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Why Do Narcissists Cut You Off? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what makes a narcissist decide to cut someone off in
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  their life? Like what makes them decide to
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  go ahead and just 86 somebody and get rid of them out of their
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  life? Like what, what, what what is
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  going on inside the mind of a narcissist to make them do that?
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  What are the reasons behind it? That's what we're talking about
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  today. Y'all.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist. I give you the perspective of a
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  narcissist on this channel, on this podcast of what not y'all,
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  That's what it's all about. Like seriously.
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  And Speaking of podcasts, make sure to follow my new page, the
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  doing my interviews and stuff over there.
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  So the mental illness podcast is about to get live and let's get
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  it. But yes, y'all, narcissistic
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  people can cut people off for a plethora.
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  I said a big word in a plethora, plethora of different reasons.
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  One of the main reasons they cut people off y'all is because
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  they're done with you. Let's just say let, let, let's
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  get that out the way. Some narcissists are absolutely
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  done with you and they will cut you off y'all.
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  And this is yeah, look, I don't make the rules, y'all.
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  I know y'all think I do because I'm a diagnosed narcissist, but
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  I don't make the rules. I just pseudo enforce them,
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  right? But this is what happens.
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  They could absolutely just be done with you and just be and
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  this and that's it. That is it.
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  That is it, Ricky Bobby, but that's what they do.
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  They can be done with you. They whatever supply that
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  they're they that they are getting from you, whatever
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  supply that they have gotten from you, it is it's just run
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  out. The fuel tank is low.
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  The supply tank is low. So they decide to go ahead and
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  be done with the relationship dynamic, whatever it is, y'all.
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  It doesn't have to be an intimate relationship.
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  This could be your best friend. This could be your coworker.
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  This could be your boss. This could be your parent that
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  yeah, yeah, your parent could cut you off.
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  Your siblings, your cousins, whoever it is, once the supply
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  runs out and they see no benefit of having you around, they will
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  they will get rid of you. They will cut you out of their
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  lives. And what I mean, I cut you out
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  of their lives. It doesn't mean sending, sending
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  you to meet your maker, although some of them will.
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  Be careful. Please, if you, if you feel like
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  that's a possibility, always be safe.
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  Be as safe as possible, right? But a lot of times in these
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  situations, in these scenarios, that's what ends up happening.
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  So many people are faced with dealing with this toxic,
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  abusive, narcissistic person and they get caught up in it and
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  they, they're not safe. They're not safe people.
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  But some nurses will absolutely cut you off because they're down
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  with you. They, they really are just
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  finished. Y'all.
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  They, the suppliers run out. Another reason why they will cut
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  you off is because they found someone else.
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  They found a new supply, a new person.
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  Now in the beginning, I just said that they will cut you off
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  because they they they're done with you.
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  The supply has run out. That doesn't necessarily entail
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  that they have found a new source to supply like a new
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  partner, new relationship partner.
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  Some like that. It could, but it doesn't always
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  guarantee that right? Sometimes they could be done
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  with you and just just hope. They can just hope and pray that
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  they'll find somebody else, right?
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  They can hope, they can hope and pray that there's somebody else
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  out there for them and they just like this is done, this is over
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  it. I'm out of here.
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  But but some of them have found a new supply.
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  Some of them do have new partners.
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  Some of them do do have other people that they can call their
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  partners or their boyfriends or their girlfriends or whatever.
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  Some of them that that does happen, y'all.
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  And this is not me trying to hurt anybody's feelings.
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  This is not me trying to make anybody sad, but this is a
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  distinct possibility and this does happen to a lot of people.
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  They will have a new supply or new partner and then they'll get
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  rid of get rid of you. They will cut you off, right?
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  They will cut you off because they have a new supply.
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  They have a new partner. And if this happens, y'all and
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  like if they have a new partner, they have a new supply and they
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  cut you off, they get rid of you.
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  If that new relationship ends, the possibility does exist that
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  they will try to come back to you.
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  So you, you, you, you have to have the ability to say no.
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  What can't we even say? You, you got to tell them no.
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  When Diddy come before you, You got to say no Diddy leave me
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  alone. No Diddy.
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  But seriously, you have to be able to tell them no because
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  they will come into your life. They will try to wreck shop.
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  They will try to wreak havoc upon your life in some way,
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  shape or form because they feel like it's directly beneficial to
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  them. And they will keep doing that.
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  They will keep trying to they will keep messing with you and
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  they will keep trying to like they will keep trying to come
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  back. And that's just proof positive
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  that just because they decide to cut you off doesn't necessarily
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  mean that they are done with you.
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  Sometimes when they cut you off, what they're really doing is
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  putting you like in a damn recycling bin to come back and
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  use later on. So just because they cut you off
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  and they have a new supply does not necessarily mean that that
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  they are done. When I say that that can make
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  some people happy. Well, Lee, so that means so
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  y'all, I'm from the the generation of dumb and Dumber.
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  So y'all be like, so you're telling me there's a chance?
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  Jim Carrey said that in Dumber. Dumber like you're telling me
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  there's a chance? Like no, more like one in a
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  million. So you're telling me there's a
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  chance? Yeah.
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  Some people get excited when I say that because it it, it means
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  it's not completely over. And some people are, some people
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  are trauma bonded. Some people have some stuff
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  going on. Yeah, it happens.
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  So they can't cut you off because they have a new supply
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  or a new partner. Another reason why some of them
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  will cut you off is because like out you have outgrown them.
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  You, you have outgrown them. They know that they, they, they
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  have this fear that you're going to leave them for somebody else.
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  So they feel like because they have this fear, because this
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  fear is direct, because they have this fear going on, they
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  think that you're out, that you have out, you have outgrown
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  them. And they will continue to come
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  back into your life and wreak havoc upon you.
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  They will continue to do this type of stuff like they will cut
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  you off because they feel like you're going to leave them.
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  And they have to be the first ones to do it.
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  They have to be the cutter offers.
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  They have to cut you off. You don't, they don't want to be
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  cut off. They have to be the ones to cut
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  you off. So some of them will absolutely
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  cut you off because they feel like you're going to leave them.
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  They have this like yes, some, not every narcissist, but some
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  narcissist do absolutely have a fear of abandonment.
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  And because they have this fear, I mean, because this fear is
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  palpable, they will absolutely act on this fear.
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  Like you might not have even given them any inclination that
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  you're going to leave them or break up with them or anything
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  like that, but they can just feel like you are and decided,
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  OK, she bout to leave me. I got to bounce.
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  I got to find somebody else. I got to be the first one to
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  break up with them because that also allows them to protect
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  their reputation, right? If they break up with you,
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  they're the first ones to break up with you.
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  That allows them to strangely or weirdly protect their
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  reputation. No, yes, we broke up, but I
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  broke up with them. Yes, we broke up, but it was me
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  that ended it. They didn't end it.
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  I ended it. You see what I'm saying?
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  Even though you didn't do anything, deserve it, They will
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  do that type of stuff right there, y'all?
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  They will do it because they've had this fear that you're going
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  to be the ones that leaves them and they cannot handle it.
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  They cannot handle that fear. They cannot handle that pain of
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  being left and not having some type of supply.
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  They can't handle that pain of being abandoned and not having
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  anybody to be there for them. So some of them will absolutely
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  dip out on you because they feel like you're going to be the ones
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  that leave them first and they can't live with that.
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  They can't live with themselves. If that happens, they'll go
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  crazy. Those those are the ones they be
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  just be acting up. That's when like and sometimes
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  y'all, when they're done with you right here, anything you
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  want to leave them with somebody else, they actually start to
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  revert. They start the the process of
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  the reverse discard, which means that they will try to discard
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  you. They try to make it seem like
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  it's your fault that things that they're trying to make it.
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  They'll start treating you badly in order for you to break up
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  with them. They'll start treating you badly
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  in order for you to break up with them and that helps them
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  play the victim to you. They can play the victim in that
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  circumstance as well. But narcissistic people that cut
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  people off, like I said earlier, doesn't mean that they are
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  completely done with them. Like they can also be out there
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  testing the waters with other people.
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  Like if a narcissist ghosts you, which is a form of being cut
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  off, right? If a narcissist ghosts you,
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  sometimes they're hiding something.
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  Lee Wyner did narcissist ghost me because they probably were
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  hiding something. You might be the other person.
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  You might be the other woman. You might be the other man.
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  They might be cheating on their spouse or partner with you,
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  right? You might absolutely be the
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  other person. So sometimes they'll ghost you
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  or cut you off because you are the other person.
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  They have this fear that they're going to get caught up.
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  Their lies will be exposed. Whatever they have going on will
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  be exposed and they will treat you a certain type of way like
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  you will be like you going to you going to feel it.
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  They will ghost you because they feel like you are you have
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  something on them that you're going to expose, not expose
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  them. But yeah, you could be exposed.
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  You could expose them. That's it is you could be the
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  one that exposes them, right? Because of how things are going,
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  of how things have went. You could absolutely be the
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  exposer to this person and they don't want to get exposed.
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  So they will ghost you and they will cut you off.
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  That happens because they fear some of them will cut you off
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  because they're afraid, y'all, they're afraid.
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  Look, some narcissistic people, and this is going to sound
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  weird, y'all, some narcissistic people have this mentality that
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  I fear that you're going to cut me off or you're going to leave
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  me. I already have that fear, so I
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  need to get ahead of you. But not only that, not only do I
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  need to get ahead of you, I have this fear that you're going to
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  expose me to like if you know too much about a narcissism,
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  this, this doesn't even mean that you have a like that you
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  have someone else or they have someone else.
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  Sometimes they would get rid of you or cut you off because like
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  you have too much on them. You have, you know too much
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  about them. You have too much power over
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  them. So they will cut you off on that
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  instinct as well, or they feel like you're better than the the
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  competitive narcissist will cut you off because they feel like
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  you're better than them or you have the potential to be better
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  than them. Some of them will cut you off
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  financially, emotionally, mentally, physically.
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  Like I said, cutting it off doesn't necessarily mean always
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  them discarding you physically, right?
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  A parent, a narcissistic parent that is jealous of their
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  children will try to cut them off financially because in order
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  if that kid is stands to be better than them at something
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  that kids get, getting a better education, that kid is going to
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  be live a better life. And then sometimes they'll make
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  their lives harder because they're jealous of their own
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  kids. Imagine being so jealous of your
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  own kid that you make their life harder because you don't want
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  theirs to be as good as yours. You don't want them to go above
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  and beyond you. So you make your own children's
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  lives lives harder because you are jealous of your children and
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  you don't want them out there doing better than you.
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  It does happen y'all. You have the toxic narcissistic
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  parents that will absolutely, absolutely, positively make this
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  type of stuff happen all the time, all the time, y'all.
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  So there's one conclude today's episode.
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