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Brittany Cartwright Is One Bad Bitch! · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It is La La Kent. Welcome back to
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  Speaker 1: my podcast I have. It's so weird to have you
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  Speaker 1: here as like a guest because you're just like my homies.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm like, this feels so official.
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  Speaker 2: I love it.
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  Speaker 1: Hi Britney Cartwright, Hi girl, how's it going good?
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for having me.
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait to have you. I was like looking
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  Speaker 1: at the time, and then Stace, our mutual producer, says
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  Speaker 1: she stopped off at a gas station to go to
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  Speaker 1: the bathroom. I'm like, it's like a thirty minute commute,
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  Speaker 1: and normally, like if you're on a road trip, you
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  Speaker 1: would stop off at a gas station to go to the bathroom.
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  Speaker 2: There was no way around it. God to stop.
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  Speaker 1: What are we talking? Like? Are we talking like a chevron? Uh?
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  Speaker 2: It was a I don't even know what it happened
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  Speaker 2: to actual now that I think about it. What was
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  Speaker 2: a shell?
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  Speaker 1: You're so Kentucky right now.
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  Speaker 2: Oh man, you gotta do what you gotta do. And
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  Speaker 2: that traffic coming here from the valley was like stop
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  Speaker 2: and go.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I ain't gonna make it if I
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  Speaker 2: if I have to go all the way there.
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  Speaker 1: We cause you come from Kentucky. I come from uh
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  Speaker 1: Salt Lake City, Utah. There's no traffic and I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if you ever saw the snl skit about like
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  Speaker 1: when people moved to California, all they ever talk about
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  Speaker 1: is being stuck in traffic and like how they true
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  Speaker 1: took the four oh five to the one oh one
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  Speaker 1: or whatever, and I'm like, oh my god, we've turned
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  Speaker 1: into those people.
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  Speaker 2: Oh but what's bad about me is I don't ever
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  Speaker 2: know where I am. Like if it wasn't for my GPS,
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  Speaker 2: I would not. I don't know what the four oh
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  Speaker 2: five is, Like I heard of it, but like I
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  Speaker 2: couldn't tell you which one it is. You've been here
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  Speaker 2: for ten years?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my okay. So then when you go from your
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  Speaker 1: house to take Cruizy to school because our kids go
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  Speaker 1: to the same school, do you have to use your GPS?
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  Speaker 2: I put my GPS on for safety because I just
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  Speaker 2: like to follow it and know where I am. It's
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  Speaker 2: like I absolutely had to do it without my phone.
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  Speaker 2: I could take him to school, okay, but I never
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  Speaker 2: tried because it's like my safety blanket, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Right, just in case you forget yeah, or.
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  Speaker 2: Like I'm not paying attention and I like missed the
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  Speaker 2: turn and then I would be screwed. I have no
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  Speaker 2: clue where the heck I was.
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  Speaker 1: I just like knowing how long it's gonna take me exactly.
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  Speaker 2: I like that too.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I know where I'm going, but I sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it could take ten minutes, sometimes it could take thirty five.
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  Speaker 2: And sometimes it'll say save five minutes if you click here.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, yes, like you said, it was like
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  Speaker 1: a hell of a morning. What went on this morning?
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. So Cruise and I swam like all
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  Speaker 2: day yesterday, just him and I. So he was like
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  Speaker 2: really tired. So if he goes to bed early, there's
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  Speaker 2: no it's never like for sure that he's gonna stay
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  Speaker 2: asleep all night. Okay. So he fell asleep around eight
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  Speaker 2: o'clock and woke up at four am. Oh no, ready
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  Speaker 2: to party, just like yay hello, like smacking on my
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  Speaker 2: face like this to get me up, and yeah, he
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  Speaker 2: just would not go back to sleep. Finally went back
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  Speaker 2: to sleep at seven point thirty. Okay. So I was
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  Speaker 2: up with him that entire time, and then he had
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  Speaker 2: to be at school at eight forty five, so I
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  Speaker 2: decided to keep it home today.
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  Speaker 1: He stayed home too, Yeah, because what am I gonna do?
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  Speaker 2: Make it's just pre school if it was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like if it was like
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  Speaker 2: school school. But I just felt like he would be
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  Speaker 2: so miserable if he went, so then I was up
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  Speaker 2: with him the whole time too, and I'm just like,
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  Speaker 2: I was so tired.
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  Speaker 1: Oh and you're all glamed and everything.
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  Speaker 2: I just rushed but makeup on.
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  Speaker 1: I'm very impressed. Did you do that at the gas
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  Speaker 1: station too?
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  Speaker 2: I did my lips in the car on the way, a.
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  Speaker 1: Car that I'm laying my horn.
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  Speaker 2: Like plan your day better, bitch, of which I'm at
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  Speaker 2: like a stop sign. Okay, it's not just like I'm
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  Speaker 2: not driving and actively doing it.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: Little Wayne's playing and I'm just like, dude.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, some people thought Lil Wayne was paying
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  Speaker 1: you to promote his new album.
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  Speaker 2: Somebody said that to me. They were like, is Little
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  Speaker 2: Wayne paying you? And I said what I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I love Little White. Everyone knows that, if I mean,
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  Speaker 2: they obviously don't know me very well. If they thought
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  Speaker 2: I didn't know little Way.
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  Speaker 1: Do you still like him? Now that he broke up
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  Speaker 1: with his girlfriend on Mother's Day?
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  Speaker 2: He broke up with I didn't even see that. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: he does things that disappoint me sometimes, Like that was
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  Speaker 2: his concert and uh, you know Kara, my friend from Yestechy,
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  Speaker 2: she flew in from Vegas and he was so late.
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  Speaker 2: It was that one that kind of like went viral
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  Speaker 2: where he like walked off the sage're there, we're there.
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  Speaker 1: And didn't he like shame the audience, Yes.
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  Speaker 2: Because he said that we weren't interested in like his
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  Speaker 2: new rappers and stuff. I'm look, we waited three hours,
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  Speaker 2: you were late, and then you walked off early because
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  Speaker 2: we weren'tcheering enough for songs that we had never heard before.
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  Speaker 1: I was bently boy.
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  Speaker 2: That was a disappointing moment, but he will never.
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  Speaker 1: You know what, you're a true true blue fan?
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, aam.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like you have true blue fans like that
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  Speaker 1: just rock with you no matter because the fans are
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  Speaker 1: fickle when it comes to like reality television. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 1: do you watch reality TV or you just on it?
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  Speaker 2: For the most part, I'm just on it. I do
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  Speaker 2: see things here and there. Obviously I was big into
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  Speaker 2: like nine to Day Fiance and stuff like that for
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  Speaker 2: a while. I think because I wasn't really that much
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  Speaker 2: into it before I even started on reality to you,
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  Speaker 2: So like maybe I had watched like Laguna Beach or
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  Speaker 2: you know, Jersey Shore, like the very great the very
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  Speaker 2: first ones. And I used to love like trading spaces
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  Speaker 2: like home de courseo yeah KLC, you know stuff like that.
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  Speaker 2: So that was like what I really watched. Don't hate me, problemo,
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  Speaker 2: I love you now. But I was just never like
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  Speaker 2: really huge into that world.
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  Speaker 1: My mom was all the moms loved house Yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I loved Housewives too.
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  Speaker 2: You still do?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm addicted.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe if I watched it, I would like be
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  Speaker 2: into it. But whenever you live the life, you.
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  Speaker 1: Feel like, because you know how the sausage is made,
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  Speaker 1: you can't watch it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Maybe it gives me like a little anxiety or something.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, it's weird. How is this season going
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  Speaker 1: for you?
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  Speaker 2: Definitely the hardest season I've ever filmed. Okay, hard to
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  Speaker 2: watch back. I think that I'm definitely like showing a
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  Speaker 2: different side of me that people aren't used to. I
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  Speaker 2: think I'm showing like a lot of like growth and strength. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm in a much better place right now than
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  Speaker 2: I was when I was filming this because you know,
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  Speaker 2: we film over the summer, so it's been a hot minute.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, I feel like I've got so much support
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  Speaker 2: and I'm so grateful, grateful for that. But like, if
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  Speaker 2: I do one thing wrong, I feel like people like
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  Speaker 2: come at me, and it's like, give me a little
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  Speaker 2: bit of grace here. I'm literally going through the hardest
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  Speaker 2: summer of my entire life and doing it all on TV.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it'll be one of the hardest times of
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  Speaker 1: your entire life for the long run. Like, yeah, looking back,
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  Speaker 1: when you think about your life, this will always be
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  Speaker 1: one of the most difficult and most challenging times of
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  Speaker 1: your life. So when you went into filming, did you
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  Speaker 1: know that it was going to be difficult.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because two days before is whenever all the stuff happened,
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  Speaker 2: Like two days before we even picked up cameras is
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  Speaker 2: whenever all the stuff with Jack's happened. So I knew
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  Speaker 2: that it was gonna be bad. And before that, we
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  Speaker 2: had been separated for like six or seven months already, right,
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  Speaker 2: and it wasn't good our entire separation because that's when
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  Speaker 2: he started spiraling and stuff. So I was like even
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  Speaker 2: worse than normal so I just knew it was going
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  Speaker 2: to be extremely hard.
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  Speaker 1: I remember when it did start getting very very bad,
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  Speaker 1: and you and I were driving, I think, to Will
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  Speaker 1: and Elaine's house and we were talking just about what
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  Speaker 1: you were going through, and you were talking about some
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  Speaker 1: ring footage and you were like, I can show you.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, Britt, yeah, you weren't to a
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  Speaker 1: place yet. I don't even think that you had separated fully.
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  Speaker 1: It was just you kind of toying with the idea. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And I said to you, if you show me, if
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  Speaker 1: you guys reconcile, I don't think I'll ever be able
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  Speaker 1: to be around him again.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And then two days before, you guys picked up cameras
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  Speaker 1: we were at the school. Mm hmm. You showed me
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  Speaker 1: a video mm hmm. But I said, if you don't
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  Speaker 1: get out of this, someone's gonna end up dead. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and it probably will be you. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it was escalating so bad. And those are
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  Speaker 2: two different occasions. Like the ring kids you're talking about
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  Speaker 2: the first time, Like we had so many fights that
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  Speaker 2: led up to why I had to separate in the
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  Speaker 2: first place, like why I left in the first place,
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  Speaker 2: and then the whole stuff that happened two days before filming.
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  Speaker 2: I had already been separated for six or seven months, correct,
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  Speaker 2: So that like a lot of people get the timeline
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  Speaker 2: messed up, and I'm like, no, no, no, there was
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  Speaker 2: a lot of times that happened and a lot of
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  Speaker 2: things that happened before the separation in general. You know
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  Speaker 2: that led me to leave in the very first place.
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  Speaker 2: And it had nothing to do with Julian.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I know. This was the first time
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  Speaker 1: way after us going cause I think it was us
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  Speaker 1: going to like a Christmas party. This was like two
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  Speaker 1: years ago.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah. Do you remember also I came up
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  Speaker 2: to the grove and met you and Sheena and your moms. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: at the grow and that's when I first told you guys,
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  Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna leave him. Yes, yeah, that was
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  Speaker 2: before I left him too.
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  Speaker 1: You And that's such a difficult I don't like when
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  Speaker 1: people talk about things like this when they haven't been
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  Speaker 1: placed in this situation and they say, well, if this
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  Speaker 1: were happening, you should have done this. Yep, there is
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  Speaker 1: no roadmap. Everyone's story is different. Oh h do you
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  Speaker 1: think that you're going to catch heat? The fact that
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  Speaker 1: you filed for divorce when he was in a treatment center.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think so, because people are gonna see a
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  Speaker 2: lot more stuff that happens leading up to it. So
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  Speaker 2: there's a lot more that hasn't even aired yet that
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  Speaker 2: I had to that I have to go through. And
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  Speaker 2: I think people are gonna be like, oh, what the hell? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I don't think anybody. I think some people are gonna
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  Speaker 2: be like, why didn't you do it sooner? Honestly, right,
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  Speaker 2: you know, And if people do give me heat, I'm like, listen,
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  Speaker 2: it took me a long time to get where I
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  Speaker 2: finally had the strength to leave him in the first place.
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  Speaker 2: I was trying to give him like some grace while
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  Speaker 2: he was doing things and HOPEFU working on himself. But
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  Speaker 2: then you obviously see, because it's already been on the show,
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  Speaker 2: I was getting rage text constantly all this stuff was happening.
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  Speaker 2: And then there's more stuff I can't say yet because
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  Speaker 2: it's on the show obviously, but even more stuff that
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  Speaker 2: hasn't aired yet that like I had to go through.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it doesn't end, yeah, and.
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  Speaker 2: Ever, it was like almost every other day something new
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  Speaker 2: was happening, and you know, yeah, it took me a
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  Speaker 2: long time. To leave. But I did leave, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: like very proud of myself and I'm happy with what
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  Speaker 2: I did. You know, it should be.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no matter when you choose to leave somebody. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: like you said, this was a decade with this man. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: where some people most people, you know, because I got
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people saying, well, you pushed your ex
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  Speaker 1: on us so much, and you did this and you
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  Speaker 1: did that, and it's like, well, now I'm telling you
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  Speaker 1: that he sucked.
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  Speaker 2: So if you're like I changed my events, I changed
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  Speaker 2: my mind.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And there's a moment where it just kind of
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  Speaker 1: all makes so much sense of like I'm just done here. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And you can't pick and choose when that time come.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to like hit your breaking point. And
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  Speaker 2: I always say, like having cruise around with all the
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  Speaker 2: fighting and stuff that was going on, that really brought
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  Speaker 2: me to my breaking point. A lot of people stay
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  Speaker 2: in relationships because of their kids and things like we
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  Speaker 2: need to stay together, we need to make it through
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  Speaker 2: to college and this and that, and they're like miserable
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  Speaker 2: their whole lives. It just got to the point where
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  Speaker 2: it was so toxic and so bad and my little, sweet,
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  Speaker 2: innocent Cruise, Like having to be around that, it like
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  Speaker 2: broke my heart. So my Mama bear came out and
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  Speaker 2: I was like, nope, like it just completely opened my eyes.
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  Speaker 1: Cruisy is nonverbal. Hm, I feel like that. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: not the mother obviously of a child who's nonverbal. But
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  Speaker 1: he can't tell you what he's feeling, so he kind of,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure, just internalizes what's going on around him.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Like just because he's nonverbal doesn't mean he's not
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  Speaker 2: taking things in and feeling all the same. And I
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  Speaker 2: just could not allow that to happen, Like I have
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  Speaker 2: to be his voice and like protect him at all costs.
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  Speaker 2: And that like really really was like that's with one
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  Speaker 2: hundred percent in my breaking point because he doesn't care
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  Speaker 2: to yell at me in front of anybody. And you
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  Speaker 2: knew that, like it didn't matter. We talked about on
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  Speaker 2: the after show, like it didn't matter who was around,
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  Speaker 2: if it was my mom, if it was my dad,
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  Speaker 2: if it was you guys. You know, I didn't matter.
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  Speaker 1: Not So he didn't care what he said to you,
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  Speaker 1: how he acted. He was not And that's what I
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  Speaker 1: always found so interesting is I'm not an expert when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to the broad the broadness of narcissism. But
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  Speaker 1: I was like, this is so wild because normally in
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  Speaker 1: front of people they want to put on a show,
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  Speaker 1: and then behind closed doors is when all hell breaks loose.
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  Speaker 1: But he really only cared about the audience watching him
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  Speaker 1: on camera.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and like social media and stuff, like he didn't
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  Speaker 2: care to fight with me. Like if we were having
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  Speaker 2: a pool party or something at the house, you didn't
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  Speaker 2: care then, But.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's a camera there, it would be much different. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But I mean, look how he traded me with cameras there.
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  Speaker 1: That's true. Yeah, So that's why I'm so confused.
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  Speaker 2: That's just like a lot of people need to realize,
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  Speaker 2: like if that was on camera, think about what I
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  Speaker 2: dealt with all the time, you know, And I think
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  Speaker 2: a lot of people don't realize that. And you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's it does something to your brain. There's like a
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  Speaker 2: chemical addiction or something that I like, you have to
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  Speaker 2: break before you can get away. It's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: You know. It's funny that you say that because I
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  Speaker 1: was having a conversation with a mom friend of mine
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  Speaker 1: the other day and she we were talking about who
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  Speaker 1: I you know, what my type is, who I'd be
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  Speaker 1: interested in dating, and I was like, it's just a
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  Speaker 1: wild thing that I am. So I think of all
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  Speaker 1: the dudes who have come into my life since my ex,
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  Speaker 1: and none of them are productive relationships. I am so
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  Speaker 1: comfortable in combative situations and having to be in fight
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  Speaker 1: mode that I wouldn't even know what to do if
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  Speaker 1: a healthy man walked into my life and it was easy.
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  Speaker 2: I know. I'm like, would I be the red flag now?
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  Speaker 2: I like, yes, Like what in the world, like, just
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  Speaker 2: because I've been through so much and I've got like
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  Speaker 2: baggage now, I feel like Jackson will like try to
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  Speaker 2: scare every guy a date away.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what, there are things that you're you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna have to work through. You're gonna you'll get into
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  Speaker 1: a relationship, I'm sure, and there's gonna be things that
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  Speaker 1: happen that have nothing to do with that relationship, but
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  Speaker 1: they trigger something in you that takes you to a
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  Speaker 1: place where you can't really explain it on why you're
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  Speaker 1: feeling that way. Yep, But I think that same thing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I feel like I have I've done so
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  Speaker 1: much healing and there's so much more to do that
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  Speaker 1: Am I the red flag? Like, if a great guy
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  Speaker 1: comes into my atmosphere, am I gonna push him away?
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  Speaker 1: Because I'm a crazy bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Now, you know, I just feel like we have to
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  Speaker 2: protect ourselves a lot more. Now, we got a lot
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  Speaker 2: more to protect with our kids and with you know,
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  Speaker 2: everything that we have going on. I've got things I
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  Speaker 2: have to protect.
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  Speaker 1: So it's kind of a cool feeling. Yeah, when you
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: think about where you come from, Like, did you ever
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: in a million years think that you would be because
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: you felt like most of the cast we talked about
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: this on your podcast, every person that was on vander
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: Pump Rules, we all wanted to be in the industry
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: in some capacity, and we just found ourselves on reality TV,
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: which it was like, fuck it, it's a camera whatever.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: You literally were like, I'm at a guy and I
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: just love him, and he happens to be on this show.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: You know, I'll look at you.
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's wild. It's wild. That's something I hate whenever
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: people try to act like I looked for Jackson, I
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: found him out and blah blah blah blah. Absolutely not
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: Me and Kara ride a bar. They happened to come
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: to the same bar. I had never even watched vander
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: Pump rules. Everybody knows this that like actually knows me right,
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: There was nobody that would ever think I was lying
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: about that.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: You just don't seem to me like someone that would
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: camp out on the couch and watch Van.
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: It just it wasn't my face. But you know, I've
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: talked about this story so many times. Kara saw Katie
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: wanted to take a photo with Katie. Katie started talking
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: to us because we both have like thick country accents.
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: We went to the bar to take a shot with
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: Katie and Schwartz. That's whenever Jack's walked up to me
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: and like got my number and stuff that night and
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: then loved balled me from the very get go. Oh,
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: like literally before I was even before I even left Vegas,
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: was like saying I needed to move to La and
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: this and that, and it just like happened so fast
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: and like too much. Like two months later I was
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: moving to.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: La I know, like, and you drove, yeah, my little
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: Altima coop Alie the Ultima did it break down on
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: the way or something.
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: It started like the window wouldn't roll it for a second,
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: and then you know I drove to Sheena's house straight
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: to Sheena's house on the fourth of July, her parents' house.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: So I was it was very hot during the summer.
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: So you're going through like Texas, New Mexico like a zoning,
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: like all these like hot, hot, hot states, and my
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: window was stuck down on one side, so the air
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: conditioning would not even like work enough to cool off
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: the car. My car started doing something weird where it
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: wouldn't go over sixty miles per hour, and I was like,
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: what the heck is happening. So they had to stop
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: in this like shady little town and try to get
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: my car fixed. So I had to stay in a
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: hotel overnight there while they looked at my car, and
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: then I made it the rest of the way. I
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: was by myself too. My dad was flipping out.
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: I don't think I would have allowed I would never
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: allow Ocean to drive across country. I just like to
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: be with a boy. You're tripping. Yeah. Also, when people
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: say that you were like out here seeking Jack's out
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: and like, let me tell you something, No, not one
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: person on the planet would watch fander Pumptles and be
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: like that's the winner.
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: After the fat Cara because she had obviously watched the show.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: She was like, he's the bad boy. He's the bad boy.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: But I've always been attracted to bad boys. I've always
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: been that girl who wants to change a man, making better.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: I'm like such a caretaker and like a nurturer, like
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: I've like many of my boyfriends I took care of.
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: Even whenever I was in high school and didn't have
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: a job, I would like find a way to like
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: pay for my boyfriend's haircuts or something, you know, Like
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: that was just like who I was, you know. And
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: whenever I moved to La, like I would take loans
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: out because we lived in Koreatown, so I would get
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: like parking tickets all the time. And instead of asking
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: Jacks for money, I would like take a loan out
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: and he wouldn't even know about it, and then I
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: would like pay the loan off because I was working
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: at Hooters and Sir and all this stuff, and I
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: was catering, you know, all different events and stuff. And yeah,
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: but people always thought like, oh, she took advantage him
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: for his money. I was like, absolutely not. From day one,
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: I was even buying my own flights, Like he would
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: buy one. I would buy one. He would buy one
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: so it was never like that. Then I was, you know,
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: taking loans out or working a bunch and doing different jobs,
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: like I was working like three jobs at one time
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: once while I was here. And then we always had
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: separate accounts, so it was always like, did you money
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: his money?
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: Did you have separate accounts when you got me?
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Did as good?
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: I never ever ever can pay God, yeah never.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: He would have emptied that. Yeah, don't you think.
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: So once Cruisy, by the way, the message that you
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: sent after Cruise's diagnosis to your family and then you
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: sent it to me, and yeah, what was your headspace
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: when they told you?
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: I was expecting it, like I thought we were going
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: to get the diagnosis. But then like whenever you get it,
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: it just makes things a lot more real. It didn't
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: like really change anything for me, because I mean, of
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: course it changes things, but like whenever you're expecting that
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: you're going to get that anyway, it's like it's almost
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: a relief because you know what's going on, and you
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: know like Okay, now I have a plan and I
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: have to start doing this, and I have to do
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: this and blah blah blah, and like I could start
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: advocating and I can start, you know, doing different things
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: to help him that maybe I wasn't sure where I
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: needed to go before.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: If that makes sense, It makes total sense you saying,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: you know, with you being a hustler from the very beginning,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: and you know you would split things with Jacks, I
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: can't help but think that all of those things that
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: you went through it was kind of teeing you up
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: to be in the position that you're in now, where yeah,
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: you really are the only person that's taking care of
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: Cruisy on every level emotionally, financially, on top of being
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: a voice. I mean, how do you educate yourself? Do
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: you speak with his therapist and they're telling you are
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: you researching on your own?
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: I'm definitely researching on my own. I follow like every
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: single autism awareness page that you can on social different
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: social media's and that's very helpful for me. I've had
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: a lot of moms reach out to me and like
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: I communicate with them, and I'm going to like really
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: try to get involved with different charities and stuff this year.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Like that's gonna be like one of my main focuses.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm always learning. But also, like he goes
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: to speech there and OT twice a week every week,
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: so I go, like, he's there right now. So I'm
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: not there, but I make sure he's there no matter what,
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: like he does not miss OT and speech. But normally
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: I go and I sit in there with the therapist
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: so I'm learning everything that they're doing and so that
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: I could take it home and practice the same things
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: that they're practicing with him while he's there. And he
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: is thriving, like he is doing so well.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: I don't even believe like the change since he's been
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: doing all of this work. Yes, I mean, he's such
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: a beautiful and happy little boy. I mean, we all
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: know how Jackson is, but you guys made a very
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: beautiful yeah Son.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you. Always say that's the best thing that
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: Jax will ever do. Me too, though, you know, he's
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: like so amazing and he's so sweet and he's so good,
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: Like it's he's just he's loving and it's weird because yeah,
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: he's nonverbal, but like I know everything he needs, like
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: we're like connected.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're his mom.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's just like, oh my gosh, I just
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: love him so much. But he's doing so well. His
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: eye contact and everything like that.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: Is just that's what's so much better. Yeah, he makes
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: complete eye contacts and to see like he and Ocean
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: were fully playing on the day. Yeah, yeah, which I
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: thought was adorable. How will we explain to our kids,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: because you know, the other day, Cruisy was it's called stemming, right, yeah, yeah,
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: and Ocean came up to you and she goes, oh,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: my gosh, he's acting so crazy.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: Well she was. She said, why isn't he talking?
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, she said, she said that at Mother's Day? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: And Mother's Day she goes, she goes, why is it
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: Cruisy talking? And I said, I said he will, he'll
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: talk eventually. I said, his brain just works a little
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: different than yours, but he will start talking eventually. And
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: she goes, okay and gave him like a big hug.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: So she was really.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: Sweet because I wonder how we talk to our kids
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: and they have a child who's autistic in their class. Yeah,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: it's hard to break down to a four year.
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: Old, it is. So there are a lot of different
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: things I've seen on social media, and I should, honestly
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: just send it to the group chat for our school
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: so that like other parents and some of the parents
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: have reached out to me asking how they should talk
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: to their kids about, you know, crewise and stuff, and
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: I appreciate that more than they'll ever know. But there's
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: like so many different ways that you can like talk
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: about it. And there's also like Sesame Street is starting
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: to have characters with autism, Oh really and yeah, so
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: that you can like let them watch like that episode,
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: like I think the character's name is Julia, and it
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: like really talks about how they can play together different
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: things like that. So inclusion matters so much. And they're
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: starting to like include all these characters that have autism,
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: a nonverbal and all these different things. And it's amazing
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: because then it shows other people how they can play
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: with them, like how sometimes they might need their space,
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: how you know, you have to like kind of follow
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: their lead a little bit. Like I think the Ocean
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: is really good about not trying to force him to
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: play or do something that like he doesn't want to do.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: She like follows his lead, and you know, she doesn't
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: always have to do that, but she's like really good
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: at doing that, you know.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she's.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: So sweet with him, and so is Summer. You know.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: I heard one of the parents that I follow on
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: social media. She was, you know, talking to a class
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: room and she was like talking about autism, and she
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: was like, she said something about like how I wish
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: I could quote it directly, but I'll have to send
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: you the link after this. But she was talking about how,
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: like you know, kids with autism, they just their brains
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: just work a little bit differently. They're born that way,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: just like you were born with brown eyes and you
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: were born with blue eyes, Like that's just how they
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: were born. And she was like explaining it like that,
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: and it was it was just very inspiring. She said
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: other things as well. So I'll make sure I send
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: that link out.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I would love to see that because there's so much
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: that goes on in the world now where I don't
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: really know how to talk to Ocean about it. Like
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: I had Gigi Gorgeous on the podcast a few months ago,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: and it was brought up because Jared came over and
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: he was in full glam before the Paris HILLTI and
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: you know, Ocean had never seen Jared with makeup on.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: So she came up and was like, Mommy, Jared's here
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: and he has a lot of makeup on his face.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: I'm scared, and I was like, that's so wild because
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: I've never said anything like this is her genuine feeling,
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: So how do I now take this and make it
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: a teachable moment? And the other day she had two
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: barbies and it was a Cinderella barbie and Teana. She goes,
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: this one's black and this one's white and they kiss
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: because girls can kiss too. Yes, that's exactly right. Gigi
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: was saying, like they just say what they're what they're seeing.
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: And it is something where when you know Cruisey is
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: doing his thing, how do I teach Ocean to give
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: him his space? Because she's very much about the why
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: of things. She wants to know why is he wearing makeup?
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: Why can he wear a dress? And it's it's not
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: coming from an ill place, their church, their babies.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: I think hate is taught. So like, you know, if
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: you're you're doing a great job with trying to like
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: open her eyes to be inclusive with everybody, and that's
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: what parents should be doing.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: It's terrifying, Brittany, Yeah, it is terrifying to be responsible
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: for children where you're like, oh, I'm responsible for making
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: you a nice human being. To go out into the
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: world and be productive and then I like looking in
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: there sometimes or I'll watch band. I'm not supposed to
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: be doing this. What am I doing?
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: You're doing a great job.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: Made me a parent? Is is Jack's hands on with
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: like does he know what to do when Cruisey is
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: at his house?
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: Yes? And no, Like I very much take the reins whenever,
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: even whenever he's over there, like all right, tell him
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: what to pack and his lunch ball because his backpack.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: I pack everything the night before and send it with him.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: He doesn't stay there very often. He's probably stayed there
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: like maybe six times, yes, or seven times overall, and
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: that's been for a very long time, so you know,
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: he's always with me. But Jax does a good job
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: with like wanting to see him and visit him and
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: stuff like that. And if I need to go do something,
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: I can normally count on him to like watch him
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: and stuff.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: That's great.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: But when it comes like groceries or anything, like I'm
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: sending lists and you know, making sure that he has
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: everything that he possibly needs.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I wonder is this just like a man thing?
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: Because I still get messages from my ex and it's like,
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: what does she like to eat what is she? Yeah,
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: and because we're not fond of our baby days, it's.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: Like what a fucking d know? But I'm like, oh,
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: how can you not know? But I also took care
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: of everything while we were together.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: Right, so then he like is lost anyways? Yeah, like
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: he knows how to cut the grass.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but now I have turf, so so I don't
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: really need it.
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: No one needs to be cutting the grass anymore, no anybody.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: I hired a landscaper.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: That's great.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: So my my flowers are looking better than ever. Honestly
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: changed all the landscaping out and it's like beautiful, they're
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: blooming right now.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Well, now it's like your safe space. Yeah, did you
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: sage it yet?
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: Uh? Well, Kristen has a couple of times. Yeah, you know,
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: I don't really know much about that stuff.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: She's very into it. Yeah, so we're running along again.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Yes, thank god, that's my life easier.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: One person to check off your list. You I got
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: many more.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: To go, but at least, yeah, you guys are checked off.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like you're ready to date or are
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: you just ready to like fuck.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: Both? Sometimes? You know, it's been over a year that
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: i've been separated and might divorce will be final any
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: day hopefully really so yeah, like fingers crossed, I don't
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: really like being single.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: Partnership.
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I get like lonely, But then again,
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: I do have a lot of things I need to
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: work on still and I need to heal from things.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: But again, people are watching The Valley right now, which
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: was last summer. I've grown even more of course since
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: that that aired, you know, a lot stronger within myself.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: But I'm having fun. I have a crush, nothing serious,
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: but yeah, we'll see where it goes.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: I was thinking about this. I think we talked about
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: this on the after show. It has been two years,
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: maybe even more than that, that I've been intimate with
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: a man.
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: I cannot believe that, can you believe?
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Though?
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: That's crazy?
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: The last time I bumped peeps was I think this
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: is how I gauge it. It was the weekend before
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Ocean's birthday party. Wow, so was March of twenty twenty three.
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: Wow?
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, is that not the craziest shit ever?
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: That's been a minute, Like, what the fuck?
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: And then I got pregnant the following November, and I'm like,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: I worry that I'm going to be so comfortable with
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: being single and in my routine that I will not
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: be able to find anybody because I'm like, well this
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: is kind of lit.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think you'll find somebody. I think it'll
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: happen whenever it's meant to happen, just with me, Like
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: I'm not in a rush, yeah, by any mains, but
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: like I do like being with somebody. You know, Yeah,
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: it's fun, but it doesn't it's not what I'm revolving
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: my life around. Like I feel like I'm a bad
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: bitch right now. I'm taking care of everything. Isn't a
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: house myself? Like it's it's great.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And like you said, like a man anything, No,
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: but that's a good place to be in where like
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: the person who comes into your life is really going
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: to have to add because you're not looking for anything.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: You don't need a man financially exactly, emotionally, you know,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: you've been through a lot to where you're I'm sure thinking,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: like I really don't need you for that either, exactly.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: I just want somebody that like makes me laugh, is
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: a good time, respects me, is nice to me, like
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: actually treats me like I'm supposed to be treated and
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: you know, obviously loves my family, loves my son. Eventually,
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: like that's nothing that's gonna happen from the start, Like
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: it will take me a long time to ever have
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: anybody around Cruise. But whoever eventually is in my life
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: will have to be like in love with him.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, when when would that be? Like how
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: would you know when it's time to introduce a man
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: to Cruise?
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: Well, legally because I put it in my divorce papers, yeah,
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: that Jacks can't have a female or a somebody that
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: they're dating. And I can't have somebody that I'm dating
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: around Cruise unless it's been over six months and we
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: talked to each other about it. Yeah, And I wanted
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: to make sure that that was written in ink because
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: I know Jackson is just like going around town. Me
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: and Jack's have been very different since the separation, Like
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: you don't see me out with guys in the public,
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: and you don't see like headlines and stuff like that
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: about me private. Yeah, So I just wanted to make
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: sure that that was something very safe, Like Cruise doesn't
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: deserve to have people in and out of his life
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: like that, So I wanted to make sure that that
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: was like very clear. Again, I don't even know if
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: six months would be enough. I think it would be
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: just something that you would have to like really feel like,
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: is this person going to be around or not?
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: Well, I think it's gonna be hard for you with
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: Jacks because unless he makes a huge change in his life,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: there's going to be women who are around for a
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: significant amount of time. Mm hmm better than out And
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: I kind of had to be okay with that. When
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: it comes to Ocean, is that she's going to see
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: much younger women with her dad and they'll be around
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: for a long period of time until the girl gets
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: fed up and leaves him, because he would.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: Never leave a chick.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: But there's already one teed up to bring in the
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: next round. So I feel like I'm overcompensating. And now
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: Ocean's asking me, like last night she was playing the
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: piano and I was with Sosa, and she goes pretend like,
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: so says your boyfriend, and this is your wedding and
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: I'm playing the piano and then you guys kiss. Like oh,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: now she's asking me.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: Like, why don't you have a boyfriend?
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, And she said the other day she said, mom,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: are you ever going to get a boyfriend?
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: I said, do you want mommy to get a boyfriend?
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: She goes, yes, I would like that, And then I
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: could see her wheels turning, and she goes, mom, what
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: if your boyfriend is not nice to me? Oh? I said,
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: then I wouldn't be with him. You're the judge. You're
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: the one that tells Mommy, like I like him, you
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: can keep him around, and if you don't like him,
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: he's gone. And she goes, Okay, so if I don't
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: like him, I'm just gonna say I don't like you. Next,
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: I was like, this is a wild so funny. Now
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: she's thinking her mom's like a boring square, Like yo,
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: cause you get a boyfriend, bring someone else the boyfriend.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: That is hilarious. She is so funny. I love that
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: little girl.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: So it would you'd have to go with your gut.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't have to croize my gut, but it
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: definitely it would take a while before I would, you know,
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: have somebody around him, and then yeah, go with my gut.
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: And then if they didn't like vibe or whatever, then
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: see you.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: Was it hard to sleep with someone new?
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: No?
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: It was easy. Yeah, it was just like whatever, goodbye.
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean I was treated so badly and I
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: had lost all my confidence. So it was like having
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: somebody give me attention and make me feel good, like
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: was great. You know I needed that at that time.
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: You know, there were things like I didn't like about
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: my body and different things that you know, I had
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: been putting down and putting down about so many times.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: But there have been out there who do not care
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: and they love you and they just you know, they
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: love your.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: Body and like a womanly body.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So I was made to feel like I was
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: like imperfect for a very long time after having my son,
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: and you know, it was great to have somebody that
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: made me feel good.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I like the guy who you fell straight on your
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: ass out of the shower and you guys laughed and
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: he still wanted to be with you after.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: I hate too in the shower butt neked and you
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: slipped like you it was like I like slipped on
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: a banana pill like whoo, went straight back and he
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: was gonna like hit my head. Oh so it was
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: so embarrassing. But then the way that we laughed about
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: it was like so cute.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: Get you a man where you can fall buck neked
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: but around. He laughed about it, and he's like, come here,
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: let me put it in. Oh my gosh. She's like,
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: I've never been so turned on. By the way. Then, God,
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: you didn't get a concussion.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: Thank god.
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: See that's how I know I'm a square. It's like,
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: you're like, hey, it's so funny. I'm like, oh my god,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: did you call nine one one? Well?
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: In my head like somehow like I didn't hit my head,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: like I laid it on my back but kept my
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: head up or something.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Damn. Yeah.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: He was like trying to catch me, and he was
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: like I thought it was gonna be bad, but you
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: like somehow didn't hit your head. And I was just like,
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: don't look at me. It was so embarrassing.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: I like it, and I like him. He's talented. Yeah,
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: FORM going to move on before. I spelled way too
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: much this season of The Valley I we talked about
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: this when it first came out the teaser. Yeah, and
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: you were like, I feel like they could have put
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: so many other things into it. And I know that
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: I know that feeling of getting married to your story. Yeah,
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: and then you're like, why was this cut? And I
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: love that they showed you still having fun and still
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: being like the lighthearted Brittany that we all came to love,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: like from Kentucky, just like happy to be here.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: I think they did a good job with that all season,
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: because yeah, there's a lot of hard stuff to come,
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: but I was still like going out with my girls,
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: having fun, laughing about a lot of stuff. Like there's
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: a lot of ups and downs the entire season, and
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: I know the Valley can be really dark at times,
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: but it's like what we were actually going through ran
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: We're not hiding stuff, and that's like why people can
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: relate to what's going on, especially in my life.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, it's a very dark season, but like, what
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: do you want you guys to do start pretending like
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: everything's all good. I mean, like you said, this is
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: what you guys are going through, and I do feel
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: that so much has changed since you guys filmed that.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: Come your guys's next season, you will have the lighthearted moment.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I think next season is going to be,
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: hopefully knock on Wood a lot better for me because,
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: like I said, I'm in such a better place and
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: I have moved on like big time, and I think
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: I was so struggling a lot last this season, so
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: it'll be interesting to see how next summer goes.
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like it's a setback when you have
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: to when you watch it and then like, I don't
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: know how you are with the comment section, but like
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: if you allow yourself to go into the comment section,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: is it a set back?
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: Sometimes? Yeah, And like my team will be like, Brittany,
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: for your mental health, don't look at that stuff. That's
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: not who you are. Everyone's allowed to have down moments
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: and or you know, good moments and blah blah blah,
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: and it's so up and down. There's a lot more
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: people that are supporting me that are like hating on
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: me or doing whatever, so they'll, you know, they'll definitely
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: be like, do you want me to send you like
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: all the good comments so that you'll just see that,
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: you know, that would be excellent. I just I'm such
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: a people pleaser, so I don't like when people don't
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: like me. That's just how my personality is.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I thought it was very refreshing this this
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: uh season so far, especially when you guys were in
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: Santa Barbara, Yeah, and you got annoyed and it was like,
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: I share my whole life, and I feel like other
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: people aren't. And then Nia says, because you're going through
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: a hard time, yeah, you have to project onto me yep,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, not at all. It's this is
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: a reality television show and everyone needs to show up
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: and share their fucking life or else you make this
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: really un fun and very hard. Yeah.
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: A lot of people in my comments about that were
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: trying to be like pretty just jealous, blah blah blah.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: I was like no, I was talking about this one
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: specific day where I saw different things leading up to it,
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: which they did show some of it on the show,
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: like they showed like the fights and this and that,
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: and I love Nia, I want the best of you them,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: but I'm not. That had nothing to do with jealousy
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: and had to.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: Do with such a lazy excuse people.
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: I had a lot of things and I was like no,
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: guys like no. And also like a lot of people
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: thought that I was like either jealous or that like
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: I cared that Danny was drinking. I did not care.
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: We would be the last Yeah, I would have been
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: the last person that carried I cared because I thought
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: that day that there was a lot of things that
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: were being hidden and it was just that day. I
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: love them. I think they're great. If they want to
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: handle their business how they want to handle it, good
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: for them. But I was also going through the hardest
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: time of my wife being raised checks. At twenty four
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: to seven, you hit your breaking point, Yeah, I just
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: hit my breaking point. And there was other people that
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: were feeling the same way. So whenever we talked about
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: it, it just kind of like, yeah, it got bubbled up
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: and made into a much bigger deal than I ever
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: wish it would me in New York. Great, this was
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: last summer.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: I know, I know good.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: It was just that one night. And I'm allowed to
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: have bad days and moments where I.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Get enough if none of you have bad days, Yeah,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: I have good days. I don't want to fucking watch
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: it exact Cress canceled, and a lot of.
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: People I'm a mean girl, and I'm like, I'm nowhere
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: near a mean girl, Like come on, Like, I'm allowed
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: to have an off moment in the hardest time of
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: my life.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: Well, and there's going to be moments this season for
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: anybody where something that happens is literally just the cherry
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: on top of like all the other shit that someone's
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: going through exactly, I think exactly, And honestly, I didn't
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: feel like it was a projection at all. I've been
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: a part of filming a show and when people aren't
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: showing up and being authentic, it's like, fuck you all,
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: you're making this really hard.
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean people that actually are on TV get it.
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: I guess you know, because it's a more of a
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: thing like that. But you know, I just I hated
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: how big it got. But it was also just like
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: at that point we were all just like like we.
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: All thoroughly were watching about I feel like, whenever there's
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: a scene, I.
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: Just like, yeah, hit my breaking point, and I was
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: just like enough, guys, if I'm gonna share everything, then
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: please just share everything too. That's all that it was.
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: I get it. And you're is it hard filming with
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: a cast that's so brand new because you've been in
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: this for many years and you and I both came
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: on to a show where people were very very well seasoned,
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: and it came to filming a reality TV show. Now
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: you're the ogs and you're dealing with people who've never
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: done this before.
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: They actually I mean that one little night with Danny
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: and Niya. I got upset. Yeah, but I feel like
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: everybody's doing such a great job, Like everybody's bringing it,
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: you know, Yes, and they all surprised me, honestly.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Were you hesitant going into season one being like, how
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: is this gonna go? Or did you even think about it?
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: I didn't really think about that much because they are
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: all my actual friends, so it kind of makes it easier. Rightever,
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: you're all actually friends, you know, So were you nervous.
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: About that because you're, like, I actually like you guys,
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: And when you add the element of filming a reality
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: TV show, things can go south and friendships can end
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: pretty quickly.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it is nerve wracking. I hope that
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: people don't change the more like popular the show gets
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: and stuff like that. Would be devastating if like people's
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: like personalities started to change. Especially I don't feel like
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: it that they.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: Have no I season really going to see Yeah, I
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: don't think.
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: No, because I put all these people's names on a
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: list to be on the show in the first place,
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: because I actually love them all, And I would be
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: devastated if like something happened just because like personality change
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: or their egos got too big or this and that,
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: and like, I try my best to never change and
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: say true to who I am, and I just hope
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: that everybody does that, And so far, everybody's doing amazing well.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: I said to Janet when she first started filming in
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: the season one had aired, which I didn't watch season one,
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: but I said, my hope for you is that you
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: always stay who you are, because you're so fun and
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: so care free that I don't want this world to
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: kind of make you feel like you have to have
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: your guard up at all exactly.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: And I don't want that for any of my friends
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: that are on there, you know, yeah, because they're all
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: such amazing people and that would like break my heart.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: But I'm just praying that they won't, that that won't happen.
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, even Jesse, who's kind of like a little douche.
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: I so enjoy watching him on TV.
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I don't think that he's letting it go
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: to his head too much. I think he naturally is
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: like that. But I think that he's doing a good job.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: I think you guys are all killing it, And you
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: know what, I don't know what the filming process was
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: like for you guys, but I do think that you're
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: all carrying your way. Yeah. I'm so happy you came
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: on the podcast. Thanks for having me, Thank you, my love.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for listening to another episode
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: of Give Them All That Podcast. I'm gonna catch you
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: guys next week. Bye bye,