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Ashley Tisdale Mean Mom · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, is
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  Speaker 1: Ashley Tisdale the victim of a toxic mom group or
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  Speaker 1: just a grown up mean girl? Well, let's ask our
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  Speaker 1: American mamas. And joining us now are American mama's Terry
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  Speaker 1: Needeville and Kimberlye Burleson. Okay, Ashley Tisdale's been in movies
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  Speaker 1: and stuff and TV shows, musical Yeah, and she apparently
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  Speaker 1: went and did a public post and OpEd, I guess,
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  Speaker 1: saying that all these other celebrities who are now moms
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  Speaker 1: are mean to her. There's a toxic mom group in California,
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  Speaker 1: and and she's just getting left out all the time.
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  Speaker 2: What an ultimately mean thing for her to do? Right?
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  Speaker 2: I mean to post that on Yes, the meanest of
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  Speaker 2: them all.
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  Speaker 1: So let's start with that. Let's let's assume she's right.
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  Speaker 1: Let's assume that there's a toxic mean mom group in.
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  Speaker 3: Hollywood, yeah, that she's part of.
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  Speaker 1: If you guys are part of the toxic mean mom group,
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  Speaker 1: what will you do get.
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  Speaker 2: Out of it easily?
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  Speaker 3: I Mean, it's one of those things that we'll get
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  Speaker 3: into what she did. But personally, if I was part
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  Speaker 3: of that and I noticed it and I was being
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  Speaker 3: excluded or whatever, I would quietly bow out. I wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: have to say a word. People know who the mean
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  Speaker 3: people are. And because if you say something like she
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  Speaker 3: has done, oh boy, the back, it's not worth the
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  Speaker 3: grief that you're going to get you might feel even
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  Speaker 3: if you're right, and even if you have people going
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  Speaker 3: Finally somebody stood up to those mean girls. It's it's
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  Speaker 3: it's a tricky game because it's more of them and
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  Speaker 3: they can be manipulative, which they've done. They've come out
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  Speaker 3: and said that she was the one. She was the
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  Speaker 3: one that has zero awareness.
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  Speaker 2: There is this little girl that went to my kids school.
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  Speaker 2: Oh call her cat Kat Kat and Kat went to
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  Speaker 2: to elementary school and always a problem with the girls,
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  Speaker 2: always a problem of the office. Her parents would get involved,
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  Speaker 2: and it was always the girls are jealous of my daughter,
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  Speaker 2: blah blah blah. She goes to junior high a whole
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  Speaker 2: different group. Suddenly Kat's a problem something else. Those girls
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  Speaker 2: are so mean, they're so jealous. Whatever high school comes along,
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  Speaker 2: same situation, whole other set of girls. The common denominator
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  Speaker 2: is cat, and sometimes it is very hard to be
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  Speaker 2: that person. That sees so clearly. It could be these
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  Speaker 2: mean moms that she's talking about see her as cat.
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  Speaker 2: She's a problem and they don't want to be friends
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  Speaker 2: with her. But how do you nicely? You can navigate
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  Speaker 2: and you kind of like start excluding her, like don't
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  Speaker 2: don't ask her, let's do our own little things. She
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  Speaker 2: gets her feelings shirt, so she throws it out there.
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  Speaker 2: She's already said so much about her own character by
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  Speaker 2: making it a bad like that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's you know, that is one of those when
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  Speaker 1: you speak, you say more about yourself than you do
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  Speaker 1: absolutely someone else about the person you're talking about.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, and that's a good point that you have,
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  Speaker 3: because you can have a week group of girls, but
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  Speaker 3: this one, you know, might get on their nerves and
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  Speaker 3: they know they have more fun when it's just them,
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  Speaker 3: so they start doing that. That's a problem with social media.
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  Speaker 3: They started doing things outside of the group without Ashley
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  Speaker 3: that she would see on social media like, oh, they
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  Speaker 3: didn't invite me to that, so it hurt her feelings.
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  Speaker 3: But since then, what's happened is the husbands have gotten involved.
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  Speaker 3: So Hillary Duff is part of this group that she
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  Speaker 3: talked about.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, she and May Wait, from everything I've read about
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  Speaker 1: Hillary Duff in the past, just seemed like a very
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  Speaker 1: lovely pat right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. What's interesting about it is her sister Haley is
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  Speaker 3: taking the side of Ashley.
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  Speaker 1: Really, yes, I.
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  Speaker 2: See a lot of jealousy. Yeah, yeah, and so but.
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  Speaker 3: Hillary Duff's husband writes his own obed and he says
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  Speaker 3: that she was insufferable, like if you want to go there, sister,
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  Speaker 3: we can go there. We've got receipts. So it's one
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  Speaker 3: of those things that our advice, I think would be
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  Speaker 3: just in a lady ladylike manner, just out out gracefully
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  Speaker 3: because bekind.
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  Speaker 2: Because yeah, I like being on the yah, on the outer,
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  Speaker 2: outer layer of a lot of friend groups.
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  Speaker 3: So you've got a lot of friends. You don't have
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  Speaker 3: to be included. I don't get my feelings hurt when
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  Speaker 3: I'm not included.
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  Speaker 1: Right, I mean, you've got friends that go do something,
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  Speaker 1: to go to lunch or whatever. You're like, oh that
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  Speaker 1: looks nice.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes. My own little observation with her also is
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  Speaker 2: these women are famous women. Yes, I'm sure there's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of moms in that school that she could click
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  Speaker 2: with and be friends with, but they're not the famous ones.
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  Speaker 2: So I think it's this particular clique that she wants
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  Speaker 2: to be accepted in, because she probably needs more clouts,
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  Speaker 2: she needs more connections. She's only got one hit, she
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  Speaker 2: only got one show she was a part of, right,
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  Speaker 2: and so I think it's this particular group she wanted
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  Speaker 2: to be a part of, and they don't really want
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  Speaker 2: her to be a friend. So she got her feelings, sir,
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  Speaker 2: because there's lots of girls she could be friends with.
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  Speaker 3: Sure, but here's the problem. And I'm gonna write this
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  Speaker 3: is one of her quotes she said reflected when she
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  Speaker 3: did that piece for The New Yorker. She said, you know,
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  Speaker 3: she wasn't cool enough for the group's other members, sitting
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  Speaker 3: alone when I after getting her daughter to bed, feeling
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  Speaker 3: totally lost as to what she was doing wrong to
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  Speaker 3: be left out. So she ended the friend group and
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  Speaker 3: she wrote in there, this is too high school for me.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to take part of it anymore. That's
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  Speaker 3: what she wrote to them. I mean, you can kind
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  Speaker 3: of tell that her character there. But here's what's going
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  Speaker 3: to happen if if they're part of the same mom group,
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  Speaker 3: their kids are probably friends or go to the same
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  Speaker 3: schoolers church or groups. This is not only going to
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  Speaker 3: harm her in these friendships forever. What she doesn't realize
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  Speaker 3: is her daughters will be excluded from these birthday parties.
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  Speaker 3: She'll be excluded from functions that they have no you know,
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  Speaker 3: no problem with the you know, the little girls that
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  Speaker 3: they were playing with or whatever you really have. When
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  Speaker 3: you're a mom, you have to really think about the
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  Speaker 3: bigger picture.
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  Speaker 1: About how it impacts your kids.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right.
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  Speaker 1: of Kimberly Brothers, and thank you so much