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Protect the Energy That Makes You Feel Alive (S5) S34:E2 Sunday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone, and welcome once again
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Hopefully you have had a wonderful weekend and
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So yes, great to have you here.
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And this is our second day in, yes,
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here.
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We'll get to our show here in just
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a moment.
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But on days like today, we like to
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do something special, which is Sundays and Thursdays,
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we actually do a shout-out to some
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They're actually located, well, right here in Hawthorne,
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New Jersey.
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a girly elevated twist.
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cute.
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they're a truck, we're more than happy to
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Welcome.
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around.
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I don't have an exact address where they're
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going to be next, but just wanted to
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give a shout out to them.
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So guys, yes, if you're thirsty or hungry,
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feel free to go grab yourself something.
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I have my cup of tea here.
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Pretty good.
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So ladies and gentlemen, I want to tell
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you something.
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I want to tell you that it's important
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that you become the version of you that
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you want to be a better version of
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yourself.
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And I know a lot of you are
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probably saying to me, John, I don't know
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how to do that.
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And that's fine if you don't know how
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to do that.
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That's why we're here, to help you become
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a better version of yourself.
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BelieveMeAchieved.com, of course, from where my amazing,
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You can do that later.
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But guys, let's get into the show, all
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right?
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Building a life you don't need to escape
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from, series 5, show 34.
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That is what this whole week is about.
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Protect the energy that makes you feel alive.
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Series 5, show 34, episode number 2.
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That is our granular topic for today.
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All right, everyone.
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Welcome, once again, to the Inspirations for Your
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Life show.
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If you've been here before, well, I would
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love to say welcome back and thank you
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so much for being here.
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It's your first time here.
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Of course, welcome and thank you as well.
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Hey, everyone.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, in case you did not
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know.
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An engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast host,
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coach, keynote speaker, a graduate student at Montclair
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State University, a passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Yes, guys.
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Welcome.
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Your energy, guys, affects everything.
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I don't know if you know that, but
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it really does.
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It influences how you think, how you communicate,
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how you work, how you respond to challenges,
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and how much of your life you actually
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enjoy.
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Yet, we often protect our money, possessions, and
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schedules more carefully than we protect our energy.
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Today isn't about avoiding responsibility or pretending difficult
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situations don't exist.
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No, it's about becoming more intentional about what
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receives access to you.
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Let's explore 30 ways to protect the energy
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that makes you feel alive.
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Now, not to pick on one person, but
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we've all had somebody before that's kind of
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did something, said this, said that, but you
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know what happens?
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They really don't come through.
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They don't follow through.
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Maybe they're too busy.
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Who knows what it is, but it doesn't
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really matter.
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The point is you don't want to give
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people like that access to your life, because
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if you do, it's going to drain you,
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and you're going to expect something, and guess
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what happens?
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Well, they're not going to be able to
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help you.
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Yeah, and you're going to be frustrated.
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So that is a big problem.
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Number one, guys, learn where your energy disappears.
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Learn where your energy disappears.
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Pay attention to the moments that consistently leave
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you drained.
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We know those.
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Certain activities, conversations, habits, or environments may be
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consuming far more energy than you actually realize.
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You can't protect something until you understand where
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it's going.
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Number two, guys, stop giving everything equal importance.
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Not every request, inconvenience, notification, or problem deserves
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the same amount of attention.
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Decide what genuinely matters and allow smaller things
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to remain smaller.
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Number three, recognize emotional exhaustion.
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Early, early, because it'll save you from burnout.
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Don't wait until you're completely depleted before admitting
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you're tired.
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Like, don't wait to get a drink until
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you're, like, so dehydrated you can barely walk.
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Notice changes in patience, concentration, enthusiasm, and the
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mood around you.
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Early awareness gives you an opportunity to adjust.
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That's key, guys.
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Number four, protect yourself from unnecessary negativity.
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You can't eliminate every negative situation or vibe,
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but you don't have to voluntarily surround yourself
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with negativity.
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If it exists, just excuse yourself from it.
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You don't have to be rude.
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Be selective about what repeatedly enters your mind.
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When somebody says, oh, we're going to help
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you, we're going to support you.
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But then they fall off the earth.
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Don't lose heart.
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Just see it for what it is.
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And detach yourself from those people.
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Number five, notice which environments drain you.
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Some environments leave you energized, while others consistently
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just exhaust you.
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Notice the difference.
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Your surroundings, ladies and gentlemen, this is key.
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Your surroundings influence your mental and emotional state
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more than you may realize.
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Number six, spend energy where it creates something.
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Invest energy in work, relationships, learning, creativity, problem
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-solving, and experiences that produce something meaningful.
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Energy becomes valuable when it helps something worthwhile
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grow.
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That's key, guys.
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Number seven, stop carrying everybody else's urgency.
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There's no need for it.
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And people will let you, and it'll just
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drain you.
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Someone else's emergency doesn't automatically have to become
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yours.
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Determine what actually requires immediate attention, all right,
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immediate attention, before allowing another person's urgency to
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control your day.
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All right, that's a key thing, guys.
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A really, really, a really, really key thing.
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So number eight, give your mind recovery time.
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Your brain needs periods when it isn't constantly
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solving, reacting, processing, or deciding.
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Give yourself opportunities to mentally recover without feeling
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guilty about them.
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Number nine, identify what restores you, what genuinely
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brings your energy back.
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It could be quiet time, exercise, music, nature,
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reading, creating conversation, or simply being away from
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constant stimulation.
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Learn what works for you, okay.
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Number 10, stop confusing exhaustion with accomplishment.
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Being completely exhausted doesn't automatically mean you had
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a successful day.
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Results matter more than proving how depleted you
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can become while producing them, all right.
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This is important, and I'm telling you this
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stuff because I care.
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This isn't me trying to, you know, tell
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you what to do, but this is me
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explaining that we have to give ourself time.
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If we don't, that can become, you know,
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a very, very big problem, a really, really
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big problem.
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So I want to tell you that honestly.
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I think that's important to understand, okay.
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And I know a lot of you are
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saying, John, I don't get it, right.
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I think sometimes people, like for whatever reason,
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they get confused, okay.
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They get confused, and then that causes them
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to be depleted.
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Number 11, guys, protect your enthusiasm.
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It's precious.
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Enthusiasm is valuable.
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Don't continually expose your excitement to people who
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immediately dismiss every idea or explain why nothing
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will work.
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I'll give you an example.
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I was talking to a neighbor a few
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weeks ago, and I was, you know, coming
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back from a hike, and I was really
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excited about it.
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And you know what they said to me?
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Oh, John, you told us about your hike
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last time.
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And I had a few words.
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I didn't want to say anything.
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And I said, well, this was different.
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You know, this was a different situation at
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the time.
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And they didn't really give a darn, right.
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So don't expect other people to kowtow or
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to have the same joys you do.
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When you dismiss them and you don't expect
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anything, you're better off.
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If they surprise you, great.
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But don't be waiting for them.
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You're worth more than that.
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Give worthwhile ideas enough room to develop.
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Number 12, create distance from constant complaining.
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Everyone needs to vent occasionally.
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But constant complaining without any desire to improve
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something can become exhausting.
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You don't have to participate in every negative
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conversation.
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Not to participate in any of them.
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Number 13, stop spending energy proving yourself.
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You don't need to win every argument or
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convince everyone that you're capable.
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Let your work character, consistency, and results speak
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when it's possible.
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Number 14, give difficult situations appropriate limits.
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A difficult situation deserves enough attention to address
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it responsibly.
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But it doesn't deserve unlimited access to your
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entire day.
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Handle what you can and create boundaries around
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the rest of your life.
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Number 15, recognize when you're mentally overloaded.
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It happens.
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When everything starts feeling equally urgent, you may
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be overloaded.
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Stop adding more.
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Identify what actually needs attention.
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And reduce unnecessary demands where possible.
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Okay.
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Number 16, recharge before you completely become empty,
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right?
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Think about this with a car.
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Do we wait till the gas tank is
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empty before we get gas?
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I hope not.
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Otherwise, you'll be riding on fumes.
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And worse, you might stall.
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Don't treat recovery as something you earn only
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after you're exhausted yourself.
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Small periods of recovery can prevent you from
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reaching the point where everything becomes harder.
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So today, LeJello and I got back from
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my four-hour hike.
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I decided the first thing I was going
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to do was just to get comfortable in
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my chair, listen to some music, and just
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rest.
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And I did for a few hours.
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And that felt really, really good.
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Number 17, stop volunteering for unnecessary stress.
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You don't need to do that.
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You don't need to be the yes person
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or pleaser to everyone.
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Before saying yes, ask whether something genuinely needs
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your involvement.
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Being capable of handling something doesn't mean you
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must automatically take responsibility for it.
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A lot of people miss that point in
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life.
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They try to be the people pleasers.
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And I admire people that want to do
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that.
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But I know I was younger.
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I did it all the time.
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The thing is, if you become a people
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pleaser 24-7, you're going to run into
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a problem, okay?
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The problem you're going to run into is
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you're going to get tired.
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You're going to get frustrated.
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You're going to burn out.
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What burnout means is it takes the joys
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away from the things you love in life.
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Number 18, use your strongest energy intentionally.
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Notice when you're at your best during the
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day.
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Whenever possible, use those periods for work, conversations,
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creativity, or decisions that genuinely deserve your strongest
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attention, all right?
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Number 19, protect the activities that restore you.
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If something consistently helps you, recharge.
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Don't always sacrifice it.
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First, when life becomes busy, the activities that
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restore you may be exactly what allows you
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to handle everything else better in your life.
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And that's the real truth.
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But some people, you know, they have this
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ego.
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And, you know, they have to be better
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than everybody because that's just their ego.
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That's how their ego works.
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But I think sometimes the ego actually becomes
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the death of them because they're not open
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to learning.
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They're not open to growing.
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Number 20, learn when enough is enough.
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You've heard people say enough is enough, right?
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But then people still keep going on.
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There will always be another email, a task,
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improvement, a challenge, or a problem, depending how
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you look at it.
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Sometimes you need to recognize that you've done
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enough for today and allow yourself to stop
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where you are.
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That's a hard thing for people.
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How do you stop where you are when
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you're not, like, happy?
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I think you have to be content with
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the day and where you're at.
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And when you're content with that day, that
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makes a very, very big difference for everybody,
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right?
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It makes a very, very big difference for
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everybody around.
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And I know that's hard for some people
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to understand.
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But I want to be clear and let
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you know that you have the choice to
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decide what to do, right?
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You have that choice.
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Number 21, don't let one problem consume your
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entire day.
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We've all been there.
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We've all done that.
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Don't let it happen.
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A difficult hour doesn't automatically need to become
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a terrible day.
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Let me give you an example.
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You know, you get up in the morning,
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maybe you stub your toe, or you hit
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your elbow, or you even broke a glass
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or something.
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And then you allow that to spiral you
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down the rest of the day.
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When you say, okay, I broke a glass,
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I bumped my arm, I did something.
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Okay, the next, the rest of my day
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is going to be good.
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Your mind needs to shift out of that
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spot that it's in.
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Address what happened.
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Learn what you can.
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And refuse to give one event more time
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than it deserves.
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You have the power to do so much
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more in life, guys, when you actually do
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it.
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You have to take action from those inspired
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thoughts.
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They're not magically going to get done for
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you, okay?
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Number 22, create emotional breathing room.
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You don't need to react immediately to everything
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you feel.
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Give yourself space between an event and your
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response.
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No one says you got to give the
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answer tomorrow.
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That space can help you respond thoughtfully instead
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of emotionally.
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Number 23, preserve energy for people who matter.
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Don't give every ounce of patience and attention
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to strangers' problems and obligations.
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Then arrive exhausted around the people you value
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most.
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Save something meaningful for them too.
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They deserve it just like you.
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Number 24, stop allowing these minor challenges and
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problems to become the major drains and the
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major attention of your life.
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You know, 10 things should go well for
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you today.
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But then you're like, oh my gosh, but
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then this one thing happened.
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Okay, it happened, all right?
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It could be the fact you got stuck
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in traffic.
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But don't let that be the thought of
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your whole day.
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You might've went to a conference and you
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had an amazing time.
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But maybe one of the items of food
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they served wasn't good.
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It didn't taste good.
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Don't let that ruin the whole experience that
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you had.
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A minor inconvenience can consume hours if you
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continually replay it over and over again.
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Ask yourself whether the amount of energy you're
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giving something matches its actual importance.
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Many people won't do that.
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Number 25, notice what consistently lifts you.
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Pay attention to the people, the places, the
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activities, and experiences that leave you feeling stronger.
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Those patterns can teach you where your energy
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is being renewed.
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That's something we should pay attention to, I
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think.
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Number 26, give yourself permission to disengage.
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A lot of people, when they've committed to
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do something, it's okay to say, I don't
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wanna do that anymore.
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Maybe you volunteered for a while and you're
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like, oh, this is gonna be too much
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for me.
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Maybe you've got school.
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Maybe you've got things going on.
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What's happened to me, right?
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Doing school, being a serial entrepreneur, running other
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companies, being a keynote speaker.
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Sometimes you have to say no to these
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volunteer people.
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And that doesn't make you a bad person.
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And no doesn't mean never or right now.
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It's no.
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Not every debate requires your opinion.
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Not every message requires an immediate response.
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And too many people from the corporate world
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say, oh my gosh, I gotta give an
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answer now.
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No, you don't.
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Not every situation requires your involvement.
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Sometimes disengagement is a responsible choice, all right?
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Number 27, treat energy like a limited resource.
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You don't have a limited concentration, patience, creativity,
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or emotional capacity.
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When you recognize that you become more selective
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about where those resources go, that's the key
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to having a better, more fulfilling life.
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The catch is most people do not take
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the time of their day to say, wait
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a minute, being more intentional.
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Being more intentional is enjoying the moment, okay?
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I think that's a very important thing to
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realize.
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It's about the moment, the moment.
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The moment is key, guys.
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The moment is absolutely, absolutely, absolutely key.
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If we don't do that, then that can
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be a very big problem for us and
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for many other people, many other people.
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So let's become more intentional.
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Number 28, invest it where it can grow.
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Use your energy where it can create something
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larger.
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Knowledge, relationships, meaningful work, personal development, experiences,
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or opportunities that continue producing value.
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Number 29, your energy shapes your experience.
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Two people can move through similar days and
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experience them completely differently.
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Depending on where their attention and energy go,
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what you repeatedly feed influences how life feels.
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Number 30, protect what makes you feel alive.
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Don't become so busy maintaining everything that you
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eliminate everything that gives your life joy and
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energy.
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Protect the people, the interests, the experiences, and
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the moments that remind you why you're doing
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all this in the first place.
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A wise person once said something to me.
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You know what that was?
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It was that, you know, John, we have
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to become a person that's about truth.
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We have to become a person that's about
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what's going on in our life.
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We have to become a person that acknowledges
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things, that becomes in the moment, okay?
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We have to be a person that enjoys
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the journey on the way to our goals,
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not just enjoy when we get there.
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As I get ready to close and wrap
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this show up, protecting your energy isn't selfish,
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and it isn't about creating a life without
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responsibilities.
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No, it's about recognizing that your energy has
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value.
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You can't give everything unlimited access to it.
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You don't need to carry every person's urgency.
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You don't need to win every argument.
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You don't need to solve every problem today,
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and you don't need to become completely exhausted
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before giving yourself permission to recover and take
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a break.
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You know, I wrote the book, Drain to
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Driven, and I broke my leg 10 years
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ago.
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I gotta tell you, once that happened, more
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epiphanies have been happening to me, and the
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one that was really interesting is that it's
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okay to take a break.
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You know, if you're not fully tired, take
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a break.
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Pay attention to what drains you.
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Pay attention to what restores you.
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Notice the environments that change your mood.
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Notice the people who strengthen you.
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Notice when you're spending enormous energy on something
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that barely matters.
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Then make adjustments.
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Maybe you need more recovery, time for yourself.
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Maybe you need to say no more often,
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because that's yes to yourself.
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Maybe you need to stop giving one frustrating
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situation control over an entire day, a week,
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a month, your entire life.
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Maybe you need to protect something you enjoy
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instead of constantly removing it from your schedule
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because everyone else says there's no time for
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it.
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Don't let other people be the factor that
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takes you away from your joys.
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They're always gonna be selfish and want you
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to put time on them.
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You need to put more time on yourself.
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Your energy is one of the resources through
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which you experience your life.
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Where it goes matters.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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And thank you so much for choosing to
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join me for another amazing episode of Inspirations
26:13
For Your Life.
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Use your energy intentionally.
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Invest it where something meaningful can grow.
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Preserve some for the people who matter.
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Give your mind room to recover.
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You know, if you think about anything you
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do in life, whether you walk, whether you
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run, there's gotta be a recovery time.
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And there isn't a penalty time for some
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more tea.
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There shouldn't be a penalty that you impose
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on yourself because you're taking a time out,
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because you're chilling.
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You have the right to take a time
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out.
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You have the right to say no.
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You have the right to say, I'll get
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back to you.
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You have the right to say, let me
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check my schedule.
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You have the right to say, I'd like
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to.
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At this time, it's just not something I
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put in my schedule.
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You can make it as nice as you
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want or just say, I don't have the
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time.
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I prefer to say at this time, I'm
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not able to help you.
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If they ask you why, I have other
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commitments.
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That's it.
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You don't owe anybody an explanation as to
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why you can't help them.
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If you promise to give somebody 15 minutes
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or 30 minutes and it's going past 30,
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I gotta get going.
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I have a hard stop at 5.30,
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whatever.
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And then hopefully they respect you.
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If they don't, it's just proving my point
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that they're about being selfish.
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Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations and do
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protect your energy.
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It's the key to your success.
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Take care, everyone.
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Be well.