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Black Girl Interrupted Podcast is BACK and with a VENGANCE · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Black Girl.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all already know how. Y'all already know how.
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  Speaker 3: But bye, Hey, what's some What's up? What's up? Everybody?
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  It's your girl and baby, I am begged. I am
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  so excited to be back doing Black Girl interrupted podcast. Baby.
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  When I say you, I have missed, y'all, I promise
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  last week was just like a what week before last?
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  That was just a little little taste. But now I'm
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  backing my element. I'm in the happiest space ever. Like
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  I don't think y'all understand. Like when I am doing
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  my show, I forget. I tune everything out that goes
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  on around me, like I don't care about nothing else.
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  This is our space, Like this is our space when
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  we come in here and we talk about everything. There's
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  no judgment, there's no disrespect. Y'all know what we do
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  over here. And Black Girling's a roughly podcast, Baby, But
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  I am back. I am back. I am back, baby,
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  And the only thing that is changing is the intro
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  is changing. And I'm bringing y'all some some real juice topics.
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  I'm this this go around, y'all. I'm really, really, really
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  gonna dig deep and get down into the nitty gritty.
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  We gonna really have some conversations, some topics that I
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  wanted to talk about. I've really kind of wanted to
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  just but then I was like, I don't know if
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  I'm really ready to shake the table like that. I
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  don't know if people are really gonna be ready to
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  have these types of conversations. But I say, what the hell,
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  I gotta rip the band aid off and I just
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  gotta get all off into it. But anyway, y'all, welcome
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  back to Black Girl Interrupted the podcast. You know who
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  it is. It's your girl, Baby, your favorite girl front
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  to five zero fold back with a vengeance and bringing
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  y'all some juicy, juicy, juicy juicy topics this time this
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  go round. So before we even just discuss everything that's
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  going on, y'all already know I have to do my
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  mental health checking. That is one of the beautiful things
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  that's never gonna change about Black Girl Interrupted. I'm gonna
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  ever do my mental health check ins. Let me first
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  say this, thank y'all to everyone that messaged me yesterday,
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  to everyone that has checked on me these last three weeks.
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  I want to say thank y'all. A lot of y'all
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  know my story a lot of y'all don't. I'm sorry, y'all.
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  I always get so emotional, but that's okay because I
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  could cry in front of y'all, like I don't care.
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  I could do this in front of y'all, but I
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  do this. I always stop and do a mental health
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  check in because, like I said, you don't know what
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  a person is going through. You don't know where a
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  person's mental is. And with all the time that we
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  have to get on social media and play and crack jokes,
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  you could send somebody a text message and just let
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  them know how I'm thinking about you. I love you,
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  I hope you're having a good day something, because you
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  never know what that message could do for a person. Yesterday,
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  let me let me just kind of give y'all. Every day,
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  I and I'm fighting a bad every day. I'm dealing
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  with my depression. Every day, I'm dealing with my anxiety.
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  I deal with narcissistic people that are in my inner circle.
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  I work at a job that I absolutely despise, but
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  I get up and I push through every day. Last night,
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  before I laid down, I had to go into a
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  praise break. I had to give my time to God
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  because I haven't been doing so, and I think that's
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  part of why my depression, in my anxiety has just
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  been through the roof. So last night I really had
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  to stop and I had to do a praise break.
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  I had to give God all the praise. Then I
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  came across a video from DMX and he said, God
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  will never walk you to what he won't walk you through.
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  And when I heard that, I immediately dropped to my
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  knees and I said, thank you God for just even
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  carrying me thus far. You understand. And even the people
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  that turn their back on me, even the people that
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  have drugged me, the people that have shit on my name.
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  Excuse my language, but I had to stop and I
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  had to thank God because every store I encounter, I
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  wouldn't be the woman that I am to date. So
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  I always do these mental health check ins because a
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  lot of y'all don't know. People are struggling out here.
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  People are out here trying to get a job, people
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  are losing homes. Barrel took a toll on a lot
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  of people here in Houston. People are still trying to
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  recover my mother included. So I had to stop for
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  a minute. And this is why I do these mental
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  health check ins because I just pour into y'all the
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  way y'all pour back into me, and that's all, and
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  that's my purpose. And last night really solidify what my
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  purpose is in this world, and that's to be the
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  voice for the voiceless. Like I tell y'all all the time,
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  this is why I do this podcast for us to
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  be able to have a space for black men and
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  black women where we could come in here with no
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  outsiders and just have regular conversations with no disrespect. Y'all
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  know that I created this space for us so we
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  can have those uncomfortable conversations. I created this space to
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  not only help with my mental but to help with
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  y'all's as well, because my sisters, my friends, cousins, whatever
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  we call each other. I need to make sure y'all
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  are good. And regardless of how low my energy is,
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  I'm always muster up some type of strength to turn
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  around and pour into y'all to let y'all know I'm
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  proud of you, that I love you, that I see you,
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  and I understand what's been going on in twenty twenty four,
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  but I pray that whatever happened in twenty twenty four,
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  you'll make right in twenty twenty five. So I challenge
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  every person that's tuned in tonight. I want you to
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  get a piece of paper and a pen, and I
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  want you to write down everything you have not accomplished
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  thus far. We're only eight months into twenty twenty four,
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  but I want you to write a list. Write down
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  what you didn't get to accomplish in twenty twenty four,
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  so we can work on that in twenty twenty five.
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  Because this is the year of lessons, and twenty twenty
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  five is gonna be our year to be victorious. That's
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  gonna be our year to be triumphant, that's gonna twenty
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  twenty five is gonna be our year where we overcome fear.
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  Twenty twenty five, we're gonna gain patience, We're gonna gain
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  insight in twenty twenty five because twenty twenty four is
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  the year of lessons. So every month that we've encountered
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  thus far has been a lesson for us, and I
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  want you to write it down. So twenty twenty five hits.
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  You work on one thing at a time. We're gonna
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  work on not overloading ourselves. We're gonna work on not
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  being so overwhelmed. We're gonna work on eating one thing
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  at a time. That's what we're gonna do, because guess what, y'all,
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  we've been down far too long. We've been in the dumps,
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  We've been knocked down. We've allowed the devil to come
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  in and steal our joy. We can't do that in
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  twenty twenty five. So twenty twenty four is our year
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  of lessons. What did you learn? What are you not
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  gonna do in twenty twenty five? What did you do
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  in twenty twenty four that you want to leave in
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  twenty twenty five? So I challenge everybody, men, women, girl, boy, wife,
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  it doesn't matter. I want to know what are you
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  gonna do better in twenty twenty five? So before I do,
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  before I just I'm just, y'all, just don't understand like
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  I'm trying to stay so calm and collect because my
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  heart is just fluttering. It's filled with so much joy
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  because I look at each and every person and I'm
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  proud of y'all. Even if no one has told y'all
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  you've done a great job. Even if you fail with
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  your children, God gave you another day to get it right.
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  Today whatever it is that you're going through. Leave it,
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  Let it go. We have to stop trying to control
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  things that are out of our control. If it's something
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  we can't give it to God, let it go. And
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  I have to tell myself that. So when I come
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  on here and I do the show and I talk
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  to y'all, I help y'all and y'all help me. So
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  I just want to tell each and every last onning,
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  I love y'all. I appreciate the love. I appreciate the
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  support that y'all get me each and every time I
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  get in front of this campra. Even on those those
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  darkest days, those hardest days, those rough days, y'all still
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  rally and support me. So I had to get on
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  here and I have celebrate y'all. I want y'all to know.
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  I'm proud of you. I want you to know that
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  I see you. I may not say anything, but I
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  see you, and I'm silently rooting for you. Anything that
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  I've done wrong to anybody, I humbly apologize, and I
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  say that because we're on bord time. I bury two
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  friends in twos and I let life get in the way.
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  I don't want that with anybody else. I want us
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  to make time. If we have time to get up
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  and go to the club, if we got time to
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  go stand in the lines to get iPhones and Jordan's,
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  you got fifteen twenty thirty seconds out of your day
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  where you could send somebody a message and say, Hey,
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  I love you, I'm thinking about you, I'm proud of you,
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  I see you. So let's get into the mental health
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  check in. Anyone that's new to the show, y'all, welcome
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  to Black Girl Interrupted. Black Girl Interrupted is your go
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  to podcast. Okay, this is your podcast, baby, we talk
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  about everything. This podcast is about love, This podcast is
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  about unity, This podcast is about healing, This is about encouragement,
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  This is about empowerment, This is about uplifting. Yes, I'm
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  gonna be tough on y'all, you know what. I'm gonna
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  hold y'all accountable, but I'm gonna always do it through love.
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  You'll never see me get on here and bash anybody
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  unless you get disrespectful. But I'm still gonna handle you
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  with love and I'm still gonna give you grace because
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  a lot of people were still learning. So before we
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  get into any other comments, I have to play this
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  for y'all. Because someone right now is struggling. But I
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  want you to know this is for you.
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  Speaker 4: Life will knock give between the eyes. It will catch
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  you on the blindside. Come out of nowhere. Stuff you
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  can't anticipate. That will not the win out of you
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  you want to give up.
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  Speaker 3: It's gonna be very challenging.
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  Speaker 4: Whenever you decide that you want to grow, whenever you
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  decide that you want to go to another.
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  Speaker 3: Level, all hell will break loose. It's hard, it's not easy.
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  It's hard changing your life.
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  Speaker 4: And here's what I want to say to you for
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  those of you that have experienced some hardships, don't give
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  up on your dream. In moments when you're going to
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  doubt yourself, they're a rough time for going to come.
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  But they have not come to stay. They have come
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  to pass.
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  Speaker 5: We all go through problem. They don't have to overwhelm
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  you thought.
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  Speaker 3: Problems don't have to take you out, though.
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  Speaker 5: Problems will have to make your life miserable.
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  Speaker 6: Though your problem is you go back and running your
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  safety net or can't do it hell, and you're gonna
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  be running to it for the rest of your life
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  until you get to a point where you look at
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  life and say you will not beat deed.
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  Speaker 3: It's easy to complain. It's easy to point out your circumstances.
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  It's easy to talk about what has happened to you.
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  It's easy to talk about your situation, what you're going through.
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  Speaker 4: But if you do what is easy, your life will
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  be hard.
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  Speaker 3: But if you do what is hard, your life will
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  be easy.
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  Speaker 4: See it's easy to be on the bottom. It doesn't
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  take any effort to be a loser, doesn't take any motivation,
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  any drive in order to stay down there at a
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  low level.
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  Speaker 3: But it calls on everything in you, ladies and gentlemen.
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  Speaker 4: You have to harness your will to say, I'm going
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  to challenge myself. Sometimes I have to pull myself out
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  of dance and come on. Lets things I know I
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  should do, I talk to things I shouldn't do I do.
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  I found that the biggest enemy you have to deal
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  with is yourself.
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  Speaker 7: Your problem is some of you are phenomenally still. But
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  it is a phenomenal will that says every time I
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  get knocked down, I will get back up and I
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  will succeed. I will not surrender. You have something great
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  in you. You can do it. Where you are is temporary.
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  You will not be there for the rest of your life.
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  Speaker 5: Hit my last for a second, hit my.
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  Speaker 7: Last for a minute, hit my last for an hour,
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  hit my last for a week. It might last for
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  a day, it.
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  Speaker 5: Might last for months, But sooner or.
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  Speaker 7: Later, if you do not surrender, if you do not
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  give up, if you do not give in, it will subside.
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  Speaker 4: You've got to say yes, Yes to my dreams, Yes
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  to me.
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  Speaker 3: I can make it.
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  Speaker 1: Yes I can.
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  Speaker 4: Doesn't matter how.
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  Speaker 3: Many failures I've made.
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  Speaker 4: Doesn't matter how many mistakes I've endured. Doesn't matter about
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  my defeat, doesn't matter about what I've done. I don't
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  care about the fact I'm in a hole now, doesn't
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  matter about where I am. Yes, Yes, the last chapter
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  to my life has not been written yet. If you
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  judge me now, you'll judge me prematurely. I haven't exposed
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  all my stuff yet. I'm still in the process of
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  transforming my life. I'm still in the process up becoming.
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  Speaker 7: Yes, you are prayings, you are unique, you are special,
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  you are talented, and you deserve to have everything you want.
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  Speaker 5: And stop listening to the people who tell you you
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  don't kill the noise.
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  Speaker 7: What do they know?
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  Speaker 3: Who are they?
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  Speaker 7: And when that thing tells you to quit, you look
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  at it in his eye and say, I ain't going nowhere.
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  Speaker 5: I will break you before you break me.
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  Speaker 7: You will not defeat me.
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  Speaker 5: You will not destroy me. You've been through so much hell,
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  you won't quit now. You don't quit now. It's the
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  tenth rour. You got too more to go.
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  Speaker 3: And when you get to.
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  Speaker 5: Success, it's not about skill.
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  Speaker 7: When you get to a certain level of success, it's
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  about standing up.
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  Speaker 5: It's about you won't ripe me. You can't take me.
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  I'm far too long, I'm far too hard. It's too
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  late now. You should have broken me a long time ago.
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  I'm not unbreakable now.
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  Speaker 3: M Maybe that wasn't just for y'all. Maybe I needed
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  to hear that today. Maybe I needed to keep reminding
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  myself that don't give up. Maybe I need to keep
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  reminding myself never to quit. Maybe I need to keep
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  reminding myself that every time it rains doesn't mean I
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  necessarily have to get wet. Mm hmm. But we do.
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  We always quick to give up because it's the easiest
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  thing for us to do. When are we gonna stop running?
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  When are we gonna get on our feet and say
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  you know what, devil, you can't have it, you can't
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  have me. We have to learn that because we always
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  run back to what we feel like it's safe. We
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  always create a little safe space for us, and we
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  always run to that instead of tackling the issue head
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  on because it's familiar, because it's easy. And maybe I'm
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  speaking about me because that's what Ashley does, and I
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  can say that, I can honestly sit up here and
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  say that's what I do when things get too tough
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  for me. I run, y'all. I run. I'm like Chaikargo Richardson.
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  I'm running and it's like I'm running for my life
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  and not realizing I keep asking God to do these
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  things for me, but yet I'm still trying to stand
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  in the midst of what he's trying to do and
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  knowing I got to step back. I got the release.
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  I have to just relax and say, you know what, God,
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  you got it. And that's what I mean when I
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  say we have to pray for patience for twenty twenty
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  five because a lot of us we don't have it.
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  Because we want everything to happen right now, everything that
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  we've worked for. We're ready to throw in a tie.
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  We're ready to give up, we're ready to say, you
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  know what, I can't do it because it's too hard.
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  But a lot of people don't understand if you know
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  your word, God gives the hardest battles to the strongest soldiers.
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  And I've made it thus far. In the forty plus
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  years i've been on this earth, I've endured a lot
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  and I'm still here. So apparently God feels like you
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  have a purpose, and I don't feel like you're ready
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  to come with me because you haven't fulfilled that purpose.
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  Excuse me. That one was for me. That one was
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  heavy for me because I love the run. I love
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  to give up. I don't never like to see it
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  all the way through, because Lord, I'm afraid. I'm scared.
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  I can tell y'all that because I'm so used to
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  things being a certain way. I hold on to that.
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  I run into that dark space because that's where I
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  sat for so long, was in the dark until finally
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  that little voice, y'all know, the love voice that comes and.
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  Speaker 8: Says, hold on, hold on, I got something greater for you.
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  Speaker 3: I'm learning, just stop running. I talked to my sister yesterday,
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  and my sister shared and just so y'all know, I
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  have a lot of sisters, y'all. I'm never gonna mention
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  their name, but I spoke to too of my sisters yesterday.
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  One of my sisters told me, she says, Sis, man,
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  I'm I'm struggling. This hurricane took a toll on me.
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  I got this going on. I got that going on,
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  and my heart dropped for my sister because my sister
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  is a good person. She don't deserve to be going
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  through this. But after I got off the phone with her,
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  I prayed over her. I prayed over her situation because
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  I tell y'all, this lady, regardless of what this lady
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  has gone through, she still finds tarting to pour into me.
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  I'm not gonna say your name, but you know who
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  you are, and I love you for that. I'm forever
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  grateful for you for that. So let me get up
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  into these comments, because it's a lot, y'all. So my girl, Cassandra,
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  Hey Pool, hey girl, Hey yeah go my sister, hey Pookie,
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  She say, yes this, Cassandra says, it's so much going
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  on in this cruel world. Where do I even begin
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  to talk about what's going on in this world. So
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  my sister says everything. She says, Amen, she says, you
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  got this, siss, my girl, Shanda. She says, I'm proud
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  of you two, siss I love the growth absolutely, and
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  every day I'm still growing. I fall short. I slipped
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  a lot, y'all, a lot. I go back some days
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  to the old Ashley, and then I have to stop,
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  and I have to realize I can't be a new
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  person still trying to hold on to the old ways.
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  Did you hear what I said? You can't say you're
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  a new person holding on to your old ways. Somebody
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  posts that as a status. My sister says, yes, y'all
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  follow my sister. My husband, he says, hey, my beautiful wife,
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  Hi baby, I hope you're having a good night at work.
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  That with my cousin. I love you, tea Hu and them. Butterflies.
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  Butterflies are so significant. They signify growth, They signify change,
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  metamorphosis because they start off as a calipillar. Then they
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  go into their cocoon and then they emerge and flourish
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  at as a beautiful butterfly. So that's all of us
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  right now. We're in our cocoon because we're getting ready
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  for twenty twenty five, because baby, let me tell you ya,
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  I know for a fact, twenty twenty five is gonna
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  be victorious. I'm already speaking that. I'm never gonna speak
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  ill or negative. I'm gonna always push for positivity. You
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  understand what I'm saying. I'm gonna push for that. I'm
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  gonna always always root for you. I'm gonna always support you.
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  I'm gonna always empower you regardless. I don't care what
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  I'm going through. I'm gonna dig down and I'm gonna
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  find the strength and I'm gonna celebrate you. I'm gonna
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  let you know that I'm proud of you. I'm gonna
• 23:48
  let you know that you are doing a great job.
• 23:50
  I'm gonna let you know that this stop is not
• 23:53
  your final destination. I'm gonna let you know that just
• 23:56
  because this is a chapter in your book that doesn't
• 23:59
  define you. Don't forget one chapter doesn't doesn't make up
• 24:03
  your whole book. You understand that's just one part of
• 24:06
  your life that you had to go through. And I'm
• 24:10
  telling that to myself. I'm telling myself, stop letting these
• 24:17
  chapters define your whole story. M H. Let me run
• 24:33
  that bag one more time. Stop letting one chapter describe
• 24:39
  your whole book. That chapter is just a piece of
• 24:43
  who you are. That's not who you are. That's just
• 24:46
  a piece of you. That's just a portion of you.
• 24:49
  That's the part of you where you're gonna see the
• 24:52
  most growth in that part. Excuse me, in that particular
• 24:58
  chapter where there is good or bad, that doesn't define
• 25:03
  who you are. Okay, you made some not so great decisions. Okay,
• 25:11
  you did some things in your life that you're not
• 25:13
  proud of, but that didn't define who you were as
• 25:16
  a person. I want you all to change your circles.
• 25:25
  I want you all to start looking at the people
• 25:27
  that are in your circle that say, oh, yeah, you're
• 25:30
  doing a good job, but they use disrespect as a joke.
• 25:36
  You're little this, you're little that. This may be little,
• 25:41
  but it's gonna be big. God already said it. It's
• 25:44
  already been written for me. The only person that can
• 25:48
  rewrite your story is you. You are the only person
• 25:52
  that can change how your story ends. Stop letting people
• 26:00
  write chapters in your book and they don't know your story. See,
• 26:04
  people love to do that, And I learned that, hmm,
• 26:12
  maybe about ten years ago, I learned, and I had
• 26:17
  to stop, and I had to look, and I said,
• 26:20
  how the hell can you write my story? How can
• 26:26
  you even just say I'm gonna insert a chapter in
• 26:29
  your book And you don't even know my whole story.
• 26:31
  You just know a piece of my story. You don't
• 26:33
  know the whole story. And whatever story you know about
• 26:37
  me may not even be the whole truth. So stop
• 26:42
  letting people tell you how your story should end. Stop
• 26:49
  letting other people be authors of your story. Y'all need
• 26:55
  to watch your inner circle. Watch the people that only
• 27:00
  cheer for you when it's convenient for them, Watch the
• 27:08
  people that only celebrate when you're beneficial to them, or
• 27:11
  only come around when you're a benefit. See, let me
• 27:15
  tell you we have to now learn. And I challenge
• 27:18
  you all of twenty twenty five to learn the difference
• 27:20
  between a liability and an asset, because see, some of
• 27:25
  us are holding on the people that are a liability
• 27:28
  and they're not an asset. Some of us are holding
• 27:31
  on the people that all they do is subtract from
• 27:33
  your life. They never add. But we want to hold
• 27:36
  on to them because we don't want to lose those friendships.
• 27:39
  We don't want to lose those relationships. Let me tell
• 27:41
  you something, baby, family friends, husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends. Baby,
• 27:48
  If it don't bring you, if it doesn't add value,
• 27:51
  subtract it, let them go. Let those people that don't
• 27:59
  wish you well go. Because I'm tired, you know what.
• 28:05
  Let me let me let me rephrase that we are
• 28:08
  tired of pouring into people that don't pour back into us.
• 28:14
  I'm tired. I'm tired of giving and all we get
• 28:20
  is a slap in the face. And I'm gonna stand
• 28:24
  on this. When it comes to family, friends, co workers,
• 28:31
  whatever type of relationship, I don't care. But for twenty
• 28:36
  twenty five, we're no longer holding onto liabilities. I want
• 28:41
  an asset. I want an asset of people. Do you
• 28:44
  understand people that I know genuinely love and support me
• 28:49
  and will defend my name when I'm not in the room.
• 28:53
  Because see, I see a lot of y'all. I'm gonna
• 28:56
  ruffle a lot, lot a little bit, you know, some
• 28:58
  feathers with this one. But I see a lot of
• 29:00
  y'all that say, y'all are really friends, and y'all aren't.
• 29:05
  I watch y'all. I watch the way some of y'all move.
• 29:12
  But you have the audacity to say, oh, I'm a friend,
• 29:16
  No you're not, You're a friend, when it's are you
• 29:19
  a friend? Friend? Are you a friend of convenience? See,
• 29:25
  I'm a friend. I'm not a friend of convenience. If
• 29:31
  I love you, I'm gonna love you wholeheartedly. I'm gonna
• 29:37
  be there wholehearted. I don't have to talk to you
• 29:39
  every day, We don't have to sit on the phone
• 29:40
  every day. But if you need me, I'm gonna pull up.
• 29:47
  I'm gonna pull up. You need to talk, okay, call me.
• 29:52
  You need me to be quiet while you cry, no problem.
• 29:57
  You need to yell on the phone, no problem. I'm
• 29:59
  gonna put the on mute and I'm gonna listen to
• 30:02
  you yell and scream. But then I'm gonna turn around
• 30:06
  after you've done doing all of that. What's the solution.
• 30:10
  I'm gonna ask you that we didn't cry today, we
• 30:16
  didn't yell today, we didn't tow everything down today. What
• 30:19
  are we doing tomorrow? How are we fixing this tomorrow?
• 30:29
  Because I don't want to talk about what happened yesterday.
• 30:32
  I want to talk about today. Yesterday was a bad
• 30:34
  day for me, But today was better because I woke up.
• 30:37
  Yesterday was bad for y'all, but you woke up. I
• 30:42
  don't want to talk about yesterday. I told y'all what happened,
• 30:46
  I posted about it, I vented about it. I can't
• 30:48
  change what happened yesterday. I could worry about today and
• 30:51
  focus on what I'm gonna do better tomorrow. But I
• 30:53
  don't want to talk about yesterday because what is that
• 30:57
  doing for you? Trying to rehash something that you had
• 31:01
  no control over? What is what is continuing the conversation
• 31:06
  gonna do today? How is that gonna fix it? So
• 31:12
  I want us to work on changing the way we
• 31:13
  speak over ourselves. We're human, We're not perfect. We make mistakes,
• 31:23
  we say things, we do things. We're human. Forgiveness doesn't
• 31:33
  mean acceptance. I want some of y'all to know that, Okay,
• 31:37
  Forgiveness doesn't mean acceptance. Forgiveness doesn't mean I agree. I'm
• 31:43
  just gonna accept what you've done and I'm gonna move on. Change.
• 31:49
  Behavior is what is what moves me. Because you can't
• 31:53
  sit and say, oh, I'm this, this, this, and then
• 31:57
  you turn around and you show me something different. I'm
• 32:02
  good we're good, we want better friends, we want assets
• 32:09
  for twenty twenty five December thirty, first of twenty twenty four.
• 32:12
  Anybody that's the liability you will be cut off at
• 32:17
  twelve oh one a m. Matter of fact, eleven fifty
• 32:20
  nine pm, because I promise I'm not carrying your libel
• 32:23
  ass with me until twenty and twenty five. I'm gonna
• 32:25
  leave you here. I'm gonna leave you here a while.
• 32:28
  Load I'm here. I'm gonna leave you here to in
• 32:33
  your pettiness. I mean to lay in your pit. I'm
• 32:36
  gonna let you lay there because if you're not about
• 32:40
  resolution your liability, and I'm not dealing with it, family included,
• 32:53
  I'm not dealing with it. We're not dealing with it.
• 32:56
  Let me correct that we are not dealing with it.
• 33:03
  If you have a person in your life right now
• 33:05
  that's a liability, you need to be making preparations to
• 33:09
  cut that liability off. Stop feeding that, cut it off
• 33:14
  and let it, let it wither away and die, and
• 33:19
  you move on, and you surround yourself with people that
• 33:21
  genuinely love and care about you, people that want to
• 33:25
  see you win. Because I want you to win. I
• 33:30
  don't care if you make it before I do, I
• 33:33
  still want to see you get there. You got a
• 33:38
  little business, What can I do to help your little
• 33:40
  business be a big business? Or you need me to advertise,
• 33:43
  you need me to promote, no problem. You want me
• 33:49
  to talk about you on my show, absolutely, no problem.
• 33:53
  You don't have to pay me to advertise for what
• 33:57
  when word am out? That's free. Because see, I do
• 34:02
  this because I enjoy doing this. See people do and
• 34:06
  start businesses for the money. Why podcasts? Because I enjoy
• 34:11
  doing this. I love this. I don't care if it's
• 34:17
  one person, I don't care if it's a hundred people
• 34:18
  tuned in. I'm gonna still show up for me because
• 34:22
  somebody's watching me. I've inspired somebody, I've encouraged somebody. I've
• 34:28
  done that. They may never tell me, but I've inspired somebody.
• 34:34
  I've encouraged somebody. I don't keep information. It's just not
• 34:40
  in me now. If you would have called me ten
• 34:43
  years ago, now, that could have been something different. That
• 34:45
  would have been totally different, baby, that would have been
• 34:47
  a whole different ball game. But now I'm in my
• 34:51
  winning season. I'm in the season of being victorious. I'm
• 34:59
  in the season blessings. So if my show or anything
• 35:05
  that I posted has been a blessing to you, I'm
• 35:08
  happy or give that to God because I only tell
• 35:13
  y'all what God tells me to say. I don't do
• 35:17
  these shows. You know, people write down and this is
• 35:22
  all unscripted. This is all off the top of my head.
• 35:26
  This is just what was on my heart today. So
• 35:29
  I'm gonna tell y'all what was on my heart. I
• 35:31
  had to get on here today. I had to bring
• 35:33
  Black Girl Interrupted podcast back. I had too many people
• 35:36
  reaching out to me saying, what's the deal, what's going on?
• 35:39
  Did you quit? And I don't like to hear the
• 35:43
  word quit because I'm not a quitter, even though I
• 35:48
  have quit a lot of times, even though there were
• 35:54
  times that we've all walked away and said, you know what,
• 35:56
  I don't want to do this. Whatever it is, what
• 35:58
  it is, but this is my true, genuine passion. I
• 36:02
  love this. I love talking to y'all. I love interacting,
• 36:09
  I love the conversations. I love that I don't do
• 36:14
  this for money. I don't care about the finance. I
• 36:17
  don't care about that. I do this because this is
• 36:20
  what I love to do. I do this because I
• 36:23
  genuinely want to help people. I do this because I
• 36:26
  want people to know I'm human. Yes, I laugh, I joke,
• 36:29
  and I'm petty a lot of days, but I'm human.
• 36:33
  That's why I do this. This is our space that
• 36:38
  I created for us, Black men, black women. This is us. No,
• 36:43
  this is not a platform where we're gonna be bashing
• 36:46
  and dragging and saying black men ain't shit or black women.
• 36:50
  I'm sick of those conversations.
• 36:56
  Speaker 9: Because y'all are the shit. Black men, black women, y'all
• 37:01
  got the sauce. We got the sauce, We the blueprint.
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: Stop playing. Stop letting these people play in your face.
• 37:15
  Stop letting these people tell you what you can and
• 37:17
  can't do because God says you can. Man says you can't,
• 37:21
  but God says you can. And I put that in
• 37:24
  all caps. Stop letting people tell you, oh, well, you
• 37:32
  know so and so. I don't care what somebody else
• 37:34
  is doing. It's a million in one podcast out here.
• 37:39
  I don't care, and I'm gonna support every last one
• 37:43
  of them. I'm gonna support every last one of them.
• 37:52
  I'm always give you a round of applause. I don't
• 37:54
  care if I like you. Or not, I still want
• 37:57
  to see you win. Now you may can't eat at
• 38:01
  my table. Now let me say that. Now you may
• 38:03
  can't come over here and eat at my tabl but
• 38:05
  I still want to see you win. Because what is
• 38:08
  hating on you gonna do for me? How many blessings
• 38:13
  will be blocked hating on somebody? Some of y'all carry
• 38:18
  a book who hate in your heart. Some of y'all
• 38:21
  carry jealousy and envy and pride in your heart, And
• 38:25
  then you wonder why you're not being blessed. I genuinely support.
• 38:35
  I genuinely want to see us win. I genuinely want
• 38:39
  to see more black owned businesses. I want to see
• 38:43
  more black entrepreneurs. I want to see it. Whatever kind
• 38:48
  of business you have, tell me so I could come
• 38:49
  and support you. Selling shoelacers, give me ten pairs. I
• 38:53
  don't want to discount. I want them at full price.
• 38:57
  Don't give me no hookup because we friends, because we
• 39:00
  knowing each other, five, ten, fifteen, I don't want no discount.
• 39:03
  Give it to me at wholesale price or whatever it did.
• 39:06
  Give me full retail value. Give it to me. I
• 39:11
  don't want a discount because you didn't get a discount
• 39:15
  to start your business, now, did you. I see a
• 39:22
  lot of y'all, Oh, I'm gonna support you, and then
• 39:27
  when you support, you complain it's fifty dollars I wanted.
• 39:35
  If I ain't got the fifty dollars right now, guess what.
• 39:38
  When I get the fifty dollars, I'm gonna come back
• 39:39
  and I'm gonna buy it. You need me to post
• 39:43
  your business, no problem. You need me to web one
• 39:47
  of your shirts, girls, send it here. Oh you cook?
• 39:51
  Oh you make desserts, you want me to try to
• 39:53
  send them here? Nope, I don't want to be your
• 39:57
  brand ambassador. I don't want no discount cold. I want
• 40:00
  to buy that full price. That's how I support. That's
• 40:10
  how I support. And I don't never ask for anything
• 40:12
  in return, because God already gonna bless me. So why
• 40:16
  I can't be a blessing to somebody? Some of y'all
• 40:20
  need to learn that. Some of y'all don't know how
• 40:25
  to be a blessing. You don't even know how to
• 40:27
  be a blessing to yourself. I said it. I know
• 40:35
  a lot of y'all are looking like damn. I said it.
• 40:41
  Learn to be a blessing to yourself, so you could
• 40:42
  be a blessing to others. Let go at the anger,
• 40:48
  Let go of a hurt, Let go of a pain.
• 40:50
  You can't change that. You can only deal with a
• 40:52
  head on. That's all you could do. Stop stressing yourself
• 41:00
  out about behind people. You're gonna put yourself in an
• 41:05
  early grave for what. I'm no longer stressing about people.
• 41:16
  I'm gonna let it go. I'm gonna let God deal
• 41:18
  with that. I'm no longer in the business of trying
• 41:23
  to get my licks back because God told me it's
• 41:26
  already handle Some of those very same people that have
• 41:30
  hurt you. God has taken them all up and through that.
• 41:34
  Do you hear me. I've seen some of the posts,
• 41:39
  some of y'all I know first hand, and I'm looking
• 41:42
  at you struggle. I'm looking at God taking you through
• 41:50
  and you don't know why. Y'all better be kind to people,
• 41:55
  because baby, let me tell you something, when God swain't
• 41:57
  that standal now that it hurts, stop trying to get
• 42:03
  your licks back. Were no longer matching energy for what.
• 42:10
  You don't talk to me. I don't talk to you.
• 42:11
  It is what it is. I wish you well. I
• 42:14
  don't hate you, but I wish you well God bless,
• 42:19
  but you're gonna have to move around. I don't want
• 42:22
  you over here if we're not about building businesses leaving legacies.
• 42:32
  I don't want to have a conversation with you. I
• 42:34
  don't want to gossip about what goes on in somebody
• 42:36
  else's house, because help, my house ain't right now? What
• 42:41
  y'all love the point? Fingers, y'all love to sweeping everybody
• 42:45
  else's house, but your house is still dirty. Y'all love that.
• 42:52
  Y'all love the point? Girl, Let me tell you about
• 42:55
  so and so, but let's talk about you. Why you
• 42:58
  want to tell me everybody else's business? How you and
• 43:01
  your baby dad to do? Did you ever find out
• 43:03
  if that man was really your child's father while you
• 43:06
  trying to give everybody else the tea? Let's drink your hennessy,
• 43:11
  because that's what a lot of y'all love to do.
• 43:12
  When I see that. Y'all love to get on Facebook
• 43:17
  and Instagram and TikTok and Twitter, and y'all love to
• 43:21
  shoot daggers at people when not realizing there are people
• 43:25
  that know you in real life. Hello and abody at home,
• 43:33
  Am I talking too much? Am I giving y'all too
• 43:35
  much at a sauce? That's okay, that's all right. That's
• 43:41
  what we're here to do. That's what we're here to
• 43:43
  do on Black Girl Interrupting podcast Cause Baby I am back, Yes,
• 43:52
  your girl is back. And just how we were just
• 43:56
  talking right now. That's them the type of conversations we're
• 43:59
  gonna have because I got a bomb series that we're
• 44:05
  gonna open up tomorrow. Hmm. And I'm ecstatic about this.
• 44:12
  These topics that I have because see, these are family
• 44:18
  secrets that are gonna that are gonna be revealed. Oh yeah,
• 44:26
  we're talking about incest, We're talking about molestation, We're talking
• 44:34
  about mama's baby dad is maybe And when I say that,
• 44:39
  I'm talking about you know, similar to the Kirk Franklin story.
• 44:44
  You know how Kirk Franklin mother, you know, his mother
• 44:48
  told him, oh, his father was this man, and he
• 44:52
  came to find out that wasn't really his father and
• 44:54
  his real father really lived down the street from him.
• 44:57
  Those are the conversations that we're about to have because
• 45:00
  it's time for those family secrets to be revealed. Why
• 45:04
  does that only happen in the black household. And when
• 45:10
  I say more less station, we're gonna talk about the
• 45:12
  monster that y'all le sit at the head of the
• 45:14
  table every holiday. You know, the one that's been touching
• 45:17
  on all the kids for twenty thirty years and y'all
• 45:21
  knew about it and never said anything. Oh okay, that topic.
• 45:27
  We're gonna talk about incests. We're gonna talk about how
• 45:30
  the grandfathers had babies with their daughters. Mm hmm. We're
• 45:37
  gonna talk about how the men touched on the little boys. Yeah,
• 45:43
  those are the topics we're gonna be talking about. Own
• 45:46
  Black girl interrupted. Uncomfortable, but needed and necessary, because how
• 45:54
  else are we gonna heal if we don't have these conversations.
• 45:59
  How else are we gonna heal if we don't address
• 46:02
  these narcissistic parents. When are we gonna heal when we
• 46:05
  stopped taking disrespect from the parents. We understand our parents
• 46:09
  brought us into the world, but that respect goes both ways.
• 46:15
  We're gonna stop accepting mediocre, one sided relationships because that's
• 46:21
  your mom, that's your dad, that's your brother, that's your sister.
• 46:25
  I don't care. Disrespect is disrespect no matter who it
• 46:29
  comes from. So that's what we're bringing two Black Girl
• 46:35
  Interrupted podcasts. Yeah, I told y'all I was coming back.
• 46:40
  I told y'all I was ready. I told y'all I
• 46:42
  had to sit down and I had to marinate, and
• 46:44
  I had to figure out what am I gonna do.
• 46:47
  I've gotta shape the table now, I've got to wake
• 46:50
  up some conversations that I really try to avoid. But
• 46:54
  I ain't scared none. Yeah, I'm gonna talk talk about
• 47:00
  how my father molested my sister. Yeah, I'm gonna talk
• 47:05
  about that because that's healing and therapy for me. We're
• 47:13
  gonna have that. See a lot of people in my
• 47:15
  family that are probably watching may not be ready for this,
• 47:20
  But this is not your story. This is mine, and
• 47:24
  this is a chapter in my book that I want
• 47:28
  to talk about. This is a chapter in my book
• 47:31
  that I'm ready to close and move on to the
• 47:33
  next chapter. So yet, y'all are gonna hear some uncomfortable
• 47:38
  truths about my father. You are. That's how it's gonna
• 47:47
  go down on Black Girl Interrupted. I may lose friends,
• 47:51
  I may have family that no longer wants to speak
• 47:53
  to me, and that's fine. Again, you don't get to
• 48:00
  tell me what I put in my book because this
• 48:02
  is my story. Am I gonna talk about the disheveled
• 48:08
  relationship with me and my mother? Absolutely? This is my story,
• 48:15
  These are my truths. No one ever let me say this.
• 48:20
  No one will ever get to tell us how we
• 48:23
  are supposed to feel. We're tired of the gas lighting.
• 48:27
  We're tired of our feelings being invalidated. This is what
• 48:30
  we're talking about. Yeah, I'm bringing it up. I don't
• 48:35
  care who don't like it, because I don't do this
• 48:36
  for y'all. I do it for me. This is healing
• 48:42
  for me. This is therapeutic for me. This is therapeutic
• 48:47
  for y'all because some of y'all are still holding on
• 48:49
  to those family secrets and it's been eating at you
• 48:52
  for years and years. And this is why you are
• 48:58
  in the place that you're in, because you refuse and
• 49:00
  let that part go. So it's time for us to
• 49:06
  uncover that. It's time for us to unfold that. It's
• 49:08
  time for us to go ahead and turn the page
• 49:10
  in the book because we've been stuck on this one
• 49:13
  chapter for just far too long. And this is why
• 49:17
  we can't progress, because we've allowed those first ten chapters
• 49:21
  to keep us bound. So the next chapter is called freedom.
• 49:30
  I want to be free. I want y'all to be free.
• 49:35
  I want us to be released from those restraints. I
• 49:38
  want those I want us to be released from this
• 49:41
  prison that we've created and built around ourselves. This is
• 49:45
  what we're doing because I'm tired. I'm tired of trying
• 49:52
  to make other people happy. I'm tired of trying to
• 49:55
  validate other people's feelings while I'm invalidating my own. I'm tired.
• 50:03
  We're tired. Do we want better relationships, absolutely, but you
• 50:11
  can't be a new person holding onto those old ways.
• 50:19
  Because I'm gonna tell you something. And I've noticed this
• 50:22
  since I've started to grow and go on my healing journey. Yes,
• 50:28
  I backslide, y'all. I'm human. I slip a lot of times.
• 50:35
  But I'm tired of being stuck on this one page,
• 50:37
  and I'm ready to turn the page. I'm ready to
• 50:40
  see what my chapter of freedom looks like. I know
• 50:44
  a lot of y'all are ready for that. I know
• 50:46
  a lot of y'all are saying, I just want to
• 50:48
  be free. I just want to be free from these restraints.
• 50:51
  I just I know a lot of y'all want that,
• 50:53
  but this is gonna be the only way that we
• 50:55
  do that. We've got to address and we've got to
• 50:59
  work on this one chapter, so once we are done,
• 51:02
  we can finally turn the page to freedom to love.
• 51:11
  That's what our next chapter is gonna look like. Free.
• 51:15
  We want to know what it feels like to genuinely
• 51:17
  be happy where we don't have to fake it all
• 51:19
  the time. Because I'm good at that. Excuse me, I'm
• 51:26
  good at telling y'all I'm good. I'm good and I'm
• 51:28
  broken on the inside. I'm good at telling y'all that.
• 51:31
  Y'all are good at telling me that, and I know
• 51:33
  you're lying. We all wear a mask every day. Y'all
• 51:45
  get the real Me. Y'all get that not so good Ashley.
• 51:53
  Y'all get the happy Ashley. Y'all get the mad Ashley.
• 51:56
  Y'all get the sack. Y'all get all of me. I
• 51:58
  give all of y'all to me. I'm gonna always be
• 52:04
  transparent because I want y'all to know you're not by
• 52:08
  yourself struggling. I struggle too. Some of us just make
• 52:14
  the struggle look good. Some of us do that, and
• 52:22
  we do that because of fear we're afraid. I'm no
• 52:28
  longer scared. Am I a bad person? I have some
• 52:35
  hateful ways, but that doesn't make me a bad person.
• 52:39
  That doesn't make you a bad person. You may have
• 52:42
  some ways that people don't like about you, but that
• 52:44
  doesn't mean you're a bad person. And some of y'all,
• 52:50
  I want you to know you're not above correction. I'm
• 52:57
  not above being corrected. If I'm ever in the wrong,
• 53:00
  call me out on it, let me know, address me,
• 53:05
  tell me, Ashley, I didn't like that, and I need
• 53:08
  to be able to do the same with you. So
• 53:12
  that's our go for twenty twenty five is to be
• 53:14
  able to have those conversations where I could tell you
• 53:17
  know what, I didn't like that, and us still be cool.
• 53:24
  That's what I want for us. That's my vision for
• 53:28
  Black Girl Interrupt their podcast is for us to grow,
• 53:35
  for us to look back six months from now, you know,
• 53:39
  three months from now, six months from now, nine months
• 53:42
  from now, a year from now, and say, man, look
• 53:46
  at how far I've come. I've come a long way,
• 53:51
  y'all have come a long way. I've seen the growth.
• 53:56
  Can we be tweaked a little bit absolutely wish all. Yeah,
• 54:03
  we may be crack, but that don't mean we're broken.
• 54:10
  We could do this. We're healing together. We're doing all
• 54:15
  of this together, y'all, not by yrself. We are on
• 54:18
  this journey together. We are healing together. We are loving
• 54:21
  one another together. We're building businesses, y'all. We're building We're
• 54:28
  leaving legacies for our children. That's what we're doing. We're
• 54:37
  learning to love ourselves a little bit more. We're learning
• 54:41
  to set boundaries. We're learning to say no. We're learning
• 54:50
  how to no longer be people pleasers. The only person
• 54:56
  I need to please right now is me, because if
• 55:00
  I'm not pleasing me, I can't give y'all the I
• 55:03
  cannot give y'all the best of me if I'm not
• 55:05
  pleased with myself. So it starts here, it starts inside
• 55:11
  of you. Because whatever you put out, that's what you're
• 55:15
  gonna get back. So if you put out negativity, that's
• 55:18
  what you're gonna get in return. That's what the universe
• 55:20
  is gonna return back to you. So if you won't positive,
• 55:25
  you have to live positive. You have to speak positive,
• 55:27
  you have to be positive. You can't just be positive
• 55:30
  today and thank God gonna. No, it don't work that way,
• 55:37
  because God is not a sometime God. He's an all
• 55:40
  the time God. But we have to learn to trust
• 55:47
  him too. I'm guilty, y'all, I'm guilty. I'm so guilty
• 55:58
  of my trust in God. I'm telling you I didn't
• 56:06
  really feel like I was gonna make it and still
• 56:10
  be here today. But God says, I'm taking you through
• 56:16
  this because I'm preparing you for the real battle. Well,
• 56:22
  they ain't. God, If I got to go through all this,
• 56:24
  what does the real war look like? Because this one hurt.
• 56:32
  But God will always turn your hurd into triumph. God
• 56:36
  will always turn that frown upside down. So he's preparing us.
• 56:44
  Some of y'all were struggling over him, and we're questioning
• 56:48
  why God does what he does. Stop questioning, Stop asking
• 56:53
  God why he's doing this, because see, he knows we're
• 57:01
  just too afraid to trust him. So we figure, you
• 57:05
  know what, God, Yeah, God, just do this for me.
• 57:09
  And as soon as he gets ready to do it,
• 57:11
  we didn't mess it up because you know what, he
• 57:13
  took too long because we wanted it today. But God said,
• 57:21
  I'm not gonna give you everything today because you're not ready.
• 57:26
  And that hurt. That hurt for God to tell me
• 57:31
  I wasn't ready. That hurt for God to take everything
• 57:35
  away from me, that hurt. I was so angry, I
• 57:41
  was so mad God, How could you do this to me?
• 57:44
  First my daddy passes away, my niece, and then my
• 57:47
  godmother and just everything. Why? Because God says, I'm preparing
• 57:51
  you for the real battle. What is the battle? Are
• 58:09
  you ready? Are you suited up? Do you have your
• 58:14
  armor on? Because even though those weapons for him, who
• 58:18
  said they was gonna prosper? So God gonna take everything
• 58:23
  from you until all you need is him. God will
• 58:30
  strip everything away from you. And then you're standing there
• 58:32
  looking crazy, trying to ask somebody else for help, when
• 58:36
  God has already told you I'm right here. That's what
• 58:49
  he does. God will take everything from you to the
• 58:56
  point where you don't have nobody but Him, and you
• 58:58
  won't have a choice but to go to him. You
• 59:01
  won't have a choice but to say, you know what, God,
• 59:03
  you got it. I'm done. I'm moving out the way.
• 59:06
  I'm taking my hands off of this. I'm moving out
• 59:08
  of the way. Because I keep telling them, you know,
• 59:10
  we keep telling God, how hungry. We are, right, So
• 59:16
  God says, Okay, I'm gonna prepare this meal for you,
• 59:19
  but you got to get out of the kitchen. Some
• 59:26
  of y'all didn't hear that. We keep telling God how
• 59:31
  hungry we are, but we won't get out of the kitchen.
• 59:36
  I'm guilty. I keep telling God, this ain't enough food
• 59:42
  on my plate. Oh okay, So God will overwhelm you
• 59:47
  on purpose. That stung. That part hurts. How God will
• 59:59
  overwhelm you on perse because God will make you have
• 1:00:04
  to come to him. He'll force you, and he'll get
• 1:00:10
  through to you through any means necessary, whether it's your children,
• 1:00:14
  whether it's your job, whether it's your husband, your wife,
• 1:00:17
  your boyfriend, your girlfriend. Some way, God is gonna get
• 1:00:20
  to you. God will make people hurt you intentionally. You
• 1:00:29
  heard what I said. God will hurt you intentionally. God
• 1:00:36
  will send people to hurt you. God will keep taking
• 1:00:48
  you back to that same space that you just feel
• 1:00:51
  like you just cannot leave. Oh you want to say that, Okay,
• 1:00:55
  I'm gonna keep taking you through that until finally you
• 1:00:59
  let go and you come to mean you talk to me. Oh,
• 1:01:02
  I didn't have God do that to me. Many of theirs.
• 1:01:06
  And Baby, when I tell y'all that hurts, that's a
• 1:01:11
  that's a that's a pain that you can't get back,
• 1:01:17
  he sure will. God will take everything around you and
• 1:01:22
  he'll start little by little until you don't have a
• 1:01:26
  choice but the surrender. But like I posted yesterday, if
• 1:01:36
  God will bring you to it, he'll walk you through it.
• 1:01:40
  But y'all can't be afraid of a lorrain. You can't
• 1:01:43
  be afraid to get wet. You can't be afraid to say,
• 1:01:46
  you know what, I endo it that storm, I sure did.
• 1:01:50
  Let your test be your testimony. Don't never stop sharing
• 1:01:57
  your story because you could really truly be inspired somebody.
• 1:02:01
  And a lot of y'all that I know have phenomenal stories.
• 1:02:06
  Some of y'all that are watching right now. I know
• 1:02:08
  y'all first hand, and I know and I've seen y'all
• 1:02:12
  come out victorious. So if y'all can do it, I
• 1:02:15
  know I could do it. I know y'all can, and
• 1:02:20
  I can. We can. We gotta trust him just a
• 1:02:29
  little bit. God not telling you he want the whole garden.
• 1:02:33
  He just won't. Just a must seed of faith, because
• 1:02:38
  that one little seed, y'all know what could happen. With
• 1:02:41
  that one little seed, Baby, you'll have a whole garden.
• 1:02:44
  One seed. One see a lot of us. We want everything,
• 1:02:51
  We want it all at one time. God give me this,
• 1:02:54
  God give me that. God I want to win the lottery.
• 1:02:56
  God put me in the house. God give me my
• 1:02:59
  dream called God, give me this, God give me that.
• 1:03:02
  God say, I'm gonna give you one little thing. I'm
• 1:03:04
  gonna give you this, one little seed for you to
• 1:03:07
  plan in your garden. And as long as you allow
• 1:03:10
  me to water, nurture and feed your garden, watch out
• 1:03:15
  with flourishes. Watch what it does. And then soon guess what.
• 1:03:21
  You get that car you want, You get that house
• 1:03:23
  you won't, you get the job you want. Your business
• 1:03:26
  is taken off. You got a beautiful selection of friends
• 1:03:29
  around you. You have assets because you got rid of
• 1:03:32
  those liabilities. So the only thing for twenty twenty five,
• 1:03:41
  I'm only surrounding myself with like minded people. I'm only
• 1:03:44
  surrounding myself with people that want to win. If I
• 1:03:47
  see you falling down in my circle, I'm gonna pull
• 1:03:49
  you up. Get up, let's go. We got to keep going.
• 1:03:51
  To finish line is right there, We're almost there. I
• 1:03:56
  don't care who makes it to the top first. I'm
• 1:03:59
  proud that you made it. I'm proud that you stuck
• 1:04:01
  the course. I'm proud that you didn't give up. I'm
• 1:04:04
  proud that you didn't throw in the towel. I'm proud
• 1:04:06
  of you because you told those naysayers what you could do.
• 1:04:12
  Because man will always tell you what you can't do.
• 1:04:14
  But you said I can't and you made it happen. See.
• 1:04:21
  Everyone sees the beautiful picture, but no one ever sees
• 1:04:27
  how empty your garden was before you got that beautiful picture.
• 1:04:30
  No one ever sees that because they feel like the
• 1:04:32
  journey to entrepreneurship is easy, and it's not because we
• 1:04:42
  focus on the quantity and not the quality. See. Because
• 1:04:46
  I can have a thousand people on this line and
• 1:04:49
  not be talking about nothing. But I'm gonna give up.
• 1:04:54
  Get up here, and I'm gonna give y'all some quality content.
• 1:04:57
  I'm gonna bring y'all some receipts. I'm gonna bring your fat,
• 1:05:00
  I'm gonna bring you respect, I'm gonna bring you encouragement.
• 1:05:03
  I'm gonna bring you in power. Me, Baby, I'm gonna
• 1:05:06
  give you all the ashy and I want dall back
• 1:05:10
  in return. Yess it. I don't want nothing major. Just
• 1:05:18
  let me know that you're good. You struggling, let's talk.
• 1:05:25
  You fell off? What happened? You bumped your head? Okay,
• 1:05:30
  put a bandaid on it, unless go so. You lost
• 1:05:34
  some friends, Okay, they were never friends to begin with.
• 1:05:37
  If they left, you lost your job. God got a
• 1:05:43
  better one for you. Next week, your car broke down.
• 1:05:48
  God about to send you the money to get your
• 1:05:49
  car fixed. Oh, it can't be fixed. You about to
• 1:05:52
  get a new car. That apartment you in, that's not forever.
• 1:05:57
  Your house is on the way. Everything that you have
• 1:06:03
  asked for is on the way, But you're not gonna
• 1:06:05
  get it all at one time. Stop thinking God is
• 1:06:11
  gonna give you a million dollars if you haven't earned
• 1:06:13
  a million dollars. Let me correct that. Stop asking God
• 1:06:18
  for a million dollars if you haven't earned the right
• 1:06:20
  or know how to get that million dollars. We have
• 1:06:27
  to stop depending on handouts and put in the work.
• 1:06:31
  I'm putting in the work. I'm putting in the work.
• 1:06:36
  We gonna put in the work together. What we gotta do.
• 1:06:41
  We loving on each other. Absolutely, let's do it. You
• 1:06:46
  got a business, You wanna start a podcast? Let me know.
• 1:06:49
  I can tell you what microphone I have. I can
• 1:06:51
  tell you I use my my Apple computer. I have
• 1:06:53
  a MacBook Air and it's what a twenty sixteen, twenty
• 1:06:56
  seventy I've alty used and did. Because I'm never gonna
• 1:07:02
  try to live outside my means. I'm not shamed. See
• 1:07:11
  a lot of y'all get on here and perpetray like you,
• 1:07:13
  just like you got it all together, and you really don't.
• 1:07:17
  I don't have it all together. My podcast I do
• 1:07:21
  right here in my living room. Sure did, sure do?
• 1:07:28
  Didn't Nobody tell me how to do this. I learned
• 1:07:31
  trial and error. Let me see what works, what do
• 1:07:34
  people like? And I just went with it. I don't
• 1:07:41
  care about the quantity. As long as I'm giving quality content.
• 1:07:45
  That's all I'm concerned with. Because the quantity is gonna
• 1:07:47
  come that people are gonna come. Me staying consistent, that's
• 1:07:52
  what I have to do. We let me, you know what,
• 1:07:55
  Let me change this, let me, let me let me
• 1:07:57
  change the way I speak to y'all. We have come
• 1:08:02
  so far, we have fallen down, we have given up,
• 1:08:07
  but we're getting back up. We getting it back right.
• 1:08:10
  We all gonna win. We're all gonna win. We all
• 1:08:20
  to my sister that I spoke to yesterday and you
• 1:08:23
  told me what was going on. Your new place is
• 1:08:26
  on the way. Yep, your new spot is on the way.
• 1:08:34
  It is. It's gonna be bigger and better. That beautiful
• 1:08:40
  your for your children. You get to love on that
• 1:08:43
  grand baby. Everything it's written, it's done. Don't stress about it.
• 1:08:52
  Don't stress. We're not doing it. Nope, we cried about
• 1:08:59
  it yesterday. We talked about it yesterday. You're gonna get
• 1:09:02
  some resolute We're gonna get some solutions you need, need
• 1:09:05
  to look look up some places. No problem. I got you,
• 1:09:11
  and that's on God. Anybody that know me that take
• 1:09:16
  I'm genuine. I stand on that. If I say I'm
• 1:09:18
  coming through for you, I'm gonna come through for you
• 1:09:20
  because you know what, a lot of people didn't come
• 1:09:22
  through for me. And that's cool. I'm never gonna let
• 1:09:29
  I'm gonna let that make me better, not bitter. Write
• 1:09:33
  that down, y'all. Never let a person make you better,
• 1:09:37
  but better, that's what you do. Don't let anybody turn
• 1:09:44
  your heart sour. Don't never let a person turn your
• 1:09:46
  heart cold. Wish them well, send them on their way.
• 1:09:54
  Get rid of that ass that liability, baby, and hold
• 1:09:57
  onto those assets. You hold on to the ones that
• 1:09:59
  bring value to you, that add to your life. That's
• 1:10:04
  what we're doing. That's what we're doing, y'all for the
• 1:10:06
  nine nine and the two thousand, that's what we're doing, baby,
• 1:10:09
  No more. We're no longer subjecting ourselves to one sided
• 1:10:14
  relationships and that's work. That's boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever,
• 1:10:21
  being polym whatever. We're no longer accepting one sided relationships
• 1:10:31
  because I can't be a friend to a one sided person.
• 1:10:35
  We're not doing that, not today or tomorrownie. We're not
• 1:10:40
  the one, no other two ladies and gentlemen, but we
• 1:10:43
  are not them, do you hear me? So let me
• 1:10:46
  roll into the comments because y'all have just been over
• 1:10:48
  here talking. It's Google comments, okay, So here we go.
• 1:10:54
  So Rashanda says, everything that we go through is for
• 1:10:57
  our making. Systs. Absolutely, my sister Tete, She says, these
• 1:11:02
  tears have failed, and I know I can't give up
• 1:11:05
  and I won't and you better not because giving up
• 1:11:08
  is no longer an option. Failure is no longer an option.
• 1:11:13
  We're no longer taking no for an answer, because guess what,
• 1:11:17
  this one person may say no, but this other person
• 1:11:20
  over here may tell you yes. So no, we're not
• 1:11:24
  giving up. We're not waving a white towels right now.
• 1:11:28
  We're not surrendering. We're not giving up. We fought too
• 1:11:31
  hard and I love you too. Sis Tay says, Yes,
• 1:11:38
  we have chapters to go, and you better know it.
• 1:11:40
  This is just one chapter. It's just one. Your story
• 1:11:46
  is not complete until you leave this earth. But it's
• 1:11:51
  up to you to make that last chapter count. Do
• 1:11:58
  you hear it. It's up to you, not nobody else.
• 1:12:03
  So before you leave here, you finish your story. Don't
• 1:12:06
  let no, don't let anybody else write your story for you,
• 1:12:11
  because they only know bits of your story. You know
• 1:12:14
  the full story. That's why when people write autobiographies about
• 1:12:19
  people that are that have passed away, because this is
• 1:12:22
  this may be their notes or whatever it is, but
• 1:12:25
  this is not them. So this is your story and
• 1:12:29
  you get a chance to rewrite it as many times
• 1:12:32
  as you want you have and rewrite that chapter. But
• 1:12:37
  once you rewrite that chapter, close it and go on
• 1:12:39
  to the next one. That's what you do. Rewrite that
• 1:12:47
  use pencil. Pen is permanent pencil you can erase, So
• 1:12:54
  until I'm ready, I'm gonna keep writing a pencil because
• 1:12:59
  something may change. You never know. Your story is not complete.
• 1:13:09
  It's a lot more to be written. And I'm proud
• 1:13:12
  of you too. You are great, you are victorious. You
• 1:13:18
  are resilient, ladies and gentlemen. Even in your moment of weakness.
• 1:13:23
  Everyone knows how to dig deepn and find a little
• 1:13:27
  bit of strength. And that's what I had to do,
• 1:13:31
  and that's what I encourage y'all to do. When it
• 1:13:33
  gets dark, Find that little even if you have to
• 1:13:37
  look at it like this, find that little bitty piece
• 1:13:40
  of light and keep walking to it because the longer
• 1:13:45
  you walk, the closer you get. Because see, if you stop,
• 1:13:47
  you'll never get to the end. And we're not stopping.
• 1:13:52
  We're not giving up. Who told you that. I don't
• 1:13:55
  know what y'all see. I don't know how y'all feel,
• 1:13:58
  but I know Ashley not giving up, giving up. Who
• 1:14:03
  is about to be consistent with this podcast every week
• 1:14:06
  like I was doing before. I'm gonna go so hard, beg, beg.
• 1:14:11
  I'm going hard like my life depends on this because
• 1:14:17
  y'all gonna see black girl interrupted somewhere, but y'all gonna
• 1:14:21
  see me. I'm gonna be on somebody's stage. I'm gonna
• 1:14:27
  be on somebody's I don't know. I'm gonna be in
• 1:14:31
  a magazine. Well, I've already been in magazines, but I'm
• 1:14:33
  gonna be in some more magazines. Yeah, I see greatness
• 1:14:41
  for us. We're destined for greatness. We all have a gift.
• 1:14:48
  Some of us just have to dig down a little
• 1:14:50
  people to pull it out. But we all are gifted.
• 1:14:54
  We're all gifted. We all have a talent. You just
• 1:14:59
  gotta figure out what it is and perfected. Don't give up,
• 1:15:07
  never give up, never give up. Love on who loves
• 1:15:14
  on you, pour into who pours back into you. If
• 1:15:18
  you feel like your cupa is getting empty, baby, you
• 1:15:20
  better put you better put better cut them off, because
• 1:15:26
  ain't nobody let me tell you something. We're not starving
• 1:15:28
  no more because I'm tired of being hungry. I'm tired
• 1:15:30
  of being thirsty because I didn't fed everybody else. I
• 1:15:33
  done gave everybody a cup of water to drink. I'm tired,
• 1:15:36
  So guess what I'm gonna eat? And I'm gonna drink
• 1:15:37
  and I'm gonna be married. Kay, that's what we're gonna do.
• 1:15:40
  We're gonna eat, drink and be marry. That's what we're doing.
• 1:15:43
  That's what we're doing. We're not letting nobody steal our
• 1:15:50
  spotlight anymore. We're not. Let me tell you something, we
• 1:15:53
  are not even deming our own lights anymore. Hello, We're
• 1:15:59
  gonna stop play in our own face. We be so
• 1:16:01
  worried about everybody else playing in our face. Now we
• 1:16:03
  be playing in our own face. We be playing in
• 1:16:12
  our own face. But we allow everybody else to do it.
• 1:16:15
  But we don't get on ourselves when we do it
• 1:16:17
  to ourselves. Discipline, that's what we gotta do. We gotta
• 1:16:26
  stay focused, tunnel vision, whatever it is that you're trying
• 1:16:32
  to do. If there's a distraction, baby, you better tune
• 1:16:34
  them out because that one distraction will destroy everything that
• 1:16:40
  you built. That's what will happen. You better stop letting
• 1:16:47
  people get comfortable in your house. You can talk to
• 1:16:52
  me at the door, talk to me through the ring camp.
• 1:16:57
  That's how we're gonna start doing people. Okay, stop letting
• 1:16:59
  it people in your house, talk to them people through
• 1:17:01
  the ring camp. Stop letting them uninvited guests show up
• 1:17:05
  at your house and you open the door and let
• 1:17:07
  them in. You don't know what they bringing in with them. Yeah,
• 1:17:13
  I'm talking to us. Were guilty. We want everybody, anybody
• 1:17:17
  that short, We always want them to come. I talk
• 1:17:19
  to me through this ring camp. How you doing, God
• 1:17:21
  bless you. Y'all better quit inviting themming them energies into
• 1:17:26
  your house. Y'all better quit inviting the big bet. And
• 1:17:29
  let me tell you something. Y'all better quit letting them
• 1:17:32
  unwarmanted energies around you. Do you hear me? Because you
• 1:17:35
  start picking up their bad habits. They say you are
• 1:17:40
  the company you keep. Am I talking too much for
• 1:17:45
  y'all tonight? Am I hitting too many things on their
• 1:17:48
  head tonight? What what am I doing? Oh? That's right,
• 1:17:52
  I'm preaching the gospel. Baby. I'm telling y'a, Oh what
• 1:17:55
  God told me to tell y'all. I'm just telling y'all
• 1:17:57
  what God said. God say, stop playing. God say, I'm
• 1:18:04
  only gonna keep filling your cup up so much. M God,
• 1:18:11
  only you're thirsty. So Britain, says my five oz Whole podcast.
• 1:18:17
  I love you and so proud of you. I love
• 1:18:19
  you too, and I'm proud of you very much, so
• 1:18:22
  I'm ready for your business to pop off. Come on, now,
• 1:18:27
  you better get up girl, lady, get up, put come on,
• 1:18:32
  put them fingers to work, get that business going. And
• 1:18:35
  I told you one foot in front of the other. HM.
• 1:18:42
  That's for you. Baby. You know who you know I'm
• 1:18:44
  talking to you. My sisters say I did that too.
• 1:18:50
  My sists say, only you know your story absolutely, and
• 1:18:54
  only you know yours. People know bits and pieces, but
• 1:18:58
  people don't know your whole story. And be mindful with
• 1:19:01
  who you share your story to m because not everybody
• 1:19:07
  is happy for your story. People love especially those broken
• 1:19:10
  parts to you. People love that. They relation that because
• 1:19:13
  you know what, that's when they hold the most power
• 1:19:16
  over you. But when you relinquish that power to them.
• 1:19:19
  People and you turn the chapter in that book, watch
• 1:19:25
  how they feel. They gonna say you acting funny, They
• 1:19:29
  gonna say you acting cheek it. Maybe I'm gonna be
• 1:19:32
  whatever you want, but I'm never gonna be miserable, and
• 1:19:34
  I'm gonna always keep striving to be happy. That's what
• 1:19:39
  we're doing. That's what we're doing. We you see, I
• 1:19:44
  fix that, y'all See how I correct that. I fix that.
• 1:19:47
  We because we are in this thing together. BB says,
• 1:19:53
  I walked in right on time. My sister Tay says,
• 1:19:56
  amen to that. She says, you have to know the
• 1:19:59
  different difference. B B says, you preaching. Let me pass
• 1:20:03
  around the collection plate. Let me tell you something. I'm
• 1:20:05
  always preaching. I'm always allow God to move through me.
• 1:20:10
  I may not be a saint because we all sinners.
• 1:20:17
  We all got some skeletons, we all got some things,
• 1:20:20
  some blemishes. But it's only one person that makes that right.
• 1:20:25
  And as God, that's it. God can correct that. He
• 1:20:32
  fixed that. He died for us. He fixed that. He said,
• 1:20:38
  your indiscretion, your sin forgiven. So once it's been forgiven,
• 1:20:45
  stop going back to it. Once God tells you all
• 1:20:50
  is forgiven, let it go. If God says you are
• 1:20:56
  right with him, that's all that matter. Y'all be so
• 1:20:59
  focused then what other people think about you? Baby? Let
• 1:21:02
  me tell you something. Only one person I'm concerned. It's
• 1:21:04
  only two people that I'm concerned with impressing. That's myself
• 1:21:08
  and my kids. That's it. That's it, Because my children,
• 1:21:14
  our babies, deserve the best of us. They deserve the
• 1:21:19
  best of us, not the US, not the US, not
• 1:21:26
  the broken US. But they need us. We gotta show up.
• 1:21:33
  So I'm gonna show up, especially to my daughter. I'm
• 1:21:39
  gonna show up. I'm gonna show up. My sister says.
• 1:21:48
  I've been there since day one and continue. I know
• 1:21:51
  my assets absolutely, because see, some of the people don't
• 1:21:54
  know the difference between an asset and the liability. Because see,
• 1:21:57
  everyone knows that a liability can look like an asset
• 1:22:01
  when really it's not. Discernment is everything. See, some of
• 1:22:05
  us don't have that. See some of us don't have
• 1:22:07
  the discernment. And that means you need to get closer
• 1:22:10
  to guy. You better, You need to move a little
• 1:22:12
  closer to him so you can be able to discern
• 1:22:16
  who's an asset and who's a liability. Because see, y'all
• 1:22:19
  know the devil was once an angel. Okay, maybe I'm
• 1:22:23
  going a little too deep for y'all. Maybe that's what
• 1:22:26
  I'm doing. Maybe I'm going a little too deep for
• 1:22:28
  y'all when I say the devil was once an angel.
• 1:22:36
  Your asset can look like a liability, and your liability
• 1:22:40
  could look like an asset. You gotta know the difference
• 1:22:43
  between the two. We have to stop holding on and
• 1:22:48
  hanging in situations longer than what we're supposed to do.
• 1:22:53
  But that's just a matter of reprogramming and knowing what
• 1:23:01
  we're work and knowing what we deserve. Some of us
• 1:23:05
  don't know that. Some of us don't know our value.
• 1:23:10
  Some of us don't know that we depreciate. The longer
• 1:23:14
  we hang around these liabilities, our value depreciates. The longer
• 1:23:20
  you hang around a liability, the more your value will appreciate.
• 1:23:24
  I want somebody to post that. Make that a status
• 1:23:26
  on Facebook. The longer you hang with a liability, the
• 1:23:30
  more you depreciate your value. Somebody better say amen. Do
• 1:23:38
  you hear me? I think maybe I'm going a little
• 1:23:45
  too deep. Maybe this was something that I'm telling myself
• 1:23:50
  and I'm just giving it to y'all. Is that what
• 1:23:53
  that is? Huh? I think? So you know what, let
• 1:23:59
  me stop. I know because everything I'm saying to y'all,
• 1:24:02
  I'm saying right back to myself. Because I have some
• 1:24:05
  liabilities that I thought were assets. So I said, you
• 1:24:12
  know what, my value keeps appreciating. So guess what. I
• 1:24:19
  got to get rid of these liabilities and I got
• 1:24:21
  to acquire more assets. Somebody better make that a post.
• 1:24:31
  Your value depreciates the longer you hang around liabilities. Y'all
• 1:24:39
  better tell somebody that. Y'all better tell that friend, that
• 1:24:42
  person girl. You hanging with them liabilities? Baby, you better
• 1:24:47
  get you some assets because maybe all I got is
• 1:24:51
  assets around me? Do you hear me? And they all
• 1:24:54
  in the comments? Now, what get you? Some friends like mine?
• 1:24:59
  Get you? Some assets like mine get you. Some get you.
• 1:25:03
  Let me tell you something. You get you some dope people.
• 1:25:07
  You get them, people that's gonna feed you when you're homewry.
• 1:25:10
  That's who you get. And you get you some people
• 1:25:12
  some assets that you don't ever have to hear about.
• 1:25:19
  Y'all know what I mean when I say that, because see,
• 1:25:23
  a liability is gonna keep reminding you. Hello, somebody, a
• 1:25:32
  liability is gonna keep reminding you what they've done for you. Assets.
• 1:25:35
  Don't how many of y'all got some liabilities around y'all?
• 1:25:42
  They keep reminding you what they've done for you. I
• 1:25:47
  had some I got assets now that whatever they do
• 1:25:54
  for me, I don't ever have to hear about it.
• 1:25:55
  Whatever I do for them, they never have to hear
• 1:25:57
  about it. You better get you some. You better get
• 1:26:02
  you some like everybody was running the Popeyes for that
• 1:26:04
  chicken sandwich. You better get you one. You better get
• 1:26:10
  you to be begged. You better get you some assets.
• 1:26:13
  Y'all better stop playing and stop letting these liabilities appreciate
• 1:26:16
  your value. You understand, because that's what they come to do.
• 1:26:20
  Their blood suckers, leeches, tumors, those are liabilities. Vampires is
• 1:26:29
  what we call them. Blood suckers. Y'all know what I'm
• 1:26:31
  talking about because some of y'all still hang with them.
• 1:26:36
  Some of y'all still surround yourself with them. Some of
• 1:26:38
  y'all still letting them diabilities in your house. And guess
• 1:26:42
  what then, people is doing sitting back watch you struggle
• 1:26:47
  and talking about you. Girl. Yeah, let me tell you
• 1:26:52
  by so and so girl, that's what they do. But
• 1:26:56
  these are people y'all consider assets. Like I said, he baby, y'all,
• 1:27:02
  let me tell you if I had Moltai, I will
• 1:27:05
  tell y'all about my assets. I will tell y'all about mine.
• 1:27:10
  But you know what, my assets will always reveal themselves.
• 1:27:16
  Y'all gonna see, y'all gonna see who's sitting with me
• 1:27:19
  at my table When it's time for us to eat.
• 1:27:22
  Because I keep asking God. God just prepared his table
• 1:27:25
  for me. So God has laid out the table for me.
• 1:27:27
  Y'all follow me with this. God has set the table
• 1:27:31
  up for us, right, He set the table up for us.
• 1:27:36
  He's given us the chairs, He's given us the plates,
• 1:27:40
  the knives, the forks, the spoons, the dinner, all of that.
• 1:27:45
  Now he's filling my table with assets. Uh huh uh
• 1:27:50
  huh he is. And he's building all of this in
• 1:27:53
  front of those very sane people that said we would
• 1:27:57
  never be anything, those very sane people, that's or you
• 1:28:00
  ain't gonna havever change, you gonna ever be the same.
• 1:28:04
  But I got a table, now, I got chas, I
• 1:28:09
  got assets at my table. So I'm no longer eating
• 1:28:13
  a loan because God told me to tell you i'mna
• 1:28:20
  subtract and you don't even have to ask me to.
• 1:28:26
  But don't forget. Whatever I remove, I'm gonna replace somebody.
• 1:28:30
  Better post that whatever God removes, he will replace somebody better.
• 1:28:34
  Say amen on that one. Okay, And that's the problem
• 1:28:38
  with us because we keep feeling God keeps taking. But
• 1:28:41
  what do you go, he say? Be quiet, you're talking
• 1:28:45
  too much, just chill. So I had to be quiet.
• 1:28:54
  As hard as it is for me to shut my mouth,
• 1:28:57
  I had to because God said, you came to me
• 1:29:01
  with a vision. I did. Let me I'm sorry, let
• 1:29:07
  me correct that we have gone to God with a vision, right.
• 1:29:11
  So I said, okay, I'm gonna see how bad you
• 1:29:14
  want this. So I sat alone at my table. I
• 1:29:22
  had this big, beautiful table that God had built for me.
• 1:29:24
  That I said that by myself until God says, you
• 1:29:29
  got assets, let them people sit down at your table
• 1:29:34
  and eat. And I said what. Then everybody started showing up,
• 1:29:44
  one by one, and everybody brought a dish. Follow me
• 1:29:48
  with this, everybody brought a dish to the table. I
• 1:29:55
  built a table with the help of God, I did,
• 1:30:00
  and God provided me with the assets. So to my assets.
• 1:30:10
  I love y'all. Thank you. Thank you for not allowing
• 1:30:17
  me to eat alone. Thank y'all for picking me back up.
• 1:30:27
  Thank you for wiping away every ten that is falling
• 1:30:30
  down my face. Those are assets, the very same ones
• 1:30:37
  that will fix your him in public and no one
• 1:30:41
  will ever know. Thank you, Thank you for that. I
• 1:30:49
  never felt like I'm so sorry, we felt like we
• 1:30:52
  were never worthy to have people like that at our table.
• 1:30:55
  But guess what, as long as you keep showing up,
• 1:30:58
  God is gonna provide for you. God is gonna put
• 1:31:01
  people at your table. God is gonna bring those very
• 1:31:04
  same people to feed you. Now. Mind you when I
• 1:31:09
  said I had the table, but I was by myself.
• 1:31:16
  But God brought every asset, and every asset brought a dish.
• 1:31:21
  So guess what we all eat? We all eat. We
• 1:31:29
  do and I love it. I wouldn't change my circle
• 1:31:35
  for nothing in the world. Baby. Let me tell you something,
• 1:31:37
  only Jesus Nathaniel Jackson the Third can separate us. We
• 1:31:44
  locked in. What Kendrick Glamar say, We locked in. And
• 1:31:51
  these are people I can genuinely call a friend. Some
• 1:31:57
  of y'all don't know the difference between a friend and
• 1:31:59
  in associate, And I'm gonna leave that for y'all. To you. Wi,
• 1:32:10
  you better be mindful with who you're calling Cis. You
• 1:32:13
  better be mindful with who you're calling Broke, You better
• 1:32:16
  be mindful with who you say it. Oh, that's my friend,
• 1:32:19
  because you may be a friend to them, but are
• 1:32:21
  they a friend to you? Oh? I think that will
• 1:32:28
  cut a little deep my Sister Taste says, you hitting
• 1:32:35
  the point cis. BB says people loving on you, loving
• 1:32:40
  you on their conditions when you love them without absolutely
• 1:32:43
  people put limitations on it. BB saying we're gonna stand
• 1:32:47
  on it. Tayse say, twenty twenty five assets, baby, that's
• 1:32:52
  all we want. We getting rid of liabilities in twenty
• 1:32:54
  twenty four. Do you hit me? So? If so, let's
• 1:32:57
  say this, y'all. So let me tell y'all. If some
• 1:33:02
  of y'all no longer get to see my Facebook page,
• 1:33:05
  that's because I got rid of that liability and I
• 1:33:07
  replaced you with an asset. Okay, just giving you the
• 1:33:10
  heads up. So we're gonna start cleaning out these Facebook
• 1:33:15
  lists and we're gonna start adding assets. We're gonna start
• 1:33:20
  involving ourselves with people that could bring stuff to us. Now,
• 1:33:23
  people that come get a plate and leave, because see
• 1:33:27
  when they come in, they get a plate and they
• 1:33:29
  leave you taking away from me. Yes, I know God
• 1:33:33
  is gonna replace, but it's the audacity that you had
• 1:33:37
  to come sit at my table eat some of our
• 1:33:39
  food and you didn't bring anything. What gives you that right?
• 1:33:49
  Who told you you could come sit at our table
• 1:33:51
  and you didn't bring anything. We're not doing that. We're
• 1:33:58
  no longer feeding the homeless. We're no longer feeding the hungry.
• 1:34:03
  You know, the ones that get a plate and leave,
• 1:34:06
  you know how like when we have fami ms, you
• 1:34:08
  know the people that come and take seven, eight, nine,
• 1:34:10
  ten plates home. It ain't bring nothing. We're no longer
• 1:34:14
  letting those people at our tables scavengers. We're not doing
• 1:34:19
  that no more. Y'all better fix that. Y'all better stop
• 1:34:25
  feeding folks, especially ones that look full. That part gonna
• 1:34:33
  go over a lot of people's heads when I say
• 1:34:35
  stop feeding people, especially when they look full, because see,
• 1:34:39
  they come to take from you to give to somebody else.
• 1:34:41
  I don't think so you won't give them a piece
• 1:34:44
  of my fried chicken. I'm so sorry, baby, as much
• 1:34:46
  as I love fried chicken. Oh no, baby, you can't
• 1:34:48
  get that piece I nope, nope, Get one of these
• 1:34:53
  little drum ats, one of these little chicken wings, and
• 1:34:55
  gone on about your business. And I'm gonna see how
• 1:34:58
  y'all thrive off of that one chicken wing. But over
• 1:35:01
  here at this table, we have ing a feast. We
• 1:35:04
  got a whole meal over here, because Jesus God, let
• 1:35:06
  me tell you some God, and prepare a whole meal
• 1:35:08
  for us. And I'm talking about a whole meal, baby,
• 1:35:11
  I'm talking about from breakfast, lunch, dinner, snack, dessert, hell,
• 1:35:15
  maybe even a little drink. But we have to stop
• 1:35:21
  inviting people to our parties. And a lot of us
• 1:35:26
  have to stop showing up to other people's circuses and
• 1:35:29
  being clowns. Okay, hello, somebody. Y'all love showing up to
• 1:35:36
  other people's circuses and being a clown and performing and
• 1:35:39
  they laughing at you. You're their main attraction. Hmm, I'm
• 1:35:45
  not coming. I'm not coming. No, thank you, give my
• 1:35:49
  ticket to somebody else, but I won't be there. I
• 1:35:51
  wish you well, God blessed, but we're not coming. We're
• 1:35:56
  not coming. We're no longer showing up for those that
• 1:35:58
  don't show up for us stopping. We're not doing that.
• 1:36:03
  We chilling. That's what we're doing. We're working on assets
• 1:36:08
  for twenty twenty five. No longer liabilities. Sorry, your time
• 1:36:13
  is up, it has expired. That's what we're doing, y'all.
• 1:36:18
  Hear me, twenty twenty five again. I'm gonna run this back.
• 1:36:22
  I'm challenging every person we are only in August. We
• 1:36:28
  have four months to go, or a little less than
• 1:36:30
  four months to go before twenty twenty five. I want
• 1:36:34
  everyone to get a pen, a piece of paper, and
• 1:36:35
  I want you to write down what you did not
• 1:36:38
  accomplish thus far in twenty twenty four that you will
• 1:36:42
  accomplish in twenty twenty five. What are the What are
• 1:36:49
  some of the things that we're gonna do. What are
• 1:36:55
  we doing? What are we doing? We're working on business
• 1:37:03
  plans because, like I told y'all, twenty twenty four is
• 1:37:06
  a year of lessons, but twenty twenty five is the
• 1:37:10
  year of triumph. Do you hear me. We're about to
• 1:37:13
  finish up this chapter, do you hear me? And then
• 1:37:16
  we're turning the page. We're not hanging on to this
• 1:37:19
  chapter no more. We're not doing that. We're turning the page.
• 1:37:26
  We're healing. We're working on us. We're doing the inner work,
• 1:37:32
  we're doing the shadow work. We're doing the work to
• 1:37:35
  be a better person so we could be a better
• 1:37:37
  person to the world. You understand, we're gonna work on us.
• 1:37:42
  We're gonna take care of us. We're gonna handle us.
• 1:37:46
  That's what we're doing. That's what we're doing. We're working
• 1:37:50
  on us to be better, to be greater. See we're
• 1:37:54
  already great, but we want to put the error at
• 1:37:57
  the top. We want to be greater. We're gonna be better,
• 1:38:04
  not good, but better. Good is okay, but I like better.
• 1:38:10
  And then once we accomplish better, then we're gonna be
• 1:38:12
  the best. Somebody didn't hear me. We're gonna be good.
• 1:38:21
  Then we're gonna be better. Then we're gonna be at
• 1:38:24
  the best. We're gonna be our best to us, to ourselves, okay,
• 1:38:30
  better to ourselves. We're gonna know what our value is
• 1:38:34
  in twenty twenty five. Again, I'm gonna say this again,
• 1:38:38
  and somebody better. I better see this. I better see
• 1:38:40
  somebody make this as a post. The longer you hang
• 1:38:44
  with liabilities, the more your value depreciates. Okay, that's what
• 1:38:51
  we're doing. That's what we're doing. That's what we're doing.
• 1:38:59
  That's what we doing. That's what we're doing. That's what
• 1:39:05
  we're doing. That's what we're doing. Promise you, that's what
• 1:39:12
  we're doing. That's what we're doing for the nine nine,
• 1:39:18
  the two thousand, twenty twenty five, twenty twenty six, and
• 1:39:22
  here on out, that's what we're doing. We're not playing
• 1:39:26
  with ourselves anymore. We're no longer playing in our own faces.
• 1:39:29
  We're no longer letting other people play in our face.
• 1:39:31
  That's not what we're doing for twenty twenty five. So
• 1:39:33
  stop letting people play in your face, stop telling, stop
• 1:39:36
  letting people tell you what your business is and ain't
• 1:39:39
  gonna do because what kind of business do you have? Okay?
• 1:39:44
  I thought somebody unambitious had something to say. Okay, am
• 1:39:49
  I calling them out? Is is that what I'm doing?
• 1:39:54
  Am I calling the naysayers out? I believe? So I'm
• 1:39:59
  celebrating my friends. Whatever kind of businesses is that you have, baby,
• 1:40:04
  I want to celebrate it. You having a business event.
• 1:40:06
  I'm coming. I'm coming. That's what you need me to do.
• 1:40:14
  I'm coming. I'm gonna pull up. That's what I'm gonna do.
• 1:40:18
  You need me to show up, You need me to
• 1:40:20
  bring some people with me. You need some word of mouth,
• 1:40:22
  You need me to wear one of your shirts, you
• 1:40:23
  need me to promote your brand. I got you. I
• 1:40:26
  do it for free. I do it for free. I
• 1:40:31
  don't ever ask for anything in return. Do you hear me? Never?
• 1:40:37
  You got a business let's collab. You need me to
• 1:40:42
  nominate you for a magazine interview. I got you. You
• 1:40:47
  need me to connect you with some people that make
• 1:40:49
  it help you get where you need to be. I
• 1:40:50
  got you. You got a story you need me to tell.
• 1:40:54
  I got you. You want to come on my show.
• 1:40:56
  Let's do it. Let's make it happen. You got some
• 1:41:03
  information for me that will help you know level up
• 1:41:07
  with my brand, Let's do it. Call me for free.
• 1:41:15
  If you're a small business owner. I want to know
• 1:41:18
  how I can support what you need me to do.
• 1:41:23
  I can post it on my TikTok. I can woman
• 1:41:25
  shot you out. Hell yeah, let's do it. You struggling,
• 1:41:32
  you hungry? Come on, let's eat and let's talk. Let's laugh,
• 1:41:40
  let's cry. Let's get over this, this this hump. We
• 1:41:47
  can do it because I want every person to know
• 1:41:50
  that you don't have to go on this journey by yourself.
• 1:41:52
  You're not alone. I'm in a battle with you. I'm
• 1:41:56
  suited up and ready. I've been wet before. I've been
• 1:42:03
  wet before. I donet been in the ring without an umbrella.
• 1:42:08
  Some of y'all haven't. Some of y'all just now starting
• 1:42:12
  to get wet, and y'all just oh, I've been wet sometimes,
• 1:42:18
  I've been left in the ring. But I'm here. I'm
• 1:42:27
  still here. I'm not giving up. My children need me
• 1:42:31
  and I need my babies. I need my friends around me.
• 1:42:36
  I need y'all just like you need me. I need y'all.
• 1:42:43
  We need to laugh, we need to cry, we need
• 1:42:44
  to do all of that, and then we need to
• 1:42:46
  get on our business. My sisters say, stand on it.
• 1:42:55
  BB said, that is a fact you definitely are. Tay
• 1:42:59
  said that friend, she's not lying love to so much
• 1:43:02
  and I do, Bibi says, and I love you for that.
• 1:43:06
  Oh yeah, because I'm that friend that I'm not gonna
• 1:43:09
  tell you what you wanting. I'm gonna tell you what
• 1:43:11
  you need to hear. But I'm gonna always tell you
• 1:43:12
  through love. I promise you. I'm not gonna ever beat
• 1:43:15
  you down and say, oh what did it. I'm gonna
• 1:43:18
  get on you and I'm gonna fus at you and
• 1:43:21
  i'm gonna say why you did that? Why did you
• 1:43:22
  do that? Now you know better than that. Come on,
• 1:43:26
  let's get up. Let's do this again, Crowadaday. But we're
• 1:43:30
  gonna work on that. Resku we're gonna tomorrow. We have
• 1:43:32
  a solution. We not crying no more. Get up, get
• 1:43:37
  out of the bed, or wash your face, or brush
• 1:43:40
  your teeth, put some clothes on, and let's get to work.
• 1:43:45
  Stop it. I want you to get in that mirror
• 1:43:49
  tomorrow morning, and I want you to tell yourself you
• 1:43:52
  are a winner. You got this, You are a queen,
• 1:44:00
  You're a king. Fix that crown, pick it up and
• 1:44:04
  put it back on. Pick it up. Come out of
• 1:44:11
  the dog so we can see you. That's what you
• 1:44:17
  need to do. Get up, wash your face, brush your teeth,
• 1:44:24
  fix your hair, put some clothes on, and let's get
• 1:44:27
  up and let's get to work. We're not walking around
• 1:44:34
  what life is. We're not gonna walk around looking like
• 1:44:37
  what life is taking us through. Absolutely not. I'm not
• 1:44:42
  saying you got to put on makeup and get up,
• 1:44:48
  fix your face, and let's get to work. That's what
• 1:44:54
  we're doing. You want to win, this is the way
• 1:44:59
  to do it. You want to get up, you want
• 1:45:04
  to be victorious. That's how you gotta do it. You
• 1:45:06
  gotta endure and encounter some of those storms. You can't
• 1:45:13
  run from it, because I just told you, whatever God
• 1:45:19
  will bring you to, he'll walk your throat. So get up,
• 1:45:27
  fix your face, put on some clean clothes, come out
• 1:45:32
  of get out of that bed. I'm tired of seeing
• 1:45:34
  you in the rusty, dusty pajamas. Yeah, I'm talking to
• 1:45:38
  you because I want to see the best you, because
• 1:45:47
  I know what's in you. Sometimes it takes a person
• 1:45:55
  on the outside to see a light that you can't see.
• 1:46:03
  And some of y'all got some bright, bright, bright lights
• 1:46:05
  that I want to see. Some of y'all do, and
• 1:46:14
  I want to see it. I want to see you
• 1:46:18
  in a magazine. I want to whatever whatever your goals
• 1:46:21
  and your aspirations are for your business or for your life,
• 1:46:25
  I want to be a part of that. I want
• 1:46:27
  to celebrate that with you now. When you win, I
• 1:46:32
  want I want to celebrate with you at the bottom
• 1:46:33
  for even getting up and getting it started. Because there
• 1:46:36
  are a lot of people that are still sitting here
• 1:46:38
  with an idea. It's a lot of people sitting up
• 1:46:44
  here with an idea and they're too afraid because someone
• 1:46:49
  told them no, or because a friend, i'm so sorry,
• 1:46:55
  let me fix that, because a liability came and told
• 1:46:58
  you they don't think you should do that. So you
• 1:47:02
  shelf your idea all because you let one person that
• 1:47:06
  didn't even add value to your life come in and
• 1:47:09
  tell you that. Jay, don't feel like you should do this.
• 1:47:16
  That's what I mean when I say you better quit
• 1:47:17
  playing in your own face. Y'all, so worried about what
• 1:47:22
  other people have to say. Stop worrying about what somebody
• 1:47:25
  got to say, because you're not a what they say.
• 1:47:29
  You're not accomplished if you don't have a hater. Yep.
• 1:47:39
  So get up, pull that pen in that path that
• 1:47:42
  you then throw all the way to the back of
• 1:47:43
  the closet, pull it out, dust it off, and let's
• 1:47:48
  get to work. Let's make your dream a reality. This
• 1:47:55
  is my dream, which is not my reality. I thought
• 1:48:00
  I would be doing this, never thought, but here I am, so.
• 1:48:10
  Tate says, yes, ma'am. She says, cut the f off.
• 1:48:14
  She says that's it. Brittany says that's sick. Tate says,
• 1:48:19
  we letting you go. Anybody can be let go. I'm
• 1:48:22
  trying to tell you, baby, anybody could be dismissed from
• 1:48:25
  their position. So don't feel like you, as a liability,
• 1:48:31
  are still here permanently, absolutely not babing because I'm gonna
• 1:48:34
  get rid of you, and I'm gonna replace you with
• 1:48:37
  an asset, because see, God is gonna God will give
• 1:48:40
  me my liability right to test me. Ooh, ooh, I'm
• 1:48:43
  so sorry. God will give us a liability right to
• 1:48:46
  test us. He'll test us right, and that will determine
• 1:48:57
  whether we pass or fail, because, like I told you,
• 1:49:02
  your asset can pose as a liability and your liability
• 1:49:05
  can pose as an asset. Do you have discernment? Do
• 1:49:10
  you know the difference between the two, Because Vivia, let
• 1:49:18
  me tell you something, all these assets I got, we
• 1:49:21
  don't have room for liabilities. And on that note, I'm
• 1:49:28
  gonna start wrapping everything up because we have Like y'all,
• 1:49:31
  we've been going hard, y'all for almost two hours. I'm
• 1:49:33
  so sorry, y'all. Did I mean to keep y'all this leap,
• 1:49:36
  But I'm just ecstatic for Black Girl Interrupted Podcast to
• 1:49:40
  be back. Like I'm just I don't think you guys
• 1:49:42
  even understand how much there we'll go. I enjoy doing this.
• 1:49:49
  I don't think y'all even really truly have grasped that
• 1:49:53
  this is I'm the happiest outside of my my fiance
• 1:49:57
  and my children. This is my other happy place. This
• 1:50:03
  is my other space that I created for y'all. So
• 1:50:06
  we could get in here and we can laugh with
• 1:50:07
  a job, we can play, we could talk a little noise,
• 1:50:11
  but we're gonna get serious though, So Brittany says, Gloriala said,
• 1:50:16
  I'll cut anybody off. I don't care if you can
• 1:50:18
  to me, and she say, and baby, I felt that,
• 1:50:20
  n I did, and I did. I felt that part.
• 1:50:26
  Tate says, Yes, Brittany, that part my sister says. She
• 1:50:31
  says always she'll say, lol, for sure. She said, you
• 1:50:36
  have sis. I give it to both. Absolutely. She said,
• 1:50:40
  you're not a person that quit. You stop and continue.
• 1:50:43
  I do, but I have to remove the stop and
• 1:50:48
  stay with the continue because I have to stop. I
• 1:50:52
  have to quit doing that because I come and I
• 1:50:56
  give y'all this this juicy content, and then I fall
• 1:51:01
  off the face of the earth. And then y'all are like, well,
• 1:51:02
  how the hell she gonna what what's And then I
• 1:51:07
  get the messages and then I get the phone calls,
• 1:51:08
  ask you what's up? When it's black girl, interrupt the
• 1:51:11
  coming back. You'll need it. And that's my motivation, is
• 1:51:17
  the fact that everything that we've encountered. We're still here
• 1:51:24
  to talk about it. See, some people then aren't even
• 1:51:28
  here to talk about but we all no matter how
• 1:51:33
  dark that place got for us, we're still here to
• 1:51:36
  talk about it. And I didn't been in the doll.
• 1:51:41
  I know what it looks like to try to maneuver
• 1:51:45
  in the dark and you ain't got a flashlight. I
• 1:51:46
  know what that feels like. And that was the toughest
• 1:51:51
  spot for me to be in. But eventually I found
• 1:51:56
  my way back to the light. And see, as long
• 1:52:01
  as you're in the light, we can celebrate you. I can't.
• 1:52:03
  We can't see you in the dark. So you got
• 1:52:04
  to come on out of that. You have to stop
• 1:52:06
  being scared. And I'm not afraid. People say no, you
• 1:52:12
  say no. It is what it is. I'm gonna keep going.
• 1:52:21
  I'm gonna keep going. I'm not gonna give up. I
• 1:52:26
  depend on me, My children depend on me, my friends
• 1:52:31
  depend on me. I gotta be here, not only for me,
• 1:52:38
  but my loved ones and my babies. I have to.
• 1:52:43
  They deserve us. Why short change them? Why do that?
• 1:52:55
  We gotta do better for ourselves. We have to live,
• 1:53:02
  be happy. I know life is gonna life. I know
• 1:53:07
  it is. Life has been lifing for me these last
• 1:53:10
  three years, almost for and when I tell y'all, I
• 1:53:13
  was so mad. I say, God, please just take your
• 1:53:16
  sandal off my neck. God say, I won't stop till
• 1:53:21
  you come to me. I didn't have a choice. I
• 1:53:32
  had to go to him naked, and I had to surrender,
• 1:53:39
  and I had to give it to him. I had
• 1:53:41
  to let him work these things out for me, because
• 1:53:43
  every time we do it, we make a mess, and
• 1:53:46
  then God had to come in and clean it up.
• 1:53:48
  So I'm gonna let him make it right for me.
• 1:53:50
  The first time I prayed, I told God how much
• 1:53:57
  I loved him much, I appreciated him for never leaving me,
• 1:54:04
  and here I am. I'm still here, victorious, resilient. He
• 1:54:16
  did all of that for me. So God will do
• 1:54:20
  things for you, even when you feel like you don't deserve,
• 1:54:25
  even when you feel like you're not worthy. God will
• 1:54:29
  always bless you. God will do that for you. God
• 1:54:35
  is a forgiving God. He's always a man of clarity
• 1:54:40
  and never confusion. So once we tell God we leaving
• 1:54:47
  it to him, we got to take our hands out
• 1:54:49
  of it. But you got to give him the praise
• 1:54:56
  and you got to go to God in your good days,
• 1:54:58
  not just in bad, because sometimes you may have more
• 1:55:02
  bad than good days, but you gotta give God the
• 1:55:05
  glory on both. And that was something I hadn't done
• 1:55:10
  in a long time, and I did. I did. I
• 1:55:23
  needed that today. So my sister shawns she says, I
• 1:55:29
  love you too. Sys Tate says, you're making me crisis.
• 1:55:33
  I'm so sorry. But you know, own black girl interrupted,
• 1:55:36
  y'all already know you never know what we're gonna get
• 1:55:38
  with an episode. We may have an episode where we
• 1:55:41
  just where we as like what that, you know, And
• 1:55:43
  then we may have an episode where we just get
• 1:55:45
  a little too deep and we get emotional, and that's okay,
• 1:55:50
  that's therapy for us because we're crying today to prepare
• 1:55:57
  us for tomorrow, to prepare us for war tomorrow, for
• 1:56:00
  the battle tomorrow. I cried last night, y'all. I don't
• 1:56:06
  even think, y'all like I cried. I think literally for
• 1:56:09
  like two three hours last night until I said, I
• 1:56:12
  gotta get back at my word. I gotta get back
• 1:56:14
  and do my praise breaks. And guess what, every song
• 1:56:19
  that came up in my playlist was every song that
• 1:56:21
  I needed to hear. Yep. So God always shows up
• 1:56:29
  when you at least expect them to. Sean says, keep
• 1:56:34
  doing what you do. You give me hope. And that's
• 1:56:37
  what I mean when I say, y'all don't understand how
• 1:56:41
  comments like this or why I keep going. Don't do
• 1:56:51
  this just with me. I do this for y'all. I
• 1:56:55
  do written and says we got so much come and
• 1:57:01
  sists they gonna see I'm riding with you all the way.
• 1:57:04
  I'm telling you, so the tires fall off. Tay says, yes,
• 1:57:10
  she sure do. Tell it like it is always she's
• 1:57:14
  say omg, yes, She'll say I'm coming sis. She said
• 1:57:21
  I'm coming for that tattoo because I love it absolutely,
• 1:57:24
  and you better. She told me let it go. She says,
• 1:57:29
  I don't need my link back. I wish you nothing
• 1:57:31
  but the best to everybody that got the lick. Absolutely,
• 1:57:35
  I don't want my link back because God gonna handle you.
• 1:57:41
  God sees what you do, He sees what you've done
• 1:57:43
  to us, and trust and believe God gonna swing that sandal, baby,
• 1:57:48
  and it hurt when you get hit. So God can
• 1:57:52
  handle a way way better than what I can. So
• 1:57:56
  I'm gonna let you do you. I love you, God
• 1:58:00
  bless you, wish you the best, but I'm not interested
• 1:58:05
  in getting my lick back. You hurt me, Okay, you
• 1:58:13
  did that. I forgive you, but just know I'll never
• 1:58:17
  forget and I will always handle you accordingly. That's what
• 1:58:24
  we do to people, the handle them accordingly. See with
• 1:58:29
  us in the flesh, we always want to try to
• 1:58:31
  get our get back. I'm gonna let God have you.
• 1:58:37
  That's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna let God have you.
• 1:58:40
  I'm gonna let God handle you. I ain't gotta do anything.
• 1:58:45
  I don't even have to say anything. Mhm. The get
• 1:58:51
  back is real, do you hear me? But the glow
• 1:58:53
  up is even better. You knocked me down, you did
• 1:59:00
  you help me to depreciate my value. But guess what,
• 1:59:05
  God built it back up. God built it back up.
• 1:59:14
  God grabbed me, He dust the knee off, He shook me,
• 1:59:21
  made me adjust my shoulders and made me put my
• 1:59:24
  head up and my chest out, and told me, you
• 1:59:27
  know what your purpose is? Stopped playing? Okay, I got you, so,
• 1:59:43
  Tay says, we don't talk about that. She said, yes,
• 1:59:46
  I love it. She said, I'm ready Brittany say, this
• 1:59:49
  is a wonderful way to come back. Sis. She's like,
• 1:59:52
  let's go. My sister, Ta said, she said, this is
• 1:59:56
  your comeback, sis, and it is the bounce as real.
• 2:00:02
  We didn't all fail back, but the bounce back is real.
• 2:00:05
  Do you hear me? BB said? Tay says amen. BB says,
• 2:00:12
  I'm ready in my SpongeBob voice. Lord have mercy. She'll say,
• 2:00:18
  I'm free, but would love to share. She said, I'm
• 2:00:20
  tired of faking sis. She'll say, I tell you the
• 2:00:24
  truth though always I'm telling you. She say, that's the one.
• 2:00:28
  She said, I'm tired of feeling like a burden, so
• 2:00:29
  I tell people I'm good. Now, We're gonna stop telling
• 2:00:32
  people were good and we're not. It's not being afraid
• 2:00:36
  to tell people how they make you feel because they
• 2:00:40
  not afraid to do it. Sure y'all better, baby, Let
• 2:00:44
  me tell y'all better. Stop being afraid to tell people
• 2:00:47
  how they uh uh, we're not doing that. You hurt me.
• 2:00:51
  I need to let you know that I'm and I'm hurting.
• 2:00:59
  So Tate says, I you because I can pour into
• 2:01:01
  you the way you pour into me, and I love
• 2:01:02
  you for that. I'm gonna always do that always. I'm
• 2:01:07
  gonna always pour into somebody. I don't care what my
• 2:01:12
  energy is looking like. Like I told you, if I
• 2:01:15
  could dig down deep, I'm talking about if I got
• 2:01:17
  to get down by my toe nails to give you
• 2:01:22
  some strength and some courage and you need me to
• 2:01:25
  uplift or empower you, let's do it. I'm gonna make
• 2:01:28
  it happen. That's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna dig down,
• 2:01:33
  I'm gonna get a little by But when I do it,
• 2:01:40
  I want to make sure I'm in a good space.
• 2:01:45
  I want to make sure I'm in a good space
• 2:01:46
  when I give it to you. So, Tay says, I
• 2:01:55
  haven't seen that side, but I know everyone have a
• 2:01:57
  side and that they don't show and they don't b
• 2:02:02
  B says, you know you get that this way absolutely,
• 2:02:05
  She say, Yes, Brittany, to tell our story of how
• 2:02:08
  we met and where we are now is amazing. Man
• 2:02:11
  in a hospital, that's how we met. A mutual friend
• 2:02:16
  of ours was in the hospital. Tay says, I can
• 2:02:22
  truly say she is a real sister for real not
• 2:02:24
  blood related. Blood don't always make you family. Tay says,
• 2:02:30
  she is truly amazing. She says, I have faith and
• 2:02:33
  I've learned it. She said, I tried it and he
• 2:02:37
  saved me. Bb say faith and fear. Can I be
• 2:02:40
  in the same sentence he got you? You better know it?
• 2:02:44
  Tate says, I'm in tears sis. I won't question, and
• 2:02:47
  we're gonna stop questioning why God does what he does.
• 2:02:50
  He does it for a reason because heee. God sees
• 2:02:52
  and hears conversations that we don't get to see in here.
• 2:02:55
  You understand, sometimes we're the topic of people's conversations and
• 2:02:58
  God will remove those people and we don't even have
• 2:03:00
  to ask him to do it, because God sees what
• 2:03:03
  we're trying to do. So God will clear your path
• 2:03:05
  for you. You don't even have to ask him to
• 2:03:06
  do it. He'll move the weeds out of your weight.
• 2:03:09
  He'll snatch every last one the weeds up. Do you
• 2:03:12
  hear me? And you could be one beautiful rose in
• 2:03:14
  this garden, But guess what, that one seed will give
• 2:03:19
  you twelve roses, and before you know what, you have
• 2:03:24
  a whole garden. So stop being reliable on the weeds
• 2:03:30
  to keep you protected when you want the roses to
• 2:03:33
  grow around you. See we can't grow where weeds exist,
• 2:03:37
  because what are we supposed to do. We're supposed to
• 2:03:39
  kill weeds, right, Okay, then, so that's what we're doing.
• 2:03:46
  All of our gardens are beautiful. I know they look
• 2:03:49
  empty right now. I know your table looks empty. I
• 2:03:52
  know you like well, God, I just he got it
• 2:03:56
  already worked out. Your story is already that chapter that
• 2:04:03
  you're writing, God is writing too, and I bet you
• 2:04:07
  will like his version more than ours. I bet we will.
• 2:04:13
  I know we will, because God always speaks so eloquently
• 2:04:18
  about us. He does see. In God's eyes we can
• 2:04:25
  do no wrong, and God forgive us. He forgives us
• 2:04:33
  no matter how many times we fall down. God will
• 2:04:37
  be there to pickyback up. B B says, your test
• 2:04:43
  is a testimony and your story will be what help
• 2:04:45
  someone through their issues. Absolutely, they're go my stylars Cantina.
• 2:04:50
  She says, always trust in God. There is no testimony
• 2:04:53
  without a test. There's my sister, jul BB says, God
• 2:05:01
  saying no not chet doesn't mean he's telling you no.
• 2:05:05
  He has to prepare you first. Of course he does,
• 2:05:08
  because God is never gonna give you what you ask
• 2:05:10
  for upfront. God gonna make you work for it. See,
• 2:05:14
  that's the problem with y'all. Y'all want somebody to give y'all.
• 2:05:16
  Some y'all don't want to work for it. No, let
• 2:05:18
  me work for it. Let me go through the blood,
• 2:05:19
  this sweat, the tear, is the rain, the sun, the whatever.
• 2:05:22
  Let me go through all of that. I want that.
• 2:05:29
  Tay says, got to have that armor, baby, I'm telling
• 2:05:32
  you because see some of y'all keep saying y'all ready
• 2:05:34
  for the war, but you're really not prepared. Hmm. Some
• 2:05:39
  of y'all ain't preparing. You keep saying you all eh,
• 2:05:43
  and you're really not. Baby. When I tell y'all, God
• 2:05:47
  will humble you real quick and will and will do
• 2:05:52
  you hit me. Ta says, I'm going to keep coming
• 2:05:59
  with the wind absolutely because you're a winner already, You
• 2:06:03
  already won. Half the battle is over. Oh okay mm hmm.
• 2:06:09
  I'm gonna tell you again, half your battle is over.
• 2:06:13
  God had already fought. He already did it for you
• 2:06:20
  and you stead of trying to trying to do it
• 2:06:22
  on your own. And God told you I got you.
• 2:06:27
  But we gotta trust. Brittany says faith of a mustard
• 2:06:31
  seed absolutely a whole garden. Huh. Jule says God will
• 2:06:37
  umble you and weighs you didn't think were possible. Y'all
• 2:06:40
  almost made me throw this head and said, do you
• 2:06:42
  hear me? I almost because big bad. If God is
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  not but humble, Jo, that's not a pain. I think
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  y'all are really truly ready for because that type of
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  umble hurts, it's steamed. It's enough to upset you and
• 2:07:02
  make you mad. It's enough to say, now, look God,
• 2:07:07
  but he don't care. He's in the business to fix you,
• 2:07:16
  and we do keep each other grounded. I'm definitely not
• 2:07:19
  gonna throw in the towel. My Sis says, I'm over
• 2:07:23
  here praise and she say, girl, I lost both AirPods.
• 2:07:26
  Lord have mercy fix it. Jesus, come on, come on.
• 2:07:31
  My Sis says, I love you and I love you more,
• 2:07:35
  and she say nobody knows why I stay. For a reason,
• 2:07:38
  she say, door, Matt gonna say, did you call go
• 2:07:40
  back to your car and drive or that's what I
• 2:07:42
  mean when I say, y'all better be mindful with who
• 2:07:45
  y'all keep letting in your door. You better talk to
• 2:07:48
  them through the ren camera or whatever type of camera. Baby,
• 2:07:51
  you better talk talk to him through the window, because see,
• 2:07:55
  I don't need you in my house. If you're not
• 2:07:57
  an asset. You keep your live alass out on a
• 2:08:00
  school's my language, y'all, but you keep your live glass
• 2:08:02
  on the other side of that door. Will because I
• 2:08:04
  don't have to. I don't have no more room in
• 2:08:06
  my house for liabilities. Okay, h My sister Jules said,
• 2:08:13
  I cut off those liabilities years ago. I'm trying to
• 2:08:15
  tell you, baby, and guess what, sometimes you don't even
• 2:08:18
  have to do it. God to do it for you,
• 2:08:19
  and you don't even have to question me. Hm, yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am. Baby,
• 2:08:26
  do you hear me? I love you too, Sis, Tay says,
• 2:08:30
  I learned the difference a long time ago. Tay say,
• 2:08:35
  why we sat a whole meal at the safe girl? Okay,
• 2:08:38
  because I'm telling you because God built this table for us, right.
• 2:08:43
  I gotta run this right back. God built this table.
• 2:08:47
  And when he built his table, initially I was by myself, okay,
• 2:08:50
  with one little one. They played with one little chicken
• 2:08:52
  wing on there. God. God didn't give me everything just yet.
• 2:08:57
  So I said, well, damn, how am I supposed to eat?
• 2:09:01
  And then here come you take you thene brought the
• 2:09:04
  corn bread you done, brought the kool laid you done both,
• 2:09:08
  the napkins you done, brought some more plates. You done
• 2:09:12
  brought the silver ware. I didn't even ask you to
• 2:09:15
  bring all it, but you did anyway. See that's an asset.
• 2:09:20
  That's an asset. You brought all of that, and you
• 2:09:23
  didn't even have. All God told you to do was come,
• 2:09:26
  but you brought the whole mealk, girl, you did that,
• 2:09:29
  and I ain't mad. Then here come Bibi bib then
• 2:09:36
  brought some cold drinks. Bb it in both the potato
• 2:09:39
  salad she didn't. Both some mold chicken, she didn't. Bought
• 2:09:45
  some sandwiches. She done, broke some finger foods. Now look
• 2:09:48
  now then he'll come jewel crazy. But she done brought
• 2:09:52
  all the desserts. So now we got five tables full
• 2:09:55
  of desserts. My girl, Kate, Kate came with her stuff,
• 2:10:04
  and I'm like, girl, we can't even hitt the more
• 2:10:07
  food on this table. God say yes, you can slide
• 2:10:11
  it on down because I got some more people coming
• 2:10:13
  to your table. Cool. So God didn't filled my table
• 2:10:20
  up my table phone and we're working on table number two.
• 2:10:25
  So can't nobody tell me God don't work. Can't nobody
• 2:10:28
  tell me he not in a blessing season. And all
• 2:10:33
  I did was bring the table. That's all I did
• 2:10:38
  up there by my brother. Hey, big brother, will, good
• 2:10:42
  to see you, baby, I miss you, Baba taste say
• 2:10:46
  call him out, sis. My sister Jules said, I'm about
• 2:10:49
  to get it going for real. Tay say, I swear
• 2:10:53
  it has been the best podcast you got this. Sis.
• 2:10:55
  Let's go, baby, let me tell you something, and we
• 2:10:57
  going and it goes up up from him. Julie say,
• 2:11:02
  God hits harder and he the ooh dang God, he do.
• 2:11:10
  I'm telling you my brother from the Black Male Podcast.
• 2:11:14
  Let me tell you something. Anybody that is on TikTok man,
• 2:11:17
  go tap in with my brother at the Black Male Podcast.
• 2:11:20
  When I tell you this dude, his is the truth. Man.
• 2:11:25
  Let me tell you something. Me and my brother have
• 2:11:27
  done several shows together. And don't worry, y'all gonna see
• 2:11:31
  him again before the end of twenty twenty four. Trust
• 2:11:33
  and believe because I got to bring my brother in
• 2:11:35
  on some conversations before this end. Because guess what black
• 2:11:39
  men matter too? Hello, somebody Hm I'm telling you, Tasa
• 2:11:48
  ain't no talking to no ring. I see you on
• 2:11:50
  a camera. Fix it, Jesus. They say I didn't have
• 2:11:56
  a chicken wing, I just had the plate. M mm hm.
• 2:12:03
  So you were starving too, until God said, come on,
• 2:12:08
  you've been over here with these liabilities to learn that's
• 2:12:10
  why you starving. Come on over here and get your
• 2:12:12
  plate with these with these, with the with these assets
• 2:12:15
  over here, because they eating good over here. See the
• 2:12:18
  liabilities that he's still eating ramen noodles over here at
• 2:12:21
  this asset table. They got chicken and they got watermelon.
• 2:12:25
  Everything you ask for, baby, they got over here on
• 2:12:27
  this table. You better lead in ramen noodles alone. You
• 2:12:30
  better lead that high blood pressure calls and food over
• 2:12:32
  there with them liabilities, and get over here with these
• 2:12:34
  assets where you can be healthy. Somebody better say many
• 2:12:41
  saying now he placing everybody one of a time, and
• 2:12:43
  he is. She'll say amen, he work. She'll say I'm
• 2:12:48
  going and they do m m m mmm. Y'all know,
• 2:12:56
  I never I've done an episode this long before, but
• 2:12:59
  just I don't know, I don't know something is different
• 2:13:01
  about this one tonight. But as I go ahead and
• 2:13:05
  I bring everything to a close. I do want to
• 2:13:07
  discuss the upcoming episodes for a Black Girl Interrupted. Starting tomorrow,
• 2:13:12
  I will start my little series called Family Secrets Revealed.
• 2:13:16
  We're gonna get farthered, We're gonna get a little deeper
• 2:13:19
  in debt with what that's gonna be about. What that's
• 2:13:21
  gonna entail again, y'all. I'm finna hit on incests. I'm
• 2:13:25
  about to hit on mo less station. I'm about to
• 2:13:27
  hit on narcissistic parents. And why do we keep allowing
• 2:13:30
  this type of behavior just because that's your mama, and
• 2:13:33
  just because that's your daddy, and because that's your sister.
• 2:13:35
  No baby, disrespect is disrespect no matter who it comes from,
• 2:13:38
  and we're no longer tolerating that. Okay, somebody mama gonna
• 2:13:44
  be mad at me, but it's okay somebody daddy gonna
• 2:13:47
  be mad at me tomorrow. It is what it is.
• 2:13:49
  This is my story. You have no right to tell
• 2:13:51
  me how my chapter is gonna be written because you
• 2:13:54
  don't live my story. So this is my book. I
• 2:13:58
  want to say to you guys, I love y'all again.
• 2:14:01
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• 2:14:05
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• 2:14:09
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• 2:14:33
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• 2:14:35
  pop up. I want to say I love you guys.
• 2:14:39
  Happy Wednesday. It is wellness Wednesday. I pray that everyone
• 2:14:45
  your mental is good. If it's not, let's talk about it.
• 2:14:49
  Let's talk about what we can do to get you
• 2:14:50
  over that hump, because I would rather for you to
• 2:14:52
  reach out them for us to put an rip in
• 2:14:54
  front of your name. Oh whoo sleep tonight. Yes Lord, So,
• 2:15:04
  my sister Jules says, cut them all off. Tay says, Lord,
• 2:15:07
  I have a testimony. She says, I love you sis.
• 2:15:11
  She says, let's go, y'all share, Share, Share absolutely. So
• 2:15:15
  I love you guys again, Happy Wednesday, and I'm gonna
• 2:15:18
  end with this. As long as you keep hanging with liabilities,
• 2:15:23
  your value will always appreciate. I want to see somebody
• 2:15:26
  pull something along those lines, But I love y'all. I
• 2:15:29
  will see y'all tomorrow night, don't forget. Eight thirty pm,
• 2:15:34
  eight thirty Central Time, nine thirty Eastern Time, six thirty
• 2:15:38
  Pacific time, not specific y'all Pacific. So I love y'all,
• 2:15:43
  love blah blah blah blah blah blah, and I will
• 2:15:45
  see y'all tomorrow night. Ho Love y'all.
• 2:16:01
  Speaker 1: Bump bump, bump, bump bump,