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My boyfriend FAKED being my ex…just to text his own ex! | Reddit Stories | EP3110 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Angie.
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  Speaker 2: And this is Dakota, your favorite OK Storytime hosts. And
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  Speaker 2: we've got some great stories coming up.
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  Speaker 3: welcome back to OK Storytime. And you better buckle up
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  Speaker 3: because today we have some stories about crazy exes who
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  Speaker 3: did not get the memo that it's over.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia. I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 3: And you know what?
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  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 1: I really feel this one.
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  Speaker 3: Me too.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you just have to be really straightforward and say stop.
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  Speaker 1: Reaching out.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Or say, stop texting my mom.
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 5: Even if you have to confront them at a rock
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  Speaker 5: climbing gym for a few hours.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. It happens to us all. Sophia mostly.
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  Speaker 3: And today we have a story about a boyfriend who
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  Speaker 3: catfished his own girlfriend and As her ex.
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  Speaker 1: That seems too complicated.
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  Speaker 3: And it made a whole burner phone, pretended to be
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  Speaker 3: her ex-boyfriend just so he'd have an excuse to text
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  Speaker 3: his ex back.
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  Speaker 1: Why not just do it behind her back if he's
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  Speaker 1: already going through all that? Who knows? Maybe he likes
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  Speaker 1: extra steps. Okay, well, I also see that we have
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  Speaker 1: a story about an ex who tracked a woman down
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  Speaker 1: seven years later. at her job and got arrested a
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  Speaker 1: week later with zip ties and a crowbar in his car. What?
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  Speaker 1: That's actually insane. Oh my goodness.
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  Speaker 5: It sounds like a murder mystery. Sounds like a Dateline episode.
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  Speaker 1: I hope not. I hope it ends better than those.
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  Speaker 3: And then we swing back into another mess where an
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  Speaker 3: ex-husband who cheated got his mistress pregnant and had the
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  Speaker 3: audacity to ask his ex-wife to help raise the child.
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  Speaker 1: No. not gonna be your babysitter that's insane that's a crazy.
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  Speaker 5: Ask and we got a story to finish this off
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  Speaker 5: where a fiance demanded her fiance's ex to hand back
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  Speaker 5: her engagement ring and said something so vile about her
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  Speaker 5: future kids, I'm not even going to.
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  Speaker 4: Tease you about it.
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  Speaker 1: You got to hear it.
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  Speaker 5: It's absolutely horrendous.
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  Speaker 1: Don't bring the kids into this.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds like we got some crazy stories here, so let's
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  Speaker 3: get into them. My boyfriend faked being my ex just
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  Speaker 3: to text his own ex behind my back.
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  Speaker 1: That's too complicated.
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  Speaker 3: Two weeks ago, I, 25 female, received a text from
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  Speaker 3: an unknown number. claiming they were my ex-boyfriend James, 25, male.
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  Speaker 3: I believed it was James, as he did write a
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  Speaker 3: status on Facebook saying he had a new number.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, maybe OP's boyfriend made that Facebook account too. It
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  Speaker 1: was all part of the plan.
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  Speaker 3: It was just casual talk.
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  Speaker 1: How are things? How's your new boyfriend?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, that would be immediately red flag. I'd be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: none of your business, actually. I replied platonically and friendly
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  Speaker 3: as we did end on good terms.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, then I kind of get that.
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  Speaker 3: My current boyfriend, Max, 24 male, said if I am
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  Speaker 3: talking to my ex, then he should be allowed to
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  Speaker 3: speak to his ex, Brooke, 20 female.
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  Speaker 1: That is an insane ploy. He's like, oh, um, if
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  Speaker 1: you are by chance talking to your ex, I should
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  Speaker 1: be allowed to talk to my ex. And I did
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  Speaker 1: not set this.
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  Speaker 4: Up at all.
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  Speaker 1: Like, so that just proves to me that you want
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  Speaker 1: to speak to your ex. Yeah, that's insane. What an
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  Speaker 1: insane way to go about that.
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  Speaker 3: I said, that's fine. You can speak to who you want. Although,
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  Speaker 3: you know I won't like that. Wait, I've said that before.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh yeah, you can do whatever you want.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not going to like it, just so you know.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like, ooh. It's like, yeah, it's a test.
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't happy because the only reason I ever stopped
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  Speaker 3: him talking to Brooke is because their messages were always flirty.
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  Speaker 1: And she still sends him news. What? I'm sorry, the
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  Speaker 1: second that an ex sends a spicy pic to my
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend and he continues to talk to them after that,
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  Speaker 1: I am not, that's no longer my boyfriend. We have
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  Speaker 1: two exes in the story now.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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  Speaker 5: Maybe the person that sent it meant to send it
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  Speaker 5: to someone else and they got mixed up. And instead
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  Speaker 5: of ruining the friendship, they're like, I just didn't see anything.
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  Speaker 1: There was a plural on that.
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  Speaker 3: So I asked him to block her and he did.
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  Speaker 3: But he said he would talk to her anyways because
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  Speaker 3: I'm speaking to James.
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy. That was that.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from BadTagunSick. And if you
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  Speaker 3: slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 3: And we're here to talk about some stuff and give
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  Speaker 3: some advice. But we don't have all your answers. We're
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  Speaker 3: just going to do what we do. But let us
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  Speaker 3: know what you do down in the comments. As OP says...
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  Speaker 3: A few days later, Max went to make dinner and
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  Speaker 3: I was up in the bedroom. I was looking for
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  Speaker 3: some socks for Max's drawer and I found a cheap
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  Speaker 3: mobile phone that I never saw before. I looked on
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  Speaker 3: it and it was the text I sent to James.
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  Speaker 1: That's insane. Like, okay.
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  Speaker 3: Wait. It keeps getting worse. It's ICU, which is really
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  Speaker 3: not because everyone kind of knows what's happening here.
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  Speaker 1: But I got it. Savannah saw it now. I got it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm seeing it right now.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone saw it before. Everyone saw it maybe in the title.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm just getting it now.
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  Speaker 3: This guy has a burner phone that he's trying to
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  Speaker 3: make OP believe that it's the ex so that he
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  Speaker 3: gets permission to talk to Brooke, his ex, She read
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  Speaker 3: the title!
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  Speaker 1: That's insane. That is crazy. That's crazy to do that.
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  Speaker 1: I would have broken up with him the second that
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  Speaker 1: he wanted to keep talking to his ex. Based on
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  Speaker 1: their previous actions.
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  Speaker 3: I was livid! He was pretending to be my ex-boyfriend?
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  Speaker 3: I confronted Max straight away, and he admitted that he
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  Speaker 3: wanted to get back in touch with Brooke, and he
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  Speaker 3: thought if I spoke to my ex, James... He could
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  Speaker 3: use that as an excuse to be able to talk
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  Speaker 3: to Brooke.
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  Speaker 1: Insane.
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  Speaker 3: I am pissed off. I am really angry that he
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  Speaker 3: had to do this behind my back. I asked to
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  Speaker 3: see his messages between Brooke and they are all flirty
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  Speaker 3: and just borderline inappropriate.
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  Speaker 1: Dude, break up with him. What's going on here?
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  Speaker 3: My boyfriend pretended to be my ex so he could
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  Speaker 3: speak to his ex. We live together plus own a dog.
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  Speaker 3: Is this salvageable? Where do I go from here?
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  Speaker 1: There's an update. Probably you go out the door.
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  Speaker 4: And go clubbing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you go.
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  Speaker 1: Whoa. Back that up. Back that up.
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  Speaker 3: You go clubbing.
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  Speaker 4: And go clubbing.
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  Speaker 1: You back that up.
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  Speaker 3: You go clubbing.
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  Speaker 1: And you yo-yo your ball. Just right. Just right.
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  Speaker 3: Just right.
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  Speaker 1: There's an update 15 days later. Beep.
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  Speaker 3: I broke up with him the day I posted on Reddit.
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  Speaker 4: Yay!
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  Speaker 1: Efficient, did you? But did you club?
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  Speaker 3: I posted on Reddit in two hours after I ended it.
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  Speaker 3: He didn't take it too well, but I followed through
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  Speaker 3: and I left him. He didn't seem that bothered, to
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  Speaker 3: be honest. I brought my dog and all the vet
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  Speaker 3: bills are under my name, so I legally own the dog.
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  Speaker 3: If he wants to take me to court for him,
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  Speaker 3: he can. But I've looked into it and he won't win.
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  Speaker 3: About all of this situation, I'll never understand why he
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  Speaker 3: did what he did. Surely it would have just been
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  Speaker 3: easier to just message Brooke behind my back to begin
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  Speaker 3: with and said he went to extreme lengths.
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  Speaker 1: Because he's silly.
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  Speaker 3: My only guess is because he felt guilty for talking
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  Speaker 3: to his ex and wanted to make himself feel better?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: None of it makes sense to me. I moved out
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  Speaker 3: of our home straight away and I lived with my
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  Speaker 3: parents while I looked for a property. I found a
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  Speaker 3: place and I'm moving in two weeks, so that's something. DLDR,
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  Speaker 3: I dumped him.
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  Speaker 1: Yay.
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  Speaker 4: Nice.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, get him out of here. This guy sucks. Like,
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  Speaker 1: he's stupid. Yeah, he's silly. He's a silly little boy.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I do to silly little boys? I
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  Speaker 1: buzz them. I buzz them. Buzz them. Buzz them to
• 7:57
  Speaker 1: the buzzards. But we got another story. My ex tracked
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  Speaker 1: me down after seven years, so I had him arrested.
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  Speaker 1: Wee woo, wee woo, call the police. Okay, Liam Neeson.
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  Speaker 1: Trigger warning for mentions of intense stalking. Ay yi yi.
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  Speaker 3: Background.
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  Speaker 1: So Andrew was my first real boyfriend. I was with
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  Speaker 1: him from 2015 to 2016. Not another Andrew. Not another Andrew.
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  Speaker 1: Haven't we had enough? When we got together, I was
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  Speaker 1: 21 and he was 30. Whoa. Nine year difference. Which
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  Speaker 1: I realize now is a huge red flag.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Growth.
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  Speaker 1: But at the time, I didn't know any better and
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  Speaker 1: didn't have anyone in my life to go to for
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  Speaker 1: advice or support. The whole relationship was all real trash fire.
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  Speaker 1: But he was very controlling and treated me like crap.
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  Speaker 1: And I always just thought it was my fault for
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  Speaker 1: not being a better girlfriend. Eventually, I found out that
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  Speaker 1: he was cheating on me for pretty much the whole
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  Speaker 1: time we were together. Why is a 30-year-old getting... Well, okay.
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  Speaker 1: Who's he cheating on you with? 16-year-old? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean.
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  Speaker 1: I confronted him about it and demanded that he stop
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  Speaker 1: sleeping with other girls. Girls, plural?
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  Speaker 4: And you broke up with him, right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that.
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 1: He told me that I was a stupid, immature child
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  Speaker 1: for expecting our relationship to be monogamous because men aren't
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  Speaker 1: built like that. Right.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, wow.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, it's my fault for you cheating.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, wait, sir.
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  Speaker 1: I get it now. Men are animals that have no self-control.
• 9:29
  Speaker 1: And he goes, yeah. And then you go, so they
• 9:31
  Speaker 1: shouldn't be in charge of actually anything and they shouldn't
• 9:34
  Speaker 1: have jobs. Because they're just too simple. Is that what
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: you're saying? Uh, no. I'll never forget that exact quote.
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  Speaker 1: Anne said that I had no right to tell him
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  Speaker 1: what to do. In the middle of arguing with him
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  Speaker 1: about it, he said he was done with me and
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  Speaker 1: just blocked me on everything.
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  Speaker 4: What a relationship to have.
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  Speaker 1: Good. That is awesome. By the way, this comes from TrueLives404.
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  Speaker 1: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: to the r slash okay story time subreddit. Anyway, I
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  Speaker 1: hope he says. Getting dumped this way really messed me up,
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  Speaker 1: especially because at this point in my life, he was
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  Speaker 1: pretty much the only person that I even talked to.
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  Speaker 1: Even though he was the one that cheated, I thought
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  Speaker 1: the relationship ending was my fault for being too clingy
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  Speaker 1: and not mature enough to understand adult relationships. See, I
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  Speaker 1: hate that. That's how, that's, yeah. Yeah. I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: speak it. Speak my truth. That's how I felt.
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  Speaker 3: When I was 16, dating an older man. He was 23,
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  Speaker 3: I think.
• 10:35
  Speaker 1: I think.
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  Speaker 3: I still don't know his actual age. Because like five
• 10:39
  Speaker 3: years later, he made a YouTube channel and said he
• 10:40
  Speaker 3: was 22. And I was like, wait, I'm 20. How
• 10:42
  Speaker 3: am I about to pass you up?
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  Speaker 1: We don't know how old he was. It was really weird.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah. But no, it does feel like that. And
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  Speaker 1: then the worst part was that for the next six
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  Speaker 1: months or so, he would get random girls he was
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  Speaker 1: with to send me photos and videos of them in
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  Speaker 1: bed together.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my God.
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  Speaker 1: Or I assume he was getting them to do it
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  Speaker 1: because it looked like the messages were coming from their numbers.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe he was using random accounts. I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: What the actual?
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  Speaker 1: Or he was texting, like DMing people and saying, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: this is my number. Send it to this account or
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  Speaker 1: send it to this number. Like they might not have
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  Speaker 1: known it. Like that's disgusting.
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  Speaker 4: People walk the earth like this.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. People like this have hands.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously this really upset me and made it harder for
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  Speaker 1: me to move on. I know how stupid it sounds,
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: because he was obviously such a terrible person, but it
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  Speaker 1: took me a long time to get over him. Honestly,
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  Speaker 1: the reason that to this day I haven't had any
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  Speaker 1: other serious relationships is because my experience with Andrew really
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  Speaker 1: turned me off dating anybody. But anyway, all that stopped eventually,
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  Speaker 1: and a couple of years later, I moved to a
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  Speaker 1: completely new state. I don't really stay in contact with
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: anybody that I knew during that part of my life,
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  Speaker 1: so I haven't heard from Andrew or heard anything about
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  Speaker 1: what he's been up to since maybe 2018. I was
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  Speaker 1: at work when my boss came in the back of
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  Speaker 1: the shop and told me that a client was asking
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: for me. I don't want to say exactly what I do,
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: but it's a creative industry where artists have their portfolios online,
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: so it's typical for someone to come into the shop
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  Speaker 1: and ask for a specific artist. So I go out
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  Speaker 1: to the front and see that the client is Andrew.
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  Speaker 1: I was shocked, and for some reason embarrassed that he
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  Speaker 1: was there to see me. I don't know why, but
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  Speaker 1: I just defaulted into customer service mode and asked, Hi,
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  Speaker 1: what can I help you with? Andrew said that he
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: missed me and wanted to talk to me. So he
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: looked me up and saw that I was in Colorado,
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  Speaker 1: so he came to see me.
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  Speaker 2: Yikes.
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  Speaker 1: Scary. Like he seriously said that he came all the
• 12:34
  Speaker 1: way from Arizona to Colorado just because he saw on
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  Speaker 1: the internet that I worked at this shop now. So
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: I ignored that and told him that I could help
• 12:41
  Speaker 1: him with professional services, but otherwise I'd have to ask
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  Speaker 1: him to leave. Andrew kept asking, did I miss him
• 12:47
  Speaker 1: and do I have a new boyfriend now? I just
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: kept asking him questions from our new client checklist and
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: pretending like I didn't hear anything else he was saying.
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: After a couple of minutes, my boss came back out
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  Speaker 1: and asked if everything was okay. I explained to him
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: that this is my ex-boyfriend and that he seems to
• 13:02
  Speaker 1: be here for personal reasons only. So my boss told
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: him that if that's the case, to please leave and furthermore,
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: not to come back.
• 13:09
  Speaker 4: It's literally American Beauty. Love it.
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: Nice job, boss. Andrew seriously looked like he was going
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: to cry.
• 13:16
  Speaker 3: Good.
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  Speaker 1: Cry, little baby. Little baby boy. Cry. Which was very
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: unsettling to me because I've never seen him be emotional
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  Speaker 1: like that. But he left without arguing. My boss went
• 13:26
  Speaker 1: outside and watched him leave to make sure he didn't
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: hang around outside. He came back in and asked me
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: if I wanted him to call the police, which I
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: said I didn't think was necessary. He said okay, but
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: that if I changed my mind to let him know,
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: because he'd back me up and say that Andrea had
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: been trespassing and pestering his employees. Good boss!
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: And?
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: That's true. Really good boss.
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 13:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah, actually, it is my supervisor, and I do what
• 13:49
  Speaker 4: he says, and he says, you gotta get off.
• 13:52
  Speaker 1: You gotta leave.
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  Speaker 4: You gotta leave. Sorry.
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  Speaker 1: He also had someone walk out with me at the
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  Speaker 1: end of my shift, but we didn't see Andrew around anywhere.
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  Speaker 4: Great boss.
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  Speaker 1: I was supposed to work today, but my boss told
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  Speaker 1: me not to come in. He's giving me a paid
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: day off? Your boss is awesome.
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  Speaker 4: A1 boss. A1 boss.
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  Speaker 3: Jeez.
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  Speaker 1: My gosh, amazing. Because he wants to watch and see
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  Speaker 1: if Andrew comes around again looking for me.
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  Speaker 4: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: So now I'm thinking about it today and trying to
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: decide if this is worth going to the police. Probably is.
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know what to do and I'm not sure
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: if I should be scared. I looked up our local
• 14:23
  Speaker 1: laws about stalking and I don't think it's illegal to
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: come into someone's job one time and leave after you're
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: asked to. So I don't think they'd care. Probably, unfortunately,
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: they would not care. Yeah. But it might also be
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: good to have it on the record that he did
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  Speaker 1: come in just in case he does anything else. Also cool.
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: I also don't understand what the F he even wants.
• 14:44
  Speaker 1: He's the one who broke up with me and it's
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: been almost seven years. And we do have an update
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: about a month later. So how did he find her?
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: I guess she posted online somewhere that she was at
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: this new job. And he must have known kind of
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: where she lived. And then maybe he showed up to
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: multiple locations. Or maybe this is just a one location thing.
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: Update! Update!
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: About a month ago, I posted about my ex-boyfriend showing
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: up at my job unexpectedly. I don't think I'm allowed
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: to link, but it's in my post history. Everyone told
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: me I should report it to the police just in
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: case he showed up again. But I decided not to
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: because I really didn't think he was going to. This
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: turned out to be a big mistake, and that's why
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: I wanted to update you all on what happened afterwards.
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: A week after he came into my job, I also
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: saw my ex hanging around in the parking lot outside
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: of my apartment building.
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: Oh!
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: He didn't try to talk to me or anything, but
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: I saw him sitting in his car when I went inside.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: So then I called the police and told them that
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: my ex-boyfriend was outside my apartment and that he had
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: also showed up at my place of employment a week
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: earlier and that he was harmful and I was scared
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: of him. Good job, OP. I'm really proud of you
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: for trusting your gut.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: Because that seems like that is the thing that you
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: learn in the seven years since. So good job. It
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: is better to be safe than sorry.
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: Always.
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: I would hope, OP2, that you have, like, mace or
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: something on you not even just for your ex but
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: just in general i think.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: That would be wise a cop car came and when
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: it showed up my ex immediately tried to run away
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: like he got out of the car and tried to
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: run away down the street what an idiot used your
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: car dummy he's like.
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: One man one man power better than cop car 300 horsepower.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: So the cops stopped him and put him in handcuffs
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: and searched his car They found zip ties and a
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: crowbar that he admitted he was planning to use to
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: come after me. OP, I am so glad that you
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: trusted your gut. I am so glad that you trusted
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: your gut. I will say, what is the reasonable cause
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: there to enter his car? I guess because he ran away.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess so.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: And it's like, oh, like, why are you running away?
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: What do you have to hide?
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: Yeah, why are you running away from the cops?
• 16:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, running, leaving your car there instead of like driving away.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: That's terrifying. I'm so sorry. So right now he's in
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: jail and hopefully he'll stay there. I also have a
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: restraining order against him. Apparently that triggers automatically when someone
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: is arrested for a violent crime against you. But anyway,
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I wanted to share this so that other women won't
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: make the mistake I made. If someone makes you even
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: the slightest bit uncomfortable, go to the police. That's not
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: quite worded, but I understand what you mean. If someone
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: is making you uncomfortable and you feel like you are
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: in danger... Trust your gut.
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: Savannah's ready to fart on me at any time. I'm uncomfortable.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: I'm in danger. I'm lucky that I just happened to
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: see my ex before he had a chance to do
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: anything to me. It's still unclear to me whether he
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: came to my state with the intent of coming after
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: me or if that was what he decided to do
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: because he didn't like how I acted when he came
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: into my job. But either way, I should have gone
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: to the police in the first place. And we do
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: have comments, but do you have any final thoughts?
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: I'm just happy OP's safe.
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: And he's behind bars.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, me too. I mean, that's just insane. Like, these
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: people are just, like, out there.
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: Truly can't be goofy about that. No. I will be honest.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah. There's nothing to be goofy about here because I'm
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: just glad you're safe. Yeah.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: The fact that he was, like, actually, like, saw you.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: Had plans. Didn't, like.
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: And he confessed it, too.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like.
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: They're, like, zip ties, crowbar. What's, why? It's just, like, insane.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Like, what?
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: Like.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Just move on. Yes, just move on. Go get help.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Just figure yourself out. Why do you have to ruin
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: someone's life?
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, we've got some comments. May I
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: suggest you move, please? Opie says, I'll probably have to.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: It's okay for now because he's in jail. But if
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: and when he gets out, I don't think I'll feel
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: safe knowing that he knows where I am. Yeah. Another
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: commenter says, was he following you home after work and
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: that's how he knows where your apartment is? This is
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: terrifying to think he might have been watching you for
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: a while. I'm so sorry you're going through this, and
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: I'm so glad the police helped you. Sending all my
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: good vibes that he gets put away. OP says, that's
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: what must have happened, yes. Commoner says, do you know
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: how he found your address or where you worked? It
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: would be best to figure that out and plug that
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: hole before making your next move. OP says, I know
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: that he found out where I worked because of my
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: professional portfolio online. And then I believe that he figured
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: out where I live by following me home from work. Terrifying.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: So scary. But that is the end of that story.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: And we've got another one coming right up.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: My ex-husband wants me to raise his mistress's baby. I said,
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: heck no.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm getting a call. Ring, ring. I can't. I
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: can't do that. I gotta go. I'm getting a call.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: I can't. I can't do that. I can't do that
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: for you. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I gotta take this.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: It's the Pope.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: My 30 female, ex-husband 32 male, and I have two children,
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: four male, two female. We have been divorced just about
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: six months, and he is now expecting a baby with
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: his new girlfriend. I'm admittedly not over him. We were
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: together 10 years, my entire adulthood. It was and is
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: a messy split. I'm still bitter and hurt about it.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: And he seems to have completely moved on somehow. When
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: we had our oldest, neither of us wanted him in daycare.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: No judgment. We just didn't feel comfortable.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: So I stayed home and eventually started my own business
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: that allows me to work 99% remotely. But there is
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: that 0.1% or not 0.1, just 1%.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: Math, am I right? He comes in one day a year.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: My parents are also local and retired and help me
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: out as much as they can. This arrangement works for
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: me and I get to spend time with both of
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: my kids. Now, X's girlfriend is five months pregnant and
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: they got in a huge fight because she asked him
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: to tour daycares and he said absolutely not. He wants
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: her to stay home with the baby. None of his
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: kids are to go in daycare. Admittedly, the ones here
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: do suck. He called me to vent and then he
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: dropped the bomb. He asked if I would be willing
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: to take care of their baby since I'm home with
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: our two and get help from my parents. And when
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: I have to take the kids to the office, I
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: can because I own it.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: Oh, ring me. I'm getting a call. I got to go.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: It's the Pope.
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: Sophia's really popular today.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: I have to go. I wish I could do that.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: But the Pope needs me. He wants me to be
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: the new Pope. Oh, I got to go. Yeah. I'm
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: going to be really busy. No, that's immediately no. Like,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: no brainer. He mentioned that I know how.
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: He feels about his kids in one of those daycares,
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: and I sort of lost it on him.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: You know how it feels when you have the kids
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: in the daycare, and you go, you know how it
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: feels when you cheat on me?
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: It was a year and a half of walled up
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: anger and hurt. And I said some nasty things that
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: I've since apologized for. By the way, this comes from
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: Special Agent Garbage. And if you want to submit your
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: As Opie says, fast forward to three days later, new
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: girlfriend pulled me to the side when I dropped off
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: my kids to their house and asked why I was
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: so ugly about it. And why I thought, My kids
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: were better than hers. And why her baby doesn't deserve
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: the same things mine got. Girl, what?
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Because it's not my baby. That's not my baby. That's
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: your baby. Are you trying to like live my life?
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: What a thought process to have.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: That's insane. I'd be like, hey, do you want to
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: go up to someone's random person's house, knock on the
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: door and say, hey, take care of my baby. You
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: should babysit my baby for free.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because you should want the same thing for my
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: child that I want.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, go up to any rich person's house.
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: Your children have a great life. My child could have
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: a great life with you.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: Give my child that life. I want your life.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: Crazy. I never said that, but apologize if anything I
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: said came off like that. Told her I'm happy for them.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: I'm not, but pleasantries.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: But was certainly not going to babysit their kid. She's
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: a nurse, so I get she can't work from home
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: and doesn't want to give up her career, but they
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: should have thought about that. I left before it blew
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: up again, but ex called me about two hours later
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: and asked me to come get the kids because he
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: and the new girlfriend were fighting and he didn't want
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: them around for it.
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: This is a trick! And he's like, can you just
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: take the kids now? I'll be back in eight hours.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: That's just, ugh.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: I'd be so pissed.
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: Because, like, you don't want the kids to, like, see
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: that and whatever.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: No.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Obviously, because they're two and four. But, like, also, I
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: can't just be at your beck and call.
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: I have things to do. That's so weird to be like, hey,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: can you pick up the kids? I'm fighting with my wife. Right? Weird.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: I pick them up, of course.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: And X texted me on the drive home and asked
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: again if I would babysit for them for $ 200 a week.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: That is pretty cheap. A week? I said, no.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: And he called me a bitter witch and said I'm
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: being an a-hole because I'm hurt. Okay, cool.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: I'll take that. Sure, sure. Yes, that's it. Whatever makes
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: you sleep at night. You nailed it.
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: All right, cool.
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: They're your kids.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Have fun. I don't see it this way at all.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: I reiterated that the request is absurd and I would
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: not be talking about it anymore.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: This was yesterday and all.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: Day today, New girlfriend has been texting me and having
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: her new friends and family review bomb my business.
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: Isn't that illegal? Isn't that defamation?
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: I think it is. That's defamation.
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: Oh, wow.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: You could probably take a report for that.
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: That's insane to me.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: It would be like, oh, like putting like zero stars.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Oh, my God. Wow. I'm not worried about it. My
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: clients know my work. Oh, okay. Never mind.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: Ex-husband hasn't said anything else, but has been shorter with
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: me in our conversations about the kids. So am I
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: the a-hole for refusing to keep my ex-husband's new baby?
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: And the verdict is not the a-hole, obviously.
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: Clear as day.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: Not the a-hole. You are absolved because you are also
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: the Pope. Self-absolution. I got you an awesome job. Congratulations.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: You are now the Pope. I showed that to my
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: boyfriend and his brother and his brother's boyfriend, and they
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: were cracking up. Isn't it so good? That's, by the way, guys.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: We had him on the show. Tom McGovern, the guy
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: from Wolf of Glendale, their new album dropped. Yeah, it's
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: very funny, and he's a funny guy. And also watch
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: that episode.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Now I am the Pope. More people should watch that,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: because we had a great time. Yeah, I know. More
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: people should watch that. It's really funny.
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: Anyway, relevant comments. Tangerine daydreams, not the a-hole. I don't
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: understand how they can possibly expect you to watch their children.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: This is not your responsibility. Does he know that you're
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: still not over him? Asking because it sounds like he
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: could be using your feelings for him to guilt you
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: into this. Stick with a resounding no. OP responds, he knows.
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: I made a stupid mistake right after the divorce was final,
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: right around the time he got a new girlfriend pregnant, ouch,
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: and fell for his regret speech. We had spicy sleep
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: and I told him I didn't want this either and
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: maybe we could.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Work on things.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: And we had been having the start over conversation up
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: until new girl found out she was pregnant and he
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: finally told me.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: About it two months ago. Dang. So he's playing.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: Playing with you. He's a freaking player. He's a player player.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: My heart is broken. But logically, I know we're done here.
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: I will get past it. Butterpie Scottish says, not the a-hole.
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: This timeline is a bit confusing.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Did he cheat?
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: OP responds, yes, he was cheating with her for some time.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: I don't know exactly how long, but definitely before we
• 26:30
  Speaker 3: were divorced. deleted says not the a-hole your ex's new
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: kid isn't your responsibility not only that but i'd find
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: it strange if you did babysit your ex's child that
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: he had with his new girlfriend so not only is
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: it morally not your responsibility but socially i'd find that
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: weird clearly not the a-hole also i don't know if
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: you have any custody agreements in place but i'd look
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: into getting one he called me two hours later to
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: get the kids is a major red flag yeah That's
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying, because he can just use that anytime
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: and be like, oh, and even use it for his
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: own child. Yeah.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, my gosh, emergency. Like with my wife. Can
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: you hear? Please, please take the kids. I got to go.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: And it's like, it's just date night.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: And it's like, that's not. See, we're going to be
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: in the Turks and Caicos. That's what I came up with. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: OP responds, we have 60-40 joint custody.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: I got the majority because he works weird hours and
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: it just made sense. He's a great dad, honestly. The
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: kids think he's Superman and I want to preserve that.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: We always had the agreement not to do big fights
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: in front of the kids and he's upheld that in
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: his new relationship so I can respect that to an extent.
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: He did come over and do movie night and bedtime
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: at my house with them that same night.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, at least he's a good dad even if
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: he's a terrible partner.
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: I think someone said in the chat, I think it
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: was Christina saying, you know, if all those people were
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: review bombing your business, why don't they take care of
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: the kids?
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you just respond, hello, I'm sorry you do not
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: like my service. Have you thought about babysitting his children?
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: I would say, if he asked me again, hey, could
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: you babysit the kids that are not yours? I go,
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: all right, well, I have options for you. You should
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: make a list. Yeah, here's the list.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I'll take it.
• 28:16
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• 28:24
  Speaker 3: A few of the repeat things I've seen addressed below.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: It looks like Google has flagged the influx of reviews
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: for spam. And I did call my lawyer to see
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: what she recommends going forward. Yes, my ex was cheating
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: with his girlfriend for some time before we divorced. I
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: don't know how long exactly and don't think I want
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: to know. I'm also a licensed professional, so going against
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: her nursing license is a surefire way to make this worse.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: Lawyer will advise on how to proceed.
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: That's on her. Yeah, you're going to throw gasoline on
• 28:53
  Speaker 4: fire already? Yeah, good luck. Have fun.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: I don't mind if this is shared on social media.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: Figured that comes with posting here. Second, and probably final
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: update for now. Google is removing the reviews.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Nice. Nice.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: Whack-a-doodle and her idiot family all have the same last name,
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: so it was pretty easy to see the reviews weren't genuine.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: The ones from her friends with different names.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: Were removed, too, because, again, it was poorly executed at best.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: X has apologized for her behavior, and apparently he is
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: taking some time away, and she thought he was with me.
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: I have no idea where he went after he left
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: my house Tuesday night when the kids went to bed.
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: Don't tell me there's a third woman.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sure there is.
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: He certainly is not staying here. We have only spoken
• 29:35
  Speaker 3: to confirm pickup from swim lessons today. My parents had
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: already planned... to have the kids this weekend. X has
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: a graduation to go to, and I am going to
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: the beach with friends, so I don't have to worry
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: about where they're going since X is effectively.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: Homeless right now.
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: Oh, wow.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: Dang. Well, he's probably going to lose more custody.
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: Oof.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: There's a second update. I just want to get into it. Yeah,
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: I feel like OP is doing everything she can right now.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: And just don't let him get in your head. Because
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: that's what he's trying to do. Yeah, truthfully, he is.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: He's in your head. He's in your head.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: Get him out of my head.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you just... Truthfully, he cannot just do that.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: Like, there has to be, like, some sort of law
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: or something where, like.
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: Zeus's law.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: Zeus's law says.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: To do what?
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Like, that you.
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: Like, because she, I mean, she could just, like, take, or, like,
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: she wouldn't have to take care of his kid.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: Like, I don't know. Is there anything to, like, protect
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: you from that? Like, I don't even know.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: I mean, just saying no. Yeah, just saying no and then, like.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, just getting a custody agreement for your children
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: and then saying no whenever they ask you. That's all
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: you can do. That's all you need to do. Update two.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: 99% sure a kid isn't his.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Oh, dang.
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: Well, that's a plot twist.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: So now you're just going to watch some rando kid,
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: even though that was a rando kid.
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: So the cheater got cheated on.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, unsurprising. Also, it makes sense because she probably knew, oh,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: he's going to leave me. Finds out she's pregnant and
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: she's like, oh, yeah, this is yours. This is yours.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: Don't leave me.
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: It's a cheater's affair. Mm-hmm.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: He and new girlfriend are lily white. I'm black and
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: white by racial.
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: And the little girl is pretty obviously mixed race. She
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: looks more like me than him, lol.
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: Uh-oh.
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: I am happy and healing and glad to be out
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: of the mess with the both of them so I
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: can get my life back.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: Well, I'm happy for you. That's all. Get your life
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: in order and ignore this guy and someday you'll get
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: over him and it'll be like a terrible dream. Yeah,
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: it just.
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: Unfortunate how it plays out, but truthfully, thank God it's
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: not you.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Yes. Glad that you don't have to worry about it.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: Hands clean, he cheated, it's all him. Let him go,
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: let him be, whatever. As long as you're being a
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: good parent, we're all good.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: Agreed.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: All good here. But that's the end of that story.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: My ex's new fiance demanded my engagement ring back.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: I refused. So that's mine, actually.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: So I, 24 female, was with Kin... 28 male. That's
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: a name, by the way. Not like with kin.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: I was with kin. Like a child.
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: This is the name, kin.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: For five years on and off. We go back when
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: I was in second grade and he was in sixth grade.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: Bang. Had the biggest crush for a long time.
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: That's going way back.
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: I hope it was just you had a crush on him.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: It's kind of weird for a sixth grader to be like,
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: I love that second grader.
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: How was your art class going?
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: How were your multiplication tables? Yeah, did you do them well?
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: We did get together when I was 19 and he
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: was 23.
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: He is my older brother's best friend. Best brother? Still
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: our best friends. Oh, I said brother's best friend is
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: the one for me. My best friend's brother is the
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: one for me. My brother's best friend is the one
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: for me. We do have a two-year-old son together. Whoa.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: So you can get the backstory. Oh, thank you.
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: Was that the backstory?
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Okay. That was all the backstory we got.
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: Dang.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: It was like you just were kind of obsessed with him,
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: and then you fell in love.
• 33:13
  Speaker 4: How does your brother feel about this?
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: He probably was like, oh, what the heck, dude? That's
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: my best friend.
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: Dude, my best friend's now my brother-in-law.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: Sick. That's actually kind of cool.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: We broke up due to him moving to a different
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: state a few months ago. Now he moved back because
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: his grandmother is not doing well. We didn't get back together. He, however,
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: reconnected with his first girlfriend from high school. Let's call
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: her Molly, 32 female, who also used to date his
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: older cousin, LOL.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: What is happening? Why is everyone dating everyone? Small town.
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: For some reason, Molly never liked me, and I didn't
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: really initiate any bad feelings towards her.
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: Gee, I wonder why his first... high school girlfriend hates
• 33:53
  Speaker 4: you because you became his girlfriend.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that would, that would be it.
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: I don't really know her, but she is good with
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: her son. However, not good with me. I treat her
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: with kindness when she's around and I usually leave her alone.
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: She just gives me these glares and says a lot
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: of really passive aggressive stuff to me, which I don't
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: let get to me. Ken's family really adores me and
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: I love them so much. When I was with Ken,
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: He did propose to me with his grandmother's ring, which
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: I still do have.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: What?
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: His grandmother also gave me her silver jewelry with turquoise
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: on them. And some vintage western jewelry.
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: Dang.
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: You really lucked out.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: Which were in the family for years. Dang.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: Okay. Yeah. She likes you. Who cares about other ladies?
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Grandma likes you. Truthfully, I'd be dating the grandma at
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: this point. Yeah, grandma's got the wealth.
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: She also gave me a very special ring and bracelet
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: that I wear every day. The ring is a matching ring,
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: which Ken has as well. It belonged to his step
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: grandfather and his grandmother.
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: Geez, they really like you.
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: Either way, this comes from deleted. And if you want
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: okay story time subreddit. However, Molly learned of this and
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: she demanded I give her all the silver jewelry and
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: the engagement ring, especially the matching rings. She thinks I
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: should give them to her because she's going to be
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: in their family now and I'm going to be second fiddled.
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: Well, it's so funny that you say that because actually
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: grandma loves me more than you. And that's why she
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: gave me all the jewelry.
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: And the thing is the grandma gave it to you.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: Not even like him. Also, it would be so insulting,
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: I think, to the grandma to just give that away.
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: To some other girl who she's like, no, I'd be like, actually,
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: you'd have to talk to the grandma.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Maybe talk to her about that.
• 35:42
  Speaker 3: Sorry.
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: I just have the ring on, look at it and
• 35:44
  Speaker 4: go over my dead body.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: It ain't happening, sister. She had said that the only
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: reason I'm around is because we have a child. That's
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: what you want to think. Of course I told her no.
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: And had said that this jewelry means so much to
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: me and was given to me and Kin's family is
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: a second family to me. That seemed to make her
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: more angry and it got to the point.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: I had to block her.
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: Yet she still continues to pester me about it. I
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: did tell Kin about it and he said he will
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: take care of it but it still is happening. His
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: grandmother is literally like a second grandmother to me. I
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: did lose my grandmother from my father's side when I
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: was 14, and it was really hard on me until
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: I met Ken's grandmother, and we talk a lot and
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: see each other from time to time, where I see
• 36:29
  Speaker 3: her as my grandmother. I cherish them so much, and
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: especially now that she's not doing so well.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: So Reddit, am I the a-hole for not giving it
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: to her? Absolutely not. Do not give her those rings.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: She doesn't even like you. Why would you do her
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: a favor when she's mean? And also, it's like an
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: engagement ring.
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: That's Ken's job to be like, hey, can I have
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: that back or something?
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: Which, stupid move on him if he says that. I
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: think that's dumb. It's just not happening. Molly, as much
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: as you want to piss and moan.
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: That's all it is. Pissing and moaning. You're just doing
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: it to yourself. Because you're not getting any of this jewelry, buddy.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: No, sir.
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: There's an edit. Everyone's saying I should give the engagement
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: ring back. I forgot to add that Ken's grandmother wants
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: me to keep it and Ken doesn't care for it.
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: He wants me to keep it.
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: Wait, I'm sorry.
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: Someone said to give the engagement ring back? That's what
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: I said.
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: I was like, I could understand if Ken was like, hey,
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: can I have the engagement ring back?
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: But crazy for the commenters to be like, yeah, give
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: the engagement ring back.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no. My friend actually had a fight with her
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: like boyfriend at the time over because she was married
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: and got divorced and still had the ring.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: And he was like, you need to sell it. Like,
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: that's just a reminder. You have to sell it.
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: She's like, OK, like, I don't know what you want.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: That was before I met you.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: So I don't know.
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: You know, so this is like a universal story, I feel.
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: So does the rest of Ken's family. His two older
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: sisters don't want it, nor his older brother. It's just
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: Molly who's making it a problem.
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: Of course. There's an update.
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fashion host here. We're going
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: of ads from our sponsors. So I was supposed to
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: have a serious, important chat with Ken about his crazy fiance, Molly.
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: Oh, so they are engaged. Oh, I'm totally missing the story.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I thought they were just boyfriend, girlfriend, but
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: I guess.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't. I didn't. Okay. Okay. This is fiance.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize that. Oh, and she wants that ring.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I actually totally misunderstood. Why would you want someone else's ring?
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: I thought that they were still together, and Molly was...
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: I missed the part where Molly was the new girlfriend.
• 38:39
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: Who do you think Molly was? Yeah, I thought she was, like,
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: an ex-girlfriend. Well, she was. Like, she was... He went
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: back to... He went back to his ex-girlfriend. Yeah, he
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: went back to the ex in high school, which is Molly.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: If I said anything that didn't make sense, it's because
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: I missed that part.
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: And then I guess now they are engaged, which.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Okay. Skip that entire part. That was never mentioned. I
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: completely understand.
• 38:59
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: Can... If he wanted the engagement ring back, yes, could ask.
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: It's not Molly's place to ask you. But also, I
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: feel like if I was in a relationship and then
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: the guy, like... Or if he, like, proposed to me,
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: engaged to me. If he proposed to me, but, like, before, like,
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: asked the last girlfriend to have that ring to propose
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: to me. I wouldn't want it. Yeah, I wouldn't want
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: to be proposed to with that ring.
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: That's very awkward, I'd be like, no.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: That's your ex-fiance's ring? Yeah, and she actually wants it. Yeah,
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: that's really weird. I'd be like, no, that's just a
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: reminder of all the.
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: You gave that to her. Well, technically, again, Kin's grandmother.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Gave it to her. Yes, which even more so is like,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: that's mine.
• 39:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: We were to meet at a spot we both agreed on,
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: and next you know, when I got there, Kin brought Molly,
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: and I should have just walked away, but I didn't.
• 39:47
  Speaker 3: I tried to be the bigger person. So I approached
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: them both, and Molly didn't look at me until we
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: started talking about her behavior towards me, especially around our son.
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: She started saying I was lying and just causing trouble
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: for them. She really bashed me so much in front
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: of Ken. For some reason, Ken didn't say anything and
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: let her verbally mistreat me so much. I had to
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: walk away, not before she admitted to destroying my art
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: I made for Ken and gifts I got.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: Him, our pictures together. That's really messed up. Okay, so
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: she is crazy.
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: Crazy ex-girlfriend, crazy current girlfriend. Also the fact that he's
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: doing nothing. Yeah, he's literally just like, I don't know,
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: my grandma gave that to her.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: Not that you have to stand up for your ex,
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: but the thing is, you can be like, okay, that's enough.
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: Now you're just name calling, whatever. I'm sure she was
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: calling her name. Yeah, I'd be like, hey, can we not? Yeah.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Do that. We're adults.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: She's 32.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: Come on. We can be adults here and just have
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: a normal conversation. I couldn't take it, so I yelled
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: at her and called her colorful names, which I know
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: I shouldn't. Purple. Green. Red.
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: Blue.
• 40:51
  Speaker 5: Turquoise.
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: Blue.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: Turquoise. Cyan.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: Magenta.
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: Seafoam green. Seafoam green.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: How could you say that?
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: But after everything, Seen Kin just let her do those
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: things right in front of him. He was so unfazed
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: by her tantrum towards me. I just told him, I'm
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: going to go for full custody so I can make
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: sure that crazy banshee doesn't be near me or my son.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: Fair. Truthfully, yeah. Yeah. That was a real big letdown.
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: To let her just, like, say all that stuff.
• 41:22
  Speaker 3: And you just sit there. Like, that is the mother
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: of your child.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: What are you there for? Like, why are you there?
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: I guarantee you he's just sitting there because he's like,
• 41:29
  Speaker 4: for once, I'm not getting yelled at.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: He's like, oh, okay. She's talking to me. But just, like, dude,
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: if you're unhappy, like, why are you spreading that?
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: Tell me you're unhappy by telling me you're not happy.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: I couldn't look at Kin the same after that. No
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: more at all.
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: I had to call my best friend Leah and my
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: older brother Alex. After I left, I told them what happened.
• 41:50
  Speaker 3: My brother Alex seriously drilled into Kin when he called him.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, because they're best friends. Yeah. Oh, I forgot
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: about that. Dang. Yeah, this is her brother's best friend.
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so she's like, yeah, he said nothing and they
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: just call me names, blah, blah, blah.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: Brother, he just said nothing. Dang. And he's like, I
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: will solve this. Yeah, brother to the rescue.
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: My friend Leah comforted me and made sure I was okay.
• 42:14
  Speaker 3: She told me she will help me with anything and
• 42:16
  Speaker 3: that she's my biggest supporter. Also, what is weird is
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: Molly liked my brother for some odd reason, but my
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: brother never liked her, especially about how she was treating
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: me and saw.
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: In person.
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: Leah did message Ken and tell him that he was
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: an idiot and that she will throw Molly's butt out
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: the window if she is ever to be near me
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: or my son again. Ken did try to get a
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: hold of me, but I blocked him on everything. I
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: don't know if you can fully do that because he
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: is the father of a child.
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you do have a kid together.
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: That if he wanted to message me or talk to me,
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: he can go through my friend Leah or my brother.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: So now here I am, gonna.
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: File for full custody and make sure he has supervised visitation.
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: I will try to make that happen. I tried to
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: be the bigger person, but I can't do it anymore.
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: I can't have someone who is that unhinged around me
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: and my son, especially when it was someone who I
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: loved more than life itself. I can't do it anymore
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: with him. This was way more than the whole engagement
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: ring and silver jewelry. It's like she tried to erase
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: me and be my little boy's new mom. And his
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: own father just watched and looked like he wanted to
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: make that reality.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Dang. Concerning. You were hurting. Yeah. I'm so sorry. That
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: is tough. Dang.
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: I'm going to make sure to keep my jewelry and
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: my son all safe. And I have my friends and
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: family for help. But honestly, thank you all. I hope
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: for the best for all of you beautiful people.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: And there's a second update.
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: Oh, no.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: I hope it doesn't get worse. I hope that you
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: got full custody.
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 43:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: Or at least, like, you know, majority or something. Yeah,
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: like 80-20 or something.
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: Ken finally realizes, oh, I don't like Molly.
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, wait. Molly kind of sucks. Yeah. Ugh, doesn't that.
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: Ugh. It's a bad taste in my mouth when, like,
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: you've known this person and then they go for, like,
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: a horrible person.
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: You're like, what? Do I even know you? Yeah, it's like,
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: that's what you wanted? Yeah.
• 44:16
  Speaker 3: What?
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: You didn't like me, but you liked.
• 44:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you choose this absolute monstrosity over, like... me yeah
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: it's kind of crazy.
• 44:26
  Speaker 4: I know this isn't related well maybe actually it is
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: related but why did kin have to because you are
• 44:31
  Speaker 4: engaged in a sense right op and kin but then
• 44:35
  Speaker 4: he had to move to another state.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Why yeah actually i don't know.
• 44:39
  Speaker 4: And then he comes back and rather than continue your
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: relationship because we don't have it's very blurry on why
• 44:44
  Speaker 4: you guys did not continue your relationship after you had
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: a child and then he comes back To see his grandma.
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: That's why I was confused. I was like, what?
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah. That's very blurried and muddied that I'm very like,
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: where's the line where this got disconnected between you and Kin?
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 44:58
  Speaker 4: And now he's with Molly.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. That's true.
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: I didn't even realize, like, they really, the only thing that,
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: the only backstory we got from them breaking up is them, like,
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: he just moved.
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: He just moved. Yeah, he just moved.
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: He just moved to another state.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah. That's why I was like, wait,
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: they broke up? Yeah. And then they break up.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: And then like who. It was so quick. Who got
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: the child? Like what was happening there? Because they had
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: already had the child and then he moved away. So
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: and then he came back. Yeah.
• 45:24
  Speaker 4: What happened there?
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: I don't know. What happened? Maybe we'll get it. What happened?
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: What happened?
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: Update two.
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: After the whole messy ordeal, I did get a lawyer,
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: which was my friend's uncle. I have gotten all the
• 45:36
  Speaker 3: text messages from Molly and her friends. Just got everything
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: in order and ready to go. I did show Kin's
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: older siblings and cousin and his grandmother everything so they
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: know not to trust Molly around. How deranged she is.
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: They all blocked her and she was no longer welcome
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: to Kin's grandmother's house or around anyone. Kin did try
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: to reach me after blocking him trying to explain himself
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: I believe but I didn't answer him for a little while.
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: My brother ignored him and so did most of our
• 46:04
  Speaker 3: friends but I did unblock him and read all of
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: the messages where he says he was sorry for everything.
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: to regretting breaking up with me, destroying our little family,
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: and to saying he loves me.
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: Dang. Whoa, what a plot twist. Wow, I didn't need
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: to know all that. Whoa, wait. Oh, no.
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: Wait, there's more.
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: There's more.
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: He wants to marry me this time, to getting me
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: pregnant again, to wanting more kids.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: He said he will leave Molly for me.
• 46:37
  Speaker 4: This is weird.
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: This is too, I would not touch that with a
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: 10-foot pole.
• 46:42
  Speaker 4: I go, what's the catch?
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: The catch is Ken. Ken is the catch.
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: Do not try to do that. And by catch, I
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: mean he's not a catch. That's crazy.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, no, no, no, no.
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: I was honestly really nervous after reading all of those
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: and listening to his voicemail where he was crying not
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: to leave him or be with anyone else or marry them,
• 47:01
  Speaker 3: which I wasn't dating anyone.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: You literally already left me. What are you talking about? Yeah,
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: I don't, dude. This is weird. This is weird. Very weird.
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: He did try to go over to my family's ranch,
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: which is two hours away at the countryside, and my
• 47:15
  Speaker 3: aunt didn't answer for him and told him to go away.
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: She told me he had waited for me for such
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: a long time and Molly wasn't there. He did leave
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: and went to my brother's house where I was at,
• 47:26
  Speaker 3: demanding to know where I was and our son. But
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: my brother, of course... Told him I wasn't here and
• 47:31
  Speaker 3: he needed to leave. It took him 10 minutes.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: But he did leave.
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: I did block him again after everything and his actions
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: are making me scared.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay. Well, now this is not good. I mean, truthfully,
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: I don't know him. Do you think that he would
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: be like... Dangerous? Yeah, dangerous. I don't know. I think
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: this is all just a little bit. I think he's spiraling.
• 47:52
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: I think he's losing a lot of the friends and
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: then Molly and then, you know, his son. I think
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: he is spiraling and I think he's not in a
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: good place right now, which is not your responsibility to fix.
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: But I don't think that contact with him will help
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: him either. Yeah.
• 48:08
  Speaker 4: He's spiraling and getting desperate.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 48:12
  Speaker 3: Like showing up places and being like, you need to
• 48:15
  Speaker 3: answer me.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: And it's like, dude, you messed up. It's too late.
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: It's too late.
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's too late.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: Literally.
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: I don't think he did break up with Molly, and
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: I'm sure she knows what's going on, but I don't know.
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: Just a little update for you all, and if anything
• 48:29
  Speaker 3: else happens, I will update you all.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: Have a safe day, and there's a third update. They
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: keep coming.
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: Geez.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I really hope it got better, and I hope he's like, yeah,
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: I'm actually in a really great place. My son's doing well.
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: Kid got help.
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: Everything's fine. Kid got help. I'm married to another person
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: who's lovely.
• 48:46
  Speaker 4: Ooh.
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: Still in contact with his grandma. Update three.
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: This is going to be my last update and final post.
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: I have fully unblocked Ken again, and he showed me
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: proof he had broken up with Molly and blocked her
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: on everything so he can be in his son's life.
• 49:00
  Speaker 3: We are going back now to our custody arrangement. All
• 49:04
  Speaker 3: of his family are happy that she's out of the picture.
• 49:07
  Speaker 3: Ken did ask if we can try again. I did
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: tell him no, and maybe in the future when we
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: are both fully ready.
• 49:13
  Speaker 4: Okay, good. Don't go.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: That is a start for sure.
• 49:17
  Speaker 4: And we take things very slow and cautiously.
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: And safely.
• 49:23
  Speaker 3: My big brother is kind of back to talking with Kin,
• 49:26
  Speaker 3: not fully yet. Our friends are keeping their distance with
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: Kin after what Molly has put everyone through. I did
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: get messages again from Molly from a different account she
• 49:35
  Speaker 3: made and started sending me messages like, I destroyed her life.
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: Took everything from her. That Ken was hers first before
• 49:43
  Speaker 3: we dated. That she took Ken's virginity and she was
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: supposed to have his first child.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: Dude, she's just going, Ken is just going back between
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: two women. Back and forth. Back and forth between two women.
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: And if Ken and I have another kid, she hopes
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: it won't.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, she hopes bad things. Oh, yikes. We're going to
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: leave it at that. That's when I blocked her again.
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: I wasn't surprised about her disgusting behavior, but still couldn't
• 50:10
  Speaker 3: believe that Ken brought her around our son. She could
• 50:14
  Speaker 3: have been training my child to hate me when I
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: wasn't around. She's gone now, and I do worry sometimes
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: if she will try to do something to me, so
• 50:21
  Speaker 3: I plan on getting a restraining.
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: Order against her.
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: On the other hand, Ken is being a good dad
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: and hasn't pressured me to get back together. He still
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: does say he loves me and wants to hold me,
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: but I make sure he knows there are boundaries between
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: us and that I'm not ready for stuff like that.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, put those boundaries up stronger. Don't touch me.
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: I did visit his grandmother recently and we had a
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: great time crocheting together.
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: Big wins. And it was fun.
• 50:47
  Speaker 3: But she's getting weaker and weaker, which is breaking my heart.
• 50:50
  Speaker 3: So I am planning still to go see her. That
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: is all I will be posting and will not be
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: posting anymore.
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: Thank you again. And I hope you all have a
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: lovely winter. I mean, it's the best ending we were
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: going to get in this story. Truthfully, yeah.
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: I think you did everything in your power, Opie, to
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: make sure that your son was okay, make sure that
• 51:11
  Speaker 3: you were okay. And I think that's what was most
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: important in this.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and clearly very successful at snapping Ken out of
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: whatever days he was in with Molly and making him
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: realize that he was going to lose his son.
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: And everything else.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and everything. Literally his entire life fell apart. And
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: that was just, I mean, that was, it was him
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: and Molly's fault. Like, none of that was your fault, Opie.
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: None of it was your fault. Like, he had it coming.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: He had it coming. He only had himself to blame.
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story and the end
• 51:44
  Speaker 3: of this episode. So if you love us, make sure
• 51:46
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• 51:47
  Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.