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The Myth of the Female Orgasm · WDYM What Do You Mean?

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SPEAKER_00: You're listening to the WBYM.
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SPEAKER_00: What do you mean podcast?
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SPEAKER_00: Now everyone gather around and listen to one of Hamilton's best podcasts.
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SPEAKER_00: No research to back this up.
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SPEAKER_00: Your host, Michael Gillespie.
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SPEAKER_04: I've always been told to keep an open mind.
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SPEAKER_04: Keep an open mind about things, right?
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SPEAKER_04: Always remember that advice comes from all angles in life.
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SPEAKER_04: From old to the same age to even young people.
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SPEAKER_04: Remember to always keep an open mind about everything.
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SPEAKER_04: I've recently been uh getting trying to get back in shape in a in a better shape, so to speak.
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SPEAKER_04: And to be honest with you, it all starts with diet and everything, right?
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SPEAKER_04: But I've I've been trying to get my legs back under me because, dude, I can't run worth squat, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So I started to run at the local park of mine.
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SPEAKER_04: I went to the park the other day, and uh I see as I'm running slash walking, uh, I see a father and his daughter, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So as I'm walking the curves and running the straightaways, I pass him up a couple times.
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SPEAKER_04: Like I pass him up one time, I pass him up two times, I pass him up three times, and then the fourth time he stops me.
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SPEAKER_04: Say, hey buddy.
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SPEAKER_04: He goes, Hey buddy, um, you want to lose that belly fat?
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SPEAKER_04: I look down at myself and I said, Yo, do you what what belly fat?
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SPEAKER_04: I don't, I mean, yeah, human beings, we all have a little body fat, unless you're an actual super, you know, bodybuilder, then yeah, you're probably not gonna have a lot of belly fat.
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SPEAKER_04: But, you know, I got a I got a decent amount of belly fat.
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SPEAKER_04: You know, I'm looking at okay, whatever.
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SPEAKER_04: But I'm looking at him, and he looks like Humpty Dumpty, right?
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SPEAKER_04: He's she's oval-shaped, egg, and got a lot of belly fat.
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SPEAKER_04: And he has the audacity to stop me from my workout, me running and tearing up my legs and knees to tell me how do you lose belly fat.
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SPEAKER_04: So I'm like, this could be potentially interesting.
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SPEAKER_04: So I'm like, okay, man, how do you lose this belly fat that I got, allegedly?
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SPEAKER_04: So, yeah, man, let me tell you, all you gotta do is these three exercises.
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SPEAKER_04: These three exercises, and you lose your belly fat.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm so okay, well, I'm intrigued.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm consider me intrigued.
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SPEAKER_04: What is it?
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SPEAKER_04: So you do these three.
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SPEAKER_04: He says, you do this uh uh uh, you know, those things that you do where you're you're on the ground and you do your knees up.
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SPEAKER_04: Oh, you mean like mountain climbers?
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SPEAKER_04: He's like, Yeah, uh yeah, how did you know?
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SPEAKER_04: I said, I don't know, you know, I know a couple things here about fitness, not too much, but enough to, you know, do something in mountain climbers.
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SPEAKER_04: I said, okay.
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SPEAKER_04: What else?
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SPEAKER_04: He said, oh, those um those other things, you know, those uh things you get down, do a push-up, come up, and jump.
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SPEAKER_04: Oh, you mean like burpees?
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SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah, I know, yeah, burpees.
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SPEAKER_04: I said, Oh, I I know, I know burpee state.
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SPEAKER_04: Do you like burpees?
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SPEAKER_04: I said, absolutely not.
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SPEAKER_04: I hate burpees.
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SPEAKER_04: I hate burpees with an absolute passion.
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SPEAKER_04: We started doing those in the military, burpees, and that's where I'd be like, yo, I gotta waiver, man.
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SPEAKER_04: You're not gonna have me jumping out with these bad knees up here about doing burpees.
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SPEAKER_04: But I digress.
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SPEAKER_04: I said, what's the third exercise?
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SPEAKER_04: He said, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: And if you do a plank every night, you would lose that belly fat in two to three months.
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SPEAKER_04: I said, no kidding.
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SPEAKER_04: He said, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: I said, okay.
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SPEAKER_04: Thanks for the advice, Humpty Dumpty.
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SPEAKER_04: I said, you can't, I can't, I can't believe he stopped me and told me how to lose belly fat.
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SPEAKER_04: But I'm not gonna turn that negativity and keep it negative.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna turn it into a positive.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna do some of it.
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SPEAKER_04: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna do some of it.
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SPEAKER_04: So we'll see in two or three months if I can lose any more belly fat than I already have.
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SPEAKER_04: So, yeah, that was interesting.
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SPEAKER_04: Uh welcome to the show, everybody.
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SPEAKER_04: Welcome to the WDYM.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm your host, Michael Gillespie, as Kobe told you in the first intro.
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SPEAKER_04: Uh, hope everybody's doing good, hope everybody's doing well.
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SPEAKER_04: We got a topic.
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SPEAKER_04: We have a topic like no other, nothing that I've discussed here on the WDYM uh before.
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SPEAKER_04: And this will be labeled explicit because I am talking about the uh the female orgasm.
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I said that.
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SPEAKER_04: The female orgasm, and uh if it's even real these days, if it's even real.
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SPEAKER_04: I don't know how the topic exactly came up weeks ago, months ago, or something like that.
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SPEAKER_04: But uh I was talking to a couple friends, female friends, and they're like, you know, they had the audacity to say that they fake it.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm like, of all the things to fake, you fake that.
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SPEAKER_04: She's like, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: I said that doesn't make sense to me.
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SPEAKER_04: That doesn't make sense to me why of the all, like I said, all things we're gonna fake that.
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SPEAKER_04: Now, mind you, in this society, women can fake a lot of things eyelashes, nails, contacts, makeup, BBL, titties.
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SPEAKER_04: That's just to name things that are on the top of my head right now.
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SPEAKER_04: And then the BBL is a Brazilian butt left.
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SPEAKER_04: They're doing that too.
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SPEAKER_04: Oh, tummy tuck.
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SPEAKER_04: All these things women do to be fake, and we or I shouldn't say we that they decide to fake that of all things is to give men the the idea that they're satisfying their woman.
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SPEAKER_04: That's crazy to me.
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SPEAKER_04: So instead of getting mad or you know, let me survey some of my female friends.
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SPEAKER_04: And so I started asking the female friends that I've known all my life, known since high school, known since I used to work at Christ Hospital, known that I work with now, you know, asking to say, you know, do you do you fake it?
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SPEAKER_04: And they're like, without a shadow of a doubt.
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SPEAKER_04: It wasn't like an embarrassing yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: They're like, yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: Like, like, do you breathe air?
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SPEAKER_04: They're like, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: Do you fake orgasm?
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SPEAKER_04: They're like, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm like, oh my god.
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SPEAKER_04: So the yes became one, two, three, four, five years, and like maybe one or two no's.
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SPEAKER_00: And I was like, this is this is this can't be.
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SPEAKER_04: This this can't be.
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SPEAKER_04: You cannot, you cannot be doing this to us males.
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SPEAKER_04: Right.
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SPEAKER_04: We can't, like, we are we what's going on?
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SPEAKER_04: That's the there's a what what do you mean?
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SPEAKER_04: The part, what do you mean you're faking it?
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SPEAKER_04: So I'm like, all right, so I get the local, the local opinion of uh or the local, you know, question, are they faking it?
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SPEAKER_04: And then I'm like, all right, let's let's we'll see what Google says.
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SPEAKER_04: Let's say let's see what the net says.
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SPEAKER_04: And this article I found back in 2010, June 30th, 202 2010, by Brian Alexander just confirms it even more.
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SPEAKER_04: The the tit the title was 80% 80% of females are out there faking it.
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SPEAKER_04: How mind-blowing is that?
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SPEAKER_04: That this this is uh this is amazing.
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SPEAKER_04: So the article I found is um again back from 2010, is basically saying they asked 71 women from the ages of 18 to 48 a series of questions.
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SPEAKER_04: They broke down the vocalization into categories that include silence, moan and groan, scream, shriek, squeal, words such as yes, the partner's name, or commands.
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SPEAKER_04: Other questions why the women made these vocalizations and at what point they themselves had the big O.
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SPEAKER_04: If they had a O at all.
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SPEAKER_04: If not, why are they doing all the shouting?
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SPEAKER_04: Well, it turns out that women were making these conscious vocalizations in order to influence their partner rather than direct expect expression of arousal.
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SPEAKER_04: Women seek to speed things up.
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SPEAKER_04: In a paper revealed these odds, Brewer and Hendry, the scientist that conducted this experiment, use this phrase, manipulate male behavior to a woman's advantage.
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SPEAKER_04: Which sounds like a woman were trying to wringle a pair of diamond earrings out of a guy.
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SPEAKER_04: I shall go on.
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SPEAKER_04: That's not really what they meant.
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SPEAKER_04: For example, women reported using these vocalizations to speed up their partner's performance due to boredom, fatigue, discomfort, and time limitations.
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SPEAKER_04: In other words, the sounds women admitted were not because they were out of control excited.
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SPEAKER_04: Indeed, they were most excited say during oral when they were more likely to have an orgasm.
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SPEAKER_04: That didn't do much for the scream and shout.
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SPEAKER_04: Can you believe that?
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SPEAKER_04: I guess so.
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SPEAKER_04: Rather than a tack they used to induce their man to do something, like get it over with, in most cases they were also trying to be nice.
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SPEAKER_04: Important, 90 92% of the participants felt strongly that these vocalizations boosted their partner's self-esteem.
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SPEAKER_04: On paper stated, 87% reported using them for this purpose, to boost your self-esteem.
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SPEAKER_04: Do you not do am I the only one that sees a problem with that?
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SPEAKER_04: What happened to the old school way?
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SPEAKER_04: Saying, hey, you know, uh, this is not working for me.
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SPEAKER_04: Can you do this instead?
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SPEAKER_04: But we're out here just faking it to make it, and it's so, so wrong that that they're doing it.
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SPEAKER_04: So I'm like, you know what?
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SPEAKER_04: Okay, so this art this article came from 2010.
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SPEAKER_04: Is there a more updated article?
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SPEAKER_04: Like, you know, this that was what 13 years ago?
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SPEAKER_04: There has to be an updated article, and it is, and it gets no better for us.
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SPEAKER_04: Now, now they're attacking the ego, or in this case, the fragile ego of men.
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SPEAKER_04: Can you believe that?
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SPEAKER_04: This article, dated January 31st, 2022, says men men are still women are still faking orgasms to make their fragile men feel more macho.
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SPEAKER_04: Huh?
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SPEAKER_04: Why are we doing this?
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SPEAKER_04: Why are we doing this in society?
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SPEAKER_04: Why is this a thing?
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SPEAKER_04: Uh, let's see, what else?
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SPEAKER_04: Let me keep reading.
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SPEAKER_04: Uh an academic investigation published in the January issue of the Journal of Social Psychology and Personality Sciences collected data from over 600 women, many whom admit forsaking their own erotic pleasure in order to placate and secure men.
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SPEAKER_04: Women are prioritizing what they think their partners need over their own sexual needs and satisfactions.
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SPEAKER_04: Sadly study author Jessica Jordan, uh, doctoral student at the University of South Florida.
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SPEAKER_04: In the new study, which, by the way, is co-authored by three men, sought to answer the age-old question, theorizing in long in long-held culture ideas about masculinity and may be responsible for the fakery.
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SPEAKER_04: Researchers have collected data from over 238 women asking them to ask about the perceived masculinity of their partners.
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SPEAKER_04: So we're already digging at the man for for what?
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SPEAKER_04: Interestingly, found that more women saw their partner's masculinity was pre precarious and more anxiety they had.
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SPEAKER_04: This in turn lowered their own pleasure and and the rate at which they had their big O.
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SPEAKER_04: Next researchers researchers quizzed an additional 196 women discovering that participants who assumed their male partner's manhood was fragile was less like less likely to provide honest sexuality communication due to anxiety.
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SPEAKER_04: Meanwhile, the third component of the study asks 157 straight women in a relationship to complete anonymous survey about their sexual lives.
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SPEAKER_04: If a woman is concerned about uh an invertly threatening their partner's manhood, that could lead to breakdown of communication.
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SPEAKER_04: The lead author found.
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SPEAKER_04: Some of the um comments by the women uh were saying impromptu polls of dozens of East Coast women, some told the post that faking it was indeed common phenomena of yore.
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SPEAKER_04: However, one said fragile is the wrong word for a man who can't deliver in the bedroom.
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SPEAKER_04: Fragile, the lady says.
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SPEAKER_04: How about incompetent?
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SPEAKER_04: says the 72-year-old woman.
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SPEAKER_04: Wow.
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SPEAKER_04: The definition for this word is apt, lacking quality, such as knowledge, skill, ability required to do the job.
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SPEAKER_04: Cold blooded.
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SPEAKER_04: Meanwhile, several several females have said steadfastly use the fake the big O.
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SPEAKER_04: One gratified gal who wished to remain anonymous, why is that, told the post that a contrived climax is absolutely off the table.
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SPEAKER_04: Another one said, Why would I?
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SPEAKER_04: 26-year-old uh Brooklyn-based uh copywriter bluntly asked.
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SPEAKER_04: 36-year-old lady from Boston said, I have never faked it.
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SPEAKER_04: Their ego can take the hit.
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SPEAKER_04: That's not my problem.
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SPEAKER_04: What's going on?
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SPEAKER_04: Y'all women are so daggone mean.
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SPEAKER_04: Why would you do this?
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SPEAKER_04: Why would you fake it?
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SPEAKER_04: It just is so mind-boggling that you guys would do the most meanest thing you can do to a man.
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SPEAKER_04: But maybe, maybe, maybe it's our fault.
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SPEAKER_04: Maybe it's our fault of not learning, listening, understanding our women, what they like and don't like, and this is the result.
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SPEAKER_04: So I'm my mind's blown for two articles, right?
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SPEAKER_04: I read two articles.
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SPEAKER_04: Yes, women fake it.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm like, I I I'm I'm I'm shocked.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm shocked that this is happening.
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SPEAKER_04: And to add further, I listen to my friend's podcast, The Trauma Trio.
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SPEAKER_04: She's part of the three lovely ladies that are doing a podcast.
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SPEAKER_04: Now they're only two episodes in, and while I'm on this topic, they have a a night where they talk about the same thing.
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SPEAKER_04: What a coincidence, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So I listened to the podcast, and the topics that they hit are the same things that that I've just recently discovered.
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SPEAKER_04: So with permission, I asked the author of the trauma trio, my friend Hannah, um if it if it's okay that I use sound bits from the from from the uh from the trauma trio because this isn't right.
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SPEAKER_04: And the way the way they they describe things is again mind-blowing.
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SPEAKER_04: So first off, I'm gonna be selfish.
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SPEAKER_04: And then they threw me a shout-out, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So we're gonna listen to it.
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SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna tell you right now, we have one viewer.
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SPEAKER_03: My friend my friend from work.
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SPEAKER_03: And he's gonna listen to this and be like, shout out, guys! Hold on, shout out the dining room.
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SPEAKER_04: That's me, baby.
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SPEAKER_04: So yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: Cool with that.
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SPEAKER_04: That's cool.
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SPEAKER_04: That's that's the best part.
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SPEAKER_04: That's the top of the roller coaster.
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SPEAKER_04: After that, it all goes downhill, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So one of they were playing, I forget, uh, Cards of Humanity, something.
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SPEAKER_04: I don't know.
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SPEAKER_04: And one of the cards they draw was what are you thinking about during the during sex?
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SPEAKER_03: During sex, I like to think about Link.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry, this looks just sex.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't even know what I think about.
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SPEAKER_00: What do you guys think about?
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SPEAKER_00: There are times when I think about oh my god, I gotta do the dishes.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, there are times where I'm sitting there, especially like the dogs will come in the room and I'm like, Listen, if we're talking about my husband, I would think about wow, I wish it could be done.
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SPEAKER_03: And if we're talking about sex tools, I mean, wow, this feels so good.
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SPEAKER_01: There's usually times.
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SPEAKER_01: There are times where I'm into it, and then there are times where I'm sitting there and I'm like, I want to tell him that he should do it this way, but then I like have to interrupt the moment.
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SPEAKER_01: And like I'm just sitting there like trying to figure out how to tell him to like do something differently.
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SPEAKER_01: There are times too when I'm like, I don't want to hurt his feelings of like that feels really not.
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SPEAKER_01: Or it's like I told you to do it this way, and you're not doing it that way, and it's just not it today.
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SPEAKER_04: Or like, I'll be like Okay, so let's break that down, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So one was thinking about doing the dishes, the other one was like, can this be over?
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SPEAKER_04: The other and then another opinion was like, you know, this is great.
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SPEAKER_04: But then they go into the part of not hurting their not hurting the man's feelings.
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SPEAKER_04: And I say, hurt those god blessed feelings, right?
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SPEAKER_04: I'd rather be told I'm doing something wrong so I can fix it myself.
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SPEAKER_04: If I really want to put the work in, I will fix it myself.
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SPEAKER_04: So don't, don't, don't harbor feelings about the like I want if if we're at that point where I'm doing something wrong, I need to be told to I can do it right, so I can keep doing it right so we can keep doing that, right?
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SPEAKER_04: That's not hard.
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SPEAKER_04: Communication is cool, trust me.
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SPEAKER_04: We could do that.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm pretty sure if we're doing something wrong, if they're doing that action and they're doing something wrong, we want to fix it.
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SPEAKER_04: We want to fix it because men are goal, you most men are goal driven.
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SPEAKER_04: We want to satisfy.
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SPEAKER_04: That's proven, right?
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SPEAKER_04: So, the next topic.
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SPEAKER_03: Y'all fake it?
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Okay.
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SPEAKER_03: No, but I'm refusing to because I used to do that a lot, and it was very like performative, and now I'm like, I'm not faking it anymore.
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SPEAKER_03: So when he said, Did you finish?
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SPEAKER_03: I said, No.
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SPEAKER_03: And I was so proud of myself.
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SPEAKER_03: I told my therapist.
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SPEAKER_03: What did he say?
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SPEAKER_03: He said, Damn.
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SPEAKER_04: He said, Damn, shucks, I missed it.
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SPEAKER_04: Yeah, but see how quick that was.
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SPEAKER_04: Like, you fake it?
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SPEAKER_04: They're like, Yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: You breathe air, like, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: Like it's not even like a shy, like, oh yeah, I've done it a couple times.
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SPEAKER_04: It was quick, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: And that's a problem.
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SPEAKER_04: I mean, you know, as a guy, you want to satisfy, but then it goes all back to that communication piece.
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SPEAKER_04: If you're not telling me I'm doing something wrong, how can I fix it?
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SPEAKER_04: So, yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: Quick to do that.
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SPEAKER_04: Now, this next sound piece, mind blowing.
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SPEAKER_01: Men fuck you like they're fucking a man.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Agreed.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, yeah, literally.
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SPEAKER_02: Why are you pure refreshing?
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SPEAKER_02: Hold on.
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SPEAKER_02: What is that?
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SPEAKER_02: Like a god, don't touch that.
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SPEAKER_02: Let's see if I can make that noise really close to the mic.
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SPEAKER_04: What is that?
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SPEAKER_04: Ladies and gentlemen of the WDYM, what is that?
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SPEAKER_04: What is I'm gonna try to replicate the sound.
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SPEAKER_04: I gotta pull these sleeves up.
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SPEAKER_04: What is this?
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SPEAKER_04: I'm assuming that's what she did.
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SPEAKER_04: I don't know.
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SPEAKER_04: But who whose motion is that?
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SPEAKER_04: No, no.
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SPEAKER_04: Nobody's motion is that.
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SPEAKER_04: There's there's no way.
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SPEAKER_04: There's no way.
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SPEAKER_04: There's no way that's no, no.
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SPEAKER_04: So yeah.
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SPEAKER_04: We're gonna talk about that here in a minute.
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SPEAKER_04: The last soundbite is the one that makes the most sense.
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SPEAKER_03: But like well, he starts everything by eating you out.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: That's great.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I kind of like initiated that where I was like, you know how you like it when like I'm really well prepared.
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SPEAKER_02: You gotta do something to prepare me.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, it's nice steak, you gotta marinate it.
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SPEAKER_02: That's what I mean.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, like who hasn't done that?
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SPEAKER_04: As a culinarian, I am proud of that analogy.
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SPEAKER_04: She said, if you if you like this steak, you're gonna have to marinate it.
21:03
SPEAKER_04: And she's right.
21:04
SPEAKER_04: You gotta marinate the steak, because that's a good steak if it's marinated, right?
21:09
SPEAKER_04: So it those are these are the problems that us men are having.
21:15
SPEAKER_04: I don't think we're listening.
21:17
SPEAKER_04: I don't think we're taking key points and we're doing some what is that?
21:23
SPEAKER_04: What is that?
21:24
SPEAKER_04: No, motion in the ocean.
21:26
SPEAKER_04: Mocean doesn't ocean waters, ocean waves do not do that.
21:31
SPEAKER_04: Right?
21:32
SPEAKER_04: We don't we don't do that.
21:34
SPEAKER_04: So I think it's a man issue.
21:36
SPEAKER_04: It's a it's a man issue.
21:38
SPEAKER_04: It's two things.
21:39
SPEAKER_04: It's a man issue that we're not doing things properly.
21:44
SPEAKER_04: We're we're we're I we're we're in a and this is my opinion, and this is something that was brought up to me as I was bringing as I was thinking of this this topic.
21:53
SPEAKER_04: The culture today, in my opinion, is a hookup culture, there's no connection culture.
22:00
SPEAKER_04: Anymore.
22:00
SPEAKER_04: And I think that's the biggest piece that we're missing today in relationships.
22:05
SPEAKER_04: Like we're not connected.
22:06
SPEAKER_04: We're all about the the the the Tinder hookup, the POF, the Plenty of Fish hookup, the Netflix and Chill society that we're not connecting with our partners.
22:18
SPEAKER_04: And I think a majority of these things are the problem.
22:23
SPEAKER_04: So I'ma just throw my sense into it.
22:27
SPEAKER_04: My couple things that will help the men of this audience.
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SPEAKER_04: And maybe the women.
22:34
SPEAKER_04: Maybe women can write it down and tell these men to connect better.
22:38
SPEAKER_04: The first connection is connection of the mind.
22:41
SPEAKER_04: Right?
22:43
SPEAKER_04: Have a general interest in your partner.
22:45
SPEAKER_04: Have it like, you know, don't just be like, yeah, how you doing?
22:49
SPEAKER_04: Can we just go up and smash in the bathroom?
22:50
SPEAKER_04: In the bedroom, you know?
22:52
SPEAKER_04: Connect.
22:53
SPEAKER_04: How are you?
22:54
SPEAKER_04: How you doing?
22:56
SPEAKER_04: What do you take interest in what they're doing?
22:58
SPEAKER_04: What are you doing today?
22:59
SPEAKER_04: You're reading a book?
23:00
SPEAKER_04: I like books too.
23:01
SPEAKER_04: Let's go to the library and get a book.
23:03
SPEAKER_04: Connect with your partner, right?
23:05
SPEAKER_04: Number one.
23:07
SPEAKER_04: Number two.
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SPEAKER_04: Hold hands.
23:10
SPEAKER_04: Do some hold hands.
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SPEAKER_04: Make out hug.
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SPEAKER_04: Women love that stuff.
23:17
SPEAKER_04: Laugh together.
23:18
SPEAKER_04: Hug, massage.
23:21
SPEAKER_04: Like she like the one lady said.
23:23
SPEAKER_04: Start the marinating process.
23:24
SPEAKER_04: Get the marinade.
23:25
SPEAKER_04: Get the salt, the pepper, the oil, you know, some some garlic.
23:29
SPEAKER_04: Get all those ingredients together so you can make that steak.
23:33
SPEAKER_04: Those things still work.
23:35
SPEAKER_04: Right?
23:36
SPEAKER_04: Another thing.
23:37
SPEAKER_04: Constant contact.
23:38
SPEAKER_04: You know, be in contact with each other.
23:40
SPEAKER_04: Tell each other you love each other.
23:42
SPEAKER_04: Tell you appreciate them.
23:43
SPEAKER_04: Give them the appreciation factor.
23:47
SPEAKER_04: That that helps.
23:48
SPEAKER_04: That helps.
23:48
SPEAKER_04: That's the connection, the mental connection.
23:50
SPEAKER_04: You know, do things that they might appreciate down the line.
23:58
SPEAKER_04: Right?
23:59
SPEAKER_04: Another thing.
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SPEAKER_04: Kissing.
24:02
SPEAKER_04: Guys.
24:04
SPEAKER_04: Kiss your woman.
24:05
SPEAKER_04: Kiss your woman.
24:07
SPEAKER_04: Just what's wrong with that?
24:09
SPEAKER_04: That's the thing.
24:09
SPEAKER_04: The women love the affection, the attention.
24:12
SPEAKER_04: Kiss your woman.
24:14
SPEAKER_04: Right?
24:15
SPEAKER_04: And last one, one of the last ones, don't, don't, whatever this is.
24:20
SPEAKER_04: Don't do that.
24:22
SPEAKER_04: That's not do the motion in the ocean.
24:24
SPEAKER_04: Rock.
24:25
SPEAKER_04: Have a motion.
24:26
SPEAKER_04: Don't, don't, whatever that is, don't do that.
24:29
SPEAKER_04: For the love, for the love of God.
24:32
SPEAKER_04: Do not do that.
24:34
SPEAKER_04: Right?
24:34
SPEAKER_04: So that's the things.
24:36
SPEAKER_04: And hopefully, they won't be faking the funk on a nasty dunk, like my boy Shaq said in the early 90s.
24:43
SPEAKER_04: That is terrible.
24:45
SPEAKER_04: Don't do that.
24:46
SPEAKER_04: Of all things, that you know how much discredit that is if you if you find out that's been happening for so long?
24:54
SPEAKER_04: That's the easy way.
24:56
SPEAKER_04: The easy way to ruin a relationship.
24:58
SPEAKER_04: You just all this whole time.
25:00
SPEAKER_04: You know this whole time.
25:01
SPEAKER_04: I've been faking it.
25:02
SPEAKER_04: Could you imagine the mind-blown, all that stuff?
25:05
SPEAKER_04: That's just crazy to me.
25:07
SPEAKER_04: With that being said, we're ending this episode on a high note.
25:16
SPEAKER_04: Ladies, don't fake the funk on a nasty dunk.
25:19
SPEAKER_04: We're not that fragile.
25:21
SPEAKER_04: Trust me, you tell me what's wrong, I can fix it.
25:26
SPEAKER_04: Most men can fix things.
25:28
SPEAKER_04: We can fix it.
25:30
SPEAKER_04: And men, listen.
25:31
SPEAKER_04: Communicate.
25:32
SPEAKER_04: That's both, both men and women.
25:34
SPEAKER_04: Communicate.
25:36
SPEAKER_04: I'm your host, Michael Gillespie of the WDYM.
25:38
SPEAKER_04: I'll see you next week.
25:39
SPEAKER_04: I'm out.
25:41
SPEAKER_04: Girl Scout and Boy Scout.
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SPEAKER_04: Peace.