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Unfriending · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, have
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  Speaker 1: you ever unfriended someone in person that you liked because
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  Speaker 1: of what you saw on their social media pages?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas, Mama Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama's Terry Needeville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burleson. You know, there are lots of people that
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  Speaker 1: and I can think of several in my mind right
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  Speaker 1: now that I genuinely like them in person, and I've
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  Speaker 1: worked with some of them in the past of you know,
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  Speaker 1: soccer teams, other things, right, And yet when I see
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  Speaker 1: their social media pages, they come across on social media
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  Speaker 1: as just hateful or vile. But I've never dropped the friendship.
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  Speaker 1: Have you guys ever run across this?
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  Speaker 3: I too, have never dropped the friendship over politics ever.
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  Speaker 3: But uh, the blogger, what's the story about the blogger
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  Speaker 3: that was talking about being on the playground?
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  Speaker 4: Oh okay, So this mom, she looked like she was
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  Speaker 4: probably like mid thirties. She talked about this story where
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  Speaker 4: she had this you know, she and her daughter went
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  Speaker 4: to the playground and her daughter and how kids meet.
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  Speaker 4: So the daughter meets another little girl, and they start playing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: so the mom start talking. She said, it was a
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  Speaker 4: pleasant conversation. They had a lot in common, and they
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  Speaker 4: exchanged you know, their social media, Like, yeah, the two
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  Speaker 4: moms did. She had to go to the car for
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  Speaker 4: something and she came back and the other lady was like,
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  Speaker 4: told her kid, you know we're going to leave now,
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  Speaker 4: shed Oh are you leaving? And she said, basically, I
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  Speaker 4: looked at your social media and I don't think we
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  Speaker 4: have a lot in common.
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  Speaker 1: And so even though they'd been talking for a half hour,
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  Speaker 1: click so completely closed.
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  Speaker 4: So she gets in the car and she's telling all
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  Speaker 4: of us, She's like, you know, there's something lost here.
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  Speaker 4: We had a wonderful conversation. We you know, like if
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  Speaker 4: you're going to drop somebody because you look at and
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  Speaker 4: see who she voted for. You look at her politics.
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  Speaker 4: There's she said, I don't even put anything really political,
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  Speaker 4: nothing vile, nothing at all.
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  Speaker 1: She was a sour dough blogger.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah I got yeah, she said that's what she said.
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  Speaker 4: And she said, so I mean, she said, I mean whatever,
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  Speaker 4: no loss for me. It is what it is. But
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  Speaker 4: people need to go out and touch grass, get to
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  Speaker 4: know people, and forget about the politics, But studies have
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  Speaker 4: shown that the Republican side, they don't drop.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't happen.
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  Speaker 4: It happens on the on the other side, normally it's
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  Speaker 4: like a ninety ten percent. It's like if anybody drops anybody,
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  Speaker 4: it's going to be a leftist who drops their conservative
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  Speaker 4: friend because they cannot handle it. Whereas I have seen
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  Speaker 4: things that have said about, you know, Trump voters, and
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  Speaker 4: it's kind of in a vile way. They's very disgraceful.
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  Speaker 4: In my mind, I'm thinking, well, she's not talking about
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  Speaker 4: me because we're friends. I kind of rationalize it like
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  Speaker 4: that because when I see them in person, it's all wonderful,
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  Speaker 4: and they're wonderful to me, and I'm wonderful to them.
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  Speaker 4: So I think she just has strong opinions and she
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  Speaker 4: puts it out there because that's how she believes. But
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  Speaker 4: I cannot take it personally, even though it's hard, I
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  Speaker 4: can't take it personally because I'm thinking, there's no way
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  Speaker 4: I did have a friend drop me because I was
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  Speaker 4: sad about Charlie Kirk.
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  Speaker 1: I've had a friend, that high school friend who dropped
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  Speaker 1: me because we've been talking back and forth about climate
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  Speaker 1: change for a couple of months, and he eventually decided
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  Speaker 1: that I was racist because I didn't think that climate
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  Speaker 1: change was man made. And so he dropped me as
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  Speaker 1: a friend online. And we had been we had been
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  Speaker 1: high school friends, right, and that one I still can't
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  Speaker 1: figure out. But I didn't drop him. Yeah he dropped me.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, she dropped me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't.
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  Speaker 4: I don't never.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the crazy thing about you were just talking about,
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  Speaker 3: like this is just a friend that dropped you. This
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  Speaker 3: was a close family, sister friend. This is a person
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  Speaker 3: where knows Terry's husband who is a doctor, took care
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  Speaker 3: of her husband when he needed it, got them in
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  Speaker 3: the er quickly. This is like a close friend that
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  Speaker 3: was willing to drop the friendship because Terry was so
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  Speaker 3: upset about Charlie Kirk.
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  Speaker 4: And I didn't even say anything political. She got on
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  Speaker 4: there and she said, I didn't know you aligned yourself
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  Speaker 4: with a racist and I said, he's not. I said,
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  Speaker 4: you're The media is pulling out clips and they're not
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  Speaker 4: giving the full context because you know me, you know
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  Speaker 4: my heart, you know I would never align myself with
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  Speaker 4: a racist. The next thing I know, she defriended me,
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  Speaker 4: and it broke my heart.
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  Speaker 3: But I thought you know me too, because I'm the sister.
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  Speaker 4: Sure, yes, yeah, yeah, so you got to stand up.
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  Speaker 4: I really I think that in the end, I truly,
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  Speaker 4: because she does know me. I think she'll regret dropping
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  Speaker 4: the friendship. I never done anything, but I'm not going
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  Speaker 4: to ever be one to beg anyone for their friends.
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  Speaker 4: I'm never going to come back and say, hey, can
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  Speaker 4: we start. That's not who I am. It's just you know,
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  Speaker 4: I'm a lady. It's going to back out and not
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  Speaker 4: say anything. But if they ever needed me, I'll be there.
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  Speaker 1: And this is this is one of the main reasons
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  Speaker 1: why I don't drop people on social media, because you know,
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  Speaker 1: I think of it from from in weather. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I'd be on television with weather and most days, as
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  Speaker 1: you're a meteorologist, it's sunny and you're fine, no problems.
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  Speaker 1: But there's that one opportunity if there's a tornado coming
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  Speaker 1: for somebody's house, you may have one chance to give
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  Speaker 1: that person a piece of information that could save their life. Right,
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  Speaker 1: you may have one opportunity, and I never wanted to
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  Speaker 1: waste that one opportunity. But now I don't think of
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  Speaker 1: it just in weather terms, but I think of it
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  Speaker 1: in terms of my faith. So I never want to
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  Speaker 1: drop someone for political reasons or faith reasons or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: because I never know if I'm gonna get one opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to show somebody something about Jesus that could save their soul,
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  Speaker 1: I may only get one opportunity, and so I never
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  Speaker 1: want to do something where I'm dropping them that would
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  Speaker 1: cancel my opportunity to do that in the future. And
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  Speaker 1: so yeah, I won't drop it. So y'all can say
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  Speaker 1: whatever you want. I can dropping if you like. Ask
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  Speaker 1: your American Mama is a question God. Our website American
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  Speaker 1: ask the Mama's button. Terry Out, Kimber, the Brothers, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you,