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Why do some narcissists care about how they look so much · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people.
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  Welcome to another episode of the nurses is cold.
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  I'm your favorite self-aware, narcissist mr.
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  Lee hammock better known as mental illness, across all
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  social media platforms. If this is the first time seeing
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  my face or hearing my voice, I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for MPD. Get more people in the therapy
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  like myself, six years from and also validate the victims
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  survivors and thrivers of said disorder, say toxic people say
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  talk to trace. Today's episode is going to be
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  about why or narcissist. So Vain.
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  Jane why do so many narcissistic people care about how they look
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  care about how they present themselves to the world.
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  Thank you. Thank you.
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  Thank you so much for tuning in. Um but yeah.
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  Why are narcissistic people so? Why do so many narcissist care
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  about how we look how we, how we present ourselves to the world
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  and things like that. Mike, this is my perspective.
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  Y'all, of course, I'll speak for all nurses because I do get a
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  lot of narcissistic people to come to my page.
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  And of my platform was likely you don't top honours around the
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  area mean crap, okay, hey, I don't speak for all nurses job
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  but like, listen, my perspective, dictate my perfect
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  perspective, is my perspective. So I think a lot of narcissistic
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  people care about how we look and how we present ourselves to
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  the world because we are masking who we really are.
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  We are masking how super insecure and How fragile egos
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  are, you know, we put so much focus on the external in how we
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  present ourselves because the internal is in so much turmoil.
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  So much stress, so much drama is going on inside of our minds
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  that we present ourselves in this way.
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  Right here. That we have to have the nicest
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  clothes the night. How we look, we know a lot of
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  narcissistic, people get super into working out.
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  It presented their physical appearance, like their body wise
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  in the best shape possible to, you know, To make themselves
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  feel better about themselves. It's an ego stroke.
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  If I look better, I'm eager Strokes.
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  Of course. Genetic play a role in it.
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  You can be taller than somebody shorter than somebody bigger
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  than somebody stronger. That's all the way over to that
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  identity is but a lot of times narcissistic people like to make
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  up for our internal shortcomings by gathering things and
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  presented ourselves. Well it will externally.
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  It's kind of what a good way to mask our egos and like Cover up,
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  who we really are. Because I've I have a nice
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  external. You are more willing to a lot of
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  people are more willing to overlook flaws character, flaws
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  Financial flaws, Financial flaws.
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  Cheating flaws, any type of any of those flaws right there,
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  domestic violence flaws. So many people are willing to
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  overlook things like that because of external things like
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  finances, they like they sometimes use.
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  Of course, you're scared. It's not, you don't understand.
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  I'm not trying to I'm not trying to To justify any type of abuse.
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  Y'all know. I might try to do that.
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  I'm just saying so many people would you like why you stay
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  after that? They'll say something.
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  I always so high order, so beautiful order, so cute.
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  They're so everybody is so nice. So the sex was so good, it's
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  always some type of physical thing.
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  I was some time at type of external, something you can
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  actually touch. It's very rarely we having a
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  deep emotional connection where we both fulfill each other.
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  Why are you staying there? Toxic relationship.
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  The, the deep emotional connection that we have is so
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  fulfilling or you hear people rarely ever say that they Oh,
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  they treated me. They used to treat me good.
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  Hopefully, I can get back to it, you know?
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  Me, they lured a just physically attracted.
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  You see, how do you see that? You see his eyes?
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  He got pretty eyes gears. Why would I can't lead it?
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  Somebody else's scoop them eyes up or they'd be clapping the
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  cheeks like no. Other like the clap the cheeks
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  to the sound of like you ain't a Lion King theme song, you know,
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  and something like that. But that's the dynamic that's
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  the mindset of a lot of people like we want to cover up our
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  internal Faults Are internal flaws.
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  It's kind of like we paint. Over our have a good
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  representation of right here. It's kind of like we paint over
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  are red flags with a green, you met.
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  It's kind of like painted. We paint over our, we cover up,
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  our red flags with flashy things with good, physical appearances
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  in the nicest clothes, the nicest things and whatnot.
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  Yeah. That's why you're the a lot of
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  times y'all you see this happened.
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  I'm not saying every celebrity is a narcissist or every person
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  that has money or wealth is a narcissistic person.
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  But you see this a lot in the the I've got 20 people, the
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  higher you ascend, the more likely you are to run into a
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  narcissist, I just did that's just my personal thought.
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  There's no there's no statistics to back that up.
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  Those are just my personal thoughts, I just like the higher
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  you ascend. The more likely, you are to run
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  into a toxic narcissistic person because they they cheat.
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  They try to achieve more like we try to achieve more to cover up
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  our internal fault, but it happened so much when you did it
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  with narcissistic people, you up.
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  We try to go out there and get the best education.
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  They bet y'all do this. I know I have to say this right
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  here because so many people will take that what I just said and
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  I'm not a narcissist lie. I went to Harvard.
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  I'm not a narcissist. Yeah.
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  I'm not saying because you are wealthy or because you have a
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  good educational because you care about your your upkeep.
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  Make it doesn't make you a narcissist.
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  I'm just saying the intent behind it.
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  Is what matters are you sewer? Are you super insecure person?
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  The intent behind that matters. Like you have to put it like a
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  lot. Ours, is the people we care
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  about our up care about how we look and how we present
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  ourselves, because that's how we get supply.
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  We have know if we have nothing else to offer than how we look
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  or our bodies. Then of course we're going to
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  work on that to be too because we have nothing else to offer
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  you. You got to say if I broke his
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  head, I'm ugly, I'm work out. You said my body can least look
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  nice and it might attract you. I took my shirt off and IMA pop
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  it in there anywhere. You know, I'm saying, chest
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  popping a pop, whatever it's popping, you know me, I need
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  the, I need the, that's how you get supply, a lot of History
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  people care about their upkeep because they, you know, how they
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  look and So Vain, because this how they get supply, that's how
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  to get people. That's how you that's how you
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  bait people in. Do you want?
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  You want to catch the right fish?
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  The right Supply, you have to have the right type of bait, you
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  mean, that's why so many people get into these Dynamics where
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  you have a financially and I know this is not the only
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  Dynamic it happens in. You know, this is just me,
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  giving an example, you have a super financially successful
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  woman like CEO of Fortune 500 company and she's dating some
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  bum ass do because he keeps cute or he's funny or something like
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  that. He has good external experience
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  so he relied to me, I thought he was successful.
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  He's in a being a bump. You some saying they rope you in
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  with physical attraction like they just hired.
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  I know, I can do it, I can do it with the rest of them, they just
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  hide a beautiful and men do the same type of stuff.
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  You're a male presenting people. Do the same type of stuff.
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  Oh, she man. She bad man.
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  She had a nice little cheeks on. I can't let her go man.
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  So masculine clapping beIN like a drum set, I can't do that.
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  So the physical attraction of North dead, some narcissistic
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  people, and narcissistic, women are more likely to use their
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  physical attraction against you. They what?
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  They weaponize, their beauty and sexuality to rope you in.
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  It's not a bait. You, they bait you, they bait
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  you with the booty booty, mate. I know it sounds childish.
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  Ally leaves of town is out of the dryer.
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  I used to like you leave. You got child, okay?
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  Yeah, I've been told like this is video number 1.
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  This is episode. What 780?
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  I've been talking about like talking like this for hundreds
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  of episodes for a few years now. He said I'm saying then I just
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  like they booty bait. That's how they paid you in.
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  They use their sexuality and their external is their external
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  external presentation, and their nice clothes, and nice, purses
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  and nice houses, and nice cars and fancy faces.
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  And beautiful beautiful porcelain veneers or something
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  like that to rope you into because they are masking who we
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  really are. We'd like, we don't think we
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  should. We worry so much about the
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  external because we don't think you'll like us if you see who we
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  really are inside you to me is like a golden apple with a
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  rotten core to go to Apple is Navy really gold though.
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  It's like it's like gold plated with spray paint.
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  The apple is rotten. It has got a worm crawling
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  inside and outside like a bookworm use it.
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  Some say they happen so much though.
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  Yeah, that's why I tell people like this.
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  What you're doing with this. A lot of times you will, you
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  will encounter this this dynamic in this space.
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  So you have to prepare for it. Accordingly, you have to prep a
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  quarterly for, you know, this. It's the mindset type of thing,
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  you know. So I was just like narcissistic
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  people care about how we look because we try to mask it
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  something and some of yes, yeah, this is not.
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  These are not the only reason some people just care about the
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  had a lot because they like to look nice.
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  Yeah, I understand that Dynamic that I tell people the
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  intentions behind the actions or what really matters, you know.
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  I mean the intention behind And the actions are what really
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  matters and just because you want to look good, feel good,
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  smell, good, whatever that's you want.
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  The nicest thing, it doesn't make you a narcissist.
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  However, could convey that to you pretty much.
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