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Moving Past Perfectionism and Embracing Your Purpose · The One Small Change Podcast

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  Welcome to the One Small Change. I am thrilled, as always, that
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  you're taking time out of your schedule to embark on this journey of
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  exploration, transformation with me. And I'm your host, Yvonne
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  McCoy, and I bring almost 30 years of entrepreneurial experience
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  and a passion for discovering growth through the power of seemingly small
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  change. And the reason we're doing this, you know, podcast is so
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  that you have each week somebody that you can, you know, grow
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  from and get information from that is going to help you build your
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  business. And they're going to share how a smaller, unexpected or
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  insignificant decision sparked remarkable transformation
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  and growth in their personal or professional life and why they are
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  so good at what they do. And today, giving her
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  time and her insight to us is ChewHoong . And I am
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  so happy that you're here. I cannot wait to hear what you
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  have to say, especially when you said, for people who struggle
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  with not good enough and procrastination.
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  So tell us your story. Thank you. First,
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  Yvonne, thank you so much for having a platform, a place for people
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  together, because. So one of the things I found in procrastination
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  is in the stuck cycle. And there could be
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  procrastination, overthinking, perfectionism,
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  you know, and also getting ready to get ready to get ready. Right.
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  And then. Well, and underlying that is a root
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  cause that caused that. And it's important to go there
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  because you could get a procrastination. However,
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  you're going to go back into procrastinating again because on a
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  root level, you know, there is someone tell me
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  yet, you know, and Frank is rotten in there. Well, I say, well, it's not
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  really rotten. It's just that, you know, they're covered by things that
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  need to be placed clean and taken care of. Right. Renourished, I
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  call that. So for me, I found that it was about not good
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  enough. And I. I'd even want to admit that because
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  in my culture, right, even say I have a mental emotional
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  challenge, it becomes a big loser. And I've
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  experienced that. You know, I think, as I remember is when I
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  was in kindergarten, 5 years old,
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  and I'm this, you know, I caused myself a wild child who preferred to be
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  outdoors climbing trees, you know, and having fun and to be in a
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  classro classroom. And in our culture, the classroom is like, be still, you
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  know, work hard, you know, don't make prop, you know,
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  just. Just follow the rules. And I'm like, you know, busily distracting
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  my fellow student, you know, friends. And I'll be
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  throwing, you know, writing people on piece of Paper and throwing to them, you know,
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  that kind of thing. So you might know that. And I will be called up
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  numerous time. And here I am, five foot, you know, three feet
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  tall, and it's like five, nine, giant, saying, okay, you know why you're
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  up here, right? And they say, put your hand out, right? Hand
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  out. Say, you know, you know, you know that you're, you're not,
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  you know, your grades are lousy, you know, no, pay attention. Smack.
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  Here comes a ruler, right? Next thing you know, your friend, your, Your car, your.
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  The other students are working hard, you're distracting them. That's. They're not fair to them,
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  right? And I say, and then, you know, after a
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  few more times of that, it's like. And my grades show that I wasn't
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  very good. Even my parents, parents. I have a sibling. I'm. I have a
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  household of nine of us. And some of them are very smart. And my parents
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  say, why can't you be like that, study like that, you know, blah, blah, blah.
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  And to the point, even high school, I, I failed and I couldn't
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  go to college. And so my parents were,
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  you know, I had to thank them. They put me in a special school, paid
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  for the extra tuition. However, I had the. I had to wear the uniform at
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  that school. And every time I go out and, and people ask me where
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  I am, I mention name at school. And it's almost like I could feel like
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  they want to take a backstage step back from me because oops, don't want to
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  hang out with the loser. The ones that's not smart. And that sort of
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  carried through and to the point where, where I would
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  be in, I worked in, in billion dollar companies and
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  I would solve problems of people who have a lot of alphabets of the name.
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  However, do I get knowledge? No. I'm among what I call the unsung
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  heroes, right? Who take care of people's problems. Not in
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  ladders. Other people shine. And, and that was like
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  so big. And then here I am being an entrepreneur. And what is the first
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  thing you got to do? Entrepreneur? You gotta put a spotlight on you. I'm like,
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  oh, I don't think so. And, and that put me
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  further in procrastination and in decades. So when I think of.
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  If you're in business, I want you to pay attention to this. How much do
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  you charge per hour? If you haven't figured that, you gotta put a
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  dollar. So for me, you know, at that time, if I say $200.
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  So every few minutes I procrastinate.
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  What does it translate to? Kaching. Kaching off the table. And I
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  say, I jokingly say, but it's a sadness, a regret, deep regrets that, you know,
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  I could be a millionaire 10 times over, making more impact,
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  you know, have an indulgent lifestyle because, hey, you know,
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  I have good taste. Yeah. And also making the
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  legacy you want to leave. So this is where I know I
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  invite you to that if you're trying to do your own when you're stuck
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  cycle. And you pattern of it, you can't do yourself
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  because you have your brilliant mind, this part of you
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  that's very protective. And one of his prime directives,
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  to make sure you survive, you stay safe,
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  and doesn't necessarily mean to keep you safe in a healthy way.
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  And for me, I built a habit, right? Invisible, you
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  know, solve all of the people's problem, you
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  know, have many reasons to be stuck. I can't do this, I can't do that,
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  whatever, right? And so. So
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  the way for you to survive the brilliant, blind, protective mind was keep
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  all your insecurities in a box. And it could be a Pandora box, and
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  if you open it, wow, what will come out, right? And that's
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  why you got to have someone to support you, to help you sort of
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  in a loving, safe environment. And, you know, Yvonne is
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  here to help you. I am here and many wonderful people.
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  And so I. I just, I'm listening to what you're saying
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  and. And inside I'm going, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And it's
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  part of. It's kind of part of what I talk about too. And one of
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  my favorite saying is from Buckminster Fuller, who
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  says we are all born geniuses. And then it's educated out of us,
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  right? And, and so many of us have had that experience where
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  we've been told to sit still and be quiet to. To not do
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  the thing that, that we're really good at, you know, if you aren't, you
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  know, if you're not following in footstep with everybody else,
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  there's something wrong with you, you know, and typically it's
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  just the opposite. I mean, I tell people when
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  they're looking at their unique power, it's the thing that your family
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  has always gotten on you about they didn't like
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  because you weren't like them, you know, and my thing was
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  that I always, you know, could fix things really fast, come up with
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  solutions really fast. And it sounds like you could do that too,
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  you know, and so, you know, people did not.
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  People don't support you in being Different. And
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  that's where, where I think people like you and I are so
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  important because we value that. And your clients, the
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  right clients for you value it too, because they
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  felt like an outsider their entire life about something
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  that, you know, is a positive thing for them
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  that'll make them stand out and be found. And so, you know, it's
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  like, you know, I, I jokingly say it's kind of like,
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  you know, when you tell a story about your family and you have a
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  friend, everybody, you tell the story and everybody in the family
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  laughs. You go, Remember Uncle Joe's 50th birthday party? And everybody
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  laughs, right? And your friend has no idea what you're talking about. Well,
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  when you're talking to the client and you relate that story,
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  that is common, right? They get it. It's
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  like, oh, my God, I get this. Right? So,
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  you know, I find it interesting that, that you're talking about, you
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  know, attracting clients with zero stress. So tell, tell
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  me what are like, some of the things that you
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  find that people struggle with that you can help them with.
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  Yeah, yeah. I especially have a US
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  want to support people in the, you know, 45 plus and over
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  because here they are. Want to start business, right?
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  And, but however, if you transition, especially corporate into
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  a business, there's so many hats you wear, right? You know,
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  not, you know, the cfo, the cmo, the c.
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  Marketing, sales and all that. And hopefully your skills and talents
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  support, but many of us don't. I'm very fortunate that, you know,
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  my, I, my, my, my skills and
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  talent cross all over that in all the work I do and I didn't
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  appreciate until became an entrepreneur, said, oh my gosh, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm okay
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  marketing, I'm good at sales. I can do customer service and all this stuff. And
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  even for me, it was a lot of, A lot of stressfulness because
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  first thing you know, you got to get in front of people. You got to
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  find your ideal clients, right? You got to figure out what offers and all
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  that and, and, and so many things. And that already put
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  me in stress. And now I have to go talk to people. And then I'm
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  watching my bank account, right? Reality hits. Oh, my God, I'm spending
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  thousands and thousand dollars on business practice and all that. And the return is
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  tiny, tiny, tiny. And that's when I realized that, you know,
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  and one of my big core genius is my brilliance is taking
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  big chunks of information and really chunk them down little pieces.
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  And especially whether you're newbie, whether you're, you're five figure
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  or six figure, the different things you want to pay attention to.
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  And I'm telling my clients love it because I keep them from what you call
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  the sos the shiny object syndrome. Right.
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  There's so many tactics now. AIs come to be, oh my God, use
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  this AI tool, use that one. My mind is like my, my head
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  is hurting. And then what I'm able to say, okay, when you're starting, pay
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  attention to this AI tools. When you've learned it, okay, add this piece
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  is on when you're scaling, have more money. Okay, we do that. All right, so
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  that's what my, my brilliance is, is you're helping people 45
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  plus, you know, especially not good in techy world, all this stuff, how to
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  handle that. Right? There's a tech technology element beside, beside
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  talking to people and all that. So that's where my genius is, how to sort
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  of, you know, small chunks, right? You talk of what are small
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  things to do to help along. And, and all for me, the small
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  piece is even about. All right, what's the, what do you call the, the,
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  the most. What do you call the micro step? 1, 1 micro step
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  to do. And if you do that, then we go on and build and build
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  on this and then you want to celebrate ahead of your victories, meaning victories.
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  So you have, so you have said a couple of things that I just want
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  to make sure that people are understanding.
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  So I'm going to, I guess work backwards and hope I remember the first thing.
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  So one of the things you're talking about, the micro steps, and I talk about
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  that in terms of inertia, you know, it
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  takes, it may seem like it takes a big effort to get the first couple
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  of things done because you have to overcome inertia. But once you're
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  going, you know, it, it will continue. It will build.
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  The momentum will continue to go. And so you don't want to stop
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  what's working to look at something shiny over here if what you're
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  doing is working. And I think the other thing that you said that's
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  so important is, you know, because this is what I do with people
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  too, is, is help them to streamline. They've got lots of stuff,
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  you know, and for me, when I lost my business, I said instead of having
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  a business, I had a junk draw of all the courses and downloads and,
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  you know, and it was kind of like, what is in this draw that
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  is actually going to help me build a business that's going to be profitable that
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  I Like doing consistently. Right. And I
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  think one of the best questions that, to kind of keep
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  that, you know, SOS out of things is what is
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  the purpose of what I'm doing? So you talk about
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  taking little pieces and taking steps. There's a process. I think
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  what you're saying and, and what I call this is the five R's. You're doing
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  the right thing for the right reason at the right time, the right way,
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  and it's right for you. And so the, the question is, what
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  is the purpose of what I'm doing? Is the purpose that I
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  want to be more visible? You know, is that so that, you know, if
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  I'm going to be more visible, I want to be more visible to the right
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  people. Right. And the idea is, the purpose
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  is always in a business is to help me to attract clients,
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  make sales, and be able to help more people. I think.
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  Yeah, I love what you. Five hours, you're right on about that. And you
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  know, for me, when you do that, you then be in alignment. Right.
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  Not your alignment. That feels so good to a soul level. And
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  I, you know, I speak of this. Yeah. There's a business and practice and all
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  that. However, you know, you got to take each of them and feel,
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  okay, what feels right, what feels so aligned and uncomfortable doing.
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  I have a client who, like, I say, you know, we figure out the everything,
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  the business stuff. You know, I even say, okay, this is how you go and,
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  and talk to people, lead generation and all that. And I said, one of the
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  things that you got to go meet people. And I say, go
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  online, virtual events, lots of them. I could basically say,
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  shudder. I say, what's the matter? And say, I hate going virtual. Okay, what
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  do you enjoy doing in state? And for her it's about, I prefer to get
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  in my car, go to talk to people, live events, you know, whatever. I
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  say, okay, great, do that then. And it's almost. I have to give her permission.
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  And she, like, lightens up, you know, and, and then she
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  goes, do it. And before long, people get to know her because, you know, it's
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  about klt, right? No, like. And trust. I'm going to say
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  no love and trust, because it's all about relationship. Right?
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  Yeah. So. So the thing, I think that, that entrepreneurs
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  don't. When people become entrepreneurs, the thing that they don't
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  realize is that they get to make the choices.
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  And that's scary because most of our life, somebody else has made the
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  choices for us. You know, whether it's, you know, they actually go,
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  you can't do this or, or whether it's like, well, girls don't do this,
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  or, you know, married women don't do this, or whatever the case may
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  be. As an entrepreneur, you get to make the choices, which
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  can be scary. But if you know what the purpose is and you hold
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  onto your vision, it doesn't matter if you
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  make a mistake, you know, if you learn from it. Right.
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  Because it'll just make you better at what you do. And I think the
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  thing that I see is people who really love what they
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  do, they're so excited about it all the time,
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  even when it's not going well, you know, and that is an
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  amazing gift. That is an amazing gift. Okay,
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  so we're going to run out of time. We're having a good time. We're going
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  to run out of time. So you have a gift for us, right?
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  Yes, I do. And, you know, we didn't touch on this, but some of the
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  key things, you know, being an entrepreneur, it's about. We always
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  say, I don't have time. I need time, and say, okay, I need to get
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  money. Because money is simple. The third thing I want to invite people to look
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  into is about the energy part. You know, what is the energy when you're going
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  to do something? We talk about this. If you're, when you're happy, when, when you're
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  excited, when your purpose lights you up. Right? The energetic piece.
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  So I have a gift, and this is about that. When
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  you go into any conversations with people, you
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  want to shine from inside out. So this gift is to help you
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  to get into that space of like, being shiny before you go an
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  event. And so I call it that. It's called the, the high vibration
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  audio. It's only like two, three minutes. And you listen to it. And
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  before every event you go to, if you do this little
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  piece, you. You shine from inside out. And you know your
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  goal, if it's a big goal and where your reality is, if there's a big
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  gap, you know, there's a lot of activities you want to do. Now if you
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  put this two minutes audio that you do before
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  you go any. Every activity, you will collapse. That time
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  you become more comfortable for you to be able to, to be able
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  to, to shine and be the, I call them
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  really, truly the client magnet. I can't, I cannot wait to hear
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  this. So I'm gonna have you put that in the chat, if you will. I'm
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  gonna do the commercial and make sure that we, we. We get out of here
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  on time. So the first thing is I hope you will
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  subscribe, share and engage on social media about the podcast.
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  And the idea behind this is that, you know, I want to expose you to
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  as many different kinds of people as I can and their insights and
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  ideas to grow your business. And so I hope you'll continue to join
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  me on the one small change and tell your friends, listen to the
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  first episode to see what made me, you know, why I decided to start it,
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  or listen to one of the quarterly clarity calls that I do
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  at the beginning of each quarter. So let me ask you one more
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  thing before we go. And if you were to leave people with some
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  words of wisdom, what would it be? You know, your last words.
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  Yeah. As Yvonne mentioned, what's your purpose in doing a business? What's your
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  big why? Okay. And, you know, if it's, I
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  hope it's about impact and legacy. And so I
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  say, you know, if not now, when, if you're stuck,
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  get support. Because, you know, one of the,
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  I want to, you know, one of the top regrets that people
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  have, what, before they pass on is that I wish I had the
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  courage to live the life I truly am meant to live.
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  So I want you to shine and live what it is and Yvonne and many
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  of us to support you. So live with bold audaciousness.
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  Yeah, I absolutely agree. So again, I'm going to ask
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  you to put the link in the chat because I don't think I, I have
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  it in your notes. But the, the thing that I want to say to everybody
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  is, remember, the change is simple, but it's not always easy.
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  And it requires courage, resilience, and a willingness to step
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  out of your comfort zone. And if you are feeling comfortable,
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  then you're not growing. And if you're not growing, you're stagnated.
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  So I hope you will continue to join me on the one small change. And
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  until the next time, please stay very curious.
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  Thank you so much for giving of your time, your gift and
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  your effort. Bye.
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  Bye, bye. Thank you.