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How to Organize Your Life and Set Goals · Arise Women of God

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  Do you feel like your life is a constant battle against a messy house, a loud schedule, and a list of goals that you've already failed out twice in just this month?
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  We often are told that the key to success is just trying harder.
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  But for Christian women, the secret isn't more willpower, it's better systems.
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  Today we're answering the question how to organize your life and set goals.
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  By the end of today's episode, you will understand how to habit stack your spiritual life and solve the pain of the shame vortex.
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  By learning to discern between God's correction and the adversary's discouragement, we're moving from chaotic busyness to purposeful stewardship.
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  Stay tuned.
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  Ordinary women Extraordinary Faith When God calls, we say yes.
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  The Arise Women of God Podcast hello and welcome to another episode of the Arise Women of God Podcast.
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  I'm your host, Tamara K.
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  Anderson, and joining me today are Sandy Falter and Amy Johnson of our Women warriors of Light Advisory Board.
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  Today we're looking at the Divine Order of Organization.
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  First, we're going to talk about atomic systems, how to set up your environment so you can't help but succeed.
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  Second, we'll discuss how to shun shame when you get bucked off your routine.
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  Third, I'll share the not to do list hack that opens up room for your actual mission.
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  And finally, we'll look at why intentional rest is the most productive thing you can do.
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  But first, we're going to kick it off by talking about systems and habit stacking.
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  Sandy has a few thoughts she wants to share on this.
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  Okay, well, I have done the whole set a million goals and fail not being able to do them or having a good goal but just struggling.
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  And so some, some hacks really, that I have learned from great people out there.
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  One of my favorite books for goal setting and really being successful is Atomic Habits by James Clear.
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  I love that book because he teaches us systems.
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  So if I want to have a habit of going to the gym, I put my workout clothes right next to my bed.
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  I get up, get ready, and I'm set up for success.
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  I leave my house four mornings a week.
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  I have a gym bag and my water bottle on the seat of my car.
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  So when I get up, it's there.
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  So doing things to help you be successful is a big part of it because we're human and we get busy and we forget and if it's a new habit, it's hard.
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  The other thing that I started doing this is a sad, sad admission here, but I used to struggle with my morning Prayers.
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  I'd get up early and be getting my kids out the door.
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  And then this would happen, and this would happen.
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  And then it'd be noon and be like, oh, forgot to pray.
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  And I would feel so bad about it.
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  So now what do I do every day?
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  I make my bed.
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  I make my bed every day.
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  It's just something I do.
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  And so now if I get up and I'm busy, I don't make my bed.
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  And so when I have time, when there's quiet, I go into my room, I make my bed and I kneel at my bed.
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  And so I habit stack.
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  I have a little study journal next to my.
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  In my bathroom next to the toilet.
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  Right.
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  I'll read just a quick verse.
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  So what is something you already do that you can stack?
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  I.
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  I believe systems can help us be successful because it's hard.
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  We have life and distractions.
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  So that's what has worked for me.
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  I love that Sandy focused on systems versus just trying harder.
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  It's about making the right choice, the easiest choice.
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  Right.
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  But what happens when your house is full of kids are perhaps full of craziness and chaos?
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  Well, Amy has found a way to use the most basic daily routine, dinner, to create a spiritual breakthrough for her family.
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  When my life was really chaotic and I had five kids that were all in elementary school one year I was trying to find time to read scriptures and pray with them and do the things that my mom had
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  done that helped me be.
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  Be spiritually close to the Savior and successful in my life.
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  And so I was praying and felt the Lord say, why don't you focus on eating dinner together first?
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  And so we, I knew we were going to eat, so I was just more intentional about sitting and eating.
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  And then after I did that for three weeks, then the Lord said, well, you know, you're going to eat now, so why don't you put their scriptures on their each of their chairs?
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  And then as the scriptures came up onto the table so they could sit down on, I was like, oh yeah, leave those there.
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  We're going to read right after dinner.
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  I do believe in systems.
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  They are so vitally important to us.
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  But I also believe that when we fail our systems on any given day, we have to have the strength to shun shame, because shame will take you down a vortex that is never ending.
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  And so for me, I have had to find the difference between the Lord's loving chastisement and my personal shame and hold on to the Lord's empowering chastisement.
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  And shun shame Shunning thatshame.Vortexise secret weapon ofawarrior.If theadversarycanmakeyoufeellike afailure,hecanstopyour progresscompletely.But sometimeswesimplyfail.Becauseourlifeisso overcrowded,wetrytoaddnewgoalswithoutpruningtheoldgoals.That, myfriends,iswhyeverywomanneedsanottodolist.AnotherthingthatIthinksetsmeupfor successismakingsurethat Ihave enoughroomfor anew goalinmylife.Andthatis wherewe haveagreathack ontheWomenwarriors ofLightwebsite.Also in thataguidetogoalsettingdownload.It'scalledthenot to dolist.Andsomanytimes aswomen,wehave somanythings thatwe'redoingthatit'sjustchaotic.Andwefeellike,I needto setgoals becauseIwanttobea successfulperson, butwhereamIgonnafit itin?
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  AndwhatIloveaboutthisisithasyoulistoutthe thingsyou're doing, andthenyoudecideprayerfully, whatthings shouldI keep?What thingscanI delegate?Whatthingscan Iautomate?
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  What thingsshouldI getridof?OrwhatthingscanIchange?Andthathas beensuchapowerfultoolin mylife,becauseoftenthrough that prayerfulprocess,I'llrealize,tamara,guesswhat?Youdon'tneedtobe doingthisanymore.And sometimesit'ssomethingIreally amsadabout.Like,atonepoint,Iwasdoingalittleradioshowwithtwoofmyfriends,andwhenIprayedaboutit,God'slike,youdon'thavetimeforthat.And Icried.Iwaslike,I reallyenjoythis.Andhe'slike,it'snotwhereyourtimeand energyneeds tobe.Butguesswhat?By eliminatingthat, Isuddenlyopenedupall this time for me to focusonthings.Sosettingyourselfupfor success.Iflifegetstoo busy,Ialwaysgoandfilloutthatnottodolistfirst.BecauseI'mlike,something isoffandsomethingneedstogoformetobe successful.Whenyoustopdoing thegoodthingsthataregoodbut notyourstodo,you finallyhaveroomfor thegreat thingsthatGodhasforyou.Butpartofthatroomin ourscheduleneedsto bereservedfor stillness.Weoften thinkthatbusyness equals ourworthaswomen.Buteven Jesustook timetonap andeat.Eat.Ifeellike
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  weneedto talksuper quicklyabouttheimportanceofrest.Thisisone ofthoseprinciplesthatIhavereallystarted to embrace morewholeheartedly.AndIthinkweaswomenfeellikerestis taboo.Like,if we'renotactivelyworkinganddoing,thenwedon'thaveworth,thatwedon'thavevalue.AndI think that thatconceptofnevergivingourselvesabreak isalsoanotheroneoftheadversary'stactics,becausehe knowsif weburnourselvesout.Howdoyoufeelwhenyoufeelexhausted?Youfeeloverwhelmed?
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  Ican'tdoit.I.I'm notenough.There'stoomuch.Youjustfeeldown,down,down,down.Andsowhenyou'realreadyfeelingdown,of courseSatan'sgonnakickyouwhile you'redown.Doyouknow whatImean?
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  Andsoif hecan convinceusnevertotakeabreakand neverto rest, thenheisone,becauseheknows we're goingtospiralatsomepoint.Andsowhateveryourgoals,remembertoorganizetimeforrest.Andthat'sgoing to look differentlyeveryweek.
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  For me,oneofmydaysofrestistheSabbath, andtherearebeautifulpromises associated withtheSabbath.AndsoaswekeeptheSabbath anddon'tworkonperhapsanyofthoseother goals,it'snicetohaveadayoff.Forme,it'slikemybreathoffresh air.
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  Ido notdo anyofmypodcastingwork,andyes, I knowit's.It's gospelrelated,butI justcan't.Sunday ismyday off,andIdon'twanttodoit on Sunday.
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  I'msorry.It'stimeforGod.It's timeformy family.
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  Andguesswhat?
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  IalwaysstarttheweekmuchmoreenergizedbecauseIhadadayoff.Restingisanactoffaith.It's saying,God, Itrustyouto managetheworld whileIsleeporwhile Irest.Aswewrapit uptoday,I wanttoleaveyouwith themostimportantpartoforganizing,knowingthatyourworthisnot atthebottomofyour todolist.AmyandSandy havesomebeautiful thoughtstoshareaboutthis.
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  I think what we need to remember is that we are enough and that we make these faith goals so that we can feel the love of the Lord, not so that we can earn his worth, but so that
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  we can feel how loved we truly are by Him.
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  And I think that for me, that's the thing, that if I keep that at the forefront of my brain as my why I don't derail myself by becoming too busy and too frenetic and in building my own personal
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  Tower of Babel to get to heaven.
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  I love that because we learn all throughout Scripture that God has created us, that we are his, that we were fearfully and wonderfully made.
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  How wonderful is that to know who we are, that we're His.
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  We have divinity.
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  That's enough.
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  There's nothing we can do to separate us from his love.
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  Nothing.
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  Doing all these goals doesn't make us better or make him love us more.
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  His love is unconditional, right?
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  We can please him with our actions, sure.
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  But we need to be careful that we're not earning.
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  We are never earning his love.
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  We are loved.
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  We are His.
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  That doesn't change.
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  Organization is not about being perfect, it's about being prepared.
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  Whether you're habit stacking your prayers or pruning your not to do list, you are becoming a better steward of the life God gave you.
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  If you're ready to build your own emergency kit for those days when the Shame vortex hits, go download our free A Guide to Goal Setting for Christian Women.
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  It features the exact not to do list I shared in this episode and the Cast out the Adversary protocol that will change your life for good.
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  We'll drop the link for it in the show notes below as we wrap it up today, ladies, I hope you can find a moment of quiet where God can guide you on how to best start to organize your
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  life and set goals until next time.
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  May you arise.
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  Do it God's way.
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  God Strong.