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Monday Mini: SMNTY Gets Their License · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, and this is Annie and Samantha and what good
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  Speaker 1: to stuff I never told you production of iHeartRadio. And
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  Speaker 1: today for this Monday Mini, we're doing kind of a
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  Speaker 1: teaser for an episode that I do want to do.
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  Speaker 1: That was a suggestion from listener Lizzie, and Lizzie wrote
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  Speaker 1: in I'm a longtime fan of Sminty and I'm loving
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  Speaker 1: the more personal and nerdy tone that the podcast has
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  Speaker 1: taken since you two began to host the show. In
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  Speaker 1: an episode from a few months ago, Annie made a
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  Speaker 1: brief comment that she no longer drives as someone who
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  Speaker 1: hates driving but is forced you because of work. I
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  Speaker 1: relate to this so much. I would love to hear
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  Speaker 1: an episode about your thoughts on driving. So much of
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  Speaker 1: the USA is car centric, and it forces the disabled
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  Speaker 1: and those who cannot afford a car to use unreliable
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  Speaker 1: public transit if it even exist. Biking and walking can
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  Speaker 1: be dangerous if the infrastructure is not present, and the
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  Speaker 1: number of pedestrian fatalities has increased a lot in the
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  Speaker 1: past decade. The car centric infrastructure of the USA also
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  Speaker 1: has a racist and the ablest history. So yes, I
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  Speaker 1: do want to talk about that because I looked in
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  Speaker 1: the archives, and we haven't done an episode on We've
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  Speaker 1: done an episode the show is not you and I,
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  Speaker 1: but past host have done an episode on kind of
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  Speaker 1: stereotypes around driving. But they're all really old. One of
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  Speaker 1: them is like from when the show first started. So
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  Speaker 1: time for an update, but also just to look at
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  Speaker 1: this history, I would be really really interested. And just
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  Speaker 1: when I was like thinking about this, I've found a
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  Speaker 1: fact that air bags are designed for men, which I
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  Speaker 1: didn't know. Probably a lot of you already knew that,
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  Speaker 1: but I didn't know that. And so here's a quote
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  Speaker 1: from the Guardian. When a woman is involved in a
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  Speaker 1: car crash, she is forty seven percent more likely to
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  Speaker 1: be seriously injured and seventy one percent more likely to
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  Speaker 1: be moderately injured, even when researchers control for factors such
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  Speaker 1: as height and weight, seatbelt usage and crash intensity. She's
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  Speaker 1: also seventeen percent more likely to die. And it's all
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  Speaker 1: to do with how the car is designed and for whom.
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  Speaker 1: And they talk about all the reasons this is. But
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  Speaker 1: crash chest dummies essentially, when they were first introduced in
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  Speaker 1: the nineteen fifties, they were based on men, and they
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  Speaker 1: go into all of that and why that has led
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  Speaker 1: to the situation we're in. But it's actually it hasn't
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  Speaker 1: gotten that much better.
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  Speaker 2: The crash test dummy that's based off women like this year,
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  Speaker 2: the first one. Yeah, I just read like not too
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  Speaker 2: long ago, as in fact, like a month ordo ago.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and a bunch of In this article at least,
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  Speaker 1: which I think was from twenty twenty two, they were
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  Speaker 1: talking about how a bunch of like govern ment agencies
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  Speaker 1: were like, well, it's going to mess up everything if
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  Speaker 1: we take that into account. They were like, well, don't
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  Speaker 1: you think you should take into account like the population,
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  Speaker 1: and uh yeah, they don't have there's not currently any
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  Speaker 1: testing for pregnant women, so it's even worse for pregnant people.
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  Speaker 1: So there's a lot to look into. This was just
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  Speaker 1: like a cursory google and I found this, So I
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  Speaker 1: want to come back and do a whole episode on that.
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  Speaker 1: But for now, I'm just going to talk about what's
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  Speaker 1: going on with me with you. You know, as I was
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  Speaker 1: joking in a recent classic, I am getting ready to
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  Speaker 1: dry for the first time in a while, and it
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  Speaker 1: does make me nervous. Also, I just wanted to acknowledge
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  Speaker 1: that this conversation has privileged throughout and I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: try to highlight it every time, but it does have throughout.
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  Speaker 1: Because I do have a car, I also do have
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  Speaker 1: the opportunity to not drive it. So I actually have
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  Speaker 1: never liked driving. I never wanted to drive. I got
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  Speaker 1: my license a year late, and it was only after
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  Speaker 1: all of my younger friends got it and I felt
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  Speaker 1: like I should. And this was, you know, in the US,
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  Speaker 1: you get it. You get your learners permit at fifteen,
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  Speaker 1: and then your license is at sixteen, and that's kind
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  Speaker 1: of around when you're looking for a job. So it
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  Speaker 1: coincided with other things, but I definitely it definitely wasn't like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait to get it. It was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I guess I have to get it. And then I
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  Speaker 1: was involved in a car accident that was pretty serious
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  Speaker 1: and stuck with me, and so I just even more
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  Speaker 1: didn't like it. But I also felt like I had
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  Speaker 1: to be the one to drive, which was strange looking back,
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  Speaker 1: especially where I am now, I'm like, what was I doing?
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  Speaker 1: But I even recently on work trips, I've been the
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  Speaker 1: one that drives, even though everyone knows I hate it,
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  Speaker 1: and it's because I fill out the paperwork, I'm the
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  Speaker 1: one for the rental car. But I think that's shape.
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  Speaker 1: People know I hate it enough where they're like, I'll
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  Speaker 1: fill out that paperwork, don't do it. And I have
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  Speaker 1: had to tire blowouts that have really stuck with me,
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  Speaker 1: like every time I drive, I think my tires about
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  Speaker 1: to blow out. I did drive three hours a day
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  Speaker 1: to and from work for three years, so it is
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  Speaker 1: funny to me now where I am where I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I I walk, I will walk. And I got my
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  Speaker 1: car kind of out of spite because it was my
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  Speaker 1: brother is my older brother's car, and he had had
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  Speaker 1: several crashes. He didn't take care of it. They gave
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  Speaker 1: it to me. So I was lucky in that way,
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  Speaker 1: like I got it. I didn't have to buy it.
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  Speaker 1: I got it. It was a great car. Eventually, my
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  Speaker 1: dad was involved in a wreck in it though, and
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  Speaker 1: so it got total but he was by everyone was fine.
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  Speaker 1: It was just one of those things where the car
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  Speaker 1: just completely got totaled. And then eventually I got another
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  Speaker 1: car that was donated to me from my mom. So
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  Speaker 1: I've never had to buy a car. It's very privileged
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  Speaker 1: race to be. I also am in a very walkable space.
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  Speaker 1: Atlanta as a whole is not walkable at all. It's
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  Speaker 1: like a joke. It's like a well known it is
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  Speaker 1: not a walkable city. We do not have good public transportation.
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  Speaker 1: It might take you forever to get to the public
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  Speaker 1: transportation to take it. So I'm very very privileged that
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  Speaker 1: i can live in a walkable space. And I'm also
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  Speaker 1: very privileged that I can take something like lyft that
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  Speaker 1: I can afford it, and I do if it's for work.
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  Speaker 1: You best believe I charge that to the company, as
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  Speaker 1: I shouldn't. But I also have really good friends like you, Samantha,
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  Speaker 1: who are who indulged in my like I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to drive, wake me up and drive me place.
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  Speaker 2: Some of that is monibility to get you to come out, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: because I'm like I don't want to go there about myself.
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  Speaker 1: You're coming with me, I'm coming back because I will
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  Speaker 1: be like I'll just walk there or I'll just whatever
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  Speaker 1: or whatever. And You're not the only one. I totally
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  Speaker 1: get that too, that like I don't want to go
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  Speaker 1: in alone to this venue. I want a person with me.
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  Speaker 1: But it does kind of crack me up when I'm
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  Speaker 1: like I'll just get there and you're like, nah, I'll
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  Speaker 1: see you come in. Yeah. So I have all those
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  Speaker 1: things going going for me. It is kind of funny
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  Speaker 1: to me because when I was first started at the job,
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  Speaker 1: that was when I was doing the commute, the three
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  Speaker 1: hour commute, so I would drive to our public transport
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  Speaker 1: Marta and then I would take Marta to this job.
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  Speaker 1: It's changed like several times, but essentially this job. And
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  Speaker 1: at that time I kind of liked like I would
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  Speaker 1: listen to MPR. I sort of liked I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I would wake up three am, four am, so I
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  Speaker 1: would and hit traffic, and I liked that I could
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  Speaker 1: listen to things. But one time I was driving home
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  Speaker 1: and I was listening to an episode of Stuff to
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  Speaker 1: Your Mind that I had edited, and they were talking
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  Speaker 1: about driving and that one of the hosts called it
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  Speaker 1: high stakes gambling, and she described all the statistics, and
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  Speaker 1: I just remember getting so tense and being like, oh no,
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  Speaker 1: this was a mistake to listen to this, to listen
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  Speaker 1: to this, and that's you know, I find a lot
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  Speaker 1: of times I don't trust other people on the road.
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  Speaker 1: I don't trust me, even though there's no reason I
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  Speaker 1: actually think I'm a pretty good driver, but I'm just
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  Speaker 1: nervous and I don't trust my car because it's old
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  Speaker 1: and I never drive it, and so when I get
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  Speaker 1: in it and it shakes like this, I'm like, is
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  Speaker 1: this normal? Immediately, yeah, probably that My tire thing is
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  Speaker 1: always like you need new tires. I'm like, I just
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  Speaker 1: got new tires anyway. I don't trust parking in Atlanta.
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  Speaker 2: That's parking in the self is a scam here in Atlanta.
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  Speaker 1: That is true. You are right, but yeah, I just
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  Speaker 1: I don't like it. I tried. I literally every time
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  Speaker 1: I get into the car, I think this might be it.
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  Speaker 1: It's just such a grim thought. You're not the only
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  Speaker 1: one not think that too, And I have stories of
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  Speaker 1: people where they that was that was it. It's really sad.
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  Speaker 1: It's like scarier than any rollercoaster to me driving, I
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  Speaker 1: don't like it. I worry about other people. I worry
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  Speaker 1: about myself when other people do it. I don't. I
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  Speaker 1: am like the one that's like, maybe you shouldn't like
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  Speaker 1: with my mom, especially, I'm maybe you shouldn't come to Atlanta.
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  Speaker 1: It's fine. I'm like, no, no, no, it's okay. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm nervous about it. I'm the person who's like, tell
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  Speaker 1: me when you got home. I need to know. It's
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  Speaker 1: strange to me that driving is the thing where people
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  Speaker 1: literally will say, like, please drive safe, as like we're
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  Speaker 1: all acknowledging that maybe something will happen. And it's funny
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  Speaker 1: because I used to be, like I said, the person
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  Speaker 1: who drove. I was the one did the road trips
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  Speaker 1: well to like well, because I actually did do a
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  Speaker 1: huge road trip. Not on that trip I didn't, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm like to like Orlando or something like that, I
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  Speaker 1: would be the one that did that. But now my
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  Speaker 1: anxiety and people like know how much I hate it.
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  Speaker 1: People don't want me to drive, which I actually appreciate,
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  Speaker 1: but I also feel bad about I'm also my car
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  Speaker 1: is old. It is old. You've never driven me. Ever,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think no, I, like I said, I think
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  Speaker 1: I'm a good driver. My car is suspect. And when
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  Speaker 1: I was dating my ex who I dated for three years,
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  Speaker 1: I used to like make a point that we would
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  Speaker 1: drive equal amounts, like it wouldn't be him all the
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  Speaker 1: time and it wouldn't be me all the time. And
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  Speaker 1: now that's out the window for me. I'm like no, no, oh,
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  Speaker 1: and there's a whole drop. I won't go into it,
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  Speaker 1: but Savannah's heerd all about it about where my car
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  Speaker 1: is parked and landlords and getting reported as abandoned and
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  Speaker 1: all kinds of things. Again, a scam. It is, it
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  Speaker 1: really really is. So yeah, happy holidays, stay safe. I'm nervous,
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  Speaker 1: Like I I drove home for my mom's birthday in
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  Speaker 1: September and it was okay. But I get home and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, which is already stressful. Going home is
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  Speaker 1: already stressful. We're gonna into up driving. But I know
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  Speaker 1: people who love it, Like I had a brief time
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  Speaker 1: where I liked like it's the highway was just completely empty.
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  Speaker 1: I liked that, right, but it was a very brief
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  Speaker 1: period of time. I did like especially as a high schooler.
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  Speaker 1: I do get the independence part of it of like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I can go to the movies or I can go
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  Speaker 1: to the mall or whatever. I totally get it. It's
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  Speaker 1: just I am not that point in my life anymore.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I think there is a lot to talk
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  Speaker 1: about in this conversation, and I'm excited to do that
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  Speaker 1: episode because I think a bunch of people don't realize it,
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  Speaker 1: especially because we are such a car centric nation. If
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  Speaker 1: you can't afford a car, you can't drive a car
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  Speaker 1: for whatever reason. That was one of the things when
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  Speaker 1: they were like, come back to work at our office,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, well, you're paying from my lift right,
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  Speaker 1: which is not a sponsored by the way, You're paying
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  Speaker 1: because I'm not driving, so it's gonna be expensive right
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  Speaker 1: for you to do it. And then they kind of
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  Speaker 1: backed up, not because of me, but in general. I
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  Speaker 1: think I'm backed off of that whole thing. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Atlanta is not a good city for not having a
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  Speaker 1: car in a lot of ways. Yeah. Oh and also
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  Speaker 1: I I'm fine, but I have been hit as a
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  Speaker 1: pedestrian five times by car. So your point, your point,
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  Speaker 1: Lizzie has heard and you've seen me. I won't cross
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  Speaker 1: the I am like, look at every which way. I
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  Speaker 1: don't like to cross the street unless I know for sure.
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  Speaker 2: Again, I'm trying to think of how many times we
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  Speaker 2: might have crossed the street together. I don't think that
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  Speaker 2: often because you often arrive in a've left in that
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  Speaker 2: area so.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you used to, because I would at your old apartment.
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  Speaker 1: I would come down the street, turn around, and come
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  Speaker 1: back around so I could park on so I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have to cry the street. I did used to drive
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  Speaker 1: a bit more back, yeah, but not anymore. It's gotten
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  Speaker 1: more worse now. I take my car out like a
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  Speaker 1: like it's a pet. I'm like, okay, make sure you
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  Speaker 1: still start. We'll go on a little taunt together and.
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  Speaker 2: They come back for that one spot.
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  Speaker 1: Then come back to that one spot that my landlord
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  Speaker 1: does instruct me. He wants me to park in, so
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I can do. Yeah. So that's just
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  Speaker 1: some of my thoughts, my experience around it. Why I
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  Speaker 1: don't like to drive, why I try not to drive.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, it does come from a big place of privilege,
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  Speaker 1: and we are going to come back into you an episode.
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  Speaker 1: I am excited about it. But in the meantime, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much for listening. And seriously, whatever you do
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  Speaker 1: if you're traveling, stay.
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  Speaker 2: Sane, safe, yes, get rest.
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  Speaker 1: Get rest, have some joyful times, good luck, good luck. Yes.
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