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Childless Women · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mamas, do
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  Speaker 1: you think that child bliss women working past thirty actually
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  Speaker 1: wish they had stayed home and had kids.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's Mama Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now are American Mama's Terry Edeville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burlison. There was a new study out that's a
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  Speaker 1: little depressing, but it shows that if a woman reaches
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  Speaker 1: the age of thirty without having had children by thirty,
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  Speaker 1: her chances of having children ever are cut in half
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  Speaker 1: just at thirty. We don't think of thirty as being
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  Speaker 1: all that old, but your chance of never having children
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  Speaker 1: has just gone up exponentially if you get to thirty.
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  Speaker 1: But we have society saying, hey, you can have it all,
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  Speaker 1: but you've got to have this first, and then the
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  Speaker 1: family and kids after you're successful. So where do you think.
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  Speaker 1: Do you think women who get to thirty without having
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  Speaker 1: had kids, you think they wish they had gone a
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  Speaker 1: different route?
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  Speaker 3: I think so. I think that they were sold a lie.
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  Speaker 3: I think that you can have it all is just
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  Speaker 3: not true. And I think women basically were really killing
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  Speaker 3: themselves trying to make that work. Trying to have it
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  Speaker 3: all that woman, and it's almost it's almost impossible.
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  Speaker 4: I know that.
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  Speaker 3: Mike and I had a conversation about this, and he
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  Speaker 3: talked about his own parents. He said, my parents were
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  Speaker 3: the kind of parents said grind, grind, grind, because I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to have all this time later with my kids.
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  Speaker 4: He said.
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  Speaker 3: The problem is there wasn't much time spent with this,
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  Speaker 3: and then by the time we get married, we move on. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and they want that time with this, but we've already
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  Speaker 3: started our own lives, our own families.
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  Speaker 1: And so it's the cats in the cradle.
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  Speaker 4: It is.
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  Speaker 3: It absolutely is, and it makes sense because that's what
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  Speaker 3: they were sold, like, you know, do this and this
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  Speaker 3: will happen, and it didn't work out that way. And
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  Speaker 3: I think we have learned from that.
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  Speaker 4: I think so too. And there are women now well,
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  Speaker 4: first of all, let me just tell the women out
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  Speaker 4: there who are thirty, who are fearful. Women are having
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  Speaker 4: children all through their thirties. So if you want children,
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  Speaker 4: if you want a family, and you don't get married
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  Speaker 4: till twenty nine, you can have five kids six you know,
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  Speaker 4: you're fine. I think we're talking about those who decided
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to work and make all of this money
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  Speaker 4: and get established, and then I'll find someone to get married,
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  Speaker 4: and then you know, hopefully have a family. But here's
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  Speaker 4: what I've been seeing. This is a trend that I
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  Speaker 4: have seen lately, and it is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm thinking
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  Speaker 4: about this one in particular, this beautiful, beautiful, blondheaded mom.
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  Speaker 4: She's I think she's now in her mid thirties, and
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  Speaker 4: she's given a warning to this generation of women. And
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  Speaker 4: she said those words. She said, I bought into the life.
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  Speaker 4: I wanted to be the best at my job. I
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  Speaker 4: wanted to raise my children, you know when I got
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  Speaker 4: home from work, and I wanted to be a good wife.
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  Speaker 4: And I wanted to be like the best at my
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  Speaker 4: in my position, at this bank or wherever. And then
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  Speaker 4: she said, and she had a catch in her throat,
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  Speaker 4: she said, I don't want this. I want to stay home.
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  Speaker 4: I want to take my children to school. I want
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  Speaker 4: to pick them up, I want to make them supper.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be that wife. If I could do
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  Speaker 4: it over again, I would do what I want to do,
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  Speaker 4: and that my purpose is to raise these three human beings,
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  Speaker 4: not to be the very best at this marketing job.
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  Speaker 4: In my company, and I thought, bless you. You have
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  Speaker 4: spoken to so many women who feel like the only
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  Speaker 4: way to have I think a lot of people think,
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  Speaker 4: oh my gosh, what are they going to say when
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  Speaker 4: I die? I didn't work. What did I do for
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  Speaker 4: this earth? What was my purpose? I didn't make any
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  Speaker 4: money for my family. No, no, no, let me tell
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  Speaker 4: you something. The most valuable thing in this entire world
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  Speaker 4: that you can do as a mom is raised three
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  Speaker 4: upstanding citizens who will go out into this world and
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  Speaker 4: do great things. And when you expect those great things
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  Speaker 4: of them, they will do it. And that's because you
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  Speaker 4: put the love. You pour the love and the care
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  Speaker 4: and the concern into your children, into your husband, into
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  Speaker 4: your family. That is the There's no amount of money
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  Speaker 4: because I did that. I was lucky. I know some
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  Speaker 4: people have to work, and you do figure it out,
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  Speaker 4: you can do it. I was fortunate that I had
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  Speaker 4: a husband who wanted me to stay home too, And
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  Speaker 4: there's not amount There's no amount of money that could
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  Speaker 4: have swayed me from doing that job because I felt
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  Speaker 4: like that was my purpose on this earth.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's the key, though, is to have a
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  Speaker 3: husband that's on the same page.
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  Speaker 4: As you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I saw this TikToker and he was interviewing the
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  Speaker 3: girls and he was basically interviewing these girls asking them
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  Speaker 3: like how much does he have to make to win
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  Speaker 3: you over? And it was this lady she has a
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  Speaker 3: baby on his hip and he's like how much and
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  Speaker 3: she said thirty five thousand and he's like like a
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  Speaker 3: year and she's like, yeah, that's enough. And he's like
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  Speaker 3: that's enough. And she's like, yeah, we do well. We
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  Speaker 3: get by and have enough food. And he was so
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  Speaker 3: expecting this diva girl to say he needs to make
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  Speaker 3: six figures to win me over. It was a mom
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  Speaker 3: saying we just need enough, We just need enough.
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  Speaker 4: More happy, and she wants to stay home.
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  Speaker 3: She wanted to be home.
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  Speaker 1: You know. You talk about a woman saying what will
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  Speaker 1: they say about me? Yeah, you know, and if I
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  Speaker 1: don't work and all that. But if you go to
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  Speaker 1: Proverbs thirty one, it talks about a virtuous woman, yes,
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  Speaker 1: and what it says is she is praised by her children. Right,
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  Speaker 1: that a virtuous It's not it's not about you know,
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  Speaker 1: co workers and VP of marketing or whatever. It's are
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  Speaker 1: you praised by your children as a mom? Is that true.
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  Speaker 1: Is that real? Because that that's a legacy right here, that.
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  Speaker 4: I put that scripture in Summer's room, her teenage years.
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  Speaker 4: It's on this beautiful board, and I want her, wanted
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  Speaker 4: her to recognize that for herself too. It is just
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  Speaker 4: so important. It is.
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  Speaker 1: If you like to ask our American mamas a question,
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  Speaker 1: go to our website American Raady dot com, sash Mama's
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  Speaker 1: and click on the ask the Mama's button. Terry nettib
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Brothers, and thank you so much, Thank you,