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Kids at a Wedding, Situations with Kids, This or That, VIP Table · Absolutely KNOT Another Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: All right, welcome to another episode of Absolutely Not Another Podcast.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: My voice is very shot.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_01: I just the whole time.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_01: Well, if you can't tell, we went to the Steelers game yesterday.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_01: And the whole time Garrett's like yelling, cheering for the team, and I'm thinking in the back of my head, man, we got a record in the morning.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_01: He is not gonna have a voice.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and I don't.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna try to save it as much as I can, but it was a fun game.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: It was very hot.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: It was we won, but it was not like a game that I felt confident in the team.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, a win is a win.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: A win's a win, though.
• 0:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's what we'll take.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: The tailgating, always a good time.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: Postgame, getting out of the North Shore, not as fun of a time.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Sucked.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_01: And there was a little bit of a debacle in our area during the game, which was kind of crazy.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_01: I don't go to as many games as you, but I heard a little ruckus and then I saw you looking back.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_01: And people in the stands were getting yelled at for standing and cheering.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: And then they came down to our section, our few rows.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: At this time, we're we're sitting down.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: It was even like during a commercial break, like a TV timeout.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: And we have an icon in our section.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_00: We call her pom-pom lady.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: She definitely has a real name, but she has her pom-poms.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_00: Steeler colored.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: And they made her sit down.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: And then a couple people behind us, there were two guys, and they were screaming, getting mad at the fact they had to sit because they were like, I have these tickets for 10 plus years, and I've never been asked to sit down.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Which is true.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_00: You shouldn't be forced to sit for a concert for a sporting event.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yes, you shouldn't stand the whole entire time.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: But to sit the whole entire time is ludicrous.
• 1:54
  SPEAKER_01: It is crazy.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_01: Like as a fan, I mean I'm not a big sports person, but like as a fan, you're in the moment, you stand up, you cheer, you're waving your terrible towel around.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_01: Like that's part of the experience.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_01: You don't go to the game just to sit the whole entire time.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: There's even parts of the, you know, like on the game cat uh game cast, the screen where the players when they're hyping up the crowd to get into it, they are saying out loud, Steelers Nation, stand up.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: So they're making you stand up.
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: When Renegade comes, can you imagine if you were sitting during Renegade?
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: Not a fun time.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_01: I thought it was very weird.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I ended up revolting against the whole sit-down stand-up.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: It ended up being a Falcon fan that was complaining.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: There were they were standing though.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: I was noticing they were standing.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: I started to stand up every opportunity I could.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: Never got told to sit down.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Then everyone kind of agreed.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we never got personally asked, so it was like we were fine.
• 2:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it was a good time.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: There's some fun people around us.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: There always are the, like I said, pom-pom ladies there every game.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: There's a few people that typically are at every game that weren't sitting by us this time.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, I'll see them at the next game.
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna be honest, if I could have gotten that tub that was carrying the drinks of ice and water, I would have.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_01: Like I was I was having a heat stroke.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like Yeah, you were you were not well.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: We had to put the terrible towel in the ice bin.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: I would have put my whole head in.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_01: I I debated being like, I need to get in here.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_01: Like I was like overheated.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: Bobbing for beer and water.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, mainly water for me yesterday.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_01: I I couldn't hang, that's for sure.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_00: Steelers want to know you did have a wedding at Seven Springs the day prior.
• 3:31
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, and it was a late wedding.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: Like most of my weddings, I feel like end between 10:30 and 11.
• 3:36
  SPEAKER_01: And this one didn't want end until 11:30, 11:45.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_01: So then I had to drive home after that.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_01: So I was I was running on fumes yesterday, but yeah, I chugged through.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: We didn't get to the tailgate early.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: We were there about three hours before kickoff and got to see some people that love to hang out with before the before the game.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: So and then we have a wedding as guests this upcoming week in Chicago area.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 4:04
  SPEAKER_01: Um so we'll have to report back on that, and then we don't we won't record until after.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_01: We'll report back if anything crazy happens.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_01: I'm sure it will be a good time.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_01: Well, I'm gonna get into the story today.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_01: Our whole weekend, my whole weekend was kid free because I was working Friday, working Saturday, and then Sunday we were at the game.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_01: So um our story today is a no kids at a wedding theme.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_01: So we're gonna dive right in.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_01: This story can be a friendly reminder to anyone that sometimes a wedding is not the best place for a child.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_01: I want to start the story by saying no harm, no foul.
• 4:37
  SPEAKER_01: I was very upset leading up to my wedding and a few times on my wedding day, but 18 years later, it doesn't really seem like that much of a big deal.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_01: But when I read the story, it was a big deal to me.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_01: Some of these things would have pissed me off.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_01: My name is Hannah, and my husband and I were getting married 18 years ago.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_01: We had a very large wedding, about 225 people were invited.
• 4:58
  SPEAKER_01: And to keep down on some of our numbers, we decided that we were not going to have any children at our wedding.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_01: We do adore children, and now we have two of our own kids, but we really envisioned our guests having a good time and enjoying themselves.
• 5:10
  SPEAKER_01: Several of our family and friends had already had children.
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_01: So we wanted them to be able to really have a good time at our wedding without worrying about their kids.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_01: I don't like kids at a wedding.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's I've been at weddings that have kids.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's fine, but then when you have to be the if you're the parent with your kids there, kind of like takes away from, like you're saying, being able to truly enjoy yourself.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, keep being the way a wedding reception should be.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: I also have to mention that our wedding was at a very, very upscale boutique hotel and didn't have much to offer when it came to safe and fun kids areas.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_01: Which I feel like every hotel is like that.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_01: You're in like a fancy, fancy lobby, fancy rooms.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_01: We were put very we were very upfront about our wish of no children at our wedding from the start.
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_01: And we let all of our friends and family know when we were talking to them.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_01: And our parents, specifically mine, were extremely aware that we didn't want kids at the wedding.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_01: This is a big part of the problem, if you get what I'm saying.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_01: So her parents had to have something to do with it.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_01: We had some family friends.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_01: We can call them Jennifer and Joe for the story.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_01: They had three children at the time, and their kids were, I think, two, five, and six.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_01: Very cute, but extremely energetic.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_01: There was two older boys and one younger girl.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_01: These were our family friends, not super close acquaintances.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_01: We saw them socially throughout the year and in the community, but we weren't seeing them every week.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_01: Not those types of friends.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_01: We sent our invitations out, and I got a call from Jennifer about two weeks after we'd sent them, asking if her children could attend.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_01: I did clarify with her on the phone that although we do love her kids, they were not invited, and to just let us know if they needed help finding a babysitter.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_01: The wedding was also in their hometown, so I figured they probably had their own list of babysitters or family members that they would use to watch their kids.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_01: Jennifer did not seem bothered that her kids were not invited, and she said, Okay, no problem.
• 7:08
  SPEAKER_01: I just wanted to check.
• 7:09
  SPEAKER_01: They ended up RCPing yes to the wedding, and we were really happy that they would be attending.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_01: A few weeks later, my mom told me that she ran into Jennifer at the grocery store and they were chatting about the wedding.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_01: And she was saying how difficult how much difficulty she was having trying to find someone to watch the kids the day of the wedding.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_01: So my mom decided that she offered to have the children come to the wedding.
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_01: One day she just casually slipped this into a conversation, and this was four weeks before our wedding day, and I freaked out on her.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe I was overreacting, but honestly, my parents were aware we did not want kids there.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_01: Why would she go out of her way to invite them?
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_01: Not to be rude, but Jennifer and Joe's kids were not very well behaved from my few encounters with them.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_01: I told my mother that she was going to have to call Jennifer and explain that the children were not welcome to come.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_01: My mom threw a hissy fit explaining to me that it's really unfair to exclude people on purpose from coming to the wedding because they have kids and they're not able to find childcare.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_01: I again had to tell my mother, it's fine if they can't come because of their kids and not finding childcare.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_01: We understand that this situation might prohibit people from coming, but we are not changing our minds.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_01: We do not want kids at the wedding.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like that's so back and forth.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I get it.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, they want to bring their kids, but don't you don't have to argue about it.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_01: Like, why is the mom so gung-o on these kids' right?
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, if they don't want them there, they they can come.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: Sorry.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_00: Too bad, so sad.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Not invited.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_01: My mom told me she would handle it.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_01: So I figured she was going to call Jennifer and have that tongue tough conversation.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_01: And probably Jennifer and Joe were not coming.
• 8:46
  SPEAKER_01: And if they weren't, they would probably just contact me and let me know.
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_01: Never heard from them.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_01: So we assumed, yes, they're still coming.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_01: Kids were taken care of.
• 8:54
  SPEAKER_01: Turns out my mom did contact Jennifer, but instead of telling her that the children could not come, my mom offered to watch the kids during the wedding.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_01: My mom, the one who helped me plan the wedding and would be busy taking photos and putting me in my dress and doing all of the other things that the mother of the bride does on a wedding day, was not going to be able to watch these kids.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_01: And so this is what played out on our actual wedding day.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_01: At first, I had no idea that the children were there.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_01: We ended up taking pictures in the hotel lobby prior, and I noticed staff was sweeping up glass off the floor and mopping up a bit of a mess.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_01: Again, I didn't think much of it, just thought somebody must have bumped into the table or something.
• 9:31
  SPEAKER_01: Turns out that the oldest boys were playing toss with the pillows from the lobby couch and knocked it into the large centerpiece that the hotel had on display on the center lobby area.
• 9:40
  SPEAKER_01: Next, we're lined up for the wedding.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_01: Processional is about to begin, and I hear Scream crying, and I see Jennifer marching out of the ceremony area with her youngest daughter who was having a huge tantrum.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_01: I actually was mad about it.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_01: Why does she have her kids here on our wedding day when we told them no on the phone?
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_01: And then my mom should have reiterated this and explained to them that they had made a mistake in inviting them.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_01: But Jennifer decided to stop walking out with her daughter who was having a tantrum to try to give me a hug and say hello.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_01: I just kind of waved her past and told her to get the child out of the ceremony area.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_01: It threw me off for a second.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_01: I gathered my emotions and then got excited to walk down the aisle and get married.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_01: Next, during the ceremony, about three-fourths of the way through the ceremony, before we did the ring exchange, her two boys that were sitting with her husband now, because remember, she had exited the ceremony space, started to talk so loudly, saying things like, Man, this is boring.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_01: How much longer?
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_01: It did bring a chuckle to the crowd.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_01: But again, these are reasons why I did not want kids at my wedding.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_01: We sealed the deal and moved on to cocktail hour.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_01: Not much occurred at cocktail hour, from my knowledge, but I did notice during the cocktail hour that my mom kept chatting with Jennifer and was trying to rush through our photos because we were taking pictures right near the cocktail hour location.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_01: It's then that my mom decided to reveal to me that she's the one who told Jennifer to keep bringing the kids and that she was going to help out.
• 11:11
  SPEAKER_01: So all of our family portraits seemed extremely rushed, and my mom did not seem present at all, which really sucks.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_01: I do have to say, my mom is great with kids.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_01: She was an elementary school teacher growing up, so she naturally has a way and is drawn to them.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_01: I just feel that these kids being at our wedding with no family relation was so unnecessary and so distracting for everyone.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_01: Facts.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 11:32
  SPEAKER_01: They're not even like family members, they're like family friends kids.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_01: Two more things that happened at the reception, and these are the things that made me the most upset.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_01: First came the seating debacle.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_01: Because we had only planned on two people from that family to be in attendance at the wedding, we had placed them at a table of 10.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_01: And when we realized during the seating portion after cocktail hour that they would need three extra seats at their table, which would not work because this table was at max capacity.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_01: And so the servers, it threw the servers for a loop.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_01: So they ended up just bringing out an extra table.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_01: And they were seated at that table with a black tablecloth.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_01: We didn't have another pretty pink one that was on all the rest of the tables because we had ordered them ahead of time.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_01: So the whole room looked beautiful.
• 12:17
  SPEAKER_01: And then there's one small table with no centerpiece and a black tablecloth on it.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_01: And that's where Jennifer, Joe, and their three kids sat.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_01: We also didn't have high chairs at this location because we hadn't prepared for kids to be at the wedding.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_01: So we didn't have any there to help them.
• 12:31
  SPEAKER_01: And the kids kept going up and down off the chairs and during the dinner service standing up on top of the chairs, waving their hands around.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_01: During the later portion of the night, when we're all dancing on the dance floor, having a great time, we all hear a giant crash.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_01: I'm talking platters on the ground and a kid's crying.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_01: Turns out nobody was watching those two boys, and they decided to climb under the dessert table.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_01: When they went to get out of the table, they tripped on the linen, pulling down the whole table.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_01: Several of dessert trays.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_01: It was a mess.
• 13:00
  SPEAKER_01: Jennifer and Joe were so lax about the whole thing, they apologized, and then we were missing half of the desserts for the rest of the shit.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_01: That would have pissed me off.
• 13:08
  SPEAKER_01: Like that would make me mad.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_01: Clearly, like the parents were on the dance floor, and her mom should have been watching those two kids.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_01: After the whole wedding was over, and our catering venue contact told us that we were being charged an extra$200 for a furniture cleaning.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_01: I was very confused because this came a week after the wedding was over.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_01: It turns out that one of the kids, not sure which one, decided to draw with marker on one of the fancy upholstered chairs in the foyer.
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_01: It wasn't discovered until a week later, and we had to pay that invoice as well.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_01: Safe to say that we don't really talk to Jennifer and Joe much, and I was pretty upset with my mom about the kids being there.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_01: But at the end of the day, the wedding was completely fine.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_01: This might be a friendly reminder to anyone that kids aren't meant to be at a fancy wedding.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_01: Agreed.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_01: 100% with that story.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, not good.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, our son has been ring bearing a few weddings, and our kids have been invited to weddings.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_01: But I feel like we make them leave after like I I would rather them not be there at all at their ages of two and five.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_01: But if they have to be in it because they're a special part, I'm after the ceremony, I'm pretty much like Yeah, they can come.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: They feel like one wedding, they were at dinner for a little bit and then left.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like for the other one that I use Ringbearer for, for your cousin's wedding, it was They went back to the hotel.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: Back at the hotel with my parents.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_01: Mm-hmm.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: Not there for I think any of the reception.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_00: Only the ceremony.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_00: Because they don't want to be there either.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 14:42
  SPEAKER_01: I I say this all the time that it's not that kids are bad at a wedding.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_01: It's just that parents don't parent at a wedding because they're enjoying themselves.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: And kids are just gonna be kids, which kids in general are if there's not stuff for them to do, they're gonna find something to do that might turn into ruining the dessert table.
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and like I don't know, as an adult, you're sitting there for an hour and a half chatting.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_01: Kids don't want to sit at a table for an hour and a half quietly eating their eating.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_01: No, like they want to be up, running around.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_01: They do like to be on the dance floor and like do that stuff.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_01: Like that part's fun at the wedding.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_01: But if you're sitting and eating first, Yeah.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: They don't want to sit through the ceremony.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: They don't want to No.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_01: Even this past weekend, super cute.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_01: Uh the nephew was the ring bearer, but he was a standard, I think it was two or three years old.
• 15:29
  SPEAKER_01: Running all around.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_01: Like he was running up and down.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_01: He did go down the aisle, but he went in with them for the introductions, and like the brother gave a speech, and he was like right there on the floor.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, obviously, they're like family oriented and it didn't bother them, but that could bother people.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 15:46
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, ooh, nope.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_01: When I read that story, you're like, I also like for me.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_01: No, and I've seen I mean, I see a lot of weddings, but even kids that are ages like a little bit older, seven, eight, nine, ten, they can be problem causers.
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_01: Like the one wedding I was working at, they were bombarding the kitchen doors.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_01: So when the appetizers would come out, they were just eating all the appetizers, and the servers had to be like, Can we can you stop them?
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_01: And I had to literally tell the kids, like, you gotta let these people through.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like they waited at the door for the next round of food.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, and like come out.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_01: And it was like a group of like eight or nine of them, and I had to keep bringing the servers like behind the artifacts because it was at the history center.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_01: And I had to tell the kids, like, you guys can't take any more food.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_01: Like, none of the adults are getting food because they're you're just like taking everything off the drinks.
• 16:37
  SPEAKER_00: I've done that before though.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_00: Not like I haven't done it at every wedding, but there was a time, it was at our one friend's wedding out in Philly.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I was pregnant at that, I remember.
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: And we were we saw where the kitchen door was at.
• 16:50
  SPEAKER_00: It was right next door where the bar was, but they were bringing these really good appetizers or d'oeuvres.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna have that.
• 17:00
  unknown: Yeah.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_01: No, I'm I'm I'm the same way.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_01: Like I like to get the food, but these kids were annoying.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, all right.
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• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: All right, segment is situations with kiddos.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: What your whistle?
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: Is this uh cute, chaotic, or absolutely not?
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely not.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_00: All right, first one.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: Flower girl is two years old.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: Cute, chaotic, absolutely not.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_01: Cute.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_01: Cute.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like it's cute, can be chaotic, though.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: They like never want to, they never want to go down the aisle.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_01: Almost always, I feel like they they're excited, but then at the same time.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: There's like it's the first time I feel like they might be nervous.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_00: Ring bearer is carrying the actual rings.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely not.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_00: That's scary.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_00: That's a no-no.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_00: That used to be.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like that was a common thing to do way back when now.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_01: I just like think those are important.
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_01: You need them for the ceremony.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_01: And like you put them in the box, you tie them on a pillow.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_01: That kid's dropping the pillow, throwing it, leaving it places, those can easily just it's not a good idea.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_01: I even say it's even if it's a if the kid's like 10 or older, I'm okay with it.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_01: But anything younger than 10, no.
• 18:57
  SPEAKER_01: Fakies or nothing in it.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: About like a pet doing it with it on its collar.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_01: I also hate that.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, just don't put the best man should have the rings.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a cliche joke that whenever like get the person presenting the rings, like revealing them, and then they act like they don't have it anymore.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: It ha maybe every other wedding it happens that they're like, oh, and they just a quick little joke.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_01: I like specifically before we'll start the ceremony, I will check with who's supposed to have them.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_01: Because I had that happen once where like everybody was lined up and I was like, Do you have the rings?
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: And they're like, No.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, stop effing with me.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_01: And they're like, No.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_01: They're upstairs in the bridal room, but I was like, run and go get them right now.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you can't start without the ring.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_01: We are not having you go down there without the rings.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: Very key.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: Parents bring an iPad to the ceremony.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_01: If the sound's off.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: And they're not like I don't know.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_01: I like I do I do hate it.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_01: Like I don't love the iPad at the ceremony.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_01: But if it's gonna keep your kid quiet.
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but also you can get him like coloring books or something.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like if our son had He'd be like, it's not working during the ceremony.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, exactly.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: He would get to a point of frustration.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's probably worse.
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_01: So I say maybe absolutely not for that.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 20:28
  SPEAKER_00: I parents, they let their kids run around the dance floor during dinner.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_00: During dinner, during the speeches.
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_01: During dinner, I don't mind.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: But when there's something happening, like a speech happening.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_01: Could be chaotic.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_01: Could be chaotic, depending on what the timeline is.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_00: Right, right.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because otherwise, like we were saying, if you're gonna have kids there, they're gonna be kids.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_00: They're gonna wanna be up and moving around.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: There's just time and a place.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: Couple provides a kids' activity table.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_00: Cute.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: Love it.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_01: Love it.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_01: Except for they shouldn't eat there.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_01: Like let it be just for the activities they can go over and do whatever.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: Couple hires wedding day babysitters.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: Also cute.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_01: Don't you remember we used to do like what would they call them?
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_01: Kids' corners at Ocean Reef, where like sometimes some of my weddings would have your staff there doing activities and like baby.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: Or a whole separate room.
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like their own little mini reception.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_01: I love that.
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: You get like a bounce house for them and face painting and all kinds of other stuff.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_00: Cute.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_02: Mm-hmm.
• 21:39
  SPEAKER_00: Kids ask the DJ to play Baby Shark, and the DJ plays Baby Shark.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely not.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: I can't imagine listening to a kid's song.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_01: At a wedding?
• 21:52
  unknown: No.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe if it's like the couple's kid.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: And that's their favorite song.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they're like, oh yeah, we want to incorporate it.
• 21:58
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm like shark.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe like have it intertwined into a song, but listening to the whole baby shark to mommy shark, daddy shark, grandpa shark.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_01: Could you imagine being on the dance floor and all of a sudden they're like, and this one goes out, baby shark to the kids?
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: That was maybe the first wedding that I attended.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_00: It was my uncle's and my cousins and I for days before the wedding, weeks before the wedding, we were planning a dance to end sync, I think maybe bye-bye bye, something along those lines.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: And we went out there and dominated the dance floor.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna say I've done a performance at a wedding too as a child.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, yeah.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's like going to any family function and when you were kids and you would go down and make up funny things and then go and perform it for the adults.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_01: But if the couple's okay with it and it's like aware that that's happening, I'm like, I love that.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_01: But if not, if the kids are like trying to do this on a whim, no.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_00: Wow.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_00: Uh kids, they take a disposable camera and they use 27 pictures of their own face.
• 23:17
  SPEAKER_00: That's something our kid would do.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_01: I would say I would put this one in chaotic because it's like the cameras are there for the guests to use if you're doing disposables.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_01: So you know you're gonna get like random pictures, and some of the pictures are probably funny.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_01: Like the first time they would see the kids' face, it would be like, wait.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_01: But then having 30 of them, it's like, oh, that's a waste of a camera.
• 23:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I remember having a disposable camera.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: One time I went to Philly with my uncle, same uncle, not not the same wedding, not a wedding, just going out to Philly.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_00: Went to a sporting event, and I my mom gave me a disposable camera, and then whenever I got the pictures revealed, it was one of the worst photos.
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I was not destined to be a photographer ever in my life because they were really bad.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like I took a picture in the car looking out of another stadium, and it was just a flash because the window was up.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like they were all bad pictures, they were terrible.
• 24:15
  SPEAKER_00: I also that one year I went as Peter Parker for Halloween.
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 24:20
  SPEAKER_00: I think Spider-Man.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I bought a disposable camera thinking it's a great idea to I'm gonna then develop with them next day while friends got a hold of them and I got more than I asked for in terms of pictures.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: Yikes to just say that it showed I had the house scarred for life.
• 24:39
  SPEAKER_01: Oh god.
• 24:40
  SPEAKER_00: Parents text the bride wedding week asking, Can I just bring him meeting their kid?
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's just like the story.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 24:48
  SPEAKER_00: If they don't want you there, don't come.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: And the kid tells the bride, I don't like your dress.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_00: Kids do say the darnest thing, they're unhinged.
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_01: I honestly would say cute on that because like they do just they do.
• 25:02
  SPEAKER_01: You can't, they have no filter.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_01: We'll see.
• 25:05
  SPEAKER_01: Not nice, but our kids say some stuff to me.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, oh my god.
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, they're rude.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe I needed to hear that.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: All right, our next segment is this or that, but both options are terrible.
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: So you gotta pick which one is what's the better of the two evils, lesser of the two evils.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_00: I'm ready.
• 25:27
  SPEAKER_00: Screaming kid during the vows or a drunk uncle yelling during the speeches.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_01: I would say I have to pick one of the worst ones.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_01: I say drunk uncle during the speeches.
• 25:39
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like the ceremony is more of a formal special moment.
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and having a screaming kid during it.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, especially if the parents not getting up and taking them out.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_00: It's like a drunk uncle, it's like you kind of expect something like that to happen.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_01: You could be more humorous, I think.
• 25:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, annoying and easier to get the drunk uncle to shut out.
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_00: Guest wears white or guest proposes at your reception.
• 26:06
  SPEAKER_01: Those are terrible, both of those.
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_01: I oh I think I would I think I would pref I think I would prefer the guest to wear white.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_01: Spill some wine on that outfit.
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_01: To be honest.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like a pro I always get weirded out when people want to propose at other people's events.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 26:28
  SPEAKER_00: Even if they ask and they the couple knows about it, is in on it.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_01: I have a couple that mentioned it to me.
• 26:37
  SPEAKER_01: They have somebody that might propose at their wedding and they said they are not into it.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah.
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, I might have to say.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_00: And they think it's gonna happen.
• 26:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, they think it's gonna happen.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh who Yeah, I have actually never been at a wedding that someone proposed.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: There's obviously there's the cliche when there is a garter toss and a bouquet toss that not that a proposal happens, but whoever catches it, um then if they're in a relationship, it's almost like a given that it's gonna get to the other person in the relationship, and then you just get that question nonstop for the whole entire rest of the night for them.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: Never happened to us, but it's happened to friends of mine and they're yeah.
• 27:17
  SPEAKER_01: Bucaine Garter's kind of out, so like you don't see it anymore, really, anyways.
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_00: The uh kid, he sticks their kid sticks their finger in the wedding cake, or an adult drops an entire drink on your dress.
• 27:31
  SPEAKER_01: Kid's finger in the wedding cake, I think.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 27:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's not gonna be the whole wedding cake, it's just gonna be one piece.
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_00: They can have that piece.
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and like if it's before pictures or before you cut the cake, hopefully you can just like smooth it over with some icing or something.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know which one you'll pick, but DJ plays the wrong first dance song or the photographer misses the first kiss.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_01: Those are bad.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_01: They're bad for different reasons.
• 28:05
  SPEAKER_01: I think I would prefer photographer misses the first kiss for the sense of you take a lot of kissing pictures on your wedding day.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_01: And you wouldn't know that the photographer missed the first kiss on your actual wedding day.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_01: You probably wouldn't know until like you get the pictures back.
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_01: Where the first dance that could be a very awkward moment and like kind of spoil that that memory moment.
• 28:30
  SPEAKER_00: Everyone knows what the first dance song is, but the couple knows.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I mean.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_00: You hear something like this isn't what I picked, this is Baby Shark.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_01: I didn't pick Baby Shark.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_00: Man, yeah, I would agree on that as well.
• 28:43
  SPEAKER_00: And not a lot of weddings, they do say to take your phones, put your phones away, put it on silent, whatever.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: But there are the people that still put their phones out.
• 28:54
  SPEAKER_00: There might be a picture of the first kiss somewhere out there.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 28:57
  SPEAKER_00: Just not a professionally done photo.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_01: Now you could probably AI one.
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 29:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, honestly.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: The photographer can just, yeah, I'll just make one.
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: Someone brings an uninvited child, or someone brings an uninvited plus one.
• 29:13
  SPEAKER_01: I'd rather someone bring an uninvited plus one.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_01: I don't want it either way, but if I had to pick one.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 29:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like, is it in terms of they didn't have a plus one and they just brought somebody?
• 29:24
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, probably they brought like a whole extra adult, but an adult could at least, yeah.
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_01: An adult is at least contain themselves, you know what I mean?
• 29:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like, unless it's someone really rowdy.
• 29:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_00: What about people that like have a plus one and they anticipate it being one person, but they end up that person can't attend.
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_00: And they bring someone else after you say yes to having two people come.
• 29:51
  SPEAKER_01: That normally doesn't bother a lot of people.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_01: Like they've already paid for the seat, they've already have a something reserved for them.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_01: And if it's like swapping it out with someone else, like it's not ideal, but it happens.
• 30:02
  SPEAKER_01: And that happens more frequently than anything else.
• 30:05
  SPEAKER_01: Um it's not the best thing because usually they're anticipating like whoever they've invited.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_01: Or like if there's a breakup and then they like bring they bring like a random person or a family member, like it is what it is.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_00: Guest asks you how much the wedding costs, or the guest complains about the food.
• 30:24
  SPEAKER_01: Uh I mean, I'm not like a one to shy away if someone asked how much it costs.
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_01: So I would rather someone ask that.
• 30:32
  SPEAKER_01: I would feel bad if people are complaining because the service is bad or the food is bad.
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_01: You know, so I would rather someone just be like, oh my gosh, this is amazing.
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_01: How much did your wedding cost?
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_01: And you're like$85,000.
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 30:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'd even flub the numbers up, too.
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_01: I do think like it is nosy.
• 30:47
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know why someone needs to know that, but people are curious.
• 30:51
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_00: Bridesmaid gets way too drunk, or the groomsman disappears for two hours.
• 31:00
  SPEAKER_01: To be honest, I would rather the groomsmen disappear.
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_01: A drunk bridesmaid could just be like a so annoying for so many different people.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_00: That's probably why the groomsman disappeared for two hours.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I can't take her.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like they could become a liability that drunk bridesmaid.
• 31:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 31:16
  SPEAKER_01: Like they could be.
• 31:17
  SPEAKER_00: You'll catch them later on in the bathroom throwing up.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's mainly it.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_01: It's like, ooh.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_00: And that happens.
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_00: Someone gives a 15-minute speech, or nobody volunteers to give a speech.
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_01: You know what?
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna pick the 15-minute speech one only because I I hate when speeches are long, but it is even worse when they do open mic speeches.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_01: I have never had a wedding like this.
• 31:47
  SPEAKER_01: But where they say, We're gonna open up the mic for people to come up and you know, give well wishes or toasts, and like not one person in the room has something nice to say or give you a toast.
• 31:58
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I think that would be more embarrassing.
• 32:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 32:01
  SPEAKER_00: I've never been to a wedding like that.
• 32:03
  SPEAKER_00: I've been to an event.
• 32:03
  SPEAKER_01: We've been to an event like that.
• 32:05
  SPEAKER_00: Anyone can get up and speak.
• 32:07
  SPEAKER_01: Where they were like, Does anyone have anything nice to say?
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_01: And then nobody said anything.
• 32:11
  SPEAKER_00: Haven't just like volunteer.
• 32:12
  SPEAKER_00: Anyone can speak.
• 32:14
  SPEAKER_00: It just seems bad.
• 32:16
  SPEAKER_00: A 15-minute speech, maybe it's like a really well thought out one, but if they're just dragging on, probably wouldn't be all right.
• 32:24
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 32:24
  SPEAKER_00: Wrap it up, buddy.
• 32:25
  SPEAKER_01: We had uh four speeches over the weekend and they were all really good.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_01: And they were they were sh they weren't like super short, but one was the longest was probably like five or six minutes, but it was like very good.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_00: Did you detect any AI written speeches?
• 32:39
  SPEAKER_01: No, but I talked about that with the vendor table.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_01: We were talking about how a lot of people seem like it could be AI.
• 32:44
  SPEAKER_01: Neither none of them did.
• 32:46
  SPEAKER_00: The the one key word that I know, it ha it's anyone listening, you can figure it out.
• 32:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's the word unwavering.
• 32:56
  SPEAKER_00: Never heard the word unwavering until AI came about.
• 32:59
  SPEAKER_00: Unwavering support before.
• 33:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's an every if someone passes away, or you know, thank you all for your unwavering support.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's like getting a new job.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you all for your unwavering support, getting a award.
• 33:15
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you all for your unwavering something.
• 33:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's all unwavering hits.
• 33:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, AI wrote that.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_00: Uh right.
• 33:25
  SPEAKER_00: Someone posts your wedding dress before you do, or post your ceremony before it's over, so they're just going live.
• 33:35
  SPEAKER_01: I'm definitely posting, just posts well, the wedding dress is post the dress because it's like once your wedding day starts, if someone takes a picture with you and they post it on Instagram or something, like that's normal.
• 33:46
  SPEAKER_00: I was thinking it in my mind of you're going to try on your dress.
• 33:51
  SPEAKER_01: Now that would be bad.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 33:52
  SPEAKER_01: Which has had people talk about that happens a lot, like they'll accidentally send it in a group chat or like a bridal shop did.
• 33:59
  SPEAKER_00: I think that was in a story that we did a while ago.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_00: It was like the mom or like the step.
• 34:06
  SPEAKER_01: The mom spoiled the engagement by like being like, We're on our way.
• 34:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 34:10
  unknown: Yeah.
• 34:11
  SPEAKER_01: Two more hours.
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_01: Can't wait.
• 34:14
  SPEAKER_01: Big moment.
• 34:15
  SPEAKER_01: But no, I don't think someone should be live streaming your ceremony.
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_01: I think I talked about that before.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_01: Like, unless the couples asked you to do that, please don't.
• 34:22
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you don't have to.
• 34:23
  SPEAKER_01: And don't post the whole ceremony on your Facebook.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_00: I don't if you're posting it, the people that are want to see it are at the wedding.
• 34:30
  SPEAKER_01: They're in the room.
• 34:31
  SPEAKER_01: Unless there's like a grandparent or someone that can't travel, then I get I get why you would be doing something like that.
• 34:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but you wouldn't be putting it online.
• 34:37
  SPEAKER_00: You'd just be like, all right, grandma Sue, that's it's time for the ceremony.
• 34:42
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 34:44
  SPEAKER_00: Your ex shows up, or your mother-in-law's ex shows up.
• 34:50
  SPEAKER_01: Mother-in-law's ex?
• 34:51
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 34:52
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like that would be more more fun.
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, your own ex shows up.
• 34:56
  SPEAKER_01: Why would your ex be at your wedding?
• 34:57
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe they Oh, maybe they're like a guest.
• 35:00
  SPEAKER_00: A plus one for somebody.
• 35:01
  SPEAKER_01: That would be like that would be uncomfortable.
• 35:03
  SPEAKER_00: Be very uncomfortable.
• 35:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like straight.
• 35:05
  SPEAKER_01: I could see that though.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_00: It's like the wedding uh musical that I'm whipping together.
• 35:13
  SPEAKER_01: Garrett's writing a wedding musical.
• 35:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 35:15
  SPEAKER_01: It's gonna be good.
• 35:16
  SPEAKER_00: One of the it's uh groomsmen and a bridesmaid are former former lovers.
• 35:24
  SPEAKER_00: Former lovers, and they didn't realize that they were both groomsmen and bridesmaid until the day of the wedding, and they're gonna have a song with each other in the first act, and then I don't know what's gonna happen yet for the second act.
• 35:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then there's another one of a bridesmaid that's just way over the top, kind of like a like a drunk bridesmaid that is really into a groomsman that has no interest in her.
• 35:46
  SPEAKER_01: Inspired by one of my close friends.
• 35:47
  SPEAKER_00: But it's gonna end, it's gonna, I think I'm gonna end that one with them actually getting together.
• 35:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 35:56
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe she'll propose at the wedding.
• 35:58
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, like before it's over.
• 36:00
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, I didn't know that part.
• 36:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's a good that's gonna be good.
• 36:03
  SPEAKER_00: That's gonna be like the comedic relief.
• 36:05
  SPEAKER_00: And the officiant's gonna be some like an uncle that's very that takes it way too like seriously.
• 36:16
  SPEAKER_00: Go sing a song.
• 36:18
  SPEAKER_01: The uncle could be s I wish the officiant would be like the chaplain from that one way.
• 36:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'll do two more.
• 36:27
  SPEAKER_00: Sh someone someone shows up 30 minutes late or leaves immediately after dinner.
• 36:36
  SPEAKER_01: Um I think I would rather them show up late just because like I enjoyed more of the dancing portion.
• 36:44
  SPEAKER_01: And at that point, if they were late, they probably missed the ceremony.
• 36:48
  unknown: Yeah.
• 36:49
  SPEAKER_01: Stay for the party.
• 36:51
  SPEAKER_01: I also understand though when people leave after dinner, like if you're not a big drinker or you don't like to dance, like a lot of the old people will be like bow out gracefully.
• 37:00
  SPEAKER_01: See ya.
• 37:00
  SPEAKER_00: Not even I just go by, they're just like, goodbye.
• 37:02
  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you later.
• 37:04
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for having us.
• 37:05
  SPEAKER_01: Here's those people brought their gift.
• 37:08
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, here's$100.
• 37:09
  SPEAKER_01: They left.
• 37:10
  SPEAKER_00: All right, last one.
• 37:13
  SPEAKER_00: Someone requests the same song six times, or someone keeps stealing the DJ's microphone.
• 37:23
  SPEAKER_01: I think I would rather pick that someone's stealing the DJ's microphone because it probably would be funny.
• 37:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 37:29
  SPEAKER_01: But the same song six times, hopefully that DJ would be like Yeah, we gotta chop that up.
• 37:34
  SPEAKER_00: Time for that song to be over.
• 37:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's like just the cha cha slide six times in a row.
• 37:39
  SPEAKER_00: One hump this time.
• 37:41
  SPEAKER_00: Rodfoot, let's start.
• 37:42
  SPEAKER_00: All right, this is VIP table.
• 37:45
  SPEAKER_00: These are the best places to go without your kids.
• 37:49
  SPEAKER_00: I would think of it as the kids can go to these things.
• 37:53
  SPEAKER_00: It's not a place like it's not a casino.
• 37:56
  SPEAKER_00: Kids aren't allowed in there.
• 37:57
  SPEAKER_00: It's 21 and up.
• 37:58
  SPEAKER_00: So places the kids can be at, but sometimes it's better if they're not.
• 38:04
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, you can go first.
• 38:06
  SPEAKER_01: All right.
• 38:07
  SPEAKER_01: I'm doing a good old trip to TJ Maxx.
• 38:11
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I like to go, I like to peruse, try on things.
• 38:16
  SPEAKER_01: And now I don't mind if the kids are with me, but like if I can go shopping alone or like with a friend, I don't even like to shop with you.
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_01: Just like be by myself, me, myself, and I, that's gonna be my number one uh TJ Maxx trip.
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_00: Shopping, shopping for clothes.
• 38:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's other things that might be.
• 38:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 38:36
  SPEAKER_00: Uh all right.
• 38:36
  SPEAKER_00: That was that's a good pick.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_00: Not like TJ Maxx wasn't on my list.
• 38:39
  SPEAKER_00: Shopping for clothes, not on my list, but I might take something similar, or you might take it.
• 38:45
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 38:46
  SPEAKER_00: My first pick, best places to go without kids, it's actually just traveling, being in an airplane, being in a car for a road trip.
• 38:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's so much nicer whenever you don't have to have the stress of keeping them entertained, keeping them feeling good.
• 39:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like on an airplane, they always want to be doing something.
• 39:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't have to use the restroom on an airplane, but my son does multiple times.
• 39:15
  unknown: Great pit.
• 39:16
  SPEAKER_00: Going on a long road trip, even if it's if it's anything over an hour and a half.
• 39:21
  SPEAKER_00: Because going to your parents, they're fine.
• 39:24
  SPEAKER_00: Going to my parents, they're fine.
• 39:26
  SPEAKER_00: Anything that's two hours and more.
• 39:30
  SPEAKER_01: Not fine.
• 39:31
  SPEAKER_00: They're a they're asking, are we there yet?
• 39:34
  SPEAKER_00: When are we getting there?
• 39:36
  SPEAKER_00: Can I get out of my seat?
• 39:38
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta use their bathroom.
• 39:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, God, just drags it out.
• 39:42
  SPEAKER_00: If I can just be by myself when I'm traveling, worlds of a difference.
• 39:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, getting getting delayed in an airport as an adult by yourself, you can go into the bar.
• 39:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you can easily the time will pass and you'll be okay.
• 39:59
  SPEAKER_00: But getting delayed, and my next pick would be just going to a restaurant.
• 40:08
  SPEAKER_01: I had restaurant on my list.
• 40:09
  SPEAKER_00: Being able to sit there, eat your meal, not have to, again, entertain, not have to worry about the people around you.
• 40:19
  SPEAKER_00: Even like, yeah, kids are gonna be out there.
• 40:21
  SPEAKER_00: I don't really care if someone else has their kids out.
• 40:25
  SPEAKER_00: But in my mind, when I have my kids with us and we're eating somewhere, there's like a lot of stress for it.
• 40:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 40:32
  SPEAKER_00: Knowing what that they might not want to eat anything, first off.
• 40:37
  SPEAKER_00: They'll say they want mac and cheese, and the mac and cheese comes, but it's not the same type of mac and cheese they like from home.
• 40:42
  SPEAKER_00: Or like chicken tenders, not the same.
• 40:45
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes they will, but most of the time.
• 40:48
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 40:49
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 40:49
  SPEAKER_00: There's I and I don't like taking so much stuff to a like a restaurant toys.
• 40:56
  SPEAKER_00: Because all they get when they go to a restaurant is the paper in two colors of crayons, and then they can do that for so long.
• 41:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's hard.
• 41:09
  SPEAKER_00: It's not fun.
• 41:10
  SPEAKER_00: No.
• 41:10
  SPEAKER_01: And I also feel that it's good to practice going out in public.
• 41:15
  SPEAKER_01: Like you have to do it.
• 41:16
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's not that but it's not something that I'm like looking forward to doing a lot.
• 41:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, when we go to like, hey, we're gonna go to I don't know, Applebee's for lunch.
• 41:24
  SPEAKER_00: We have a good time, we get our meal, we conversate, no stress, might stress order, might stress order some apps that I don't necessarily need, but yeah.
• 41:36
  SPEAKER_01: I feel that that was another good pick.
• 41:38
  SPEAKER_01: That was on my list.
• 41:39
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 41:39
  SPEAKER_01: All right, my number two pick is gonna be Dave and Busters.
• 41:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's on the list.
• 41:43
  SPEAKER_00: That's on the list.
• 41:44
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I love Dave and Busters.
• 41:46
  SPEAKER_01: I it's fun to take the kids, they call it Pizza Planet.
• 41:49
  SPEAKER_01: We do a lot of Chuck E.
• 41:50
  SPEAKER_01: Cheese with them more because it's like kid friendly, yeah.
• 41:53
  SPEAKER_01: But like me and you like to game and like have a good time.
• 41:56
  SPEAKER_01: It's fun to go there on like a date night.
• 41:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 41:59
  SPEAKER_01: But when the kids are there, one, it's costing you double, not sometimes triple because they're they want to play all the games, but they're not even actually winning credits.
• 42:07
  SPEAKER_01: Well, some of the yeah.
• 42:08
  SPEAKER_00: They're not winning anything.
• 42:09
  SPEAKER_00: We're not getting many prizes.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes that they'll play the ones too that and they're not they don't play it the right way.
• 42:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and I don't want to show them like this is actually how you do it.
• 42:20
  SPEAKER_00: They're still having fun.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, we could be getting so many more tickets.
• 42:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like, we could be getting some good prizes if like this is how you get this many balls in this little bucket.
• 42:30
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 42:31
  SPEAKER_01: That so, like Damon Busters is definitely one where I'm like, when we take the kids, we still have a good time, but we're spending a lot more money, and the kid the kids don't get the prizes they want because they don't get enough tickets.
• 42:43
  SPEAKER_01: It's like yeah, it's a whole thing.
• 42:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um and they do the um I I don't really do the ones where you put the quarters in.
• 42:50
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I love that.
• 42:51
  SPEAKER_00: There are a lot of credits, yeah.
• 42:53
  SPEAKER_00: But can be worth a lot of tickets sometimes.
• 42:55
  SPEAKER_01: It's good to take the kids on Wednesdays.
• 42:57
  unknown: Yeah.
• 42:58
  SPEAKER_01: Half game, half game day or whatever.
• 43:00
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe we'll do that this Wednesday.
• 43:01
  SPEAKER_00: After dance.
• 43:02
  SPEAKER_00: After dance.
• 43:03
  SPEAKER_01: We could do that.
• 43:04
  SPEAKER_00: That could be fun.
• 43:05
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 43:05
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and my next one on my list is going to the bathroom.
• 43:10
  SPEAKER_01: And now you might not experience this as much, but I feel like I'm an open door bathroom person, especially like at their at your house.
• 43:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, at our house.
• 43:19
  SPEAKER_01: Not in like public, but if I gotta go to the bathroom and I want to go in there, it's almost, I'd say nine times out of ten, one of those kids is busting in, trying to knocking on the door, like, I'll hear you.
• 43:30
  SPEAKER_01: Like, let mom go to the bathroom.
• 43:32
  SPEAKER_01: She just gotta go to the bathroom.
• 43:33
  SPEAKER_01: My kids are in there, go, is this a tampon?
• 43:36
  SPEAKER_01: Do you need this?
• 43:38
  SPEAKER_01: Let me get you toilet paper, like all up in my grill when I'm trying to go to the bathroom.
• 43:42
  SPEAKER_01: So when I have alone time and I can just have a nice pee, a nice number two, I'm like, this is fabulous.
• 43:48
  SPEAKER_01: I love this so much.
• 43:49
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I don't get that as much.
• 43:51
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I whenever you are like you just did the wedding and I was with them Friday night and Saturday, I open door myself because I you know they might I just want to make sure I'm available if they need something and they do need something whenever I'm by myself with them all of a sudden they're invading my space but whenever otherwise they don't they don't bother me I think it's more so because of the smell than anything I'm not going to work um yeah that's a good pick it wasn't on my list but it it should have been my next pick is going to an amusement park oh yeah because they don't like to ride any of their or they can't they're not tall enough for a big ride so if you go without kids to like we Kennywood or if we would have ever done a you know go to a Cedar Point or go to Hershey Park.
• 44:44
  SPEAKER_00: Disney I feel like it's I like Disney better with the kids.
• 44:48
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah because and plus like we do the trip for them.
• 44:51
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah but going to Kennywood there's not characters there's not themed rides based off of a TV show or movie that they like like I want to go to Kennywood and ride this Phantom's Revenge.
• 45:03
  SPEAKER_00: They can't ride that they don't even want to ride the little Phantom let alone the big Phantom it's like worth it to go to that if we have another person.
• 45:10
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 45:11
  SPEAKER_01: That was like oh to go ride something with them or like do something else.
• 45:14
  SPEAKER_00: We went with our my mom came with us to Disney in May we do ride or swap if we get a fast pass for a ride that the adults can do and then let someone someone rides it twice someone rides it after the duo goes whatever it may be.
• 45:31
  SPEAKER_00: Like my mom's a big Tower of terror fan will never be able to go on it with Tyson anytime soon because he hates it.
• 45:37
  SPEAKER_00: He did ride it but he ain't ever going to do it for a long time.
• 45:40
  SPEAKER_01: I haven't ridden Tower of Tear in like three years because every time we go with the kids I never am one to go on it and now Tyson doesn't want to ride it.
• 45:47
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm like I'm out he's guarded I'm gonna have to wait until like we go when they're older or like if we ever do a trip that we have more people that want to well that's what Benny claims she says when she's older for all these things she's gonna do it she thought she just told me this morning she loves to talk about Disney but she said she was going to ride the Tiana ride because there's no hills.
• 46:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's like girl I got news for you breaking news I don't think there's nothing but hills.
• 46:11
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 46:12
  SPEAKER_00: All right my last pick is uh this one's just pretty niche to my own self it's walking the dogs like I had walk walking a walk in the neighborhood so similar like being able to throw my headphones in listen to a podcast not our own listen to music not have to stress about like the only thing I got to worry about when I walk the dogs is when we walk when I walk Callaway our golden retriever he likes to bark at anything that moves he barks at houses that I think dogs live there that dogs live there.
• 46:50
  SPEAKER_00: They're not necessarily out they're not making any noise but they he knows there's a dog there and he will bark until he hears that dog bark in response.
• 46:58
  SPEAKER_00: Look at me I'm on a walk I'm on a walk I'm on a walk aren't you jealous he did it today actually and it's still stressful with him the other two it's just so much easier and then like Tyson likes to come out and walk with me.
• 47:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's nothing I don't mind but he's asking like how do I put the when the dogs go number two like how do I get the poop into the poop bag and I show him but he still doesn't get it this is I don't know why we're discussing this right now buddy but this is just what it is.
• 47:30
  SPEAKER_00: This is how it happens he thinks it's magic that like I can grab it and then like turn it inside out and it's like no kids man.
• 47:37
  SPEAKER_00: They're fun it just takes so much longer when it comes to walking with the kids.
• 47:41
  SPEAKER_01: And you're not only like watching the dog you got to make sure you know they're on the inside they're not running around crazy on the street.
• 47:47
  SPEAKER_00: And they want to hold the dogs and the dogs know if they're holding that they can get away with a lot more yeah than if I was walking with them.
• 47:54
  SPEAKER_00: So they're sniffing at everything they're trying to get up into the yards doing whatever they please I'm like all right give me back the leash we got to wrap this up that's a good pick.
• 48:04
  SPEAKER_01: I did have walk in the neighborhood so I had similar um my last one is going to be also kind of niche but going to either a friend or family member's house that's not childproof so much better without the kids.
• 48:19
  SPEAKER_01: Like when you bring your kids somewhere and it's like our friends that don't have kids or just like even my parents when we first had kids like your parents' house is pretty childproof.
• 48:29
  SPEAKER_00: My parents' house not so much it's not it is now they have that baby gate go downstairs.
• 48:35
  SPEAKER_00: But it took a while for them to start like putting that stuff in because I'd be like can you please yeah and when you go to somewhere a friend's house and we don't really go to our parents without our kids necessarily what something's wrong with my watch remember yesterday when it was like shocking me I gotta get rid of this like when we go to like we go to your parents we go to my parents most of the time the nine times out of ten the kids are with us.
• 49:02
  SPEAKER_00: But we're going to a friend's house and we take the kids you don't get to like conversate as much with your friends and like catch up and see it.
• 49:10
  SPEAKER_00: Like you can't going to having friends over even yeah like sometimes when they go to sleep you know we we can finally play like a game we can play a board game when you play games with the kids like it's not as easy to do.
• 49:24
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah they just they they make it a little bit more stressful not that I again not bad like this these are that's just the category.
• 49:31
  SPEAKER_00: This is what we yeah this is just part of this other things I had was going to the grocery store but at the same time I do like it whenever like I went with them on Saturday we they wanted to get cookies that were the Halloween theme.
• 49:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like you have fun yeah but um it's just easier when you I gotta go get groceries.
• 49:53
  SPEAKER_00: I gotta go grocery shopping.
• 49:55
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah I know what I need and I'm not gonna get persuaded by anything but my own mind of oh maybe I do need that.
• 50:02
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like I think with them they're always like I want donuts I want these let's get these chips and then they just sit in there for like I'm easily persuaded by the kids and I'll go to the store for something then I'll forget it and then I'll remember when I'm like walking out and I'm like it's too difficult at this point to go through the whole line again.
• 50:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 50:19
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just gonna have to get it another day.
• 50:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like I haven't noticed the balloons at a grocery store in a long time until we had kids and they noticed it that's one of the first things they notice when we walk in the giant angle they had a giant they had a giant dinosaur the other day and Tyson was all about it.
• 50:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like we're not getting it yeah well they were very uh stoked about because you took them and there was all kinds of Halloween inflatables and stuff up and out they wanted to show me that which is cool but then there was the Halloween candy section not just the Halloween candy but it was there was an oogie boogie head that they really wanted like damn maybe Halloween you'll get it I don't know but like we're not right now we're not we're not we came to get these Halloween cookies that you wanted and the corn dip that I made for the tailgate.
• 51:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's why we're here we're not here for and also to get out of the house.
• 51:13
  SPEAKER_00: It was raining it was bad yeah you need it out going to a restaurant or going to a grocery store other ones I had going to a sporting event we don't I think the kids are too young to go took them to a high school football game never again like football it's hard to take them to like a professional sport unless it's pre-game yeah or pre-season like a pirates game they have fun they're not really into the game yeah they're into the playground in the back you're not watching the game you're going back to the playground that's what you're doing um the cliche won a wedding and the movies oh the movies is such a good one I didn't have that on my list just being able to see a movie that you can't go see with them I didn't mind go seeing the new Toy Story or the new Moana those are fun they like having but I like going to seeing a really good classic movie.
• 52:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah like when we saw Spider-Man and I had the beach just you can bring so much more than you need.
• 52:17
  SPEAKER_00: Yes but when you just go by yourself you're I might just bring like a football and a book and a boogie board and some water and some water sunscreen sunscreen and I don't know sandwiches.
• 52:29
  SPEAKER_00: No those are good.
• 52:30
  SPEAKER_00: But like you're not bringing toys correct so do you have anything or no?
• 52:34
  SPEAKER_01: No mine were mainly like coffee shop getting my hair done was one but like I don't get my hair done at the same place as the kids but like taking the kids to get their hair cut is like so chaotic and like dramatic.
• 52:48
  SPEAKER_01: And I did have going to Costco or BJ's is the one that we belong to like that if that robot's not out and about right oh my gosh it's the end of the world and the robot's broken so like I'm not going to BJ's anytime soon with them.
• 53:02
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah yikes.
• 53:03
  SPEAKER_00: Alright well that concludes our episode.
• 53:07
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• 53:12
  SPEAKER_00: We'll see you next week