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What Will a Narcissist Do If You Call Them Out? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what happens when you call out a narcissist?
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  Well, you finally just decided you've had enough.
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  When you go from just being quiet and chill to being Billy
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  Bad impact, right? Billy Badass impact.
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  That's when you go to it right there.
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  What happens? How do narcissists react?
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  What do they do? Who do they tell?
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  Who do they screw? No, that's what we're talking
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  about today, y'all. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist
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  myself, here to give you an inside look at the mind of a
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  narcissist and let's hop right into it.
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  What the hell do narcissists do when you call them out?
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  So I was the first thing I'm going to say is it depends on
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  what type of call out that you do, right?
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  Exposing A narcissist, there's there's layers to it, right?
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  There's, there's a lot of different layers to exposing a
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  toxic narcissistic person. It's not always just like you
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  going to blast them on social media.
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  Calling a narcissist out could have a lot of different
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  implications, right? You can call them out at in
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  inside the household. You can call them out in the
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  workplace. You can call them out on social
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  media, right? You can call them out in court,
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  right? There's so many different ways
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  that you can call all a narcissist.
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  So it really depends on their response and their reaction,
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  right? Which how you do is typically
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  going to indicate what they will do or how they will handle the
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  situation. Because if you call that a
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  narcissist in the house and it's just you and them, what could
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  they really do, right? If you just call them out, you
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  catch them cheating or lying or something like that.
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  What could they really do in that situation?
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  Will they? They can hit me.
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  Yeah, they can. I know.
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  I presented that. In a way, they make you think
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  like they can't really do it. They can get dangerous because
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  the possibility exists that you could do more.
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  So if you call, even if you call out a narcissist and it's just
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  you and them in the house, it's just you and them, one O 1 mano
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  E mano, it doesn't mean that they will just walk away and
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  leave you alone. Right?
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  That does it, does it? Oh, you got me.
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  You called me out. You got me.
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  Guess you win, guess I'm done. No, that doesn't mean that that
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  will. That's how it would go down,
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  right? Sometimes when you call out a
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  narcissist one-on-one, like if you, if it was just me and you
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  and our household together and you told me you discovered my
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  sordid affair, or you discovered that I'm gambled all the money
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  away or that I'm back on drugs, I'm drinking again, whatever it
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  is, right? If you told me that in my mind,
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  of course I'm going to feel the shame, Of course I'm going to
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  feel ashamed, I'm going to feel embarrassed.
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  And then I'm going to get angry and then I'm going to get
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  paranoid because I'm just like, who else knows?
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  And I'll ask you, who did you tell this to?
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  And you say nobody. Now my mind is wondering, who
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  could you tell it to? How big could this get in my
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  life? How would this affect my
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  reputation if other people know about it?
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  So if you call me out in the household, I'm still, I can
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  still get paranoid. Now I want to know your source.
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  How did you find out if I deny it?
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  Even if you have proof, a lot of times narcissist will deny it,
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  right? They want to know how you found
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  out. They want to feel like if the
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  pipe is kind of like this, if the Pike pipe, I said Pike.
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  If the pipe is leaking, I want to know where the leak is at so
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  I can seal it up. So I need to know who the mole
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  is in my life, if there is a mole in my life so that I could
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  seal up the situation so they won't get further or it won't
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  happen again. Or I can know who not to be
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  around and who not to share my information with because they
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  tend to be they're, they're rat. They snitching their tattletale,
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  right? I can.
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  I need to know who I can talk to seriously.
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  I need to know who I can talk to or who I can tell this
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  information to in order to protect myself.
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  I need to know. So a lot of times they will
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  badger you about your source. If you called on a narcissist,
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  they going to badger you about how you found out.
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  They because they're they're afraid that more people could
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  find out. They're afraid that if they
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  stick around, this person that told you that the possibility
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  exists that this will just happen again.
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  You know what I mean? The possibility exists that this
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  can just happen over and over and over again.
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  And then there's nothing that I can do about it personally.
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  Like you have the upper hand in this situation.
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  You have the upper room, the upper room, you have the upper
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  hand here. So that means that you can do
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  whatever you want to do to me. Like you're in control.
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  You have the power. So when you call out a
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  narcissist, it's now how do I get the power back, right?
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  Even if it's just you and me in the household, there's nobody
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  else around. How do I get the power back?
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  And again, I'm paranoid. So I think you're recording me
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  now. So I very rarely will I admit to
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  it. I think you're recording me to
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  get more proof so you can embarrass me more later on.
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  So very rarely am I going to admit to it.
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  You called me out, you busted me, you're trying to hold me
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  accountable, whatever it is. So very rarely am I going to
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  admit to it because now I'm thinking that you're telling you
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  trying to record me to tell other people because that's what
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  I would do. I will record you.
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  Hey, I need I, I need more people to know I need you.
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  I need the threat to be wide right.
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  So this is going to happen too. That's a big that's a huge
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  possibility of what happens if you expose the one-on-one.
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  Now, if we take it to the, the bigger exposures, whoa, buckle
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  your ladies and gentlemen, buckle your safety belt because
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  we're going on a bumpy, nasty, toxic ass ride.
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  We going you a it's going to be bumpy in Houston.
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  We have a narcissistic problem. Seriously, because the bigger
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  the like, so the bigger the exposure, typically it's going
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  to be, the bigger the reaction from that narcissist, right?
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  If you expose me online, I need to try to expose you online.
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  I need to try to match your energy.
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  So I'm going to try like I feel like if you tell the truth about
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  me, I'm going to lie about you or I'm going to take the truth
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  about you and make it bigger and just just fabricate it.
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  I'm going to make the truth about you seem like a bad thing.
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  So if you call me out online or you expose me online to multiple
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  to multiple people, man, get ready for a social media battle
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  now on there. The off chance that you might be
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  dealing with a narcissist who will say nothing to you, who
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  will just ignore you and hope that it goes away, That's what I
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  would do online nowadays, right? I'm in a different place right
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  now because my ego, I can kind of keep my ego in check and
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  whatnot. So even if somebody's telling
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  the truth about embarrassing me or whatever, I would not my my
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  fear right here, y'all, This is what I would do if somebody
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  would have called me out online, right?
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  I would just ignore them seriously, because my fear is a
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  Streisand effect happen happening, right?
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  I have a fear of the Streisand effect happening.
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  Like if you call me out online and I respond to you, that puts
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  more eyes on you because a lot of people who, who, who hear my
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  response to you don't know who you are, don't have the OR not
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  don't know what the situation is.
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  So they're going to go find your stuff that you said about me.
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  And now that puts more eyes on your stuff.
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  So the Streisand effect happened.
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  If you don't know what Streisand effect is, look it up.
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  But pretty much Barbra Streisand, like a magazine or
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  somebody, somebody took pictures of her house on the beach,
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  right? Because to point an eye about
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  beach erosion, how these beach houses were causing more erosion
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  than they were worth. And Barbra Streisand didn't like
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  the fact that her house was on the magazine or on the website.
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  So she sued the people. She sued the people.
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  And only, I think only three people had saw it at first.
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  But when she sued it, when she sued the people, it made it.
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  It brought more eyes to it. Like Barbra Streisand filed a
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  lawsuit. Now thousands of people,
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  hundreds of thousands of people see it.
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  Nobody saw it at first, but because she got angry at her
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  houses in it, she brought the issue to the public light and
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  then thousands and thousands of people saw it.
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  So her suing and her reacting caused a bigger effect.
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  And that's why they call it the Streisand effect.
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  Look it up. That's my fear of what happens
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  on what could happen online to me if I respond to someone a a
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  troll or if I respond to somebody telling them the truth.
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  So when you call out a narcissist online, some of them
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  like myself would go quiet on you.
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  I would literally go quiet when I would not give you a response,
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  I would go quiet on you. Now there are other narcissists
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  who don't care like you ever heard somebody say, oh, there's
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  no such thing as bad as bad publicity as bad press.
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  Those, those malignant over narcissists don't care.
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  They want to muddy. They want to muddy it up.
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  They want to bring more drama to the situation.
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  They want to bring more eyes to the situation.
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  So they'll make video after video after video about you
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  lying about you and stuff like that.
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  So when you call out of the narcissist, just think about it.
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  Just think about what could happen.
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  What could they do? Now every once in awhile you get
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  the psychopath. So I heard they might try to
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  hurt you, right, Right. I'm not even laughing at that.
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  But like sometimes you get the psychos.
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  You you call out a psycho, they try to hurt you in real life.
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  They don't respond to you online, they try to hunt you
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  down in real life. They dox you.
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  They try to find you in real life to pop up on you to try to
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  actually do some harm to you. Watch out for those people right
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  there y'all this. Before you call out a narcissist
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  just make sure you know who you're dealing with right?
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  I'm not trying to scare you out or fear monger you into not
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  calling people out because I truly believe that horrible
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  people to horrible Lyme manipulative people, I do think
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  that they deserve to be called out and embarrassed or whatever,
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  right? But you have to be careful
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  because you never know because a lot of times when you call out a
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  narcissist in a public arena, in a public space, it threatens
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  their identity, right? It threatens their image.
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  They can have these affairs or whatever it makes that they
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  could be a they could be a communal narcissist and be big
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  in the church. These affairs or these gambling
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  or these drugs get exposed and now people are looking at them
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  sideways. People are looking at them
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  differently, right? There's a cat walking down the
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  street, y'all. I'm trying to see if my cat runs
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  on it. This is my cat's territory.
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  There's a rogue cat walking back there.
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  Yup, Yup. Look what I say.
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  I'm gonna record it. I'm record it.
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  Look, I can't show y'all. I'm recording on my phone.
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  There's Loki and there's the there's a strange cat right
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  there. I knew it.
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  I told y'all. Loki's hunting.
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  Sorry, I got distracted. No, but seriously, if you call
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  out a narcissist, this is the type of stuff that will happen.
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  It really, really will. So you have to protect yourself
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  and you have to think about it because you have to be as safe
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  as you possibly can because you might, you might encounter the
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  psychos, you might encounter the people out there who are trying
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  to harm you and bring harm to you.
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  Like seriously, be careful. I'm not saying I'm not saying
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  don't call them out. I'm saying be careful because
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  you never know who you're actually dealing with.
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  Because narcissistic people, when you threaten their
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  identities, you don't know what they'll do to get it back.
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  You don't know what they'll do because if they lose their
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  identity like I'm a social media content creator with a great
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  image now my identity is flawed and destroyed now because of
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  because of something I have done.
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  Now I might lash out now I might just try to start harming people
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  now because you harmed me, right?
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  I'm just matching your energy and trying to harm you back.
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  Like seriously, I'm sorry. I got distracted by cat.
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  I saw that cat walking down the street.
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  I was like, where's Loki at? There should not be any cats in
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  front of my house. I called Loki out.
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