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Diva Mia: Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs: Unleash Your Potential · The Diva Details

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Welcome to the Diva Details. Welcome to the Diva Details.
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Where bold, confident women embrace life unapologetically.
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Just fearless conversations to help you thrive. Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Cat.
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Hi, this is Diva Mia. I'm hoping that today will be a transformational podcast
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to help those of you that have been struggling in life with thinking that you're
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not enough or thinking that you can't achieve or you're too old.
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I think what I want to talk about today is kind of the limiting beliefs that hold people back.
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I keep hearing, and maybe because I'm over 50, but the same old phrase,
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oh, at our age, we should know better, or at our age, we can't do that.
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At our age, you know, we have to do this, this, and this.
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I'm sorry. But every time I hear that at our age, it's a limiting belief to me.
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Whenever we limit our thinking, I think it really does hold us back.
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I need you to realize that it's not too late.
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I've heard people say, I'm not enough, it's too late for me, or I'm too old, or.
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People like me don't go out and do things like that.
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All of those things are limiting beliefs. I've even heard comments of,
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well, if this doesn't get you, this will, or something's always going to get
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you. That's a limiting belief as well.
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You have to realize that there's a lot of opportunity left.
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The opportunity that you have in your 40s, 50s, 60s is just as amazing as it
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was when you're in your 20s.
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The difference is you have wisdom now to seize the opportunity if you can get past your own head.
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Let me get real with you. The biggest reason you haven't reached the next level
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is not your age. It's your mindset.
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Your past circumstances should help you grow, but a lot of times our belief system holds us back.
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Most of us are walking around and we have this little voice inside our head
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telling us that we can't do something.
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You really need to take control of your thoughts.
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You really need to take control of your mindset.
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We didn't choose to have paths that were challenging. We didn't choose the paths
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that maybe knocked us down a few times, or maybe we did.
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That's the funny thing is a lot of times those little choices we make that maybe
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if we would have opened the other door, we would have gone a different way.
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But if you can look at every single one of those choices as a lesson,
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instead of something holding you back, or as don't look at the pain of it,
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look at the lesson of it, you can grow from it.
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You can live every day day by
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day you've got to break the limiting belief patterns though
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in order to succeed so limiting beliefs they're in the back of your head every
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time you try and go and do something that you say you're not strong enough to
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do or you're not flexible enough to do or you can't i don't even allow that
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word honestly the c-a-n-t word in my house.
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Because I tell my children that it's a bad word, and it is. The word can't holds
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back more people than any other word in the English dictionary.
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I say it's the worst word.
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It's worse than the F word in my house. Because when you say the word can't, you never will.
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As soon as you say the word I can't do something, even if you can do it and
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you just don't want to, you never will do it.
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You can say I don't want to do it or I'm unwilling to do it at this time,
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but never say can't because can't creates another limiting belief.
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And limiting beliefs, once you get them in your subconscious,
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they're really hard to get out.
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They're usually negative and fear-based, and people disguise them as facts.
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Like, I can't run a marathon. Actually, you could.
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Most people, if you wanted to run a marathon, you could, because there's people
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that are 100 years old running marathons.
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You haven't trained for it yet, and you could train for it, but you created
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a limiting belief that you can't do it.
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Or, I can't lose weight. People say that all the time.
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But you could. I bet you could. Or I can't make any more money.
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I can't make money. I'm in a dead end job. But you could.
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You could find another job. You could find second jobs. You could find other
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ways to generate income.
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But the limiting belief in your head is holding you back.
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And the thing is, is you don't need to see the world as it currently is.
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You need to believe how it could be. And when you have limiting beliefs,
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a lot of times you can't see the possibility.
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And that's the worst part of limiting beliefs.
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You've got to believe in the possibility before it's ever going to happen for you.
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So in life, when you say I'm too old to start over, I say I'm young enough to start over.
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Or I say I'm young enough with more wisdom. I don't even ever say I'm too old.
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I say I'm 52 years young with lots of wisdom and I'm just getting started. it.
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When people say I'm not smart enough to succeed, you know what?
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I see all the time people that aren't that smart succeeding and making millions
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and millions of dollars.
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You know what they do? They persevere and they don't believe that it's not possible.
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As soon as you believe it's not possible, it is impossible because you believe
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it to be not possible. That's the truth.
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I'm sorry to say, but the only person holding you back from making more money,
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from finding your dream person from getting in the health that you want is you.
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You have so many choices in this world. You have so much to be grateful with.
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You have so many people out there supporting you. We all do,
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honestly, if we're honest with ourselves.
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If we look around and ask for help, there are people to help us.
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If we look around and say, what can I do to change my life? There's always a way out.
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If you're poor and you're looking to make money, the internet has a thousand and ways to make money.
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Books teach people how to make money.
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If you're looking for the person you want and you haven't found them yet, then go work on you.
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But don't set a limiting belief that you'll never find them and you'll just
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get into a depression state and go eat some ice cream. That's not a way to grow.
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I'm trying to help people create more of a growth mindset brain.
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That's kind of what it is. It's like programs.
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It's like a computer program. Until you override that program with a new program.
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The old limiting beliefs, they'll just be there running nonstop.
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Some people say people like me don't get wealthy or I grew up too poor to be wealthy.
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Or if I shine too bright, others will leave me. You can't hold yourself back
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in life. You need to glow.
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You need to shine. You need to be you.
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You need to be the best version of you every day.
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And if you can show up as the best version of you every day, you will be successful.
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Most people don't show up as the best version of themselves except once a month
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or once every couple weeks.
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And then they wonder why they're not fulfilling their life's purpose or finding
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their dreams or making sense of life and life is smacking them around.
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But if you showed up in the best version of you every single day,
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yes, every once in a while you're going to have a bad day.
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Heck, you may have half the month may be bad days, but the other half is going to be good.
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When you show up as the best version of yourself, you'll start to see there's
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less and less bad days and more and more great days.
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I know some people, when they're trying to find their love, they say real love
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doesn't last, but I disagree. Real love...
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It endures the test of time. Some people say I'm too damaged to be loved fully. I don't believe that.
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Personally, I think the people that have gone through the most pain are the ones that love the most.
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I think the people that have gone through the most heartbreak realize what it
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means to have heartbreak, and they don't want anyone else to have to go through that either.
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If you've been damaged, go heal.
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Once you're done healing, go love someone the way you want to be loved.
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You'll find a better love than ever possible.
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Some people say all the good ones are taken. And I've heard that so many times.
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I've had people tell me that, oh, it's hard to find people in your 40s and 50s
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or 60s to have a good relationship with. Here's the thing.
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I think a lot of people that have gotten divorced were the good ones.
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And they're out of their relationship because it didn't fit them.
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And it wasn't a match. And that happens a lot.
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And a lot of times it happens because one partner is a growth-minded person
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and one partner is not. So hopefully I will find the growth minded person and
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I will have faith until I last breath on this planet that I will find my one.
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You find your one by moving towards the direction working on you and making
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your list of what's important to you.
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Once you have a really important list, you will grow too.
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You will find that that list will start to come alive in the people that show
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up around you. If you open up and you get hurt, it's okay.
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I say that with a little bit of tongue in cheek, but I know you were probably hurt before.
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I know you may be a little gun shy or nervous about getting hurt again.
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But the reality is, is if you open yourself up and you let yourself be vulnerable.
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At least you gave it your all.
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I honestly think that the hurt may happen.
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But you'll be resilient through it because it's happened before.
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So now you know what it feels like and you can recover.
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So don't be scared of the hurt. Because what's going to happen is one of these
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times you're going to open yourself to someone pure and someone true.
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And that person's going to be the one.
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So don't be afraid of opening yourself up. Don't be afraid of opening up your heart.
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Because the right person is not going to damage it. The right person is going to love you for you.
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Each one of these beliefs, though, will cause self-sabotage.
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And I've seen it many times where someone comes out of a divorce and they don't
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want to go into another relationship. So every relationship they sabotage.
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They try to search for fault in the other person.
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They're looking for something wrong and they're looking so hard for red flags
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that they miss all the green ones.
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And here's the reality. Everybody's got red flags.
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Everybody does. Everybody's got a couple here and there.
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Something that would maybe make you take pause. The question is,
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is it a non-negotiable? For instance, some people's red flags,
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oh, they're not six foot tall, it's a red flag. No.
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To me, that's not a non-negotiable, but some people it is.
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But don't sabotage a relationship just because they have a couple flaws,
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because everyone has flaws.
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The question is, are they flaws that are non-negotiables? Are they flaws you can live with?
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Not everyone is going to be perfect, but everyone that out there,
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I think, has a perfect person waiting for them.
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But you got to heal yourself and make yourself ready for it first.
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One of the things that I think people think is that they're settling or trying
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to shrink themselves and don't shrink yourself for anyone.
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But at the same time, don't settle.
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You don't have to settle. But does settling mean, oh, you may not get that six
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foot two person, but they have the perfect personality for you?
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Or you want to find a person that has dark hair and blue eyes,
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but you find a blonde instead, and they're just as perfect too.
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Don't give up on yourself.
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I know you can find someone. I know you will find the right person for you,
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but don't overlook the people that are 90 to 95% perfect, because that might
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be your one, as long as you can overlook some of their flaws. So keep your eyes open.
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God's going to deliver someone to you. Just don't pass them up because you self-sabotage.
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I think a lot of times in childhood, we create conditioning that changes our mindset as well.
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For instance, we create conditioning that says only bad people have money.
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That's a limiting belief. Or people are told things about love that you can't
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find true love. It's a myth.
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Or you're never going to make it in life. I've heard that before.
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Or you're not going to be successful.
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All those things are limiting beliefs. What have you been told that you say
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over and over again and you realize it's a limiting belief?
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You're going to have to rewire your brain.
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It's a complete paradigm shift, truly.
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And if you catch yourself telling
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yourself, oh, I'm too old or I can't do that, stop and go out there.
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And find someone that is older than you by 10 years doing what you say you can't do.
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And then follow them. If you really want to do something, you can.
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You can do anything you want in this world. Anything.
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Everything is possible. Everything is at your fingertips. So go look for it and make it happen.
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Live your dreams to the fullest. Life is so short.
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We really need to take advantage of every single day. You need to wake up and
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say, hey, how can I make today the best day possible?
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How can I make today better than yesterday?
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How can I do as much as possible today so that every day the compound effect
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of making every day the best it can be turns into an amazing life?
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And it doesn't take a lot. But you need to get off your phones.
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You need to get off surfing endlessly and swiping up to watch tic-tac videos.
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You need to spend time with the people that matter. You need to go find that love of your life.
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You need to go to the gym You need to go find new ways to make money You need
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to work on you and work on your finances and all the things you want in life
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will come to you There's a lot of things that our culture teaches us and adults
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teach us when we're growing up as well Like there's things that they say are realistic.
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I know when I was out of college I bought my first condo straight out of college
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and my my family told me that I shouldn't be buying anything until I got married
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That just made me madder. So I ended up doing it right away.
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I was trying to find the money to put the down payment down while I found the
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money, and I did it. I went for it, and I ended up making a really good return
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on that first investment.
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Every time someone has told me no or it's not possible, it's almost like I just
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go to try to show them they're wrong.
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I've been kind of a rebel without a cause for a long time, but I will say our
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mindset limiting beliefs are way worse than our cultural norm limiting beliefs.
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Sometimes they say girls can't do that or guys shouldn't do that.
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I say you do what you want to do if it makes you happy.
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Be your authentic self. I think when a person can truly be themselves and not
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care what every single person out there thinks and live their life for them.
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That's when you have true freedom.
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That's when you have true growth. Don't let any past traumas or failures in
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life stop you. If you failed, great.
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What did you learn from it? Go fail again and keep failing until you succeed.
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Don't let your failures hold you back. The people that have succeeded in life
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are the ones that have overcome the most failures.
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That's what we don't realize. People only see the success and they assume they
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got lucky or they got it on the first try, but that's not how life works.
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The people that succeed have failed over and over and over again,
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and they have become resilient, and they've become tough, and they've learned
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lessons, and they've grown.
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That's what I hope for you. That's truly what I wish for you.
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A lot of times in families, you'll see families with
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generational patterns where your parents were always in survival mode.
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So it's just a mindset or a thought process and you can't seem to get out of survival mode.
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You may have made money and then you lost it and you made a lot of money again,
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but then you went back to survival mode.
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Sometimes that's a generational pattern. Sometimes you lose all your money because
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that's just kind of what your norm is. You need to level up.
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Stop staying in survival mode. Figure out how it is to get to success or exceptionalism
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or abundance and figure out how to get there and stay there.
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You need to get to the point where money is not an issue, where money just comes
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to you easily and frequently, and you can generate money out of thin air in
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business that there are ways to constantly make money.
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One of the things I always say is you need to have enough residual income,
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meaning income coming from sources that aren't your job, to pay for all of your
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expenses. That's a basic level.
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If you can get there within a year, you will grow so quickly.
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Your job is extra income. But if you can find other sources of income to pay
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off all of your main expenses and maybe even put some money away on the side
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for savings, you're going to thrive.
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And then every year, just double it and you'll do amazing things in life.
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You know, you may have inherited a belief system that your father or your mother
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died at 55 or 65 or 75. So your expectation is you're not going to live much longer.
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I don't believe that. Just because
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someone else hasn't been able to do it doesn't mean it's not possible.
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Think of the man, Bannister, I believe was his name, that ran the four-minute mile.
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Nobody could do it before. The doctors had a limiting belief stating that,
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oh my gosh, it's not possible.
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Your heart will explode is what they told people. And he went and did it.
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He broke the four-minute mile.
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And then after that, everybody was breaking the four-minute mile.
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He just had to show people it was possible.
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That's the thing. If you believe anything is possible and you keep your mindset
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focused on that, anything will be possible in your life. It will be an amazing life.
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It will be a life worth living. It'll be a life that you will look back and
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say, oh my gosh, pinch me.
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Did I really do all that stuff? Did I make my life as grandiose as I possibly could?
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Did I love deeply? Did I love fully? Did I make a career? I want you to have it all.
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I want you to have the money. I want you to have the family.
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I want you to have the love of your life. I want you to have success with your family.
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I want you to have the summer home and the house and anything that makes you happy.
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If you just want a cottage or a cabin in the woods, go get it and make it happen.
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But this is your life. You get to have, do, and be whoever you want to be.
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And no one, and I mean this truly, not your friends, not your family,
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not your spouse, Not your boyfriend, not your girlfriend should ever tell you
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you can't do something and never mute yourself for other people's approval.
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I think the social media and the Internet has been great, but at times I think
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it adds to the limiting beliefs. You have to look a certain way.
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You have to have your hair a certain way. You have to have the perfectly straight
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hair with the big lips and the big boobs and the big butt.
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That's totally out of proportion. I'm sorry, ladies. I don't know why people's
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butts are so big these days.
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But anyway, it's a limiting belief. But you know what? If that makes you happy, you go do that.
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But does it make you happy? Or are you just following the crowd?
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Are you just trying to be like everyone else because you think that's what it's supposed to be?
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Sometimes social media creates limiting beliefs. Oh, I have to look like a Barbie
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doll with a big butt and big boobs and big lips. and hair down to my butt in
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order to be loved. And that's not true.
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That's so not true. You go be your unique self. Have your purple hair. Have your curly hair.
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Have your nose ring if you want. Have your tiny butt.
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Whatever you want. You go be you and find your partner for you.
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And don't let anyone tell you different.
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Now, sometimes I think people try to be the opposite of everyone else just to
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be different. But I think you should be your authentic self.
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Never shrink your vision, though. whatever your vision is, you go do that.
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Some people don't dream big because they think that it's not possible or they
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want to stay safe. I say make the biggest goals possible. You can do anything.
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There's a saying that we sometimes overestimate what we can do in a year,
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but truly underestimate what we can do in five.
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So what I like to do is I like to set goals and they're not really realistic.
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They're stretch goals. They're goals that push me for my year.
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So it's usually I set a goal and then I double it. And I say,
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if I think I could do that, I could probably double it.
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So I'll set a really big stretch goal, and then I'll double it.
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And that'll be my 12-month dream.
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And then I break it into three-month processes.
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Each quarter, I have to stay on track. And then after that, I do a five-year
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goal. A five-year goal, some people just multiply it times five.
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What would happen if you multiplied it times 50?
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Think about it, because it's possible. So stretch yourself.
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Whatever it is you want, stretch yourself. You can do that with your health,
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too. You can do it with your health. You can do it with your relationships.
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You can do it with your marriage. You can do it with your religion.
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You can do it with your spirituality.
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You can do it with your finances. You can do it with your career.
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But if you don't set goals, and you don't track them, and you don't stay on
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it, you're going to be like all the other people just scrolling through Instagram,
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wasting their lives. You're going to be like the people that don't achieve.
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I hope every person on this planet
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hits their goals, but it seems more and more we're missing the mark.
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And we're losing the level of intelligence that's required to make this civilization
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grow and to make your life grow.
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I think sometimes people will sabotage themselves too.
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I think that they'll hesitate, they'll procrastinate, or they just quit right
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before the results show up.
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If you're holding yourself back or procrastinating or you're working towards
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it and then you got sidetracked.
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See, it's so important to track what you're doing so you keep going and celebrate the little wins.
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Sometimes I think people, they set a goal and, you know, maybe they wanted to
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make a million dollars in a year.
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Set a goal to make a million dollars and you know what? They fell short.
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They only made $600,000.
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But gosh darn it, the year before they only made $60,000 or $100,000.
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Surely they made $600,000. Celebrate that.
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Figure out what you did wrong, but celebrate the wins.
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Figure out how you can make it better next year. But celebrate your wins because
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that'll keep you motivated.
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Don't beat yourself up too much. Don't let limiting beliefs come in.
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Because limiting beliefs are negative, they're fear-based, and they will beat you up.
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Don't create a false identity. I think sometimes there will be people that will
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tell you that you're a certain way, and you believe them.
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Because maybe it's a trusted advisor or a trusted friend. Like,
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oh, you can't do that, you're too old.
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Or, oh, you can't do that, it'll be too embarrassing.
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Or, oh, you can't do that, you're not smart enough. I've had people say that to me before as well.
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And I've always shown them up, because that's what I do. But don't let someone
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else create a false identity for you.
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Sometimes we create our own false identities, too. We say to ourselves,
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I'm not that kind of person. I can't do that.
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Or I can't, I can't. Every I can't is a limiting belief.
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You lie to yourself. The reality is you can do more.
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I hear often, I'm pretty good with technology, but I hear often people say,
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I can't do that. I'm not good with computers.
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You just created a huge limiting belief. Or I don't know anything about social media.
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Or I couldn't do that because I'm not so smart or I couldn't do that because
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I don't have the patience.
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Every one of those is a limiting belief because the reality is if you focus, you can do anything.
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Now, you may not choose to not do something.
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For instance, I had a person tell me the other day that since I swim,
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why don't I go and swim for masters and try to race in competitions?
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I said, well, I could, I just don't want to.
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I've got a lot of other things I'm doing and it's not something that's something
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that's on my list because I do have to say no to some things.
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But if it's something that you want to do, then you shouldn't let anything hold you back.
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Don't let other people tell you what you should be doing either though.
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Like just because I swim doesn't mean I need to be competing in swimming because
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it's not something I have as a passion.
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I am only focused on things that I am passionate about now that I choose to
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do, not what other people tell me to do. because if I wanted to go race, I could.
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I could, and I might even get to the point where I could win some races.
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I just choose not to because that's not my passion and that's not what I'm focused on.
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So remember, when you're creating your list of things you want to do,
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you can do anything you want, but you can't do everything at the same time because
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you will have to be selective.
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And you can do a lot, but focus on the things you're passionate about first
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that you really want to do.
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And then later on, if maybe in 10 years, if I want to go and race and compete
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and kick butt and swimming, I might. But that's not something I'm passionate about right now.
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I'm glad they were rooting for me, but that's their passion,
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not mine. The other thing is, is I say that the more you get,
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you know, you drill down on what you want and eliminate limiting beliefs,
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you're going to attract and align with relationships.
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Now, it doesn't have to be love relationships. It can just be friend relationships
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or relationships of people that will take you to the next level.
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Lean into those relationships. It's kind of like I say that we get signs from
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God or signs from the universe, whatever you believe. when you're really focused
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on a vision or a goal, things will show up to support you.
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Now, I'm not saying it's not going to be hard because you're still going to
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go through trials and tribulations and challenges when you're reaching a goal.
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But things will come to you and they'll just show up almost like magic. It's amazing.
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So look for the signs when you're focused, you're laser focused on that goal.
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Look for the signs and don't let anything hold you back. And you will have such
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magnetism. And I think confidence, just having confidence in your dream and
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your vision will draw people to you.
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Amazing how easy that is. I want you guys to be aware of your limiting beliefs.
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If you ever say, I always or I never or I can't, those are all limiting beliefs.
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I always have to do it this way or I never do that. I would never do that.
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I would never wash my own car.
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I choose not to, but I could wash my own car. And then ask if this is actually true.
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So if somebody says, never run, that might be, but does it have to be true?
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I can't run a marathon because I never run.
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Okay, great. But could you run a marathon?
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Yeah, absolutely you could. You might have to start running a block at a time
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and increase, but there's a way to do it.
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So, and then try to figure out where you learned it from. Now,
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I'm not so big in delving back into my past and saying, oh, I got this from
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my mom, or, oh, I got this from my dad or a friend or whatever.
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But it is kind of nice to see, do I have a lot of limiting beliefs that came from just one person?
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Because a lot of times when we have parents that are overprotective or parents
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that say, oh, don't do that, you're gonna fall.
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Or, oh, don't do that, you're gonna get hurt. Or, oh, don't do that because you're gonna go broke.
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Or don't do that because that might not work. Or don't do that.
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Those types of people will cause a lot of limiting beliefs. If you have friends
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like that, you're going to have limiting beliefs.
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If you have parents like that, you're going to have a ton of limiting beliefs.
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And if you have spouses like that, you're going to have limiting beliefs.
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You need to find someone that says, you know what? Go for it.
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I'll be here to catch you if you fall, but you know what? You go for it.
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You get out there and you try it. That's what I say.
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You trip and fall, get back up.
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Find a different route. So replace some of those limiting beliefs with like,
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I'm too old to I'm just getting started.
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I don't like the phrase, I'm too old, or people our age don't do that,
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or at our age, we shouldn't be doing that. That's a bunch of BS to me.
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A bunch of bullshit. It truly is, because I'm just getting started.
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I feel like I am reborn and that I am a brand new 20-year-old that's just getting
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started in life with a lot of knowledge.
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And then don't say people like me don't do that, because I don't know what that
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means. When people say people like, what is a person like you?
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How do you even know what people like you are? That's such a limiting belief, and it's just...
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Categorically false. People like you, you don't know all the people like you.
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You can be whoever you want to be.
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I could be the first person in my circle, the first person in my heritage to go to college.
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Just because people like you in the past haven't. Maybe people like you didn't
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make a million dollars. Well, you know what? Now you are.
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Your family, none of your family members did, but who the heck cares?
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You did. Or maybe you become a billionaire.
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People like you can do anything. People like you do do anything.
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You just need to choose to make it happen.
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Practice the new belief. You've got to do affirmations. You've got to journal
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and you've got to do what's called mirror work.
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So write down some affirmations that will be positive.
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I'm not going to go through a bunch of affirmations, but you can do your research.
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A lot of people have come up with some really positive affirmations.
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Then I want you to write them down three times in the morning,
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three times at lunch, and three times in the evening.
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If you don't have your journal with them, write them down on a piece of paper,
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just get them out. Have three affirmations that you write down three times, three times a day.
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Okay. And then do your mirror work. I want you to say the affirmations in the
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mirror, a minimum of one time a day.
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So this will help you grow in 30 days. If you haven't achieved,
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gotten closer to your goals, you'll, I would be shocked.
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So affirmations, journals, mirror work, do those three things every single day
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and you'll get closer to your goals.
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Eventually, you'll hit your goals.
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Speak your future into reality as if it's already here. So when you're writing
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your affirmations, don't say, I would like to have a million dollars.
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Say, I have a million dollars in my bank account right now and I enjoy looking at it.
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That's something that's happened right now. Say it if it's already there.
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Then do one small thing every day to align with your goals. If you have that
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health goal to hit in 60 days, what are you doing today to make that happen?
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What are you going to do tomorrow to make that happen? If you have a goal to
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make $2,000 this month in unexpected income, what are you going to do today to make that happen?
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There's a lot of ways to make $2,000 in a month.
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With all the internet choices, with writing books, with doing other things,
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getting a second job, you can make an extra $2,000 a month if you chose to.
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So do one small thing every day to align with your new belief.
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Action will confirm belief.
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It makes it real when you take action towards the right things.
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Then surround yourself with people that expand. And be around people that have
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these mental mindsets that anything is possible.
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Don't surround yourself with people that are afraid, people that are victims,
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people that complain a lot. Because they will suck you down into their abyss.
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I call it the abyss because it is almost like they're so stuck in complaining
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and misery, they will never find their way out.
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You can give them a hand and try to pull them out if you want,
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but don't let them pull you down into it. And if they don't come out willingly,
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sometimes you just need to let them go or find them help.
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But don't be the one that gets pulled back into the abyss. Normalize your greatness.
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Okay, you need to normalize that you're going to be great in life.
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You can visualize yourself being amazing. Visualize yourself being great.
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Don't be cocky about it and don't let your ego take over. But at the same time,
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you should be able to see how great you're going to be.
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Because it's going to be amazing. The more energy you can put behind that expansion,
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and the vision of who you're going to be and who you are becoming,
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then the action you take towards that every day, along with the journaling and
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the visualization and the affirmations and mirror work, it's going to come very
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quickly, probably quicker than you expected.
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Now, don't get shy when it shows up. Don't feel awkward or nervous,
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because that's what you wanted. Remember the confidence that you're going to
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hold through the process because it's coming your way.
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So I hope this helped a little bit. I want you to raise your goals.
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I want you to eliminate as many limiting beliefs as you can.
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Now, there are some limiting beliefs that serve as like don't touch a hot stove.
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But most of the limiting beliefs are ones that hold us back.
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So upgrade your mindset and I think your whole game will change in life.
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I think you're going to be hitting all your goals. You'll hit all your dreams.
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It's never too late. You're just getting started. and you're not too broken.
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If you have health concerns, go find someone that's healthy.
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Go find someone that's living a healthy lifestyle and has a healthy mindset.
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And if you need somebody to help you with finances, go hang around people that make money.
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If you want to get in shape, go hang around people that work out in the gym and eat well.
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Don't go hang out with people that are in a pizza place and expect to get in shape.
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Now, don't get me wrong, I do love Italian, But don't do that if that's what you're expecting.
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You're powerful beyond measures, but I think sometimes we let other people influence
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us in the wrong ways. Your new life has already begun.
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Every single day is a new chance to be exactly who you want to be. So go grab it.
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Go be who you want to be. So I hope that helped. Your day is here. It's already started.
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What are you going to do with it? This is Diva Mia. Make it a great day.
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