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Episode #302: Stop Outsourcing Your Power · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, welcome to teach time with Amy and bab
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  Speaker 1: give we are.
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  Speaker 2: How's it going good? Good? Not going on?
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  Speaker 1: That's always I gotta change that narrative. Yeah, I gotta
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  Speaker 1: change that story. I enjoy everything I do, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: very blessed with all the things that I get to do.
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  Speaker 2: How's that?
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  Speaker 1: And those blessings are flowing in abundantly. How's that without saying,
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  Speaker 1: without using the word overwhelm.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well in a creative space too, we know what
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  Speaker 2: you what you already have going on. So the opposite
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  Speaker 2: of that would be I have plenty of time and
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  Speaker 2: money to take care of myself, and I do. I
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  Speaker 2: have plenty of rest. I always feel like I'm recharged.
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  Speaker 2: So it's just an opportunity for us to go to
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  Speaker 2: a different direction, which is what I'm hearing right now,
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  Speaker 2: which is good for me. As we were saying in
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  Speaker 2: the last video, whatever we were saying is for us
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  Speaker 2: as well. And it's like, I'm recognizing what I'm saying
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  Speaker 2: to you, and it holds a lot of value for
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  Speaker 2: myself to do the same thing. It's to be in
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  Speaker 2: that same place because we can get so wrapped up
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  Speaker 2: in what's in front of us or what we feel
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  Speaker 2: like is happening, and then we all obviously we're learning
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  Speaker 2: to want to create the opposite of that. So here
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  Speaker 2: we are, here.
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  Speaker 1: We are.
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  Speaker 2: Doing it. Yeah, it just takes practice.
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  Speaker 1: Every day, every moment. Everything's a practice. Like just taking
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  Speaker 1: a breath is a practice. Learning take a breath right,
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  Speaker 1: Learning to notice the tension and tightness in your body
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  Speaker 1: as you're moving through your day and just allowing yourself
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  Speaker 1: to take a breath and just let it all.
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  Speaker 2: Settle.
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  Speaker 1: And then what's the next move?
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  Speaker 2: Is it the phone call?
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  Speaker 1: Is it the document, is it the you know, the
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  Speaker 1: errand And.
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  Speaker 2: As soon as you said take a breath, I took
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  Speaker 2: that breath and I slowed down. It's like everything felt different.
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  Speaker 2: I've been feeling since before we got on today and
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  Speaker 2: this is our second one, but I've been feeling like
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  Speaker 2: the sensation is like a buzzing in this area. I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what's going on, but it's been buzzing. I've
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  Speaker 2: not had this experience before, so it's been buzzing since
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  Speaker 2: I think I was getting ready to start our videos.
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  Speaker 2: Before I was getting ready to start, so it's just
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  Speaker 2: finding this interesting. But I would not have noticed it
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  Speaker 2: I've noticed it here and there, but when I took
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  Speaker 2: the breath, I really noticed it just a second ago,
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  Speaker 2: just sitting here. And then when you say, take that breath.
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  Speaker 2: As soon as I took the breath and you said,
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  Speaker 2: notice where you're feeling whatever you said in your body,
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  Speaker 2: I felt tension in my solar plexus, like holding, and
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  Speaker 2: so these things we wouldn't recognize because it's so easy
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  Speaker 2: for us to keep ourselves busy and keep moving forward
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  Speaker 2: and not paying attention to these things. But just slowing down.
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  Speaker 2: I took one breath, just one breath. It wasn't more
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  Speaker 2: than a breath. It was just one breath, and I
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  Speaker 2: noticed all that. Yeah, so oh.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you got like ten seconds.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 1: People think, oh, okay, I don't have time to sit
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  Speaker 1: and breathe. Well you kind of breathe them all day.
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  Speaker 1: What's the difference if you just take a deep breath?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? Does it puts you in the now?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: It brings you right into that awareness because now you're folks,
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  Speaker 2: you like, stop everything else, wait, I have to get breath.
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  Speaker 2: I've got you. And then you take that breath and
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  Speaker 2: you just take the time to notice everything that's going
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  Speaker 2: on in the body. You're in awareness right now, you're
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  Speaker 2: right now, and it is exactly where you need it
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  Speaker 2: to be. And we only pull ourselves and go back
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  Speaker 2: out to the old patterns because we until we're aware
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  Speaker 2: of them, don't recognize that they're happening. And then when
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  Speaker 2: we become aware of them, we recognize how much power
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  Speaker 2: that we do have because we can now change where
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  Speaker 2: we're putting our attention and put it back on their breath.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I've had conversations with many people who you know,
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  Speaker 1: have been students, are just casual conversations of telling them
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  Speaker 1: talking about deep breathing and all that. Oh, well, I
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  Speaker 1: can't just sit and deep. I can't just sit and
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  Speaker 1: do that. And only because I know this, I will say, well,
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  Speaker 1: why do you feel like you can't sit and breathe? Well,
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  Speaker 1: because I'm supposed to be up doing something and being
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  Speaker 1: busy in all the things. And so we have that conversation. Right, Well,
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  Speaker 1: that's childhood programming. You know, your parents told you you
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  Speaker 1: cannot just sit around. You have to be doing something,
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  Speaker 1: be productive in whatever way, because there's always something to do.
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  Speaker 1: And so I had this conversation with a person recently.
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  Speaker 1: I said, right, well, what do you when you feel peace?
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  Speaker 1: When do you feel calmness in your body? Well, when
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  Speaker 1: I'm in nature? Okay, So if you go outside and
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  Speaker 1: sit in nature, how is that different than sitting in
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  Speaker 1: your house and breathing. What's the difference? Well, when I
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  Speaker 1: set at home, I know there's things that I need
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  Speaker 1: to be doing, and so I oh, so that's what
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  Speaker 1: you're focused on, right, So you're focused on the things
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  Speaker 1: that need to be done, and you're not and it's
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  Speaker 1: not okay for you to be sitting in your house
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  Speaker 1: and doing.
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  Speaker 2: Some deep breathing.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Well, what's the difference between sitting for a few
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  Speaker 1: moments and breathing knowing all this stuff has to be
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  Speaker 1: done in your house or whatever needs to be done? Right,
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  Speaker 1: you have all these things that are so important that
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  Speaker 1: need to get done. What's the difference between sitting in
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  Speaker 1: your house and breathing in the middle of the day.
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  Speaker 1: I just need to sit here and breathe focus on
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  Speaker 1: my breathing for two minutes, ten minutes, twenty minutes, an hour,
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  Speaker 1: I don't care how long. What is the difference between
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  Speaker 1: that and going to bed at night and going to
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  Speaker 1: sleep knowing that all this stuff has to get done.
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  Speaker 1: What's the difference, So it's it's a mind shift or
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  Speaker 1: mind shit. It's the mind shit telling us that in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of the day I can't just sit and
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  Speaker 1: breathe because there's so much that needs to be done.
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  Speaker 1: Whereas at the end of the night, there's still all
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  Speaker 1: these things that have to be done, and you get
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  Speaker 1: to go to bed and sleep and let.
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  Speaker 2: Your body rest.
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  Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you take a moment during the day to
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  Speaker 1: let your body rest, not necessarily go to sleep. They said,
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  Speaker 1: ten minutes of meditation is equivalent to like an hour nap.
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  Speaker 1: Ten minutes just sitting and breathing is equivalent to an
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  Speaker 1: hour nap. And I will say if I take a
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  Speaker 1: nap during the middle of the day, I'm usually worse
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  Speaker 1: off after I come out of the nap, feeling lethargic
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  Speaker 1: and like now I'm not even motivated to do anything.
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  Speaker 1: But if I just focus and intentionally focus on breathing
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  Speaker 1: for ten minutes, now I can get up and I
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  Speaker 1: have that energy and.
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  Speaker 2: Ready to go.
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  Speaker 1: So just be aware if you think about my meditation
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  Speaker 1: or just sitting for a few minutes to focus on
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  Speaker 1: that deep breathing to bring some relaxation into your body
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  Speaker 1: and then get up and do your stuff. How is
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  Speaker 1: that different than going to bed at night?
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  Speaker 2: You know, you said a lot of that stuff and
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  Speaker 2: when you were using that as a scenario, because because
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  Speaker 2: there's a lot I felt the same way a lot
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  Speaker 2: of times, you know, just to sit inside the house
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  Speaker 2: because it's like, what am I sitting here for? I
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  Speaker 2: got there's things that need to be done. And then
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  Speaker 2: it's like, well, if I go outside, I could be
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  Speaker 2: more quiet, I could be more And then word that
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  Speaker 2: came to me was safe. And I'm thinking, how do
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  Speaker 2: you feel more safe outside of your home than in
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  Speaker 2: your phone? Do you know what I mean? So that
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  Speaker 2: that was a process. This is for myself and I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if anyone else is feeling that way too,
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  Speaker 2: but it's recognizing we were safe always in all environments,
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  Speaker 2: but we have there's still patterns from that environment, like
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  Speaker 2: you know, feeling. I knew that if I was inside
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  Speaker 2: the house, if I was inside the house as a child,
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  Speaker 2: you better being busy. If I'm doing you know, she's
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  Speaker 2: doing something. If my mom is doing something, I better
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  Speaker 2: be doing something. If we were out out of the way,
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  Speaker 2: they didn't have to see us what we were doing.
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  Speaker 2: They didn't care that we were screwing around putting worms
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  Speaker 2: in somebody's mailbox or whatever you were doing as a kid.
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  Speaker 2: You know, they didn't care about that stuff because it
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  Speaker 2: wasn't right in their experience. And that's what we learned.
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  Speaker 2: And then so for us it felt safer to be
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  Speaker 2: For me, I felt safer for me to be outside.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that so crazy? I mean, I'm just having this
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  Speaker 2: recognition during this conversation.
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  Speaker 1: Well yeah, and I asked her. I said, okay, well,
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  Speaker 1: what if there's snow outside and it's freezing and you
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  Speaker 1: can't go out in nature and that's where you feel
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  Speaker 1: comfortable to sit there and breathe. How is it different
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  Speaker 1: than just staying inside where it's warm and sitting there
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  Speaker 1: and breathing. Look out the window while you breathe so
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  Speaker 1: you can see that. How is that any different. It's
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  Speaker 1: our programming, it's our belief system. It's what our parents
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  Speaker 1: told us. And then the funny and as you were talking,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, that's interesting because a home you
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  Speaker 1: grew up in where you learn that programming, most of
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  Speaker 1: us don't even live in that home anymore. We may
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  Speaker 1: have had multiple homes, but yet we still have that
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  Speaker 1: same perspective, same programming, same belief system that if it's
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  Speaker 1: during the day and I am awake, I should be busy.
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  Speaker 1: I should be doing something, because it's not okay to.
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  Speaker 2: Just sit yeah, recreating our childhood, recreating it over and
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  Speaker 2: over and over again, keeping ourselves in this struggle space
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  Speaker 2: that we didn't even know we were keeping ourselves in.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know if we didn't have this stricken conversation.
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  Speaker 2: My mind's like really blown right now. It really is,
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  Speaker 2: because I'm like, holy shit, Like when I walk around
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  Speaker 2: the house today, it's going to feel different. I can
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  Speaker 2: already feel like these things. But this has also been
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  Speaker 2: my focus lately too, because I want to see the things.
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  Speaker 2: What are the things that are that I'm how How
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  Speaker 2: am I keeping myself from moving forward? There's things that
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  Speaker 2: I'm doing. I have patterns that I'm doing currently that
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  Speaker 2: make me feel safe because they're familiar to me. They
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  Speaker 2: aren't really making me feel safe. That's what makes it nonsensical.
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  Speaker 2: So when I start looking at that, then I recognize
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  Speaker 2: this doesn't make any sense. It doesn't make any sense,
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  Speaker 2: And now how can I bring that safety inside? You
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  Speaker 2: just said it one of the ways of just looking
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  Speaker 2: out the window, find pictures in your house, get some artwork,
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  Speaker 2: create your own artwork, put it on the fricking wall.
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  Speaker 2: Take yourself out of that space until you can make
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  Speaker 2: it that space be the safe space, just as it
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  Speaker 2: is outside. Yeah, and so gosh, Now my mind's like,
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  Speaker 2: what if us being ground It really never had to
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  Speaker 2: do with being outside, but it was when we stepped outside,
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  Speaker 2: we stepped out of a lot of the patterns from
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  Speaker 2: inside the home that we grew up with. Man, my
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  Speaker 2: mind is like, just today.
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  Speaker 1: Good because if it's for you, it's for many.
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  Speaker 2: It's true, it's just relieving ourselves. It's just something so
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  Speaker 2: subtle that can be all the way to the back
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  Speaker 2: to the whole lack, the lack of abundance, the lack
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  Speaker 2: of money that you know how the prosperity, however we
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  Speaker 2: want to refer to it. It's that lack feeling, and
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  Speaker 2: that lack feeling is what shuts us off, pinches us
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  Speaker 2: off from all the things that we know that we
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  Speaker 2: can have, but we don't realize how we're keeping ourselves
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  Speaker 2: from those things. And then this is a recognition for
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  Speaker 2: myself in one of the ways how I'm keeping myself
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  Speaker 2: from these things. And it was just because it was
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  Speaker 2: a learned behavior, was a learned pattern. It's an old template.
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  Speaker 2: Not wanting to continue my journey as the.
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  Speaker 1: Child, well the child with the programming. You said, you
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  Speaker 1: want you in our child, right in our child? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the divine child.
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  Speaker 2: And to me that goes to another story too. I've
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  Speaker 2: heard so much about talking about the divine, feminine and
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  Speaker 2: divine masculine. Well, then a few weeks ago what it
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  Speaker 2: led me to was the divine, the divine child. The
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  Speaker 2: divine child is without all of the template and all
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  Speaker 2: the stuff from the divines, the parents, or the divine feminine,
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  Speaker 2: divine masculine. It was before that. And so that was
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  Speaker 2: a recognition too that I've had in the last few weeks.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a constant learning and it is We've referred
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  Speaker 2: to school or Earth as Earth's school so many times
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  Speaker 2: you come here to learn, and it's like it frickin is.
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  Speaker 2: And the more that I'm an awareness of this, the
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  Speaker 2: more that I recognize how many things are happening for me,
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  Speaker 2: as we were even talking about in the last video,
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  Speaker 2: how it's not happening to us and it's happening for
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  Speaker 2: us perspectively, and it's like really sitting in that space
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  Speaker 2: and seeing it for more of a neutral space so
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  Speaker 2: that I don't feel like I'm taking on all of
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  Speaker 2: the If it's a traumatic experience, you don't want to
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  Speaker 2: be taking on that trauma, but seeing it from a
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  Speaker 2: neutral space, from a third party perspective. Even to the
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  Speaker 2: point where I refer to myself as Beverly, I'll talk,
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  Speaker 2: I'll be like driving home and it's crazy when I
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  Speaker 2: get into this space, and maybe that's another way, just
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  Speaker 2: like I like to do channel writing and stuff. But
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  Speaker 2: I'll sit and I'll be like, okay, Beverly, well this
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  Speaker 2: is what you need to do. And it's like it
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  Speaker 2: feels like something else is speaking through me and then
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  Speaker 2: talking to me and patting me on the shoulder and
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  Speaker 2: tell me I'm doing okay, and keep your focus on
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  Speaker 2: this and be grounded or whatever needed to come forward
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  Speaker 2: in that moment. But as soon as I refer to
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  Speaker 2: myself by my first name, it switches the gears, it
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  Speaker 2: switches where I'm receiving information and flowing with this, and
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, well, well that's some good shit right there,
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  Speaker 2: because it's not something I would have ever said or
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  Speaker 2: even how I would have said it. So man, such
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  Speaker 2: great conversations.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it was. It was so interesting when we
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  Speaker 1: were having that conversation about the meditation. She actually she
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  Speaker 1: actually asked me to teach her how to meditate. And
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  Speaker 1: this is what brought on this a whole conversation. And
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  Speaker 1: so I use the analogy of you know, what's the
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  Speaker 1: difference between between sitting in your house and breathing or
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  Speaker 1: going outside? Well, what if it's freezing cold outside, you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to go outside, So now you got to
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  Speaker 1: sit in your house and look out the window. And
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't until the next day I asked her the
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  Speaker 1: question about sleeping, So like, what's the difference? Right, So,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes information like that comes a little later and drops
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  Speaker 1: in and says, well, here's another perspective. And the way
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  Speaker 1: we get those those those drop in that drop in
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  Speaker 1: information is being present, being right here, right now. And
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  Speaker 1: that's what breathing does. That's when we intentionally focus on
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  Speaker 1: our breathing. That's no different than Beverly. Hey, Beverly, this
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  Speaker 1: is what you could do. Well, now you have your
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  Speaker 1: attention because something or somebody is speaking to you. Somebody
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  Speaker 1: said your name, and when somebody says your name, you
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  Speaker 1: automatically perk up like what you're in the present moment
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  Speaker 1: because something or somebody got your attention, and you miss
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  Speaker 1: those things when you're just ignoring it or too busy
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  Speaker 1: or whatever that might be. So there's so much benefit
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  Speaker 1: when you when you bring yourself right here right now
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  Speaker 1: and bring and have those breathing moments that are so
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  Speaker 1: beneficial for your body. Right But I love that too.
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  Speaker 1: I've done that where I will use my name. Typically
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  Speaker 1: when I do it, it's because I'm being a bitch
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  Speaker 1: in some way or being angry in some way, having
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  Speaker 1: some on some discord in my body, and I will
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  Speaker 1: just go into the look in the mirror and go,
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  Speaker 1: what the fuck's your problem? Amy, you know, and talk
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  Speaker 1: to myself and be like, you're not liking you right now?
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  Speaker 1: Why would anybody else like you right now? Why would
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  Speaker 1: anybody want to be around you right now? Like I
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  Speaker 1: give myself that what for conversation talking to and then
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  Speaker 1: then I'll you know, smile and change my.
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  Speaker 2: Energy and just.
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  Speaker 1: And now because of my training and stuff. Now it's like,
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  Speaker 1: what are you learning from this experience? And I might
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  Speaker 1: be a little gruff with myself in the beginning, but
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  Speaker 1: then it's like, Okay, yeah, this is what I'm learning,
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  Speaker 1: and then I go through my whole process. But I've
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  Speaker 1: done that too in a different way, and there are
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  Speaker 1: different ways to do things. So just keep in mind
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  Speaker 1: Bev has discovered this way. I have been using this
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  Speaker 1: other way mainly when I'm in some kind of a
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  Speaker 1: discomfort of my mindset, my emotional state, whatever that might be.
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  Speaker 1: So you find tools. You just keep learning, and you
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  Speaker 1: find the tools that are that resonate with you, that
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  Speaker 1: feel good to you, to you lies and I have
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  Speaker 1: a tool I have a toolbox, toy box full of
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  Speaker 1: different techniques, and so it's not always the same technique today.
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  Speaker 1: It might be that sitting deep breathe Tomorrow, it might
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  Speaker 1: be going out for a walk the next day. It
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  Speaker 1: might be tapping the next day. It might be having
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  Speaker 1: to talk to myself in the mirror. It's whatever whatever
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  Speaker 1: feels good in the moment that you know is going
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  Speaker 1: to help you move through whatever it is you're moving
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  Speaker 1: through or experience. Oh, I need to relax my body.
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  Speaker 1: What can I do to do that?
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  Speaker 2: And it even brought me to you when you said
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  Speaker 2: sometimes you speak to yourself a little gruff. Well, it
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  Speaker 2: might sound a little gruff, but that's just where the
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: energy that you're coming from at that moment. It's if
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: I find it fascinating when we pay attention, when we
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: fine tune all this stuff, because there's so many things,
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: there's so many facets to be aware of, and it's
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: not from and it's before I think I've heard you,
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: I think you might have referred to it as micromanaging
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: how we're coming out into the world, And to me
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: that was almost off putting, not because of that, but
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: because of how they've used it in that terminology. And
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: then I realize it really is, but it's not. It's
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: if you think about it, micromanaging is not. It's not
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: a bad thing or a good thing. If you're coming
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: at it from a neutral perspective. It's it's just an
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: awareness thing. It's just being aware of all these components,
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: noticing how you do things, and then why you say
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: things the way you say things, or or why you
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: have a reaction when something happens, or why you want,
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: all of a sudden want to get up and dance
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: because there's music going on and it's like ooh, am
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: I stifling myself right now, or am I going to
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: allow myself to have this opportunity. There's so many things
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: that we miss or can miss by keeping ourselves distracted
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: with everything that's going on around us. Yeah, I think
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: you mentioned in the last video too, You've mentioned something
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: about the dogs. You know, we don't have control over things,
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: and it's like I've learned recently. If I have one
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: of my boys likes to growl at everybody, there's another
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: dog that does it because he's got his ball and
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: he's like, let me know, I want to play, But
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: you don't know how to read him for sure, because
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: he is still growling and growling. He's a warning. And
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: then my other, my little dog will the little one
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: will have some conversation, but this one's growling all the time.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: And it's like I was squirt bottles every time you
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: would do something, trying to control it, right, getting frustrated,
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: feeling like we're not all on the same plate or
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: same page as far as how we're you know, trying
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: to raise the animals that are around us and stuff
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: like that, and then recognizing I just needed to let go.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: That's my let go story because as soon as I
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: let go. Almost all the growling has stopped. It's still there,
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: but it's like I don't. I just don't. I don't
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: participate in it. I don't. I became neutral on it.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: And so as soon as we've become neutral on anything,
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: it eventually is just going to disappear because there's nothing
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: more to learn from it. You're neutral on it, there's
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: absolutely nothing more until something else comes up. It's just
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: kind of a crazy And that's.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Their way of communicating. Yes, not our way communicating with that,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: it's their way communicating with each other. This is a boundary,
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: and if you come too close to my boundary, I'm
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: gonna growl at you exactly back to fuck up, right exactly.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: But it's true, that's one hundred percent true. I was
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: taking that part of it personal or not even well,
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: probably taking it personal because that's what I just said,
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: but also trying to control, and it was it was
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: an uncontrollable situation. It wasn't for me to control. It
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: was for me to let go, for me to surrender.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: It was another way, like we've spoke about how things
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: are showing up around us, they can be for you
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: or not for you. But in those instances. That is
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: all for me letting me know that I'm trying to control.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: I'm still trying to control things, even though I think
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: I'm totally letting you, letting go control, I'm totally surrendering.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: But obviously I'm still trying to control that. Oh that
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: has happened. I'm going to try to control it. And
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: it doesn't work. It doesn't work. And the best thing
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: that I could do was to let go. And as
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: soon as I let go, everything changed. Yeah.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so freeing.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: It is. And it's like, wait a minute, I don't
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: have to do that to myself anymore. Wow, that's crazy.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: There's a thought, what, no way that's possible. It's so easy,
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: so silly, it's so easy, it is silly.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well we got to learn.
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: We have to learn. Yeah, great.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: And the good thing and the suck thing at all
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: at the same time is we get to decide how
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: long that lesson is going to last.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: Mine lasted a long time. Mine lasted into my you know,
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: early fifties. So and now it's getting easier and easier
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: and easier.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: So same, same, And that's the whole other thing too.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: These conversations you had mentioned before too, how we've come
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: together and we don't talk to each other at all
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: during the time frames, but these are our conversations. The
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: conversations we are having, we would be having. We're just
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: recording the conversations now and we're sharing it with other
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: people to give them the opportunity for their own growth
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: and for their own change and perspectives and to even
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: have different ideas than what we're saying, and to find
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: things that do work for you or don't work for you.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: But it's like all the informations out there is just
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: all this template, and you're creating your own reality from
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: the little things that you like or or sometimes you're
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: doing it from the things that you don't like. The
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: way you're still creating it. So now now that we're
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: becoming more now and more aware that we're in the
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: now or not in the now by how we feel,
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: we start creating more intentionally, and that's what we're doing.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: Yep. And we know Bev and I know that by
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: us showing up and doing these recordings, this is giving
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: us us this time to have the conversations that are
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: actually helping us.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: So it would be like, all.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Right, well, I'll talk to you on the phone in
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: a couple of weeks or something's going on. There are
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: times it's not very often, actually, but there are times
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: when her and I will reach out to each other
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: where we need a sounding board, we need somebody else's perspective,
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: and we know we can lean on each other. I
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: strongly believe that because we have these conversations at least
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: every two weeks, about every two weeks we do two
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: or three recordings and we have conversations like this, I
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: strongly feel like that has helped us so much in
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: connecting in this way, knowing that our conversations are helping
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: other people that I've said it before, it's like our
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: own therapy sessions, all right, I've seen in a couple
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: of weeks we'll have our next session and be sure
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: to record.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: It, right, Yeah, Whereas in years past it's feeling like
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: we're bumping around trying to figure out life, you know,
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: not really knowing.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: How to ask for help and get guidance. And so yeah,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: it's seriously like a regular therapy session for us. And
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: whether anybody else gets anything else from these videos, I
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: know it's working for us. So we do.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Honestly, and it's not a selfish thing. It's it's just
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: it's just a sharing thing. That's really what it boils
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: down to. It's it's being around like minded people, honestly.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: And because as you were talking, there was a store
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: that I had gone to recently, actually the past Sunday,
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: and I went in there that morning and I had
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: been in the store a couple of days before that
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: and had a conversation with a mom and a daughter
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: and was talking about They were saying something about oh,
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: like oh men or something like that. I'm like, oh,
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: but there's such a there's so much beauty. But it's
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: happening in the world right now. We've got this divine
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: masculine and divine feminine. And I said, when you find
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: the men, the men, the divine masculine men that are around,
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: they're they're nothing but blessings for you. And I was
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: and I'm like talking to you about all this stuff.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: And then I walked out the door and I'm like, man,
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: sometimes I feel like I give too much information. Well,
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: then I came back in the store. This is the
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: last Sunday. I come back in the store, and she's like,
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: I just had such a great conversation with you, and
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: and the interaction was so wonderful in there. She said,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: I set my attention before I came in to work
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: today that this is this was going to be a
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: great day, and this was going to be a flow
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: and all those other things, and I'm only going to
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: have great people that are going to come see me today.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: And it's like we had that conversation and another person
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: came in during the conversation that added to it, and
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: that's when I recognize and even during this conversation, that's
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: when I recognize it is so very valuable for us
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: to be around like minded people. It is high vibing.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: And because that's where I was at, that's where my
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: frequency was at at that time too. I ended up
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: not going working out, which is why one of the
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: reasons I went to town. But it's like then I
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: realized it was never that was part of the reason
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: I was going to town. I was always to go
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: to that store, and so I go all the time,
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: and I recognize, just recognize how I feel, and it's
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: how how we feel when we're around people that feel
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: good to us, and it's paying attention to that. That's
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: part of following our passions as well. And I'm saying
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: that because I'm learning about following my passions, and even
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: though there's things we don't like that are happening in
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: our life, it's just pointing us into our passion. That's
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: all that it is. It is not to sit and
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: be like, well, shit, that happened and live with that
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: experience for the rest of your day or with the
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: rest of your year, or even for an hour. It's
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: just to have that experience and oh no, that this
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: is something else better for me. And this just helped
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: me recognize there's something better for me. It's just life
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: is phenomenal, it really is.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: And that statement is all about perspective. So you might
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: be in the trenches of your life right now and
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: feel like that statement isn't true for you. It's okay.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: It's how you're perceiving life. And when you change your
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: perspective about life and able to go into a what
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: I call a student mode and learn from life instead
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: of a victim mode of giving into the trials and
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: tribulations of this is happening to me, it changes everything.
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: And so you could go back and watch many of
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: our videos where we're having these conversations about this. So
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: as Bev said, these conversations are important and people are
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: having them, and they're becoming more and more common out
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: in the public.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: People.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: You probably work next to somebody who is interested in
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: these conversations or seeking guidance like this, so be sure
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: to if you're not confident enough or too shy to
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: have conversations like this with people because you're not quite
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: sure how they'll receive it, then you just say, hey,
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: you know, I watched this video. Maybe you'd be interested
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: in watching it too, and here's the link, or here's
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: the book, or here's a podcast, like whatever, whatever it is,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: just be resourceful and share what you're learning and or
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: plant seeds. Seeds seeds grow, So if you just plant
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: a little seed in a conversation, it intrigues people and
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: then they'll want to know more. So this is what
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: we get to do. We get to help each other.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: And that's why Bev and I started recording these these
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: our conversations is because we knew it would be beneficial
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: for other people. So you can find us on many
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: platforms or on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Speaker, Spotify, podcast, attic YouTube,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: and so are all the other influencers teachers guides that
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: you listen to that resonate with you and share them.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: And I see a podcast that I'm like, oh my gosh,
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: I know a ton of people. I have a Facebook group.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I know a ton of people would get benefit from this.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: I will put it in my group. And whether they
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: watch it, it's for again divine timing, whether they decide
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: to watch it or not, or even get to see
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: the post, because we know how social media is, whether
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: they even see the post and they listen to it like,
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: it's all divine timing, and so be a blessing to others.
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: That was our perspective when we start doing this. We
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: are a blessing to others. Whether it's one person or
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: a thousand people, doesn't matter. Somebody is going to get
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: something from this. You find the words.
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: I want to go back to the part where take
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: a breath. Take a breath and just see what you
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: notice inside your body, and only, like you said, maybe
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: ten seconds if you did some breaths for a minute,
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: take a breath and just pay attention and get yourself
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: into the now and see if you start noticing. It
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: may have only given you ten seconds of brief peace,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: but that's ten seconds and then you can celebrate that
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: and then make it bigger, and then make it bigger
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: and make it bigger. So just take time to take
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: the breaths. Yeah, take time to have the awareness. Yeh awesome, all.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: Right friends, thanks for hanging out with us, teach time
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: with Amy and Beb. We'll see you next time.
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: Bye,