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Season 3 - Episode 282 - The labels we give EVERYTHING · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop, along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we are talking about labels and how we like to give
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  labels to pretty much everything.
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  We will talk about things that are good or bad or you know, I'm
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  feeling down, I'm feeling up. We talk about how we have, you
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  know, dysfunction in our lives and we label everything.
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  We are just our clothes are constantly labels.
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  We purchase things by labels. We are label driven creatures
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  and the question is what benefits do we get from that?
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  And are we choosing empowering labels as opposed to
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  disempowering labels? So if you start to think about
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  how these things show up in your life and you how you label
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  yourself, like I even do it with the chickens.
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  I will say, OK, I've got some chickens that are generally very
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  happy hens, and then I've got some that are kind of grumpy
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  hens and they're all just hens. And I look at this and I create
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  a label for them. And then I will say, Oh well,
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  she can't be. And this really shows up in the
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  spring. For those of you who are regular
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  followers, I have some chickens who are not allowed to sit on
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  eggs to become moms because they have proven Marilyn is one of
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  them. Miss Marilyn Monroe.
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  She is a beautiful chicken and she got broody and she wanted to
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  sit on eggs and I let her do it two years ago and she was a
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  terrible mother. She basically hatched out her
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  eggs and within a week and a half, two weeks, they usually
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  spend probably a good two months with the chicks while they make
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  sure that they're OK and they teach them how to do everything.
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  Not Marilyn Monroe. She ditched her chicks in about
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  a week and a half. They were too small.
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  One of them got taken by a hawk because she wasn't taking care
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  of it and I didn't realize how bad she was yet and she just
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  would take off and leave them. So in fact, Delilah, those of
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  you who are regular followers, Delilah is one of those chicks.
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  And Delilah is very independent. And I would never let her sit on
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  eggs either, just based on the fact that she is like Marilyn
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  and we cannot have that happening.
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  And so I have labeled her an unfit mother.
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  And I mean it when I say it. She is an unfit mother.
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  I have others that I label. Oh, well, she's such a sweetie
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  and she's got such a great personality.
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  And we could say these are genuinely true observations, but
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  they are labels. And I'm very conscientious of
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  putting labels on people because once you start doing that or on
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  chickens or on dogs or anything else, well, we, we start living
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  into that as well as we start creating more and more and more
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  of those situations. And before you know it, we're
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  disqualifying whether or not we want something, we want to try
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  it. Like I might say, I hate peas,
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  which is a fact in life. But the truth is, I don't hate
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  all peas. I just hate certain kinds of
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  peas. But I, I did not know that
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  because for much of my life I labeled it as peas suck.
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  I hate peas and I wouldn't even try them.
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  So I am very aware of how these labels affect me.
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  And I wanted to bring this up to you because I think it's I think
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  it's something that we have to often address in ourselves and
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  take inventory on like how many labels do I have for myself?
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  If I had to describe myself, how would I do it?
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  So if you take this little exercise and you sit down and
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  you say I am going to have to describe myself to people that
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  don't know me, let's pretend I'm going to go for an interview
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  somewhere, whatever it is to be, you know, added to some club or
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  whatever, make something up. But I'm going to sit down and
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  I'm going to have to give myself because the rules are I give
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  myself 20 labels. And what would those labels be?
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  And how hard is of an exercise is this to do?
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  Well, I'll tell you, it's very hard because as we sit and we
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  look and we start to think about these labels on ourselves, we
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  have to say, OK, this is hard. I have a hard time with this
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  particular exercise. What am I thinking about myself?
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  And I know when I do this and I check in with it a lot because
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  I've especially categorically, if I divide it out and I say,
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  well, how would I do this if I was just talking about me as a
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  mom or me as a life partner or me as a coach or me as a trainer
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  or a creative, and I did this exercise for each one of my
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  categories, How would I describe myself?
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  What are the labels that I put on myself?
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  Are they all empowering? And when you do this exercise,
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  here's the crazy part. Most people sit and try, they
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  struggle because they want to do it all positive.
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  And I'm saying, well, I'm just saying, what would you say?
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  And inherently you want to say all positive things, but that's
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  not what's true in your head. A lot of negative things come
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  up. So when you do the exercise the
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  first time you do it, do it as a brain dump where you're just
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  saying, what is the truth Now nobody else has to see this but
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  you. So do the exercise just as a
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  brain dump to see what am I truly thinking of myself?
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  And then you can go back and say, OK, now I want to convert
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  this into positives. And this is what I choose to
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  believe and I'm going to work on this moving forward.
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  But it's a very enlightening exercise.
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  So go do your label exercise, figure out what you think and I
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  will see you at guys tomorrow. Hope you have a very blessed
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  day. Bye.