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Real Men Pour In - Bishop T.D. Jakes · Pst T.D Jakes -The POTTER'S HOUSE

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  Speaker 1: We're going to the gospel of John chapter 15 verse
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  Speaker 1: 9 through 17. I'm going to share a word of
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  Speaker 1: the Lord with you. My message this morning is real
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  Speaker 1: men pour in. Real men pour in. It's going to
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  Speaker 1: be rough this morning, brother. Yeah. Real men are not
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  Speaker 1: a deficit. Real men are an asset. They pour in.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to have a good time. Jesus is teaching
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  Speaker 1: and he's talking to his disciples about his father. He's
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  Speaker 1: having a Father's Day moment With his sons. He says,
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  Speaker 1: as the father have loved me, so have I loved you.
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  Speaker 1: Continue ye in my love. Listen to that. Don't go
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  Speaker 1: to nothing else. As the father have loved me in
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  Speaker 1: the same proportion. So means in the same proportion. So
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  Speaker 1: have I loved you. If he loved me little, I
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  Speaker 1: loved you little. If he loved me lots, I loved
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  Speaker 1: you lots. Yes. As the Father have loved me, I
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  Speaker 1: reduplicated that in my life. What was modeled in front
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  Speaker 1: of me, I repeated. So all I did was communicate
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  Speaker 1: to you as he has communicated unto me. Later in Galatians,
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  Speaker 1: you will hear Paul talking to you about communicating with
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  Speaker 1: those who teach you in all good things. And he's
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  Speaker 1: talking about giving to people who teach you because you
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  Speaker 1: cannot give what was not poured into you. As the
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  Speaker 1: father have loved me, so have I loved you. Continue
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  Speaker 1: ye in my love. Next verse. If ye keep my commandments,
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  Speaker 1: ye shall abide in my love. So there's a discipline
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  Speaker 1: component in it. It's not just emotion. It's not just love.
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  Speaker 1: It's not just feeling. There's a discipline component to it.
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  Speaker 1: You can't just turn the kids over to her. Because
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  Speaker 1: she's a gifted nurturer and she will nurture things that
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  Speaker 1: she later regrets. That's why there are two of you
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  Speaker 1: and that's why you have to be released to play
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  Speaker 1: your role and she plays her role and together we
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  Speaker 1: balance the home. I got rules, she's got nurturing. And
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  Speaker 1: single mothers have to have both. And you got to
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  Speaker 1: balance it and it's hard. Even as I have kept
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  Speaker 1: my father's commandments and abide in his love. He said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm abiding in his love because I obeyed. You can't
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  Speaker 1: expect God to bless you if you won't obey. If
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  Speaker 1: you keep my commandments, Jesus said, as it is with
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  Speaker 1: me and my father, so it is with me and you.
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  Speaker 1: If you keep my commandments, you shall abide in my love,
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  Speaker 1: even as I have kept my father's commandments and abide
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  Speaker 1: in his love. Come on. These things have I spoken
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  Speaker 1: unto you that my joy might remain in you, that
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  Speaker 1: when I look at you, I'm glad. And that your
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  Speaker 1: joy might be full. Those are two joys in that text.
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  Speaker 1: He said, I've spoken unto you that my joy might
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  Speaker 1: remain in you. That I ought to delight in seeing
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  Speaker 1: you coming. But I also spoken that your joy might
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  Speaker 1: be full. So when you and I get together, joy
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  Speaker 1: meets joy. So that there is no ambiguity about what
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  Speaker 1: he means by commandment, he defines it. This is my commandment.
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  Speaker 1: that ye love one another as I have loved you.
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  Speaker 1: Stop right there. If we just did that one, he
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  Speaker 1: gave us one commandment, that you love one another as
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  Speaker 1: I have loved you. If I put up with you,
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  Speaker 1: If I'm patient with you, you ought to reflect that
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  Speaker 1: patience in the people you love. He didn't just say
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  Speaker 1: love one another. He said love them as I have
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  Speaker 1: loved you. You convicted already. I can make an altar
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  Speaker 1: call right now. Question, is your love a reflection of his?
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  Speaker 1: Or a reflection of your selfishness? your frustrations, your desires,
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  Speaker 1: your attitudes. Can anybody see Jesus' love in the way
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  Speaker 1: you love? Oh, it's gonna be tight today. This is
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  Speaker 1: my commandment that you love one another, one another as
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  Speaker 1: I have loved you. You keep saying you're misunderstood. You're
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  Speaker 1: not misunderstood. You mean. You are not being misunderstood. You're hateful.
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  Speaker 1: Love is never misunderstood. Who misunderstands love? You nasty. But
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  Speaker 1: you absorb yourself saying they just don't get me. No,
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  Speaker 1: you don't get you. Greater love have no man than this.
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  Speaker 1: Now he's going deeper. He's going for the throat. That
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  Speaker 1: a man lay down his life for his friends. He
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  Speaker 1: said the epitome of love is sacrifice. God so loved
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  Speaker 1: the world that he what? Gave, not took. That he gave. See,
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  Speaker 1: men pour in. It's not about taking. Wherever there is love,
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  Speaker 1: love pours. Lust takes. A lot of people you think
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  Speaker 1: love you just lust you. Amen. I'm preaching already, I'm
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  Speaker 1: all lit up in this tent. I'm preaching already. Now
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  Speaker 1: he says, ye are my friends if you do whatsoever
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  Speaker 1: I command you. And what he commanded us to do
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  Speaker 1: was love one another. And God says, you are my
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  Speaker 1: friend according to the way you love. If you don't love,
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  Speaker 1: you're not my friend. Henceforth, I call you not servants. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: here comes an upgrade. Get your iPhone because upgrades coming. Henceforth,
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  Speaker 1: I call you not servants. This is my only problem
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  Speaker 1: with servant leadership. It's a nice term. I get what
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  Speaker 1: it means. But the disciples got an upgrade from servant leadership.
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  Speaker 1: He says, henceforth I call you not servants or slaves,
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  Speaker 1: for the servant knoweth not what the Lord doeth. But
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  Speaker 1: I have called you friends. Are the people who work
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  Speaker 1: for you servants or friends? Yes. Maybe they're not working
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  Speaker 1: with you because you don't know how to be nice.
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  Speaker 1: You don't seem interested in them. You're only interested in goals.
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  Speaker 1: And as long as they reach the goal, they're okay
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  Speaker 1: with you, but you don't ask them how they are,
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  Speaker 1: how they're doing. You don't check on them when they're sick.
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  Speaker 1: You don't visit them in the hospital. You don't do
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  Speaker 1: nothing for their children. They're servants. You don't tell them nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Servants don't know nothing. Servant knoweth not what his master doeth.
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  Speaker 1: You don't communicate. They just don't get me. No, you're
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  Speaker 1: not doing it right. Jesus says a servant knoweth not
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  Speaker 1: what his master doeth. He says that I call you
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  Speaker 1: no longer servants. I have made you my friends. For
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  Speaker 1: all things that I have heard of my father, I
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  Speaker 1: have made known unto you. Watch this. This is my
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  Speaker 1: good one right here. This is my good one right here.
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  Speaker 1: This is me right here. Yes! have not chosen me.
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  Speaker 1: You think you came to me. You didn't come to me.
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  Speaker 1: I drew you. You thought you came to the potter's
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  Speaker 1: house this morning. You didn't come to the potter's house.
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  Speaker 1: I drew you to the potter's house. Ye have not
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  Speaker 1: chosen me, but I have chosen you. And I ordained
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  Speaker 1: you that you should go. Some of y'all felt funny
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  Speaker 1: when I was talking a minute ago about being prosperous.
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  Speaker 1: But Jesus said, I ordain you that you should go
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  Speaker 1: and bring forth fruit. Just like I told you in Genesis,
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  Speaker 1: be fruitful. Be fruitful. I didn't tell you just to
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  Speaker 1: be alive, just to exist. I commanded you to be fruitful.
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  Speaker 1: That I ordained you to be fruitful. Somebody say, I
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  Speaker 1: must be fruitful. And that your fruit should remain. I
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  Speaker 1: got to stop here and talk to all the people
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  Speaker 1: that are experiencing fruit but scared of it. You're scared
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  Speaker 1: to trust it. You're scared it's not going to stay.
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  Speaker 1: You're scared the marriage is not going to work. You're
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  Speaker 1: scared the promotion won't last. You're scared where you are
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  Speaker 1: won't last. God said, I ordain that your fruit should remain.
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  Speaker 1: Here he comes with more good stuff. That whatsoever ye
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  Speaker 1: shall ask of the Father in my name, he just
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  Speaker 1: going to spoil you. He just going to give it
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  Speaker 1: to you. Y'all didn't hear me. You ain't even going
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  Speaker 1: to work for it. He's going to give it to you.
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  Speaker 1: How many of you have ever had God give you something?
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  Speaker 1: I just came back from Atlanta and they gave me
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  Speaker 1: a plaque on the sidewalk, name engraved on the street.
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  Speaker 1: I thought to myself coming home on the plane, God,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even ask you for that. He said, no,
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  Speaker 1: I just gave it to you. Right beside B.B. King
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  Speaker 1: and Dr. King and Kathy Hughes is T.D. Jakes. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't even ask for it. I didn't think to ask
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  Speaker 1: for it. It was above and beyond anything I would
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  Speaker 1: ask or think. But God, God's going to do some
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  Speaker 1: stuff for you that you didn't even think to ask for.
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  Speaker 1: These things I command you that you love one another.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody say amen. Go back to that first verse. That
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  Speaker 1: first verse at nine. As the Father have loved me,
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  Speaker 1: so have I loved you. I just imitated him. I
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  Speaker 1: just acted like him. As he poured into me, I
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  Speaker 1: poured into you. So have I loved you. So have
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  Speaker 1: I loved... The Father have loved me vulnerably. Totally. Completely. Unashamedly.
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  Speaker 1: Even though I've wrapped up in sinful flesh. Yes. And
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  Speaker 1: took on the form of a servant. His love didn't
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  Speaker 1: lessen because of my form. Why is your love so conditional?
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  Speaker 1: Continue ye in. In my love, real men pour in. Father,
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  Speaker 1: in the name of Jesus, I thank you first of
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  Speaker 1: all for the fathers. I thank you for the mothers.
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  Speaker 1: I thank you for all the sisters and brothers as
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  Speaker 1: we celebrate fathers specifically today. I pray that you might
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  Speaker 1: use me as an instrument to encourage, instruct, inspire, renew, increase.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Lord, for having an open conversation about fatherhood
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  Speaker 1: because for many of us, the only model we have
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  Speaker 1: of father comes from your word. And you taught us
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  Speaker 1: when we pray to say our father. And you define
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  Speaker 1: what fatherhood is to us because some of us have
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  Speaker 1: never been close to a model. There are women in
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  Speaker 1: this room that cannot deal with husbands because they didn't
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  Speaker 1: have daddies. There are men in here that cannot be
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  Speaker 1: fathers because they've never been fathered. I pray that over
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  Speaker 1: the next few moments that some glimmering of hope, some glistening,
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  Speaker 1: flickering light of enlightenment would so touch them that a
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  Speaker 1: seed is planted in their heart. I believe you for miracles.
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  Speaker 1: Have your way, oh God. In Jesus' name, amen. You
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  Speaker 1: may be seated in the presence of God. Let's go
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  Speaker 1: to work. Everything begins with fatherhood. The whole Bible begins
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  Speaker 1: with fatherhood. It starts out with a father that we
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  Speaker 1: call God, Elohim. Elohim, El, God, Him, plural. God in
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  Speaker 1: many forms spoke and let there be. Now, to be
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  Speaker 1: totally honest and accurate, God is complete within himself. And
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  Speaker 1: when I say father, I'm talking about a position, not
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  Speaker 1: a gender. Because he would have in essence been like
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  Speaker 1: a hermaphrodite. Having both. He is both father and mother.
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  Speaker 1: He is our father. And yet he is a breasted one.
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  Speaker 1: He is complete within himself. Lacking nothing. In order to
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  Speaker 1: create he didn't need anything. He had everything in himself.
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  Speaker 1: to do what he wanted done. That's why when he
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  Speaker 1: created Adam, he didn't have to create Eve. Because Adam
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  Speaker 1: was created in the likeness of God, which didn't make
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  Speaker 1: him a male. So when he sought a woman, God
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  Speaker 1: pulled the woman out of him. And when Adam woke up,
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  Speaker 1: he said, whoa. Man. Whoa, man, check it out. It's
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  Speaker 1: me with an opening. She's a man with a womb.
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  Speaker 1: I'll call her woman. Woman. The first thing he noticed
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  Speaker 1: about her was not her hips, lips, or fingertips. He says,
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  Speaker 1: she is my body. She is bone of my bone
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  Speaker 1: and flesh of my flesh. That is why the church
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  Speaker 1: is both the bride of Christ and the body of Christ.
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  Speaker 1: When God begins to create, he uses the earth as
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  Speaker 1: a womb. The planet as a womb. And he injected
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  Speaker 1: his seed in the womb of the earth. The Bible
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  Speaker 1: says later in Romans 8 that the whole creation groaneth
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  Speaker 1: and travaileth in pain. Only a woman can travail in pain.
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  Speaker 1: He used the earth as a womb. He used his
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  Speaker 1: word as sperm. When his sperm hit the womb of
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  Speaker 1: the earth, he said, let there be, and there was birth.
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  Speaker 1: And the reason the whole creation can prevail is because
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  Speaker 1: she has been God's womb. It started with Father God.
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  Speaker 1: According to the scriptures, it will end with Father God.
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  Speaker 1: The Bible says that Jesus will take the kingdom and
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  Speaker 1: commit it into the hands of the Father and God
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  Speaker 1: shall be once again all in all. No, y'all don't
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  Speaker 1: hear me. What I just said might have went over
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  Speaker 1: your head. But what I just said, walk from Genesis
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  Speaker 1: to Revelations. It told you how it started as one.
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  Speaker 1: It told you how it will all go back to one.
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  Speaker 1: That everything that came forth out of God will go
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  Speaker 1: back to God. And God shall be all in all.
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  Speaker 1: Complete within himself. Lacking nothing. That's why when we pray,
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  Speaker 1: we say our Father. Everything came out of him. Real
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  Speaker 1: men pour in. When Adam is created and Eve is
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  Speaker 1: pulled out of him, he breaks the divine order because
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  Speaker 1: men were designed to pour in when he started receiving
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  Speaker 1: from her. If Adam had not allowed Eve to pour
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  Speaker 1: into him, sin would have never come. into the world
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  Speaker 1: sin came into the world because Adam broke the order
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  Speaker 1: we were not designed to receive from women Your self-esteem
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  Speaker 1: is compromised when you have to ask your wife for
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  Speaker 1: lunch money. I'm not saying you got to be rich.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying you got to be famous. I'm saying
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  Speaker 1: that you have got to be the one who pours in,
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  Speaker 1: not the one who takes out. When Adam started eating
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  Speaker 1: out of his wife's hand, sin came in because the
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  Speaker 1: divine order was broken. Are you hearing what I'm saying
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  Speaker 1: to you? And Adam all of a sudden has allowed
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  Speaker 1: the curse to come because he stopped pouring. Women be
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  Speaker 1: careful about pouring too much into us. We are designed
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  Speaker 1: to to pour into you. And you are designed to
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  Speaker 1: take what we pour into you and increase it and
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  Speaker 1: make it better. You increase it, you appreciate it, and
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  Speaker 1: you multiply it. This breaks all sociological order to the
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  Speaker 1: culture we're living in now. Because we are raising up
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  Speaker 1: women to be men. And you are not applauded for
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  Speaker 1: your femininity. You are applauded in the contemporary society by
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  Speaker 1: how tough, rough, nasty, mean, aggressive, hateful, possessive you are,
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  Speaker 1: and you are climbing the corporate ladder, but we are
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  Speaker 1: losing our families. I know you can buy your own car.
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  Speaker 1: I know you can buy your own house. But until
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  Speaker 1: you create a need that I can pour into, I
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  Speaker 1: have no place in your life. So stop coming home
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  Speaker 1: bragging to me about how much you don't need me
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  Speaker 1: and wonder why I shy away. Oh, y'all ain't going
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  Speaker 1: to talk back to me this morning. The conversation has
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  Speaker 1: become let's prove to the men how indispensable they are.
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  Speaker 1: And it is born out of pain because we hurt you.
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  Speaker 1: And betrayed you. And lied to you. And cheated to you.
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  Speaker 1: And you became like you became out of pain. But
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  Speaker 1: watch what is born out of pain. but on I
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  Speaker 1: can never be king, only Benjamin. That that is born
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  Speaker 1: out of pain is the way you cope with disorder.
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  Speaker 1: Insist for better out of me rather than replacing me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh Lord, I told you they wasn't gonna like this, Jesus.
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  Speaker 1: Let's go from the scriptures to anatomy. Anatomically, men pour in.
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  Speaker 1: Life begins when men pour in. We were designed to
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  Speaker 1: pour in. You were designed to preserve what is poured in.
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  Speaker 1: As it is in the physical, so it is in
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  Speaker 1: the spiritual. We are designed to pour in. My wife's
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  Speaker 1: brother got sick the other day. Really, really sick. And
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  Speaker 1: we were out of the country. And I knew she
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  Speaker 1: was upset because I know her. And I know how
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  Speaker 1: to read her signs. It's not that she falls apart
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  Speaker 1: or anything like that. She has little smoke signals that's
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  Speaker 1: sent up that says SOS. And if you don't learn
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  Speaker 1: how to read the person's signals that you're married to,
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  Speaker 1: you can't stay with them. The Bible says dwell with
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  Speaker 1: a woman according to knowledge. The better you understand her,
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  Speaker 1: the better the chances you are of being able to
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  Speaker 1: be with her. So I knew she was upset. I
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  Speaker 1: came where she was and I sat down on the
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  Speaker 1: bed beside her and I started praying for her. And
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  Speaker 1: I started praying for her brother because men pour in.
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  Speaker 1: They're not indifferent. They're not deaf. They're not tone deaf.
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  Speaker 1: They're not emotionally detached. I could have kept doing what
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  Speaker 1: I was doing, but I understood as a man and
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  Speaker 1: a priest of my own. I didn't pray for her
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  Speaker 1: because she can't pray for herself. She often prays for me.
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  Speaker 1: But my ability to go in and be priest of
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  Speaker 1: my house and be worried about what she's worried about
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  Speaker 1: and care about what she cares about is what helps
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  Speaker 1: me to be a man that pours in. Pouring in
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  Speaker 1: is not just about money. You're not just a father
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  Speaker 1: because you sent a check. Let me do two things,
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting ahead of myself. First, there is a difference
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  Speaker 1: between being a good husband and being a good father.
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  Speaker 1: It is possible to be better at one than you
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  Speaker 1: are at the other. It is possible to be a
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  Speaker 1: better mother than you are a wife. That's why mothers
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  Speaker 1: easily align the children on their side because often she's
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  Speaker 1: better at being a mother than a wife. And the
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  Speaker 1: mother become, the kids become her tribe, her support system.
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  Speaker 1: The moment she becomes shaky concerning him, she gathers her troops.
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  Speaker 1: Talk to me, ladies. She gathers her troops. Sometimes she
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  Speaker 1: gathers them because she knows he cares more about them
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  Speaker 1: than he does her, and it's a way to give
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  Speaker 1: him pain so he can feel what she's feeling. Amen.
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  Speaker 1: In other words, you're gathering your troops is not only
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  Speaker 1: to strengthen you, it is revenge. Since you took away
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  Speaker 1: what I love, I'm gonna take away what you love.
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  Speaker 1: The only problem is, while you're getting revenge, you're hurting
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  Speaker 1: your kids. So you got the child support, but you
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  Speaker 1: didn't get the child support. The court can make a
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  Speaker 1: man pay child support, but they can't make him give
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  Speaker 1: child support. Because child support is not a check, it's attention.
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  Speaker 1: Come on, fathers. Come on, fathers. Jesus does not discuss
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  Speaker 1: how the father made him rich or famous. He talked
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  Speaker 1: about how the father loved him. When you take the
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  Speaker 1: father's love from the child or the father doesn't know
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  Speaker 1: how to give love to the child outside of the woman,
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  Speaker 1: The child is damaged. Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: Let me get some water here for a minute. Wait.
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  Speaker 1: I came to this glass to get some water, but
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: it had none. No matter how thirsty I am, it
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  Speaker 1: has no water. I can't get any water poured into
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  Speaker 1: me because it had no water poured into it. It
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  Speaker 1: is hard to pour into people what was not poured
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  Speaker 1: into you. I got this big picture here. It looks good,
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  Speaker 1: it's nice, it's fancy, it's cute, it's fine, it's wonderful,
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  Speaker 1: and honestly, it's expensive. But it's empty. Just because you're
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  Speaker 1: dressed up don't mean you pour in. Just because you
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  Speaker 1: got a Gucci bag don't mean you pour in. Just
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  Speaker 1: because you got a fine watch doesn't mean you pour in.
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  Speaker 1: You can be fine as wine and have nothing to
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: pour in. And pretty soon we're going to get tired
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  Speaker 1: of you being cute. You cute, but you empty, sir.
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  Speaker 1: Men pour. Both the glass and the pitcher are empty.
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  Speaker 1: And I can't get my thirst quenched from an empty glass.
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  Speaker 1: And the glass can't give me water because the thing
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  Speaker 1: that was designed to pour into it was also empty.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you why you're dry. The thing that
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  Speaker 1: was designed to pour into you is empty. So Jesus says,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: move in real close for me, Jamel. Jesus says, as
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  Speaker 1: the Father have loved me. Amen. So have I loved you.
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  Speaker 1: I can't pour into you until something is poured into you.
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  Speaker 1: So what do I do when the person that should
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  Speaker 1: have been full is empty or left or died and
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: my thirst have never been fulfilled because they were empty.
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: Have you noticed in the text that when Jesus talks
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  Speaker 1: about fatherhood, he doesn't mention Joseph? Joseph is his earthly father.
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  Speaker 1: He is in the beginning of the story of Jesus.
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  Speaker 1: He disappears early in the story. We don't see Joseph
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  Speaker 1: past Jesus turning 12. There are debates about what happened
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  Speaker 1: to him, but he is absent. Jesus cannot draw from
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  Speaker 1: Joseph's poor life. Joseph started out pouring because he was
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  Speaker 1: called the carpenter's son. Somewhere the flow broke. I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to some people in this room that somewhere,
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  Speaker 1: either by death, abandonment, drugs, whatever it was, the flow
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  Speaker 1: broke and left you thirsty. And I guarantee you if
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  Speaker 1: it left you thirsty, man or woman, it also left
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  Speaker 1: you angry. Because I don't understand how I could have
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: anything that looks so good and was so empty. So
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: we look good to the community. We look good to everybody.
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  Speaker 1: But behind closed doors, you ain't pouring nothing into me.
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  Speaker 1: And gradually I become angry with you because you're not
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  Speaker 1: being able to pour into me leaves me desperate and thirsty.
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  Speaker 1: And then you hit me with commandments and tell me
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  Speaker 1: where not to drink. But you dry. How can you
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: be dry and then tell me where not to drink?
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  Speaker 1: Jesus doesn't talk to us about commandments before he talks
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  Speaker 1: to us about love. He says, as the Father has
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  Speaker 1: loved me, so have I loved you. Then he talks
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  Speaker 1: about keep my commandments. You can't keep commandments if you
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: can't drink. Real men pour in. My wife, it took
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  Speaker 1: me about 10 years, maybe longer, to even understand her.
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  Speaker 1: I get it, bro. They're weird. They're different. They're strange.
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  Speaker 1: They're not like us. She told me I'd be on
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  Speaker 1: the road. Oh baby, I miss you. I can't wait
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  Speaker 1: for you to come home, I thought. Never mind. I'm
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: sorry I had a loose moment. I didn't get to
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  Speaker 1: take my medication because I was in a hurry this
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: morning and I had to get out of the house.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: But I flew home with visions. I was gonna come
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: in the door, she was gonna rip off, you know, anyway.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: I came in the door, she kissed me, said, I'm
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: so glad you home. And went back to watching Lifetime Murders.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: I went in my man cave, I thought about killing her.
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  Speaker 1: I thought that no, that wouldn't be the right thing
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  Speaker 1: to do. That wouldn't be the right thing to do.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: That wouldn't be the right thing to do. It made
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  Speaker 1: me so mad that all she wanted me to do
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  Speaker 1: was be home. It took me 15 years to figure
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  Speaker 1: out that she didn't want my present She wanted my presence.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, she did want my presence sometime.
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  Speaker 1: That's how we got the kids. But she didn't want
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: my presence as much as I wanted, you know, anyway.
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: Back to real men, boy. Where are my fellas that
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: make some noise? Fellas, maybe because we started out as bucks,
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: we think our real value is what we pull in anatomically.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: And we have not learned the value of what we
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: give with our presence. Just to be there. Just to
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: know you're in the house. Just to hear your crazy snore.
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  Speaker 1: Just to know that if a noise breaks out at night,
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  Speaker 1: you are there. just for your kids to see what
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: it's like to live with a man, stops your daughter
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  Speaker 1: from having to go find one to figure one out.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Talk to me, girls. May stop your son for looking
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: for male attention from another man. So while we appreciate
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: the check and your anatomical flow, until we get your
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: emotional flow, there will always be a deficit. Because Jesus
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: doesn't start out talking about money and he doesn't start
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: out talking about sex when he talks about his father.
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  Speaker 1: He says, as the father has loved me. So have
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  Speaker 1: I loved you. real men pour in how your flow
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: bro how is your flow I used to think that
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: the only time kids need fathers is when they're little.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: But you never outgrow your need for daddy. She screamed
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  Speaker 1: at me and said, you've been my father, Bishop. We
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: had a father's day here several years ago. And we
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: always honored the mothers on Mother's Day. We pinned roses
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  Speaker 1: on the mothers. We decided to pin corsages on the fathers.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: And we gave all the people corsages to pin on
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: their fathers, but there weren't many fathers. So this one
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: little boy got up and walked down the aisle and
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: came and pinned the corsage on me. Because he said
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: I was his father. Now, he didn't know how to
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: pin the corsage, so he stuck it into my chest.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: And I was too gracious to flinch. So I bled
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: in silence. And then this grown man about 38, 40
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: years old came down and pinned another corsage on me
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: and said, you're my father too. Until my whole robe
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  Speaker 1: was covered with flowers. And what they didn't know is
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: under the flowers, I was bleeding. when I went upstairs
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: and I pulled all the roses off all of my
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: clothes had blood stains in them because being a father
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: is bloody it looks rosy on the outside but it
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: is bloody on the inside. And there are all kinds
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: of books about women and their pain and women and
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: their emotions and women and their careers and women today
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: and Essence Magazine and all kinds of stuff. And when
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: it comes to man's magazines, all they try to do
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: is show you how to be more sexy. Because all
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: they think we are is sperm. So we have no context.
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  Speaker 1: Can I teach this morning? I'm not going to shout
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: to you this morning. Can I teach this morning? We
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: have no context when we see the blood. You must
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: understand When the Bible says husbands love your wives as
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: Christ has loved the church. The women are so busy
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: fussing about submission that they didn't read the rest of
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: the verse. Husbands love your wife as Christ has loved
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: the church. Whoa, wait a minute. And gave himself men
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  Speaker 1: pour in. He died. You talking about submission? You ain't
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: gonna submit to nobody. I got the worst end of
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: the deal. He told me to die for you. He
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: told me to bleed within and still stand there. I
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: want to thank every father. I want to thank every
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  Speaker 1: father who stood up to the pain and secretly wiped
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  Speaker 1: away the blood and didn't quit and didn't run away
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  Speaker 1: and didn't hide and stayed, wait a minute, wait, wait,
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: stayed emotionally available while he was personally bleeding Because the
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: first thing we want to do with pain is internalize it.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: And the wall we build to protect ourselves from the
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: pins they stick in us won't let their pain in
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: but won't let our emotions out. And we become numb
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: and die though we are physically present. Amen. So just
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: because you have a man in the house doesn't mean
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: he's home. Home is when you don't lose your emotional
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: language because of your personal pain. Home is when you
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: understand those that you live amongst and can pour into
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: them what they need even though you didn't get poured
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: into you what you need. And that seems so unfair
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: if you look to her to fill it, you're going
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: to be disappointed because if she admires you, she sees
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: you as such a hero that you make being you
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: look easy So she doesn't minister to you like she
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: does her girlfriends because she relates to female pain. And
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: she has no clue how much it costs you to
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: be you. It doesn't mean she's insensitive. It means she's uninformed.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: And by the time you start speaking, you are so angry.
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: that the point gets lost in the pain. So she
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: may not always be the one who pours back into you.
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  Speaker 1: Go back. Your father might not have poured into you.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: Where is Joseph? Where is Joseph in this text? Yes.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: We haven't seen Joseph since the feast. Where is Joseph?
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: Why is Mary following Jesus while he's doing miracles and
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: we see her following him all the way to the
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: cross and we do not see his father? His father
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: missed his football games. His father wasn't there when he graduated.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: His father wasn't there when he went to the cross.
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: His father wasn't there when he raised the dead. His
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: father wasn't there when he walked on water. His father
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: wasn't there, wasn't there, wasn't there, wasn't there. His mama
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  Speaker 1: was always running in behind him somewhere and said, I'm
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: Jesus' mother. Even if I have to sit in the back,
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: I'll still be in the room because I'm his mama.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: So what Jesus could not get done From Joseph, he
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  Speaker 1: got from God. Come on, come on, come on, come on,
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  Speaker 1: come on, come on. He should have been able to
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: get it from Joseph. You can't tell me it wouldn't
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: have mattered when Jesus was on the cross if he
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: could have looked out and seen Joseph. You can't tell
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  Speaker 1: me that it don't make a difference to see your
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: daddy when you doing what you do. You can't tell
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  Speaker 1: me that you're not looking for him when you're stretched
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  Speaker 1: wide and hung high. Instead, he sees mama. And from
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  Speaker 1: the cross, he has a conversation with a physical mother
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  Speaker 1: but a spiritual father. Come on with me. Somewhere along
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  Speaker 1: the way, I'm not indicting Joseph, he could have died.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what happened to him. Somewhere along the
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  Speaker 1: way where Joseph let down his heavenly father poured in.
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  Speaker 1: So to the men, and I'll close with this. Where
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: do you get the pouring? When everybody in your life
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: wants some more of you and everybody got a thirst.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: Your siblings got a thirst. Your children got a thirst
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: if you got grandchildren they got a thirst your boss
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: got a thirst the world has a thirst the church
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: has a thirst your friends have a thirst, and you say,
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: I don't have nothing left for me. Paul wrote Timothy,
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: he said, I'm about to be offered up. I've given
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: so much away, I'm down to the last drop. Offered
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: up is when the glass has given its last drop.
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  Speaker 1: There's some men in this room who are burning fumes.
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  Speaker 1: You're down to your last drop. And you came to
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: church this morning, you look good, you smell good, you
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: got on your bow tie, you fancy, but the truth
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: of the matter, your cup is turned up. You're about
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: to be offered up. And I wanna pray for you
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: because I want to transition you from looking to people
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: to fill you up. That doesn't absolve them of their responsibility.
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: Sometimes they're gonna get it right and sometimes they're gonna
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: get it wrong. And sometimes they're gonna do it right
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: and sometimes they're gonna do it wrong. And sometimes they're
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: gonna fill you up with what you don't need while
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: they avoid what you do need. And sometimes their timing
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: is gonna be off and you're gonna be empty and
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: they won't even know it. Because they're gonna say, what
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: you thinking about? And you're gonna say, nothing. When we
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: say nothing, it is something. When you say to us,
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: what are we thinking about? And we say nothing, we're lying.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: It just means that what we're thinking about, we don't
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: think you can handle. And so we are silently empty.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Paul told Timothy because he trusts Timothy. He said, come
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: before winter. It's cold. I don't even have a coat on.
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  Speaker 1: I am the greatest apostle of the New Testament. I
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: have healed and raised the dead for people who never
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: gave me a coat. But I trust you, Timothy, because
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: I know you love me. I just hope you get
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: here soon enough. come before winter. Because nobody knows but
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: you that I am empty. As In proportion to. As
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: the father. As the father. Have loved me. Not Joseph.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: Not Mary. As the father. Has loved me. In that
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: same capacity. I'm able to love you. You know what?
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: This is very personal. I can love some of the
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: craziest people. People that everybody rejected, threw away, thought they'd
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: never be nothing. I will take the dark horse every time.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: And I couldn't figure out why I'd do that. Even
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: when it's dangerous, even when it's stupid, even when it
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: looks hopeless, I go after them. But then when I
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: read this text, I remembered why. Because I was a
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: dark horse. And as the father had loved me. Because
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: I was born in a raggedy house on the side
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: of the hill, on the backside of a mountain to
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: fighting parents and chaotic circumstances. And because it looked like
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: I would never be nothing. And he poured into me.
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  Speaker 1: I can still believe that he can pour into you.
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: I can believe, man, no matter what you did or
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: who you did it with or how long you did
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: it or whether you're HIV positive or whether you're strung
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: out on drugs or whether you're having nervous or emotional
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: problems or whether you're going through crisis, I still believe
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: God has a plan for your life. I believe. In
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: spite of you going to jail, in spite of you
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: being locked up in prison, in spite of you disappointing
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: people and letting people down, God still has a plan
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: for your life. And the only way I can love
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: like that is because I have been loved like that.
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: And as the Father has loved me, I love the
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: way he loved because that's what he poured out Into me,
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: and that's what I pour into you. If you are
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: running dry, come to this altar right now. I don't
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: care how old or young you are. Don't you think
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: for one minute, because I'm your pastor, I don't run dry.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: Don't you think for one minute that I don't get empty.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: Don't you think for one minute that I don't get
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: tired and want to quit? Don't you think for one
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: minute that I don't want to run away and hide?
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: Don't you think for one minute that I don't ever
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: want to get in my car and keep driving until
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: I run out of gas and figure it out from there?
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: Don't you think that you are unusual or crazy or
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: weak or phony because you run dry? It's not your
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: fault who did or did not pour into you. But
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: it is your fault if you don't learn how to
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: go to God and let him pour back into you.