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What Resists Persists - The Ancient Truth That Eliminates Stress Better Than Any Medication · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here. And this is a slightly different
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hypnosis session in the basis that it actually.
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Deals with the. Counter intuitive nature.
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Of. Hypnosis because sometimes
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people can become attached to the very thing that they don't
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like. Maybe they had a horrible trauma
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or something bad happened in their childhood, but they still
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think about that a lot. Or maybe part of their identity
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is based on what someone said or did in the past.
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Or maybe there has been something that's happened and
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they're living with that, but they're still emotionally
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attached to that thing. So this hypnosis session is
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based on the idea of what? Resists.
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Persists. And it utilizes a branch of
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third wave behavioral therapies called Acceptance and Commitment
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therapy. And a wonderful metaphor.
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I don't think it's in this hypnosis session, but it's a
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good metaphor to explain that. Imagine if you have a beach ball
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and you're trying to keep it. Below the surface.
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Of a swimming pool, it takes a lot of effort to keep the beach
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ball. Submerged and.
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Actually, if the beach ball just existed and was floating around
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the pool, but you were having fun swimming around the pool,
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actually the fact that there's a beach ball in there is less
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important to you than if you have to use all of your energy
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to keep it under the water. Because if you do that, you
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can't swim as well. And I think a lot of people,
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whether it's trauma and certain memories and certain beliefs,
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they're too attached to it. So the essence of this one is
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about detachment and having a different way of thinking, which
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is about just kind of allowing things to be as they be and then
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allowing the natural evolution and the resources that flow from
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that. It was created for an
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individual. And therefore some of the
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suggestions are going to be perfect for them and not quite
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right for you. So if you like the idea of a
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bespoke session, there's a couple of things I would
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recommend. There is a suitability test that
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takes 60 seconds to do, and you'll find out how likely
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hypnosis is to work for you. But I've also recorded a webinar
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that helps to explain what hypno hypnotherapy works with, what
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it's good for, what it's not quite so good for.
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There's some suggestibility tests within that webinar and
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there's some very special bonuses at the end for anyone
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that gets to the end of that webinar.
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So check that out. It's in the description if
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that's of interest. For now though, find a quiet,
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comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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And as you exhale, feel a wonderful sense of release that
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any worries, stress and tension are slowly, surely, and
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incrementally leaving your body in that outward breath.
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And here, in this place of ever deepening relaxation, there is
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no hurry, no urgency. This time belongs entirely to
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you. The deeper you breathe, the more
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relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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the deeper you breathe. As your body relaxes, your
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imagination awakens. And I'd like you to imagine a
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river. A real river.
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A broad, mature river that has been flowing for a very long
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time. A river that's carved its own
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course through the landscape, unhurried, powerful, entirely
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itself. And this river has been flowing
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since long before you arrived at its bank.
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And this river will continue long after.
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And there is something about its presence, its constancy, the way
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the water moves without effort, without resistance, without
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argument about the shape of the ground beneath it.
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And this river invites a particular quality of stillness
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in the person who sits beside it.
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I wonder if you could imagine yourself at the river's edge
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now, maybe seated on a warm stone or soft grass where the
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bank slopes gently to the water. Perhaps you could imagine the
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sound of the current, not intrusive, just present,
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rhythmic, reliable. And as you settle into that
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place, notice how the body begins to do what it knows how
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to do when given permission. The breath slowing to match the
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rhythm of the water, the shoulders dropping, the jaw
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releasing fingers, toes just all relaxing, the face softening.
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And every year of your life has given you a body that knows how
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to rest when the conditions are right.
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A mind that knows how to release when it's safe to do so.
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And right now, here at the river's edge, all the conditions
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are right. Feel that as you stare into the
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current of the river, you're drifting deeper and deeper.
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And here you are at the river, at rest and ready for a
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conversation with the very deepest part of yourself.
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And as you watch the river for a moment, I want you to notice how
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it moves around the stones in its path.
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It does not stop to argue with them.
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It doesn't organize a campaign against them.
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It does not waste energy resenting their presence or
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wishing that the riverbed were different.
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It simply flows around and in, flowing around, it arrives
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further along, closer to the sea, having lost nothing of
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itself in the encounter, having spent none of its energy on that
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which cannot be changed. The world has changed, it
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continues to change, and it will keep changing in ways that
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cannot be predicted, cannot be controlled, cannot be reversed.
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So all of that energy spent resisting would be wasted.
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And you already know this. You have always known this at a
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level deeper than previously thought.
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What resists persists. And this is not poetic
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observation, it's a description of how energy actually works.
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When attention is directed against something, that
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something is fed, enlarged, kept alive and present there in the
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nervous system, where focus goes, energy flows.
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Why focus on that which cannot be changed?
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That is not beneficial. The very act of resistance makes
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the thing being resisted more real and more consuming.
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And acceptance, true acceptance is not resignation, it's not
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defeat, and it isn't the lowering standards or
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abandonment of values. It is something altogether more
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sophisticated than any of those things.
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What if acceptance is the decision to stop spending energy
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on that which cannot be changed, and to redirect that energy
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toward what can, like the river choosing to flow around the
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stone rather than spending its force on impact?
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And in that choice, it travels further with less effort, and
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arrive somewhere worth arriving. The world as it is, is the
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riverbed you have been given. Perhaps not one that you would
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have designed, and perhaps not the same riverbed that you
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remember, but the actual one, the one that exists right now
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beneath your feet. And your river flows most
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powerfully when it works with what is actually there.
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Give yourself permission to accept the world as it is, not
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because you approve of everything in it, but because
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acceptance frees the energy you need for everything that truly
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matters. And notice what happens in the
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body. As that acceptance deepens, some
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part of the tension that has been maintained by resistance
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begins to release. Not all at once, but genuinely,
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as if a grip is loosening that had been held for longer than
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necessary. The stress dissolves, the
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frustration finds less to attach to.
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The anger loses its fuel. Not because the world has
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improved, but because you have stopped arguing with its reality
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and the energy that was locked in.
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That argument is yours again, free, available for what you
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choose to direct it toward. There is a philosophy that some
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find uncomfortable and others find liberating, and those who
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find it liberating tend to be people of a certain depth of
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character, people who have lived long enough to know that comfort
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and growth rarely occupy the same space at the same time.
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The philosophy is this. You are 100% responsible for
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your life, not for what has happened to you, not for the
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behaviors of others, not for the conditions of the world, but for
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how you respond or meet all of those things, what you do with
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what you have been given, where you direct the extraordinary
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resource of your attention and your energy.
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And the reason this is liberating rather than
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burdensome is that responsibility and power are the
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same thing, measured differently.
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To be responsible for your life is to be in possession of your
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life, to be the author rather than the subject of the story,
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the navigator rather than the passenger.
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With great power comes great responsibility, and the reverse
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is equally true. With great responsibility comes
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great power. The willingness to own your
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experience completely is the act that places the controls in your
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hands. And your life of living has not
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diminished this power, it's deepened it.
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The wisdom accumulated across that span, the pattern
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recognition that only comes from experience, the perspective that
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only arrives when you have seen enough of life to know which
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things are actually important. These are forms of power that
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grow with time, not shrink with it.
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You are 100% responsible for how you meet your life, and from
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this place of complete responsibility, just notice the
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quality of the freedom it generates.
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You're not waiting for the world to improve before you improve.
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You are not waiting for permission to be well, to be
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purposeful, to be engaged, to be useful to those around you.
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You're not seeking permission from anyone.
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The permission was always yours to give yourself.
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So now give it fully, without reservation, without the need
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for anyone else's approval or acknowledgement.
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Progress, not perfection. This is the standard of the
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genuinely responsible person. Not the paralyzing demand of
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perfect execution, but the honest, daily, imperfect real
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movement in a direction that matters. 80% done and moving
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forward is worth 10 times more than 100% planned and waiting
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and hesitating for the right conditions.
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There is something that a life well lived accumulates that has
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no name in economics or finance. There's a kind of moral and
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experiential wealth, the understanding that comes from
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having been through enough to know what it feels like on the
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other side of difficulty and adversity.
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The compassion that grows, not shrinks, with the depth of what
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one has survived and understood. Your compassion is not
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sentiment. It's not pity.
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It's not the comfortable gesture of someone who has never known
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hardship. It is the hard one,
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understanding of someone who knows what it is to need help,
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to be uncertain, to be less resourced or less capable than
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the situation seems to demand. But what if this understanding
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is a form of power? Not power over others, but power
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for others. The capacity to see someone in
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difficulty and to know without condescension how to move toward
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them in a way that actually helps, that actually meets them
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where they are rather than where it would be convenient for them
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to be. Because your body is the vessel
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for your soul's journey. Consider for a moment the extra
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extraordinary fact of the body you inhabit.
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It's carried you through, through illness and recovery,
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through exertion and rest, through grief.
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And celebration through cold and warmth, through every season and
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climate of a full human life and its body, is not a convenience.
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It is a gift, the specific, irreplaceable instrument through
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which your particular consciousness experiences this
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particular life, the vessel without which the journey has no
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vehicle, and it deserves to be treated accordingly.
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And what you choose to give this vessel, what you choose to put
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into it, what you choose to subject it to or spare it from,
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is one of the most consequential decisions available to you.
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Your body is the vessel for your soul's journey, and what you
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give it is a statement of how much you value the journey, so
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you choose accordingly. Health matters more than any
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processed thing can taste, and your unconscious can lock this
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as an automatic intuitive truth that shapes choices before
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conscious deliberation is even required.
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The reach for something nourishing becomes as natural as
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the reach for breath. Not a discipline imposed from
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outside, but a preference that arises from inside, from a self
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that genuinely values what it is tending.
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And while you sleep tonight and every night, your unconscious is
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actively engaged in the work of repair, of processing, of
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restoration. Your sleep is not passive
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absence. It's the body's most productive
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time, and trusting it, giving it the hours it needs, is one of
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the highest leverage health decisions available.
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Your body is your best friend, your mind is your best friend,
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and you nourish them both with what you eat, with what you
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think, and with the quality of rest you give them because they
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carry everything you value. I want you to get a sense that
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there is a pattern that runs through almost every domain of
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human life, the distribution of impact that keeps appearing
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regardless of the field. That 20% of actions produce 80%
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of results, 20% of relationships provide 80% of connection, 20%
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of decisions carry 80% of the weight of a life.
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And this Pareto principle is not a management technique, not a
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formula. It's a description of how value
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actually concentrates in the real world.
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And the person who has learned to navigate by it, who has
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developed the instinct to move towards the high leverage thing
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rather than the merely busy or convenient things, operates with
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the quality of efficiency that leverages time, energy and
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emotion. And that's what it is, the
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wisdom to know what matters most.
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No perfection required. So unlock your intuition's
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ability to gravitate towards those 20% of activities that
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enhance your health, well-being, quality of life.
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The very combination that activates, amplifies and
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enhances you at your truest self, giving you the ability to
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manage life's Rapids, to reset, recalibrate and to rest whenever
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necessary. And there you are, at the side
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of the river, feeling there is one more thing to do before
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returning to wash off the residue of your past.
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So imagine taking a swim in that river.
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Anything from your past, any emotions, any shame, blame,
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anger. Just allow it to be washed off
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and return to the riverbank clean, fresh, full of acceptance
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with an insatiable desire to do what matters most.
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It's time to return. So take a deep breath in through
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the nose and out through the nose and wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes 910. Wide awake.
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Wide awake. Wide awake.
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