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The Why Not Today? Podcast - Season 3 - Episode 8 with Leslie Kuster, Back From Bali, Author "7 Keys to 7 Figures" · Why Not Today? with Leslie Kane

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  Welcome to the Why Not Today podcast where we celebrate determination, courage, and the
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  power of saying why not today.
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  I am your host Lesley Cain and in each episode we dive into inspiring stories of individuals
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  who have taken bold steps, faced their fears, and embraced the possibility of today.
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  From entrepreneurs to artists, dreamers and doers, we explore the moments when they said
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  enough waiting and why not today.
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  Join me as we uncover the heartwarming, the audacious, the transformative, whether it's
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  pursuing a lifelong passion, overcoming obstacles, or simply choosing joy.
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  Our guests share their journey and inspire us all.
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  I started this podcast and honor my father, Patrick Cain, who often did say why not today.
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  And I always remember you're just one decision away from changing your life.
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  So I'm excited for my guest tonight today and it's funny, her name is Lesley Custer.
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  So when the person introduced us, she's like, I can't even say Lesley K because we're both
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  Lesley Ks.
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  So there's just like a few dishes, letters in our name that separate us.
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  So I always talk about where we connected and where we met.
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  So I had on the podcast Laura Carney who wrote a book and then she did something with Stacy
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  Lorne who will be on the podcast.
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  We haven't had her yet who has a Facebook group and it's called do the thing.
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  Which is very much an alignment of why not today.
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  So I talked to her one day and she's like, oh my gosh, I need to meet my friend and talk
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  to my friend Lesley Custer.
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  So Lesley had me on her podcast and now she's here and she's written a book and got all
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  kinds of courage stuff that we're going to talk about.
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  And so, and of course her name is Belle Deexxing.
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  The first name is Dexxing is mine.
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  So isn't that even double fun?
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  So Lesley, why don't you introduce yourself a little bit about seeing a fun fact and then
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  we'll get into the courage.
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  Yeah, thanks so much for having me.
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  I'm so happy to be here.
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  So my name is Lesley Custer.
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  I am the founder and CEO of a women's clothing line called Back from Bali and it's women's
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  like bohemian style clothing and you could find it on Amazon and on my website.
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  And because of the success of the business, which honestly took me a really long time
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  to be successful, but when I became successful, I decided to really focus in on how in the
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  world I did it.
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  And so I wrote a book called Seven Keys to Seven Figures, the Women Entrepreneurs Guide
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  to Money and Freedom.
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  Love it.
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  And I can't wait to hear all your stories.
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  And some people are listening and some people are watching because we do both.
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  Is that one of your shirts?
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  Yeah, matter of fact, it is.
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  There you go.
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  So you have a little bit of like, you know, this kind of looking here and you have a lot
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  of like hand-done embroidery.
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  I do a lot of like loose, comfortable, colorful, a lot of, you know, stuff for resort or going
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  traveling or that type of thing too.
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  So I need to, I know, although I started reading your book and know about it, I haven't
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  Google to look at or look at Amazon shopping.
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  Back from Bali on Amazon or my website or Instagram, you know, all those places.
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  All right.
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  So what's a fun fact about Lesley?
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  Oh, right.
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  Okay.
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  Fun fact is that in the last year, I have become a pickable addict.
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  I mean, literally an addict.
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  So my husband and I, we play definitely six days a week anywhere from, you know, an hour
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  and a half to two hours to sometimes three hours a day.
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  And it's just, I just have fallen in love with it.
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  So anyone who doesn't know pickable, go play it.
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  It's so much fun.
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  And that's funny that I know people, other people that have played it and pretty much
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  everybody that says they started finished just like you did that they're addicted.
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  Yeah.
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  It's so interesting.
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  This part of it.
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  Yeah.
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  I'm not tried.
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  Maybe one day I will.
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  I was going to want to finish grad school.
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  I was going to start tennis and somebody gave me a tennis racket and then I was traveling
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  all the time for work and got quote unquote tennis or tendonitis and I had to have surgery.
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  So that was the end of that career.
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  But that was the one time.
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  I hopefully have recovered.
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  So Leslie, what does courage mean to you?
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  You know, I love the topic of your show because this is the question that we all have to ask
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  ourselves like, are we going to make changes in our lives or are we not going to make changes
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  in our lives?
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  And so this is what I think courage means to me.
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  Courage means to me, you get in a place in your life where you feel disappointed in yourself
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  or you're unhappy with your life.
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  You're happy with your business, your money, your relationship where you live, how you
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  feel as a person, whatever it is.
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  And you have the courage to go and change it.
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  And that is what courage means to me too.
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  There's too many people sitting on the sidelines and just waiting for life to happen to them.
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  And my experience has been you have to make life happen to you.
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  I mean, life happens and all kinds of challenges happen, but it's really our attitude towards
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  those challenges that really define our lives and make the beautiful life we have or don't
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  have.
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  Yeah, so true.
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  And I think, yes, your definition is so in alignment with what I'm doing with this podcast
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  and the courage coaching that I'm working on that so many people are just stuck.
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  I found a lot of unsettling in the world right now and people are like, what's next?
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  Or I'm not happy.
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  I was on a leadership call the other day and because I'm right outside of DC, there's
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  a lot of government employees.
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  And I've never heard this, but people literally have clocks on their death, their countdown
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  clocks waiting to retire.
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  Wow.
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  Like thinking work is a terrible thing.
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  And it's like, you know, I love what I do.
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  And I'm excited to work because I'm doing things I enjoy and living my life and so many
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  people are not, which is so sad.
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  Yeah, no, that's so sad to hear something like that.
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  But at the same time, I understand it.
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  And I also lived that kind of life at some point many years ago when I was working in
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  corporate, I was working in New York City in public relations and had all these corporate
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  clients.
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  And you know, Monday morning was the worst day, you know, sat Sunday night and Monday
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  mornings were my worst days.
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  And I live that for, you know, I don't know, maybe around about six years or seven years,
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  something like that.
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  And then in my early thirties, I went traveling because actually something happened in New
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  York City.
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  I got robbed and I also had money because of being robbed from the insurance.
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  And I said, you know what, I'm quitting and I'm going to go traveling.
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  And I traveled.
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  I knew you traveled.
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  I wasn't sure how you got.
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  That was when I started my business back from Bali was because of that.
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  Let's talk about that story.
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  And it's not probably that that pivotal moment happens that completely changes our life.
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  And like, that was a bad thing that happened that turned out to be an amazing thing.
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  So let's talk about, you know, you're working corporate America, working the rat race.
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  And then you got robbed and what happened.
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  And then I got robbed and I, you know, got a whole, a whole check here and I had always
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  wanted to go traveling.
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  I had just kind of separated from my first husband.
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  So I was sort of single at the time.
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  And I always wanted to travel to Indonesia.
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  I just, why I have no idea, Leslie.
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  I saw like this group of islands on the map and I was like, I want to go there.
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  But let me tell you, it took some courage to do that.
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  I was single, I was alone.
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  You went by yourself?
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  I went all by myself.
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  Wow, good for you.
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  Yeah.
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  And it was scary and it definitely took courage.
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  And I remember being on the airplane going over and I think all the fear just left me.
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  It was all the beginning before getting on the plane.
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  That was the scary part.
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  But once I was on the plane and once I landed and all of that, I was like, this is fun.
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  And that took courage to do that.
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  I could have just stayed in New York City and gotten another job or did something, I don't
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  know, waitressing to get out of the corporate world.
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  But I jumped on the airplane by myself.
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  So all of these courageous things that we're talking about, this is what leads you to the
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  next step.
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  And I had no idea that out of this trip that I took, that it would actually turn into my
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  career.
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  And that's what happened.
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  What a pivotal moment.
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  And the courage to travel and to get on that plane.
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  And it's like, once you do, you're okay.
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  I was with my nephew this weekend and when COVID happened, he worked virtually and asked
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  his boss if he could move to San Diego, which he did.
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  And actually, even before he did that, he traveled all by himself to Europe.
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  And he does that all the time.
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  He just like, where's Sam?
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  I don't know.
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  He jumped on a plane.
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  He's in South America.
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  He's a Y surfing.
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  He's been to Australia once to be.
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  And he's like, I traveled by myself and I go to a barn.
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  I meet a new friend and then hang out with them.
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  And there's a whole world, but we're all afraid.
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  We're all waiting for that person to go with us.
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  And if we keep waiting, you'll never do it.
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  You have to not wait.
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  I had an experience very early in life where my boyfriend died in a car accident.
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  And it was that experience of when I was 17, it really got drilled into me at that time
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  that you never know what's going to happen.
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  You really don't even know if you're going to have your life any longer.
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  And that experience has stayed with me my entire life.
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  And I always ask myself that question, like, what, you know, I want to do something.
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  And if I don't do this thing, and then who knows what's going to happen in life.
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  I may never even have this opportunity any longer.
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  So I always pushed myself to do courageous things.
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  And I've done many, many, many courageous things actually moving to another country,
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  you know, building a huge business takes a lot of courage.
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  Moving back back to America.
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  Recently, we just relocated back to the United States after 20 years living in Switzerland.
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  Oh, wow.
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  That took a lot of courage actually because we lived a really comfortable life.
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  Heinz, he was working full time.
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  So I had a husband with a full time job.
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  We had a boarder's apartment.
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  We had lots of friends.
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  You know, we lived in Switzerland, which is a very comfortable lifestyle.
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  Right.
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  Nothing was wrong with our lives.
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  And we, I just, it mostly came from me.
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  I wanted to change and I wanted to like come back to the United States.
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  And it wasn't easy at all to do this.
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  It was really, really hard to tell you the truth.
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  But we did it and now we're here and I'm so glad I did.
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  And I can see the smile on your face.
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  You light up being glad to be back.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  So yeah, let's talk about, so you went to Indonesia and then I know from reading your
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  book, you came back and decided this is not the world you wanted.
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  So you started business.
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  So let's talk about that.
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  And how long ago was that?
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  It was like a really long time ago.
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  It was about like in the early 90s.
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  So, you know, what is it?
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  It's like 30 years ago, something like that.
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  And yeah, I came back to New York.
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  I had traveled for seven months and I needed just to go to job again.
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  And so I was looking through the New York Times, which is the way you looked for jobs
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  back then on a physical newspaper.
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  And I was like, I just don't want to do this.
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  And I had this light bulb moment that went, hmm, I wonder if I could bring back clothing
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  from Indonesia that I saw when I was traveling, and particularly in Bali, I saw like really
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  cute kids clothes.
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  That was that teak with like moons and stars and all kinds of oranges and colors and things.
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  And I just thought, why don't I give it a try?
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  Like, why not?
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  Why not today?
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  Exactly.
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  I think it was either this or it was getting a job.
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  And getting a job again was just, I so much didn't want to because I had just experienced
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  freedom, you know, seven months of traveling and freedom and all of this.
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  And I wanted that experience to be my life.
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  So I literally jumped back on an airplane with an empty duffel bag.
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  And I went back to Bali.
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  I hit the streets.
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  I went store to store and just started buying and stuffing it into a duffel bag and bringing
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  it back to the US.
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  Back then, you didn't have 50 pounds, you know.
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  Right.
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  You can have 200 pounds.
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  And I signed up for street fairs in New York City because I was still living.
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  They had all these fairs every Saturday, every Sunday.
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  They had Christmas markets, whatever.
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  And I just started doing a street fair.
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  And I'd never done sales before, never sold a thing in my life.
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  I don't know anything really about clothing in particular, except I like wearing clothing.
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  And my booth was stormed by mothers buying the clothes like crazy.
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  It was almost like a frenzy of purchasing and buying.
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  And at the end of the day, I had, I remember $800 in cash in my hand.
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  And I was like, wow, this is really fun.
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  And I realized I better get back on another airplane because I'm going to be sold out
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  soon.
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  And that's how I started my business.
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  Wow.
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  Well, all the courage and all those decisions to try all these new things, but just taking,
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  and I think what I hear is you just took one step at a time.
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  And I think that's the thing people, like you didn't probably have a big business plan.
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  You probably didn't even have a business, an LLC or anything at that point.
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  You didn't have a business account.
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  You just did.
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  And that's kind of how I started the podcast.
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  I just started.
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  And I think we have to have courage just to start.
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  And when you started to where you are now, you could never probably in a million years
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  imagine.
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  Oh, not in a million years.
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  Where you've come.
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  Not in a million years.
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  Like your wildest, craziest dreams couldn't have got there.
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  I don't even think I had the capacity at that time to dream this big.
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  I don't think it was even in my possibility.
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  You know, all I wanted was to not get a job in New York City in a big corporate high rise
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  and to have like enough money that, you know, I could pay my rent, which was really cheap
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  at the time and, you know, go to spiritual retreats, which is what I like to do in the
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  summer time.
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  And that was really my goals was just to like pay those expenses.
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  I even remember like saying to my dad, by the way, you and I also have a share our dad's
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  story too.
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  And my dad passed like four and a half years ago and he would always say, just do it.
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  So it was really what, you know, what your podcast and what your whole work is about
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  of just, you know, just do the thing and, you know, get things done, right?
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  Did your dad work for himself or did he have a, have his own business?
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  He worked for himself.
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  So I come from a family of entrepreneurs, which makes it really much easier for me to
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  be an entrepreneur.
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  But I remember like early on in the business saying, or not early on, I think it was about
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  a, it actually was not early on.
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  It was when I started to starting to do well in the business.
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  In fact, it was about 20 years later, matter of fact.
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  This is my story.
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  My story is that I had a bit, I had a business for 20 years.
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  This clothing business going to Bali, importing it in, selling it at markets, at holiday markets.
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  But I never ever did more than $60,000, $70,000 a year in revenue.
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  I'm not talking about in my pocket, just writing.
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  And after about 20 years or so of that, I made a very conscious decision that I wanted
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  more money and I wanted to be more successful.
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  And so this started to happen.
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  And I remember saying to my dad, maybe when I hit over a hundred thousand, I remember
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  saying, you know, 250,000, it would be my absolute top.
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  You know, if I ever could reach doing 250,000 in sales, that would be amazing.
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  And you know, now I'm in multiple seven figures.
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  So you know, it has just grown my capacity to believe what is possible is what has completely
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  changed.
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  Yeah, I love that.
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  And yeah, we have to, we start here and we grow and I was listening to something yesterday
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  and he talked about vision boards and in a vision board, you should leave space.
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  Don't fill it up because you never know because you don't have enough capacity is basically
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  what they said to be the biggest picture.
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  And leaving space in there for other things to happen.
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  You just don't know.
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  So what happened at the 20 years that you're like, all right, I want to make more money.
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  Was there a pivotal moment?
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  Was there something you read, heard somebody?
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  What was that moment that you're like, okay, enough is enough.
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  Why not that?
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  I was in my early fifties business.
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  I actually had two businesses at the time and yeah, they both did.
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  They both did under a hundred thousand a year.
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  I did okay.
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  You know, I paid for some great vacations, you know, bought some clothes contributed
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  to my, you know, my husband and my living expenses.
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  But I had for the last few years in my early fifties starting to this building up inside
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  of me that I could be doing so much more and also frankly envious of other people who had
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  more money than I had.
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  And we're able to do other things that we were not able to do like buy our dream home
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  or you know, different things like that.
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  And it really didn't come from the outside like it like an event happening in my life.
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  It really came deep inside myself where I felt that I could be doing so much better than
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  I had been doing.
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  I could be pushing me myself more.
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  I could be learning more.
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  I knew I was smart and I knew I could be successful, but I didn't really allow myself wanted all
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  these things until that moment.
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  And I was sitting in our apartment in a little village in Switzerland, which is where we
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  were living at the time.
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  And I said to myself, there is no way I am not waking up on my next birthday, not doing
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  over a hundred thousand a year in sales.
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  No way.
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  It was over for me.
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  And I committed to that.
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  And I then had the honesty inside of me to say to myself, I want money.
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  I want wealth.
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  I want more money.
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  Where before that I was embarrassed to say anything like that on the outside or on the
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  inside.
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  You know, that's why we were raised and you didn't talk about money.
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  You didn't talk about how much you made and you didn't ask for more and you know, not
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  to throw us in the world of women, but women don't ask for it as much as men do.
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  I hate to say it.
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  That's right.
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  That's true.
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  Exactly.
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  And you know, I had all these money stories as we all have and my money story basically
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  went a value of a woman is to marry a man with money.
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  All right.
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  And this is really how I was raised.
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  So I never thought it was actually my responsibility to do this.
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  It wasn't my job to make the money.
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  It wasn't my job to do all this.
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  This is not what I'm supposed to do.
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  I started Leslie really questioning these beliefs that I had.
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  That was my first step.
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  I started to go, why do you think that if you had more money, you would lose your freedom?
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  Because this is the stuff I was thinking.
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  Right.
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  Why do you think if you, you know, became really successful, you would no longer be
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  a spiritual person?
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  I started to go, wow, maybe these things actually aren't true.
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  And I literally got out my computer or I think at the time I was writing in my journal and
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  I would write these statements down.
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  Like, you know, if I'm successful, I won't be a nice spiritual person anymore.
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  And I changed that to end.
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  I am very successful and I'm very spiritual.
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  Right.
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  I make a lot of money and I have tons of freedom.
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  And I started to just change the ideas inside my head that these things could be possible
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  and they don't work against each other.
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  And that was one of the first absolute steps, which is why mindset, what we say to ourselves,
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  the stories we repeat over and over is one of the most critical things that we need to
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  learn how to manage and control.
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  So, so true.
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  And as I asked you, was there a pivotal moment in you as absolutely you're sitting in your
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  living room in your apartment and you just had that like a new thought you'd never thought
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  before?
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  Yep.
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  That's right.
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  Oh, this can be different.
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  And look what you were able to do.
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  So last, so fast forward, you hit your goal.
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  Did you make it by your birthday?
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  Oh yeah, absolutely.
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  I made it by my birthday.
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  And then it, you know, thinks once you'd make this decision, you know, once you've
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  had the guts and to say what you want.
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  And this is what I have found is that women don't say what they really, really, really
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  want.
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  They, they keep it to themselves.
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  They, or they don't even hear it within themselves because they're not connected to what they
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  really, really want.
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  Once I began to be super clear about what I really wanted, then it was almost like the
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  universe.
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  I know it sounds cliche, but the universe started rolling out certain opportunities such as
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  all of a sudden I heard about, and I get, I just got chills down my back, meaning that
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  there's this connection to the universe, right?
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  That when we start to move ourselves from these things, but so for example, I all of
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  a sudden heard about this conference in Seattle, Washington that Amazon was putting on.
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  And I was in New York City at the time.
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  So you know, it was a big flight to go over there, but I jumped on a plane and I booked
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  that conference.
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  So things just started to unroll for me.
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  And at that conference, there was a wonderful speaker and her name was Lisa Satorra.
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  And as it turned out, she was a consultant for people who are building businesses online.
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  And I got her card.
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  And these are the things that started to unfold for me and over the course of, you know, this
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  is now, we're talking about maybe 13 years ago, this is how I began to really build the
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  kind of business, big business that I now manage.
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  Yeah, that's awesome.
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  And I was in freedom.
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  Exactly.
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  And I love, you know, the coincidences, Godwink, somebody told me, I know what it was, I interviewed
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  somebody that I don't even know how I found her, but it was one of those, not even near
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  me in Texas.
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  And it's like crazy coincidence, like her sister in law lives in the same time I do.
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  And when we were talking, she told me the name and I'm like, she's like, yeah, I'm like,
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  you know, that was my dad and my mom, my sister's dad.
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  And so my dad, the day he passed away, which is crazy.
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  And when I told her that, I'm like, just, that's just crazy, the coincidences of Godwink.
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  And she's like, when you're doing what you love, she said, and your alignment with your
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  values and those things start happening.
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  Yeah, I agree.
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  And I had another mentor say one time, something happened to me and there were like, people
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  were like, oh, that just fell in your lap.
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  And she's like, no, things don't fall in your lap unless your lap is out there.
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  I love that.
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  You know, it's just worrying what you want.
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  Yeah, I heard a quote from Oprah who could she said, there's no such thing as luck that
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  luck is when opportunity and action come together.
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  Yeah, so true.
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  Well, I loved your book and so many tidbits and information and I want to go back and
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  read it again and take some notes and so much encouragement and hope and I love that you
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  took what you learned and passing it on.
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  That's really with the hope of this podcast is that we're taking people's current stories
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  and passing it on and giving people hope that like, if Leslie and Leslie can do it, a podcast,
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  a book company, seven figures, travel, all the things that somebody else can and giving
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  people permission to say me to and give people the hope that life isn't as bad as it seems.
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  And you know, you just got to take that first step and say why not today and then take the
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  next step.
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  And as we talked about, you never know ever where that could take you.
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  And we're not capable of knowing how big and how expansive somebody else can do it.
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  We can do it.
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  And if nobody's done it before, we can be the first to do it.
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  Yeah, and I think it's important for anybody listening to notice whenever you start going,
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  I wonder if because this is really the key to life.
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  It's kind of like the seed.
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  I wonder if I wonder if I started that business.
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  I wonder if I quit the job.
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  I wonder if I moved.
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  I wonder if I left this relationship.
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  When you start asking yourself, I wonder if that is how you start this process of taking
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  the courage and changing things.
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  And not everybody has the same.
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  I wonder.
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  And this is what's important.
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  Right?
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  So when you have an I wonder if this is for you, this is a universe, this is your feminine
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  power, this is your spirit talking to you about what your next steps may be and should
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  be.
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  Yeah.
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  And I think that's what I'm seeing a lot of that people are unsettled and like wondering
• 27:30
  like what's next.
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  But then there's other people that doesn't even cross their mind to do anything other
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  than go to a job, hate their job.
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  They call it the Sunday scaries and Monday they said, most people have heart attacks
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  on Monday morning.
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  I don't know anything different.
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  And I'm grateful that my father was an entrepreneur and your father and we watched that and we
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  were witness to it and we could then emulate it and create our own life similar.
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  It is.
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  You know, we are 100% responsible for our lives, whether our life is good where we have
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  something to do with it.
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  If our lives are not good, well, guess what?
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  You got something to do with it and we have to take responsibility and make the changes
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  that we need to make that are scary, that go outside our comfort zones because this
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  is our, as they say, our one precious life.
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  Right?
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  And if not now, when are you going to do it?
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  And that was, you know, back to when we left Switzerland.
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  That was the question I asked myself, do I want to die in Switzerland?
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  It was, that was it.
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  So I'm in my sixties now.
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  I'm like, all right, is that what I want?
• 28:45
  And the answer was clearly no.
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  And so the next question was, well, then when are you leaving?
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  You know, why not now?
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  Why not today?
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  Why not today?
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  And that's how change happens.
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  Yeah, absolutely.
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  Well, I think we could talk forever and ever.
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  We're going to have more conversations, stay connected.
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  But how would you encourage somebody else?
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  I know we've kind of talked around it a lot, but how would you encourage somebody else
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  that sucks or like, what's next?
• 29:12
  Yeah.
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  Why not?
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  Yeah, take time to get empty inside yourself for in any way that you know how to do that
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  meditation, going for walks in nature, journaling, writing, writing things down in journals,
• 29:31
  you know, going, hugging a tree, whatever it is, you need to be alone and do this on
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  a regular basis and start to feel inside yourself what you wonder about.
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  What is it that you're wondering about?
• 29:45
  What is it that you're dissatisfied about?
• 29:47
  What are those things?
• 29:48
  So you start to get clear about what it is that you want and what are these things are
• 29:53
  that you want to change.
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  And then based on that, take some kind of action.
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  So Marri, we need to do what I like to call interaction and outer action.
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  The interaction starts with being quiet and getting clear about what we want.
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  But unless we actually do something about it, okay, I mean, all the vision boards in
• 30:15
  the world is actually not going to do anything unless you actually make the phone call or
• 30:21
  send the email or join the mastermind or hire the coach or whatever it is.
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  So it's finding out what you want, having the quiet space to do it and then making sure
• 30:33
  you take some action towards it.
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  So true and completely agree with that.
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  So I always try to track back when I do things to connect to my dad.
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  And most people are like, well, I never met your dad.
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  How can I we track back?
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  So I always threw our conversation, try to connect back.
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  So one, when you mentioned you love pickleball, my dad never played pickleball.
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  And when he passed away, I actually the first thought I had is I wanted to do a nonprofit
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  to honor him.
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  And we looked into, and this was 11 years ago, looked into doing pickleball tournament
• 31:05
  and actually talked to a lawyer about an LLC instead of like a 5K, we're going to do pickleball.
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  But that was a lot of work to do the LLC, not the LLC, the 501-3C.
• 31:16
  And so fast forward, if I'd done that, I might not have done the past, the podcast.
• 31:20
  So talking about being an entrepreneur, both of our dads were having that freedom to create
• 31:31
  the life you want.
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  And that's the life I grew up in with my dad.
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  And he owned his own business.
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  There were six of us kids.
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  And it wasn't always perfect.
• 31:39
  And it wasn't always amazing, but he always made it work.
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  And I think I hear a lot of that in your story.
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  You know, he didn't, it wasn't always perfect at the beginning.
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  Well, and by the way, it's still not perfect.
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  Business is tough.
• 31:54
  And I still have tons of challenges because like I like to say being an entrepreneur is
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  like getting a PhD in self development.
• 32:03
  Oh my goodness.
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  So true.
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  You're just, you're in a constant state of learning.
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  And if you want your business to survive, and there's a lot of reasons that it won't,
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  okay, but if you want your business to survive, you need to do the work and change and, you
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  know, bring in pivot and all those things that you hear people talk about.
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  Because it never gets to a point where it's just, I mean, it actually does get to different
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  times of points where it's easy, but then it changes again.
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  And then it gets hard and then it goes easy and then it gets hard.
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  That's just how it is.
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  And I know when I've had a bad day, and my dad did have a part of his life that business
• 32:44
  wasn't great and he did get a job and he hated every second of it.
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  And being told what to do and in that box and every, every once in a while, if I have
• 32:54
  a bad day, I'm like, you know what, it's, I do not want to go work for somebody else.
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  I'm gonna figure it out or I'm gonna work a little harder or I'm gonna get a little
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  more creative and, you know, figure it out because I do not want to go work for somebody
• 33:07
  else and have that lack of freedom.
• 33:10
  Yeah, exactly.
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  Exactly.
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  Well, thank you.
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  Lots of insight, lots of information.
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  I was taking notes as I was listening and I'm gonna probably have to go back and listen
• 33:19
  to it again.
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  So thanks for joining us on this inspiring journey.
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  Remember every day is an opportunity to take action, chase your dreams and make a difference.
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  So why not today?
• 33:30
  So make sure you subscribe, share, tip the podcast, keep pushing forward and until next
• 33:36
  time stay motivated and keep making things happen.
• 33:39
  So Leslie, thanks for being our guest and you can find the podcast at whynottodaypodcast.com
• 33:45
  and I will share all Leslie's contact information in the show notes.
• 33:49
  So thank you Leslie and remember say why not today and just do it.