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Breakfast Bonus: Dating expectations · Toni, Jase & Sam - Breakfast Catchup

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  Speaker 1: The Coast Breakfast Bonus Podcast with Tony Jason Sam.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to our Breakfast Bonus podcast. We're talking
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  Speaker 2: about what people are actually looking for in the dating world. Now,
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  Speaker 2: you see people have a forty looking for partners. A
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  Speaker 2: lot of marriages are falling apart, which is quite sad.
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  Speaker 2: They reckon that COVID and lockdown had a lot to
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  Speaker 2: do with there suddenly stuck at home with these people going, actually,
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  Speaker 2: I don't even.
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  Speaker 3: Like you, and that's what's happened.
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  Speaker 4: Quite annoying.
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  Speaker 5: It was just intense. Wasn't it even even the best
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  Speaker 5: of relationships for tested through COVID, because you know, you
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  Speaker 5: didn't get to go to work or head up and
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  Speaker 5: play some squash.
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  Speaker 2: But then you see people like Dave Teresa Gatting now
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  Speaker 2: sitting up Competico, you know, the dating website for people
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  Speaker 2: over forty, deliberately targeting that.
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  Speaker 4: Market who don't want to just swipe left.
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  Speaker 3: That's exactly right, Yes, so according to it they do.
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  Speaker 5: That's what I think. People are far more superficient than
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  Speaker 5: we think at a base level.
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  Speaker 3: That's all them on.
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  Speaker 5: People don't want an intellectual connection, they just want to attraction.
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  Speaker 4: You try tell that to the forty five year old
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  Speaker 4: old woman who's been left by a cheating husband's heads
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  Speaker 4: at home. He just wants a decent guy.
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  Speaker 5: I know she does. She wants a decent guy that
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  Speaker 5: she's attracted to.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but ye ain't finding that on Tinder. What you're
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  Speaker 4: finding is a creep that you don't know anything about,
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  Speaker 4: at least with compared to you have done some chicks.
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  Speaker 2: Well, so that they've done this as well, that they've
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  Speaker 2: gone out two thousand adults who are looking for a partner.
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  Speaker 2: The most desirable attributes people are looking for nowadays. And
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  Speaker 2: it's not just a base level. How do you look
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  Speaker 2: what they're saying. No, one's looked at the pantry.
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  Speaker 3: It's not that at all. So they were emotional intelligence.
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  Speaker 3: That's an easy one. Yet when you you could pick
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  Speaker 3: that was gonna be top of the list.
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  Speaker 4: It is just the same for women and men, because
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  Speaker 4: I think that different.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's two thousand adults. So let's say she has
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  Speaker 2: break that down. Okay, as a man and a woman,
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  Speaker 2: that's break this down. Here we go, emotional intelligence top
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  Speaker 2: of the list.
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  Speaker 3: I think they'd be right up there.
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  Speaker 5: For me, as long as they can laugh at my jokes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, but also get it when you're having a
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  Speaker 3: bad day.
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  Speaker 4: I honestly obviously like you've got to be physically attracted
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  Speaker 4: to the person. But I couldn't. I could not deal
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  Speaker 4: with a selfish husband. I could not deal with the
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  Speaker 4: offish husband that's put his needs above me and the kids.
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  Speaker 4: That would be the biggest thing.
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  Speaker 5: That makes you selfish because you want his needs to
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  Speaker 5: be below yours.
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  Speaker 4: No, I don't. I didn't say that. I just want
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  Speaker 4: someone that's not going to think that I have to
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  Speaker 4: do it all. And there are a lot of marriages
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  Speaker 4: where the woman still does.
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  Speaker 5: Everything when you're working. To my wife's not working, so
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  Speaker 5: I just make it do everything.
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  Speaker 2: Emotional intelligence, the ability to get along with your friends
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  Speaker 2: and family.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, they've got to get along with my friends and family.
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  Speaker 3: If they don't, it becomes awkward.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you lose your friends if you've got a partner that, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you do. I've seen that happen.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, Financial stability and you get later in life.
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  Speaker 2: You want people to financially stable. I get that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: if they blow their money and they don't prioritize things,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't know, I think.
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  Speaker 3: We can live payday to pay day. I get it.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of people do.
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  Speaker 2: That, fine, but when you know you knew that you
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  Speaker 2: well you want you there's build coming up that you thought,
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  Speaker 2: oh nah, by a whole bunch of new jackets.
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  Speaker 5: I hear what you're saying here because it's one of
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  Speaker 5: the things I love about my partner most of all.
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  Speaker 5: She's frugal. You know, she's not getting treatments and in
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  Speaker 5: nails done and your hair done and spin it on clothes.
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  Speaker 5: And I think if I had a partner that did that,
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  Speaker 5: that would frustrate me.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, if she wants to go and spend that sort,
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  Speaker 2: it was a fantastic as long as everything else is covered,
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  Speaker 2: do you know.
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  Speaker 5: What I mean?
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  Speaker 4: And you also want people that are pitching in, right,
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  Speaker 4: I'd want someone that can can help as well, but
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  Speaker 4: I'm also quite determined to make sure I'm contributing with you.
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  Speaker 3: You just want a unified plan. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Eighty percent of people said they're searching for someone who
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  Speaker 2: has certain qualities they don't have, so they're basically the yin.
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  Speaker 3: To my yan.
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  Speaker 4: So you learn totally agree with that too.
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  Speaker 2: You don't say me, say me hear the rest of
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  Speaker 2: the qualities of people are looking for see if you
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  Speaker 2: agree with this. This is becoming more important as you
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  Speaker 2: get older. People who are happy to have a relaxing
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  Speaker 2: and RESTful lazy day. The whole go getter all the time.
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  Speaker 2: If you just happy to chill out and relax with me,
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  Speaker 2: that's what I'm happy.
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  Speaker 4: It used to be me.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't used to be able to relax.
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  Speaker 5: I can't.
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  Speaker 4: I know, I like to just have a lazy day,
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  Speaker 4: and usually I'm coma too's on the couch.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I just don't do it. I honestly don't know what.
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  Speaker 3: I guess.
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  Speaker 5: I am a relax I just have to go and
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  Speaker 5: do something to relax.
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  Speaker 3: What am I doing with my Life's?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Well my wife tells me. You should know that the
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  Speaker 3: lawns can wait. All the calful wait, just just relat.
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  Speaker 5: Just don't say funny and the joy of doing nothing.
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  Speaker 3: It's beautiful.
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  Speaker 5: It's the only Italian I speak. And I go there.
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  Speaker 2: I love that saying listen here. I want an active
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  Speaker 2: listener who wants to hear about my day.
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  Speaker 5: I always pretend you're such a kid.
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  Speaker 4: How are you even married?
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  Speaker 5: I'm actually really nice, I joke, but I actually am
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  Speaker 5: very caring and nice.
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  Speaker 3: You often asked me about my day, which is good,
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  Speaker 3: and have I gone to the gym or not? But
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  Speaker 3: I just always so care about accountability.
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  Speaker 2: So I want someone who knows what they want. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: you don't want someone who's listless in life, you know
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  Speaker 2: what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: I know what I want a lot of women, well,
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  Speaker 4: certainly my friends. There's nothing worse than a spineless man. Yep,
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  Speaker 4: I agree, Yeah, like indecisive.
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  Speaker 5: And yeah, you still have to have some male traits
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  Speaker 5: and likewise, some nice feminine traits are nice as well,
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  Speaker 5: you know, not to take it back to the dark ages.
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  Speaker 4: What feminine traits to I wanted my husband?
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  Speaker 5: No, I mean I think males for females.
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  Speaker 4: I thought I was wanting some estrogen coming out of
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  Speaker 4: my husband. Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 2: I want someone and I agree with this one here
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  Speaker 2: stimulates me intellectually. Yes, if I can have a conversation
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  Speaker 2: with someone and they teach me something I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, well I do not know that.
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  Speaker 3: That's cool. I'm stimulated by that.
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  Speaker 5: Your if you're just hot, you know what I mean, Like,
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  Speaker 5: that's one i'd give up.
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  Speaker 3: That's why don't give up just a little bit hotter
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  Speaker 3: you know you. You don't want to be intellectual, just hot, someone.
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  Speaker 4: Who doesn't want anyone smarter than them, So he tries
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  Speaker 4: to do.
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  Speaker 3: Don't talk. I just like something that I can what
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  Speaker 3: you like you things.
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