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Laurie Buchanan - "What we don't change, we choose." · the Daily Quote - Positive Daily Inspiration and Motivational Quote of the Day

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  Dot com. Welcome to the Daily Quote, the
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  podcast designed to kick start your day in a positive way.
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  I'm your host, Sandra McGivern, and this episode is brought to
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  you by the Great News Podcast because good news should be
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  heard. And the link is right here in
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  the show notes. Today's quote comes from Lori
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  Buchanan, holistic health practitioner, transformational
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  life coach and award-winning author whose entire career has
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  been built around 1 Foundational belief.
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  Not a theory, not an idea, a daily operating principle.
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  She once said, what we don't change, we choose.
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  This quote has only 6 words, and they may be the most
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  uncomfortable combination of 6 words in your vocabulary.
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  Think about that for a moment. What we don't change, we choose,
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  not what we can't change or what circumstances have forced upon
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  us what we don't change. That distinction is everything.
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  Most of us have a running list of things in our lives that we
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  don't like. The job that drains us, The
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  habit we know is holding us back.
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  The relationship dynamic that keeps repeating.
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  The goal we keep saying we'll pursue when the timing is
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  better. The conversation we've been
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  avoiding. The version of ourselves we keep
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  promising to grow into next month, next year, when things
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  settle down. And alongside that list, we
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  carry a set of stories about why nothing on it has changed yet.
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  The timing isn't right. The circumstances are
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  complicated. We're waiting for a sign, for
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  motivation, for the right moment to arrive.
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  The stories are comfortable. And they are, in the most
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  important sense, a fiction. Because if there's something in
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  your life you don't like and you're not doing anything about
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  it, you've chosen it. Every day you don't act, you are
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  silently saying, yes, I'll take some more of this, please.
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  And when you think of it that way, it changes your
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  perspective. At least it does for me.
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  And Buchanan spent her career offering exactly this kind of
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  clarity to the people she worked with, not because it was
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  comfortable, but because it was the only thing that actually
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  helped. The insight is that ignoring
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  something doesn't minimize its impact on your life.
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  In fact, ignoring it often increases its impact because it
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  winds up operating out of your awareness and therefore out of
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  your influence or control. The thing you refuse to look at
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  doesn't shrink in the dark. It grows.
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  There's an important distinction worth making here in Buchanan
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  makes it herself. Some things are genuinely hard
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  to change. Illness, loss, Systemic
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  circumstances beyond any individual's control.
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  This quote isn't a dismissal of real difficulty.
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  But even in those cases, there's still something you can control.
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  Your mindset, your effort, your response.
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  You can't always change everything, but you can change
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  how you show up in it. The question the quote is really
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  asking isn't why you haven't changed yet.
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  It's quieter and more useful than that.
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  It's simply, is this a choice? Because if it is even a passive
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  1, even an unconscious one, it can be made differently.
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  There are things I tolerated far longer than I should have in my
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  work, in my habits and how I was spending my time.
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  Not because I couldn't see them clearly, but because changing
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  them felt harder than enduring them.
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  And Buchanan's quote has a way of cutting through that
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  reasoning very precisely. The enduring wasn't neutral.
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  It was a choice, one I kept remaking every day that I didn't
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  act. The moment I started seeing
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  inaction as a decision rather than a pause before a decision,
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  everything became clearer and considerably less comfortable.
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  Which is exactly the point. So here's the question, and it's
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  worth asking slowly, Honestly, across every corner of your
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  life. What are you currently not
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  changing that you've been telling yourself you simply
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  haven't got around to yet because Lori Buchanan is asking
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  you to see it for what it actually is.
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  Not a pause, not a delay. A choice made fresh every single
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  day that you let it stand. You can make a different one
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  starting today. What we don't change, we choose.
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  Choose deliberately. That's it for today.
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  I'm Andrew McGivern, signing off for now, but I'll be back
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  tomorrow. Same pod time, same pod station
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  with another daily quote.