:09Speaker 2: I use. But something that came out of the Words
- 38:12Speaker 2: with God book was that prayer I am here. And
- 38:16Speaker 2: so many people now have told me I use that
- 38:18Speaker 2: prayer all throughout the day when I feel overwhelmed, when
- 38:21Speaker 2: when I feel lost within the shuffle and the hustle
- 38:24Speaker 2: of the day, they take a neat breath and pray
- 38:25Speaker 2: I am here. But James, as I'm talking talking to you,
- 38:29Speaker 2: I'm thinking about this because I preached a message at
- 38:31Speaker 2: this church back in July, and it was all about
- 38:34Speaker 2: how we wake determines how we watch, which determines how
- 38:38Speaker 2: we worship. Right, So it is that and it was
- 38:41Speaker 2: from Psalm five specifically, But how we wake determines how
- 38:44Speaker 2: we watch or what we see. Because you're ras in
- 38:47Speaker 2: the morning, if you feed it one thing, the rest
- 38:50Speaker 2: of the day, you're going to see that thing. You're
- 38:52Speaker 2: going it's the confirmation bias. It's that reality and your
- 38:56Speaker 2: RAS is your gatekeeper of consciousness. So you're going to
- 38:59Speaker 2: look for things that confirm and affirm that belief. And
- 39:02Speaker 2: so if you feed black, if you feed self sufficiency,
- 39:06Speaker 2: if you're doing that first thing more, it's going to
- 39:08Speaker 2: compromise the rest of your day. But you hit the
- 39:10Speaker 2: nail on the head. You set attention. And the reality
- 39:12Speaker 2: is attention is the currency of our day. Everyone in
- 39:15Speaker 2: our world is fighting for our attention. And so when
- 39:18Speaker 2: you defy the systems, the structure of our world. And
- 39:22Speaker 2: even if it's just the first hour of the day,
- 39:24Speaker 2: if you say, look, I'm not going to get on
- 39:27Speaker 2: my phone for the first hour of the day. And
- 39:29Speaker 2: I've been doing this for years, but I'm not gonna
- 39:31Speaker 2: get on my phone for the first hour of the day.
- 39:33Speaker 2: I'm telling you like a disproportionate effect. If you sacrifice
- 39:39Speaker 2: that set it aside. You wake, you listen, you read scripture.
- 39:44Speaker 2: You don't get up and perform. You get up in
- 39:46Speaker 2: your sensitive to what the spirit of God is telling
- 39:49Speaker 2: you to read. I'm telling you journal right down. Whatever
- 39:52Speaker 2: it is the spirit of God speaking to you, I'm
- 39:53Speaker 2: telling you it'll transform your life. So I shared this
- 39:55Speaker 2: message back in July with this church, and it's a
- 39:58Speaker 2: church I'm a teaching pastor, and I go back there
- 40:00Speaker 2: few times a year, and I went I went back
- 40:02Speaker 2: there a couple of weeks ago. I probably had fifty
- 40:08Speaker 2: fifty people come up to me and say, hey, I
- 40:09Speaker 2: started doing what you did, what you told us to
- 40:12Speaker 2: do with that list, and it's completely changed their life,
- 40:14Speaker 2: like my life. I can honestly tell you my life
- 40:16Speaker 2: is completely different today than it was five months ago.
- 40:18Speaker 2: And it was just that first hour in the morning.
- 40:21Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think people don't give enough credibility,
- 40:25Speaker 1: and I think we're seeing more and more research come
- 40:27Speaker 1: out of it. But the you know, we're not a
- 40:31Speaker 1: distinct mind and a distinct body. In other words, those
- 40:34Speaker 1: two are really intertwined together. We're a whole, integrated beings
- 40:38Speaker 1: and so you can't parse this stuff out. It's not
- 40:40Speaker 1: as if you decide you're going to go on a
- 40:43Speaker 1: you know, no sleep bender for a week, you're going
- 40:45Speaker 1: to be particularly functional after the end of that. I mean,
- 40:48Speaker 1: I think there's a reason that, you know, after Elijah
- 40:51Speaker 1: does his you know, little marathon away from Jezebel and
- 40:54Speaker 1: finds himself in the desert alone. You know, he's distraught
- 40:58Speaker 1: and he you know, you can just the exhaustion. And
- 41:03Speaker 1: that is not just spiritual exhaustion emotional exhaustion. There's a
- 41:07Speaker 1: physical aspect of this as well. All of it's sort
- 41:10Speaker 1: of intertwined, and so I think we have to be
- 41:12Speaker 1: really careful about how we're allowing our physical bodies to
- 41:16Speaker 1: interact with the world. And I would just say, I mean,
- 41:19Speaker 1: I love Ian Mcgilchris's work. He's done a lot of
- 41:23Speaker 1: work on attention. He's got some really interesting stuff. And
- 41:26Speaker 1: one of the things he's emphasized is, you know, attention
- 41:29Speaker 1: is a moral action, and I've kind of picked up
- 41:34Speaker 1: on that says it's not really a moral action, it's
- 41:35Speaker 1: a theological action first, because yeah, when we recognize God
- 41:42Speaker 1: as infinitely more relevant than any other actor or a
- 41:45Speaker 1: factor we're going to face during the day, now our
- 41:48Speaker 1: attention is rightly oriented and we're well prepared then to
- 41:52Speaker 1: respond to God from within situations as opposed to responding
- 41:56Speaker 1: to situations as if he's not there. And I think
- 41:59Speaker 1: this mode of prayer that you're talking about, this way
- 42:02Speaker 1: of thinking about prayer, fits so well. With that we
- 42:07Speaker 1: enter into a theological.
- 42:09Speaker 3: World early in the morning.
- 42:10Speaker 1: This is now the symbolic world that we inhabit, a
- 42:13Speaker 1: world where God actually exists, where He is active and present,
- 42:17Speaker 1: where we can experience Him throughout our day versus you know,
- 42:22Speaker 1: a world that is largely contained on a small device
- 42:25Speaker 1: and is really knocking us around, you know, depending on
- 42:29Speaker 1: whether it's good news that day, bad news that.
- 42:31Speaker 3: Day, rumor here, rumor there like.
- 42:34Speaker 1: This is not the symbolic and theological world we want
- 42:36Speaker 1: to inhabit. We want to inhabit the temple of God.
- 42:40Speaker 1: We want to be in the sanctuary with him. We
- 42:43Speaker 1: want to be in his presence, and this is where
- 42:45Speaker 1: we want to land.
- 42:47Speaker 2: I mean, I had a situation yesterday, James where I
- 42:51Speaker 2: you know, as I mentioned, I've been doing this for years,
- 42:53Speaker 2: and I will tell you it's been probably the most
- 42:55Speaker 2: transformative thing I've ever done. I actually struggle with insomnia
- 42:59Speaker 2: for five years.
- 43:01Speaker 3: Wow.
- 43:01Speaker 2: And I made it all about what I was doing
- 43:03Speaker 2: at night, but when I actually changed what I was
- 43:06Speaker 2: doing in the morning the morning. Actually, I know that
- 43:09Speaker 2: sounds crazy, and I've shared that with different people because
- 43:12Speaker 2: I write a lot about this in Words with God,
- 43:14Speaker 2: specifically the insomnia but when I started to see that
- 43:18Speaker 2: differently in the mornings, and how that does set the
- 43:21Speaker 2: attention for the rest of the day. I love how
- 43:23Speaker 2: you said it's a theological issue. And as you were
- 43:25Speaker 2: saying that, I threw that in there behold. This is
- 43:27Speaker 2: that concept of behold. You'll find it thousands thousands of
- 43:31Speaker 2: times in scripture, and it's this invitation you don't see
- 43:35Speaker 2: things as they truly are. You should look again or
- 43:38Speaker 2: be willing to be held by something that you haven't seen,
- 43:42Speaker 2: that you haven't held before. And as you do that,
- 43:45Speaker 2: things start to change in your world. But yesterday, so
- 43:48Speaker 2: I got a call. I got a call from a
- 43:51Speaker 2: friend who's navigating an extremely difficult situation. Her husband is
- 43:57Speaker 2: on his deathbed and they live in you my Arizona,
- 44:01Speaker 2: And she called me early in the morning, late at
- 44:05Speaker 2: night and early in the morning, and you know, I
- 44:07Speaker 2: didn't have didn't have my phone on me, and I
- 44:10Speaker 2: came out of that time and I immediately saw I
- 44:13Speaker 2: had a call from her. Well you, I mean, you
- 44:16Speaker 2: know you served in this role. It is very difficult
- 44:20Speaker 2: to enter into that moment with people. Yeah, and we
- 44:24Speaker 2: feel this pressure when you enter into that moment. You
- 44:28Speaker 2: want to have the right words. And of course the
- 44:31Speaker 2: gift of presents is the most powerful gift right in
- 44:34Speaker 2: a moment like this. But when you don't, we're not
- 44:36Speaker 2: able to give them the gift of presents because they're
- 44:38Speaker 2: in Arizona. That looks different. I'm telling you, James, it
- 44:42Speaker 2: was way better for her and for me that I
- 44:46Speaker 2: called her. After I came out of that time. I
- 44:49Speaker 2: was a I was a better friend, I was a
- 44:52Speaker 2: better man. When I think about my kids, you know,
- 44:54Speaker 2: I've got four kids getting I'm ready for school yesterday.
- 44:57Speaker 2: I'm a better father for them getting them out the
- 45:00Speaker 2: door to school because I've had that time where I'm
- 45:04Speaker 2: not feeding this belief that I am God and that
- 45:08Speaker 2: I need to order my world in a way that
- 45:11Speaker 2: a God could or a God would. Instead, I'm looking
- 45:14Speaker 2: for the reality of God, the Kingdom of God becoming
- 45:18Speaker 2: real in my life through the work of the Spirit.
- 45:22Speaker 2: I'm looking for that, and what's happening I'm watching. I'm
- 45:25Speaker 2: seeing differently, And I love what Psalm FO talks about,
- 45:27Speaker 2: because when you prepare this sacrifice, the sacrifice of attention,
- 45:31Speaker 2: you watch differently. It says, I prepare sacrifice for me
- 45:34Speaker 2: and I watch you start to see things that you
- 45:36Speaker 2: couldn't see before, and it's like, and how did I
- 45:38Speaker 2: miss this?
- 45:39Speaker 5: It was always right here? And God's like, well, if
- 45:41Speaker 5: I would have shown you this, it would have only
- 45:44Speaker 5: fed this strange idea that you had this idolatrous notion
- 45:48Speaker 5: that you are God, and you would have gone deeper
- 45:51Speaker 5: than your problem. And I tell people, and I wrote
- 45:53Speaker 5: this words with God.
- 45:53Speaker 2: I tell people God is a way of not delivering
- 45:55Speaker 2: us from a thing when he knows that that thing
- 45:57Speaker 2: is ultimately going to deliver us to him. And he's like, look,
- 46:02Speaker 2: it's not this thing that you really want, it's actually me.
- 46:06Speaker 2: And then that thing becomes whatever it needs to be, because,
- 46:09Speaker 2: as you know, James, there's always a thing after the thing.
- 46:12Speaker 2: Like you might move through one thing and then there's
- 46:14Speaker 2: another one, and then there's another one, and there's another one.
- 46:16Speaker 3: Yeah.
- 46:17Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it never stops. It's always that endless pursuit
- 46:22Speaker 1: of something. And if that endless pursuit of something isn't God,
- 46:26Speaker 1: we get ourselves into trouble. I've thought about this in
- 46:29Speaker 1: a number of different ways. I haven't thought about it
- 46:31Speaker 1: in terms of prayer, but you know, in terms of
- 46:34Speaker 1: making decisions what does it look like for us to
- 46:36Speaker 1: make decisions so that only God gets the glory, keeping
- 46:39Speaker 1: our attention tied to him even as we're making certain
- 46:42Speaker 1: decisions and really kind of looking through the scriptures and
- 46:46Speaker 1: seeing how different characters make decisions that are God glorifying
- 46:49Speaker 1: even though they don't really make a lot of sense,
- 46:52Speaker 1: you know, And it's like, these are the kind.
- 46:56Speaker 3: Of things we need to master.
- 46:58Speaker 1: But I think to your point, we master them by
- 47:00Speaker 1: starting well every day. We master them by entering into
- 47:05Speaker 1: this world where we recognize that God is present, that
- 47:07Speaker 1: He is God and we are not. And just those
- 47:09Speaker 1: basic sort of theological affirmations now prime us to make
- 47:14Speaker 1: better decisions through our day. They prime us to really
- 47:17Speaker 1: enter into prayer at various moments in our lives. And so, yeah,
- 47:22Speaker 1: I really I love the way you've.
- 47:25Speaker 3: Phrased that night.
- 47:26Speaker 1: I think that the way you talk about prayer has
- 47:29Speaker 1: a much more biblical and theological feel to it than
- 47:35Speaker 1: just prayers and practice here go do it, which I love.
- 47:39Speaker 2: So yeah, thank you, thank you. It's been a it's
- 47:44Speaker 2: been a journey for me. Yeah, it's been a hard
- 47:48Speaker 2: journey for me.
- 47:50Speaker 1: I believe it, man, I always I've had a few
- 47:53Speaker 1: people want to talk about prayer, and I always I'm
- 47:55Speaker 1: really honest, I'm like, I do I still write out prayers.
- 47:59Speaker 1: I have trouble keeping my attention, and so I still
- 48:01Speaker 1: write out prayers. And it's like, I wouldn't necessarily recommend
- 48:04Speaker 1: that everybody do that, but it's it's one of the
- 48:08Speaker 1: ways that helps me to focus in on what I'm doing.
- 48:11Speaker 1: And so I think there's always that Studying always came
- 48:15Speaker 1: really easy for me.
- 48:16Speaker 3: Prayer was always really difficult.
- 48:18Speaker 1: And I think part of it is that, you know,
- 48:20Speaker 1: to pray is in part to just surrender control, and
- 48:25Speaker 1: it involves that at the very least, and that's not
- 48:28Speaker 1: something I usually like to do. So, yeah, I'm with
- 48:32Speaker 1: you on the prayers a journey.
- 48:34Speaker 3: Let me ask you if we're getting kind of to
- 48:36Speaker 3: the end of the episode. So I usually ask my
- 48:38Speaker 3: guests one last question.
- 48:39Speaker 1: I'm kind of interested in this because you know you're
- 48:41Speaker 1: doing you're doing a lot of stuff.
- 48:43Speaker 3: You're doing prayer, you're doing discipleship, and.
- 48:44Speaker 1: So here's the question, what's one thing that you see
- 48:51Speaker 1: the church sort of falling short on God's people falling
- 48:55Speaker 1: short on that they really need to be doing faithfully
- 49:00Speaker 1: in order to be and make disciples in today's world.
- 49:05Speaker 2: Wow. I mean that's that's a big question. Uh, of course,
- 49:12Speaker 2: of course, my my ben is going to go toward prayer. Yeah.
- 49:16Speaker 2: And you know, and this idea of rediscovering prayer uh
- 49:20Speaker 2: as as the as the central life force of the
- 49:26Speaker 2: Christian life, because it's so easy for it to devolve
- 49:30Speaker 2: into so many different things where it becomes a social club,
- 49:34Speaker 2: where it becomes a you know, a religious competition. I mean,
- 49:38Speaker 2: there's there's so many things that we we just look
- 49:41Speaker 2: at church history where we missed it and and I
- 49:45Speaker 2: feel I feel that you mentioned earlier episode, like this
- 49:48Speaker 2: call to revival or practicing the presence or this awareness
- 49:51Speaker 2: that God is moving me, He's doing something in our generation,
- 49:54Speaker 2: He's doing something in this moment. I think it's respecting
- 49:59Speaker 2: the the presence of God and the presence of others.
- 50:04Speaker 2: I think it's it's I think it's that convergence is
- 50:07Speaker 2: like practicing the presence of God in community and letting
- 50:12Speaker 2: the sacredness of the presence of God, letting that spill
- 50:18Speaker 2: into our everyday lives. I mean, you know, the idea
- 50:20Speaker 2: of consecration, it's this idea of like with the sacred,
- 50:25Speaker 2: and so you're doing it with the sacred. So if
- 50:27Speaker 2: I'm consecrating my life, I'm doing it from this, this understanding,
- 50:32Speaker 2: from this revelation that Paul uses again and again when
- 50:36Speaker 2: he calls his holy ones, he calls his saints and
- 50:38Speaker 2: his epistles. This idea that my life is holy and
- 50:43Speaker 2: the God's doing a holy work through the intersection of
- 50:48Speaker 2: the presence of the people that He's put in my world,
- 50:52Speaker 2: and what happens when we connect those dots really is powerful.
- 50:56Speaker 2: It's it's synergistic. It's that idea one can put a
- 50:58Speaker 2: thousand of flight two and put ten thousand, and I
- 51:01Speaker 2: think discipleship, and I've seen this. I'm a part of
- 51:04Speaker 2: a men's group on Tuesday mornings, a couple's group every
- 51:06Speaker 2: other Tuesday night, and then I lead a younger men's
- 51:10Speaker 2: estopship group on Thursday evenings every other Thursday evening. And
- 51:13Speaker 2: those moments where we just create space for God to move,
- 51:19Speaker 2: they energize and they feel the rest of our days.
- 51:24Speaker 2: And so it's this idea of both being intentional but
- 51:28Speaker 2: then also opening up and allowing them more of our lives,
- 51:31Speaker 2: more of our sense of self to belong to the
- 51:34Speaker 2: holiness and the presence and the active nature of God.
- 51:38Speaker 3: Yeah. No, it's really helpful.
- 51:40Speaker 1: I think so often we get hung up on the
- 51:44Speaker 1: idea of holiness being about our moral character. It's not
- 51:49Speaker 1: that that's missing from the definition. An over emphasis on
- 51:54Speaker 1: it tends to leave us without these sort of cultic
- 51:57Speaker 1: and sacred varies, sort of present activities where we are
- 52:04Speaker 1: ushered into a moment where we.
- 52:06Speaker 3: Are really consecrated to God. So yeah, I love the
- 52:09Speaker 3: way you explain that.
- 52:11Speaker 1: Well, Man, tell tell folks where they can get Well,
- 52:14Speaker 1: you can get your book at Baker book House dot com.
- 52:18Speaker 1: I'm sure it's available everywhere, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, all
- 52:21Speaker 1: those fun places. I'd encourage people to get both Words
- 52:25Speaker 1: with God, but also then the new one Words with
- 52:28Speaker 1: God Prayer Journal, Right, I understand the intended to go together,
- 52:33Speaker 1: and then check out recover I'm sorry, Rediscover Prayer dot com.
- 52:38Speaker 1: Rediscover Prayer dot com. I'll have the links to all
- 52:40Speaker 1: this stuff in the show notes, but I don't have
- 52:44Speaker 1: the Messenger International website.
- 52:46Speaker 3: Is there a website you want to provide people with that.
- 52:49Speaker 2: I think the best oneud be messenger x dot com.
- 52:51Speaker 2: That's our establiship app. We have millions of users on
- 52:54Speaker 2: that app in virtually every country and so that would
- 52:58Speaker 2: that would be a great place to start. Messenger x
- 53:00Speaker 2: dot com.
- 53:01Speaker 1: Messenger x dot com, Addison Man, thanks for being here.
- 53:04Speaker 3: This is a This is a great conversation.
- 53:06Speaker 1: I enjoy these, you know, it's nice to be It's
- 53:09Speaker 1: nice to have somebody who really has mastered their understanding
- 53:12Speaker 1: of something on and we can.
- 53:14Speaker 3: Have like a really good back and forth. It's a
- 53:16Speaker 3: lot of fun for me.
- 53:17Speaker 1: So this has been great, and uh, I'm I'm kind
- 53:21Speaker 1: of motivated to get get back in and uh, you know,
- 53:24Speaker 1: figure out the presence of God myself.
- 53:27Speaker 3: Make sure I'm not.
- 53:27Speaker 1: You know, checking my phone right when I get up
- 53:29Speaker 1: out of bed, and so some good practical tips here too.
- 53:32Speaker 2: So thanks, thank you, James. That means a lot.
- 53:35Speaker 1: All right, everybody, Well we'll catch you on the next
- 53:37Speaker 1: episode of Thinking Christian.
- 53:38Speaker 3: Take Care.
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