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Enneagram and Christmas Celebration Styles part #2 · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

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  SPEAKER_04: Hey friend, I am so excited to share with you part two of my favorite mini-series, which I enjoy revisiting every advent season.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_04: Now, this year I've invited nine previous podcast guests to share what lights them up most with joy when it comes to the Christmas celebration season.
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  SPEAKER_04: To make things even better, I decided to completely cut out any fluff.
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  SPEAKER_04: So my friends recorded their reflections independently to share with you directly.
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  SPEAKER_04: They are going to be sharing things like what their Enneagram type adds to the celebration table, their favorite ornament or decoration, the gift on their list that most reflects growth for their personality, and something they've done this year that truly reflects their personality.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_04: Also, if you found yourself connecting with one of these friends and wanting to hear more from them, I'm going to leak the podcast episode that they were previously on, plus any resources that I thought you would appreciate getting access to.
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  SPEAKER_04: I'm going to pick up where we left off and reintroduce you to Enneagram 7 Bonnie Gray.
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  SPEAKER_04: She's a podcast guest from 2021.
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  SPEAKER_04: We had a beautiful conversation about friendships and navigating those nuances as adult women.
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  SPEAKER_04: It was a memorable chat.
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  SPEAKER_04: In fact, I'm pretty sure I cried right where I am standing now thinking about it.
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  SPEAKER_04: So if you haven't listened to that one, I hope that you download it for your road trip playlist.
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  SPEAKER_04: And then to kick off the final group of three, the types from the Enneagram gut triad, the eight, nine, and one.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_04: A dear Voxer friend, Carla Hayden, is going to represent the Enneagram Eights.
• 1:49
  SPEAKER_04: I admire Eights so much.
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  SPEAKER_04: And Carla is deserving of that admiration.
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  SPEAKER_04: She is the real deal and has a mama heart for those who need a nurturing, truth-telling voice in their life.
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  SPEAKER_04: Be sure and follow those links in the show notes and give her a follow on Instagram.
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  SPEAKER_04: Now, my favorite guest of all time gets to speak for the Enneagram Nines.
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  SPEAKER_04: And I hope it doesn't take you by surprise to have a man add his voice to this discussion.
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  SPEAKER_04: Yep, my husband, Spencer, indulged me for a special Enneagram and Trees episode just back in 2022.
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  SPEAKER_04: And to this day, it is still one of my favorites.
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  SPEAKER_04: If you haven't listened to that one, you also need to add it to the playlist.
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  SPEAKER_04: But for now, I'm excited for you to get to know him a little better.
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  SPEAKER_04: Of course, I did save the best for last.
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  SPEAKER_04: Enneagram won Jody Fry.
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  SPEAKER_04: We also go way back as she was part of the very early years of Simply Wholehearted, and she has also guested in a previous Advent season to share about her beautiful Advent devotional.
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  SPEAKER_04: If you haven't yet found the right one for you this year, or you want to prep for next year's reading, or even perhaps give a gift, be sure to get a copy of that book today.
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  SPEAKER_04: Hi, I'm Amy Wicks, a wife, mom, author, certified Enneagram life coach, and host of the Simply Wholehearted Podcast.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_04: Welcome to the sixth annual Advent Series, where you're going to hear all about the practical rhythms for cultivating gratitude and celebration this holiday season.
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  SPEAKER_04: Let's usher in this time of year with a tone of excitement because Christ's birth is something that has changed everything for you and me.
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  SPEAKER_04: I can't wait to share these powerful guest conversations with you about food freedom, navigating lives during times of celebration, sharing favorite holiday traditions, and even how to relate to all the Enneagram types, even unhealthy ones, at all those family gatherings.
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  SPEAKER_04: I pray this wholehearted take on the Aven season blesses you richly, sweet friend.
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  SPEAKER_04: Merry Christmas.
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  SPEAKER_05: Hi, my name is Bonnie Gray.
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  SPEAKER_05: I'm a soul care mentor and author of four books on wellness and faith, and I'm the founder of MySoulCareSchool.com, helping women to flourish in wellness and lower stress and anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_05: I live here in the Bay Area in California, and I'm so happy to be here to just share what are some of the things that help me as a type 7 enthusiast.
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  SPEAKER_05: Well, one of the things that I love adding to my celebration table for my type as an enthusiast is the advent candles.
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  SPEAKER_05: I'm a mom of two teenage boys, and I started this when they were very little.
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  SPEAKER_05: I love once a week having that lighting of the candles, and the boys would take turns and we'll still do it.
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  SPEAKER_05: Now, for us, we're a family four, so we each take turns, and I love being able to read the story and have a share.
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  SPEAKER_05: And during the week, I love it because it just has this ambiance reminding us that we're part of God's story.
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  SPEAKER_05: So that's my favorite centerpiece on the table is the Advent candles.
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  SPEAKER_05: And I love just hearing everybody's stories and reflections.
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  SPEAKER_05: So that's kind of the enthusiast in me.
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  SPEAKER_05: A second thing is my favorite decoration, actually, is an advent calendar that has a promise, a new scripture promise, and it has a prompt.
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  SPEAKER_05: I love it because it helps me to center.
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  SPEAKER_05: I can get really overwhelmed with a lot of different ideas that happen during Christmas.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's definitely the happiest time of the year, but it's also the time where my mind is overwhelmed with so many different ideas that I can do.
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  SPEAKER_05: And there's only a certain number of hours in a day.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so I really have to have this ability to slow down by using visual cues for myself.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so this promise advent calendar is something that I really cherish.
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  SPEAKER_05: It helps focus my mind on the most important thing for this week or for this day is what aspect of God's love and his peace and his joy.
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  SPEAKER_05: So that's my favorite decoration at Christmas.
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  SPEAKER_05: I put out, and it's right here in our kitchen counter.
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  SPEAKER_05: What is the thing that I've done this year that is the most type 7 as an enthusiast?
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  SPEAKER_05: I think that it's the most exciting, but it's also the most hard thing, which is starting my soulcare school.com.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's something that I've been wanting to do since 2017 when I released my second book, Whispers of Rust.
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  SPEAKER_05: And because I can get overwhelmed with all the details about all the different ways that I can guide women to experience lower stress and anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_05: You know, I can get distracted by a lot of different ideas.
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  SPEAKER_05: Finally, this year I told myself, I'm going to start my soul care school.
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  SPEAKER_05: I'm going to do it in the way that not focused on giving God my best, but allowing God to do his best through me.
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  SPEAKER_05: However, that turns out, however, it sparks my inspiration.
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  SPEAKER_05: So it's really important as a type seven to realize that it's definitely my superpower spiritual gift to encourage others, but I can get overwhelmed if I focus too much on all the different possibilities.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_05: So it's really important as an exercise of faith to say it's not my best that's going to give the best outcome.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's really just allowing myself to have God do his best.
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  SPEAKER_05: And that means showing up just as I am with my flaws, with my incompleteness, with my messiness, with my anxieties.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so this has been a really great thing because over 240 women have signed up.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so every week we're practicing soul care, we're practicing how to lower stress, how to refill on God's peace, joy, and love, because we just cannot pour out if we don't get replenished.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_05: So those of you that are in this community, you already know that as a type 7 enthusiast, it's so easy for me to be poured out from all the different ideas that I get inspired to do, but I don't slow down and take time to replenish.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so, as women and as moms, studies show that women suffer from burnout more than men.
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  SPEAKER_05: I mean, as women, it is also our superpower that we can multitask.
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  SPEAKER_05: That is a wonderful gift.
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  SPEAKER_05: And yet I think that God calls us in whispers.
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  SPEAKER_05: God calls us in quiet and small moments where there is white space in our calendar.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so as a type 7 enthusiast, it's something I have to intentionally do.
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  SPEAKER_05: And it's been part of my mental health wellness because when I don't do it, that's when I started experiencing anxiety and panic attacks during a healing season in my life.
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  SPEAKER_05: But now I take active actions to do it.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so that's why it's become a ministry for me.
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  SPEAKER_05: So as I practice it myself in my own life, I'm now guiding other women to do it as well.
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  SPEAKER_05: And that's a blessing.
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  SPEAKER_05: Okay.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_05: What gift on your list most reflects growth in my personality?
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_05: Well, this was interesting because it's on my own gift list as well as I love giving this gift to my friends.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_05: They're called shower steamers.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_05: And I have them right now with my podcast Breathe and my Soul Care School.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_05: And it's a holiday, it's a holiday gift list that I have that I've shared.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's my favorite things for soul care in 2023.
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_05: And it's eucalyptus.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's a eucalyptus fragrance that when you put it in the shower floor, you take a shower, it just uh eucalyptus aromatherapy wafts through.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_05: And it's a wonderful way to breathe because breathing is a way to signal to our bodies to calm and to restore calm to our emotions.
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_05: And studies show that eucalyptus is very effective in lowering anxiety and helping our bodies relax and the muscle tension.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_05: Showers themselves, taking hot, warm showers is very important.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_05: And it's very fascinating that in mental health studies, that personal care is actually one of the first things that is shown to decline.
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  SPEAKER_05: So many of us might think, oh, you know, we feel guilty, we feel selfish, getting these shower steamers.
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  SPEAKER_05: I don't really need them and don't want to spend money on it.
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  SPEAKER_05: But in fact, um, caring for ourselves, and especially as women of faith, you know, our relationship with God is not just based on our performance, not just on our devotion and our service and loving others.
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  SPEAKER_05: We need to be replenished.
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  SPEAKER_05: So caring for the bodies that God gave us, this is an important part.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so being able to breathe is not only scientifically proven to help calm deep breaths, but also we use it for breath prayer.
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  SPEAKER_05: And that's another practice that we do in soul care school is to inspire each other to breathe breath prayers.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's inhaling God's promise, exhaling our stress.
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  SPEAKER_05: So shower steamers is a wonderful way to just have that white space and help our bodies and emotions relax with God's promise.
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  SPEAKER_05: Well, one of the systems or hacks or rhythms that really helps me enjoy the holidays as an enthusiast, as I've shared just a few moments ago, is that I need to focus on things that help me slow down.
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  SPEAKER_05: That means there need to be visual cues.
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  SPEAKER_05: And this is one thing that we talk about in Soul Care School.
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  SPEAKER_05: I just talked about it in the Breathe podcast, the first one entering into the holiday season.
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  SPEAKER_05: Uh, five techniques to lower holiday stress.
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  SPEAKER_05: That's in episode 98.
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  SPEAKER_05: Is it's really important to touch our five senses, engage our five senses.
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  SPEAKER_05: Those are cues for us to slow down.
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  SPEAKER_05: So, starting with tactile, I love to build gingerbread houses with my teenage boys.
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  SPEAKER_05: And even though we've built it before, we still do it because it just slows you down.
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  SPEAKER_05: You have to sit down, you have to like get all the candy out, and it's fun to just get your you know fingers sticky with the you know, the sweet little glaze, and you know, end up being a lot of candy.
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  SPEAKER_05: It's just slowing down, it's taking time to be together.
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  SPEAKER_05: And so using things with your hands helps lower stress.
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  SPEAKER_05: That's proven in science as well.
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  SPEAKER_05: Um, for taste, I love the practice of having hot chocolate in the evenings.
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  SPEAKER_05: Again, it seems so simple, but many times the most simple things are the ones that we let go of when we're stressed and busy.
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  SPEAKER_05: So at the end of the day, we all sit down and have hot chocolate.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_05: Uh, visual, my visual sense, I love to cut out snowflakes and we put them on the windows, again, even with my teenage boys.
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  SPEAKER_05: And auditory, we create a Christmas playlist.
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  SPEAKER_05: I love to have instrumental, so no words for myself to quiet my soul.
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  SPEAKER_05: The fifth is smell.
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  SPEAKER_05: I love a peppermint candle that I love to um light.
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  SPEAKER_05: That's really nice to have the aromatherapy.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_05: And I talked about those shower steamers.
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  SPEAKER_05: So these all things help me slow down and breathe in God's peace and breathe out my stress during this wonderful holiday season.
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  SPEAKER_02: Hello, my name is Carla Hayden, and though I was born and raised in San Francisco, California, I have called Indianapolis, Indiana home for the past 25 years.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_02: As we come to the end of another year and begin the very human process of reflecting on the past few seasons, the most Enneagram 8 thing I've done this year is complete a personal assignment from the Lord that lasted over nine years.
• 14:52
  SPEAKER_02: As you can imagine, an assignment of that length included many seasons of grit and grief, perseverance and faith, and even joy in suffering to make it across the proverbial finish line and hear in my spirit, well done, good and faithful servant, you have finished this assignment well, was in and of itself one of the greatest rewards I've received in this life.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_02: Which may be why I added a couple of gifts to my list this year that I normally wouldn't ask for, a reflection of growth for my personality type.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_02: The first one is a European linen sheet set, and the second one is a memoir by a beloved author and teacher.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_02: I know those don't sound super growth-oriented, but these particular gifts reflect growth for me because neither of them are necessarily needs.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_02: They fall more into the want category, and both of them invite me into a place of relaxation and rest versus my typical MO of being in a constant state of leading or learning.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_02: Now, when it comes to what a type 8 adds to the celebration table, hands down, my type adds order to any table we saddle up to.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_02: Celebrations are most fun for me when I know that all of the people are cared for and covered and all of the details have been attended to so that we can relax and have fun and just enjoy the day in each other's company.
• 16:24
  SPEAKER_02: We want to make sure there's enough for everyone in space, in quantity, and variety.
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  SPEAKER_02: We want to make sure that people with food allergies or aversions have been considered and provided for in the menu.
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  SPEAKER_02: We want to make sure that the flow of the buffet table makes sense and that things are set up in the right order so that people can move through the food line efficiently.
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  SPEAKER_02: And we want to make sure that things are labeled properly to eliminate the need for the same question to be asked a hundred times.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_02: And if a schedule needs to be kept, whether that's cooking multiple dishes in a single oven or needing the festivities to start or end at a certain time because of other commitments, we want to be aware of those parameters so we can be the keeper of the clock to keep everything and everyone moving along.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now, type eights may not be the most sentimental of the nine types, but I will say that my personal favorite decoration and the first one that gets set up for the season is a fabric advent calendar that gets hung on the pantry door just outside our kitchen.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_02: We were gifted this by my mom when my three kids were just toddlers.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_02: And as they grew up, each of them would take turns velcroing the mini stuffed animal or mini stuffed person of the day onto the green felt grass.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_02: We've moved a few times and have had lean Christmases and abundant Christmases, but this particular decoration has been a special part of our annual tradition every single year for nearly 25 years.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_02: And as far as my favorite ornament, I have a few, but the first one that comes to mind is a silver gift box that plays silver bells when it's switched on.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_02: It's another gift from my mom, and my sister and I each got one with the explanation that my mom was starting a new tradition with us.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_02: Each year she was planning on gifting us an ornament so that when we moved out and had our own homes, we would already have a collection of ornaments to trim our trees.
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  SPEAKER_02: She kept up this tradition for nearly 30 years.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_02: And as each grandchild was born, they too got an ornament from her.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_02: My grandmother loved this idea so much that she decided to also join in on this tradition.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_02: So all of us have been gifted two ornaments a year for over two decades.
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  SPEAKER_02: Our family Christmas tree is now full of ornaments from my mom and my grandmother.
• 18:57
  SPEAKER_02: And all of that started with that little silver gift box.
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  SPEAKER_02: Two things I do each year that helps keep the crazy at bay.
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  SPEAKER_02: The first one is that each member of the family has to submit their wish list no later than the Friday before Thanksgiving, complete with links and any applicable coupon codes, so that the other members of the family can take advantage of any Black Friday deals that might be available.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_02: Those wish lists are broken down into five sections want, need, wear, read, and stocking stuffers.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_02: This ensures that the recipients are getting what they really want or need, and the gift givers aren't wasting time or money on stuff that might not get used or appreciated.
• 19:46
  SPEAKER_02: Once Christmas is over, the current year's list gets copied and saved into a new folder, which then serves as the foundation for the following year's list to build upon.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_02: And the second thing is that our Christmas Day menu is the same breakfast and the same lunch and the same desserts every year.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_02: So that helps reduce decision fatigue about what to serve.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_02: I've even gone a step further to take the guesswork out of the cooking process, and I created a document that I reference each year that tells me what day and what time I need to start preparing certain dishes so that each item is ready to be served at the desired time on Christmas Day.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_01: Spencer Wicks.
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  SPEAKER_01: I live in Kansas City, Missouri.
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  SPEAKER_01: As a type nine, I bring oh, at least I try to bring peace, tradition, silly memories, trying to create memorable moments to family gatherings or or times during the holiday season.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_01: At least that's what I strive to do.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_01: I also try to bring peace to any gathering that we might be a part of.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_01: Typically tend to think family gatherings is not the time to work out kind of issues within the family.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_01: Um there is a time and a place for that, but usually I try to just bring peace and harmony, um, or at least be a part of that, um, to create a peaceful environment during the during the holiday seasons.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_01: My favorite ornament as a type 9 would typically be mostly something sentimental.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_01: So maybe pictures of the kids, pictures pictures of a spouse, uh maybe a childhood picture um of myself or family members or loved ones.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um or something silly.
• 21:46
  SPEAKER_01: I do like a nice curated tree that has good symmetry and is clean and simple, but I'd say at this stage of my life I really enjoy just the more sentimental things.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_01: Kind of brings the most joy to the season.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_01: Type nine thing I've done this year is probably try to work against my natural inclinations.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_01: So usually I'd be fairly opinionated about I'd say trips we take or things we do or places we go out for uh a date night, um, you know, family trips, things like that.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_01: Trying to be a little more unpredictive and uh just kind of do what's out of my comfort zone.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_01: Um a little easier going, I would say.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: Typically pretty easygoing to begin with, but I do like predictability and being able to know that it's gonna be a good experience wherever decisions made or wherever we decide to go.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_01: What gift on my list most reflects the growth of my personality?
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_01: Well, let's go ahead and get on my Amazon wish list, go through a couple items that are on here.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as I am scrolling through, they're very boring mundane things.
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  SPEAKER_01: So creatin, uh light bulbs, tennis shoes, hand warmers, a thermometer, socks.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_01: Pretty boring things, so um I mean, I tend to be pretty cheap and uh put a lot of things on my list that I don't want to spend my money on, and so I put them on my list that turns into my Christmas list during the course of the year, and uh end up getting kind of boring things, so those are pretty predictable for my personality.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_03: Hey there, my name is Jodie Fry, and I've been married to my husband for 25 years this coming June, and we have three sons.
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_03: The oldest two will be graduating college in just a few months, and the youngest is a junior in high school.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_03: Christmas is my favorite holiday of the year, and there are most certainly obvious and perhaps not so obvious touches of me as a type one, beginning not a day before the fourth Thursday of November, because practically speaking, we must first celebrate and finish Thanksgiving.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_03: Speaking of my practical, reasonable, and dutiful disposition, decorating my home for Christmas generally begins the first weekend in December.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_03: Maybe before, if I can responsibly shift not just my home, but my heart into the preparation of this season, which begins with the small details such as choosing my Advent readings, placing scents of alpine in every room, and gathering all the fresh from the farm garland and swag that I can reasonably afford, or at least get by with without my home looking like a farm, because ooh, those good smelling needles do make quite the mess on my hardwood floors that are my favorite when they are perfectly clean.
• 25:37
  SPEAKER_03: Tradition is important to me, but definitely unique to how I am designed.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_03: When it comes to my table, it will be set warmly but simply.
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_03: In the center sits my favorite decoration, a beautiful handmade wooden advent wreath.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_03: One that not only has rich historical meaning, but a very personal one as well.
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  SPEAKER_03: All twenty five candles finally flickering softly as Christmas Day comes in.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_03: We may use fancy glasses, but the plates will most likely be paper products, both festive and fine in the form of chinette, because it is good to embrace the tension of beauty and rest.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_03: And in that same spirit of goodness as a type one, there is a right and not right way of doing things.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_03: Obviously, this can lead to the more well-known adjective that tends to describe my Enneagram type, that of perfecter, which can also be misleading and honestly a label I can tend to carry to my own demise.
• 26:54
  SPEAKER_03: So I personally have been working to adopt the less intimidating and impossible term reformer.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_03: One of the most reformational one things I have done in 2023 has been the hard and holy inner work of counseling.
• 27:15
  SPEAKER_03: Primarily that of letting go or not being responsible for some of life's devastating hurts, especially by the people you love.
• 27:26
  SPEAKER_03: And this includes drawing healthy boundaries.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_03: This has perhaps been and continues to be one of the hardest things for me because as a one, not giving someone access to my heart feels wrong, selfish, like a lack of love.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_03: But I am learning that in order for my heart to remain whole, safe, generous, loving, and at rest, I must be hospitable to it.
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_03: I must make space for the travelers who touch my emotions, which requires, as Lisa Turkhurst says, good boundaries and sometimes goodbyes.
• 28:11
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, so that's the heavy, but I want to end with something light or maybe a few things.
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_03: First, in preparation for this podcast, and in quote, perfect fashion, I scrolled back through two years worth of Amy's wholehearted Instagram page for both a refresher on all things Enneagram one and a look at her past Christmas series.
• 28:41
  SPEAKER_03: Because you know, we ones are responsible and that felt very responsible.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_03: However, if there's one gift I could give you and me this Christmas, it would be the gift of grace.
• 28:56
  SPEAKER_03: And this is why I love this time of the year, especially the rhythm of Advent.
• 29:04
  SPEAKER_03: Advent is the arrival of a notable person, thing or event.
• 29:10
  SPEAKER_03: In Christian theology it means the coming of Christ.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_03: Advent is a time of slowing, waiting, and receiving the greatest gift Jesus ever given.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_03: A gift who is coming again.
• 29:29
  SPEAKER_03: So for twenty something days, give or take, depending on the calendar year, our hearts are invited to recalibrate, to settle in the midst of all that's bustling.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_03: It's like receiving a permission slip from the king to respectfully rebel against the busy and just be.
• 29:52
  SPEAKER_03: As we remember the real reason for this season, Jesus, he comes and lays down beside us in the muddy straw of our mess and waits with us and never gives up on us.
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_03: Jesus, our Emmanuel, comes to light the dark night of the soul, breathing life into us so we can get up again and shine like the dawn that's always been in us.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_04: So, did you have anything in common with these wonderful women who shared today?
• 30:31
  SPEAKER_04: Or did you resonate with our special Enneagram nine guest?
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_04: Do you have the same traditions, or did you get inspired to try something new?
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_04: I do hope that these reflections brought you a little joy to your heart and a smile to your face this season.
• 30:47
  SPEAKER_04: I'm grateful to share this tradition with you and have a community to share these avant conversations.
• 30:53
  SPEAKER_04: Now, if you've thought of a friend who could really use some lighthearted but inspirational podcast conversations like this, I hope that you send this episode her way, just via text or maybe even direct message.
• 31:06
  SPEAKER_04: Perhaps the Lord will lay someone's name on your heart.
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_04: So don't hold back.
• 31:10
  SPEAKER_04: Send it their way.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_04: Now, next week I have a very special, very short episode with simple breath prayers for each Enneagram type.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_04: I pray that engaging with the Lord's presence will be refreshing and replenishing even during this crazy season.
• 31:27
  SPEAKER_04: All right, until next time, friend, continue to pursue God's perspective, purpose, and plans for your simply wholehearted life.