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Season 3 - Episode 292 - The power of REFRAMING · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today we're talking about reframing.
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  So what does reframing mean? Well, if you've been a regular
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  follower, you've heard me do it a million times.
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  But I'm going to be very specific with it today because
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  reframing is such an important part of what we do as human
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  beings. And usually we do it to our
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  detriment. We look at something and we make
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  it mean something that it doesn't necessarily mean, or
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  there was no intention to make it mean that.
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  And then we have to try to undo what we thought.
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  And either way, working positive or negative reframing goes
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  meaning you're just taking something and you are telling
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  yourself, well, it could mean this and it could mean this
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  could mean this. We run through the possibilities
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  and we decide what we want to make it mean.
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  So reframing is a very useful tool to us when we use it for
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  the greater good, and it can be a very detrimental tool when we
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  use it in a negative way. So let me give you a couple of
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  examples here where over the years I've learned that this is
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  something I really had to learn. And this is something that over
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  the years, like I said, it's helped me a lot.
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  So let's look at laundry. Laundry is a never ending task
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  for humans because we are not allowed to walk around naked.
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  So we accept the fact that we have to have laundry.
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  We buy clothes. Most people like to shop.
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  I am not a shopper. I do not like to go buy new
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  clothes. I I just don't like stores
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  crowding the decisions. The whole thing, it just it's
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  just not my favorite thing to do.
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  However, I accept the fact that I will need to buy clothes.
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  I will need to wash clothes. I will need to care for clothes
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  and I think we all unconsciously accept the fact of clothes.
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  But when it comes to laundry, it is one of the biggest pain
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  points that I hear people talk about all the time.
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  When I tell you this, I mean, listen, really, truly.
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  I have conversations with people regularly about the laundry in
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  their house and how it's not just their responsibility and
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  everybody should be doing it and why is the laundry such a big
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  deal? And they go on and on and on and
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  on and on about this. Now I used to have the same
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  thing where I would be like, and I like doing housework.
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  Let me be very clear, I like doing housework.
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  I like cleaning, I like keeping things clean and organized.
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  I'm like the mad organizer with the house.
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  That's why I have this apocalypse pantry in there.
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  And, and it's not because I think there's an apocalypse.
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  It's just I like having variety and options.
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  But anyway, back to the laundry. I had to reframe this for myself
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  because I, I felt many, many years ago that there was a
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  burden put on me about doing the laundry.
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  And I, I really was frustrated by that.
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  And then I had this whole idea of like, OK, when I first
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  started in self development and we're talking about this was my
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  belief before self development. And then I had to do something
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  to fix that. And my something was to work on
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  reframing just about everything in my life at that point.
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  How could I look at it differently?
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  And so for laundry, what that came out to was one, I'm not
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  doing it the way they did it 200 years ago.
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  I'm not slugging this whole big thing down by the river and
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  washing it on stones and beating them dry and having to lug up
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  heavy laundry back from the river.
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  I mean, none of that is happening.
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  So I'm, I'm spoiled just by the fact that I have these wonderful
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  inventions that somebody came up with that are truly an amazing
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  time saver. Let's face it, what does laundry
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  really consist of? Doing it.
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  It consists of me going in and sorting it out, me putting it
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  into the washing machine, and me pushing buttons, dumping in some
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  soap and walking away. And the machine does all the
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  work. When I when it beeps, it's done.
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  And then I walk in. I take everything out of said
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  machine on the left and put it in to said machine on the right,
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  which dries it for me. And that's already.
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  So the the machines take the time, which is roughly like
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  let's say a load of laundry is 4550 minutes, maybe an hour OK,
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  for the washer. And then the dryer takes about
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  an hour to dry, maybe 45 minutes depending upon how much you have
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  in there. So basically two hours.
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  Let's just round up and say 2 hours of time.
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  My time quote UN quote, doing laundry is done by machines and
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  then it comes back to OK, well, now here we go.
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  I have to take this laundry and now it's my responsibility to do
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  something with it and sort it out and do all that.
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  Well, if I have little little kids, like little tiny kids,
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  then one of the parents, one of the caregivers has to be the one
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  that sorts the laundry out. Yes, but you chose to have them
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  here. And they are a blessing because
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  there are tons of people, including myself, who wanted to
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  have many more children and could not.
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  So the blessing is, hey, this is a blessing.
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  These clothes belong to people that I love.
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  Hear that again, these clothes belong to people that I love.
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  I chose to be a part of their world.
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  I chose this. So therefore I can choose this
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  part. Now, when my daughter was
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  little, she actually still to this day loves to sort and do
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  all kinds of chores. She's like me.
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  We like doing these, these, these types of things.
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  So she would help even when she was like 3 years old, she loved
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  helping. Was it perfect?
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  No, but it was perfect because we were together and we were
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  having fun and we were doing it. My son, I was 15.
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  He will absolutely help anytime I ask him to.
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  He will help anytime I ask him to.
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  I just have to ask him. The question is, why do we get
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  so mad if we have to ask? I have to reframe it.
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  Well, he's a he's a, a teenager. And asking is how we teach them
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  to be courteous. So we say it over and over
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  again, doing laundry. Can you can you help?
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  Yes. OK, Come on.
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  It's time. OK.
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  And then he gets up and does it. So do I mind reminding him?
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  No, because you know what? He's my son and I chose him in
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  my life, so reframing is a really important tool to have in
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  your pocket. Give it a try.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a very blessed day and
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  I'll see you tomorrow. Bye.