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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #56_HOST NATALIE HARVEY_(SHOW #1) · DA CREW Podcast

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  brain, and tensions deliverercallems, and they kept my back against the wall of
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  my dick and the dust. My sixty five is so plush, but me
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  nobody get trust. So I'm myself between the walking the hard place, and
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  ain't no room for no walking yet. Smile on, my friend. I
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  might first sleep with every breath I take, I'm going first with every step
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  up. You don't learn my story, and it's true. Don't forget about
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  the root? Do you want? Don't matter what you're going into, there's
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  still super woman living inside you. Yes. Well, good evening, and
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  welcome to the first episode of Let's Chat with Nat. I am your host,
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  Natalie Harvey, where we are here to have the conversation about any and
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  everything that not just me, but whatever you have on your mind, whatever
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  it is bothering you. Be gonna sit, we're gonna chat, We're gonna
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  talk, we're gonna keep key, we're gonna do all of that stuff,
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  but most of all, we're gonna have the conversation. I just want to
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  welcome you. I want to say thank you for tuning in. I want
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  to say thank you to the Diva herself, Miss Angela Smith Thomas, for
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  even allowing me to be on this platform and sharing. And we're just gonna
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  get right into it. But I do have a disclaimer for y'all, and
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  I'm gonna tell you this. As I said, we're gonna talk about any
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  and everything, and I want you to understand this. Some of us may
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  talk, we may talk about topics that are sensitive to each other, sensitive
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  to things that's going on in this world. But this is a safe place.
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  This is a place where everyone is welcome. Everyone has to have an
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  open mind. And I'm gonna say this. I love the Lord, I
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  love him with everything in me, but sometimes I may not say stuff that's
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  gonna agree with all all of y'all. So as I say things that may
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  not agree with y'all, and y'all may have things that you may not agree
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  with me. But we're gonna come and have a conversation and we're gonna chat
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  and we're gonna we're gonna do this thing. So we're gonna get right into
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  it. We're gonna get to the meet to the Jews, because I know
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  everybody is curious as to why I decided to go ahead and do this podcast.
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  So a little bit about let's chat with nat I'm a Brooklyn girl,
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  I'm a New Yorker, but I'm with Caribbean roots, and you know,
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  being anyone that has roots from anywhere, you get to understand who you are,
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  You get to know, you get to understand your purpose. But sometimes
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  it takes us a minute to get to that point. And for me,
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  it took me a long time. But what really started me on this journey
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  was right in my first self published book called Natalia's Words of Wisdom, Volume
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  one. Finding my way and just being in that book took me. I'm
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  gonna be honest with y'all. It took me twelve years to write. Why
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  it took me twelve years to write I don't know? Well I do know,
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  and I'm gonna just be real with all of y'all. It took me
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  twelve years to write because I wasn't ready. I thought I was ready,
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  but I really wasn't ready to tell my story. But then I kept seeing
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  things around me and people around me, and it was like, nah,
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  you got a story to tell. You've been here, you were your single
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  mom, I've raised two gorgeous enhancesome young men that I'm proud to say one
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  is in college, one is getting ready to go to college soon. And
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  I did that with the help of my family and extended friends. But you
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  know, it wasn't always easy. Then. I've experienced things in life.
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  I'm a cancer survivor. A matter of fact, I'm a nine year cancer
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  survivor. And that's not easy to do. That's not easy to beat,
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  especially as a black woman, a woman raising kids on her own, that's
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  not easy. I have been through a lot in life and write in my
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  book being able to go through certain things. That's what gave me the unction
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  and the gusto and a lot of very well. When I say support work,
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  sometimes I would be up at night and I'm writing and I'll get pissed
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  off. And y'all know when we get pissed off, we don't want to
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  hear nobody. And I would get pissed off. But then what I would
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  text or somebody would send me a message and be like, keep going,
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  you got a story to tell. You gotta do this, you gotta walk
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  in your calling. So that's where this all started from, just with that
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  one little book called Natalia's Words or Wisdom and then I got the opportunity to
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  be featured in a magazine, and that opportunity came with again My Lovely I
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  Love Her Daily, Angela Smith Thomas. And with that magazine opportunity came,
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  she said, well, why don't you go ahead and come and join us
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  and do your podcast. She was like, girl, you got a story
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  to tell. You got a voice out here that needs to be heard.
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  And now I was like, I don't know, I don't know. I
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  don't know, I don't know. You know how we are, you know
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  how we come on y'all, y'all know how we are. We procrastinated and
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  sometimes I can be a big procrastinator. But I sat down and I thought
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  about it, and I was like, you know what, I'm gonna do
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  this. And when she said you're gonna be ready, she said, a
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  matter of fact, you're not that you're ready. You're gonna do this.
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  And sometimes we just need that push to say we're gonna do it. No
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  matter how much we want to fight it, we have to do it.
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  Sometimes people are out here and they see what we don't want to see.
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  So that's when we came where we're at right now and have this little let
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  chat with not and we're gonna talk about a whole lot of things. We're
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  gonna talk about against being single parents, being black people in this society.
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  We're gonna talk about dealing with parents with substance abuse. It's something I know
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  well about. We're gonna talk about out dating. That's something I know well
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  about too, and all of us know well about. We're gonna talk about
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  being able to start your own business. And I'm also gonna feature other other
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  authors and artists and people that's doing things for their community. But the main
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  thing is that we're just gonna talk and we're gonna talk about it, and
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  whether we like it or not, we're gonna love on each other after we
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  talk about it, because that's what we do. We a family. When
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  you sit with your family, you chitchat all day long, because I know
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  I do it with my family and my friends. We chit chat, we
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  laugh, we cuss, we carry on, we cry, but at the
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  end of the day, we have that conversation that's needed. So I'm gonna
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  take a little short commercial break, I'm gonna come back and I'm gonna discuss
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  some more stuff with you, and if you wanna, you wanna come in
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  and talk. We could do that. So we're gonna have that that time,
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  all right, So we'll be right back in in a few seconds.
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  Authors, here's your chance to get to your work seen across the world.
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  Be a part of our fifties United Authors of Aspiring Authors. Man, here's
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  your chance to have your your and your work to the broadcast through our fo
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  world. Yeah, so we are back. We are back. Um.
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  Something that I want to discuss tonight, and it's basically walking in your purpose.
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  And you know a few minutes ago when we started, I talked about
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  how sometimes we don't want to walk in our purpose. We don't we we
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  think that we're not ready to do it, or we procrastinate on doing it.
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  But I want us, I want to talk to you guys. I
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  want us to have the conversation because sometimes we are our own biggest enemy and
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  we hinder ourselves from getting to where we want to be. And you know,
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  for me, I dealt with that for a very very long time.
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  And that's not just we're writing my book. That's just in my personal life.
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  You know, I've seen people around me that we all went through where
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  we procrastinated, We procrastinated and then when we finally say, okay, it's
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  time, I'm gonna do it, and we actually sit down and do what
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  it is that we've been procrastinating about. When it's all said and done,
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  the pride that you feel when you know that you accomplish a task that you've
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  been wanting to do and you didn't know how. And I'm you know,
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  I can honestly say that there's a lot of things that I know how to
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  do, and for some of you, there's a lot of things that you
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  may know how to do. But then there's that one thing that you have
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  the passion for, and that is the thing where you're light, I don't
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  know, I don't know. And it's when you have those I don't know
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  moments, that's when you are in such a battle with yourself because you know
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  that's the thing that's gonna propel you to be that voice, to be that
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  light, to be where you want to be and do what you want to
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  do and accomplish it. And the moment that you do that, the pride
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  that you feel within yourself, you know that you're gonna be okay. And
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  I had to tell myself that, Like when I sat down and I published
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  my book, or even there were certain jobs that I went out for and
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  I applied for, or even with my kids, there were certain things that
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  we went through and I'm sitting there and I'm thinking, well, how am
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  I going to do this? And is this the right move for me?
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  Is this the right move for my kids? Is this the right move for
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  my family? And at the end of the day, when it all comes
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  together and you're like, Wow, why did it take me so long to
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  do this? Why did I procrastinate? You know, we got to start
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  conditioning ourselves. And it's all about conditioning. It's all about self control.
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  It's all about how we view ourselves and not just how we view ourselves.
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  But we always want to think about what others have to say, and that's
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  the big problem. Sometimes we have to stop thinking about what others have to
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  say and just block all that extra noise out and do what we have to
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  do for ourselves, because at the end of the day, there's only two
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  people that you're going to please, and that's whoever you're creative, is whoever
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  you serve, whether you're a Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Buddha and yourself,
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  you are the one that is or who is going to at the end
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  of the day, you're going to be the most prideful and feel so proud
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  that you did this because you can see where your struggle came from. You
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  can see how you you the different hurdles that you went through, and then
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  how you came out on top. And you know it's it's I'm not trying
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  to say that it's easy, because by far it is not easy. But
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  when you do put your mind and you put your heart into it and you
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  say I'm gonna do this, there's nothing that can turn you around. There's
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  nothing that can stop you. Nobody but yourself can stop you. And again,
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  we have to be able to stop self sabotaging us as people, as
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  women, women, we do that a lot. We self sabotage. I'm
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  gonna tell on myself, and I know there's a lot of y'all out there
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  to do it. We self sabotage a lot and for the wrong things,
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  and we put our energy into the wrong things instead of putting our energy into
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  the things that are gonna bring us the most joy. So I want you
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  all, at the end of the day, whatever it is that you want
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  to do, whatever it is that you want to accomplish get rid of that
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  self sabotage and mentality. It has to go. It cannot stay in your
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  existence, It cannot stay in your being because the moment that it continues to
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  stay there, you're going to take longer or you may not get to where
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  you want to be. And and you are your You are the change.
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  I always hear angelas say we are the change, and that's so true.
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  You are the chang. You are the one that's going to be able to
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  change your situation and change your circumstances. And if you because if you don't
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  do it, nobody else is going to do it. And if people don't
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  see that you mean what you say, and you say what you mean,
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  nobody's gonna take you seriously. This has been a lot of people that I
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  over the years, I've said, oh, I'm gonna do this, I'm
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  gonna do that, I'm gonna do third, and they didn't take me seriously
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  until they saw that I started to put the work in. And sometimes we
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  gotta keep our mouth shut and not say everything. We have to move in
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  silence. And when you start moving in silence, that's when things start.
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  The pieces of the puzzle, the building blocks, they start coming together.
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  Because when you say, oh, I'm gonna do this and you don't do
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  it, somebody's gonna look at you and say, well, I thought you
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  said you was gonna do this. There's been plenty of times that I've heard
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  in my own life people said to me because I've said I'm gonna do X,
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  Y and Z and have said, well, I thought you was gonna
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  do this, and I'm like, yeah, I am, but I procrastinated.
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  I took my time. But then when I blocked out the noise and
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  I put into my mind that you know what, I'm not doing this for
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  nobody but for me, and at the end of the day, it's to
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  make me happy, and it's to be who I want to be, be
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  the woman that I want to be. It was smooth sailing from there.
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  There was nothing that was gonna stop me. There was nobody that was gonna
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  stop me. And I dared any devil in hell to come in front of
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  me and stop me, because the moment that they tried that, they're gonna
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  get a fight. And I love a good fight. So you have to
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  be willing to fight for yourself. You have to be willing to go ahead
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  and go blow the blow with that devil that you've been fighting with, because
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  we're all fighting with a devil, we're all fighting with our own personal demons.
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  And the moment that we say we had enough and we're not going to
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  put up with it anymore, that's when you start seeing your blessings. That's
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  when you start seeing who you are. You know, I'm forty one.
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  I'll be forty two this year, and I've said to a lot of people,
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  I think this year and not just this year, but since I've entered
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  into my forties, a lot of the things that I couldn't do in my
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  teens and my twenties, my thirties, I see that now I'm able to
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  do it. I'm able to walk into my truth. And it took me
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  a long time. And when I say a long time, I mean a
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  long time to walk in my truth. Walking in your truth is not easy
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  to do, especially when you don't quite understand what that truth is. When
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  you don't understand what that truth is, it bothers you. It plays with
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  your mind, It plays with your mental and sometimes it's hard to talk to
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  people because you don't know if people are gonna understand where you're coming from.
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  For me, that was my issue. I felt like not too many people,
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  and a lot of it, A lot of people may have been family
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  or friends. I felt as though they didn't understand where I was coming from.
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  They didn't understand that the person that I envisioned in my mind, that
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  I saw who I knew I wanted to be. I don't think that they
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  understood it because, and there's a lot of things that play into it.
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  Generations. We're in a different generation than our parents, We're in a different
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  generation than even our grandparents, and sometimes that generation they don't understand. You
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  know, I'm fortunate that I have. I was blessed to be raised by
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  four of the most amazing grandparents too that I have alive today still that are
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  eighty seven and eighty four. And I tell people, especially when it comes
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  to my grandmother, I identified with her and I understood she understood me,
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  and I understood her because even though we came from a different generation, she
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  had an open mind. She didn't condemn you. She doesn't condemn you.
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  And she always say, you can't condemn anybody because you don't know that path
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  that they're walking in. They may not know your path and they may not
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  understand their path, and you have to be able to understand and see that
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  the world around you. It's not just you. There's many different people in
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  this world and many different people that may not understand who they are, just
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  like you don't understand who you are. And it took me a very,
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  very, very long time time to get to that point, even when it
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  came to my kids, you know, it took me a long time to
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  have them understand that I got it, like I was a team as well.
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  I was raising a single parent home. I understand what it is to
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  not be sure of what today is gonna bring. But you gotta have that
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  mind open to know that at the end of the day, it's gonna be
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  okay. You know, you're gonna get over to the other side and you're
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  going to make it, and you're gonna make it coming out like a champion,
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  like a boss, like the person that you're supposed to be. You
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  know, it's just it's life is funny. Life is interesting. Life is
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  meant to be lived and not meant to pass you by. A lot of
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  people are living, but life is passing them by, and you don't want
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  to be one of those people that life is passing you by. I don't
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  want to be one of those people. I refuse to be one of those
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  people that life passes by. You know, I always say I've been given
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  a second chance at life. Last week Sunday, I mean my nine year
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  cancer remission anniversary, And I always say whenever this time, that time of
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  the year come up, I always remember where I was during that time mentally
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  and physically. I wasn't in a good place. I was not in a
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  good place, and it took a lot to come out of that place.
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  But now here I am nine years later, looking at what I am accomplishing
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  and where I am. I'm proud that I had to go through those struggles
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  because it made me stronger. When you are able to accept your struggles,
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  when you are able to accept that it wasn't always you didn't always do it
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  right, you are one of those that are fortunate enough to say I get
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  it, I understand, and I processed it, and now I know where
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  I'm going. So as I start to wrap up tonight show, I want
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  you guys to just you know, we talked about a lot, we covered
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  a lot of things, but I want you guys to be able to know
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  at the end of the day, whatever your purpose is, live it.
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  Don't just say I want to do it. Don't just say, oh,
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  I'm gonna get to it. Because there's many people that have said they wanted
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  to get to something and they never got to do it. Don't be one
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  of those people. Be one of the people that you know what you take
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  your book or your phone. You know, we live in an age where
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  our phones are constantly in our hands. In each phone, whether it's an
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  eyePhone and our android, we have no pads. Write down what it is
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  that you want to do, and try every day to make strides into accomplishing
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  that task. Because if you just sit there and let let your dreams just
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  stay there, you're never gonna get accomplished. You're never going to fulfill what
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  it is that you want to fulfill. Don't be that person. Be that
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  person that says, I did it, I did it my way, I
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  did it the best way that I knew how, and I did it with
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  the help of whomever it and and you know you're gonna hear me say this
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  often because I include everybody. This is an inclusive platform, and you know,
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  I know there's again I know, there's people that are Christians, people
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  that are Muslim, people that are from Jewish, people from all different walks
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  of life. That's gonna be Tune it in whomever it is that you believe
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  in, Use that as your guide, Use that as who you rely on
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  to get your strength, because without that strength, you're not always gonna be
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  able. You're gonna feel weak at times. And when you need that extra
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  oh, you need the extra push. Whoever it is that you rely on,
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  go to them, Go to that source, because that's the source that's
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  gonna get you through and get you to where you want to be in life.
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  So if you want to come in to the chat, to the studio,
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  we're welcoming you in. You know, I'm so proud, I'm so
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  glad that this platform is here. I'm glad that this first episode is here,
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  because this is history in the making. We start here and we go
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  on, we go further. You know, this this is my This is
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  a stepping stall. You can't get anywhere without having a stepping stall. And
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  I'm proud. I'm proud that this is something that my sons and my grandkids
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  whenever I get grandkids, can look back at and say oh wow, you
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  know my mom did this, my grandmother did this. They can go back
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  in and replay and see who who you know, who their ancestor was.
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  And that's something else that we're gonna talk about during this season. It's so
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  much that we're gonna accomplish and we're gonna talk about this season that it's just
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  gonna put us in such a better place than we were when we first started.
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  There's so much in us, so much that we need to know as
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  people, and we're gonna get there. We're gonna do this thing. It's
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  gonna be all right. We're gonna have these conversations. Sometimes we may not
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  like the conversations. Sometimes we're making a kiki out of it, but we're
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  here. This is what we do. This is what we're gonna do.
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  We're gonna chat it up, and we're gonna chat it up all the time,
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  because why if you know me, well, you know I love me
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  a good old chat. I love to chit chat all day long. And
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  that's what we're gonna do. So I want to say thank you and I'll
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  see you next time. If you have any topics that you want to talk
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  about, send me a message, send us a DM and we'll talk about
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  it. There's no topic that's off limits, all right, So until next
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  time, I see you soon. Bye story, and don't forget about the
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  little dog. Don't matter what you're going