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23: Are You Manifesting Wrong? What Your Human Design Says · Rewild by Design

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to ReWild by Design, podcast for women in midlife who are ready to burn the rule book, drop the good girl mask, and come home to who they really are.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host Marissa, a human design and gene keys mentor, and your guide in this wild woman era.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get ready for bold conversations, raw truths, and the kind of insights that'll shake you awake.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because midlife isn't the end of your story, it's the point where you finally get to write it your way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to Rewild by Design.
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  SPEAKER_00: No video today because your girl is tired as fuck, and I didn't feel like setting up my whole shebang because I just wanted to get this message out to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been around the manifestation world for like more than five minutes, you've probably heard some of the same advice going around, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like get really specific about what you want, what you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make that vision board.
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  SPEAKER_00: You got to visualize it every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like take inspired action or detach from your outcome or like feel like you already have it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's nothing wrong with any of these tools or ways to manifest.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because look, I absolutely love manifestation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have been interested in this shit for years, long before I even learned about human design.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I have zero problem with making the vision board.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shit, my Pinterest boards are, let's say we've got lots of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But look, the deeper I've gotten into human design, the more I've started to question why we talk about manifestation as if everybody is supposed to do it the same damn way, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we don't do anything else in the same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we don't all make the same decisions, we don't all notice the same things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we all don't like feel the same in certain environments, and we don't respond to opportunities in the same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why should we all manifest the same way?
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's a lot of what I've been playing with this year.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I want to talk about is where to find these things in the human design chart and why I don't think like a lot of people are talking about this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, one of the biggest things for me in manifestation is and what helped me when I looked at my human design chart and I had that like aha moment is specificity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ooh, that's a hard one to say.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because how many times have you heard that you need to get super specific about what you're manifesting, what you're calling in?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you want more money, just pick that number, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want a new house, describe it in detail.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want a new relationship, write out every single quality that that person has, that that new partner has that you want to see.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look, there are people who absolutely love doing that and it works for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: They can tell you exactly what their dream house looks like, the neighborhood, the kitchen, the backyard.
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  SPEAKER_00: They can see like how much money is in their bank account, the type of business that they're running, the schedule that they have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then there's people like me who start doing that and almost feel completely boxed in, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe they know they want more freedom and they know they want a house where their family can spread out and they can drink coffee outside every morning and feet that feeling of like, holy shit, this is mine, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And they know that they want work that gives them more control over their time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, right, you know the general direction, but you don't necessarily have the entire picture.
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  SPEAKER_00: Human design shows us the difference there, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And like when I first saw that, I was like, what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, the and it's can be something as basic as get specific about what you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that may work differently depending on the person.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't want you to think that you've been doing manifestation wrong, but I want to have you think about that maybe we're not all meant to follow the same instructions, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So another example that I started playing with with my human design chart is where I'm physically located and when things started to happen, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we can talk a lot about what's happening inside of us, and that's a huge part of manifestation, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The frequency that we carry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what are you thinking?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you believe?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's your energy like?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, how are you visualizing?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, are you tracking in a journal?
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  SPEAKER_00: But meanwhile, like I'm over here, like, but where the hell are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because your physical surroundings are part of your life too.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's this like holistic picture.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't just live in a vacuum of like inside your thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_00: As much as this 2-4 would love to just like hide in my hermit hole, that's not how life works.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, there are certain kinds of environments where different people tend to function better, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of us do beautifully when you have control over your space and can be very selective about who comes into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people light up when they're around, lots of activity and exchange.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people need space away from everyone else so they can actually see a bird's eye view of what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then where others thrive in places where different people, ideas, or worlds are constantly crossing paths.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I don't want to go like too far down the rabbit hole here because then I would be yapping forever.
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  SPEAKER_00: But once I added this to my lens of manifestation, girl, I couldn't unsee it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I think about how often we're told to put ourselves in rooms where the opportunities can find us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, but which rooms?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, because like you could I can put two people in the exact same networking event.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one of them will leave with three new connections, a new business idea, and the other will leave completely depleted, wondering why she paid$200 to yell over bad music for two hours.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that doesn't automatically mean that she needs to push herself harder or become more outgoing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe that space just wasn't useful for her, and that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, there's another part of manifestation that we don't really talk about, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like when we're calling things in, what happens when that thing actually shows up?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you say you want a new job, the recruiter contacts you, you say you want more visibility, someone invites you to speak at their event, you say you want more clients, a potential lead lands in your inbox, or you say you're ready for that relationship of your dreams, someone asks you out, and this is usually where the manifestation story ends, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I manifested it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, but do you actually want that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the fact that something appeared in your field doesn't necessarily mean that you have to say yes to it, especially for my projector friends, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we get the recognition and the invitation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not all invitations are created equal.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the same goes for other types as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I think we forget this part because we've been clinging and asking for something for such a long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then finally something shows up and resembles a little bit of what we asked for, and suddenly there's this feeling of like, oh shit, this must be it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe, maybe not.
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  SPEAKER_00: You still get to make a choice and a decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the way that you like land on that decision can look wildly different from somebody else sitting right next to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people have a very immediate physical response to something in the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whereas some people need to give themselves time to feel into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of us get a quick instinct that's so quiet.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we let our brains talk us out of it, we miss it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so there are several ways that this works, depending on your design, which means manifestation can bring the opportunity to your door.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you still have to decide whether you're going to open that door.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love this because it gives you some of that agency back, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to treat every opportunity like a cosmic assignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, I am a woo-woo girl through and through, but we are living in a 3D physical world.
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  SPEAKER_00: We still get choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, and when we're talking about like recognizing things, this is another piece of human design that I find completely fascinating.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like, I nerd out on this.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why I do this work, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We all notice different things.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all have intuitive spidey senses that are different from each other, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, like how you can walk into a room with somebody, and the two of you pick up on completely different things.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of you notices the music, someone else notices the lighting or how the room feels, or someone tunes right in on the other people in that space.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, you can walk into this room and you can't explain it, but you say, like, I don't know, there's just something off or weird about this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of times we've been told to brush that off, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: But your human design, your energy map has the information about the way that you naturally take in all of this information.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's your cognition.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, remember learning about this, and I was thinking, oh my God, how fucking cool is that?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, and manifestation culture, we love the signs.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am a girly who loves a sign.
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  SPEAKER_00: I fucking see angel numbers all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you ask for a sign, you get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We wait for the synchronicities.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, that can be really fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I like to blend that with some more concrete, like physical of like what catches your attention?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you picking up on already?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like trusting yourself in that moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like, what does your body notice before your brain has a chance to tell you, oh girl, like you're just making that up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: But these are the clues that your chart can tell you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then a lot of times we can align with all of these wonderful things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we can manifest till we're blue in the face, but there's also pieces that can pull us off track.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is not a bad thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not here to shame the parts of us that maybe are in the shadow or the parts of us that are open to conditioning, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is there are so many tiny moments of your life that add up to this manifestation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like what not only what you're asking for, like what you notice and where you are when you notice it, and then what you're doing when that opportunity appears.
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  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes this baggage comes with you too, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you can manifest that bigger income and immediately start questioning whether you deserve it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can finally get that opportunity and feel like you need to like grab onto it before someone changes their mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you can create the freedom you've been asking for, but then somehow fill every empty space with more work because it feels uncomfortable to sit in the ease.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can meet somebody amazing and immediately start worrying about how they feel about you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, getting the thing and your manifestation doesn't magically make all of that disappear, but it can make it easier to see and notice those patterns.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's these are the things that we talk about on this podcast is noticing these patterns and choosing differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: And manifesting through the lens of human design gives us something concrete that is unique to our design.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've only touched on a few pieces here today because I just wanted to drop in while it was fresh in my mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: And but honestly, human design isn't just about, you know, like learning the mechanics, and you have to, you know, start from the top and go to the bottom, and you need to know all of the pieces before you can like live your best life.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, human design using that as a lens for manifestation can help you co-create your dream life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's exactly how the magnetism map came about.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had people ask me about this: like, where did you come up with this?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I did is looking at so many charts over the years, I wanted to take the pieces of your human design and look at them specifically through manifestation and magnetism.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you get your magnetism map, it's created from your individual chart, not mine, not somebody down the street, yours, your mechanics, what your energy map has to say.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you get to see how some of these things work for you, how you naturally attract what you desire, how you repel other opportunities that are not for you, how you can recognize these for one, and like where you might be picking up from your surroundings around you, where you might be like open to conditioning and what you know pulls you off course from your manifestations.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's so much more, like I said, that I haven't talked about today.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you spent any part of this episode like curious and wondering, okay, like what does mine say?
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  SPEAKER_00: Go check out the magnetism map.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll link it in the show notes.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to start experimenting with it because it's one thing, and this is something that I will preach till I'm blue in the face.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's one thing to learn about your design.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's another thing to implement it and live it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'd be really curious what you notice when you stop assuming manifestation has to look the same for everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't want to yap too much longer.
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  SPEAKER_00: But again, if you have any questions, you want, find me on Instagram, find me on TikTok.
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  SPEAKER_00: My DMs are open, send me an email.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would love to hear what resonated with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And be sure if this episode really landed with you, share it with somebody.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, let's spread this word out there about how human design we can make it practical and we can use it to drop those good girl masks and actually rewild our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, that's it for this episode of Rewild My Design.
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  SPEAKER_00: I trust that you got what you needed here today.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just remember, you don't need another checklist.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need your own voice back.
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  SPEAKER_00: So go out, live a little louder, a little freer, and a hell of a lot more like yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll see you next time.