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The Hero | When Agency Awakens · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: If you've been listening along in this series, you've probably noticed a pattern.
• 0:05
  SPEAKER_00: I started with the victim, the place where pain is named honestly, then I shared about the villain, where protection hardens into control.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: So today we're talking about the hero.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to be clear from the beginning.
• 0:19
  SPEAKER_00: This episode is not about hustle, it's not about proving your strength, and it's not about becoming someone new.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: It's about agency.
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  SPEAKER_00: The moment you realize that your starting point doesn't have to be your step point.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Here is where you'll find conversations where faith meets story and strategy for lasting transformation.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Amy Wicks, here to help you find wisdom and wholehearted rhythms for moments that matter most.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're learning your type or deepening your spiritual formation, these conversations will remind you that the Enneagram shines a light, but Christ is the transformation.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: To be clear, in wholehearted story work, the hero is not the rescuer.
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  SPEAKER_00: She is not the one who saves everyone, and she's not the one who carries the whole story on her back.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: The hero is the moment you realize I have a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the awakening of agency.
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  SPEAKER_00: The hero is when you stop waiting for life to change and begin cooperating with the change that is already available to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's possible with Christ.
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  SPEAKER_00: This distinction matters because Scripture affirms this kind of movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are invited to respond, to choose, to participate in the work of God.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: The hero is not about control.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about courage, the courage to take a step.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: Now you can't move out of victim or villain without the hero role or the hero energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need agency to leave what's harming you, to tell the truth, set a boundary, or ask for help, or maybe even to begin again.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: Without the hero, your healing will stall.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_00: You remain stuck not because you lack faith, honey, I know you've got faith, but because you haven't reclaimed your ability to respond.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: This is not self-salvation, it's participation.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: Participation in the path that the Lord has already marked out for you, the way that He has made for you, but you have to take the step.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Your belovedness, the identity that is true of you, it doesn't erase agency.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: It makes it possible to step in the truth of whose you are and who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: There have been lots of seasons in my life where hero energy was absolutely necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: I come back to it again and again.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: There are moments when I realize that I can't stay here, I can't keep pretending anymore, and I have to choose something differently.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: The choices aren't always dramatic, and sometimes they are, or sometimes they feel like it.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_00: But it's important to know because most often than not, it didn't fix everything, but they counted, it mattered, and it started to make the difference that I needed.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: They were typically first steps that was just about looking like getting out of something that was no longer life-giving, giving responsible yeses, and living out boundaries with clarity and kindness.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: And without those steps, nothing else would have followed.
• 3:48
  SPEAKER_00: You see, agency is just the doorway.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, just like me, you're gonna need to step into the hero role many times in your life.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna have to take up that energy and that step of faith to bravely and imperfectly walk out this wholehearted healing journey.
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_00: And this is just part of spiritual formation, and it's about living a real story.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: But friend, here is where you need a little extra wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hero energy was never meant to be where you lived.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you aren't meant to be the hero in everyone else's story.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is really important to note.
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  SPEAKER_00: The hero role is only meant for where you need to begin moving.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: The trouble comes in is when the hero decides I have to sustain this alone, or I have to keep pushing, I can't slow down now, and I have to rescue everyone else.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: I have helped and watched so many women step into the hero role so beautifully.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_00: They set the boundary, they leave the job, and they even start the hard conversation.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: But then six months later, they're exhausted, not because the choice was wrong, but because they've been white knuckling it alone, afraid that if they slow down, everything will fall apart again.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: And that's when agency quietly turns into self-reliance or a hero mentality, which is not unlike the victim mentality.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_00: But self-reliance over time, it's just exhausting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because you're doing something wrong, but because you are carrying something that requires support.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: The hero goes tired not because she's weak, but because she's doing it on her own and staying busy saving everyone else.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: If some of this feels familiar or you're recognizing yourself in this place, hear this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your hero moments are not a mistake, and they weren't a mistake.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your effort wasn't wasted, and your courage mattered.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: The invitation isn't to undo those choices or to look back with shame or that you didn't do it right, but it's to invite you to ask yourself what is realistic to live this out in a lasting way, in a sustainable way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, inside alone doesn't sustain the change, and neither does effort.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lasting spiritual formation requires something more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Agency does start the journey, but wisdom is what helps it last.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where your story shifts.
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  SPEAKER_00: The guide doesn't replace the hero, the guide completes her.
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  SPEAKER_00: If the hero is the breakthrough moment, then the guide is walking the road of a long obedience in the same direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: The guide is what allows for insight to stick, change to integrate, agency to become sustainable, and wisdom to accumulate over time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about giving up or living irresponsibility, but it is about refusing to carry it alone.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: Before we get to dive deeper into the guide role, I want you to take a moment and reflect on your hero journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, where do you need to exercise agency?
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  SPEAKER_00: You maybe need to speak up, make a change, or find a different path.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where have you already taken brave steps in the past?
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: And are there any changes that you need to initiate because it's feeling heavy?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what kind of support, wisdom, or guidance might help these changes last to be more sustainable?
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: All right, I did just ask you a lot of questions, and I find myself sharing all this information with you with some enthusiasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you don't need to answer it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe just go back and listen so you can notice better what is standing out to you right now and the important adjustments that you need to make in your story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is the secret to the wholehearted journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: As I've already hinted at before, we're going to talk about the guy next and not as authority over you, but as a presence alongside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because lasting transformation does not come from one heroic moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It comes from having the right support for the long way forward.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: So if you need to step into your hero role right now, I want you to hear this.
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  SPEAKER_00: God wants to give you all the courage you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your choices do matter, and your effort will not be wasted.
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  SPEAKER_00: You do not have to carry the story alone or step into your hero role without the support you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, if you don't like the story you're in, I want to invite you to begin a new chapter.
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_00: May you honor the story you've lived and release what no longer belongs to you and allow courage to meet you as you step into what's next.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks so much for joining me for the Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this conversation spoke to you, please share it with a friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also visit simply wholehearted.com to take the free Enneagram quiz and also get your personalized podcast playlist specific for your Enneagram type.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, friend, your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point.