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Pivoting Is the Point: Finish Your Year with Purpose · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome back to Season 8 of Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone
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  is always learning and you're living your full experience. I'm your host, Coach C.
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  Season 7, we talk about falling into focus, and now let's talk about a fulfilling fourth quarter finish.
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  Today, I want to speak to the person looking at their calendar,
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  looking at their life, and saying, this is not where I thought I would be.
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  You had a plan for 2026. You had expectations. You had a timeline.
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  You might have had a whole vision board with pictures, scriptures,
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  and coordinating colors.
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  And then, life came through with some revisions you did not approve.
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  Now you're trying to figure out how to finish the year feeling fulfilled when
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  so much of it required you to change direction.
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  Well, pull up close because today's episode is called Pivoting is the Point.
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  Trust the process.
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  Listen, if we live long enough, we will come to understand that life will require us to pivot.
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  Sometimes with preparation sometimes with a little warning,
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  and sometimes on a dime with the bill due your feelings hurt and absolutely
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  no time to schedule a breakdown you have to make a decision while you're still
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  processing what happened,
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  and in that moment trusting the process gets real because it's easy to talk
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  about trust when the plan is working.
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  But what happens when you have to take the next step without knowing how the
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  whole thing is going to come together?
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  That's where we're going today.
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  First, let's establish something. Changing direction does not erase the distance
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  you have already traveled.
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  You still have the experience. You still have the skills.
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  You still have the lessons, the relationships, and the wisdom you gained along the way.
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  You may be beginning something different, but you are bringing an experienced
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  version of yourself into it.
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  Give yourself credit for that Some of you have been calling this year a failure
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  Because you are measuring your current life against a plan you made Before certain things happened,
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  Before the job changed Before the relationship shifted Before the family situation
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  required your attention Before you understood what that commitment was actually going to cost you,
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  You made that plan with the information you had then.
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  Now you have more information. You are allowed to make a new decision.
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  Now you know I need to put some language around this thing so we can carry it with us.
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  Here are our Ps.
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  Pause, Pray, Prioritize, Pivot, Proceed.
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  Yes, we're going to work through every one of them.
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  Because pivoting can be practical, purposeful, and productive,
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  even when it's uncomfortable.
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  Let's start with pause. When life changes suddenly, the pressure to respond
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  can have you making permanent commitments out of temporary panic.
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  Somebody gives you disappointing news, and now you're ready to quit everything,
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  block everybody, move somewhere, and get a new phone number. Hold on, beloved.
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  Before you announce a whole new life, take a breath.
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  Your pause might be five minutes. It might be one evening.
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  In an urgent situation, it might be three slow breaths before you answer.
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  Use whatever space you actually have.
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  Ask yourself, what happened?
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  What needs my attention right now?
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  And what can wait until I have more information?
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  Because everything that feels urgent does not require an immediate decision.
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  Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is give yourself enough room to think clearly.
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  Next, pray. And I mean an honest prayer.
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  God, I am disappointed. God, I wanted that.
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  God, I don't understand why I'm having to figure this out again.
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  You can bring your real feelings into your prayer. Then ask for what you need.
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  Wisdom, discernment, courage, help.
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  God, help me to recognize my next responsible step.
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  Proverbs 3, 5-6 reminds us to trust in the Lord rather than lean entirely on
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  our own understanding and to acknowledge Him
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  as He directs our paths.
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  I hold on to that because my understanding has limits.
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  I can see what happened today. I cannot see every possibility ahead.
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  And sometimes I want God to give me the entire itinerary when I still need to
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  follow the direction I already have.
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  You may have enough light for the next step before you have clarity about the whole journey.
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  Take that step prayerfully. Then, prioritize.
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  Because when your circumstances change, your priorities may need to change with them.
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  What mattered in January may need a different place on the list in November.
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  Maybe the goal was to expand your business, but right now you need to stabilize your income.
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  Maybe you wanted to say yes to more opportunities, but your health requires you to create some room.
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  Maybe you plan to keep helping everybody, but your own household needs your
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  attention and your resources.
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  You have to ask, what matters most in this season?
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  And please answer for the season you are actually living.
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  Some of us are exhausted because we keep trying to carry on an old schedule
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  into a life that has changed Something needs to move Something needs to wait
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  Something may need to end
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  You have permission to put your effort where it can do the most good now,
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  Next comes the part we keep talking around Pivot Make the adjustment Have the conversation.
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  Change the schedule.
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  Revise the budget.
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  Ask for assistance. Apply somewhere else.
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  Take the smaller, workable step you have been overlooking while waiting for the perfect option.
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  Because sometimes we know what needs to change, but we keep negotiating with
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  reality we want different results while protecting every part of the original plan,
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  listen you cannot keep turning the steering wheel toward yesterday and expect to arrive somewhere new.
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  And let me say this, every difficult moment does not mean you need to abandon your direction.
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  Some things require persistence. Some require adjustment.
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  Ask yourself, is this hard because I'm learning or is there evidence that this
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  approach needs to change?
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  What am I seeing repeatedly? Who can help me assess this clearly?
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  Get wise counsel when you need it. Trusting the process includes paying attention
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  to what the process is showing you.
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  Then finally, proceed. Because after the prayer, after the planning,
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  after the adjustment, you still have to move.
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  You may feel nervous. You may miss what you hope would happen.
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  You may need support while you move forward.
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  Proceed with the next manageable action.
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  Send the application. Make the appointment.
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  Set aside the first few dollars. Spend 20 minutes working on the revised goal.
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  Let your action be small enough to do and meaningful enough to matter.
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  Confidence can grow as you keep the commitments you make to yourself.
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  Now, let's bring this home to our fulfilling fourth quarter finish Somebody
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  listening is thinking Coach C, I hear you, but the year is almost over.
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  Yes, and you still have decisions available to you.
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  We do not have to squeeze 12 months of expectations into the weeks we have left.
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  We can choose what deserves our attention and finish with intention.
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  Maybe your fulfilling finish is completing one more important task.
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  Maybe it's finally getting the information you need to make a sound decision.
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  Maybe it is creating a budget you can actually follow.
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  Maybe it is beginning a conversation you have avoided all year maybe it is accepting
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  that a goal needs more time and putting a realistic plan behind it,
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  there is fulfillment in knowing you responded honestly to your life,
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  there is fulfillment in saying this year required more of me than i expected,
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  and I am learning how to respond with wisdom.
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  Do not overlook the work it took to adjust. Some of you learned to ask for help this year.
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  Some of you learned to protect your time. Some of you found out you could do
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  something you once thought you couldn't.
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  That growth belongs in your review of 2026 too.
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  Now here's your practical follow-through assignment. I want you to make a five-line pivot plan.
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  One line for each piece.
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  Pause. What has changed? Write the facts as clearly as you can.
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  Pray. What do you need help discerning or the courage to do?
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  Prioritize what is your most important realistic goal for the rest of this year,
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  choose one give it some focus,
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  pivot what specific adjustment will support that goal,
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  proceed what action will you take within the next 48 hours make it something
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  you can put on your calendar.
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  For example, my available income has changed.
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  I'm praying for wisdom and discipline. My priority is covering my essential bills.
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  I'm adjusting my spending and reviewing my options for additional income.
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  Tomorrow at 7, I will sit down with my statements and make the plan.
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  Simple honest actionable then check in with yourself in one week what worked
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  what did you learn what needs another adjustment you are allowed to keep learning as you go,
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  before we close let's pray god thank you for being with us through every change this year has fought.
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  Give us the wisdom to recognize when to stay steady and when to change direction.
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  Help us release the pressure to make our lives match an outdated timeline.
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  Show us what deserves our attention now.
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  Give us courage to make the necessary adjustments and discipline to follow through.
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  When the path feels unfamiliar, help us take the next responsible step with faith.
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  Let us finish this year with clearer priorities, grateful hearts,
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  and a willingness to grow.
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  In Jesus' name, amen.
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  Finally, remember your Ps. Pause, pray, prioritize, pivot, proceed.
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  You can honor what you hope for and still make room for what your life requires now.
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  You have learned some things this year. Put that wisdom to work.
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  Listen, this is Real Talk for Real Life where we're realizing every one of us
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  is always learning and you are living your full experience.
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  Share this episode with somebody who has had to change direction this year.
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  And as we continue to fall into focus with a fulfilling fourth quarter finish,
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  remember, pivoting is the point.
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  Trust the process and participate in your progress.
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  As always, decide, commit, succeed, keep learning, keep living.
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  this is coach c i'll see you in the next one.