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If you’re someone that’s hold themselves accountable and responsible, that’s a ‘sin’ to some. · The Facts with Jamal 🇺🇸🦅👊

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  Do you know what the problem is? And I really shouldn't say the
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  problem, although there's a good handful of in society, people
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  look at punishment, accountability and
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  responsibility. It's like a where if you even
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  dare try to hold somebody accountable and let's just say
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  if you have like a child, right? If you have a child and you try
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  and hold them accountable, people will essentially look at
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  you as like a bad parent that they are essentially gonna call
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  you every name. And you know in the book for
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  trying to hold your own child accountable.
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  And so parents are so hesitant to hold their kids accountable
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  for even smallest thing. And I actually talked about
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  this, you know, last week. Why is it that accountability is
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  so final? Like why is it so hard to
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  essentially enforce strict discipline, improper ways to go
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  about it? Like have society really got to
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  this point to where even doing the right thing as far as
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  accountability is such a bad thing?
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  Seriously. Unfortunately, you can't even do
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  the right thing in life without essentially being criticized.
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  I mean, I'm not even going to get into that.
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  That'll be, you know, for potentially JJ unleashed
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  tomorrow. So keep your eye on that.
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  But the reality is these people have gone so out of reality,
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  it's almost embarrassed. So let me get this straight.
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  Not only do people not want to hold, you know anyone
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  accountable nowadays because they feel as if you even try to
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  that they will ultimately try the chastise those and criticize
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  the ones who try to hold them accountable.
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  But yet if you even dare try to do the right thing whole let's
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  say your children accountable or they let them know that there
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  are real consequences for your actions and that you can't even
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  ground them by let's say you know, taking away the phone, TV
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  privileges, whatever the hell it is.
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  If you can't even do that, then what the hell do you think is
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  going to happen when they get into a serious problem to where
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  real consequences are going to take place and then everything
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  is unwrap? I'm just saying it has to come
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  to a point where holding your child or anybody accountable
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  should not be viewed as a bad thing.
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  So yet why are so many people, even those who claim to be
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  quote, UN quote parents, why are they so, you know, reluctant to
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  ultimately hold anyone accountable?
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  Now, could it be because of, I don't know, something that they
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  may have experienced as a kid and probably don't wanna have to
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  go through the same thing with their child?
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  You know, it's anybody's guess. Truth is, by not doing that,
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  you're holding your child. You know, put it this way, you
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  ultimately by essentially not wanting to hold your child
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  accountable, or let's just say anyone for that matter, told
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  them a sense of accountability. By not doing that, you
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  ultimately or putting them at even more for risk to where they
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  could potentially suffer lasting consequences.
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  Now don't get me wrong, the child themselves has to hold
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  themselves accountable for whatever they did, that is
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  undeniable. But parents have to own up to
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  their share as well. Because see, what ends up
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  happening is that they always say, well, if it would have
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  happened, where did I go wrong in the whole process or where
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  did I essentially screw up to where I made a mistake with my
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  child and what could I have done?
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  See it's always in the aftermath that they think about it, but
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  never in the immediate to where they wanna hold their child
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  account. So in the end, anybody that
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  tells you self accountability isn't a bad thing or is a bad
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  thing that should be found upon, they'll lie to you.
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  Because I'm wondering about those same people probably won't
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  even hold accountable when they were kids themselves.
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  So it's like, you see how that goes, that ultimately by not
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  holding their own children accountable, they're doing
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  themselves a major disservice by letting them get away with
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  stuff, by getting away with stuff too easily to where they
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  will give them every excuse to think, well, you know, it's OK,
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  your parents got you back. I'm telling you right now, if I
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  ever did some stupid things, my parents, notably my father, he
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  would kick my ass if I did that 'cause I'm telling you, the lack
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  of not having parentals, you know, quality ones, is why
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  society as well as I right now. And you cannot tell me
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  otherwise. Because let me ask you if you
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  really think that parents nowadays have failed their
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  children in more ways than one. You might be right.
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  And you might also be right due to the fact that a good hand for
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  them don't even wanna be real parents.
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  Can we just be honest? Now again, is there going to be
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  a rule that says it's a right way, even wrong way?
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  A parent? Who knows?
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  Again, there will never be an ideal way to parent, but that
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  does not give you the excuse. Alternately to give your child
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  free license tax. Stupid and then ultimately feel
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  as if when they get in trouble get to answer the question where
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  do I screw up or where do I go wrong by then it would be too
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  late. So in the end, once again, if
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  anybody tells you that punishment accountability is a
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  bad thing, just straight up blind hold your children
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  accountable. But more importantly, hold
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  yourself accountable because in the end, it's also your life.
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  But you have to also realize. You make one mistake and you're
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  done for. You understand that part.
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  So as much as you want to maybe blame the children you have for
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  the mistakes, even blame yourself to in a large degree,
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  you are just as responsible for your own life as they are.