Latest / Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie / How People Pleasing Attracts Scarcity Into Your Life

Transcript

How People Pleasing Attracts Scarcity Into Your Life · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a natural classic doctor, 70 energy healer, and cost reader.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: I help women heal on a physical and emotional level so that they can feel delicious and magnetic, after all.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: Isn't that the whole point?
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: Look, you've done the basic bitch on this stuff, but you're still bloated, tired, and in pain.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where I come in.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: In these episodes, we will have an honest conversation without all the fluffy bullshit.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna walk away with insight, tools, and tips to finally kill your body, mind, and soul.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: If you are looking to live well, you are in the right place.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: For ways to work with me, visit keepupwithlive.com and follow me on Instagram at keep up with live for more.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm back with another juicy episode.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: The topics have been flowing, the ideas have been flowing ever since I got back to Toronto.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: I just feel like I'm I'm awakened alive.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: It is snowing outside right now.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, it's so beautiful.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: I love snow.
• 1:01
  SPEAKER_00: I love cold.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: I've miss this.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, I know that might not resonate with everyone.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: They're like, how could you prefer the cold than the beach?
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: But what can I say?
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: I am a mountains snow type of girl.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: So let's dive into today's episode.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: This is all about how people pleasing attracts scarcity into your life.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: This is so juicy.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: This came up during an energy healing this week, and I just had to share this because, well, it came through for her, but I was like, oh my god, I know this would apply to so many other people, even though it was channeled.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: So I want to I want to share it with you.
• 1:34
  SPEAKER_00: So the problem with people pleasing is that pleasers have a deep desire to be liked, loved, and appreciated.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: And so you end up putting others, other people's wants before your own because you receive praise for doing so.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, look at Liv, she's staying late at the office.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, look at Liv, she always, I don't know, brings cookies or whatever.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: You guys know what I mean, right?
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: And that sense of validation that you get from people pleasing is what encourages you to keep on giving, but it only leaves you with burnout and resentment because the thing that you're actually craving, which is to be liked, love, and appreciated, you're probably not.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_00: So you keep people pleasing to keep chasing that love, not realizing that it needs to come from within.
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: And no amount of external is ever going to be enough, right?
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: And then you're resentful because you're like, well, I keep doing all these things for people, and you know, they either they don't do the same for me, or I'm still, you know, don't have what I want in life, career, money, relationships, etc.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: People pleasing is a drug that can be lethal not only to your relationships, but also to your health.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: People pleasing is tied to IBS, IBD, bloating, stomach issues, constipation, diarrhea, fertility, endo, leaky gut.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: And then because it's gut tied, it's also tied to anxiety, depression, so many things.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: You want to fix your health, you gotta stop being a people pleaser.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: All right, so I have an episode on that, but we're gonna dive more into how does people pleasing lead to scarcity.
• 3:11
  SPEAKER_00: And this can be scarcity with money, relationships, health, anything, honestly, and probably more than one.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_00: It's probably rippling into many different areas of your life.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: And then people are like, oh, I'm struggling to manifest, I still don't have the things that I want, and I'm like, they're always a people pleaser.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_00: They're always still people pleasing, right?
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: So actually, you know, funny, I'll share this right now before I dive in.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: The woman that I did the energy healing on about this, about people pleasing and boundaries.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: We cleared it, and she's been chronically bloated.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: Amazing bloat, like not amazing bloat, no bloat ever since.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like amazing digestion, no bloat ever since my energy healing.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's that's insane.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: But it just goes to show you.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and we're also gonna be diving deeper into the the root of people pleasing in goddess activation.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: But what I want you to remember is that when you are a people pleaser, you feel scarce with love.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have enough of it for yourself.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_00: So then you people please in hopes of getting the love you crave.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_00: And like attracts like when you are feeling scarce and people please for love and validation, it ripples into all the areas of your life and honestly fucks everything up because your dominant frequency is scarcity, it's not having enough.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: Your feeling of not having enough love, of needing more, also ripples into how much money you make.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: The relationships, your friendships, your career success, everything.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: If your dominant frequency is scarcity, then you cannot receive.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot receive love, which paradoxically is actually the thing you crave the most because the universe feels your desperation.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_00: You can't receive wealth, you know, promotions, career, romance, friendships, uh anything.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: Everything.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: I just wanted to hop on and let you guys know that Goddess Activation is officially open.
• 5:05
  SPEAKER_00: I know a lot of you have been waiting, and the time is now here.
• 5:09
  SPEAKER_00: Look, you deserve to feel delicious in the skin you are in and to love not only the life that you are living, but yourself.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_00: So that you become a natural magnet to everything you desire and live more in alignment.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be doing all the emotional releasing, and plus you get the tools, techniques, and reprogramming to live life with so much pleasure that your heart radiates.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: And you'll be able to connect with other goddesses who are igniting their self-love in a high vibe community.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: So if you engage in negative self-talk, people pleasing, don't set boundaries or hate your body, this is your sign.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: Because I've been there and it sucks.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: But what you have to understand is that when you love yourself on a truly deep level, everything in your life improves.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Your relationships, your friendships, your magnetism, your happiness, even how much money you make.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: Everything in life is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself and what you believe you are worthy and deserving of.
• 5:57
  SPEAKER_00: So let's start living a life where you feel magnetic and delicious in your body.
• 6:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's four weeks to awaken your inner goddess and ignite your self-love.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_00: So get in.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: We are healing and falling in love with life.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_00: Check out the link in the description and DM me any questions.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: See you guys inside.
• 6:10
  SPEAKER_00: So when you heal your people pleasing, you're actually able to call in more into your life.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_00: You become a better manifestor, you attract more abundance, and not to mention the fact that the scarcity shows up in your health, right?
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_00: So we talked about scarcity about other things, but this can also be scarcity in your health.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: So when we're feeling scarce, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because you are the creator of the universe and the universe responds to you.
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_00: So when you are a people pleaser, the universe goes, Oh, Sally's scarce.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: That's what she wants.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: More scarcity.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_00: Let's make it so bills are hard to pay.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: Let's make it so she's still bloated.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: Let's make it so she doesn't have a good relationship.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: Let's make her have shitty friends, or let's make her bloated all the time.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_00: Which then only makes you feel more scarce.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_00: So then you emit that frequency even more because you're feeling such a state of lack.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: And then we get this big, giant, vicious cycle.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: If you guys can see my arms right now, I'm like swirling them.
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_00: And lack attracts more lack.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: So you being a people pleaser is blocking you from receiving all types of abundance and keeping you stuck.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: So you need to heal the part of you that feels the need to people please and release the guilt, shame, et cetera, and whatever else has come up for you that makes you people please, including mom wounds, dad wounds, etc.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: Now, with her, what we did, she's been a client before.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_00: So this is kind of like a tune-up when we got to a wound that we hadn't gotten to before.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_00: But if you have never done any of my programs or anything like that, I would start with goddess activation because you need to feel safe enough in your body that you have love, right?
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because the love that comes from you is what is actually going to nourish you because no amount of external is ever going to be enough.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: That's why you keep chasing more.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: And then you can actually heal your body, have good relationships, become a better manifestor, etc.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: And your actions speak louder than words.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: You can do all the affirmations so the cows come home.
• 8:05
  SPEAKER_00: I am abundant, I am wealthy.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know, I am I have amazing gut health.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: But if you go and be a people pleasing, your actions speak louder.
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: You can't be like, oh, I'm attracting money effortlessly, and then your actions are scarce.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_00: And no, they don't necessarily have to be scarce with money, though it can be, but your scarcity energy for people pleasing ripples into money as well.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_00: It ripples into relationships.
• 8:29
  SPEAKER_00: You guys see how it ripples into everything.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: You cannot be a people pleaser and operate in scarcity and not have it affect all the different areas of your life.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_00: Hopefully this makes sense to you.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: If you are a chronic people pleaser, hey, I was there.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: I get it.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_00: I was the president of people please people pleasers anonymous.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: Let me tell you.
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: All right, if there's someone who did not have boundaries, who would go over and above, not even to people please, but like over and above people pleasing, where I feel like if I were to look back, I'd be like, oh my god, that was so cringe.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like she was just so, and I get it.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: Like it, I can look back at her with love now, now being healed.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: But back then I was like, oh, sweetie, sweetie, we need to help.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: So that is why I made goddess activation.
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I have helped hundreds, I don't know, maybe more than hundreds now, um, of women heal their people pleasing, and also help us set boundaries.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like because people pleasing and boundaries are kind of coincided.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: Uh so that you can release people pleasing, cultivate deep self-love, and also like awaken that goddess who's ready to receive.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you are scarce, you cannot receive.
• 9:37
  SPEAKER_00: And receiving is that deliciousness, that abundance for life, that juicy, like oh my god, yes feeling, right?
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: So if you are hearing this and you are like, oh my god, that would be so expansive for me, and you're curious, then click GLATIS activation below because I want to help you with this, and also because it's it's just so tied to so many different areas of your life that, like, if we were just to stop making you a people pleaser and get you to receive love, then you feel delicious in your body, you become more magnetic, you're full of love, happiness, you're able to attract better things into your life.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: You just become radiant because the universe is there and wants to support you.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: But you have to say yes to that next level and be like, Yes, I am worthy of an abundant and magical life.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_00: Shift your energy, shift your life.
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope this episode was helpful.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: I know it's short, it's sweet, but listen to it at least one more time over because it is short and sweet.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: And I will see you guys in the next episode.