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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: A Lesson In Letting Go Of What You Can't Control · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily body here. You are listening to five
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  Speaker 1: Minute Friday from Hurdle. Wow. What a week since the
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  Speaker 1: last time I talked to you. I feel like I've
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  Speaker 1: been all over the place. I spent last Thursday in Connecticut.
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  Speaker 1: I went to Washington, d C. On Friday. I ran
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  Speaker 1: the Cherry Blossomed and Miler on Sunday. And when I
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  Speaker 1: tell you that Sunday was an elite day, that is
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  Speaker 1: the biggest understatement in that I ran a race that
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  Speaker 1: I've been looking forward to for some time. I accomplished
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  Speaker 1: my goal, which was to do this thing in sub
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  Speaker 1: average pace of seven minutes thirty seconds. And then the
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  Speaker 1: Yukon women won the March Madness tournament. So truly, like
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  Speaker 1: I said, an elite day. I need to tell you
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  Speaker 1: a story about the race last weekend. Right before the start,
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  Speaker 1: I went to use a porta potty and I did so,
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  Speaker 1: and as I was getting ready to begin the race,
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  Speaker 1: I'm in the corral and I realized that I must
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  Speaker 1: have dropped my license, which I always tuck into my
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  Speaker 1: shorts pocket when I'm going out for a race and
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  Speaker 1: I'm traveling alone. I tucked it in my shorts pocket.
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  Speaker 1: I go to check it before the race begins, and
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  Speaker 1: it is not in there. I dropped it. And it
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  Speaker 1: is the ultimate lesson in that moment of letting go
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  Speaker 1: of the things that you cannot control so much anxiety.
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  Speaker 1: In this moment, I am like, what happens if tomorrow
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  Speaker 1: they need my ID when I'm going to get on
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  Speaker 1: an airplane and I am stuck in DC and I
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  Speaker 1: start spiraling, And then I do two things. The first
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  Speaker 1: thing I say to myself is what's the worst that's
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  Speaker 1: gonna happen? Okay, if the worst that's gonna happen, truly,
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  Speaker 1: the worst thing that could happen is that I'm not
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  Speaker 1: allowed to get on a flight, which I believe that
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  Speaker 1: there are many systems in place where they can verify
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  Speaker 1: who you are. If you don't happen to have your
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  Speaker 1: license on you, you just need to make sure you
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  Speaker 1: have time at the airport. But I digress. If the
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  Speaker 1: worst thing that's going to happen is that I have
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  Speaker 1: to ultimately rent a car and drive home, it's actually
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  Speaker 1: not that bad. That's the first thing that happens in
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  Speaker 1: that moment. I tell that to myself. And then the
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  Speaker 1: next thing that I tell to myself is Emily, You've
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  Speaker 1: got to let it go because this is something right
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  Speaker 1: now that is so much bigger than you, that is
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  Speaker 1: so much beyond your control. There's absolutely you're not gonna
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  Speaker 1: go look for the license right now. I wasn't gonna
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  Speaker 1: do it. I was gonna run the race, and so
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  Speaker 1: I literally said that to myself. And I don't know
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  Speaker 1: if I've ever abandoned a concerning thought so fast, but
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  Speaker 1: I knew that I could not give my energy to that.
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  Speaker 1: It's silly a little bit to say I didn't come
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  Speaker 1: that far to only come that far, but I didn't
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  Speaker 1: put in all the opportunity costs in the weeks and
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  Speaker 1: the months leading up to this moment that I had
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  Speaker 1: woken up so early and trained for and put in
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  Speaker 1: thirty plus mile weeks to get to this point, and
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  Speaker 1: let my anxiety about something that I could do absolutely
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  Speaker 1: nothing about wreck me. And so I let it go,
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  Speaker 1: and I executed my race plan. And at mile nine,
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  Speaker 1: I'm wearing my Apple AirPods and there's a setting on
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  Speaker 1: the iPhone where it can announce your notifications, and so
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  Speaker 1: I get an announcement in my headphones. I'm at my
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  Speaker 1: I'm making my way toward that finish line, and it
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  Speaker 1: says message from dad, good morning, racer. It sounds like
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  Speaker 1: they have your idea. The volunteer tent, someone just called me,
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  Speaker 1: I let out. Let me tell you a literal let go,
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  Speaker 1: like audible excitement. I was so amped, I was so
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  Speaker 1: close to finishing and I did it all. I did
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  Speaker 1: it all. Wow, what a reminder just to let it
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  Speaker 1: go again. I thought to myself, what's the worst that
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  Speaker 1: can happen? I let go of something that I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: do anything about, and I did the best I could
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  Speaker 1: in that situation. The cherry on top was truly getting
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  Speaker 1: my license back. It was. Indeed. At the volunteer tent,
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  Speaker 1: the volunteer told me about the story about how she
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  Speaker 1: looked up my name and then found my emergency contact
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  Speaker 1: and then called my dad. I always switched back and
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  Speaker 1: forth between my dad and my mom based on the event,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh this, i'm'll goo with my mom
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  Speaker 1: this time, I'll go with my dad. This is the
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  Speaker 1: benefit of being in your mid thirties and single. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was great, and really it's applicable to what feels
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  Speaker 1: like everything right now. I got a DM the other
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  Speaker 1: day asking me about how I feel about the stock
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  Speaker 1: market and all the money and the tariffs and everything
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  Speaker 1: which to each their own, and I have the same response.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to focus on the things that I can
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  Speaker 1: control right now, and so exerting all of this energy
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  Speaker 1: over the things that are beyond me, it's just not
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  Speaker 1: a good use of my emotions, of my feelings, and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: my energy as a whole. Do the best you can
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  Speaker 1: with what you have, you know, and that's what I'm
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  Speaker 1: choosing to do. Over here. My question for you this week,
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  Speaker 1: what is something that you are currently stressing about that
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  Speaker 1: you have no control over and can you do me
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  Speaker 1: a favor? Take a deep breath and let it go.
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question. Hi, Emily, I'm in a
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  Speaker 1: longtime listener and you really inspired me to start running outside.
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  Speaker 1: I joined a run club last December and I'm running
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  Speaker 1: my first race, a ten k next Saturday, April twelfth.
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  Speaker 1: It's tomorrow. I've done the work, but the jitters are
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  Speaker 1: getting in the way. Any last minute words of wisdom.
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  Speaker 1: Highly appreciate the work that you're doing best, Nusha. This
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  Speaker 1: is a good one. The thing that I read here
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  Speaker 1: and that I want to point out that you said
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  Speaker 1: so beautifully. I've done the work, and when I'm feeling
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  Speaker 1: really anxious about something, and I've talked about this strategy
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  Speaker 1: on the show before, I sit down with a pen
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  Speaker 1: and a paper and I write out my I AM statements,
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  Speaker 1: And so I encourage you, a Nusha, and anyone who
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  Speaker 1: may be approaching something that stirs up the butterflies, that
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  Speaker 1: makes you feel a little anxious, that makes you feel
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  Speaker 1: a little you know exactly what I'm talking about. You
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  Speaker 1: sit down with your I AM statements and you write
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  Speaker 1: down the things that you know to be true. For you, Nusha,
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  Speaker 1: this is I am prepared, I am capable, I am
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  Speaker 1: a runner. You are You've prepared for this moment, right,
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  Speaker 1: I am strong, I am capable. I love this one
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  Speaker 1: from Elish Cranny when we sat down all that long ago,
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  Speaker 1: I am gritty. Remind yourself of what you know to
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  Speaker 1: be true. I also think it's so important right now
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  Speaker 1: to recognize that this is just the beginning for you.
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  Speaker 1: In that you say I joined a run club last December,
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  Speaker 1: You're running your first race. These are moments that are
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  Speaker 1: something to be proud of, so awesome that you're putting
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  Speaker 1: yourself out there so fantastic that you are trying this
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  Speaker 1: new thing, and so recognize that and validate that, and
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  Speaker 1: be proud of that, and know that this is just
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  Speaker 1: the beginning and you can't judge your beginnings too harshly.
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  Speaker 1: I know we're all our biggest critics. I hear you,
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  Speaker 1: I hear you. But come back to how proud you
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  Speaker 1: are of yourself, because again, this is something to be
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  Speaker 1: proud of. I am statements. Be proud of the journey,
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  Speaker 1: be proud of yourself, and don't forget at the end
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  Speaker 1: to celebrate your accomplishments. Make sure you are following along
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  Speaker 1: I am over at Emily a Body another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.