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re546: The Next Version of You Sends the Invitation · Repossible

• 0:01
  If you're not being invited to the party, maybe it's time to host a party.
• 0:09
  Hey, I'm Bradley Shavano. It's Thursday morning here. Got a little Thursday Thunder going on. Got a little energy today. Feeling a little better, A little pep in my step. Did I say pep? Did I say pep? Where'd he go? There he goes. There's a little pep in my step.
• 0:22
  And why is that? It's because I'm taking action.
• 0:25
  Because if you sit around and wait for things to happen, I mean, they might happen.
• 0:31
  I mean, personally, relationship wise, business wise, if you're just sitting around and waiting for the phone to ring, I mean, you might be sitting around a while, right? And so, like, my wife's gone the next three days in the weekend, and I thought, what am I doing? I've got, like, nothing planned. And I think, who's going to. Who's to going? Who's gonna call me?
• 0:54
  And I hate to admit this, but I also do this with, like, speaking engagements and workshops and presentations and stuff. I'm way too passive, as you know. If you're watching any Thursday Thunder or Repossible podcast, you know that often these videos are for me, right? Like, I am speaking and I am the audience here. So what am I doing wrong and how can we fix that?
• 1:19
  And the question is, are you. Are you being invited to the party? Are you being invited to the speaking gig, to the book launch, to the event? Are you invited to be an attendee or. Or a moderator or a presenter or an emcee or whatever it is that you're looking for?
• 1:35
  Are you regularly being invited to these events, to these things or friends? Are you being invited for the coffee or the drink or the dinner or the thing or the event or the whatever or the weekend?
• 1:47
  Are you being invited, and are you being invited enough? And if not, because, again, that's so passive.
• 1:53
  Think about this.
• 1:56
  Send out the invitation.
• 1:59
  Shoot out those fireworks of desire to send out the invitation.
• 2:06
  Because my track record as far, especially with work, when I send out a call to, like, hey, I could do that. Hey, let me pitch that, or whatever, I've got a pretty positive track record. But hello, Problem? Earth to Bradley.
• 2:22
  What do I. What do I do? I don't even ask, right? I don't make the ask. I don't make the invitation.
• 2:29
  And I. So guess what? It's just. We're back to Wayne Gretzky, right? I think it was either Wayne Gretzky or. I don't know, but Wayne Gretzky of every Shot I don't take, I don't score a goal.
• 2:43
  And it's. It's so ridiculously simple when you get to the mathematics of it, right? If you don't take a shot, then your score is zero. If I don't call out the invitation, then the answer, the answer's not even no. It's like, worse than no. It's. There's no question, so there's no answer. There's no wish or desire or demand, and then there's no response. I mean, that's nothing. That's.
• 3:07
  O dare I say it. But silence.
• 3:10
  Silence is, is tough.
• 3:13
  I gotta say. I'm. I'm struggling with the silence. But back to communication. How can we make the call? How can we send out the invite? So yesterday I sent out a bunch of text messages and voice messages and stuff to friends and. And like, within a few hours, I've got four appointments in mostly in Amsterdam in the coming few days, right? And it's fun. I've got a coffee here and I've got a meeting there. And I'm with a longtime friend from back in Rotterdam, my old Greek friend, and I'm going to see her and she's going to be back from Athens. She's like, we can only meet from 3 to 4 on Saturday. I'm like, perfect, because you put out that invitation and let them decide when it's going to happen. And you just say, sure, I could do that. I could do three to four on Saturday in Amsterdam. Like, why not? I mean, do I want to see her? Yeah.
• 4:09
  And so did I put out the call? Yeah. Did she invite me? No.
• 4:14
  Do she and I. Does she and I Do she and I Do she and I text every once in a while and say we got to meet and we don't, right?
• 4:22
  And so put out the invitation because I've been talking with Spencer about branding, right? And I'm sticking with my brand.
• 4:33
  Who will you be next?
• 4:35
  Who is this next version of you? How are you growing? How will you transform? Are you going to remain the person who waits around for the call, who waits around for the. For the job, for the invite, for the date, for the coffee, for the whatever? Are you going to wait around for that?
• 4:53
  And that's been me a lot. So how can we change? How can we transform ourselves?
• 5:01
  I mean, change is a big thing, right? And so it does take time to get used to things. But when.
• 5:07
  Dare I. Dare I quote when you know, you know, and I know that about myself, that I'm not always the one to instigate. I'm not always the one to invite, and I do spend too much energy. Well, I guess I don't spend any energy waiting. But you do.
• 5:22
  You do spend energy waiting around for the invitation, right? Because you're like. It's almost like passive. Your passive energy. I'm. I'm spending energy waiting or expecting or hoping or dreaming. It's kind of like those eight years I spent not writing a damn book, right? I'm thinking about it more than doing it. And that might even cost me more energy than had I done the damn thing right.
• 5:46
  In fact, there you go. How about that for a little.
• 5:50
  A little jolt of inspiration on a Thursday morning here, you know? Jolt of inspiration, huh? Thursday morning.
• 5:59
  Come on, Pip.
• 6:04
  Where'd he go?
• 6:06
  Pepper.
• 6:08
  See if I don't make the invitation to Pepper. Other. Nope, nope. That is not him. That's a giant dog. Here we go. Are you ready for, like, the action scene here? Ready for some safari, baby?
• 6:18
  Where you going?
• 6:21
  We're going to delay from our. Our regular scheduling programming here with some. Some Pepper searching. What do you got?
• 6:37
  You're getting. You're getting the full, real me here. I can't even whistle. I can't make the invitation. How's that?
• 6:43
  All right, Bradley, you want to invite Pepper, but you can't even whistle. I can whistle. I'm better with my two hands. One thing, Pepper.
• 6:51
  He is. He is. Okay? He's not only deaf, but he's getting blind as a bat.
• 6:55
  Deaf as a doornail and blind as a bat. Oh, darn it. There he is. Come on, Babs. Good boy. There he is.
• 7:02
  All right, we're back in action. Where were we after that slight message from our sponsor?
• 7:07
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• 7:12
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• 7:19
  Okay, seriously, Bradley, where are we going?
• 7:22
  Invitation. Are you hosting the party? Are you hosting the event? Maybe you've got a summit. Maybe you've got a retreat. Maybe you've got a workshop. Are you hosting it and inviting people? Think about how much easier it is if you say, hey, I'm doing a thing and I'd like you to be a part of it. People are like, I want to be a part of something. I mean, people are thrilled to be invited to things, right?
• 7:43
  Whereas if I said, hey, do a thing, or, hey, maybe let's do a thing together, I mean, that's better, but better if I've got a thing and come enjoy the thing.
• 7:54
  So there you have it. We started out with a very simple, what am I doing this weekend?
• 8:01
  And sure, I've got plenty to do.
• 8:04
  But the human connection thing, the communication thing, that talking, that good stuff with friends, that really getting into it, I think as humans, I think we need it. I don't think we need it. I know we need it. I think this solitude and no communication, it's.
• 8:27
  I don't know, it's not really working for me. And I know we need to grow individually and have your own world. I get it. I'm doing that.
• 8:37
  Okay.
• 8:40
  Got several limitations in the coming days. It's going to be fun.
• 8:44
  I'm even finally going to go to the gym after four weeks of rehabilitation from my surgery.
• 8:50
  And that'll get me out and about and get me active. I'm already. I'm feeling so much better than a few weeks ago.
• 8:55
  So what are you going to do? What's your takeaway here? Because who will you be next? Right now? What now? What do I do now that things have changed, now that things are different, now that you're in this next phase of your life, what are you going to do now? What? And who will you be next?
• 9:10
  That's really the branding that I'm sticking with. That's my story, and I'm sticking with it. Right? That's. I'm going with it because it's worked for 10 years and I like it. I'm digging in deeper on it because it's not who will be your best self, it's who will be your next self. Who's this next version of you coming along, right?
• 9:28
  This next version of me. I'm stating it right here for the record.
• 9:31
  I'm going to invite more. I'm going to send out that invitation, that call to action, send out those pitches for the. For the talks and the workshops and the whatnots. Right? And why not? What have you got to lose? What's the worst that they can say? They can say no.
• 9:47
  What's even worse than doing that is not making the invitation. Who will you be next now? What, Bradley Schroban or Your Repossible Podcast YouTube channel? Kieran is signing out before 10 minutes. Gotta go. Bye.