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How to Encourage Someone Even If It’s Not Your Thing · Kate’s Devotional Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Kate Dreston here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you know somebody in your life that just makes others feel better
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  SPEAKER_00: about themselves and better about life in general?
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  SPEAKER_00: We all appreciate the encouragers in our lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: In this four-minute episode,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to give you 24 ways that you can encourage others, so don't go anywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hi, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a great friend in my life who's always positive and cheering me on,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I think everybody needs that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today, I want to motivate you to be that person to someone else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you know the Bible tells us to do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: In 1 Thessalonians 5.11,
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  I'm going to read out of the ESV version,
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  "Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing."
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I know it doesn't come naturally to everybody,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I think we all can find ways that are comfortable for us
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  SPEAKER_00: to come alongside somebody and lift them up.
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  SPEAKER_00: If nothing else, just to put a smile on their face.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all can do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to list a lot of different ways,
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  SPEAKER_00: so hopefully one will stick out to you and you can put it into practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's encourage each other with our words.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's start with 1.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can be spoken or written, but try wishing someone well.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could say things like,
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  SPEAKER_00: "have a good day," or "hope it goes well", "good seeing you", something like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: 2. send messages any way you'd like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Say something like, "I miss you."
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  SPEAKER_00: "How are you?"
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  SPEAKER_00: "Thank you."
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  SPEAKER_00: Just "glad we're friends."
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  SPEAKER_00: 3.
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  SPEAKER_00: Compliment people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Any type of compliment works.
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  SPEAKER_00: Compliment their appearance, their work performance, their helpfulness, or their talents.
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  SPEAKER_00: 4.
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  SPEAKER_00: Praise whenever you get the chance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let them know they did a good job or they're good at what they do.
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  SPEAKER_00: 5.
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  SPEAKER_00: Send get-well wishes.
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  SPEAKER_00: When someone's not feeling good or facing a health situation, get-well wishes can cheer them up.
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  SPEAKER_00: 6.,
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  SPEAKER_00: be affirming.
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  SPEAKER_00: People want to feel validated.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could say things like, "great job", "you got this."
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  SPEAKER_00: "You're more than capable to handle this."
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  SPEAKER_00: "I trust you."
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  SPEAKER_00: Those types of things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we talked about words, so now let's talk about encouraging others with our actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: 7.
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  SPEAKER_00: a simple smile goes a long way.
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  SPEAKER_00: 8.
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  SPEAKER_00: a strong handshake.
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  SPEAKER_00: That can be encouraging as a greeting or as you say goodbye.
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  SPEAKER_00: 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: An outing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Invite someone to attend a game with you or how about a show or a movie or even out
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  SPEAKER_00: to share a meal or just coffee or dessert.
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  SPEAKER_00: 10.
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  SPEAKER_00: How about gift giving?
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving a small token of your appreciation is always an encouragement.
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  SPEAKER_00: 11.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is an important one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Encourage someone by really listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about eye contact, even maybe asking questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean really listening to someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: 12.
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  SPEAKER_00: Choose the person you're talking to over your phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't be distracted by whatever's coming through on your phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now let's talk about how to encourage people with our prayers.
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  SPEAKER_00: 13.
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  SPEAKER_00: If someone mentions a prayer request, volunteer to pray for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: 14.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then follow through on your promise to pray.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't forget about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: 15.
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  SPEAKER_00: Follow up with that person later.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let them know you've been praying.
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  SPEAKER_00: 16.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask how it's going with the prayer request.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now let's talk about encouraging by just offering practical help.
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  SPEAKER_00: 17.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be the solution to someone's problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Offer a ride when needed.
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  SPEAKER_00: 18.
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  SPEAKER_00: Open a door.
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  SPEAKER_00: When someone's hands are full and you're standing right there, open the door for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make it easier.
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  SPEAKER_00: 19.
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  SPEAKER_00: Replace someone's cart after they've unloaded their stuff into their car in the parking lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: 20.
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  SPEAKER_00: Allow the person behind you to go ahead of you in line.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, now let's talk about encouraging by asking questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: 22.
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  SPEAKER_00: If an opportunity comes up,
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  SPEAKER_00: find out what's important to someone by Showing an interest in their family.
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  SPEAKER_00: Asking, do you have siblings?
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  SPEAKER_00: Asking how their family is doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: That kind of thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: 23.
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  SPEAKER_00: Show interest in their life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find out if they have a hobby.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you do that by asking questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: 24.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask them how they spend their downtime.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because finding out what's important to them is a great way to encourage them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's spread some light into this dark world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even if it doesn't come naturally to you, God will help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I challenge everyone today to encourage someone because I'm going to be doing the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's go make it a great day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And thanks for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want more of my one-minute devotionals or my five-minute podcasts,
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  SPEAKER_00: check out my website at www.katedreston.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Dreston is spelled D-R-E-S-T-O-N.