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DLHS Hour 2 | Can you date you best friend’s ex · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: A woman confided in her and her and one of
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  Speaker 1: her closest friends about her ex, and now her closest
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  Speaker 1: friend is dating her ex. Do you think it's ever
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  Speaker 1: okay to date an X. I wouldn't do it. There's
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  Speaker 1: too many other circumstances. I wouldn't do it. And I
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  Speaker 1: did jazz and pointed out that I do say. You
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  Speaker 1: can't help who you love, but you can't help how
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  Speaker 1: you act. You can't help with you act on.
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  Speaker 2: I mean again, I think in this particular case, yes,
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  Speaker 2: if it was a very close friend and she had
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  Speaker 2: confided in her all of her secrets and then they
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  Speaker 2: ended up dating, then yeah, that's a little suspicious. But
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  Speaker 2: if you just happened to be a you know, you're
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  Speaker 2: a friend of mine in my circle, and I don't
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  Speaker 2: date this guy anymore and you date him, I really
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  Speaker 2: don't care. I've moved on, and get me.
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  Speaker 3: Somebody knew you.
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  Speaker 2: Then gave all the secret girl he wanted me to
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  Speaker 2: rub his back all night.
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  Speaker 4: I ain't doing that.
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  Speaker 5: And your girlfriend.
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  Speaker 1: Like, wait a minute, she seems a little predatory to me.
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  Speaker 4: Well do you think she seemed a son?
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  Speaker 2: They tell me more, and then I mean, you know,
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  Speaker 2: obviously if you're share that and and if you're telling
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  Speaker 2: your girl I have I actually have a friend that
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  Speaker 2: that happened to. She was, you know, complaining about her
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  Speaker 2: man and her relationship and telling all of the stuff
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  Speaker 2: that happened. Well, and this was her best friend. I
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  Speaker 2: did not agree with this. The best friend ended up
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  Speaker 2: with this guy and they're married to this day, by
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  Speaker 2: the way, and they had twinsends they are they are
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  Speaker 2: friends now because she had kids with him, and then
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  Speaker 2: he married the other girl and had kids with her.
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  Speaker 2: So the years, but they're friends now.
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  Speaker 6: Get back around to it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it took a little bit, but they're they're friends now.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you know, well you see what happen on
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  Speaker 1: Saturday Night Live. That didn't work out. He got fired too,
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  Speaker 1: so see, so I just I think that at a
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  Speaker 1: certain point, you know that that would seem to me
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  Speaker 1: a bit of a betrayal if I gave you the
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  Speaker 1: information and then all of a sudden, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: I would not believe that you didn't use some of
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  Speaker 1: that or weren't privy to something. It's like it's almost
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  Speaker 1: like you trust somebody so they stay at your house
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  Speaker 1: and then they know where everything is. And then something
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  Speaker 1: comes up missing.
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  Speaker 2: All your bags end up missing.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know exactly where that was.
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  Speaker 1: And they have it on like I thought you didn't
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  Speaker 1: want this no more? Hey man, No, I didn't say that.
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  Speaker 1: So the question we're asking Lead and Jum a woman
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  Speaker 1: confided in one of her closest friends about her acts,
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  Speaker 1: and now her and her closest friend and her acts
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  Speaker 1: are dating. Do you think this is ever okay to
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  Speaker 1: date your one of your friends Axes Junius? Has that
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  Speaker 1: ever happened to you?
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  Speaker 4: No? You know, And I don't think it's cool unless
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  Speaker 4: you know one of those in question has gone to glory.
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  Speaker 4: So if one's gone, then you got to kill them. No,
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  Speaker 4: you know, one pass and go on because you see
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  Speaker 4: that all the time. Now there are people who used to,
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  Speaker 4: you know, run together as friends.
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  Speaker 1: And then Hunter Biden married his son bose wife that yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and one of the spouses pass on brother.
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  Speaker 4: Didn't they get together because they it's close tight? But no,
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  Speaker 4: not if they all still living? Yeah, well everybody alive now?
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  Speaker 4: Hell no? And the Thanksgiving kind of complicated.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying I have a lot of friends and
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  Speaker 1: they have beautiful women, and I'm like, it's just at
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  Speaker 1: a certain point, I won't even look. It's just just
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  Speaker 1: that's how I mean.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just, it's just it's just me.
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  Speaker 1: If you dude, you my dude, that means your girls
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  Speaker 1: like a sister to me.
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  Speaker 7: If you my brother, like your girl is like a
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  Speaker 7: sister to me. So that's how you know.
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  Speaker 1: Now, I wouldn't say I would't masturbate them to them.
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't say that.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just saying, yeah, leave that sister part out there.
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  Speaker 4: That's fair that I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I say.
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't, but I wouldn't do it.
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  Speaker 1: I just I think it's.
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  Speaker 4: Enough people in the world. You ain't got to be
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  Speaker 4: messy for no reason.
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  Speaker 1: Come on, you gotta have a level of code of ethics.
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  Speaker 1: I think you got to be honor among things. In
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  Speaker 1: my estimation, I think of question we're asking, is ever
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  Speaker 1: a woman confided in her that's one of her closest
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  Speaker 1: friends about her asks now her closest friend are exs
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  Speaker 1: are dating? Do you think it's ever okay?
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  Speaker 4: Today?
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  Speaker 1: The closest a close friends asks, we're.
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  Speaker 8: Going to the phone.
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  Speaker 9: I don't think that friends should date friends as if
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  Speaker 9: it's ten years forty fifty.
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  Speaker 10: It's a whole world out there.
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  Speaker 8: You don't have to be so disgusting.
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  Speaker 10: I think it's a back seven.
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  Speaker 3: Uh, And I think it's just quite wicked and evil.
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  Speaker 6: No, it's got a girl that's messing around with the
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  Speaker 6: sex person. Lord, I mean, how much do ever be
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  Speaker 6: looking at it all that time? Being my friend and
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  Speaker 6: looking at my woman? Go ahead, off, it can't be
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  Speaker 6: my friend no more. If you messed with my ex.
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  Speaker 11: Anybody who does that, that's not a friend. I think
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  Speaker 11: too often nowadays people thought that we're friendship friend around
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  Speaker 11: too loosely. Oftentimes it's just just associates are close associates.
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  Speaker 11: But a real friend wouldn't do nothing like that, especially
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  Speaker 11: when you're confined in her. Know that that's no that
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  Speaker 11: she was never a friend.
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  Speaker 12: If they would not be invited to the wedding, then
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  Speaker 12: they are fair games. Meaning if I'm dating one guy
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  Speaker 12: and then we stove dating, and then I'm happen to
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  Speaker 12: meet up with another friend of his or so kids
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  Speaker 12: to say, I'm gonna ask him with such and such
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  Speaker 12: being invited to your wedding, whether you're marrying me or
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  Speaker 12: somebody else down the line.
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  Speaker 3: If they're not close.
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  Speaker 12: Enough that they would be invited to your weddings.
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  Speaker 7: Then their fair game.
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  Speaker 6: Well, it's duplicitous at best.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna gain a man to lose a friend, So
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  Speaker 1: you have to gauge whether what's more important.
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna lose this girlfriend, but I'm.
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  Speaker 6: A gain a man, and we all know a good
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  Speaker 6: man is more valuable than a good girlfriend.
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  Speaker 8: But be prepared to lose that friend.
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  Speaker 5: But as a general rule, it's against man cold and
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  Speaker 5: girdl cold.
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  Speaker 6: That's my opinion.
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  Speaker 10: I don't think it is acceptable. It's naturally jealousy scene point.
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  Speaker 10: It would be fy my mental health standpoint, because them
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  Speaker 10: being together will ultimately impact my mental health because I
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  Speaker 10: would still have to go out, like on date nights
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  Speaker 10: and stuff. So I think it's unacceptable.
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  Speaker 13: Hey, I was taught to share growing up, so when
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  Speaker 13: I'm done playing with my toys, I let somebody else
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  Speaker 13: have them.
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  Speaker 8: Now the question is whether or not you want to
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  Speaker 8: come playing behind me.
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  Speaker 13: Jo.
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  Speaker 7: I'm kind of in a similar situation right now, and
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  Speaker 7: all I'm gonna say is run, because obviously there's something
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  Speaker 7: wrong with the other version.
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  Speaker 6: I don't think it's a good idea.
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  Speaker 5: I think men who actually date their friend or women
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  Speaker 5: who date the act is stimping, and I don't think
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  Speaker 5: there's any room for stimping this day and eight.
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  Speaker 9: Yes, I believe that no one belongs to anyone. And
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  Speaker 9: if someone can offer someone else peace and love, then
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  Speaker 9: allow them to say because blocking someone from loving that
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  Speaker 9: can't act your car.
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  Speaker 12: In a good way. So someone else can have.
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  Speaker 7: Love, let them love them if it's your ex.
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  Speaker 9: Somewhat wishing well and then universal blessings.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Well, the question we're asking ladies, gentlemen, there
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  Speaker 1: was a woman who confided in her best friend about
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  Speaker 1: one of our closest friend about her axe. And then
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  Speaker 1: now that close friend and that exitating. Do you think
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  Speaker 1: that that's appropriate? Do you think it's a rokay to
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  Speaker 1: data close friends? Ax, we're going to the phones.
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  Speaker 14: I do not think it is okay for my friends
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  Speaker 14: to be my ex like that is solely off limits.
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  Speaker 10: I don't care who was back in elementary school.
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  Speaker 3: You cannot date my ex.
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  Speaker 14: Don't care. It's off limits. You cannot date your friends,
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  Speaker 14: and you know I wouldn't do that to them, quite white, period.
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  Speaker 8: I believe that you know, yeah, you don't date somebody's
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  Speaker 8: ex husband or boyfriend or something like that. Now, messing
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  Speaker 8: with them is a totally different things. But dating them now,
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  Speaker 8: I think that's disrespectful. Although you don't own that person
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  Speaker 8: once you're done with them, you still don't, you know,
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  Speaker 8: it's I think it's a matter of optics and respect it.
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  Speaker 10: I don't think it's ever a time that you should
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  Speaker 10: tweet with the ex. I mean, you know, I'm sorry
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  Speaker 10: they did X.
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  Speaker 8: But I also have I kind of thought abody like you, maybe.
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  Speaker 9: All that information that they're giving to the other friends
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  Speaker 9: when they break up, then they can do with that
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  Speaker 9: other person because they know what to look for now
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  Speaker 9: what the other person was.
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  Speaker 10: Not to do I guess in the relationship.
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  Speaker 4: So I don't think you should ate the other person.
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  Speaker 3: It's never a good idea to date your ex. It's
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  Speaker 3: a broock cold and I know it's a Swiss code
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  Speaker 3: that you don't do that kind of stuff, but I
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  Speaker 3: think i'm if I can't remember right that Alisa Keys
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  Speaker 3: did that when she got with Swiss Beats because he
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  Speaker 3: was with her friend. So I just don't agree with that. Now,
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  Speaker 3: it's not the trend I'm taking. I'm all old school.
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  Speaker 3: I'm I'm in my sisters sixty so I got I
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  Speaker 3: got a brook cold, and I always have had that
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  Speaker 3: from the time I was dating to now, just something
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  Speaker 3: you just don't do.
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  Speaker 13: It's definitely not okay for you to date your girlfriends
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  Speaker 13: or your boyfriend's ex code of conduct that it should
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  Speaker 13: be unspoken, but apparently some people need memos to say
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  Speaker 13: that it's not right. I've been in a situation myself
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  Speaker 13: similar to that to the point now, I'm not speaking
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  Speaker 13: to either party, the male or the female that was
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  Speaker 13: the girlfriend of mine that is now dating an ex
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  Speaker 13: of mine, and I think they're talking about getting married,
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  Speaker 13: but I won't be there.
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  Speaker 3: I can promise you that, and I do wish them
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  Speaker 3: well if.
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  Speaker 13: They should happen to have a life long relationship, but
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  Speaker 13: knowing both parties, I don't see longevity in either one
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  Speaker 13: of their unions.
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  Speaker 7: That's why the statement no new friends applies. Don't make
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  Speaker 7: no new friends, because all they're gonna do is try
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  Speaker 7: to introduce you to everybody that they friends would, so
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  Speaker 7: you can't talk to their friend, and same thing vice
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  Speaker 7: versa with guys. Guys do the same thing. They try
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  Speaker 7: to Oh that's not x May, that's my old girl.
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  Speaker 7: That's gonna be the one that I'm gonna marry. So
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  Speaker 7: you are blocked off from everything.
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  Speaker 3: That you could possibly ever talk to.
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  Speaker 7: No new friends,