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155. Clear Eyes, Full Hearts · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hi loves, thanks for being here. I hope you are having a great
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  start to your Monday and I hope this is going to be a great week
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  for you. I think my millennials who
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  listen to the show will remember that TV drama called Friday
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  Night Lights. It was about a high school
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  football team in a small town. And I love that show.
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  I love sports shows. And one of the things that the
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  coach said to his players all the time was clear eyes full.
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  Hearts can't lose. I'm sure you've heard that
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  phrase before. It's become a really popular,
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  trendy phrase over the years. It still stands the test of
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  time. You're still hearing it sitting
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  around. And this show came out, I don't
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  know, in the earlier 2000s, but the coach always said that to
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  his players to try to interrupt whatever pattern of thinking
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  they were in before the game or during a practice.
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  And the intent was to get them focused on what they were doing,
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  get them focused on the game, playing with a certain attitude.
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  It was all about having focus, playing with integrity, having
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  character on the field. He wanted his players to be good
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  players, but he also wanted them to be good people.
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  And that phrase, clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose.
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  This is similar to what we call a trigger phrase.
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  A trigger phrase is a specific word or combination of word
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  sentence that can activate a response or an action.
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  It's often used in marketing, it's very often used in
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  storytelling, but it's meant to provoke specific reaction.
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  I used to say to my spin class, anything can happen on Tuesday
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  because I taught on Tuesdays and Fridays, and every Tuesday I
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  would say to my class, to my team on those bikes, Anything
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  can happen on Tuesday team. And it was the same idea to say
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  a trigger phrase to help people get into a specific mindset.
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  And people started to know it. They started to know me for
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  saying that they would expect that they would hear it in the
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  class. That phrase was something that
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  my wife and I used to say to each other early in our
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  relationship. And it started as kind of a
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  joke, and it was meant to kind of give us hope during stressful
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  times so that in the midst of stress we would recognize that
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  anything was possible. But I just took it and ran with
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  it and I carried it on for the next 8 years when I was teaching
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  classes. And I always taught early
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  morning classes. And because that was how people
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  were starting their day, I wanted to use that phrase to
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  help people remember to stay out of their own way.
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  It was really about trying to be open to the good stuff that
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  might be trying to come in. And in this episode, I just
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  really want to give you a little bit of encouragement for the
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  week. We're entering a very busy
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  season for people. I don't know, there's a lot of
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  people who are feeling heavy and that like things are a lot to
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  carry. There's a lot of emotional load
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  on people right now. So I want to give you a little
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  bit of encouragement for the week.
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  And so let's go back to clear eyes.
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  Full hearts can't lose. I'd love for you to think about
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  approaching this week with clear eyes.
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  Meaning know who you are, know who you are this week and have a
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  clear vision in regards to what you want to achieve, what you're
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  focusing on. See things with clarity, see
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  things with openness. So often we lose sight of the
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  important things because we're so focused on the the
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  peripheral, the distractions we choose to fixate on the small
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  stuff. I do it too.
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  I get lost in the nuance of the problems.
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  And every once in a while I catch myself and I'm like,
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  Steph, you have to zoom out here.
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  You're making quite a bit of progress.
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  And that is probably something that you've experienced in your
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  life. I mean, have you ever gotten
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  lost in the details of a problem so much so that you miss the big
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  vision that you have? It happens all the time.
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  So can we choose to zoom out every once in a while and have
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  clarity, just have really clear eyes on the big vision?
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  Can we see that one hard day doesn't equal a loss in the
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  grand scheme of things? Could we try not to have
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  judgement clouding our eyes or things blocking us from seeing
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  what really is? Because you never know what's
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  going on for people in their life.
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  You never know their stories, the people you're interacting
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  with, that might be who you see, but it's not who you're talking
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  to. As Jefferson Fisher always says,
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  there's always something going on deeper.
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  And so approaching it with clear eyes, not having to know
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  everything, but looking and paying attention, listening to
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  the people in front of you, looking at things with clear
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  vision so that you can be powerful and take in the full
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  context of information. And then full hearts.
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  This can mean a lot of things, honestly.
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  Let's think about having hearts full of conviction and
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  gratitude. Conviction is such a big thing,
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  like really standing for what you want, taking action on the
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  things that are important to you.
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  Be in conviction. Don't be free to be excited
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  about your life, because if you're not excited, then what
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  are you doing this for? Isn't it all for the excitement
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  and the enjoyment and the fulfillment of life?
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  Shouldn't we be experiencing that now instead of waiting
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  until we achieve X or Y or Z or we hit some certain milestone?
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  Why are we withholding the joy? Can we be in conviction that
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  whatever we're doing right now is serving the grander plan?
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  Have conviction for what you're doing for your family.
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  Be in conviction for showing up in your relationships with your
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  friends and showing up well for work and being in integrity and
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  doing what you say you're going to do.
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  You can make it about being in appreciation for what's
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  happening in this moment in your life, in this week.
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  Yes, there's going to be challenge.
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  Yes, I'm sure you're experiencing some level of
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  stress, but you can also have appreciation for what's
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  happening and what you already have.
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  I guarantee you have a tremendous amount of wealth in
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  your life, not just financial wealth, but wealth in your
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  relationships, in your marriage and your friendships with your
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  colleagues, with your health. I mean, if you just start to
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  think about what kind of wealth do I have in all of these
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  different buckets in my life, I, your mind is going to be blown.
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  I bet you will be absolutely astounded at how wealthy you
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  actually are because we often think about wealth only as
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  financial wealth. But I'm not talking about how
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  rich you are. I'm talking about your wealth in
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  all of the different buckets. Do a little out of that.
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  I know that in this season of my life, I can recognize that I
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  have a lot of wealth to be appreciative of, to be in
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  gratitude for. I'm, I'm just very, very
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  thankful, especially as I exit a season that was really
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  tumultuous for my family. And I, along with full hearts,
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  have an open heart this week. It's really easy for our hearts
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  to close off. It happens in an instant
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  whenever negative emotions come up for us in a day, which is, I
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  don't know, 250 times a day I'm sure.
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  But focus on trying to keep the heart open.
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  Meaning be curious and be open to whatever experience is in
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  front of you. Try not to shut down, try not to
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  get defensive, try not to put the walls up, but instead be
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  commutative. Ask questions, be curious, be
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  open to feedback, be open to listening, be open to problem
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  solving. Clear eyes, full hearts, can't
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  lose. I mean, he says it all the time,
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  that coach and Friday Night Lights.
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  But every time I hear it, I'm like, hell yeah, let's go.
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  And so I hope that you can take a little bit of encouragement
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  for you this week. This is meant to be a short
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  episode, so you can take it and run with it on a Monday.
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  And you can also create your own trigger phrase, something that
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  resonates with you. Some of my clients have their
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  own mantras or trigger phrases that help them shake themselves
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  awake and get into a specific mindset.
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  Sometimes I'll say to myself, everything's working out for me.
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  Sometimes I'll say to myself, this is easy.
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  Those types of phrases shake me out of whatever I'm stuck in and
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  get me thinking about things in a different way.
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  So don't be afraid to create your own.
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  It absolutely works. It's a really powerful
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  psychological tool and it doesn't have to be complicated.
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  So I hope you can take this this week and do something powerful
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  with it. Clear eyes, full hearts.
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  Can't lose baby. Have a great Monday.
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  Have a great rest of your week. More impact ready coming to you
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  on Thursday. Thank you for being here, team.
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  Have an awesome day. And as always, thank you for
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  being ready to impact. Thanks for listening to Impact
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  Ready. I hope today's episode inspired
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  you to own your impact and recognize that.
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  You are powerful by. Elevating our energy and
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  awareness, we can create exponential change in this life.
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  Thanks again for being here.