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HOW TO FRIEND-ZONE YOUR 'GUY BEST FREIND' WHOS IN LOVE WITH YOU · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables.
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  Speaker 2: And it hurt, and it hurts to the core.
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  Speaker 3: Bro let me tell you to sign fall asleep four
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  Speaker 4: Relatable the Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Audie Clark
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  Speaker 4: ak Mummy, and my partner in crime, the Patrick to
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  Speaker 4: my SpongeBob Jake Craig ak Daddy. This this, this argument
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  Speaker 4: is ongoing forever.
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  Speaker 1: I am not Patrick. Yes, you are not Patrick. Who
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  Speaker 1: gets more girls?
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  Speaker 3: Wait? Have a girlfriend? That's why you're Patrick mane.
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  Speaker 2: Patrick.
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  Speaker 1: All right, we've said it a few times. We hear
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  Speaker 1: it a lot. Girls think men put chapstick on.
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  Speaker 3: Wrong they do? Proven wrong, Jake, proven wrong, proven over promo.
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  Speaker 3: If you're not I'm about to put some chapstick on.
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  Speaker 3: If you're on Spotify and not on YouTube, proven wrong, Patrick,
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  Speaker 3: proven wrong. Mmmm. Move those leaves, mate, move them, move
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  Speaker 3: those leaves.
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  Speaker 1: Chapped them ready to talk, chapped and ready to chat?
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  Speaker 4: Well today, do you want to start with make them say?
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  Speaker 3: Yes? We're about to give away another hat.
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  Speaker 1: Let's go.
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  Speaker 4: We gave one last week away to Matt and we
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  Speaker 4: didn't play make them say because we felt nice.
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  Speaker 1: First hat had to be just give a tom.
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  Speaker 4: But today we are calling mckayley, yes, and we are
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  Speaker 4: going to try and make her say the word.
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  Speaker 3: We've got a random generator. Jake's got it right now, what.
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  Speaker 1: Word did the Jake? We're generating needle needle? Needle needle.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that's hard.
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  Speaker 2: Needle.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, here's my tactic though, here's my tactic.
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  Speaker 3: All right, I don't know how I'm gonna put needle
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  Speaker 3: into it. They they we We open it up with, hey, mckayley,
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  Speaker 3: it's us, all right, yeah, we she knows there's a
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  Speaker 3: chance she's playing make them say but also like the
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  Speaker 3: listen to the podcast, they're gonna be like, oh cool,
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  Speaker 3: they're calling me. All right, we just open it up
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  Speaker 3: with like, mckayley, what what are those things that you
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  Speaker 3: get when you get an injection?
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  Speaker 2: She just goes a needle and we're like, sorry, love,
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  Speaker 2: you don't win.
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  Speaker 3: Is that your game?
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  Speaker 4: But if that doesn't work, we have the hats between us,
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  Speaker 4: needle to sew. That's our backup if she doesn't say it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, timer time tim When she answers, I'll have a
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  Speaker 3: one minute timer. You can we a minute? Yeah, one minute,
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  Speaker 3: Like I say, I say, tactics wise, Thanks for listening.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for putting.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, we're ready. This is gonna be hard. Mckayley.
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  Speaker 3: We call and I hope she picks up my phones
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  Speaker 3: on the call already? Are you going first?
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  Speaker 4: Straight up with that, mkayley. It's Audi and Jake from
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  Speaker 4: the Relatables.
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  Speaker 3: How are you going? Hey? Good? Thanks? Are you good?
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  Speaker 3: Thank you? You've just won yourself a hat. Oh my gosh, amazing,
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  Speaker 3: Thank you so much, Kayley.
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  Speaker 1: Where are you at?
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  Speaker 3: Where do you were in childcare?
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  Speaker 1: Childcare?
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  Speaker 3: I had a little debate, a little debate before the
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  Speaker 3: show that we were going to get you to settle.
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  Speaker 1: When getting an injection?
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  Speaker 3: What is it called? Addie and I have got one
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  Speaker 3: each of what we think it's called, but it's different.
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  Speaker 3: What would you call it? Like like when getting injection,
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  Speaker 3: like a needle or something? We got you you just lost?
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  Speaker 3: Make them say.
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  Speaker 2: So much.
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  Speaker 3: I'm really going to say, like an immunization. We're so Mkayley,
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  Speaker 3: I feel so bad, horrible. So that's okay. Maybe next time.
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  Speaker 3: Damn at least I got a hoodie. Ship she bought
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  Speaker 3: a hoodie. We might we might cut this out.
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  Speaker 4: We might slip in our hat not to anyone.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, pink, let's go I have for you.
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  Speaker 4: Well, thank you, thank you very much for ordering a hoodie,
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  Speaker 4: and we wish.
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  Speaker 1: You a good day.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you to you guys. Love the thank you, thank you, bye,
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  Speaker 3: thanks bye. You nailed that.
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  Speaker 4: I thought you were going to go straight into like
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  Speaker 4: do like kids need injections, but you just asked the questions.
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  Speaker 1: I forgot to say the time of it. We didn't
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  Speaker 1: need it.
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  Speaker 3: You were on your stuff. I was like, oh, he's
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  Speaker 3: gone for he's going for it.
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  Speaker 1: Easier to do to random people.
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  Speaker 3: We've just done it to people we know, so they
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  Speaker 3: know we're on a podcast, and she knows we're on
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  Speaker 3: the podcast. But also, I just I knew in the
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  Speaker 3: heat of the moment, you'd be like, oh, they asked
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  Speaker 3: me a question.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just going to be like.
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  Speaker 3: I feel so I felt so awkward saying well, you
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  Speaker 3: don't get anything there, Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, the rejection is like, you've got to
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  Speaker 2: be smart.
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  Speaker 3: You gotta just likes though, because I'm like, I feel
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  Speaker 3: so bad, but they want a way to start the body.
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  Speaker 1: That was great, alright.
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  Speaker 3: The other day I had a memory, like an embarrassing
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  Speaker 3: memory something because well just in my head because something
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  Speaker 3: happened where I heard about someone getting like friend zoned.
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  Speaker 3: All right, And I remember one time I got friend zoned,
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  Speaker 3: really and I got friend zoned without being actually told
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  Speaker 3: word for word that I was friend zoned. Leonardo DiCaprio, J.
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  Speaker 3: Craig got friend zoned. So back in the day, all right,
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  Speaker 3: school year nine, Yeah, you were still a little ugly,
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  Speaker 3: would like to say, year nine, I had to krush
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  Speaker 3: on this girl, name dropping, maybe not actually.
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  Speaker 1: How to crush on this girl.
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  Speaker 3: And started messaging her as you do in you're nine.
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  Speaker 3: You don't talk to him in person. I didn't talk
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  Speaker 3: to girls, mate, disgusting.
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  Speaker 1: What am I going to say?
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  Speaker 3: Hey, how are you? That's stupid? Okay, message her obviously
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  Speaker 3: trying to mess that. And the way that you back
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  Speaker 3: in the day would hear around where we live at least,
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  Speaker 3: is you start messaging a girl and then you know
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  Speaker 3: chat's flowing. But then when you go to bed, so
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  Speaker 3: you you go, I'm going to go to sleep, good night,
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  Speaker 3: X X double X or just an X, all right,
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  Speaker 3: and then if they send an X back.
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  Speaker 2: Linked you're talking. You're you're tuning.
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  Speaker 1: We call it tuning.
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  Speaker 2: You're you're a couple that is there, right, she's she's
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  Speaker 2: off limits.
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  Speaker 1: You're off limits.
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  Speaker 3: That's the equivalent of sex in your nine facts, bro, alright,
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  Speaker 3: sex nothing better? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: So I do that, all right?
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  Speaker 3: I do it, and I get a reply no drama's
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  Speaker 3: good night, smiley face.
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  Speaker 2: And it hurt and it hurts to the core.
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  Speaker 3: Bro, let me tell you, sid fall asleep four hours
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  Speaker 3: that night. It sucks showing my face at school the
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  Speaker 3: next day. Somehow everyone knew fuck knows how, but I was.
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  Speaker 3: I was dev you got friend zoned. So the IG
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  Speaker 3: question of the week this week was, how did you
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  Speaker 3: tell him he's just a friend without actually telling him
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  Speaker 3: he's just a friend? And I have one?
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  Speaker 4: And when I got friend zone, she said to me,
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  Speaker 4: you know this, this is like yeah, maybe eight or
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  Speaker 4: nine I think ye, it would have been about the
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  Speaker 4: same time. And she said he's too nice.
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  Speaker 3: Reber, I was too hot, I was too nice. I
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  Speaker 3: hate and we didn't get any of them. But that's
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  Speaker 3: a red carrying one. How could someone be too nice? Huh? Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: I was like, what do you want me to do?
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  Speaker 3: Treat women badly? Like come on?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Now she's looking back and she's like, he he.
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  Speaker 2: Is too nice? And I need it. Fuck single, I
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  Speaker 2: bet she's single.
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  Speaker 3: Fucking hell, all right, I'll go first. Her points to
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  Speaker 3: a girl quote, I think she's into you. You should
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  Speaker 3: go for it. Oh straight up. That one doesn't hurt
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  Speaker 3: too much. I don't know though, because you're kind of like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: she's into me, like you get distracted a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe actually yeah, a guy could just be like, well,
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  Speaker 3: that one's into me, so we'll just go there. Yeah. True,
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  Speaker 3: that's actually a good point.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, my turn. I want you to be the guy
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  Speaker 4: and I'll be the girl. Oh okay, thanks buddy.
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  Speaker 3: Okay the high five.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's so good.
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  Speaker 3: Now, So gnarly, how did you tell him he was
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  Speaker 3: just a friend without actually telling you asked him to
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  Speaker 3: look at my nudes to make sure they're good enough
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  Speaker 3: before I send them to an actual boy. That's so misleading.
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  Speaker 3: I would not clock onto that. I would be like
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  Speaker 3: I am winning. Yeah, yeah true. I would be like, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: fair enough. Does he know you're sending them to another boy? Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, like just make sure these are good
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  Speaker 4: that I would be thinking she's playing a little game
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  Speaker 4: if she wants.
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  Speaker 3: Me fair for me to see, like how good it is.
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  Speaker 3: I'd go for a kiss. I go for that one,
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  Speaker 3: would not wait, send one back. This one's good ending
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  Speaker 3: phone with love you queen. Fuck bro, that's actually that's
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  Speaker 3: actually really really good. Imagine thinking you're talking to a
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  Speaker 3: girl and she just goes and he's like, oh, I
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  Speaker 3: gotta go to bed, good night, and she's like, love
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  Speaker 3: you queen. I'd be I'd be questioning my own sexuality.
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  Speaker 3: So would like, what does she who does she think
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  Speaker 3: I am? But also any in is an in is
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  Speaker 3: and in yeah, might be comfortable with sleep. I couldn't
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  Speaker 3: imagine having sex with you. It'd feel like incest.
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  Speaker 4: What so that's basically like my one, you're like a
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  Speaker 4: brother to me. That's on another level. That's like creating
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  Speaker 4: way of saying you're like a brother to me. As
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  Speaker 4: like they get to the point I love it, it's
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  Speaker 4: like incest. Oh I'm actually going to go off that
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  Speaker 4: had sex with his brother.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 2: That's saying that's not even saying how did you tell
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  Speaker 2: them he's a friend.
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  Speaker 3: That's saying how do you tell them he's nothing true?
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  Speaker 3: How did you tell him he was just a friend
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  Speaker 3: without actually telling him. I said to him, if we
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  Speaker 3: aren't married by forty, we can get married.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I swear, I think that's a good one.
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  Speaker 4: But I think I did that in like year like
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  Speaker 4: seven or eight eight. Really yeah, did you ever have
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  Speaker 4: like a fling with a girl who you never like,
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  Speaker 4: thought you were going to date and then you were
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  Speaker 4: just friends and you're like, if we both single at forty,
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  Speaker 4: we'll get married.
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  Speaker 3: One time, I think I did. I was. I was
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  Speaker 3: at like a house party when I was younger one time,
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  Speaker 3: and the person hosting it, like their parents were there,
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  Speaker 3: their parents are cool, they had friends there too. Whatever.
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  Speaker 3: They were drinking, and there this girl's mom who I
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  Speaker 3: was friends with was talking about how she just wants
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  Speaker 3: like someone nice for her her daughter. And I was like,
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  Speaker 3: how about this, if we're not, if neither one of
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  Speaker 3: us i'm married at forty, then we'll go for it.
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  Speaker 1: She goes, well, I don't want.
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  Speaker 3: That, so I don't want to want to just marry
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  Speaker 3: her because they didn't get anyone else.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, that's kind of fair enough.
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  Speaker 3: That's a good point. It takes trying to do something
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  Speaker 3: heroic act it just looks first this one you're gonna love.
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  Speaker 3: How did you tell him he was just a friend?
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  Speaker 3: Without actually telling him you don't because girls and guys
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  Speaker 3: can't be friends.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, he's an avid listener.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 2: I messaged her back and I said, you want at life?
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  Speaker 2: Who know what's up?
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  Speaker 3: Let's send this a murder.
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  Speaker 2: You live in the real world?
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  Speaker 1: Is what you live in?
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  Speaker 3: Okay?
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  Speaker 4: How did you tell me it was just a friend
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  Speaker 4: without I don't even know how to say it. Told
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  Speaker 4: him about my type in boys, and he was the opposite.
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  Speaker 4: That's mean, bro, that's intricate.
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  Speaker 3: But I got to say, that's actually probably the least
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  Speaker 3: hurtful way to do it, because, like I think that
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  Speaker 3: that would work in a way where his feelings aren't
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  Speaker 3: hurt that much. Like he's going to be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I'm just not her type. Like now I know I
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  Speaker 3: can't even go for it.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to say I'm going to be the girl
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  Speaker 4: and say the type it's not you ready, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Already ready, I'm good.
• 12:40
  Speaker 2: I know exactly what I'm gonna say.
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  Speaker 3: Don't take it away from me.
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  Speaker 4: A six foot brown eyes, tanned dark skin, brown hair.
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  Speaker 3: Not you close, no, no, no, no, all. You got
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  Speaker 3: about four out of five, mate, or out of five
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  Speaker 3: that first one. I hit that first one.
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  Speaker 2: Right on the mark.
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  Speaker 3: That's literally a boy's mindset. She would probably be like,
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  Speaker 3: doesn't know the height, and she said six foot. I've
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  Speaker 3: got one out of the five. That's all I need.
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  Speaker 2: One out of five is better than zero out of five.
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  Speaker 3: Buddy, I'll get her use exclamation points instead of x's.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that was for a smiley face.
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  Speaker 3: Girls know what they're doing.
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  Speaker 1: Girls do know what they're doing. Back in the day,
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: if I got a smiley face, I was.
• 13:26
  Speaker 3: Still would be like, yeah, it's called this subliminal message,
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: sublime sublibe quote.
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  Speaker 4: I don't want to date anyone right now. That's the
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  Speaker 4: get our jail free card that everyone uses the friend zone.
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  Speaker 1: It's like saying you're too nice.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not ready to date anyone.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not ready.
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  Speaker 3: And then two weeks later she has a boyfriend. You
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  Speaker 3: were just aside.
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  Speaker 1: You weren't even aside. You weren't good enough to be
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  Speaker 1: a side.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't even want to don't even a garlic bread,
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  Speaker 3: You're like you you weren't even the broccoli on my plate.
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  Speaker 3: My god, that piece of letters that like falls off
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  Speaker 3: when you're in that chicken snitzel. You know that, you
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  Speaker 3: know that leftover gristle that I feed to my dog.
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  Speaker 1: That's you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you tell him he's just a friend
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  Speaker 3: without actually telling him?
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  Speaker 1: Quote you can have your hoodie back?
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  Speaker 4: Oh no, if I give you a hoodie, I don't
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  Speaker 4: want to back.
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: If we're not talking anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Do you imagine imagine she's like, oh, here's your hoodie
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  Speaker 1: and you go, no, you can keep it. She goes,
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  Speaker 1: now you can.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want it.
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  Speaker 3: Oh that would kill me. It would kill me. D'd
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  Speaker 3: be like, I see what this is. Now, just tell
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  Speaker 3: me you hate me?
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: Just tell me.
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: Okay, going off one of the other ones, Will you
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: be my wingman? Tonight?
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Fuck that Fuck that bro. That's menacing. That is menacing.
• 14:49
  Speaker 3: Oh this is actually this is a classic and you're
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: gonna hate it. But I think this has happened to
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  Speaker 3: millions upon millions of poor guys. Okay. Quote I wish
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: I could find a boy like you. Oh I think
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: what do they mean by that? I think that has
• 15:05
  Speaker 3: happened to me before. I wish I could find a
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  Speaker 3: guy like you. Yeah, I'm right here. I am a
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: guy like Yeah, that's what we think. I'm right here.
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  Speaker 3: You know you could counter that with is I wonder
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: if a counter for that, a good one would be
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  Speaker 3: him going yeah, would be good, wouldn't funk? I wish
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  Speaker 3: I could find a girl like you. If that did,
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: like cut a counter kind of I reckon guy, she'd
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  Speaker 3: be like, well now I want him yeah, and he'd
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  Speaker 3: be like, yeah, I just wish IL find one like you.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, my last one or I don't think anyone would
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  Speaker 4: read onto this one, but let me okay, let me know,
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  Speaker 4: hugging him with the arms around his body and not.
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  Speaker 2: His neck, I reckon.
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  Speaker 1: I'd actually, it's around I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: The body, and you don't like the body touch instead
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: of going around the neck.
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: Now, I don't know if i'd read that, But you
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  Speaker 3: know what I would read if I got a hug
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  Speaker 3: and she'd tap me.
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  Speaker 1: On the back that pat on the bad friend. That's condescending.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, I don't reckon, I'd read it because I get
• 15:59
  Speaker 4: too anxious touch like touching other people stress.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not thinking about the place for me. And I
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: are about to meet a new person, and like, if
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: it's a dude, we know we're going to shake the
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: hands comfortable. Yeah. If we meet a new person and
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: we're like, is this girl a hugger upon greeting. We're
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  Speaker 3: kind of like one of us needs to either greet
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: first and have the balls to not hug, go in
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  Speaker 3: for a handshake, or like just be like like, let's
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: say I meet meet someone first, all right, and they're
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: going for a hug and I do it.
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  Speaker 1: In his head, I know he's.
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  Speaker 3: Like, fuck you.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: You know, we have to hug her every time we
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: see her. I hate that.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: I know you hate it. I hate it too, because
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: when you do it, I mean my head, I'm like,
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: fucking hellot.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: I got one more.
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: How did you tell him he was just a friend
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: Without actually telling him? I started calling him big fella,
• 16:42
  Speaker 3: big fella, smell fella, big fella. I like, big fella
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: is worse than being called like Champ or.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Something like that, big fella.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: I told an old boss of mine once that I
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: started calling him champ as an insult, and he didn't
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: understand yet, and then I explained it to him, and
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: he he thought it was the funniest thing. He cackling
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: and then he's like fifty something. He was cackling. And
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: then every time I posted like someone on Facebook or Instagram,
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: he'd come a nice photos chain that's pretty funny actually,
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: and I was just like, funk, I wish I'd never told.
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: That the context is meant to be used in for
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: like an adult call. Yeah, like what's the age that
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: a parent or like an adult can stop calling us buddy?
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: And it becomes like condescending, like because go to the
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: gym and somebodys. How's you day, buddy?
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know. Fuck, I don't know.
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: I like that.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: It's like, you're twenty eight.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm twenty four. Yeah, we're basically piers. You
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: didn't finish school, not that I can say I did,
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: But it's like, what's that age bracket? Yeah, that's actually
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: such a good question, like how far how much older
• 17:44
  Speaker 3: than you? Like if I get called buddy by a grandparent, Yeah,
• 17:47
  Speaker 3: I guess I still like it. Yeah, yeah, you know,
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: I'm so cute, but like, if you call me buddy,
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: I'd be off. I'd be like, I'm older than You're
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: ready to record, buddy? Not that?
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: Okay, everybody up next is dilemmas. You know what to
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: do link in the description of the episode or linking
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: bio of Instagram scroll the bottom.
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: It will say weekly dilemmas. Here we go.
• 18:15
  Speaker 4: I am twenty and my boyfriend is twenty four. We've
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: been together for nearly a year now. We barely ever
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: argue and always laugh together, and he is perfect. However,
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: I work in a heavily male dominated industry and he
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: always makes comments and makes it clear that he doesn't
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: feel comfortable with it. Due to the nature of my job,
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: I often have to work with events outside of working hours,
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: and this always causes a lot of friction between us
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: due to me being outside working with men for a
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: lot of hours. His excuse is I trust you but
• 18:43
  Speaker 4: not other people. We've heard that before. He often causes
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: arguments about this if I have an upcoming event. When
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: I'm at the event, he'll be very blunt and argumentative
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: with me, which causes me to feel like I'm doing
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: something so wrong and I end up apologizing and trying
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: to make it up to him. He doesn't like it
• 18:59
  Speaker 4: when I wear certain items of clothing when he isn't there,
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: and he finds it disrespectful.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: What should I do?
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: What do you think is a good point to bring up?
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: And am I being disrespectful? I always text him throughout
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: the events and let him know an EdVance if anything's
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: coming up, so he doesn't feel blindsided.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: Oh, man, like hearing it. I hate it. I don't
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: like that at one single bit.
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: And obviously I understand that, you know, other than that,
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: he's probably fine, but he just doesn't like what you
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: do for work.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: But I think that's crazy. So she does.
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: She's in event management, yeah, and she works with it's
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: heavily it's maleperformers.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah wait, wait are you working events with naked dudes?
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: But still like she's organizing the whole event like they're colleagues.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: It's more she doesn't have she contractly obliged not to
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: get over him evens as well, like it be illegal,
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: it would be illegal. But also I want to I
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: wanted to say, firstly, I think she was maybe being
• 20:02
  Speaker 4: a bit clouded because of love. Don't ever let any
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: guy tell you that you can't wear something or you
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: can't do something like that. Hey you're comfortable, Yeah, yeah,
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: that's the only thing that matters. Be comfortable.
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I wonder if like he's fucking insecure and it's
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: not your problem, Like he's very clearly very insecure.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I'm.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: Assuming one of the reasons that, like I'm just assuming this,
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: But she must be working with hot dudes, all right,
• 20:25
  Speaker 3: and he thinks that they are better than him.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: True, it's not up to It's like they don't necessarily
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: have to be hot.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: He could just think that.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: No, yeah, true.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: But and like the same thing is, like you know,
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: it's not fully up to you for to make him
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: feel secure, Like use these things you can do as
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: a partner to make the other one feel secure. Security
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: comes from yourself though. Also he needs to be secure
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: in his own like his own body, his and mind
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: his own fucking life before it's like you have any
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: partner doing that for him.
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: That's one of those checkboxes you tick off before you
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: get into a relationship. Yeah, you're like proud and contempted
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: yourself the person you are. You don't need someone else
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: to validate you. And he's obviously he probably thinks his
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: girlfriend's better than anything. She can run off at any moment,
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: which is a terrible dynamic to have it in relationship.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, did it say anything about in there,
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: like how she did she did she say she really
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: wants to stay with him? Yeah, well she said he's
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: perfect otherwise. Yeah, been together for a year.
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: We barely our unit and laugh and everything is perfect
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: other than this one thing.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: But it's bigger than one thing. It's a few things.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: It's a few events obviously, or every event where I
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: think she's doing everything right, like telling him in advance
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: when events coming up. Sure, more than she needs to do.
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: It's her job.
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, exactly. He should be able to respect and
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: understand it. That's what she does.
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm trying to think here, like what's her way
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: to bring it up? Where? You know, I think I'm
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: sure every topic has been brought up, and every single
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: like every every every argument to make him feel secure
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: has probably been been brought up. You know, like she's
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: she's she's walking on eggshells. I think he's got to
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: be put in his place a little bit.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like, I know, a relationship is two people, but
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: like at a certain time it becomes a hymn problem, like, hey,
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: this is my job. You ever trust me or you don't,
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: Like I'm not getting with any other boys, this is
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: your problem. You need to deal with it and just
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: trust me. I think that's what you should say.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that. I reckon next time he's like
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: trying to you know, and.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: He's been all like a blunt and stuff when your
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: work and you're trying to concentrate and he's been a
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: little dog like that's just immature too.
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: I think in this scenario you shouldn't. I know, it's
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: really it's so hard to disconnect from. But I think,
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: like I do genuinely think he's acting like a child. Yeah,
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: so I reckon something you could try is if he's
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: like acting like a child, tell him like you're going
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: to treat him like a child, and say to him
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: if he's having a little tantrum even of a text,
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: I don't care if you do whatever the phone or
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: of a text. If you just if he's like trying
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: to make you feel bad of a text and he's
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: being blunt, you can just be like, once you like seriously,
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: talk to me when you're done having a tantrum, Like
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: there's not that he needs to be told that this
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: is a tantrum. Like he thinks he's in the right,
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Like he doesn't understand what he's doing is like selfish
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: as fuck. Yeah, so I think that because this is.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: The way you make money.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: This is how you make a living, you know, this
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: is how you genuinely make your money to pay rent,
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: Like it's ridiculous. This is your fucking career if you
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: and like he doesn't understand because he's too insecureing himself.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: I think one thing you can try is so next
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: time he's having a tantrum, just say, hey, talk to
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: me when you're done having your tantrum, because this is
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: my job, this is how I make money. And what
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: you're doing is super selfish and I'm not going to
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: baby you. Yeah, and this isn't a healthy relationship, no,
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: like at all, well in that sense, no, not at all,
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: because he's insecure.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: So I think you need to try and call him
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: out on it.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: And then it's like depending on his actions based off
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: of that, because I think what you're doing if you
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: said to him, yep, I think she's already done enough
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: at this point due for him. Yah, I say, I tantrum,
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: let me know when you're done, and if you fucking
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: reacts bad, reacts bad, and he might break up with you,
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: but it's going to be better for you in the end.
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: I'm even thinking what men and Jake do. We're both
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: in relationships.
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: We record for like majority of a day and we'll
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: put our phones on do not disturb. Yeah, imagine if
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: this girl put her phone on do not Disturb it work,
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: I bet you her boyfriend would go bully.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Stick Fuck he needs to.
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's I'm saying, Like, if he's going to do that,
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: maybe that's a little wake up call.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: Like this guy is pretty toxic.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definitely sounds pretty toxic.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like you can't trust him for eight hours when
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: he works a work sorry, Like I don't know. I
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: feel like i'd understand a little more if he was
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: if he was insecure, but he didn't make you feel
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: bad about it, Like he just was kind of like, oh,
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: you know, it makes me a bit insecure, just so
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: you knew.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: And then he didn't make you feel.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: Bad about it, just actions, and then you're knowing that
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: he's insecure, you just kind of do what you're doing already,
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: where you just like, you know, tell him stuff because
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: like being honest with starts always like the right thing,
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: and just like letting him know what you're doing. But
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: the way he's acting is just fucking ridiculous.
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I just think believe it on be you dress
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: however you want, do your job to the best of
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: your ability, and tell him this is how it is
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: yeah or wrong.
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: I also wack So's he's clearly never been put in
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: his place by anyone. I think he was gas lying
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: here a little bit. He's yeah, he's never been put
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: in his place by anyone, And if you do it,
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: he might have this like a assive tantrum, And I like,
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: you just have to see what happens, because obviously, if
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: you've got to ask yourself, if this doesn't get fixed,
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: would you even want to be with him forever? And
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: if you in your head, you're like, no, I wouldn't
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: want to be with him forever if this doesn't get fixed.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: So what you have to do is you have to
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: just almost push him to the edge where he makes
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: a massive mistake in blowing up for no fucking reason,
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: breaks up with you or something, and then he comes
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: crawling back and he's like, I'm so sorry, I'm so insecure,
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: And then you're gonna be like, yeah, you fucking are
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: and just be like no, not impressed, like fuck off exactly. Yeah,
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: I think so we'll cut through it.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: But I think that's true. I know it's so hard
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: to do when you love him, it is. It's the
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: hardest thing in the world.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: To do. I know it is the hardest thing in
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: the world to do, but you have to like ask yourself,
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: is it that or is it just the gonna keep
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: going the way it's going, Like what would you profession?
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: You're a year in, like, this is probably a good
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: time to do it before he gets three, four, five
• 25:48
  Speaker 4: years in.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you see start holding on more exactly.
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: All right, Jake, We are both in relationship. We tell
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: stories all the time. This is one of my I
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: want to see if you agree one of my realizations.
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: It's a very handy tip to have in a relationship.
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: I want to know if you use it or if
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: you agree or disagree with me, because it's a little
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: bit left field, but I use it quite often and
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: my girlfriend does too.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: After I've we've had a fight. To do with fights.
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: So it's all about timing and people's emotions. So it's
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: a tricky thing to understand because say something you and
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: your girlfriend or anyone listening, you and your boyfriend, girlfriend,
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: what any dynamic something happens and one of you is
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: really really upset. There's something beautiful about timing and rather
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: than the natural instinct of a human is to deal
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: with the problem right there and then, but I realize
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: and me and my girlfriend implement it that when one
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: of us are heated in a really bad mood or
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: something like that, that it's better to just let it
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: process and sit and figure it out ourselves a little
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: bit before we bring it to the other person and
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: talk about it. Yeah, because we've had our two biggest
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: fights because we just kept trying to solve the issue
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: and she was heeded, I was heated, and just going
• 27:08
  Speaker 4: back and forth, back and forth, and we're saying things
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: we do it didn't really mean. But now if one
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: of us has something that just really really bad, or
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: like someone pisses the other one off, we sit on it,
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: let us process the feeling and take away that initial
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: anger and resentment and that you sort of thing, and
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: now it's sort of then we can talk about it
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: openly and honestly and work through the problem. So a
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: lot of relationship issues is all about timing, and it
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: comes down to also being tired when you want to
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: do it fuck and things like that.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Boy, yeah, this is no, this is crazy. Yeah, I
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: think this is really good.
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean I don't implement that, but I think
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: that that is really good.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think that's great. Wow.
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: It happened with we had our first our first fight,
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: which is our biggest one, was like maybe six months
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: into dating, and I said from the start I wanted
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: to go home and sit on it. And she's like, no,
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: you can't leave when we're like this angry and angry
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: at each other. And I was like, no, I just
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: want to go home and like sort myself out before
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: I talked to you about it, and she couldn't.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: We process that. I didn't have this implementation yet.
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: But I had that realization after because after we settled down,
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: we went to the beach and didn't talk to each
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: other for a bit and then we just talked about
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: We talked about it after it. I was like, fuck,
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: it's easy to talk when there's at these emotions, like
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: at the top.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Of my heart, yo, Because sometimes in the heat of
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: the moment, even though even if you remember, like you
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: even if you actively remember it's me and you against
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: the problem, not you and me against each other, it's
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: still so difficult to I guess, implement it. You know,
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: when you're in it, you can't see it, and it's
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: always just like you've done this to me and it
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: makes me feel this bad and it's always you, but
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: it's not never the wee thing yoh so what so
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: do you wouldn't believe in? How Like some people are like, no,
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: never go to a bit angry.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so that's like, that's the rebuttal with some people
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: need to because some people can't go away from the
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: situation and deal with that anger. They have to resolve
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: it before they can leave, which I can understand to extent.
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: But for me, I find it so much harder to
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: resolve that problem if we're both heated and we're in
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: it and our heads are like all fuzzy and we're
• 28:59
  Speaker 4: just like hating each other.
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: That's a very very good point. I take a long
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: time to process things too. For a long time in.
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: An argument, A boy's coping mechanism is to go silent
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: when and girls hate that because they want to talk
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: about it. Yeah it's that weird, so they want to
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: talk about it and they say things, and then we
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: don't want to talk about at all, and then you just
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: fucking hate each other even more.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: So if we both go away from it, I process
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: how I'm feeling so I can articulate what I want
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: to say yeah, and she doesn't get as angry as well. Yeah,
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: and then we come back together and have a normal
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: conversation and we work through it, and that's how we
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: deal with our problems. Fuck, that's very very healthy, healthy, No, dude,
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: I like it's so basically okay. So there is people
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: that you see these like old people in interviews that
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: are giving They're like, what's your best advice to have
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: a long marriage?
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and how that will be like, never go to
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: bed salty. Yeah, So basically so you'd be happy to go.
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: We're not happy to but you would go to bed
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: salty if that meant that you get some time to
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: I would.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: I'm but I could sit on it for a night
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: or when I did seed it an hour for my
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: girlfriend still a different time for those things. I could
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: happily just spill on it for a night, but I
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: know she doesn't like to go to bed with that
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: in the back of it. I'm like, okay, yeah, so
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: if we had a fight, I don't know, three o'clock, Well,
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: so let's just sit on it on like even if
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: it's just different sides of the house. Yeah, Like we
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: just go I go on my computer and she goes
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: and watch TV for a couple of hours, and then
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: we come back.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: It's just as simple as that. Yeah, yea, yea, yeah,
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: yea yeah yeah. And then yeah you come back and
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: they're like there's no because you leave, heartbreaks up.
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, you're about to get someone. Yeah he
• 30:26
  Speaker 4: loves there and someone's like affected, they love me.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: Like fuck fulking. Like someone can put you in a
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: bench press and.
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: You're pring bro yeaheah yeah, but you go, yeah, you
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: settle down and take a breather. I really really like that.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: I think that would be very that could be very
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: well implemented. I was thinking about it.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: I was like, this is because when Cassi's friends called
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: her and something having a relationship and Cassie was talking
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: about time and I was and then she goes, oh,
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: he told me about it.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: I was like I did too. I forgot about that.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: I was like, this is a really good tip.
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: But then I was like, maybe some other people might
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: think it's a good tip too, because like, yeah, you
• 30:55
  Speaker 4: know when you do things and you just sort of
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: take it for grand and think everybody does the same thing.
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was just one of those things I was like,
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: doesn't everyone do that I have.
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  Speaker 1: I have this like thing where I like a cute
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: lot of humans. I want I want to solve the problem.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like I want to solve the problem because, like
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: I just put you out, I prefer it to be solved.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh, I know.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: Sitting on it doesn't feel good because it's like something
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: in the back of my mind is like, we have
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: to fix this, and we have to fix this now.
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: So some sort of talent and being able to.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: Be like they're going to be mad at me for
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: a few hours or a day or a few days,
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: but we need to like really sit on it and
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: think about how we both feel about it.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: And then but when you come.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: Back to it, do you just like say how each
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: of you feel? And what if it's like feelings just
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: fully haven't change. Now you both just have these wicked
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: good arguments because you've had time to think. You both
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: have wicked arguments that that are gonna that are backing
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: up both sides. And at what point are you like,
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: we're never disagreeing, Sorry, we're never going to agree on this. Well,
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: there are always going to be points we never agree
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: on things. But I think that time taking away from
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: it takes away that initial fight and fire that you
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: have when it first initially happens. That's all it works.
• 32:04
  Speaker 4: This might not work for everybody, but it works for
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: us because I'm thinking that because I've always had and
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: I can't. I can't think and articulate my thoughts. I
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: just want to go silent. That's why I just want.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: To go nonverbal.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no, I can't.
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: And then it makes a situation so much where I'm like,
• 32:18
  Speaker 4: I just need some time to process it.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: I'm terrible in that situation because I go silent and
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: then it's like, well, do you have anything to say?
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: And it's like, well, I'm gonna have something to say,
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: but I literally can't process it that quick. Yeah, like
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: I have nothing to say right now, but I one
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: hundred percent will have something to say. But I need
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: to think about everything that was said, and I need
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: to process it because right now I don't understand how
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: you feel, But in five minutes or ten minutes, I
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: could understand. Now I'm yeah, that's how I'm processing it,
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: Like stuff needs to be explained because I don't know,
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: Like it's no excuse, but yeah, no, I definitely I'm
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: one that needs time and I'm definitely got And it's
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: sort of also like it feels kind of awkward to
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: bring it up after it being a while because sometimes
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: you just brush it under the door mat and if
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: you're both happy after like a couple of hours.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you both kind of like were stupid.
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that sometimes happens.
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: But also you need like that healthy little outlet system
• 33:07
  Speaker 4: like me and my girlfriends call it. You want to
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: have a check in, You need to try and like
• 33:10
  Speaker 4: you have like a little system there where you can
• 33:11
  Speaker 4: openly talk about your feelings the way we call it
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: a check in.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: But because I like, let's have let's have a chat.
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like you just have that there so you don't
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: have to be having something like awkward like just standing
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: there and be like so this.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: Is what made me feel? Like Yeah, so you think
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: it's a little awkward sometimes to go away for a
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: few hours and then come back and bring it back up.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Yes, So it's.
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: Like you go away and then you make it yeah okay,
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: because I can I can see how that could be
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: a bit awkward where you you're in a heated argument,
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: you can't figure it out, so you go, look like,
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: let's just both take an hour or two to see
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: how we feel. And then when you're unheeded, you're unheeded. Yeah,
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: you know, it's like you don't feel like talking about
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: it anymore because it took so much energy. It takes energy,
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: like mental energy to argue, and so then when you
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: do come back, you're like, I honestly would rather just
• 33:53
  Speaker 3: like sit down and watch a movie and cuddle you
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: then keep arguing, and sometimes it just gets forgotten.
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: But sometimes that's all it needs, is well, like the
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: problem is the problem is YouTube being so heated. Yeah, well,
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: like sometimes you just need to hug it out. Yeah,
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: and one of you says I'm sorry, But in that
• 34:08
  Speaker 4: moment when you're heated, they won't say sorry.
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah fuck no, they believe what they're saying. Yeah yeah, yeah,
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: I've done it before.
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: I've been like, has it ever clicked when you when
• 34:16
  Speaker 4: you're in an argument and you're like, holy shit, I
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: am being fucking wrong here, oh yeah, y yeah yeah yea,
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: yeah I was on and you still I would have
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: just kept going.
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: I've got a double down on myself. Yeah no, no,
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: I am very that's what really, very very rarely right,
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: yeah exactly, Yeah, yeah.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: I'm just.
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: I'm about as stupid as they come fast. I actually
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: know what could be Patrick, Yeah, I might need that
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: pink jumper. Maybe that's what it's throw. That's what it's throw. Yeah,
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: but that was me tip.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that tip.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: Really good tip.
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: Leave it on that.
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