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You’re Not Ready for Love Yet (And That’s Okay) with Dr. Sheniska Johnson · Just Heal with Dr Jay

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Jess Hill with Doctor j a production of
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  Speaker 1: the Black Effect Podcast Network and iHeartRadio. All right, welcome
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  Speaker 1: back to another episode of Jess Hill with Doctor Jay
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  Speaker 1: and I am your host, Doctor J. Barnett. Remember you
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  Speaker 1: can listen audibly on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeart
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  Speaker 1: Podcasts Network, Spotify, or wherever you listen to your podcast. Listen.
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  Speaker 1: Today we are taking a different route. I am bringing
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  Speaker 1: doctor Johnson. I'm gonna let her pronounce her name as
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  Speaker 1: she introduced herself to the audience, because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to mess up her name. I listen when people have
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  Speaker 1: special names, I like for them to introduce themselves. And
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  Speaker 1: then we're going to get into this powerful conversation. Doctor
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  Speaker 1: Johnson is a transformational coach to many of the stars,
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  Speaker 1: different celebrities and all of these different individuals that work
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  Speaker 1: high level and so I'm excited to have this conversation
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  Speaker 1: with her all the way from Florida by way of
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  Speaker 1: Bahamas to Caribbean, where she said, as the best water
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  Speaker 1: is I don't know as of yet, but I will
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  Speaker 1: soon define out. So came so, doctor Johnson, Welcome to
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  Speaker 1: the healing community. How you doing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm great, I'm so excited to be here with you
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  Speaker 2: guys today. It's an amazing opportunity and I'm excited to
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  Speaker 2: get into the conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Get down to business, Yes, get down to business, because
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  Speaker 1: you don't do a lot of podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: No, this is actually my first.
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  Speaker 1: This is your first part.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, guys, give me a break, give me some grace.
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  Speaker 2: I may be a little nervous, I may trip up
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  Speaker 2: just a little bit, but this is my first, first,
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  Speaker 2: first podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we're gonna do like they're doing drink Champs, talk
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  Speaker 1: it out, plas, this is a podcast. Well, thank you
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  Speaker 1: for giving us the opportunity for this exclusive interview. Because
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  Speaker 1: I'm I can rest assured after you do this podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Folks on be calling you to be like, yo, doc,
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  Speaker 1: can you come do this podcast? All right?
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  Speaker 2: All right? I received that because.
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  Speaker 1: I what what what what what? I'm so excited for
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  Speaker 1: the the audience and those that are part of the
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  Speaker 1: hill In community, as I call it is. I'm excited
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  Speaker 1: for them to hear your journey and you have a
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  Speaker 1: journey from Bahamas. Oh, we're going to talk about marriage,
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  Speaker 1: We're going to talk about life, we're going to talk
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  Speaker 1: about purpose, and then we're going to just talk about
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  Speaker 1: your gift. You have been able to utilize your gift
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  Speaker 1: to be a compassed to so many and so I'm excited.
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  Speaker 1: Now you got to tell the folks, Doc, how do
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  Speaker 1: you pronounce your first name is? What? What is Shaniska?
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  Speaker 2: So the Hebrew meaning is fiery one fii one that
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  Speaker 2: you are?
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  Speaker 1: Oh really, man, that's been coaching me. Man, listen, that
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  Speaker 1: is a is a firey one? Oh my goodness, Saniska
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  Speaker 1: sounds like it could be like Russian.
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  Speaker 2: Or something Jewish. I get that, Yes, I do. I
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  Speaker 2: do get that a lot.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, because you you you gotta say it like
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  Speaker 1: you gotta say it. I think, what's that movie CJ.
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  Speaker 1: When was it Denzel Washington? What was it? The Equalizer?
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  Speaker 1: When he's uh, yeah, it's the Russian guy, he's like, so, Doc, again,
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  Speaker 1: thank you for taking out your time to join us. Now,
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  Speaker 1: you were born in the Bahamas. Yes, and you were
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  Speaker 1: born and I want to say this in a way
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  Speaker 1: because I want you to tell your story. You had
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  Speaker 1: a unique upbringing, very unique. Talk about that a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: So born and raised in the Bahamas, grew up to
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  Speaker 2: family home, very small family. I'm the youngest of three
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  Speaker 2: and church girl, church girl, praise on worship leader, grew
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  Speaker 2: up in church singing, you know, close knitted family, great morals,
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  Speaker 2: great standards. But of course, you know, like any of
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  Speaker 2: us who grew up in the church, or we call
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  Speaker 2: them church kids, or whatever the case may be, we
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  Speaker 2: want to stray off and we want to do, you know,
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  Speaker 2: the things that we want to do. But I'm so
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  Speaker 2: grateful that, you know, when we have the Word of
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  Speaker 2: God and when the seeds of God has been planted
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  Speaker 2: in our lives as children, no matter how far away
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  Speaker 2: we stray, something always pulls us back. And I'm so
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  Speaker 2: grateful to God that I had That's something that when
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  Speaker 2: I was out there, it reeled me.
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  Speaker 1: Back on ye and when you were out there, right,
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about that because I think, you know, I'm
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  Speaker 1: a PK. My dad has been passoring thirty five years.
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  Speaker 1: I think all of our guests today are pks today. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and I think a lot of times we're not giving
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  Speaker 1: a lot of grace when we kind of shrail away.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost it's as if there's an expectation that because
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  Speaker 1: the Word has been planted in us and the seeds
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  Speaker 1: have been planted into us, it's as if we don't
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  Speaker 1: get this right surpassage, because our rights of passage is
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  Speaker 1: so different from other kids that are not raised, you know,
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  Speaker 1: in a faith based or a church going or in
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  Speaker 1: a home where the mom or dad is in ministry.
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  Speaker 1: What was that like for you as you were out there?
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  Speaker 1: Like what? What? What was your thought process?
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  Speaker 2: You know, you know, to be to be honest with you,
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  Speaker 2: I grew up in a house that we really loved God,
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  Speaker 2: and so though there were expectations, there were, it wasn't
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  Speaker 2: a pressure that makes sense to you, Yes, so there
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  Speaker 2: were expectations, but you know, it just it just wasn't
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  Speaker 2: It just wasn't any pressure. We we grew up in
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  Speaker 2: a house where we genuinely loved God. So when there
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  Speaker 2: were early morning prayer meeting, my mom was the first
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  Speaker 2: one to ever speak a pathetic word over my life.
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  Speaker 2: My mom would have early morning prayer meeting in the morning,
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  Speaker 2: and the kid, we would just get up. It wasn't that, oh,
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  Speaker 2: you need to get up right now. We would just
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  Speaker 2: get up. We would just join in because there was
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  Speaker 2: always just a genuine love for God. And I believe
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  Speaker 2: that you know, once again, these things are instilled. But
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  Speaker 2: when you grow up in that type of environment, in
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  Speaker 2: that atmosphere, you just grow into a space where you know,
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  Speaker 2: you really know God. So there wasn't any pressure. There
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  Speaker 2: was expectation for them to pressure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I would say the same for us as well.
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  Speaker 1: Like I grew up hearing my mom walk the floor
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  Speaker 1: praying like it was nothing. Baby, hear Mama go, and
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  Speaker 1: she'd be walking through the house with her oil. And
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  Speaker 1: I would say that I appreciate that because even when
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  Speaker 1: I strayed, and even when I was on my own journey,
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  Speaker 1: and I never left God in a way that he
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  Speaker 1: did not exist, It's as if that I strayed away
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  Speaker 1: because not because I was looking for another God, because
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  Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of a lot of p
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  Speaker 1: K kids they're looking for another God. It's as if
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  Speaker 1: I was trying to discover me. And I don't think
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  Speaker 1: that we realized to find ourselves is only through God.
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  Speaker 1: It's the only way. But we don't know that because
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  Speaker 1: when you're growing up in a family and as you're
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  Speaker 1: you're you're speaking about prayer. And my mom was the
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  Speaker 1: first person that prophesied over me as well, and I
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  Speaker 1: grew up knowing what the prophetic was. My parents, you
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  Speaker 1: know told me early on that I had a prophetic gift.
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  Speaker 1: I was preaching at the age of nine my family,
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  Speaker 1: my mom and dad. When I was called to preach,
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  Speaker 1: I told him that I heard the voice of God say,
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  Speaker 1: preach the gospel. My first sermon was a community chapel
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  Speaker 1: in Shelby, Mississippi, where I was born, in front of
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  Speaker 1: two hundred people, and I spoke from the Lord as
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  Speaker 1: my shepherd. And and that became a norm in our
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  Speaker 1: household where my sisters it was the thing that we
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  Speaker 1: are taking Jay to his speaking engagement. For about two
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  Speaker 1: to three years, my parents took me all over Mississippi
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  Speaker 1: to preach the gospel. I was preaching in front of
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  Speaker 1: three five hundred trials and and and as you were
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  Speaker 1: speaking about, there wasn't and it wasn't a pressure, even
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  Speaker 1: though my dad was passing like, there wasn't pressure, but
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  Speaker 1: there was an expectation. Yeah, like my mom would. I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't go outside until I read a scripture and I
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  Speaker 1: had to come back and tell her what it meant.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I have such a you know, she doesn't notice,
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  Speaker 1: but I had a photographic memory so I can read it.
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  Speaker 1: And and she was stirring up to give. And then
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  Speaker 1: the other part about what I appreciated is that Mama
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  Speaker 1: taught us how to pray. How powerful, doc is prayer
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  Speaker 1: For young children to learn.
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  Speaker 2: How to pray, prayer is such a a lifeline. I
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  Speaker 2: remember a few years ago, over five years ago, I
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  Speaker 2: called my mom in tears one day and I was
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  Speaker 2: sitting in the car and I said to her, thank
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  Speaker 2: you for teaching me the substance of prayer, because life
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  Speaker 2: be life in and as long as you live this life,
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  Speaker 2: you know, we we learned that we can we can
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  Speaker 2: eat off of the prayers of our parents, but we
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  Speaker 2: can't live off of the prayers of our parents.
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  Speaker 1: Doc, you gotta say that again.
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  Speaker 2: We can eat off of the prayers of our parents,
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  Speaker 2: but we cannot live off of the prayers of our parents.
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  Speaker 2: And I am so grateful that those early mornings, those
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  Speaker 2: late nights left something in me that as I begin
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  Speaker 2: to walk this journey, as I had to lean on God,
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  Speaker 2: as I had to, like you said, come into this
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  Speaker 2: place of finding my identity in God, that came through prayer.
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  Speaker 2: Prayer is a lifeline. Literally, you you you cannot live
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  Speaker 2: and survive in this world without having a prayer life.
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  Speaker 2: It just won't it just won't work. You won't you
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  Speaker 2: won't make it, you won't survive. Okay, prayer isn't essential,
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  Speaker 2: So I mean, I'm grateful. It is so powerful, it
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  Speaker 2: is so necessary, especially for young kids. And I tell
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  Speaker 2: parents all the time, it's okay, sit them babies, now,
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  Speaker 2: walk the floor and pray in front of them. I
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  Speaker 2: promise you the seed is gonna be planted. I promise you.
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  Speaker 2: They're gonna mimic it. I promise you something is going
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  Speaker 2: to stick down the line when you live a life
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  Speaker 2: of prayer and supplication before the Lord. So prayers isn't essential,
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  Speaker 2: especially for families, kids, because we need it.
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  Speaker 1: We need it, we need it, and you can't thrive
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  Speaker 1: no without it. No, you may survive, but you can't
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  Speaker 1: thrive in this life without prayer.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need it.
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  Speaker 1: I mean even just just a simple just saying God,
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  Speaker 1: I need you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I had to learn that because I had this
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  Speaker 1: idea that I was bugging God, you know, in some
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  Speaker 1: stages in my life. And I never forget it. One
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  Speaker 1: morning prayer, God said, even when you don't know what
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  Speaker 1: to say, still talk to me, even when you don't
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  Speaker 1: know what to say. I still hear you, but I
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  Speaker 1: still need to hear you and hear from you. And
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  Speaker 1: knowing that prayer is not a monologue. It should be
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  Speaker 1: a dialogue. And then there are sometimes where God is
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  Speaker 1: that I've learned, even in prayer, where the spirit has
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  Speaker 1: to moan and it groans you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 1: and it intercedes for you. One of the best things
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  Speaker 1: that happened to me was receiving the Holy Spirit and
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  Speaker 1: learning the evidence of speaking, having the evidence of speaking
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  Speaker 1: in tongue, but also understanding and I'm relearning that now
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  Speaker 1: the power in it, you know, for just managing life.
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  Speaker 1: What would you say to a person who is they
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  Speaker 1: pray but they don't really know the essentialness of prayer
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  Speaker 1: and how important it is just for daily management, you know, I.
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  Speaker 2: Would say, this revelation comes through relationship. And if we
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  Speaker 2: are going to walk this life, if we're going to
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  Speaker 2: fulfill purpose, if we are going to be exactly who
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  Speaker 2: God has called us to be, it is going to
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  Speaker 2: require and it's going to call for us to have
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  Speaker 2: a relationship with God. There is no way you would
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  Speaker 2: ever have a revelation on who you are. You could
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  Speaker 2: hear it from everybody. You could hear it from Mama,
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  Speaker 2: you could hear it from me, you could hear it
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  Speaker 2: from anybody that speaks into your life. But if you
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  Speaker 2: do not have a relationship with God, you will never
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  Speaker 2: be able to obtain revelation through the eyes of God
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  Speaker 2: in who you are. And so I tell people all
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  Speaker 2: the time, if you want, but I don't know, doctor Johnson,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know my purpose. I feel so lost. You
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  Speaker 2: don't have relationship, You don't have relationship, and so what
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  Speaker 2: happened is you know, I'm gonna speak from the women's
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  Speaker 2: point of view. You you sit down, you wanna you
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  Speaker 2: want to get a relationship with a guid and you
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  Speaker 2: don't even know who you are. There's no revelation on
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  Speaker 2: who you are. So what are we doing. There's there's
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  Speaker 2: no relationship with God. But you want a relationship with man,
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  Speaker 2: and so you build this relationship with a man. You
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  Speaker 2: come in and have these expectations, but you don't even
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  Speaker 2: know who you are through the lens of God. And
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  Speaker 2: so it is very imperative to take the time to
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  Speaker 2: build relationship with God so you can have revelation into
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  Speaker 2: who you is, who you are. Sorry, we're just equivalent
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  Speaker 2: to your identity. Come on, okay, now watch this. Identities
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  Speaker 2: are revealed, not uncovered. We are our identities are revealed
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  Speaker 2: so we can be released into it. And many of
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  Speaker 2: us are walking around right, but we crying, Oh God,
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  Speaker 2: I can't you will have a husband for me, baby,
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  Speaker 2: I need you. I need you to sit down and
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  Speaker 2: come to a place where your identity is discovered through
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  Speaker 2: the lens of God, right, so it can be revealed
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  Speaker 2: to you so you can be released in it.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm woo. I don't know how many cars we
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  Speaker 1: got to today, c J, but I'm gonna go ahead.
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  Speaker 1: We call these a car tell moment. I've been tag
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  Speaker 1: the cars up and I may pick these up attacked.
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  Speaker 1: Listen for these folks out here. Listen, doc listen you
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  Speaker 1: you you, you, you are in it. I you know,
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  Speaker 1: like we're going there. I recently, I was recently, right,
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  Speaker 1: I was talking to this young lady and and you know,
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  Speaker 1: she had, you know, making known that she was interested
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  Speaker 1: in me. And I asked her, I said, what is
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  Speaker 1: your purpose?
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  Speaker 2: Wow?
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  Speaker 1: And and and and I wasn't asking in a way
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  Speaker 1: to judge, but I really wanted to know because I
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  Speaker 1: can say this that like especially I was telling visuala
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  Speaker 1: thiss it and you and I was having the same conversation,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like being at this place. Now I'm
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  Speaker 1: in it, I know it, it's been revealed. The difficulty
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  Speaker 1: is that I cannot walk with somebody who's not clear
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  Speaker 1: about their purpose. They're not clear about who they are.
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  Speaker 1: I can't help you find that. And when she paused
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  Speaker 1: to respond, and I can feel the weight that was
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  Speaker 1: pressing on her because she didn't know. And I think
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  Speaker 1: this goes for both men and women. We're looking this
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  Speaker 1: is both men and women. We're looking for relationships, we're
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  Speaker 1: looking for partnership, but we don't have a sense of
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  Speaker 1: who we are. And my thing is, how do you
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  Speaker 1: expect to walk with people with real purpose?
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  Speaker 2: The blind? Everybody blind, nobody knows, nobody knows, nobody has
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  Speaker 2: a sense of identity. And then you have those who
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  Speaker 2: have a sense of identity, but it's not aligned with
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  Speaker 2: the Word of God. So so so we get we
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  Speaker 2: get two dangerous people walking around. We we have I
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  Speaker 2: call them masquerading. Because you're masquerading around, you're you're something
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  Speaker 2: that you're not right, and so you get into relationships
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  Speaker 2: and then you're looking at the person, the person looking
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  Speaker 2: at you, You're you're masquerating around you. You pretended all
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  Speaker 2: this time. So that person looking at you like, am
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  Speaker 2: I being pumped? Is this a joke?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I've been pumped.
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  Speaker 2: I might being pumped because this is not this is
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  Speaker 2: not what you masqueraded around for five to six months.
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  Speaker 2: And I have I have dealt with male clients, professional athletes, rappers,
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  Speaker 2: I have dealt with it. And I've dealt with women,
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  Speaker 2: very successful six figure earners when I say have their
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  Speaker 2: ducks in a row, but they do not know their identity,
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  Speaker 2: and so then we have gender roles being switched. So
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  Speaker 2: we have we have women who are six figure earners,
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  Speaker 2: they have their ducks in a row, but because they
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  Speaker 2: don't know that identity, they come into relationships where they're
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  Speaker 2: the male in the relationship. Oh it's it's it's it's
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  Speaker 2: it's it's it's it's messed up. So we have we
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  Speaker 2: have people in relationships we have identities that are flip flopped.
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  Speaker 2: We have identities that are masquerading around or something else,
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  Speaker 2: and hence that's why we have relationships that don't work.
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  Speaker 2: We have we have a breakdown in marriages. We have
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  Speaker 2: a breakdown in Covenant because we have people getting angry
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  Speaker 2: at one another because you said that you were this,
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  Speaker 2: and I said that I was this, but you didn't
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  Speaker 2: do this and I didn't do that, and so we
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  Speaker 2: have this going on. But nobody we go back to
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  Speaker 2: the foundation, No one knew or had revelation or insight
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  Speaker 2: to who they are and what that identity is in Christ,
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  Speaker 2: simple as that. So they were never released into it.
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  Speaker 2: You could only be released into what has been revealed
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  Speaker 2: to you.
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  Speaker 1: You can only be released and to what has been
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  Speaker 1: revealed to you.
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  Speaker 2: Literally, I mean else what else you're doing.
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  Speaker 1: Mm, you can only be released into it. That's it,
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  Speaker 1: when it has been revealed to you.
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  Speaker 2: That's it. That's it. You know, we talk about you know,
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  Speaker 2: the ladies, love and ladies. I ain't picking on y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just giving y'all the I'm giving y'all
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  Speaker 2: the goods. You know, we like to talk about Ruth
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  Speaker 2: and Naomi, and you know Ruth, you know she went
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  Speaker 2: in that feel and bow eyes had to going on.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you something, but we don't talk about Mary.
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  Speaker 2: I love Mary. Let me tell you what I love
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  Speaker 2: about me. Mary's purpose and her identity was so aligned
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  Speaker 2: and rooted in God that it took the power of
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  Speaker 2: the Holy Spirit to come upon her to release her
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  Speaker 2: into what it is that she was called to do.
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  Speaker 2: Come on, okay, okay. The angel showed up. He said, oh,
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  Speaker 2: favorite one, right, the Lord is with you. She stood there.
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  Speaker 2: She was confused. She was trying to desert. Now, wait
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  Speaker 2: a minute, what's going on here? She said? He said,
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  Speaker 2: don't have no fear you you have been favored by
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  Speaker 2: the Lord. And the angel continues to go on and
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  Speaker 2: tell Mary, you know you're about to give birth. This
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  Speaker 2: is about to happen. He's about to be you know,
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: this great Messiah. And she said, well, how is this
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: going to happen? I'm going somewhere with this, because her
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  Speaker 2: identity was being revealed to her in this moment. I'm
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: going somewhere with this. Lady's so she asked a question, well,
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  Speaker 2: how you know, how is this going to happen? How
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  Speaker 2: is this going to take place? You know, I'm a virgin,
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  Speaker 2: And the Angel began to explain to her, this is
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  Speaker 2: how this it's going to happen. We find a critical moment.
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  Speaker 2: After this, she came into agreement. Come on, after her purpose.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: After her identity was revealed, she came into agreement. And
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: these were the words that she said. She said, be
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  Speaker 2: it unto you, you according to your word, I am
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  Speaker 2: the servant of the Lord. And so when we want
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: to walk around here saying we boss ladies, listen, Mary
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  Speaker 2: was the ultimate boss lady. You know why. She was
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: about her father's business. And when we as women right
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: can wear many hats and we can balance this and
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: balance that, the trueness of who we are is wrapped
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: up when we can be about our father's business. That's
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: what I call the ultimate business woman. And so she
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: was released into what was revealed to her. Watch this
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  Speaker 2: that came by.
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  Speaker 1: Revelation and through that ooh ooh, this is so good,
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  Speaker 1: and through her submitting.
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  Speaker 2: She came into agreement with it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: She came into an agreement because you see this so
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  Speaker 1: much today. I'm not submitting. I'm not surrendered. Here's what
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: I said, which I thank god, I've never had this
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  Speaker 1: conversation with a who woman about submitting to me or
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: anything like that, because I think it's twofold. I think
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: there is a level, an element of surrendering and an
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: element of submitting. She not only submitted through agreement. She's
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: surrendered to the purpose that I'm your servant, meaning that
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I'm here to serve. We have a generation of people,
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  Speaker 1: both men and women. Nobody wants to serve. Everyone wants
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: to be served.
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  Speaker 2: That's so good you touched on that. And I want
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: to say this, when too mature people come together, right,
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: there is an understanding. And it always goes back to revelation,
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: when you have a revelation about what the greed of
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: purpose is. And so what we have is we have
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people running around flesh driven. You are
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  Speaker 2: not going to find your wife through the eyes of
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  Speaker 2: your flesh. You are going to have to be awakened
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  Speaker 2: by the Holy Spirit. That's just simply it. And when
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: you are awakened by the Holy Spirit, you what is
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: going to happen is too mature people are going to
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: come together and there's going to be an understanding of
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: the greater purpose. Why Mary was able to say to
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  Speaker 2: the Angel, I am your servant, right, I am the
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: Lord's servant. Be it unto me according to your word.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: She didn't have to worry about Joseph coming into agreement. Right.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: That's another story of another time. But here we have
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: two mature people came together for the greater purpose. And
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: watch this to what you say. He submitted to the plan.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: She submitted to the plan. And so where there is
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: a grade, where there's an understanding of a greater purpose,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: two people are able to serve one another. Because can
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: I be read with I'm not serving no one who
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: doesn't have revelation about the greater purpose in a union.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: There's no way.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: I'm not tearing them no more on my cars.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: There's no way. We can't do it if you don't
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: have a revelation of the greater purpose, the greater purpose
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: of what it is that we are called to do.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: Because let's let's get beyond the makeup cute, the lash
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: is cute, the hair cube. But when we get home,
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: I need you to walk this floor. When we get home,
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: I need you to lay before me a blueprint of
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: what it is that the Lord is said. So so,
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: when everything is all said and done, when the click
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: lights are off, the cameras are off, what is God saying?
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: What is the direction? What is the greater purpose? What
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: is the greater plying? And then we can serve and
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: submit into that. Okay, So so on this journey, you know,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: with men like you, and I see it. I see it.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: It's so many of you guys talk about it. It really is.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: And we all have a an attraction. Right, Let's let's
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: be real. We we we all human, we all like
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: certain things. But I think what happens is you just
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: you just fall under that that that I think too
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: too much. It has to be it has to be
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: a balance, because this is what I believe. I believe
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: that whatever it is, when you come into that place
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: of revelation and what and who, when and where God
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: is say, there is something in you by way of
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: the Holy Spirit that's going to come into agreement with it.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: So you might look at that person and say, hmm,
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: she may not have been my first choice, but I
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: have revelation on a greater purpose. And because and because
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: by way of the Holy Spirit are working on the
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: inside of you, there is something about that person what
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: you may not have liked before. Oh oh, oh oh,
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: you're gonna fall in love with it now because there
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: is revelation of the greater purpose coming from all that.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: Whoo.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: So I need my guys to get it together, y'all,
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: y'all got to get it together. Man, y'all gotta get
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: it together. You need a woman who has come to
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: a place and a level of maturity and understanding of
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: her identity with God in God. And if you don't,
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: I hate to say it, you are going to spend
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: years building that woman up. It has to be done anyway.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: But imagine someone who doesn't know who she is. I'm
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: so grateful of my process. I am so grateful of
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: the time that God has taken with me to the
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: point where I'm so content. It's scary.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: Doc, I need you to go deeper because they don't
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: know that you were married.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, yeah, got married at the age of twenty one,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: twenty two, very young, and it was a mess. It
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: was an entire mess that literally almost destroyed me. And
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: so I tell people all the time, you know, marriage
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: and coming into covenant is not a game. This is
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: something that can literally take you out. You come into covenant,
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: you get yoked up with the wrong person, and your
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: life can literally be destroyed.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: And I'm just that's a clips mark there.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: I'm just grateful that I'm one of the favor ones
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: that made it out alive.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: I'm just I'm just being honest.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: And Doc you're on it because I've heard I've counseled
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: a lot of women that I've come out of marriages,
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: and especially because like probably about sixty five percent of
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: my clients are believers.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, And I've.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: Heard many of them saying because they'll they'll come in
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: session and you know, and of course you build this
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: the relationship with with the client. And they'll often say,
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: doctor j. You can't afford to marry the wrong person.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: You cannot, You can't. Purpose is too great, Purpose is
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: too great. The framework of who you are took too
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: much work, and when you have that revelation and understanding,
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: you cannot afford to allow anything or anyone to disrupt
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: the framework. What people see as we are sitting here
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: on this couch, they're seeing somewhat of the end result,
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: but they didn't see the becoming of this. There was
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: a price to be paid, Okay, a high price. And
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: so you cannot, after all of the work, after all
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: of the tears, after all of the sacrifices, how are
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: you going to let somebody just come in who don't
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: even know the value of their worth. Anything that's too
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: accessible doesn't carry value. If everybody could go in the
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Louis Pizon store and pick up a purse every day.
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: What's the value in it? What's the value in it?
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Tell me what if everyone can go to that store
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: or the Gucci store or particular stores every day and
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: just have accessibility to that. Where's the value in it?
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: Where's value in it?
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: Value?
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: So I would say to you, doctor j and being
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: in this space and seasoning your life where you have
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: an understanding and you have a revelation of what's to
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: come and who you'll call to be, I would say,
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: it's going to require a very mature woman. It's going
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: to require a mature woman who is mature emotionally, mentally,
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: and spiritually. If not want, you're gonna find yourself fighting lion,
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: tigers and bears. You're gonna be out there fighting, and
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: you're gonna come home fighting. You're gonna go out fighting
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: and you're gonna come back fighting, and your life is
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: going to consistently be that of fighting, simply because you
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: didn't choose someone with the maturity level and intelligence that
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: is necessary to walk alongside with you. And vice versa.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: For women, my women who have done the work, or
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: women who have taken the time to pour into themselves. Women, listen,
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: love on yourself, love on yourself, Take the time to
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: look at your worth, take the time to look at
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: yourself through the lens of God, and say, I can't
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: afford for know what domess is up. Oh, I look
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: at myself every day, every day.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: And I want to interject. And for those that you
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: probably said, well, what didn't marry? Didn't remarry after divorce?
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: No single ten years and celibate ten years plus and
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: celibate it.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: So for those of like, she's done the work and
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: continues to do the work. Because I know you was talking.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: You said, Doc, I can't afford.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you why. God messed around and showed
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: me how good it could get. Let me say it again,
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: He messed around and showed me how good it could get.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: And so as the years went on, and as I
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: matured and as I grew, I realized the things that
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: I had, the expectation that I had from a man,
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: It wasn't necessary. God was saying, if you could just grow,
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: if you could miss mature, if you could come into
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: the revelation of who you are, and me, I will
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: show you what it is that I can do in
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: your life. And when whoever, when the time comes, there's
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: going to be an added addition. But you're going to
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: be able to stand and say, because I had relationship
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: with God, because I have revelation with God, look at
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: what he's done in my life. And I realized that
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: I'm just too valuable.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: He took his time, he's given me the best, he's
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: poured into me. He's he's allowed me to live so good.
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: And I just can't have the mindset that I had
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: seven years ago, eight years ago, say well, I just
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: you know, you know, you go through them seasons. Well,
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: let me let me just get somebody. I'll work with him. No, no, no,
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: you go and do the work. It's another beautiful thing
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: when two people do the work. Oh my god, think
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: about it. Two people who have done and who is
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: continuously doing the individual work can come together and say, hey, okay,
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: I see you doing that, but let me give you
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: some input on that. And then you could say to
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: that person, hey, okay, I see you, I see you,
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: but this is way you could. But you have two
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: people the work.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm waiting for, because I listen, that's what
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: I'm waiting for. I'm ready because because you're you're you are.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I know. I'm watching these brothers faces in there. You
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: are blessing these men because oftentimes we don't get to
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: hear how important it is. Because we often hear, you know,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: be a provider, be a protector, you gotta lead. But
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: I don't think that men here how important it is
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: on where you lead and who you lead. I'm seeing
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: a lot of brothers who have great calling, who have
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: great purpose, who have made bad decisions and choosing, and
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: they chose from a good place in their heart. They
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: chose because they wanted to be in covenant, they wanted
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: to be married, they wanted to, you know, to do
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: the right thing. But but what you're saying, male or female,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: man or woman. But I'm talking to the brothers because
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of brothers that have been hitting up
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: and say, Doc, I made the wrong decision.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: I think it's so important, Doc, that we choose for
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: where we're going and not where we're at now. It
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: is a dangerous, very very very dangerous kid. And listen
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: to me, audience. I'm not saying that God can't restore.
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: I can't. I'm not saying by any means that God
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: can't touch a situation. I'm not saying that. But when
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: you when you have the strength to wait.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: Ooh Jesus, you.
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: Have the strength to wait. Ladies, I promise you, when
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: you have the strength to wait, it is going to
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: be so beautiful. Because here's the thing. You could be
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: a great leader, but you're leading the wrong person. You
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: can be a great provider, but with an ungrateful person,
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: it will never be enough. So now let's let's be
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: real about it. I'm spoiled. I'm not ashamed to say
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: that I'm not. But because of my strength in waiting
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: who God has for me. I mean, he's gonna see
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: the Good Father has taken care of me, and so
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: he's gonna understand when he comes into my world, this
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: is our world. This is what I've been standing, this
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: is what I've been holding down, this is what I've
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: been creating, this is what the good Sister has been
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: holding it down. So when he come into my world,
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: there's going to be an empowerment in him that if
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: she did this ten plus years with the strength of God,
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: he's going to be empowered to say I could run
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: with this. Now, come on, he is going to be
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: empowered to say, if God did this with and through
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: my wife, oh, there's a grace in me that can
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: do it. There's a grace in me that can stand.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: There's a grace in me that can run my God
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: to this. But see, we coming into covenant with people
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: who don't even have the same mindset as us. We
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: unequally yoke. If I'm over here liking nice stuff and
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: you over there still talking about how when and where
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: this ain't gonna work. I don't need you to have
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: all the resources. I need you to have the faith.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: I don't need you to have it all figured out.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: I need you to have the mindset. I don't need
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: you to be able to pay for everything. I need
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: you to have a prayer life. Because one can chase
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: a thousand and two can chase ten thousand and something supernatural.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: It is going to happen when we lock hands for
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: the greater purpose. There's going to be a greater level
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: of manifestation. And watch this. Let's not forget the word.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: When a mind finds a wife, he finding it a
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: good thing. So I'm sorry, fellas favor if y'all looking
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: and y'all yoking up with this stuff, and favor ain't
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: dropping your life when your wife shows up. Your life
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: is supposed to shift when your wife shows up, Sir,
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: favor drops in your life. And I'm talking to the
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: ladies because there's some good ladies o there who got favor? Ladies,
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: I don't one of them. I know who I listen.
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: I'm so careful with my favor. I can't touch everybody.
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: That's how careful I am. That's how God I am,
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: because I know I have revelation and what and who
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: I and what I carry. And so, ladies, even those
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: of you who are or have been wasting time on
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: relationships with man who doesn't even have a revelation on
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: who you are, you're wasting your owe, You're wasting your favor.
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: There is a grace in waiting strong wait on God.
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: Well, let that breed, as we said, therapis, let that breed.
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: Have you been choosing your favor or you've been choosing
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: your demise? You don't have to answer that right now.
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: Have you been choosing your favor? You know we talked
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: about I know man talk about I need my peace. No,
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: you need your favor because when favor shows up, the
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: peace of God is going to.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: Rest on rest. That's why. Now that's it, because you
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: can be That's why I've never that's you. You would
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: never you go anywhere on any platform that I've done
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: the interview. I've never said I need her to be
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: my piece because you know.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: You could have a masquerading woman walking around pretending to
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: be your peace and be She ain't your favor. Give
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: me favor any day, because I know what favor can do.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: Favor would do what money could never do. Fabor would
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: open doors when money could never open. And I'm sitting
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: here today this was favor. So I need you. I
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: need you to start looking for your favor. So where's
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: my favor? Because there's an aspect and there's a level
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: with who God is called to be your wife. There's
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: an aspect and a level of favor that she carries
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: for you. She's graced for you. So you're sitting down
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: and getting frustrated because they're not great for you. Give
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: me the grace. I need a mind that's grace for me.
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: I'm a lot in a good way. Okay, I'm a
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: lot in a good way. But he has to have grace.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: And so that's why I've been hidden for the time.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: Open I know to this day, if any mind approaches me,
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: they have found me by way of the Holy Spirit.
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: I already know it.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: Docs, sit back and through the hell. What what I
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: would say like to say, Doc, as we're in closing,
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: I want to say thank you for pushing me too.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: And it's not so much just about locking in. But
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: you know, one of the biggest challenges that I would
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: say personally for me was and and what people don't
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: realize is that it takes time to accept that you're rare. Yeah, yeah,
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: that is. And I tell my mother that like that
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: has been one of my biggest challenges. And not because
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: I want to be like everybody. I don't. That's I've
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: never met a man that I wanted to be like.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: It's because sometimes it can feel so isolated and heavy,
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: and it's hard to articulate, and it's hard to convey
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: without sounding in a way to where some people have
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: always tap into my vocabulary. I don't want it to
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: feel I don't want to come off as so magniloquent
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: and it sounds as if I'm trying to pontificate and
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: trying to because sometimes with what I give is so
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: high level thinking and sometimes to explain that. It's like
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: I can't come down that little so God connected me
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: with you allows me to see that. It's almost like
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: when when the Avengers get to give and you see like,
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: oh man, you you can turn, you know what I
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: mean water, I mean you can jump, and you know
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: you can vanish, and you know, teleport or you get
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: to meet Somebody's like, oh man, there's others. This is
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: why I love Marvel so much. It's because when you
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: look at every Marvel character, one thing that all of
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: them had in common is rejection. Here's the other thing
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: that they had in common. They were only embraced momentarily
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: for their gifts, but they were not embraced for being gifted,
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: you know. And so when I see you even just
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: operating in this, it's like I was down and when
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: I was in Florida and Joel was preaching and you know,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: he's menacing, and there was a God standing behind me,
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: and immediately the Holy spirits and put your hand on
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: his heart. It was like God showed me that he
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: was close to having a heart attack. And I put
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: my hand on his heart, beginning to pray over him,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: and I thank God that you have given me confidence
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: even the more because here's what people don't realize. And
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: I think who was talking to Oh yeah, when I
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: was on Christal and They podcast, I was talking about
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: the challenge that when you get to the top, you
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: can't come back down and have conversations with people on
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: the bottom. And not that I am trying to minimize them,
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: it's that God has called you higher, so you have
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: to have conversations that are up there. I got to
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: come seal you. I got to talk to a Bishop Jacson.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: I got to talk to somebody who's there that has
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: slay giants and ain't telling about nobody that's still wrestling
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: with tigers and bears. Tell about folks who slayed golions
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: and they've got a trail of golions that says, hey,
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: I've been here before.
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: You know, it's very imperative when we are gifted. I
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: was never I was never the pick me girl.
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: I came from the islands, just an island girl. I
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: was never invited, I was I was never on one
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: of the flyers. I was never I was never given
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: the opportunity. But they all called me behind closed doors. Yes,
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: they all called me behind closed doors. So I was
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: the one giving them their messages to preach. I was
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: the one. I was the one giving them the the
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: their words and navigating them and even global words they
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: will pre they would say it over the pulpit. So
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: I was never the one. It was like, oh who she?
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: And God said, understand this. You were always a big
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: deal to me before you would be a big deal
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: to anybody else. And he said, if you trust me
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: in this process, I will take you somewhere that people
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: could never take you.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: God.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: And so when I began to pop up and spaces
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: in the rooms, I was always there. You just never knew.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: I just never knew you sight.
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: And so this journey has taught me to find my
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: rhythm in it, doctor j And I'm proud of you
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: because you've been finding your rhythm. Finding your rhythm will
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: bring you to a place once once again. It comes
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: back to identity. It comes back to knowing our identity
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: and God, I do not care if who doesn't know
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: my name. I am God's best kept secret and what
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: he has placed in me, what he has allowed to
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: be deposited in me. I understand now why I wasn't
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: the picmy girl. I understand why I wasn't on the
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: church flyers because I was called to so much greater.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: I needed to be able to walk in the marketplace
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: and ministry. I needed to be able to conform in
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: both worlds without selling out. He had to test me
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: and try me. Let me see if I can test
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: her character. Let me see if her character can't withstand
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: the test of time. Let me see if she will
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: sell out for money. I had to be tested all
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: of these years. And so when you come into a
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: place where you find your rhythm, you will understand things
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: are just things. Yes I live nice, Yes I drive nice,
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: but it's just things. Just as He gave it, he
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: could take it away. And so as you find your
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: rhythm in this journey, on beat everything else, because rhythm
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: comes with alignment, and as you are as you are
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: on rhythm, alignment comes in your relationships, who you call
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: to be with, the businesses, the permanent studio, the location
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: that you will even have in Atlanta. I'm talking to you.
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: You hearing me? You sure you hear what I said?
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: Just now? A permanent location, a location even in Atlanta. See,
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: there are some things that God is waiting to release
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: to you. Because your wife is your favor, and when
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: she comes, God will trust you with the next level
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: of provision. He will trust you with the ne next
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: level of wealth. He will trust you with the next
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: level even of sponsorships. But I hear the Lord saying
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: it's time to come up. And you're thinking even with
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: this because you're gonna move from podcasting to television recording.
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: But this is going to require you to be on
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: rhythm again. That again, Can I be honest with you?
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: You ain't on rhythm? You be you got it? Gotta
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: be a consistent rhythm. How you want a consistent mate?
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: You got to be consistent. You got to be everything
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: that you're looking for. I need you to be that
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: ten times. That's what I tell myself. I ain't telling
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: you nothing. I don't tell myself. Okay, I'm I want
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: to fly because you know that's important to me. I
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: need to. I don't need to be trying to address nobody. Okay,
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: we we we we you know we we ain't there.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: I don't want to do that. Okay. So that's how
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: I carry myself and I take time and myself. I
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: need him to be the same way, okay, just how
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: I'm consistent in discipline, in my prayer life and with
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: my upkeep. I need him to be that way, just
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: how I am a good stort financially. I like nice things,
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: but I ain't going out there to waste money. Okay.
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: My home is gonna be beautified as a woman. Okay,
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: because my home is a reflection of me. Okay, a
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: woman should take pride in how she lives and where
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: she did. You can't be walking around here with a
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: Gucci and Louis tom Baig and your home a rots mess.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Your husband come home, his robbing on the bed, his
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: water air round? What happened to your king? Okay? But
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: I need him? I need him. We don't have time.
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: We have time. We gotta be a rhythm. So as
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: you do the work, trust to know who God has
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: for you, has done the work and is doing the work.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: But you gotta stay because this next level of what
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: God wants to released to you, it's depending on you
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: finding her. And I know that may sound cruel, ain't it?
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: But she is able.
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: He trying to show you something you know, and you
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: saying that it doesn't. It doesn't sound cruel, you know
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: you it sounds in some way. You can hear a
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: word that can can make you feel the other word
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: I'm looking for, I can't think of it like it
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: it's it can sound very pressured and not pressured like
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: you know, I can't you can't handle the pressure pressure
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: as if it's like it's tense. You know what I'm
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: saying piercing because because you know the other part of
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: that is as I am finding rhythm in this new level,
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: it is also you know, it's almost like me being
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: an athlete, right you know, and I mean can can
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: have tested it as well? Is man? You you a
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: cult will tell you don't overthink it so you can
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: find rhythm in your ability, which is why football is
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: so repetitive. You do the same thing every day. You'll
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: run the same play ten times. You'll run the same
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: play ten times in a different formation. And so what
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: it's doing is creating that muscle memory. And so for
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: me in this season, you know, I'm a very disciplined
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: and a very consistent person. But I also know that
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: God is calling me to be disciplined and consistent in
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: these other areas. You know, and I and I often
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: tell people you know, for me, because I'm always transparent,
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: the discipline for me isn't I And I'm putting it
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: out here. I don't have a discipline issue in my
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: flesh like that. I'm disciplined sexually. My sexuality is disciplined.
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: Are you disciplined with your eyes? Though?
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: I'm disciplined with my eyes? Here here's what I say,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: and here here's what I say. I have to develop
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: the discipline emotionally because of what I desire, and so like,
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: I'm not a person who who like when I when
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: I have chosen certain partners, I didn't choose a partner
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: because they were you know, like it wasn't that like
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: I've chosen partners because I felt emotionally pulled, you know,
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: because there's something that I desire because for me in
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: this work, in this field, I desire psychological safety. And
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: that's something I don't hear a lot of men because
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: of the way that I poured because and Joel and
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: I talk about this so much, man, Like you know,
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: when we were getting on stage, getting on tour and
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: we had gone, I think were left NASA, Bishop Ellis
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: and the men there, like you can, man, it was
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: so heavy from the men there, and I just remember
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: going back to the hotel and I'm just like, dude,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: who in the world can I call in this moment
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: to pick me up? And not that I can't pick
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: up myself, but it's like sometimes having somebody to give
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: me a word, because there are times I don't have
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: a word for jade.
• 50:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: Like I've been on stage and three five hundred men
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: and I prophesied to about thirty of them. Yeah, and
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: I'm depleted, and so I ain't looking for a shadow
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: of tail, you know, as my grandmother said, I ain't
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: looking Sometimes I'm just looking just to fall in somebody's
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: arm and cry because I need to release all of that.
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, definitely.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: Like I came home one night, Doc, and I've said this,
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: there was a brother I prayed for who was heavily
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: struggling with suicide. I came home and that night I
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: was doing something in my closet and I keep mind
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: my gun in the closet, and man, the voices that
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: I was hearing in that closet standing by that gun
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: was scary.
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: I walked out of there and closed the door. It
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: was so heavy. I had to open up my patio
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: door to let Eric and begin to pray. And this
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: is what we were talking about earlier. I love that
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: my mom taught me how to pray. But I said, listen,
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: you got I gotta go to sleep tonight, and you
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: got to get you got to get up out of here.
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: Matter of fact, you got to get the hell out
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: of here.
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: So let me ask you something. And having this conversation
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: and saying how difficult it has been, which and I
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: know it is because I have, like I said, a
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: lot of male clients who are very influential men, high
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: figure earners like yourself. You have to be able to
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: ask yourself in this rhythm, what is it that I
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: really want in the long run? You said something just now,
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: and that's why I'm piggy backing off of that. You
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: said you wanted to just come home and have somebody
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: arms to fall in to. That sounds cute on that
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: sounds good, right, I'm going somewhere with these It sounds safe.
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: It's it's sounds safe.
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: I'm safe. But Ima Jane coming home falling into somebody
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: arms who hasn't a clue of what you're dealing with.
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: That's That's what I'm saying. So when you talk about
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: my eyes, my now, my eyes have drawn me to
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: people where I felt like, oh, she has that. Like
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: I can tell you this. I have dated folks who
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: mask well. Man. That's why I thank God for bringing
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: me out a certain seaton because I dated folks man
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: they massed well. And when I got in there, I
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: never forget dating is youngly and and and and this
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: is like second year on the tour. And I was
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: sitting on her couch and she's like, so, are You're
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: not gonna talk to me today? And uh And I
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: literally said, I said, man, I don't have anything to say.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: I literally got off stage, flew home, grabbed clothes, and
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: flew to her place to hang out for just a
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: couple of days. Because again, I've never allowed work to
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: interfere because I'm like, well, I don't want to create
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: a habit of like, oh, I can't. And she was
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: so upset, and I said to her, I said, I
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: said something to you. I said, man, I said, I
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: was on stage four hours. My tour is. There's nothing
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: like my tour. It's never been done. This is the
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: first mental health tour for men. And if you know
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: anything about men in the Caribbean, the amount of trauma
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: that they are holding is unimaginable. Bishop Ellis looked at
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: me and he said, I can't even begin to tell
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: you the work that you're doing and what is going
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: to cost you. Bishop Jake said to me, he said,
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: you are healing ancestral wombs. Matter of fact, he said,
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: ancient wombs. I cannot tell you the weight of that
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: because I've never seen a man talk mental health, prophecy
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: and all. Because it's one thing to preach, because you're
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: talking spiritual one, it's another thing to come and when
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: you have to give for prophecy where I'm not only
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: speaking to the spirit, I'm also speaking to the trauma. Yeah,
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: And so I said I knew that. Like she couldn't
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: even comfort it. I said, you know what, this ain't
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: gonna work. And and that was in it.
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: An immature it's a dangerous woman. And an immature woman
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: doesn't necessarily mean she's not matured mentally. If she is
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: not matured to be graced for who you are, that
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: immediately makes her.
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: And she came back and said that, she said, she said, Jay,
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: I it was like she said, I didn't know. I
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: thought I did. She didn't have a revelation with who
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: you are and who you were, didn't have a revelation.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: So you're picking people. So if we choose people, yeah
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: who don't revelation, we can't get frustrated.
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: M hm.
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: You have to choose people.
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: Thank God, we'll be on that point.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, that was so you have you have
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: to choose people who have a revelation and who you
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: are spiritually.
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: Because that's so important. Ambitious said to me, you don't
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: want nobody that you gotta tell them who you are. Wow,
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: mister Jake said to me, I just I was. I said,
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: mm hmmmm. He said, never had to tell Siri or
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: who I was. Wow, she knew who I was before
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: I knew me.
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmmm.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: So going back to what you said, if they don't
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: have a revelation and to the good people out there,
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: if it ain't equal, don't.
• 55:50
  Speaker 2: Yoke it, don't don't.
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: Listen. This has been probably this thing got David Bird's
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: We're now alone with the female version. This is probably
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: one of my favorite episode. And here's why, because in
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: real time you got to see me and you got
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: to see doctor Johnson speaking to me but also speaking
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: to you. I don't know where you are in life.
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you do. I don't know what
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: you're going through, what you're navigating, what you're processing. But
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: healing is yours if you choose it. You've heard Doc
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: give me a word, and you heard her speak to
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: some other. You know, we're allowing the cameras to flow.
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: But part of understanding your true identity is understanding who
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: you are in God. And I'm just gonna I'm just
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: gonna put that out there. And you haven't really healed
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: until you can identify who you are in Him.
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: Other than that, you'll continue to identify yourself through the trauma,
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: through the abuse, through what happened, what should have happened,
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: who did it, who said it? All those different things,
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: And I just want to encourage you to continue doing
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: the work. You just heard a woman of God. You
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: just heard a transformation, transformational coach. You just heard a mother.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: You just heard from a business woman, you heard from
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: a sister, You heard from a voice an instrument that
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: God is using in the marketplace and in ministry. And
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: what I love about Doc is because it's a reflection
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  Speaker 1: of me. God that not just call me to ministry.
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  Speaker 1: He called me to the marketplace. And I've always own
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  Speaker 1: that I don't know where you're called to, but I
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  Speaker 1: encourage you wherever you call to keep doing the work
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  Speaker 1: because if God is going to keep expanding you and
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  Speaker 1: keep elevating you, you're going to have to go deeper
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  Speaker 1: in you and in Him. And that's been one of
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  Speaker 1: the biggest lesson that I've realized is that yesterday's you know,
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  Speaker 1: Joe fact Joe said, yesterday's price is not today's price.
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  Speaker 1: But can I tell you yesterday prayers ain't gonna work
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  Speaker 1: for the day. It ain't man every day. You got
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  Speaker 1: to go before Him every day. And that's what true
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  Speaker 1: healing is is being able to surrender your trauma, surrender
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  Speaker 1: your pain, surrender even your emotions because sometimes we're tied
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  Speaker 1: to the emotion. I can I've been there. You're tied
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  Speaker 1: to the emotion, and that can keep us from growing
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  Speaker 1: and moving toward where God wants to have us. So again,
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  Speaker 1: I hope this episode blows your socks off. I know
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  Speaker 1: this episode gonna do numbers because doctor Johnson is just
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  Speaker 1: and she she gonna be everywhere now. I'm telling you right,
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna be everywhere now because these folks, Yes, listen, listen,
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  Speaker 1: said listen. I'm glad she was here first.
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  Speaker 2: Grateful, Yes, the first. She was here first.
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  Speaker 1: So first, God, you did not disappoint Thank you so
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  Speaker 1: much for pouring to the audience. And I pray that
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  Speaker 1: what you have poured out God pours back into you.
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  Speaker 1: And pray that God continues to keep protecting you and
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  Speaker 1: shielding you because you are a mouthpiece for God. You
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  Speaker 1: are a mouthpiece for God. And I'm just grateful for
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  Speaker 1: even the way we connected. It was a God that
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  Speaker 1: was a God thing.
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  Speaker 2: So God, so God.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you something I got. God had
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  Speaker 1: me to start running and praying and this, and I
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  Speaker 1: tell you something. God is so patient with us. We
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  Speaker 1: often think that God is trying to get us do it.
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  Speaker 1: You know. It's almost like people like changes, both a
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  Speaker 1: process and an outcome. So God had me start getting
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  Speaker 1: up in November running early in the morning. And then
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  Speaker 1: as I started running, a God in the rhythm. God
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  Speaker 1: got me in a rhythm of just praying as I
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  Speaker 1: was talking to there, and then I began asking God.
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  Speaker 1: I said, God, I've gone as far as I can. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: who's in next? Samuel? Mm hmmm, And I asked God,
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  Speaker 1: I said, God, I need a Samuel. I don't need
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  Speaker 1: a Saul. I need a Samuel, and God sent you
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  Speaker 1: and we connected, and I'm forever grateful even for J
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  Speaker 1: Bowling being obedient, because me and him don't.
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  Speaker 2: Even talk like that is so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: We don't even talk like we talk, but it's like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, everybody's busy. And he was like, bro, I
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  Speaker 1: don't even why. He said you need to meet somebody,
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  Speaker 1: and it was you, yeah, yeah, And it could not
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  Speaker 1: have come at a better time because I'm at these
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  Speaker 1: pivotal places in life where I want to make the
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  Speaker 1: right decision and.
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  Speaker 2: Doctor J is so coachable. I just want everybody to
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  Speaker 2: know that he really is so so coachable. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know if you ever give
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  Speaker 2: anybody else any pushed back, but I'm government but one
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  Speaker 2: thing I can say, you are really pushing, and you
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  Speaker 2: have been pushing to find your rhythm. You have been attentive,
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  Speaker 2: very attentive in listening to what and how. So because
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  Speaker 2: I think it's important. You know, you know, so many
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  Speaker 2: people have podcasts, people call themselves therapists. They sit down,
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  Speaker 2: but you know, everything is a mess behind closed doors,
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  Speaker 2: and so I think it's important for people to know
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  Speaker 2: as you're sitting down with such a topic just here.
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  Speaker 2: I think people need to know that you're really doing
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  Speaker 2: the work, and it is not not for a motive
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  Speaker 2: because you know who am I? You know I, you
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  Speaker 2: know I, you know out here popping. You just wanted
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  Speaker 2: who God had to do the work with you, and
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  Speaker 2: you received that. Like we talked about earlier, you came
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  Speaker 2: into agreement. And so as you have come into agreement,
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  Speaker 2: I'm so excited to see what you're going to be
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  Speaker 2: released into. You know, as you continue to find this
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  Speaker 2: rhythm and help people to work. Listen, audience, don't allow trauma.
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  Speaker 2: Don't allow yourself to become trapped in your trauma. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: use trauma as a vehicle to be transformed. And that's
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  Speaker 2: what I'm gonna.
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  Speaker 1: End with, all Right, you heard it. Use trauma as
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  Speaker 1: a vehicle to be transformed. And until next time, healing
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  Speaker 1: is a journey and wholeness is the destination. Keep doing
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