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My Angsty Teen Years · Nick and Kristen in the Podcast

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  Hello and welcome to the Nicky Kristen in the podcast.
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  I'm Nick. That's Kristen.
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  We're married. We got a kid that comes up a
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  lot. Now you're all caught up today
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  on the episode, we're going to be talking about how I'm
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  officially in my angsty phase of grief after losing my job.
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  Santa Con is a huge scam in New York, apparently, and I think
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  I'm a Fubber. I think that's how they
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  pronounce. It.
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  Oh no. So first, my angsty face.
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  Over the last couple of days I've decided to take a deep dive
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  into angsty music. I can't wait to hear what you
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  think is angsty. Well, I first listened to
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  because I'm, I'm going through my music.
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  I was just sick of everything on my music playlist, on my phone.
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  I have like 5000 songs and I'm just sick of hearing the same 20
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  over and over again. And I found Olivia Rodrigo's
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  album Sour, her first album. I haven't listened to that in a
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  while. I threw it on and it's very much
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  like just a yeah, that's great. And as I was listening, I was
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  realizing that this album is probably one of those albums in
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  some kids life that's going to, they're going to remember
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  forever 100%. Like, this is the album that
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  defined their teenage years, where they threw it on and they
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  listened to, they cried and they, they were sad and, and
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  happy and all this stuff. And that reminded me of the of
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  the album that was that album for our generation, for a lot of
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  girls, which was Alanis Morissette's Jagged Little Pill.
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  Yeah, for sure. I figured like anyone that grew
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  up like a millennial, that was your, that was the the music
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  thing. Yeah, it was like slightly older
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  for me, yeah, But yes, I mean, that was a great album.
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  And yes, yeah, it was like the first time, like a woman made a
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  whole album that was just angry and like we.
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  Loved it all against men. Or one particular.
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  Man, yeah, so I threw that on to see if that held up and I got I
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  was starting like the angst is built.
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  You're like, yeah, two in a row, men.
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  Exactly. And so after that I put on
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  Paramours after Laughter, which is an adult version of an.
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  Angsty. This album in particular, is
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  very much like. Done.
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  Yes. It's like rose color boy, all
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  the yes, they're all hitting. This is I was like, this is an
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  album that's hitting me harder than it used to and it brought
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  up, you know what? What angsty albums did I listen
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  to as a kid or what was the album that I would throw on?
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  That was my my teen anthem album that I played the heck out of
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  and I came up with three. Okay, I'll, I'll do them now
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  while you think about yours. Okay, so my three were Tupac, me
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  against the world. I would throw that on.
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  It's got angry songs. It's got happy funds.
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  Well, not happy funds like you know having.
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  For two. Uplift, Yeah.
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  Positive songs, Yeah. And also Nozzle Bozzle songs.
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  And second one is Boys to Men's Cooley High Harmony, which is
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  their first album. I had end of the road.
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  It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday on it.
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  Motown, Philly and those are ultimate feel your feeling songs
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  and dance songs. And then my last album, Chronic
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  2001 from Doctor Dre, the one with Forgot about Dre on it.
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  Yeah, sure. I played that in my little Walk
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  band that was anti skip that skipped all the time and just
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  walking around just hating the world, playing basketball by
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  myself, all by myself. Yeah, those albums define my
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  teen years. What about you?
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  See, that's The thing is like, I think immediately I have one.
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  So I'm just going to give you the one because I can't think of
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  three right now. But for me it was Green Day
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  Doogie. OK so the Green Day Dookie album
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  was my every song hit and there was one song in particular I was
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  listening to on my anti skip CD player.
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  We all had ones that skipped all the time.
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  This was like the first guy I really, really liked and like we
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  were dating. Like we would decided that we
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  were dating or whatever and I walked in on him kissing
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  somebody else and he was like what?
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  Like it was very much like I was.
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  I was heartbroken. This was like my first real
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  heartbreak. I remember listening to the
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  album as I walked in on him and that became my anthem of like, I
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  hate you because it was a song about like I hate you, like get
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  out of my life, that kind of thing.
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  And it and it very much was like, oh, this is who I am now
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  as a person. This one particular.
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  Song. So yeah, like it was this
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  perfect soundtrack happening in real time.
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  So yeah, when I think back, like Green Day in particular was just
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  like my jams. So like that album and.
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  Yeah, that was the era cuz I had I had Nimrod and I used.
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  To play that, yeah, Nimrod was good too, yeah.
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  That's where a couple of. Them, I mean, they were all
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  good. I mean, yeah, I haven't listened
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  to that. I think those are the only two
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  I've ever listened to from Green Day.
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  I hear the other. One, wait a second.
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  You didn't. I burned through American idiot.
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  No, I. Haven't heard?
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  I wait, what? I know a couple of songs from it
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  obviously cuz I'm in radio, but I've never sat and listened to
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  the whole album. I know and.
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  Wait a second. But like this is this is like a
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  cultural thing like. Do you understand the?
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  Significance of American. Idiot.
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  No, because I only know a couple of songs.
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  Well, they ended once on the in that September.
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  Ends on that song. Sure.
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  Yeah, that's the one. I'm like.
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  All right, it OK, Yes, just because you've heard it a lot.
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  Yeah. But like the OK, so hold on like
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  tirade here for a second, like little, little sidetrack.
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  I should get a siren. So no, no, no.
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  Like the American Idiot album was interesting because it was
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  the first time in in our like young lives that there was an
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  album that connected. So I the with the album.
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  So it started. And it.
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  Every song connected into each other until the end and it told
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  this ever. Like this whole story.
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  It was this overarching story. And yes, there was singles from
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  it, but it was like a, it was like a rock opera.
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  And so it was really interesting that Green Day did it because we
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  were all like, what? Like we didn't expect that kind
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  of level of artistry from them. I don't know why.
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  They're like, they're amazing, they're great.
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  But like nobody saw that coming. Like it wasn't like it.
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  Wasn't it had been a while since they put out it had?
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  Been a while, like there wasn't social media as we know it back
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  then. It wasn't very much like now,
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  where it's like an artist pumped something up.
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  Like it was just dropped in our laps and every song bled into
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  the next, and we're all like, well, wait a second, What Is
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  this a whole thing? Like, it went on to be a
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  Broadway show. Yeah.
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  Because. They just took it and like was
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  like, this is the thing. And so it told this like
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  beautiful story and it was just like it was, it's an amazing
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  listen and like you, you know, if you're, if you're sensitive
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  to certain subjects or whatever, then maybe don't listen to it,
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  but. Like I feel.
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  Like it's very political, but like it cuz Green Day is
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  political. Like that's kind of.
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  Which I didn't realize till I got.
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  Old, they're very, very punk rock, which is always anti
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  establishment. But like it talks about this,
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  like these kids kind of going through this and it's just like
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  it's amazing artistry. Nobody expected it.
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  Everyone was expecting just like angsty pop music and the just
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  like the musicality of it was fabulous.
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  In fact, I want to watch it. I want to listen to it now just
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  in its. Entirety I think I will is doing
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  it. You should.
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  It's amazing. Well.
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  'Cause they had Uno dos tres quatro, didn't they, they?
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  Tried to guess Uno dos tres quatro was was similar it was 3
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  discs. Uno dos tres I don't.
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  Think Oh yeah, Uno dos tres. Yeah, there wasn't a quatro.
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  It was three different desks and that it didn't hit as much as
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  American Idiot did. I think they were kind of trying
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  to play off the same kind of thing, but it really it wasn't
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  as popular. All right, now it's time for our
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  Hold My Beer. I'm going to tell you about
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  Santa Con. As you can probably expect,
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  Santa Con is done in a lot of cities across the country.
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  It's a bunch of Santas near the Christmas time that get together
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  and drink beer at all the bars. It's a pub crawl, so like you
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  dress up like Santa and you go from bar to bar and you just
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  progressively get drunker. And Santa Gone has been huge in
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  New York for I guess, since 2019 when this started.
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  So a bunch of Santas get together and just basically
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  wreak havoc on the city. The New Yorkers are not fans of
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  it. Nobody's fans of Santa Clara.
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  Because it thrashes the city, but they let it go because it
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  was all for charity. A lot of the proceeds go to
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  charity, like to get back to the schools and feedback into the
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  city and things like that. Well, at least that's what they
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  thought it did. It turns out the founder and
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  organizer actually never donated anything to charity, instead
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  pocketed all the money, Allegedly, according to federal
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  prosecutors. Anyway, the guy's name is Stefan
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  and they're saying he pocketed a majority of the $2.7 million
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  raised. 202.7 million. Yeah, $2.7 million raised from
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  Santa Con over six years. Instead of donating charity, he
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  bought nice cars, went on vacation, renovated his lake
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  house and, you know, things like that.
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  And he's being charged with fraud.
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  Oh. Good, lock him up.
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  I. He'll meet a lot of guys that
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  look like Santa Angel. Probably not as friendly though.
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  Yeah, maybe as jolly. I've always wanted to do a beer
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  pub crawl. I've never done one.
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  Have you ever done a crawl? No, because I don't drink beer.
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  And so none of it really appealed to me that I love like
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  Edgar Wright movies, especially with, oh, gosh, I've totally
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  nicked something, Nick Frost and gosh, what's his name?
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  It's Simon Pegg. So and they have a movie called
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  The End of the World or something like that.
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  And it's them doing this pub crawl, but they're all kind of
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  different stages in their life. And like one of them's kind of
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  not into it anymore. One's like a dad, one's like
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  super into it. It's the only thing he looks
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  forward to all year round. And it's, that's kind of a fun
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  movie, but like, I never could I, I wouldn't make a past 2.
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  I think I'd be OK, but I don't have a group of friends that I
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  would want to do it with. I've never been invited to a
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  crawl. Yeah, it would.
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  It would take. Now.
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  At this point, I don't even know who I would I would go with.
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  Like a fight. I'm not young enough to enjoy
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  that anymore. Well, that's the whole premise
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  behind the movie is it's like this is the young thing you did
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  and like you're trying. You can't relive those glory
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  years like it's OK to let things go.
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  I know, but it just seems like it would have been fun to I'm
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  sure. When you're in your 20s.
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  Yeah, like a group of people going from bar to bar.
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  And I like, I grew up in Vegas around that time.
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  So we technically. Did, yeah.
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  But it wasn't like tough, yeah, but it wasn't an A thing.
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  It wasn't an adventure. We just went from Bart Bar
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  because it was a bunch of bars on the.
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  Right, different. One day, maybe, me and you, me
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  and you will crawl together. I'll be picking Lily up after
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  her crawl, that's how good. That's probably what's gonna
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  happen. Well, we can do one with Lily.
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  Oh. God, I'll be like, I think by
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  that I know. Are you a fubber or fubber?
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  Fubber. It's PHUBER.
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  It's a new term from these kids. It's basically when you're
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  snubbing the person. It's Fubber.
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  Yeah, it's Fubber. Okay, Snubbing the person you're
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  hanging out with by staring at your phone.
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  Okay, so like phone and Snubber? Yeah.
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  So I think I'm a snubber. Snubber.
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  That's phone a fubber. A Fubber.
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  Would you say you have any fubber tendencies?
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  I don't because every time I engage with somebody I have my
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  phone down. But I'm also a therapist so like
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  I I can't. Train for years.
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  I can't do that. I can't be like, Oh no, that
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  sounds really hard on. Well, you can't do it in
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  session. No, I know.
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  So like I'm kind of trained like when I talk to people like that,
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  I don't have my phone on me for the most part.
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  I imagine that you probably have a different experience of me
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  when I'm home where I'm just trying to mellow out, but I'm
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  also trying to have a conversation that you are 100% a
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  Fubber. I am trying as of 2 days ago to
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  get better at this. I realized that not too long ago
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  that I I was doing that and I felt bad and now I'm trying to
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  change. Talk to me about the feeling
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  bad. Well, because I I didn't, it was
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  all default because I've been playing on my phone because
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  obviously I've been unemployed for a month.
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  So me and my phone are my best friends now.
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  Yeah, it's like 9 hours a day, which is horrible.
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  And I'm trying to not do it as much.
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  And I realized that I was having conversations with like, Lily's
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  parents, friends and you and what'd.
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  You say who's Lily's parents friends?
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  Cuz aren't we Lily? 'S friends parents.
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  Wait, Lily's? Yeah, Lily's friends parents.
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  I don't want his name, you know, you know where they are.
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  I would just tune out and start playing it and not not
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  necessarily tune out, but I would just pick up my phone.
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  Sure, like when they were hanging over now.
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  In, in lulls I would go, Oh yeah, that's interesting.
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  And now I'm I'm going to try and stop doing that.
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  I didn't, I noticed it most a lot yesterday when you were
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  talking to me and my instinct was like, why haven't I picked
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  up my phone yet? I'm like, oh, I got to, I got to
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  knock that off. It's there's never anything
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  interesting on it. No, there's nothing any it's
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  this idea of like multitasking because the phone has made it
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  really popular to do that. But yes, it's very hurtful when
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  you're trying to talk to somebody and they're looking at
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  their phone and you like are texting people in the middle of
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  our conversation. Like somebody will text you and
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  you're the person that has to text back immediately.
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  You cannot wait. I'll forget in the middle of me
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  talking to you about my day, you pick up the phone and I see you
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  and I'm like, there's no way he could be paying attention if
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  he's thinking of what words to say to somebody else and it's
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  just disparaging as the other person in the conversation, I.
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  I try to do it or I'm more, I think I feel like I do it more
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  when you're when we're just chatting as opposed to having a
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  conversation wherever like you're sewing and we're just
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  talking and then we're. Just kind of that's different if
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  I'm also doing something. Yeah, if we're just kind of, we
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  never, if I ever sit down and make eye contact with you, I
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  don't think I'd do it as much. But there are times I'm sure.
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  No, you definitely do. So don't be a Fubber.
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  Here's three ways to stop being a Fubber.
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  Put your phone down. Put your phone.
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  Down the one and only way. Set small boundaries at first.
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  So I'm going to start that. I'm going to start setting
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  boundaries and then be honest. I am a fubber.
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  So wait, what's your boundary that you're gonna be scudding?
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  Cuz I don't think you're using boundary right.
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  I'm What do you mean? Cuz I think I'm the one that
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  sets the boundary. No, I set small.
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  Try putting my phone away during meals or certain hours of the
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  day. So I play on my phone a lot when
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  I'm watching TV. I'm gonna try to not do that,
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  OK? I'm gonna like when we have
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  conversations, I'm gonna set my phone down and put it away from
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  me. You know, it sounds easy, but
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  it's hard. Sure, but that's not setting a
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  boundary, yeah. I'm setting boundaries like.
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  I don't, you're not. I'm not.
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  Boundary is it? Totally is.
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  I'm putting my phone away all day long.
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  Putting my phone away while watching TV.
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  That's. A boundary like, hey Nick, I'm
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  no longer going to have a conversation with you if you
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  pick up your phone. And so when you do pick up your
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  phone, I'm going to stop. Talking, that's setting a
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  boundary. For you, yes.
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  I know, but I'm setting a personal boundary.
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  You're setting a small goal, but all right, fine, you're.
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  Setting a bound no, that's what the stupid thing says.
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  You just ripped and read it from the.
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  End ripped and read it. I'm just showing they said the
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  steps of doing the steps and then notice when the last step
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  is. Notice what other people do to
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  you, so see how much. It hurt.
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  You're like, Ouch, yes, that's rude.
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  Man, yeah, so go out there and don't be fubbing.
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  Don't fub around today. Please don't thank you for.
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  Listening and unless you're listening to our podcast, then
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  just ignore everybody else. Fub them.
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