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Aspergers And Emotions This Is Why Autistic People Have Issues WIth Emotion · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So Aspergers and emotions? OK, we've got a lot to colour.
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  Hey guys, welcome back to the aspy world.
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  My name is Dan, I have Asperger Syndrome, ADHD, OCD, and
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  Anyway, how's it going guys? Welcome.
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  Awesome to have you guys here and see everybody just chilling
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  out, having a good time. Now this video is all about
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  Aspergers and emotions because autistic people have huge issues
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  trying to portray their emotions, communicate their
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  emotions and talk about things emotionally.
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  So people on the Austin Spectrum have difficulty with levels of
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  communication, right? So you could be able to
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  communicate really well verbally and have a conversation about a
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  topic of interest, but when you try to describe how you're
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  feeling, it may be a bit blurred.
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  So autistic people really see things as black and white, you
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  know, that either is everything or nothing.
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  There's no kind of in between part.
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  But emotions are more complex than black and white.
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  It's not just happy and sad, there's happy and sad.
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  There's miserable as Moody. Then they're slightly happy.
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  There's content, there's satisfaction, there's
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  comfortable, there's loads of different types of emotions.
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  And with that comes a conundrum. You have a person whose brain is
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  wired to just see black and white and have like happy and
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  sad, but then they have these feelings that are in the Gray
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  part in the middle and have no way of of explaining these.
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  So autistic people usually will get into trouble with the way
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  that they can't communicate their emotion, feelings.
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  You know, how how are they feeling?
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  How they What is the ability to know oneself and one's feelings
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  and then how do you unearth project that to somebody and
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  tell them how you feel? So this could be difficult for
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  people in relationships. It could be difficult for any
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  type of relationship. If you're a parent and your kids
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  on the spectrum and you don't have a feeling and you're asking
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  them and they're getting frustrated because they can't
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  tell you, it's because they they haven't the ability to
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  communicate how they feel. But there are ways around it.
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  You can use symbols and symbol kind of sheets.
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  So you could use emojis to say like, pick the emoji that best
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  describes how you feel, how you feeling.
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  Or just use an emoji to tell me how you feel right now or what's
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  going on. And that emoji will represent a
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  feeling and an emotion. And that feeling and emotion
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  would be the best way for you to kind of digest that.
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  Another way is to have like a piece of paper with like happy
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  and sad, and then a line in the middle to show the Gray area bit
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  and say like, this is really happy, this is really sad.
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  Where are you on this scale? And get them to like draw an X
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  on the scale. That way you'll gauge where they
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  are, where their emotions are. I know it's very basic and quite
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  a primitive way of doing it. But when you're dealing with the
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  fact that autistic people, you know, we have issues trying to
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  communicate those issues at the best of times, let alone when
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  you are. You know, maybe you're having an
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  overload, maybe you're having a meltdown, maybe you're feeling
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  sad or angry or the all kinds of stuff going on at that moment in
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  time when you're trying to explain your emotions.
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  Now, emotions also come from the fact that you know how other
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  people feel. You can put yourself in their
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  perspective and then you can also kind of guess how they're
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  feeling from stuff. But autistic people cannot do
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  this because knowing what another person is doing is kind
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  of like the unwritten rules of society that nobody tells you.
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  You have to kind of just pick this up.
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  And for autistic people, it's difficult to communicate that
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  because it's not how our brains are wired.
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  Other than that also checking out people's faces for emotions.
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  You can convey emotion through your face, but autistic people
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  can't read this signal from people's faces.
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  So you can just imagine when it comes to an autistic person
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  trying to communicate how they feel through their face and
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  their facial expressions, it's never going to happen because if
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  you can't communicate it verbally, then you won't be able
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  to communicate it through your facial expressions.
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  This is why those icons and images are probably the best way
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  to communicate certain ways of feelings and emotions to another
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  person because of the way that people deal with emotions and
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  feelings. Now, you know, the take away
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  from this basically is that autistic people do need a little
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  bit of extra time, support and help when dealing with emotions.
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  And it's not to go in organs blazing and being like, hey, you
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  know, you guys need to do this, do that, blah blah, blah.
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  It's more like an understanding, OK, I understand that, you know,
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  you have a difficulty with emotions.
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  You can't read facial expressions, you can't explain
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  your emotional feelings and to communicate your emotions.
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  It's a difficult task. So find ways around it, find
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  ways of communicating. It's all part of this kind of
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  understanding, perspective that you'll have when you go, OK, I
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  get it, They, they can't understand like that.
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  So let's do it another way. Like I said, try use emojis, try
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  use icons, try and use symbols, try and use the chat.
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  There are so many different ways.
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  Communication isn't just a one set thing for everybody.
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  You know, just think about yourself.
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  I'm sure there's other ways that you don't communicate the same
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  as somebody else, right. And because of that, you need to
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  just give that leeway to people on the Austin Spectrum and just
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  say like, OK, well, I get it. Now if you have anything to add
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  to this conversation, pop it in a comment down below.
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  I'd love to. Yeah, have have that
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  conversation with you and I read every comment so that's super
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  because that would be awesome. Alright guys, take it easy, I'll
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  see you in the next one. Peace.