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Season 3 - Episode 48 - We all have traits that we are not proud of. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let's talk about what happens if you have done something that
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  you are looking at and you're saying, well, I'm not proud of
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  myself for what I did there. First and foremost, let me be
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  very clear about this. We all have traits that are not
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  pretty. We all have traits that are not
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  pretty. I myself am incredibly stubborn
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  and I know that I will. I will stick with something
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  sometimes way too long because I am so committed to saying no, I
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  can get this done now. Has that served me well in my
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  life? 1000%?
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  It has put me in a position that I like, imagined, created.
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  And I've gotten there because I am stubborn now.
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  Have I always done it the easiest way possible?
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  Hell no. Have I made it difficult along
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  the way? Yeah, for sure.
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  Part of that, I tend to believe, is just part of the process.
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  It's just that's the way life goes, you know?
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  I don't, I don't beat myself up anymore for having traits like
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  being stubborn or like being committed to just finding every
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  last answer I possibly can, grinding through it.
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  As my husband says, sometimes he's like, you are just like
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  sandpaper, sometimes you just don't quit.
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  And I'm like, I know, but the finished process, a product is
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  always so fantastic. But that is not something that
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  I'm always proud of, because I realize now as I get older that
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  I have to be able to morph and I have to be able to recognize
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  that not all these traits that we possess are are worthy of
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  every single thing that we get into doing with it.
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  It's just it's just not, you know it's it's just not worthy
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  of our time and effort to pour into it sometimes because it
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  does hurt us. So if you think about it, if I'm
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  just relentlessly asking questions to someone who doesn't
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  want to have that done to them, am I am I helping or hurting?
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  I'm clearly hurting. And should I back off?
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  I should. But do I?
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  Not always. Because I feel like, Oh no, I
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  can do this. I can.
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  I can help. I can.
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  I can get in there. I can find out more, do more, be
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  more, get bigger. And and before you know it,
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  I've, I've created a wall between myself and whoever I'm
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  talking to. So I have learned that that
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  trait, while it can be beautiful, it can also be a
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  major pain in the butt. And whatever those traits are
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  that you possess, that you're not proud of, you should have a
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  list of them. So, you know, you should really
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  have a list of them. Now, on the opposite side, I
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  have another one where it's like I tend to give too much.
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  I tend to say I'll just keep giving.
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  I'll just keep giving. I'll just keep helping.
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  I'll just keep doing it because my heart feels like, yes, you
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  should keep doing this. Yes, you should keep doing this.
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  And sometimes, as a human being, you stop yourself and you go,
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  wait, am I being taken advantage of now?
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  Am I at the point now where I'm being taken advantage of?
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  And the answer is maybe, maybe. But you have to know what these
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  traits are to help yourself not get caught in a situation that's
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  like that. Because if you don't know the
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  trait exists and you're not aware of it, you can't help
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  yourself with. It's like having termites in the
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  house. You can't get rid of them if you
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  don't know they're there. That's why it's so important to
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  know if they're there. That's why you have the checks.
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  That's why you look for things. So think of it like a like a a
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  checks and balance list that you're doing for yourself right
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  now. Think of this like an exercise
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  of saying, okay. Well, if this is true, if what
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  you're saying is true, then I I'm going to go in and make a
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  list of the things that I'm not proud of.
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  And that to me is one of the greatest things.
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  The first step is saying I'm willing to take the inventory.
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  I'm willing to take the list and know what's not working.
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  It's the hardest exercise for a human to do is to say, OK, we
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  can, we all want to be, you know, on the what's working.
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  It's so hard. It doesn't matter if you're an
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  individual, a group, a company. Every time I do this with
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  people, they're like, it's hard to look at what's not working,
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  but so super necessary. So when you do it, no, you're
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  doing something that's hard and you should be proud of yourself
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  for it and say OK, there, there will be middle of the road ones
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  too. You'll have the ones that'll be
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  like, OK, I'm not proud of this trait and this one I'm kind of
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  ambivalent about. It's like sometimes it's OK,
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  sometimes it's not. But when you understand what
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  makes you up, when you go in and you do this kind of work and you
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  figure out what makes you up as a person, the parts of you that
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  are present and available, like who's driving the bus, the
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  parts. And you can think of it this way
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  too, that who you know, these are the drivers that you're not
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  proud of when they drive. And for those of you who have
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  not read the book, it's, I'm Speaking of my book, Who's
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  driving your bus? It's available Kim Johnson on
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  Amazon. This is not a plug for the book,
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  though. This is just explaining these
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  traits, these emotions, these characters, this, these cast of
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  characters that live on the bus in your head.
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  These are the ones that we're talking about.
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  Some of these drivers are not always the most useful, but if
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  you know they're there, you can help them and you don't have to
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  be proud of everybody. Trust me, you don't.
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  But you just don't want to use them all the time.
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  So make sure you know who they are so that they don't impede
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  your progress. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.