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Open Up Your Heart: Learning to Trust Love After Pain · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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  What if the reason you haven't experienced the fullness of God's promises isn't
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  because He's holding out on you, but because your heart learned to stay closed in order to survive?
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  Today we're talking about why God is inviting you to open your heart again,
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  slowly, safely, and with Him.
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  If you're done chasing broken love, empty promises, and lukewarm men,
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  and you're finally ready to reclaim your crown,
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  heal your heart, and attract the God-led love you were always meant for,
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  you're in the right place hi i'm emily
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  jordan your faith-based healed feminine guide and
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  relationship coach i went from repeating the same
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  heartbreaking cycles to experiencing a godly healthy aligned love and now i
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  help women just like you heal rise and prepare for god's very best so are you
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  ready to begin your royal training grab your crown your heart and your journal
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  your royal transformation begins now.
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  Sis, before we get into today's episode, I have a big announcement to make.
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  First, I want you to hear this clearly.
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  You were never meant to fight for your heart alone.
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  With dedication, love, prayer, and a whole lot of obedience, it's official.
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  The Royal Guard, aka our private Facebook community, is now open.
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  I am so excited to begin this new journey with you.
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  The Royal Guard is your covering, your training ground, and your sacred sisterhood,
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  a safe space for women who are reclaiming their crowns, healing their hearts,
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  sharpening discernment, and preparing for God's very best in love and life.
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  In this community, you'll be surrounded by women who are serious about healing,
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  committed to growth, protecting their peace and their purpose,
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  raising their standards, and learning how to set and honor God-led boundaries.
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  You don't have to heal alone anymore. You don't have to question yourself alone anymore.
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  If you're ready to be supported, strengthened, and trained alongside sisters
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  who are choosing wholeness over confusion and alignment over compromise,
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  come join us inside the Royal Guard on Facebook.
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  The link is below in the show notes. I can't wait to see you there.
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  Hey sis, welcome back to another episode of Girl Date the Good Guy. It's your girl, Emily.
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  I want you to know I am going to be putting out bonus episodes here and there,
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  because lately I've felt the Holy Spirit tugging on my heart to speak on certain
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  things, to release certain messages that some of you need to hear right now.
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  So expect some bonus episodes dropping when the Spirit leads.
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  All right, sis, let's get into today's show.
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  Recently, I listened to Justin Bieber's Swag 2 album, and yes,
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  I'm a Christian, and yes, I listen to music like that because we're human here.
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  And this is not about a religion.
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  This is about relationship.
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  And I love music. Music has always been my second language.
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  Before Christ, I was a singer-songwriter. I actually released an EP on Apple
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  iTunes back in the day called Love, Sex, and Fire.
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  I've written other songs, too, ones I never released.
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  There's one in particular called You're Gonna Wish I Never Said Goodbye.
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  Maybe one day I'll share that with you. It was very much a breakup, move on kind of song.
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  But anyways, back to what I was saying. When I heard this song,
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  Open Up Your Heart, something shifted in me.
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  And instead of hearing it as a romantic song, I started to picture God singing it to me.
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  Maybe not every lyric, but the part where he sings, Open Up Your Heart,
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  Tell Me What You're Feeling, Open Up Your Heart for Me Tonight.
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  But sis, I totally see God singing this to you.
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  When I looked up the meaning of this song, one description said it like this.
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  It's a plea for intimacy and deep connection, moving beyond surface level interaction
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  to understand what the partner is truly feeling.
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  And instantly I thought, that is God.
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  That's God with his daughters saying, open up your heart. Tell me what you're really feeling.
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  He truly wants to know you, sis. not the version of you that's performing,
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  not the version of you that's holding it all together, but the real you.
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  You. He wants to love you. Yes, you.
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  And he wants to heal the broken pieces of your heart.
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  And says, hear me when I say this, God also has a man for you who will want to do the same thing.
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  But first, God needs access to your heart.
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  It's incredible how the more I let got in, the more my heart opened,
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  the more it healed, and the more it changed me forever.
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  I don't love from survival anymore. I love from a healed heart,
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  able to love deeply, but with boundaries and standards.
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  And that only came because I let God sing over me first.
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  I let him see me first i
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  let him touch the places of my heart that i kept closed for so long during my
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  10 years of celibacy i was still in protection mode and honestly rightfully
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  so i was a single mom i have two beautiful daughters you might not know that about me but now you do.
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  In that season, being a single mother, as that being my calling at the time,
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  I still had my narcissistic husband, ex-husband, in my life because he was the father of my children.
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  So my heart stayed clenched.
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  Even though we divorced back in 2012, he still had a financial hold on me.
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  And at one point, God asked me to take a massive leap of faith,
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  not just a small step, but a huge jump.
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  I had to leave everything behind,
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  including my daughters. And I'll share more about that story later.
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  But I literally left it all in obedience.
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  It was one of the hardest things I'd ever done.
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  I remember going to a client's house one day, and she handed me a book called
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  Just Enough Light for the Step I'm On.
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  I read that book in three days. And by the end of it, I knew exactly what God was asking me to do.
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  Unfortunately, my narcissistic ex wouldn't allow me to take my children.
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  Control does that. But in order for me to get out, I had to let it all go and jump.
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  And sis, God has been putting my life back together piece by piece ever since.
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  He is such a faithful father.
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  And here's the truth. When you've been disappointed enough, hurt enough,
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  when you've prayed and waited and watched things fall apart, which I did for 10 years.
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  Your heart learns to survive instead of surrender.
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  And during that journey, God gently said something to me that I'll never forget.
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  Daughter, you keep asking me to bless you, but you won't let me touch the places
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  that are still bracing for loss. That was real.
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  That's when I realized God's goodness wasn't missing.
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  My heart was just really closed.
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  And a closed heart is actually a wounded heart. Your guardedness didn't come
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  from rebellion. It came from pain.
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  Proverbs 4.23 says, Guard your heart for everything you do flows from it.
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  But guarding your heart does not mean sealing it shut forever.
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  God isn't asking you to open your heart to unsafe people. He's asking you to open it to Him.
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  Because you can't receive healing, peace, or joy in places you won't let God enter.
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  So instead of saying, God, I'm fine, try saying, God, here's what still hurts.
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  Expose that so he can heal it. God's goodness requires trust, not control.
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  Many of us say we trust God, but what we truly trust is our ability to manage disappointment.
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  In Psalms 84.11 says, No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.
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  If God is good, and He is, then opening your heart is not dangerous. It's an act of faith.
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  You cannot experience God's goodness while preparing for heartbreak at the same time.
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  Release the need to predict outcomes. Let God be responsible for the results.
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  Jeremiah 29 11 reminds us, For I know the plans I have for you,
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  plans to prosper you, not to harm you, to give you hope and a future.
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  God always heals before he fills.
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  He doesn't rush your heart. He restores it. He doesn't say, get over it. He says, come to me.
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  Psalm 147.3 tells us, he heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
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  You don't have to be fully healed to be loved, but healing makes room for joy.
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  Ask God what part of my heart still needs your tenderness, Lord,
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  and open that part to him.
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  Opening your heart is an act of obedience. Keeping it closed may feel safe,
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  but obedience sometimes feels vulnerable.
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  God's goodness flows where surrender lives. Closed hearts block connection,
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  not just with people, but with God.
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  Choose softness over self-protection. Let God retrain your heart.
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  You're worth it, sis. So today, gently ask yourself, where did I stop expecting good things from God?
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  Where did survival replace surrender?
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  God isn't asking you to rush here. He's asking you to trust him enough to open
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  the door again. Let's pray together.
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  God, I give you permission to open my heart again.
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  Heal what closed.
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  Restore what broke. and help me believe that your goodness is still for me. Now sit with him.
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  No fixing, no striving. Just be in the presence of your father.
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  God is not done blessing you. He's not done restoring you.
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  And he is absolutely not finished being good to you.
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  Open your heart, not to the world, not to shortcuts, not to fear, but to him.
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  Until next time, remember, you are chosen, you are protected,
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  you are deeply loved, and you are becoming the woman who can receive everything
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  God has prepared for her.
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  He has so much goodness for you, sis. It's time that you believe that again.
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  I love you bunches, and be on the lookout for more of these bonus episodes. Talk to you soon.
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  Sis, you did that. You showed up for your healing and that is royal energy.
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  If this episode challenged you, grew you, or called you higher,
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  share it with another sister who's ready to reclaim her crown too.
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  And if you've got 30 seconds, it would bless me big if you'd leave a review on Apple Podcast.
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  It helps more women step into their royal identity and join the Good Guys Society movement.
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  Until next time, keep your crown on, your standard tie, and your heart in royal alignment.